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September 20, 2017
How to Recover from Being a Desperate Flirt

WATCH VIDEO  As former “desperate flirts” the two of us want to share with you a few truths that we wish we would have embraced earlier on in life. 1. Flirting Never Satisfies Long-term Flirting may be fun in the moment, but it always leads to emptiness and disappointment. Flirting is basically saying “I need attention from guys to feel good about myself.” If you really want to feel long-term satisfaction, you have to turn to the true Source. Only Christ can ultimately satisfy and give you your true identity. 2. Flirting is Selfish Flirting at it’s core is a selfish act. Flirting isn’t about the other person, it’s aboutFull Post

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September 18, 2017
What to do When Guy Friendships Come Easier Than Girl Friendships

I get along so much easier with guys. They’re easier to talk with, easier to laugh with, and they don’t get caught up in the drama. Is it wrong that I prefer having close guy friends over close girlfriends?  -Anonymous Girl I’m not gonna lie. Although I’ve matured and grown up a ton over the past 10ish years, I still feel like those same thoughts run through my mind once in awhile. I wonder why guy friendships seem to come so effortlessly and girl friendships seem to take a lot of work and effort. I wonder why guy friendships seem to be drama free, and girl friendships can oftenFull Post

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September 15, 2017
5 Reasons Girls Aren’t Honest About their Sexual Struggles

Being honest about my past struggles with sexual sin and masturbation wasn’t easy. In fact, I didn’t want to be honest about it. I didn’t want to confess it. I wanted to shove those sins into the deepest darkest corner never to be seen again. But I knew that wouldn’t work. Sin always has a way of making its way to the light. As a “good christian girl,” I felt so ashamed and embarrassed inside that I struggled with lust. I was positive that I was the only Christian girl in the entire world who struggled with masturbation. Sexual sins like that were supposed to be guy issues…not girlFull Post

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September 12, 2017
What True Love Really Looks Like

WATCH VIDEO Moments before recording this vlog, the two of us were struggling to love one another. We were on a tight time schedule and the tension was obviously lingering in the air. Instead of embracing and living out true love towards one another, we gave into our sinful hearts. We were impatient, selfish, and struggled to show any sort of humility. If the two of us struggle to show true love toward each other, we’re guessing you struggle to show others, true love, as well. Today’s vlog will dig deep into what true love is and what it is not. WATCH VIDEO

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September 10, 2017
Christian Girl, Your Focus Determines Your Future

With my calves on fire and my body soaking wet from the hours of running in the rain, I finally crossed the finish line. The months of training that I’d spent leading up until this point paid off. I had officially run my first (and probably only) marathon. You better believe I put that 26.2 sticker proudly on the back of my car. This was an incredible and unimaginable achievement for me. I had no idea I was capable of running that far. To be honest, I’m still not sure how I did it. During the race pretty much everything that could have gone wrong went wrong. It wasFull Post

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September 8, 2017
Choosing Feminine Faith in a Feminist World

I was driving down the street the other day listening to one of my favorite Spotify stations (shout out to Vertical Church Band) when my elbow accidentally switched the channel. I didn’t realize it had changed until a random song came on that I had never heard. The woman singing had a beautiful voice. She was extremely talented. But the lyrics were what grabbed my attention. This girl was angry. Hurt. Broken. She had put all of her hopes and dreams in a guy, and he left her for another woman. She was shattered. Her life felt empty. As the catchy beat banged in the background, she was determinedFull Post

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September 6, 2017
6 Misconceptions About Biblical Womanhood

WATCH VIDEO  The words “Biblical Womanhood” can bring up a lot of different thoughts in the mind. In today’s vlog, we are going to debunk six of the most popular misconceptions about biblical womanhood. Our prayer is that these 6 misconceptions about biblical womanhood will open your eyes to the truth and equip you to better share truth with young women and women around you. WATCH VIDEO 

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September 4, 2017
Is Being a Woman about More than Getting Married and Having Babies?

If being a woman is entirely about getting married and having babies, then Kristen and I are failing miserably. I don’t have a husband, which means I don’t have children, and Kristen has a husband but God hasn’t given her children yet. As most of you know I would love to get married and Kristen would love to have children. Despite our deep desires and open hearts toward those roles (being a wife and mother) God has chosen not to fulfill all of those desires in either of our lives. Discovering True Womanhood As a younger girl, I believed that the ultimate fulfillment and climax of my life would comeFull Post

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September 1, 2017
How to Stand Firm When You’re Feeling Unloved and Rejected

The waves of accusations crashing against my mind began something like this: “No one loves you.” “You don’t have even one true friend who cares about you.” “You are unwanted; you always have been, and you always will be.” “The world would be better off if you were dead.” The waves of this particular mental assault began about three weeks prior to a conference my ministry hosts for women. Every year we experience various attacks leading up to this event. I’m accustomed to the typical annoyances, such as cars breaking down, logistical setbacks, and random illnesses. But this summer, the battle was so sinister that I didn’t realize IFull Post

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August 30, 2017
Kristen and Bethany’s Favorite Things

WATCH VIDEO  The two of us thought it would be fun to take a detour from our normal topics and share something a little more personal. We want to show you a few of our favorite things. From nail polish to books, to clothing to cups — here are a few things we use on a weekly (and sometimes daily) basis. You can find all of the links to these favorites in the description on our YouTube channel. WATCH VIDEO 

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August 28, 2017
Bethany’s Journal Entries Following a Difficult Breakup

I didn’t want to be that girl. That girl who sat on her bed sobbing over an ended relationship. I didn’t want to be in that sad/heart-wrenching position, but there I was. Broken hearted and wondering why it had to be me. In the moments that followed my breakup, I didn’t know what to do with myself. I cried my eyeballs out until there were no more tears to cry. My entire head was clogged from the tears and I was just doing my best to breathe. This heart stuff was hard. Harder than I’d imagined it to be. There is just something so extra painful about giving up/moving onFull Post

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August 25, 2017
8 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was a Teen Girl

When you’re young, you feel like you’re going to be young forever. That’s how I felt when I was a teen. I was young, and I couldn’t imagine being any older. Then — in a blink of an eye — I woke up one morning and found myself turning 30. Bam! Now here I am, 30 years old, and still getting over the shock of how fast life flies by. If you’re young right now (in your teens), you probably feel like you’ll be young forever too. Time might even seem to stand still for you. I remember those days. But trust me, they don’t last. You’ll wake upFull Post

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August 23, 2017
How Old Should I Be Before I Start Dating?

WATCH VLOG One of the more common questions that we get from Christian teen girls is, “how old should I be before I start dating?” Maybe you’ve asked this question yourself. The two of us asked this exact question when we hit the teen years as well. With the casual dating scene happening all around us, we questioned whether or not we should jump in. Some of our friends had starting dating, and guys began asking us out. We were interested in guys, but weren’t sure if having a boyfriend was a wise decision at our age. In this Vlog, we’re going to share with you exactly what we didFull Post

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August 21, 2017
Choosing to Surrender Your Dreams and Future to God

I remember three distinct times in my life that I had to surrender my dreams to God. Once at age seventeen, twenty, and twenty-four. When I was seventeen I’d been offered several full basketball scholarships to division one universities. Basketball was my passion and I loved playing (like LOVED playing!). When I wasn’t playing basketball I was either talking about it, thinking about it, or dreaming about it. Basketball was my life. In my junior year of high school, one of the universities I was considering needed an answer from me. They needed my final decision. Long story short, after many (many, many, many) hours of prayer and longFull Post

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August 18, 2017
5 Back-to-School Modesty Hacks for Christian Girls

It happens to me every year. The transition from my summer wardrobe to my fall wardrobe is always a struggle. What worked so well last season just doesn’t seem to be working this season. Styles have changed, my taste had changed, and I honestly just have the desire for something new. Something fresh. And to makes things even harder, striving to dress modestly adds a whole new array of challenges. Are you feeling me here? It’s been a long time since I’ve been in school, but I remember all too well the annual wardrobe challenges. If you’re heading back to high school or college this fall (whether private, public,Full Post

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August 16, 2017
How to Stand Strong Through the College Years

WATCH VLOG It’s HARD being a Christian girl today’s culture. In fact, it’s so hard, that 80% of highly churched teens walk away from their by age 29.  Thankfully, we have hope to succeed because of God’s Grace.  “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” (2 Corinthians 12:9). Here are 8 practical strategies to help you stand strong during the college years. 1. Spend Time in the Word Every Day 2. Pray for Strength 3. FindFull Post

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August 14, 2017
5 Questions Girls Should Ask Before Posting a Selfie

I was thirteen years old, loving life, and desperately trying to grab a certain guy’s attention. After a full week at church camp, I was hanging out in the sports court waiting for my parents to pick me up. I knew at any moment my ride would pull into the parking, so I had to act quick. With a knot in my stomach and my eyes on my guy, I made a move. I walked up to Brandon, pulled out my personal wallet sized portrait, and handed it to him. No shame. No regrets. I wanted him to notice me. He, being the somewhat sweet thirteen-year-old boy that heFull Post

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August 11, 2017
4 Verses to Help Christian Girls Conquer Temptation

I’m married to an amazingly godly and kind man. But like any human, Zack might occasionally say something or do something that I don’t view as particularly “sweet and thoughtful.” Instead of giving him the benefit of the doubt, my natural tendency is to assume the worst. Instead of lovingly asking him about it, I often cater to my sinful frustration. This happened recently. I felt the temptation of anger come on me. Instead of resisting it, I allowed my emotions to overtake me. I allowed my feelings to rule my thinking. Once again I found myself giving into temptation. Several hours went by of me pouting and grumbling in myFull Post

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August 9, 2017
3 Popular Places to Misplace Your Identity

WATCH VLOG You will only find your identity in Christ when you stop looking to the culture for answers, and instead allow God’s Word to define your womanhood. Choose to be a Girl Defined by God – not a girl defined by the culture. 3 Popular Places to Misplace Your Identity 1. Outward Appearance THE LIE: Physical Beauty will bring Me Ultimate Happiness and Satisfaction. THE TRUTH: God handcrafted you to look just the way you do. 2. Relationship Status THE LIE: Having a boyfriend will bring me total satisfaction. THE TRUTH: God is the only One who can fully satisfy you. 3. Personal Talents THE LIE: My talentsFull Post

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August 7, 2017
10 Real “Relationship Goals” Everyone Should Have

When “Relationship Goals” first became a thing I thought it was pretty cute. There are images of couples doing really cute, funny things together with the caption “relationship goals”. They are quite popular with everyone it seems. From pictures of couples kissing and holding each other, doing cute poses, to being super awkward and funny together. While the idea is cute and the sentiment is sweet, it’s not what we as godly young girls should be looking to for our advice on how real relationships look. I said that I thought it was cute at first but my mindset quickly changed. First of all, the pictures and ideas thatFull Post

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August 4, 2017
Zack Answers Questions About Romance, Relationships, and Red Flags

I (Kristen) thought it would be fun and helpful to do a Q & A with my husband, Zack. As a guy who loves the Lord and has experienced getting married (and the entire relationship process), he has some insightful wisdom to offer us from a guy’s perspective. Let’s dive in. Question 1: Zack, take us back to when you first met Kristen. What were some of the qualities that attracted you to her? I loved that Kristen was (and still is) passionate and convicted about what she believed. I loved this in her because I really wanted to marry a woman who knew what she believed and wouldn’tFull Post

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August 2, 2017
Why Modern Girls Should Embrace the Lost Art of Hospitality

WATCH VIDEO  Hospitality is so much bigger than just cleaning your house. It’s about loving people and nurturing relationships. Here are 4 reasons why we believe modern girls should still embrace hospitality: 1. Influence for the Gospel 2. Hospitality is Commanded  3. Impact on the Community 4. Order and Peace in a Chaotic World END CHALLENGE: Start small. Invite a girl to coffee. Plan a small game night. Invite a family over for dinner. WATCH VIDEO 

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July 30, 2017
Why Your Singleness Isn’t a Holding Station for Marriage

I’ve spent a good amount of time dreaming about the future. Not dreaming of a future being married to my truest handsome love (although I do dream about that sometimes). What I’m currently dreaming about is something very near to my heart. I’m currently dreaming about the impact that we, as single Christian women, could have on our families, communities, and the world around us. Stop for a moment and dream with me. Imagine what would happen if we, as single women, intentionally viewed these unique single years as “super years” to serve God. Imagine if we viewed them as crucial for service to God, rather than as aFull Post

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July 28, 2017
3 Compelling Reasons to Become a Woman of the Word

I was doing the dishes in my kitchen while listening to a podcast when I heard something that caused me to stop in my tracks. The speaker on the other end of my earbuds was a woman named Jen Wilkin. She was teaching a session on why it’s vitally important for Christian women to know the Bible. The phrase that caused me to halt my dish washing went something like this: “We, as American women may not be illiterate in the normal sense, but we are becoming more and more Bible illiterate with each passing day.” I was instantly struck by that term — “Bible illiterate.” Jen went onFull Post

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July 26, 2017
Reclaiming God’s Design for Love, Marriage, and Sex

WATCH VIDEO  Despite popular belief, God is the original designer of love, marriage, and sex. Those were His idea from the very beginning. Instead of allowing pop culture to define those areas, we need to dig into God’s Word and figure how He defines each of those areas. The two of us are challenging you to make sure that your views on love, marriage, and sex, are coming from the Designer Himself. In today’s vlog, we dig into each of those areas and unpack the bigger picture for love, marriage, and sex. WATCH VIDEO 

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July 24, 2017
Christian Girls Dealing With Dark Seasons and Difficult Circumstances

When we look around at the circumstances of people in the world today, we discover that there is a vast amount of suffering and pain being endured. Many different people struggle with many different types of suffering. Hospitals are full of horrible diseases and injuries, parents are getting divorces, babies are being aborted, war is raging, people are being sold into slavery, drug abuse and alcoholism is affecting more and more people and the list goes ever on and on. People are hurting. Everyone is affected by suffering or pain at one point in their life. Iit may not be physical but everyone goes through tragedy. And when theyFull Post

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July 21, 2017
Choosing to Pursue Radical Purity in Your Own Life

Talking about God’s radical design for love, sex, and purity with 400 girls and women isn’t a normal occurrence in this day and age. But that’s exactly what happened this past weekend at the Radical Purity Conference in San Antonio, TX. We courageously, unashamedly, and tactfully unpacked God’s good plan for our sexuality as women. We talked openly about some of the not-so-often-talked-about areas, and allowed God’s Word to shed light and truth into these relevant topics. We asked the hard questions, and looked into God’s Word for solid answers. We quickly discovered that God’s design for purity is radical. It’s completely counter-cultural. It’s unlike anything you see inFull Post

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July 19, 2017
Why Disagreeing with Someone Shouldn’t Turn Into Hate

WATCH VIDEO  The more our ministry has grown the more hate comments and bullying type comments we’ve received. Bullying and speaking in hateful ways seems to be the new trend.  If you disagree with someone these days, it’s totally acceptable to hate on them. We, as Christian young women, need to learn how to disagree without hating. The two of us want to challenge you to a higher standard. Whether it’s in person, online, with a friend, or towards a stranger, allow these verses to filter your words. Ephesians 4:29-32 (NLT)  “Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will beFull Post

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July 17, 2017
What Christian Girls and Katy Perry Have in Common

This past year my younger sister, Ellissa was a part of a mentoring program at our local public school. She had the privilege of mentoring three little girls that were as sweet and cute as can be. On one of her mentoring days, Ellissa walked through the lunch line and found a spot outside where she and the girls could eat. As they found a spot and began to sit down, the girls excitedly told Ellissa that they wanted to perform a song and dance for her. Within seconds the girls were up and doing their thing. These little girls broke out into the full word-for-word hit song “Roar”Full Post

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July 14, 2017
Radical Purity: Embracing God’s Best in the Midst of a Highly Seductive Culture

The two of us are beyond excited for the Radical Purity Conference happening this weekend in San Antonio, Texas (our hometown). We’re incredibly excited and grateful that God has provided the resources needed for Girl Defined to host this event. Having the opportunity to talk about sex and purity from a biblical perspective is something I’m thrilled to do. (Here’s a peek at our promo video.) Even if you don’t plan to join us at the conference, I want you to know that you are not alone. You are not alone in your struggles to understand sexuality and stay pure. God isn’t surprised or shocked by what you’ve doneFull Post

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July 12, 2017
Be a Girl Who Lives with Vision, Passion, and Purpose

When Kristen and I launched our very first blog (long before GirlDefined existed) we didn’t have a very clear plan of what we were doing. Due to our serious lack of vision for the blog, it didn’t take long for our interests to diminish. Let’s just say that our original blog didn’t last very long. Through that experience, the two of us realized our serious need for vision, passion, and purpose. Once the two of us established our vision for GirlDefined, that drove our passion, which in turn fueled our purpose on a daily basis. We want to challenge you to be a girl who lives with a visionFull Post

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July 10, 2017
Becoming Women Who Understand The Power of Worship

The past few months of my life feel like they’ve been filled with a certain 7 letter word. This word flies in the face of my natural heart’s desire and is the opposite of everything the culture promotes. This word has challenged me, convicted me, encouraged me and given me incredible hope. When I focus on living this word out, I have such incredible rest, contentment, and joy in my heart. I want to share this word with you in hopes that you can find the same hope, conviction, contentment, and joy that I’ve found by striving to live it out. The word is WORSHIP. The word worship holdsFull Post

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July 7, 2017
Is it Wrong for Christian Couples to Live Together Before Marriage?

We were desperately in love. He wanted to marry me and I wanted to be his wife. He popped the question while the sun was setting one cool October night. I immediately said yes and from that moment on we viewed one another as our soon-to-be-spouses. Love was in the air. We began planning and prepping for our future life together. We talked budgets, apartments, registries, bathroom towel colors, and everything in between. The wedding was only eight months away. Wouldn’t it make sense for us to move in together now? Why not get ahead of the game by combining our living spaces early? Shouldn’t we give marriage a testFull Post

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July 5, 2017
How to Overcome Your Beauty Insecurities

WATCH VIDEO  After searching for answers ourselves, the two of us discovered a version of beauty that offers lasting worth and hope in this area. This video will equip you with answers, practical tools, and biblical truth to help every young woman who has ever wondered, “am I pretty enough?” In this vlog, Kristen and Bethany unpack three powerful truths that helped them overcome their beauty struggles. Three powerful truths for getting to the heart:  1. God handcrafted you to look just the way you do. 2. God created you to glorify and serve Him with the body He gave you. 3. I was created for God’s glory. WATCHFull Post

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July 3, 2017
The Greatest Calling of a Modern Christian Girl

I was in my early twenties and nannying part time. It was a school day, which meant waiting at the bus stop to pick up kids. As  I was heading towards the bus stop, I noticed a young woman waiting at the bus stop as well. I didn’t recognize her and figured she must be new. Being the extroverted and outgoing girl that I am, I quickly introduced myself. Sara shared with me that she had just arrived in Texas, coming from Europe, and would be nannying directly across the street from me. Knowing that Sara was new to town (and had zero friends) I decided to reach out toFull Post

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June 30, 2017
How Modesty Taught Me to Value My Body More, Not Less

When I was 21 years old, I signed a one year contract with a modeling agency. After that one year was up, I walked away from the industry and never looked back. Even though my experience was brief, I got a good taste for what it felt like to be objectified for a profit. In my book, Girl Defined, I talk about how the modeling industry along with countless other industries have re-trained our society to view the female body as a consumable object. TV shows like Girls Gone Wild, companies like Playboy, restaurants like Hooters and magazines like Cosmo have completely destroyed America’s view of women. Teen girlsFull Post

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June 28, 2017
The Number One Thing Single Girls Should Look for in a Future Husband (But Rarely Do)

WATCH VLOG Most single girls have a running list of the things they’re hoping for in a future husband. The list often looks something like this: Handsome Athletic Smart Funny Good with people Social Loves to have fun Makes me smile And….oh — is a Christian Goes to Church (at least most of the time) As important as a “handsome face” and “funny personality” may seem to a girl before marriage, these things often take a back seat to something else that becomes MUCH more important. Most Christian married women say that a handsome face and fun personality aren’t the most important things they want in their husband. InFull Post

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June 26, 2017
How to Discover if He’s The One You Should Marry

My boyfriend and I had been pursuing an intentional relationship for quite some time. He was ready to move forward into engagement. I wasn’t so sure. I wanted to make sure I was making the right decision. I’d been in the relationship long enough to have all of the facts in hand. I knew the ins and outs of his personality. I knew his strengths. I knew his weaknesses. I knew his likes and dislikes. I knew his convictions. There was only one thing left for me to figure out. I needed to decide if I wanted to commit to spending the rest of my life with him. QuestionsFull Post

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June 23, 2017
How to Get Your Spiritual Life Out of the Drive-Thru Lane

Another day was over and I had done it again. With sleepy eyes, I reached for the lamp on my nightstand and turned off the light. I fell asleep to the familiar feelings of guilt and regret. I had intended to spend some quality time with God that morning. I had pulled my Bible out and found a nice comfy spot to sit on the couch. I intentionally made coffee ahead of time…so I already had that in hand. I even set an alarm to remind me to get started. So what in the world happened?   Sadly, what happened this morning was what happened to me many mornings.Full Post

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June 21, 2017
Answering Your Questions About Infatuation, Modesty, and the Future

WATCH VLOG Infatuation, Modesty and The Future are popular topics amongst modern women. How do I avoid becoming obsessed with a guy? How to let go of a guy after I’ve already ended the relationship? Does dressing modestly mean I’m ashamed of my body? How can I remain faithful to God when I don’t know what the future holds? I have a passion to invest in younger women, but I’m not sure where to start? Any ideas? Kristen and Bethany tackle these questions and more. WATCH VLOG

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June 19, 2017
When Posting Hot Selfies Gets You More Attention

I was thirteen years old and heading in for my first experience with the well-known photography company Glamour Shots. My mom and I were on a special girls trip to Dallas, Texas to celebrate my birthday. Getting my hair highlighted, nails manicured, and glamorous pictures taken was a must for this girly girl. I loved every minute of the Glamour Shot experience. The makeup. The hair. The clothes. The attention. The compliments. I felt beautiful and accepted. After the photo shoot, I looked through the pictures and picked out a few of my favorites. We ordered a package and then left the store to continue on our trip. WhenFull Post

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June 16, 2017
Why I Chose to Save Sex for Marriage

If there’s one thing that will quickly raises eyebrows of curiosity, it’s when I tell people that my husband and I were both virgins on our wedding day. As normal as that seemed to me back when I got married, I’m becoming more aware of how radically counter-cultural this is in today’s society. When people hear that I intentionally and purposely chose to save sex for marriage, their next question is almost always, “why?” Why would I put myself through that? Why would I force myself to wait on something that is so amazing? Why would I deny myself the fun and pleasure that so many other single girlsFull Post

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June 14, 2017
How to Handle a Breakup in a God Honoring Way

WATCH VLOG For those of you who have been through a heartbreak, we can understand. We’ve each been through difficult and extremely painful breakups. If you are willing to follow God, trust in His perfect plan, cling to His Word, pour out your heart to Him, He can use your heartbreak for good as well. In today’s vlog, we share five truths to help you handle your breakup in a God-honoring way. 1. Seek Comfort in the Right Places. 2. Trust in the Lord with all your heart. 3. Surround yourself with godly wisdom. 4. Fill your mind with truth. 5. Choose to Serve Others.   WATCH VLOG

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June 12, 2017
Why Christian Girls Need to Rethink the Flirting Game

I was in sixth grade and knew exactly how to work it. Every girl at church camp liked the same guy and I was determined to get his attention. He was cute. He was popular. I wanted nothing less than for him to like me. I wasn’t interested in a relationship or anything serious (I was only 12 years old) I just liked the way I felt when I captured his attention. I remember the situation like it was yesterday. We were playing knockout (a basketball game) on the camp sports court. I made my shot and then went to lure my prey. I ran over towards him withFull Post

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June 9, 2017
Modern Female Heroes Needed for Battle

The guard slapped her across the face and yelled, “keep moving!” Her tiny frame and malnourished figure stumbled forward. On the brinks of starvation and freezing to death, she was doing everything possible to simply survive. Ripped away from her family and friends, she had nothing left but her faith. The days and months wore on as Corrie Ten Boom endured the horrendous evil inside a Nazi concentration camp. She was in the midst of a monstrous battle. As the days and weeks wore on, she watched her precious sister die from sickness. Fighting the rage of anger inside her heart, Corrie knew that there was only one weaponFull Post

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June 6, 2017
Practical Tips for Embracing Purity in a Romantic Relationship

WATCH VLOG Maintaining purity in a romantic relationship is not an easy thing to do. John and Elizabeth are a newly married couple and remember the early days of their relationship very clearly. They offer practical advice on how to honor God in this area of a relationship. If you are in a relationship, want to be in a relationship, or plan to be one day in the future, this will prepare you to honor God and maintain purity. WATCH VLOG

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June 5, 2017
10 Ideas to Help You Combine Fashion and Modesty

The moment summer hits is the moment modesty seems to go out the window. Shorts shrink into underwear size. Shirts are so small they don’t even cover the mid drift. Clothes are sheer and basically see through. It often feels like being trendy and fashionable means wearing close to nothing. Despite how popular the itty-bitty clothing trend seems to be, we don’t have to accept it. We can rise to a more decent and respectable standard. Just because underwear size shorts are “in,” doesn’t mean we have to wear them and let our cheeks hang out. Just because teeny-tiny-cleavage-revealing-belly-button-displaying shirts are “in,” doesn’t mean we have to wear them.Full Post

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June 2, 2017
3 Truths for Building a Future Marriage that Lasts

They were young and in love. Their entire future was ahead of them. Everything seemed magical in their lives and he couldn’t wait to propose to her. He began ring shopping with great excitement and imagined the moment he would slip the diamond onto her finger. Suddenly, without any warning, something drastic changed their lives forever. It was a normal day for this young couple just like any other day. He headed to his car without a clue that this would be the last day he would walk or talk for a very long time. He merged onto the highway like he always did, but this time things wouldn’tFull Post

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May 31, 2017
7 Habits of a Strong and Courageous Girl

WATCH VLOG It’s time we, as Christian girls, got a little fire in our bones for the things that truly matter. The things that matter to God. We serve a mighty King who is passionate about things like truth, life, marriage, purity, holiness, womanhood, manhood, and much more. With attitudes of reverence, respect, dignity, and submission to our God, we should be on the front lines fighting for His agenda. The two of us would LOVE to see thousands of strong and courageous Christian girls rise up from your generation. Our culture is in desperate need of godly girls with passion and fire for God’s truth. WATCH VLOG

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May 29, 2017
Guy Answers Questions on Purity, Marriage, Makeup and More

It seems like every girl has questions in the back of her mind that she just wishes she could ask a godly guy. Questions that would give her as close to a “guy’s perspective on life” as she could get. We are so glad to inform you that this post is exactly that! We had the opportunity to have three young ladies brainstorm and come up with a few questions that they would ask a guy, if given the opportunity. Their questions are in bold below. We took those questions and sent them on over to a godly guy and had him answer the questions from his perspective. WeFull Post

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May 26, 2017
7 Truths for Overcoming Worry in Your Life

As a single girl (before I married Zack) I had so many fears and worries running through my head. “What if I never get married?!” “What if no guy likes me?!” “What if don’t get married until I’m 40?!” Fear. Worry. Lack of trust. All of my worries were completely in vain. Around 3 years later Zack (my now amazing husband), asked me to be his wife. Since I was no longer worried about “getting married,” I figured I was in the clear of my worry issues. Ha! Not even close. Little did I know how much hard work and money it took to plan a wedding (much less a reallyFull Post

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May 24, 2017
The Difference Between a Wild and a Wise Woman

WATCH VIDEO  The Bible makes it pretty clear that there are two very different types of women in the world. There are wild women and there are wise women. Sadly, our culture upholds the wild woman and encourages us to be like her. The Bible makes it very clear that we should be wise though. Not wild. Today’s vlog will show the differences between the two women. You will be encouraged to become like the wise woman we see in Proverbs 31. WATCH VIDEO 

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May 22, 2017
Christian Girls Need to Start Talking about God Defined Sexuality

A few months ago, Kristen and I began praying about a theme for our upcoming summer conference. We talked, prayed, talked some more and still came up empty handed. We wanted to host a conference that would meet the greatest needs of the girls who would attend…we just weren’t sure what that was. The two of us agreed that we didn’t want to settle on a topic just because it seemed interesting or exciting. We wanted a topic that would genuinely help and challenge the girls attending. After hours of thinking, we decided to give the brainstorming a break. A few weeks went by and then we met backFull Post

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May 19, 2017
Choosing Modesty and Dignity over Sexual Compromise

From the time I was a little girl I’ve had random people approach me and ask if I did any modeling. I had never thought of myself as a model, but all of their questions made me curious. As I grew older my curiosity for the modeling industry grew stronger. I was raised in a strong Christian home and both of my parents knew the dangers of the modeling industry. When I grew a little older I finally convinced them to let me try a “family friendly” modeling agency. I got the job immediately and signed a one year contract. Things seemed to be going well at first andFull Post

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May 17, 2017
How We Got Our Very First Book Published

WATCH VIDEO  Our dream of becoming authors seemed too big to ever become a reality. We were working hard, but we knew it would take a miracle from Heaven to make this dream a reality. Fast forward to today and we are celebrating the one year anniversary of Girl Defined hitting the bookstores. One year ago, for the very first time, Kristen and I held our brand new book in our hands. Shock, awe, amazement, gratitude, unbelief, excitement, joy, and pure delight are just a few of the feelings we felt when we opened that exciting package. Here is our story of how we became published authors. GET THEFull Post

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May 15, 2017
Dealing With the Heartache of a Breakup

I think the hardest part of a breakup is the mornings that follow it. The nights are hard too, but the mornings, I think that’s when the pain is the rawest. When you’ve spent the past 6-8 hours (or 5 if you’re anything like me) sleeping in a blissful state of ignorance, and then you wake up and for the first few seconds everything is fine. And then your brain wakes up and reality comes in, and it hits you hard. Another day of trying to make it through. Another day of trying to move on. I’m writing to you because I’m currently going through a breakup. It’s beenFull Post

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May 12, 2017
4 Signs You’re Being a Christian Gossip Girl

As soon as I saw her text message, I instantly felt the twinge of guilt. This friend was following up with me about a conversation the two of us had shared earlier that day. We had been innocently chatting about a recent challenge in her life regarding a certain relationship. Without even realizing it, our conversation headed south and begin to borderline on gossip. The details we hashed out about that particular person went too far and were not necessary. So in this text message, my friend asked me to forgive her for gossiping about that particular friend. I knew I was guilty as well, so I asked askedFull Post

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May 10, 2017
Choosing to Take Modesty Into Your Summer Swimwear

WATCH VIDEO  As Christian girls, it’s our responsibility to pull our lost culture toward God’s Word, not away from it. It is our obligation to raise the moral bar, not lower it. It is our duty to lead our culture towards modesty and decency, not away from it. It is our privilege to showcase the purity and holiness of Christ, rather than the nudity of our culture. As Ephesians 5:1,8, and 10 says, “Therefore, be imitators of God, as beloved children…for at one time, you were in darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light…and try to discern what is pleasing to theFull Post

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May 8, 2017
Give the Guy a Chance to be a Gentleman

I was a sophomore in high school and had just finished playing in the semi-finals for a big basketball tournament. As my team and I were sitting in the bleachers scouting out our competition, one of the high school guys teams came and sat right behind us. It just so happened that these guys went on to introduce themselves and quickly struck up a conversation. As our conversation with these guys gained speed, my ears quickly tuned into their major language problem. Their English was fine, but their choice of words was filled with profanity and inappropriate comments. Being the outgoing girl on my team, I turned around and lookedFull Post

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May 5, 2017
3 Truths for Becoming a Seriously Godly Woman

A few summers ago I hosted a simulcast conference at my church. The simulcast was put on by Leslie Ludy over at Set Apart Girl Ministries. As she was speaking she mentioned this idea of “becoming one of the few.” She said that in every generation there are only a few girls willing to give up their lives for Christ. There are only a few girls who are willing to give up the world’s ideas and follow the Bible’s. There are only a few girls willing to give up their life plans in exchange for Christ’s plan. Leslie then asked us if we wanted to be one of theFull Post

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May 3, 2017
Why A Husband Isn’t Your Reward for Staying Pure

WATCH VLOG  I’ve heard several girls express similar complaints over the past few months. They sound something like this… “I did everything right. I haven’t had sex. I didn’t date around. I tried to honor God. So what gives? Why didn’t God give me a husband?”  In today’s Vlog, I want to take you through 3 different truths to help you answer that questions. Here are 3 truths to help you gain a Biblical approach to purity:  1. God never guarantees you a husband. Getting married and having a husband is an awesome thing, but it’s not a guarantee. We need to make sure that we don’t add to ScriptureFull Post

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May 1, 2017
Why Purity Begins In the Heart {FREE GIVEAWAY}

Every­ Christian has something to say about purity, be it right or wrong, loose or conservative, broad or specific. Purity is a vital element of our walk with God—and one, it seems, that many are missing. Christian girls are pros at talking the talk and getting on mission trip and youth conference “highs for Jesus,” but when it comes down to making right choices, standing blameless before God, and keeping pure, humble, and full of the fear of the Lord—there’s a discon­nect. Purity is not a ring, a book, or even a commitment, though all of those can be good things! But without actively maintaining our whole selves accordingFull Post

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April 28, 2017
5 Signs You’re Obsessed with Social Media

My alarm goes off. I rub my tired eyes not wanting to wake up. I roll over in bed and reach toward my nightstand in the dark. It’s here somewhere….oh — got it. I grab my phone and unplug it from the annoyingly short charger cord. The bright light from my phone half blinds my sleepy eyes. But I’m determined. I must…check…my…social media. Half asleep, I begin scanning the latest posts and comments. Like a robot set on repeat, this routine becomes the default for my mornings. Sound familiar to you? I am embarrassed to say that this pitiful scene has been the default method for many of my mornings. CheckingFull Post

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April 26, 2017
3 Reasons You Should Lead a Bible Study this Summer

WATCH VIDEO  Leading a Bible study is an incredible way to invest into those around you. Whether you’ve done it before, or it’s your very first time, we believe this summer could be life changing for you and the girls you invite. When you step up to lead a Bible study, you have to prepare in ways you don’t if you are just an attendee. You have to plan, organize, study, prep, run the discussion time, answer questions, and lead prayer. It really forces you to dig deeply into God’s Word. WATCH VIDEO 

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April 23, 2017
To The Woman Who Is Losing Heart

Have you felt like a weight has fallen over you? Are you stuck in a place in life where nothing seems to be changing? Where the same thing happens day in and day out and you’re not getting anywhere? Have you prayed and begged God for something and not seen an answer? Do you feel like you’re being held back, but can’t put a finger on what it is that’s got a hold over you? Maybe you are a young woman with no friends, in a new city and a new job and every night you go home alone. You long for fellowship and a purpose beyond just working yourFull Post

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April 21, 2017
Ditching the Demeaning Mindset that “Girls Rule and Boys Drool”

I used to love beating guys at basketball. Well…I actually loved beating guys at anything. Back in high school, there were two guys who challenged Bethany and me to a game of two-on-two basketball. Ummm. Yes. We were totally up for the challenge. You could smell their pride as we stepped onto the court. This was going to be fun. Lets just say the game didn’t last long. We beat them twenty-one to zip. Bethany and I walked off the court openly smirking. In our minds, we were the bomb. For us, beating guys in basketball was the ultimate “girls are better than boys” proclamation. Back then, my attitude towardsFull Post

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April 19, 2017
6 Things Every Christian Girl Needs to Know Before Getting Married

WATCH VIDEO  The first six months of my marriage were some of the most eye opening months of my life. Prior to getting marriage, I thought being a wife was easy business. I mean…seriously — how hard could it be? As I approached my wedding day, I naively thought I was fully prepared in every way. Reality check! After six months of marriage I realized how utterly unprepared I truly was in certain areas. If I could go back in time, I would definitely give my “single self” some major advice. Looking back now, after 6 years of marriage, there are some specific things I wish I had worked harderFull Post

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April 17, 2017
Becoming a Woman Who Genuinely Loves to Pray

I walked out to the front of the church parking lot, found a nice bench to sit on, and opened up my Bible to the book of Psalms. This is going to be a long ten minutes, I thought to myself. I was attending a conference on prayer, and the speaker challenged us to be alone for ten minutes to pray. He challenged us to use a certain passage from the book of Psalms to guide our prayers, encouraging us that praying through Scripture was an incredible way to deepen and enhance our prayer lives. I wasn’t so sure. I was convinced that reading through Scripture for ten straight minutes wouldFull Post

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April 14, 2017
Jesus Died So We Could Be Freed from Our Secret Sins

After months of pure misery, Natasha couldn’t keep the secrets to herself any longer. They were tearing her life apart piece by piece. Every secret she kept only made it harder for her to reveal what was really going on in her life. Natasha was a friend of mine. She called me one night on the phone and couldn’t hold back the tears as she shared what had been going on. She had been secretly watching online porn and engaging in sexual conversations with several different guys. She was so ashamed and embarrassed. She could barely speak the words. “I just need to tell someone! I don’t want to live like thisFull Post

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April 12, 2017
How Christian Girls Can Do Prom in a Pure and Modest Way

WATCH VIDEO  Prom is a really big deal right now. It seems like everyone is talking about it. The pressure to go and look drop-dead-gorgeous is intense. The two of us encourage you to stop and consider a few important things before going to prom. Don’t attend prom just because it’s the normal, cool, fun thing to do. Make honoring Christ your biggest priority when it comes to your choice to attend or not to attend. Here are five things to consider before saying “yes” to prom. WATCH VIDEO 

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April 10, 2017
How to Create a Sisterhood of Girls Mentoring Girls

I sat in the conference session with my eyes wide open. It was one of those moments where every word spoken pierced straight into my heart. As the speaker shared about his passion for mentorship and discipleship, I knew my life would never be the same. After that conference, my life took a drastic turn for the better. I went from having head knowledge about the importance of discipleship to having a heart and passion for it. I was turning into a girl who deeply desired to reach out and minister to the young women in my sphere of influence. It was like I was beginning to see withFull Post

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April 7, 2017
How to Go From Singleness to Marriage in a God-Honoring Way

I clearly remember the day that I went from being “single” to being in a relationship with Zack. It was so exciting, exhilarating, and strange all at the same time. All of a sudden I had this amazing guy in my life. He wanted to get to know me. I wanted to get to know him. Neither of us knew if our relationship would result in marriage, but we were anxious to find out. After ten long months of intentionally getting to know one another, seeking wisdom, and praying a lot, it became very clear that marriage was the next step for us. Eeeek! We were giddy with excitement!Full Post

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April 5, 2017
Answering Your Questions About Beauty, Romance, and The Christian Life

WATCH VLOG Beauty, Romance, and The Christian Life are popular topics amongst modern women. What if a guy is pressuring me to change myself? How do I know if a guy likes me? What do I do when I feel like God has turned His back on me? What are the dangers in fantasizing? How can I minister as a single girl? How can I be patient in my relationship? Kristen and Bethany tackle these questions and more in today’s vlog. WATCH VLOG

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April 3, 2017
How Important is Attraction in a Romantic Relationship?

His brown eyes and curly brown hair were enough to make me swoon. I loved hanging out at the basketball gym. I loved watching my crush play. In my eyes, this guy was drop dead hotness. I loved everything about him. His hair, his snapback, his eyes, his skills, and the way he wore baggy athletic shorts and a sweaty t-shirt. He was perfect in my eyes. Oh, and did I mention that the two of us had never actually spoken? Yep! That’s right. I was in love (or in like and totally infatuated) with a guy I had never even spoken to. I didn’t know the first thingFull Post

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March 31, 2017
How to Never Feel Like the Ugly Girl Again

I was driving down the road the other day and saw a billboard with an advertisement for a cosmetic surgery office which featured a seductively dressed model and the statement, “Enhance your beauty.” The message was loud and clear: If you want to be beautiful you will need a large chest, plump lips, luscious hair, a skinny waist, and long eyelashes. If you’re a woman alive right now you know exactly what I’m talking about. You’ve seen the commercials, the ads, the music videos, the billboards, and the magazines like I have. You’ve stared into the mirror when nobody else was watching and wished you were a lot prettier.Full Post

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March 29, 2017
Should Christian Girls Date Non-Christian Guys?

WATCH VLOG The question of whether a Christian should date a non-Christian has been circulating for centuries. Here are a few common questions we’ve received on this topic: “What’s the harm in dating a non-Christian guy?” “What if he’s a highly moral guy, but he’s not a Christian. Is dating okay?” “We love each other and love is bigger than religion, right?” Check out today’s Vlog for five really helpful truths to help you decide if dating a non-Christian is a wise idea. WATCH VLOG

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March 27, 2017
How a Conference on Sex Helped Me in My Singleness

This past weekend I went to a women’s conference at my church. The topic? Sex. Yes, I know I’m single. I know it’s a little weird that I went to a conference talking about something only married women should be doing. I know you’re probably wondering how in the world a conference on sex helped me in my singleness. Although the conference was on sex (something I’ve never done and don’t plan do until I’m married) it was honestly amazing. I wish each and every one of you could have been there with me. The sessions were incredibly tasteful, biblically based, and super practical. Dr. Juli Slattery was soFull Post

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March 24, 2017
Why Becoming Famous and Hot Shouldn’t be Our Goal

She was a nobody. Outside of her small circle of friends, the world didn’t even know she existed. As a music lover, she would sing songs in her room late into the night. She dreamed of becoming a famous singer. But as it was, Nashville didn’t even know she existed. Then one day, everything changed. She decided to post a few of her videos on Youtube. Little did she know what would happen next. She knew her voice was pretty good…but she had no idea how much talent she truly possessed. Within 24 hours her videos went viral. After 10 million views, she got a call from a majorFull Post

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March 22, 2017
5 Verses on Purity That Every Girl Needs to Know

WATCH VIDEO  Staying pure in our culture, at times, can seem nearly impossible. Simple things like getting on Pinterest, Instagram, Snapchat or Facebook can feel like a danger zone. Just walking through the grocery store checkout line can feel slightly scarring at times. Impurity and immorality are very real things that we as Christian girls need to be equipped to fight against. The next time you are tempted to look at, think about or participate in something that you know will not honor God, pull out these 5 verses. They will be your spiritual ammo in your fight for purity. WATCH VIDEO 

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March 19, 2017
Modern Girls Should Still Practice Hospitality

All my life, my family has welcomed people into our home on a regular basis. From Bible studies and dinners to parties and overnight guests, my family has valued hospitality. I’ve watched (and helped) my mother cook giant meals and clean our house in preparation for guests. My sisters and I have set countless tables and sampled many desserts before people have come to our home. All throughout this, I’ve noticed that, in today’s culture, hospitality tends to be shoved under a rug. We like the idea of Pinterest perfect parties and afternoons that come out of the pages of a magazine, but in reality, not everyone wants toFull Post

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March 17, 2017
Beauty and the Beast: What Else Did We Expect?

I was sitting outside working on a writing project when I first got the news. A text message popped up on my phone from Zack that said, “Check out this article, babe.” I clicked the link and it took me to an article titled, “Beauty and the Beast to feature first ‘exclusively gay moment’ in a Disney movie.” My first thought was, “Oh no. You’ve got to be kidding me!” But then my next thought was, “What else would I expect?” Since that moment, I’ve read dozens of comments from all sorts of Christians regarding this movie. “How could Disney put a gay scene in a children’s movie!?” “WhyFull Post

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March 15, 2017
How to Use the Bible to Answer Tough Questions

WATCH VLOG We as modern girls have a lot of tough questions. What is true love?  What makes a real marriage?  Where will I go when I die?  Where did I come from? The list goes on. Unless we know how to use God’s Word to answer our tough questions, we will get swept up with the most popular opinion. We as modern girls desperately need to know how to use the Bible to answer our relevant questions. WATCH VLOG

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March 13, 2017
Rethinking Hollywood’s Bogus Version of Love and Romance

I pulled into the coffee shop parking lot and headed inside to quickly order my latte. Early mornings and I do not go well together. After a few sips of coffee, my brain slowly started creeping towards a somewhat functioning mode. Why I decided to lead an early morning Bible study…I’m not sure. I guess I assumed the girls I invited wouldn’t want to get up that early. Wrong assumption! They loved the idea. With perky little smiles and energy beyond my understanding, the girls slowly started trickling in and gathering around for our weekly girl talk and Bible time. The girls and I were having great conversations whenFull Post

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March 10, 2017
4 Reasons Modesty Empowers Women and Nudity Doesn’t

After posing half naked in a recent photo shoot, Emma Watson (the star in the upcoming Beauty and the Beast movie) couldn’t understand why people were calling her a hypocrite. As an outspoken self-proclaimed feminist, some people viewed Emma’s photoshoot as quite the contradiction. They were wondering how a woman could stand for “women’s equality and female respect,” while at the same time taking part in the sexual objectification of women. In response to the pushback that Emma Watson received for posing half naked, Gloria Steinem (a famous liberal feminist) rushed to her side in defense. Gloria Steinem unashamedly told the media, “Feminist can wear whatever the *** they want. They should be ableFull Post

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March 8, 2017
How to Think Clearly When You’re Totally Infatuated

WATCH VIDEO  I (Bethany) clearly remember a time in my life when I was totally infatuated with a guy. In my mind, this guy could do no wrong. He was like a modern day William Wallace. After a good two years, the fog lifted and I was finally able to see clearly. It was in those moments of clarity that I finally realized I had been infatuated. I had basically ignored all the wisdom and advice around me because I was so head-over-heals for this guy. My feelings were driving my brain and I wasn’t going to let anything stop me. Infatuation has a way of creeping up onFull Post

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March 6, 2017
How to Spot and Get Rid of Idols in Your Life

Ashley had grown to dread hanging out with her friends. She hated the thoughts that flooded her mind every time she met up with them. What if they don’t like my hair? What if they think my outfit looks stupid? What if they don’t get my jokes? On and on the thoughts continued. Ashley tried her best to curl her hair perfectly, paint her nails just right and wear the cutest outfits, but nothing seemed to work. Ashley’s desperate desire to be completely loved and accepted by her friends was turning her into a sad and depressed young lady. Ashley thought that if she could only gain the constantFull Post

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March 3, 2017
Emma’s Story: Opening Up About Past Sin Changed Her Life

I leaned my weight against the bathroom sink trying not to throw up. My heart was thumping so loud that my scarf was thumping up and down. I was doing all I could to keep from crying. My heart kept pounding. It felt like someone had stuck a wooden spoon inside my stomach and was stirring my insides around. I took a deep breath. Looking in the mirror, I told myself I didn’t want to do this. I had been on this mission trip for a month. I had heard each of my teammates admit to sin in their pasts when they gave their personal testimonies. But it wasFull Post

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March 1, 2017
Answering Your Questions About God, Guys, and Purity

WATCH VIDEO  God, guys, and purity are popular topics amongst modern single women. How do I study my Bible? How do I talk to other people about God? How do I remain pure before marriage? What do I do with attention from a non-believing guy? Questions like these are regulars in our email inbox. It can be so hard to know how to answer these questions and practically live out biblical truth. In today’s vlog, we tackle these questions and do our best to give you down-to-earth biblical answers. WATCH VIDEO 

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February 26, 2017
Finding Freedom from Your Addiction to Porn

I recently read about a girl who was strolling through a local grocery store, when she felt a sudden and overwhelming urge for a chocolate candy bar. The urge became so powerful that she forgot what she was doing and headed straight for the candy aisle. She searched the options wondering which one she should choose. She spotted one she had never seen before. The label pulled at her desire with words like “Great new taste!” “Satisfaction guaranteed!” “No more hunger cravings!” The girl grabbed the candy bar and started savoring the first bite. Her entire being was enraptured in the moment. She loved the way the candy made her feel.Full Post

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February 24, 2017
Rethinking the Sexy Workout Mirror Selfie

I’m guilty. I have totally done it. After a long hard workout I remember snapping a “sexy” picture of myself in front of my bedroom mirror. You know. The kind where you angle your body just right to make your fat disappear and your muscles look huge. Yep. That was me. Nobody could see me though. I was in the privacy of my own bedroom. That didn’t matter though. I wanted to see how hot I looked. I wanted to admire my body. I loved myself. A lot. To be honest, I didn’t post that picture anywhere because I was too prideful of what people would think of me.Full Post

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February 22, 2017
How to Be Single and Satisfied at the Same Time

WATCH VIDEO  Bethany understands what it’s like to have an unmet desire. As a single girl herself, she says there are only two ways to handle your desire for marriage. Will you choose the road towards sorrow or satisfaction? Bethany’s learned that living in a state of, “I must have marriage” is awful. She’s decided to instead trust the Lord with her heart and desires. She challenges you to do the same. WATCH VIDEO 

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February 20, 2017
Love Advice From a Couple With 34 Years of Marriage Experience

Today I get to introduce to you a 34-year-old love story. This couple is very special to me because they happen to be my parents. I am so excited to introduce to you to Mike (my dad) and Heidi (my mom). With over 34 years of marriage experience, this amazing couple has been an example of love, faithfulness, and commitment. In a generation that is clueless on how to attain lasting relationships, I can’t wait for you to hear from a couple with a proven resume. Instead of listening to Hollywoods cheap advice, I’m offering you a front row seat into a couple who’s stood the test of time.Full Post

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February 17, 2017
The Feminist Attack on God’s Design for Womanhood

“Feminism is a movement for all women!” I’ve heard this statement hundreds of times. I’ve received dozens of emails and comments from Christian girls stating similar things. But is it? Is modern feminism truly a movement for all women? Because if it is, I sure don’t feel included. All of those women who were rejected from the “Women’s March” for being pro-life didn’t feel included either. Regardless of how sweetly feminism is defined in the dictionary, the reality of what it is today tells us all that we need to know. Modern feminism is a direct attack on God’s design for womanhood. Disagree? Jump back in time with meFull Post

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February 15, 2017
5 Habits of a Wimpy Girl

WATCH VLOG The truth is, it takes a much stronger woman to stand up against sin than it does to give in to sin. The Bible calls us to have backbones of steel and hearts of fire that fight for His truth and wage war against sin. Our culture needs to see more of that version of a strong girl. Would you consider yourself a strong girl according to the culture or a strong girl according to the Bible? Check out these 5 habits of a weak and wimpy girl and see how you measure up. WATCH VLOG

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February 13, 2017
How to Handle Your Desire for a Boyfriend

Annie was twenty-two going on twenty-three, boyfriend-less and struggling to trust in God. She lived in a small town, worked at a small business and went to a small church. Let’s just say the male prospects (or lack of) in town were small as well. The longing in Annie’s heart to finally meet and marry the man of her dreams was becoming overbearing. How could she possibly remain content in life when true love was nowhere on the horizon? Although Annie’s heart longed for a guy, she made the tough decision to give her desires to God and wait patiently on His timing. Annie’s relationship status didn’t change rightFull Post

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February 10, 2017
Why Having Sex with your Boyfriend Isn’t a True Expression of Love

I read a story about a Christian girl who was in a serious relationship with her boyfriend. They both thought that saving sex for marriage would be a good idea. As the months stretched on and their relationship progressed, the boyfriend started dreaming out loud about how awesome sex would be “one day.” They both grew so comfortable chatting and dreaming about sex, that before long, they crossed the line. “We love each other!” She said, justifying their actions. “And there’s nothing wrong with showing our love in this way.” Love. The million dollar word. Our definition of the word “love” will either make or break our relationships. ItFull Post

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February 8, 2017
How to Survive Being Single on Valentine’s Day

WATCH VIDEO  Valentine’s Day often brings a lot of different thoughts and emotions for single girls. With romance floating in the air and stores bursting with dark chocolate and roses, it can be hard not to get down and discouraged. Instead of falling into a “woe is me” mindset, the two of us want to show you how to survive and thrive this special day. WATCH VIDEO 

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February 6, 2017
Let’s Be Women Who Chase Down Truth

The conversation was heated. The room was tense. The looks on my girl friends faces were anything but peaceful. After all of the years of friendship, we had finally hit the landmine. Someone mentioned a specific doctrinal belief and the room exploded. Half the girls believed one opinion and half believed the other. Despite the dramatic pleas from each side to “see the light” we had to call it truce.  No one was budging. When I arrived home that evening, I shared my afternoon’s happenings with my parents. Instead of my parents just saying to me, their young 14-year-old daughter, “this is what you should believe,” they taught meFull Post

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February 3, 2017
La La Land: A Conflicting Message for Christian Girls

With every new chick flick that is advertised, untold numbers run to the nearest movie theater with their significant other in hopes that this will be the next cult classic. “This will be the movie that makes my boyfriend realize how lucky he is to be going out with me!” “This will be the movie that makes me cry and causes me to shamelessly fantasize myself as the lead actress.” La La Land was supposed to be this movie. Critics built this movie up to be the biggest blockbuster of the year. Awards so far include Golden Globe Award Winner for Best Motion Picture, Best Actress, Best Actor, BestFull Post

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February 1, 2017
Don’t Believe the Lies of Counterfeit Womanhood

WATCH VIDEO We are seeing a lot of different women standing for a lot of different things. As Christian women, we have to decide which camp we choose to be in. Will you be a woman who follows the latest trends defining womanhood? Will you be a woman who picks and chooses from God’s Word? Will you be a woman who allows the Bible to completely inform her worldview on femininity? Without a clear understanding of God-defined femininity, it’s impossible not to be swept up with the popular flow. WATCH VIDEO

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January 30, 2017
We Need to Stop Destroying Godly Leadership in Guys

The conference had just begun as I settled into my chair with my warm cup of coffee in hand. I was excited to take a break from the normal routine of life and instead spend the weekend resting and recharging. About ten minutes into the opening session, I noticed a cute young married couple come through the doors. They looked no older than mid-twenties, so I’m guessing they had to be a newly(ish) married couple. What happened next totally took me off guard. As the husband walked in and gestured towards a row for the two of them to sit in, the wife looked at him with a lookFull Post

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January 27, 2017
Why I Chose Not to Walk in the Women’s March

As much as I absolutely love being a woman, I was honestly shocked, saddened, and appalled by the Women’s March this past Saturday. This March, and all that was represented by it, was a sobering picture of what happens to womanhood when God is removed from the picture. Without God’s truth guiding our lives, womanhood becomes nothing more than a distorted, convoluted, nonsensical mess. Apart from God, we as women, quickly lose all sense of decency and propriety. We shout profanities in the streets, dress in explicit costumes, bash males, disrespect leaders, insist on free birth control, and of course demand the right to murder our babies without exception.Full Post

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January 25, 2017
Why Christian Girls Should Be Beautiful but Not Seductive VLOG

WATCH VIDEO  Christian girls are never called by God to be seductresses. Never. But they are called to be beautiful women of God. According to God’s Word, beauty and seduction are two totally different things. Our outward beauty as Christian girls should never be used to purposely distract, seduce, entice, lure in, or arouse the people around us. Our beauty should never be used selfishly and without thought to how our actions are affecting others. Our most intimate body parts shouldn’t be thrown around like cheap disposable objects, but rather saved and cherished because we’re pure daughters of a Holy King. Instead of following after our culture’s self-focused definitionFull Post

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January 23, 2017
Falling in Love With Guys That You Don’t Even Know

It was a sunny Friday afternoon, and I had just finished attending a writing conference with a girlfriend of mine. I walked to the parking garage and hopped in my truck. Yikes! The parking garage had been empty when I pulled in early that morning, but it had completely filled up throughout the day. Getting out of a parking garage in a big Texas truck is nearly impossible. As I slowly started to inch my way out, I noticed the driver in the car waiting to take my parking spot was a very attractive looking guy. He had a big smile on his face as he watched me slowlyFull Post

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January 20, 2017
3 Clear Signs You’re Looking to Guys for Your Security Instead of to God

I knew exactly where he was in the room at every moment. I was desperate to know more about this tall good looking guy. As a single girl in high school at the time, I was highly intrigued by this handsome face. As my head hit my pillow that night, my thoughts were flooded with dreams of “this guy.” I woke up the next morning anxious to see him again. Even though I barely knew his name, I did whatever I could to be near him. Whether purposely walking past him, staring at him from across the room, or simply making myself available, I was consumed with this guy.Full Post

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January 18, 2017
4 Practical Tips for Overcoming Your Beauty Struggles

WATCH VIDEO If you girls are anything like the two of us, you’ve probably struggled with your outward appearance. It’s hard not to struggle when we live in a world that is OBSESSED with physical perfection. Despite the obsession with perfection, we as women do not have to buy into the lie. We can have freedom in this area. We’ve truly come to embrace the body God has given each of us and we would love for you to have the same! Here are a few practical tips that really helped the two of us break free from our beauty struggles. WATCH VIDEO

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January 16, 2017
10 Common Misconceptions about Biblical Womanhood

I was twenty-two years old and totally taken off guard by Lacy’s blatant attacks on my beliefs. Apparently, she had heard about my perspectives and beliefs on biblical womanhood and was not impressed. In fact, offended/annoyed would be the right way to describe her feelings towards me at that time. During this back and forth “debate” of sorts, I was extremely uncomfortable. I wasn’t exactly sure how to counter Lacy’s arguments and I was a little insecure about my stance on Scripture and biblical womanhood. I felt like Lacy was completely demeaning and attacking biblical womanhood and I felt at a loss for words to defend what I believed.Full Post

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January 13, 2017
Why Staying Pure for Marriage Shouldn’t Be the Goal

Saving my first kiss for my wedding day was a dream I had since I was young. As a 13 year old girl I remember hearing an older girl (she seemed ancient to me at the time, but was probably only 21) share how she was saving her first kiss for marriage. I remember being so inspired by her ambitious goal that I decided, on the spot, to save my first kiss too. I loved the idea! As the years went on and my “cute boy radar” grew stronger, I constantly remembered my commitment. No kissing boys. As I learned more about purity and God’s calling for me toFull Post

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January 11, 2017
Bethany Answers Personal Questions About Thriving as a Single Girl

WATCH VIDEO  Bethany opens up and answers personal questions about guys, relationships, and being single. As a twenty-eight-year-old single girl, Bethany can relate to the struggles, sorrows, and difficulties that accompany those extra unwanted single years. Although she doesn’t claim to have lived these years out perfectly, she’s learned a few things that have been extremely beneficial to her and she wants to share them with you. WATCH VIDEO 

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January 8, 2017
Learning to Trust God When the Situation Seems Impossible

Let’s fly back in time to October of 2014. I remember it like it was yesterday. Kristen and I were standing in a hotel Starbucks waiting to meet the one and only Erin Davis. (She’s the amazing gal who runs the LYWB Blog). I’d been interacting with Erin for several years via email but had never met her in person. I was so excited to finally meet face to face and have the opportunity to pick Erin’s brain about blogging, book writing, and getting published. In my mind, she was (and still is) the pro. I was (and still feel like) the newbie who was hoping to glean any wisdomFull Post

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January 6, 2017
Why Girls with Swords are Stronger than Girls with Spatulas

Imagine that a huge lion is charging at you and all you have to defend yourself is a tiny, flimsy, plastic spatula. Who’s going to win? Yeah…that’d be 1-0 Lion. The crazy thing is, as Christian girls, that’s often how we fight the battles of sin and temptation in our lives. Temptation comes roaring at us like a lion (1 Peter 5:8), and all we do is wave a little spatula in it’s face. Then we wonder why we’re not victorious!   Girls – it’s time we put down our spatulas and pick up our Swords. Hebrews 4:12a says, “For the word of God is living and active, sharperFull Post

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January 4, 2017
6 Must Read Books for 2017

WATCH VIDEO  We want to share with you 6 books that have helped the two of us tremendously in our walk with God. These books have helped the two of us get our eyes off of ourselves and onto Christ instead. In a nutshell, these books have helped to radically change our lives. We can’t recommend them enough. 1. Women of the Word: How to Study the Bible with Both our Hearts and our Minds  We all know it’s important to study God’s Word. But sometimes it’s hard to know where to start. What’s more, a lack of time, emotionally driven approaches, and past frustrations can erode our resolve toFull Post

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January 2, 2017
Top 5 Most Popular and Shared Posts from 2016

Whether you’ve been reading the GirlDefined blog for a while or you’re new to our website, we are SO excited to enter this brand new year with you.  God is so good and He’s done amazing things in your lives (as we’ve learned from the many emails you all have sent us), and we praise Him for that! Some of you have shared how God used the GirlDefined blog posts and vlogs to help you overcome the darkest of sins, relationship struggles, guy complications, unfulfilled longings, growing in your walk with God, and much, much more. For that, we raise a glass of sparkling grape juice and joyously say, “Amen!Full Post

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December 30, 2016
The Surest Way to Find True Love this Year

“Maybe this will be my year!” she squealed. “Maybe I’ll finally meet the man of my dreams.” The hopes of finding “true love” is on the minds of a lot of single people as the new year rolls around. It was for me when I was single! The anticipation of a new beginning and all that the year might hold is an exciting thing. There’s just something fresh and exhilarating about the unknowns and the what-ifs. Right? If you’re single and hoping to get married, chances are you’ve probably wondered if this is your year too. You’ve probably wondered if Mr. Right is going to finally make his grandFull Post

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December 28, 2016
Practical Tips for Having a Thriving Relationship with God

WATCH VIDEO The two of us love God. We’re so grateful for Jesus. We’re thankful for God’s Word. But despite having these desires, meaningful personal devotions have often been a struggle for the two of us. Can you relate? Maybe you (like us) desire to dig into God’s Word, meditate on Scripture, and pray powerful prayers. But (again, like us) you’re just not sure how to make it happen. We’ve learned that with a few simple tools in our belt we can make our personal devotion time one of meaning, connection, and revival. Here are a few of our own practical tips for having a thriving relationship with God.Full Post

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December 26, 2016
5 Strategies for Living With Purpose as a Single Girl

Extended years of singleness seems to be a growing trend in our culture, whether we like it or not. Due to a variety of reasons, most young men and women aren’t getting married as soon as they’d like to. As a twenty-eight-year-old single girl myself, I can relate to the struggles, sorrows, and difficulties that accompany those extra unwanted single years. Although I haven’t lived these years out perfectly, I’ve learned a few things that have been extremely beneficial to me during this time. Whether you are single or married these tips will encourage you, or help you encourage the singles you know, to live with intention and purposeFull Post

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December 23, 2016
How One Engaged Guy’s Decision Changed Our Lives Forever

He was engaged to an amazing girl. Like most engaged guys, he was probably counting down the days until his wedding. I don’t know this couple personally, but from what I hear, they’re pretty amazing. Their engagement was going great until something completely unexpected happened. Something terrible. This shocking turn of events surprised everyone they knew. It was his fiancé. She did the unthinkable. With the wedding drawing closer every day, the groom had to make the hardest decision of his life. He thought his fiancé was pure and upright…but apparently he was wrong. She was pregnant. The distraught groom wrestled with his thoughts and emotions trying to figureFull Post

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December 21, 2016
Choosing to Reflect Christ in a Self-Absorbed Society

WATCH VIDEO  When the two of us were in high school, we strategized a plan to draw as much attention to ourselves as possible. We strapped on the high heels and strutted through the mall. We soaked up the attention we received from the young guys working the kiosks and enjoyed every glance that turned our way. Attention. That’s what we wanted. We wanted people to look at us. We wanted people to admire us. We wanted to people to stare at us. We wanted all eyes on us. Fast forward ten(ish) years to today and our goal is no longer to bring attention to ourselves but to pointFull Post

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December 19, 2016
Bethany’s Secrets to Planning, Hosting, and Throwing a Fabulous Party

I love hosting parties. Having people in my home (I still live at home with my family) is one my favorite things to do. I love hosting, planning, organizing and watching my friends enjoy a super fun time together. The work that goes into planning and hosting a fabulous dinner, game night, or party, is totally worth it to me. I find so much joy in creating a time and space for people to have community, fellowship, and a good clean time. Sadly, hospitality has become such a lost art in our generation. People just don’t invite people into their homes anymore. Our homes are more like quick restFull Post

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December 16, 2016
3 of the Most Popular Places to Misplace Your Identity

“Meet Laura Van Ryn and Whitney Cerak: one buried under the wrong name, one in a coma and being cared for by the wrong family.” Those were some of the first words I read in a gripping book called, Mistaken Identity. This true and shocking story made national news when it was discovered that the identity of two college girls was accidentally swapped after a tragic bus accident. One girl died and was accidentally buried under the identity of her friend, who was in critical condition. After weeks of mourning the death of their daughter, the family was shocked to discover that it wasn’t their daughter they had buried,Full Post

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December 14, 2016
Shocking Results from the Past 100 Years of Beauty

WATCH VIDEO  After doing some more in-depth research on beauty, the two of us came across information that shocked us. We had no idea just how flakey the culture’s standards for beauty truly are. Get this. Over the past 100 years, the ideal body for a woman has changed drastically at least ten times. 1910: The Gibson Girl 1920: The Flapper 1930: May West 1940: Rita Hayworth 1950: Marilyn Monroe 1960: Twiggy 1970: Farrah Fawcett 1980: Jane Fonda 1990: Kate Moss 2000: The Victoria’s Secret Model When the two of us look over that list and see the drastic changes, we can’t help but get a little upset. InsteadFull Post

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December 12, 2016
Modesty Hacks and Fashion Tips with Hello Modesty

Big tears streamed down my face. I just knew I was destined to a life of drabby, old-fashioned clothing. I was sixteen, and my parents and I were having another modesty conversation. I wanted to be fashionable, but I felt like my parents were dooming me to a life of turtlenecks and bonnets. They did their best to explain that modesty didn’t have to look old-fashioned. They encouraged me to have fun and explore styles but not to compromise on my modesty standards. After years of trial, error, tears, and lots of creative thinking, I’ve finally come to understand the balance of fashion and modesty my parents were pushingFull Post

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December 9, 2016
The Hardest Thing About Being a Christian Married Girl

There he was. After all these years. Standing tall in a tux. Looking extremely handsome. And smiling directly at me. Walking down the aisle toward my soon-to-be husband was an experience unlike any other. This was the moment I had been dreaming of for years. This was the moment I had been waiting for during our entire engagement. This was it. Getting married to the man of my dreams was an incredible experience. And living life as a married woman for the past five and a half years has been out-of-this-world awesome. Getting married someday is a dream that most of us, as girls have. The popularity of bridalFull Post

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December 7, 2016
Why We Gave up Modeling to Pursue Ministry Instead

WATCH VIDEO The modeling world looked glamorous and the two of us wanted to give it a try. The promised money and fame looked enticing until it became a possible reality. We chose to give up modeling for something so much better. Here is a snippet from our story in Girl Defined: “The two of us were both in our early twenties and desperately curious. The seed that had taken root in our hearts as young girls was finally coming to bloom. We wanted to explore the modeling world. Truthfully, our hopes weren’t that high. We assumed, out- side of a miracle, that our moral convictions and living as modelsFull Post

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December 5, 2016
Epic Wisdom From a Thirty Nine Year Old Wife and Mom

Every now and then I meet an older gal who strikes me as a seriously godly woman, a woman whom I hope to be like someday. Today, I want to introduce you to one of those godly gals. Say hello to Amanda. She’s a super sweet thirty-nine-year-old awesome wife and an amazing mom to four adorable boys. She’s packed full of wisdom and has shared some of her secrets below. Check it out. Why is your relationship with God so important to you? I belong to God, first because He created me and a second time because He bought me with the death of His Son and made me HisFull Post

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December 2, 2016
The #1 Beauty Hack Every Christian Girl Needs to Know

Beauty hacks. They’re all the rage, right? Just do a quick Google search and you’ll have instant access to beauty hacks that promise a prettier you (in under 5 minutes flat). How about these: “25 Beauty Hacks To Make You Look Like A Million Dollars” or “44 Lazy Girl Beauty Hacks To Try Right Now.” Wait – 44 hacks? For the lazy girl? If I’m lazy, how am I supposed to have time for forty-four  beauty hacks? Sorry, I just thought that one was hilarious. Anyhow. I agree that some of these hacks can be helpful (i.e. I want to hug the person who invented dry shampoo!), but theyFull Post

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November 30, 2016
What to Do When Romance Isn’t a Part of Your Holiday Season

WATCH VIDEO  You hear the music, you see the pictures, you feel the “love in the air” and you just wish you had a man to enjoy it with. But, you don’t. It’s just little old you with your Christmas music and peppermint mocha. You dream of the day when you will have a family of your own and someone to “steal a kiss under the mistletoe” with, but that’s not your current reality. A New Perspective and a Little Bit of Hope  We want to share with you a new perspective and a little bit of hope. We want to encourage you with some nuggets of truth thatFull Post

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November 28, 2016
What Happened to “Till Death Do us Part”?

The bride and groom were beaming with joy as they rushed down the aisle of cheering guests. The cheers grew louder as they stopped mid-line and the groom leaned in for a picture perfect kiss. Within moments their “just married” getaway car zoomed out of the church parking lot leaving the sound of dragging clickety cans to the cheering guests. Fast forward 3 years. The words “for better or for worse” and “till death do us part” have faded into the background. The reality of a tight budget, a screaming one-year-old, and schedules that are packed, began to take a serious toll. The bride and groom had long forgottenFull Post

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November 25, 2016
10 Questions to Ask Before Falling Head-Over-Heels for Him

Starstruck. Fangirling. Infatuated. Obsessed. All of these words could have been used to describe the state of my mind and heart one cold wintery night. I had no idea who he was, but I was anxious and ready to find out. As a young teen girl, this was the first serious crush I had that lasted more than a few months. As I share in a previous blog post, I quickly became a crush-obsessed girl. Knowing nothing more about this guy than his good looks, athletic body, and piercing blue eyes, I was falling head-over-heels for him! I was the epitome of the word “infatuated” and allowed my strongFull Post

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November 22, 2016
The Quickest Way to Ruin Your Holidays

WATCH VIDEO  The holiday season is supposed to be the happiest, most joyful, and celebratory time of the year, right? Unfortunately, there have been times in the two of our lives where the holidays have been some of the most miserable. Looking back on those “miserable” holidays, we realize exactly where we went wrong. High Expectations.  Self-Centered Attitudes. Lot’s of Complaints.  We really want to help you avoid ruining your holiday season by getting rid of these three attitudes. We truly believe that the holidays can be some of the happiest and most joyful times of the year if you have a proper heart attitude and focus. WATCH VIDEO       

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November 20, 2016
Two Simple Truths that will Radically Change Your Heart and Attitude

Jennifer’s tears rolled down her cheeks as she struggled to express her thoughts. “I just don’t feel like God sees me or cares about me. He’s never answered a single one of my prayers and I never see Him working in my life. I don’t have many friends, my parents don’t give me the time of day, and my health is awful. I just can’t see any reason to live for God or praise Him. I honestly think He has forgotten about me.” The tears continued to fall and Jennifer seemed to be growing more depressed and discouraged as she thought about her life. From her perspective, life wasFull Post

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November 18, 2016
Resisting the Seduction of Beautifully Packaged Lies

I was chatting with a friend recently who shared an eye-opening experience with me. Being a huge music fan herself, she’s always on the lookout for new and inspiring tunes. One of her other friends had sent her a song to check out, which they had been raving about for days. Within seconds of listening to it on Spotify, she was instantly captivated by how incredible the voice of the singer was. She clicked repeat. And then repeated it again. After several days of playing the song over and over, she naturally memorized the lyrics. One morning while getting ready for the day, she was singing the song quietlyFull Post

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November 16, 2016
5 Dangers of a Secret Online Romantic Relationship

WATCH VLOG  They met at a church event. They started messaging and chatting online. Before long, their “innocent” chatter turned into flirting, which quickly turned into more intimate conversations. After several weeks, their online interactions were taking them down sexual roads they never thought they’d go. Stories like this aren’t uncommon.  With so many online chatting programs and social media tools, a girl and guy don’t have to search very hard to engage in a romantic fling. The scariest part about the entire thing is that it can all take place inside the four private walls of our very own bedroom. Why is this so scary? Because a secret romantic relationship canFull Post

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November 14, 2016
3 Reasons Jesus is More Satisfying than Cute Guys

This guy was not necessarily a crush, but I could feel him slowly becoming one. The last time I tried to talk to him we had to go separate ways on our busy college campus, so we didn’t get to finish our conversation. This was going to be different. After class, I noticed that he intentionally got “delayed” so that we could walk out at the same time. “How cute!” I thought to myself. We had a nice conversation as we walked. As usual, we were headed in opposite directions, but this time, we didn’t part ways as quickly. We stopped in the middle of a crowded area andFull Post

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November 11, 2016
Practicing Hospitality Before You Have a Home of Your Own

Daydreaming. One of my favorite things to do. I love sitting on the porch swing in my backyard, sipping on ice cold sweet tea, and just dreaming about life. Dreaming about what the future holds. Dreaming about what God has in store for Girl Defined. Dreaming about what God is doing in my life and where He might have me next year. Just dreaming and thinking about all of life’s wonderful possibilities. I remember a few years ago I had a “dream” that I thought couldn’t become a reality until I had a house of my own. My dream? The art of hospitality. In my mind, hospitality meant havingFull Post

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November 9, 2016
6 Strategies to Help You Fight for Purity

WATCH VIDEO  Maintaining purity in our modern culture is not an easy thing to do. Unless we as Christian girls are vigilant in fighting for purity from the inside out, we will fail. We will give into temptation. It’s how we’re bent. It’s a natural part of our sin nature.  Our goal in creating this vlog is to challenge you, encourage you, and give you the tools you need to continue your fight for purity.  Whether you’ve thought about this topic before or not, these 6 tips will be powerful tools to equip you in your journey towards purity. WATCH VIDEO 

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November 7, 2016
When God Gives Someone Else What You Desperately Want

Have you ever wanted something so bad in life that you weren’t sure you could ever be happy without it? I have. And it was one of the hardest seasons of my life. I shared about that struggle a while back in a blog posts called: When God Doesn’t Give You What You Desperately Want. I shared about my journey from being single to getting married, and then to eventually struggling through infertility and two heartbreaking miscarriages. The one thing I so desperately wanted was to have kids, and it was the one thing God wasn’t giving me. Over the next few years God did some serious refining workFull Post

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November 4, 2016
Don’t Settle for a Guy Because You Think He’s the Last Option

Feelings of heartbreak, sadness and fear swept over me as I scanned the mountain range. I breathed in the fresh air hoping the great outdoors would do me some good. Life was hard at this moment in time. Like really really hard. I was in my early/mid-twenties and completely distraught over a life changing decision. To move forward in my relationship and get married, or, to end the relationship and enter back into singleness. Deep in my heart, I knew what I had to do. I knew I couldn’t continue the relationship out of fear and/or desperation. I knew I couldn’t get married out of the fear that thisFull Post

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November 1, 2016
6 Ideas on How to Live Your Single Years Well

WATCH VIDEO It’s time for us as single girls to recognize that singleness isn’t a season to “endure” until marriage, but a season to serve God to the best of our ability. Here are 6 ideas on how to live your single years well: 1. Don’t Complain 2. Speak Words of Gratitude 3. Get Outside of Yourself 4. Get the Bigger Picture 5. Surround Yourself With Young and Old 6. Commit to Growing That’s a wrap. Six ideas on how to live your single years well. Which one of the six areas would you like to commit to improving? Share your thoughts in the comments below. WATCH VIDEO 

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October 31, 2016
4 Creative Ways to Love and Minister to Other Girls

Have you ever been left out by a friend? Have you ever felt like a certain friend wasn’t reaching out to you enough? Unfortunately, when stuff like this happens, our natural tendency is to complain and whine about what the other person (or group of people) isn’t giving us. We complain that they aren’t loving us enough, caring about us enough, initiating conversation with us enough, etc. Instead of doing something about it, we sit back and throw ourselves an internal pity party. I know, because I’ve done it many times. However, about six to eight years ago my entire perspective took a 180 degree turn. I learned oneFull Post

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October 28, 2016
A Single Girl’s Thoughts on Writing Letters to Your Future Husband

I’ve always been so enamored by the fact that my future husband (if it’s God’s will for me to get married) is living and breathing right now. He is somewhere in this world at this very moment. How crazy is that? Picturing my future husband as a real, living person (and not just an imaginary human) really hit me around the age of fourteen. During this time, God began to convict me in the area of purity and gave me a strong desire to want to honor my future husband. I began praying through convictions and decided to commit to several things: To save sex for marriage. To saveFull Post

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October 26, 2016
Halloween: When Good Girls Go Bad for One Day

WATCH VLOG With Halloween only a few days away, we want to encourage all of you Christian girls out there to stay nice this October 31st. Our culture loves to celebrate death, darkness, perversion, and evil…but we should be different. Our language, our dress, and even our celebrations should look different than the lost world. We hope this Vlog encourages you to continue being a light for Jesus, even on Halloween. WATCH VLOG

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October 24, 2016
4 Tips for Maintaining a Strong Spiritual Life

My dad is a carpet cleaner—and a very fine one, at that. It’s a lovely luxury to enjoy the feeling of fluffy, soft, newly-cleaned fibers under your feet. But, just like everything else in life, carpet requires maintenance. Most people clean their carpets about once every five years. However, if carpet receives a regular maintenance cleaning (like once every five months), it stays fresh and relatively unsoiled.    The same is true about spiritual maintenance. There’s nothing like the feeling of a spiritual high. Like sensing a close fellowship with our heavenly Father, the Spirit within delighting in the things of God. However, those mountaintop seasons usually don’t happenFull Post

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October 21, 2016
Should We Bow Down at the Feet of Modern Hollywood Goddesses?

With a shocking 451,237,916 combined followers on Instagram, these five women are considered modern-day goddesses. These women have made their mark in our world and we’ve bowed down at their feet. Beauty, money, fame, and talent have given these women world-renowned fame. Our values and priorities are clearly seen in the way culture truly upholds and praises these women. Giving them names such as “Queen” and “Goddess.” Who are these women that claim the love and admiration of hundreds of millions? They are none other than Selena Gomez, Taylor Swift, Beyonce, Ariana Grande, and Kim Kardashian. Above all other celebrities in the world, these five hold the highest numberFull Post

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October 19, 2016
8 Reasons We Aren’t Feminists

WATCH VLOG If you are familiar with our ministry you know that, we created GirlDefined to help girls “get back to God’s design.” As a whole, we as Christian girls and women are really struggling to understand what God’s design is for our lives and how to practically live it out. Over the past 50 years, the feminist movement has sought redefine womanhood on their own terms. Rather than looking to God’s Word for solutions and answers, we as women, have decided to take matters into our own hands. Yes, feminism has done some good over the years, but by and large it has left women more confused and unfulfilled thanFull Post

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October 17, 2016
Thinking Clearly in the Most Dysfunctional GENDERation Ever

Every generation has its thing. The 1960’s brought about the sexual revolution, rebelling against God’s design for sex. The 70’s brought about the no-fault divorce laws, minimizing the long-term commitment of marriage. The 70’s also brought about abortion, the decision to redefine the value of our smallest human life. One thing leads to another. One compromise becomes the foundation of the next. And now this generation has brought about some of the most radical changes of all. The total redefining of marriage and gender. Some are calling it the GENDERation. Of all the generations in the history of our nation, no generation has thrown out the “gender rulebook” furtherFull Post

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October 14, 2016
CoverGirl: Ditching Tradition and Embracing the CoverBoy

I was absolutely shocked when I saw the words CoverGirl with a dude’s face on the picture. What is this? I wondered. I clicked on the link and my fears were confirmed. For the first time in history CoverGirl has proudly named the first ever male as the new face of CoverGirl. CoverGirl is no longer a gender specific makeup company, but a company that essentially says, “Boy? Girl? We don’t care what gender your are. Let’s blur the lines, blend up this gender thing and make up our own rules. Gender is a personal choice (because there is no God) and we are proud to give you aFull Post

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October 11, 2016
The Most Challenging Things About Being a Christian Teen Girl

WATCH VIDEO  In our day and age, it’s so hard to stay focused on honoring God rather than joining the popular crowd. It’s even harder when most girls (even in the church) around you don’t take their spiritual life seriously.  If you’re a teen girl living in any part of the world, you know the struggle I’m talking about. It’s a battle I face and I’m sure you are facing it too. It can be really discouraging. It’s not easy to be a teen girl in today’s culture, but I am slowly learning that the road less traveled is totally worth it. WATCH VIDEO 

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October 10, 2016
4 Lies Pop Culture Is Teaching You About Sexting (FREE GIVEAWAY)

“I just don’t know what to do!” she said to me, with a discouraged look on her face. “One of my friends is sending nude pictures to her boyfriend and I feel like I should say something to her. I don’t think it’s a good idea…but I’m just not sure what to say!” This is a real conversation I had with a teen girl after a Girl Defined church event. She was totally discouraged about her friend’s sexting habits, but had no idea what to say to her friend. As much as I’d like to hide under a bushel and believe that sexting and nude-photo-sharing is rare, it’s not.Full Post

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October 7, 2016
The One Thing You Desperately Need in a Future Husband (FREE GIVEAWAY)

The moment his piercing blue eyes glanced in my direction my heart melted into a pile of serious infatuation. This guy was everything I’d ever dreamed of and then some. He was handsome with an extra dose of Hollywood swag. In my mind, I had us happily married and imagined myself as the luckiest girl on planet earth. My entire future happiness and marital bliss were being based off one thing…my physical attraction to “Mr. Hollywood” himself. I knew nothing (literally nothing) about this guy, except for his looks. Long story short, I ended up meeting and getting to know Mr. Hollywood and the two of us developed aFull Post

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October 5, 2016
5 Tips for Overcoming Crazy Girl Emotions

WATCH VIDEO  We as girls seem to wear our emotions on our sleeves. When we feel good, we are happy. When we feel bad, we are unhappy. It can switch in a matter of a split second and it can happen back-and-forth multiple times in a row. After doing some research and thinking this topic through, we’ve come up with 5 truths to help us as girls combat our “crazy girl” emotions.​ WATCH VIDEO 

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October 4, 2016
The Girl Defined Audio Book is Here!

We are so excited to announce that the Girl Defined audio book is now available!!! For a limited time the Girl Defined audio book will be available for only $5.00!! Clink on this link and enter the coupon code: AUDIOGIRL5 to receive your $5.00 audiobook! This special offer will end on October 18th. Keep on eye on the GirlDefined Blog (and our social media sites) because we will be doing some major FREE audiobook giveaways over the next two weeks (including signed copies)! You don’t want to miss out on the fun! The first giveaway is happening this Friday on the blog! Get the Audiobook

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October 3, 2016
Is Masturbation Wrong for Christian Girls? (Part 2)

Caution: This topic may not be appropriate for younger audiences. Without being unnecessarily graphic, my hope in writing this two part series is to offer helpful biblical counsel for the many Christian girls who are struggling in this area. This is the second half of a two part series on the topic of masturbation. If you missed my first post, I highly recommend reading it before you read this one. In the first post I shared about my journey to finding freedom from this struggle as well as 3 reasons masturbation is wrong for Christian girls. You can read the first post HERE. Understanding the damaging effects of lustFull Post

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September 30, 2016
Is Masturbation Wrong for Christian Girls? (Part 1)

Caution: This topic may not be appropriate for younger audiences. Without being unnecessarily graphic, my hope in writing this two part series is to offer helpful biblical counsel for the many Christian girls who are struggling in this area. It used to be that most blogs and books dealing with sexual sin issues were geared towards men. However, over the past few years many women have opened up about their own sexual sin struggles, expressing a need for help in this area as well. Praise the Lord! We, as women, are not immune to lustful sins any more than men are. Lust is not a guy problem…it’s a humanFull Post

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September 28, 2016
It Takes a Brave Girl to Live Out Biblical Womanhood

WATCH VIDEO  God is looking for women who will be brave in today’s society. We’re challenging you to be one of those women. To be one of the few who are willing to liberate yourself from the commonality of wimpy womanhood. Our generation is in need of Christian women who are willing to rise up and show the culture the powerful influence a God-defined woman can have.  In today’s vlog, we are going to show you how to be a BRAVE girl and embrace God’s truth in your everyday life . B = Bold A bold girl doesn’t shy away from truth. A bold girl is unafraid of whatFull Post

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September 26, 2016
The Secret to Becoming a Bold, Brave and Beautiful Woman

The stage was filled with the presence of a woman overflowing with confidence, security, authority, beauty, and boldness. Silence filled the auditorium as we all watched this mighty woman of God share counter-cultural truths that would utterly shock the average woman. She wasn’t scared or afraid to say what she was saying. She spoke like a woman who knew that her source of information was as true as true can be. This woman possesses the secret that we, women as a whole, desperately long for. She has found the secret to true womanhood. She knows that her Authority and Guide is tried and true. This woman has the answersFull Post

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September 23, 2016
When 7,000 Women Gather Together and Pray

Sitting in a room surrounded by 7,000 Christian women is an experience unlike any other. Bethany and I are at the True Woman 2016 Conference in Indianapolis right now! If you’re not familiar with this amazing women’s conference, I highly recommend checking it out. The theme for this year’s conference is on prayer and is called “Cry Out!” Every other year, Revive Our Hearts Ministries puts on this huge women’s conference, which brings in Christian women from all over the world. It’s amazing to see women from different countries, cultures, and languages gather together to seek the Lord and learn more about Him. From the beginning of this year,Full Post

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September 21, 2016
6 Guys You Shouldn’t Date, Court, or Marry

WATCH VIDEO  Over the years, we’ve learned very quickly that there are some Christian guys who would make great husbands, and some who would not. Life is too short to spend it married to someone whose heart isn’t totally turned towards God. There isn’t time to settle for a guy out of hopelessness, desperation or just plain emotional want. Here are the 6 types of guys we personally would never recommend for you to date, court, or marry. WATCH VIDEO 

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September 19, 2016
Understanding God’s “Road Map” For Your Womanhood

Driving through the backwood country roads of Texas without directions is not my idea of a fun day. I always try my best to plan ahead, look at the map and make sure I know the best route before leaving my house. This day was different. I was meeting up with some friends at a fun Texas style restaurant and I decided to fully rely on my phone’s GPS to get me there. Everything was going great until I was about halfway into my journey and my phone decided to stop working. The maps completely froze up and I basically had no idea where I was going or howFull Post

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September 16, 2016
The Birth Control Pill: Continuing the Conversation

I recently wrote a post called, The Birth Control Pill: What Every Christian Girl Needs to Know. As a Christian woman myself, my heart behind that post was to remind all of us that God’s plan for sex, marriage, and motherhood is much better than what our culture has been feeding us. I’d love to continue our previous conversation about the Pill and share more of my heart behind writing that post. Just consider this post Part 2. For the women who commented previously who take the Pill strictly for health issues, my heart goes out to you. I am genuinely sorry that you have to suffer from thingsFull Post

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September 14, 2016
4 Lies Our Raunch Culture is Feeding You

WATCH VLOG  Opening up your iTunes library and seeing album covers featuring half naked female artists has become the norm in our society today. Walking into a makeup store and being bombarded by large posters of sexualized women, checking out at the grocery and seeing magazines titled, “Best Sex Ever,” and driving down the highway with billboards featuring half naked women has become a normal part of our modern culture. However, this everyday raunchy reality isn’t the way America has always been. Not too long ago the majority of women were disgusted at the thought of being viewed as a sexual object. Most women despised pornography and viewed their intimate body parts as private property.Full Post

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September 12, 2016
My Body Isn’t Perfect and I’m Totally Okay With It

My hair was a wreck, my makeup was half-finished, I was running behind and my sweet friend was already at the restaurant waiting for me to arrive for our lunch date. I sprinted out the door and headed towards my location. I reached across the seat to grab my make-up so that I could finish (Yes! Sometimes I do makeup when I’m driving. Confession time.) and nothing was on the seat. I looked in the back row, under my feet, under the passenger’s seat, and nothing was there. Noooo!!! I realized I had left it inside on the kitchen counter. This was just not my day. Running late. MakeupFull Post

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September 9, 2016
The Birth Control Pill: What Every Christian Girl Needs to Know

Whether you’re on the Pill, know someone who is, or think you might be on it in the future, this post is a must read for every Christian girl. And since government data reveals that more than eight in 10 American women, ages 15 to 44, have taken the Pill at some point in their lives, we need to be educated on exactly what the Pill is, where it came from, and how it affects our bodies. The “Birth Control Pill” hit the American scene in 1960 and changed human history forever. For the first time ever, sexual intimacy and procreation were completely separated. The invention of The BirthFull Post

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September 7, 2016
Why “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” Didn’t Ruin Our Lives

WATCH VLOG  Do you remember the popular relationships book from the 90’s called “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” by Joshua Harris? This book has sold over one million copies since its original release, and has always been a controversial book. However, just more recently, we’ve seen article after article from people saying that this book has totally ruined their lives. One man commented and said, “this book has ruined my marriage and it will never be the same!” Ruined your life? Ruined your marriage?? Those are bold statements. Having read the book ourselves over 15 years ago, and not experienced a ruined life as a result, we thought we’d tackleFull Post

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September 5, 2016
Real Women Know How to Accept an Act of Chivalry

What better place to observe the possibility of chivalry than in a room full of young singles at a Bible study. And that’s exactly where I was. The room was packed to the brim and almost every spare chair had been pulled out and used by the late arrivals. Somehow a young lady had squeezed in unnoticed and ended up without a chair. She quietly made her way to a small ledge and found a way to lean/sit against it. After a few moments, I noticed a kind young man quietly making his way towards her with his chair. He started to pull the chair out and set itFull Post

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September 2, 2016
3 Reasons Beyoncé Isn’t Empowering to Women

Her larger-than-life persona, bold music, and powerful stage presence have crowned this woman as the epitome of modern girl power. She’s praised by millions as one of the most inspirational women of our day. She is Beyoncé. Also referred to as, Queen Bey. This female superstar has not only become an icon, she has been carefully and strategically crafted into a brand. And this brand is considered empowering to women. Millions of females (young and old) view her as their greatest role model in life. “I want to be just like her,” many girls have said. “I would die to talk to her!,” women have stated. But do weFull Post

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August 31, 2016
4 Must Know Truths for Single Girls Desiring Marriage

WATCH VIDEO Calling all the single girls! If you desire to get married some day (whether soon or in the far off future), this vlog was created especially for you. Being single can be hard at times…really hard. Especially if you’re hoping to get married sooner rather than later. In this vlog, we want to share with you 4 powerful truths that will help you live your single years well. These truths helped Kristen during her single years, and they are still helping Bethany as she waits on God’s timing for marriage. If you want to thrive during this season of your life, these 4 truths will help you doFull Post

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August 29, 2016
3 Ways to Reach Out to the New Girl at School

My heart felt like it was going to beat out of my chest as my dad dropped me off for my very first co-op class. I was thirteen and slowly learning how to brave the world of strangers. As a tall, skinny, slightly awkward teen, I wasn’t very confident in my social skills. Can you relate? Walking into a classroom full of people I’d never met made my heart race and my palms sweat. I couldn’t wait for the dreaded unknown to become known and a memory of my past. As I opened the door and walked into the classroom, I was greeted by a sweet, smiling teacher. SheFull Post

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August 26, 2016
Don’t Be a Woman Without Purpose and Passion

She went from a nobody to a world changer within a matter of months. This young woman was nothing more than a peasant girl when her life took a drastic, unexpected turn. Nobody knew her name. But now, everybody in the kingdom knows exactly who she is. They know…because she is their new queen. She is Esther. The true story of Esther is like the biblical version of a “cinderella” story. However, Esther’s life was anything but glamorous. Ripped from her home and family, forced to live in the king’s harem, and then ultimately forced to marry a man she didn’t even know…Esther’s life was not perfectly romantic. AndFull Post

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August 24, 2016
10 Books Every Christian Girl Should Read

WATCH VIDEO  We want to give you the inside scoop on our top ten favorite books of all time. These are the ten books (outside of the Bible) that have had the biggest impact on our lives and have helped shaped us into the women that we are today. We guarantee that if you read these ten books with a willing heart to learn, you will not be the same girl by the time you finish. Through these books you will be equipped with the skills and understanding that can help you thrive as a woman. Here we go! The ten books that completely changed our life… WATCH VIDEO 

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August 22, 2016
The Problem With Constantly Comparing Yourself to Other Girls

My friend and I sat on the floor with our legs crisscrossed. My friend was getting married in just a few short months, and I had flown out to visit her before she entered the married season of life. After a few minutes of light hearted chit-chat, our conversation took on a more serious tone. My friend went on to explain to me that she has constantly struggled with comparing herself to the Victoria Secret models. Although she understands that God is the author of beauty, she sighed and said, “It’s just hard not compare myself to them.” Our conversation turned into a great time of refocusing on theFull Post

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August 19, 2016
How to Snap Out of it When You Feel Totally Down

I went through a challenging time in my life once and had a great temptation to turn to “stuff” (shopping, food, mochas, novels, etc.) to make myself feel good in the moment. Instead of handling my sad emotions in the right way by turning to God’s word, I tried to cover them up by shopping and buying fun stuff for myself. Thankfully, at just the right time, I ran across a great podcast by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. She gave am awesome piece of advice that I found extremely helpful during my time of temptation. She told a story about how she was in a down mood and didn’t feelFull Post

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August 17, 2016
3 Ways Christian Girls Can Promote Godly Manhood (VIDEO)

WATCH VIDEO  It’s time for you to understand, challenge, and encourage the men God has placed in your life. Are you willing to take a step out on a limb and do what only a handful of girls are doing? Are you willing to stand apart from the average girl and encourage guys to live to a higher standard? WATCH VIDEO 

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August 15, 2016
How Writing a Book about Sex Taught me the Secret to Love

When I took hold of the challenge to write a book about sex, and all the touchy subjects it touches, I had no idea I’d discover the secret to love. Sex illuminates the farthest corners of our hearts. It reveals the pain and the promise, our desire for more of everything we deeply want. Sex is the picture of Christ and His bride — too beautiful to behold — mysteriously expressed between a man and a woman. In marriage, sex is yada — or at least it should be.  Yada is the Hebrew word for “knew,” as in “Adam knew his wife Eve” and she conceived and bore a sonFull Post

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August 12, 2016
What Every Girl Needs to Know About Her Outward Appearance

Her hair was long and beautiful. It was thick and luscious. As she highlighted my hair in the salon, I couldn’t help but compliment her. “I just love your hair!” I said enthusiastically. I expected her to accept my compliment with satisfaction, but she didn’t. “Oh…thanks!” she said laughing out loud. “It’s actually not my hair…well, at least not most of it.” I raised my eyebrows in surprise. “Yeah, it’s actually mostly hair extensions. My real hair is short and thin.” She said with a wink. She went on to explain how their salon offered a high quality fusion hair extension service. They would fuse real pieces of hair ontoFull Post

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August 10, 2016
5 Powerful Truths for Overcoming Secret Sins (VIDEO)

WATCH VIDEO It is absolutely impossible to experience lasting freedom if we have ongoing, secret sin in our lives. This vlog will show you how to get rid of secret sin. WATCH VIDEO

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August 7, 2016
Are You Guilty of Being Bible Zoomer?

For those of you who don’t know me, I am a fast-paced type of a girl. I walk fast, I eat fast, I think fast, I talk fast. I even grew fast and tall. In some areas of life, that can be a great thing—but not always. When it comes to my personal devotion time and Bible reading, being fast-paced is not such great quality to have. The Bible is God-breathed (2 Tim. 3:16) It’s 100 percent God’s inspired Word written for each one of us. God perfectly orchestrated the Bible to give us the exact information that He wanted us to have. It’s packed full of wisdom, insight,Full Post

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August 5, 2016
Why You Should Love a Guy’s Heart More than His Hairdo

I couldn’t stop looking at him. He was one of my favorite early crushes. This guy was one of my brother’s basketball teammates and I just loved watching him run up and down the court. At 12 years old I was enthralled with him. He put little sparkles in his gel so his hair slightly shimmered as he played basketball. Oh! I thought I was in love! I even secretly gave him the endearing nickname “sparkly.” There was only one problem. “Sparkly” and I had never talked. In fact, I don’t even think he knew I existed. I adored his shimmering hairdo, but had no idea who he reallyFull Post

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August 3, 2016
5 Quick Tips to Having an Awesome Quiet Time

WATCH VIDEO Personal devotions can be hard. It’s hard to know what to study. It’s hard to feel motivated when you don’t know what to do. This video will give you 5 quick tips on how to get started. WATCH VIDEO

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August 1, 2016
Incredible Lessons from the Life of Corrie ten Boom

This past year I had the privilege of visiting Corrie ten Boom’s famous hiding place in Haarlem, Holland. In case you don’t know Corrie’s incredible story, let me fill you in. Corrie ten Boom and her family were watchmakers in Haarlem, Holland during World War II. As strong Christians, they willingly put themselves in danger by working undercover in an attempt to help Jews escape persecution from the Nazi regime. Corrie had no idea what her faithfulness to God would cost her, but she was willing to serve Him no matter the price. Word eventually spread throughout Haarlem about the undercover work Corrie was doing. The Nazis became increasingly suspicious andFull Post

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July 29, 2016
How I Handled the Hardest Breakup of My Life

Shortly after my twentieth birthday, I entered into my first serious relationship. Marriage was already on my radar and this guy (we’ll call him Bryan) definitely sparked my interest. My family really liked him and he seemed like a great fit! Things progressed quickly and it felt like I was “falling in love” with him. Before I knew it I began feeling subtle pressure from Bryan to speed up the “courtship” and quickly get engaged. I wanted to get engaged to him…but there was still a small part of me that wasn’t 100% on board. I just needed a little more time. Little did I know that I wouldFull Post

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July 27, 2016
Praying for Your Future Husband (VIDEO)

I started thinking about this topic when I was thirteen years old. I read a book that challenged me to start praying for my future husband. I opened up my journal and wrote down my five biggest prayers and heart cries for the man I will one day marry. My list of prayers for my future husband: 1. That he would not have a love for the world. 2. That he would think of others above himself. 3. That he would guard his mind. 4. That he would be committed to spiritual growth. 5. That he would have a 1st Corinthians 13 love. I wrote these prayers down yearsFull Post

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July 25, 2016
What Makes A Woman Truly Beautiful?

Did you know that God actually wants women to be out-of-this-world beautiful?  Believe it or not, God compares the stars, the cosmos, and galaxies with idea of true beauty! He connects these two seemly unrelated concepts with a really cool Greek word.  Hang tight with me as I briefly explain God’s poetic analogy in the following verse: 1 Peter 3:3-4 says “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight isFull Post

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July 22, 2016
3 Practical Tips for Conquering Secret Sexual Thoughts

“I struggle with lustful thoughts all the time and I wish I could stop!” “I thought my sexuality was supposed to be a blessing…but I can’t seem to keep my mind pure! It doesn’t feel like a blessing anymore.” “Being single is a lot harder than I thought it would be! I battle against my sensual thoughts every night and it’s getting really old. Help!” Have you every has similar thoughts? Sexual thoughts and struggles are something that every Christian girl will battle at one time or another. Unfortunately, unlike most other struggles, this is one that can easily be kept under wraps. Many girls who struggle against lust keep it completelyFull Post

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July 20, 2016
How to Be Content When Your Heart’s Desire is Unfulfilled

WATCH VIDEO   Each one of us have those “If I only had” moments…  “If I only had ___________, then I’d be happy.” “If only I were married, then I’d be happy.” “If only I had a baby, then I’d be happy.” “If only I had a nicer car, then I’d be happy.” “If only I could buy more clothes, then I’d be happy.” Nobody’s life is perfect. We all have unfulfilled longings in our heart.  However, the two of us have learned (and continue to learn) how to be content even when our heart’s desire is unfulfilled. We pray that this vlog encourages you to find true contentment inFull Post

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July 17, 2016
How to Have God Honoring Friendships With Guys

Looking back on my high school years I realize how little I knew about interacting with guys. I would say, the one word that best described my interaction with young men, would probably be flirting. As a super outgoing, social, extroverted gal, flirting just seemed to be my most natural way of interaction. Some girls feel awkward around guys and run away out of fear, and some, like myself, revert to being overly friendly and flirty. I personally don’t think either option is a good one. Over the years God has convicted my heart in this area and I’ve come a long *long* way in my guy friendships. I’mFull Post

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July 15, 2016
3 Effective Ways to Prepare for Marriage

Have you ever noticed how some married couples seem to display a real, genuine relationship with each other? Being a guy with child­like wonder, I’m naturally curious. Why does he treat her with love, kindness, and care? Why does she respect, honor, and follow him? As single Christian guys and girls, we should be cultivating habits which are crucial for healthy marriages. Here are three effective ways the Lord has shown me to prepare for marriage during these single years. 1. View Marriage In Light of Eternity Many of us will focus on many of the practical details of preparing for an earthly marriage that we often lose sight ofFull Post

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July 13, 2016
Advice for Single Girls on How to Prepare for Marriage

WATCH VIDEO The two of us used to think that getting married would automatically transform us into “princess perfects.” We thought that, somehow, our flaws and sinful hearts would disappear into the background while we loved our husbands selflessly. Riiiight. If you’ve ever thought the same thing, this vlog is for you. Although Kristen has only been married for 5 years, she has learned a lot about marriage and true love and is sharing her insights on today’s vlog. If you’re a single girl in need of some advice on how to prepare for marriage, you’ll love today’s video. WATCH VIDEO

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July 11, 2016
What God Taught Me the Day I Almost Died

It was a hot summer day and I was doing the normal thing a kid would do. Swim! I was having a blast in the large pool with my family unaware of what was about to happen. I decided to take a dive under the large floating tube that my mom was sitting on. I gracefully swam underneath her and came up on the other side to take a breath…or so I thought. As I tried to surface for air, I felt my head hit something large instead. I was underneath the tube, not on the other side. I dove back down to escape the tube, but felt somethingFull Post

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July 8, 2016
When Wanting to be Accepted Turns Into an Obsession

It was a hot summer afternoon, deep in the heart of Texas. I was twenty-one years old and extremely self-conscious about looking good in front of other people. I would do almost anything to impress others. I  wanted to be liked. So imagine how I felt about driving a car as old as I was. Yeah, I wasn’t super thrilled about the idea. But the car was free (given to me by my grandparents), and it was in great working order. It was practical and got me where I needed to go. Even so, I was extremely self-conscious about driving it. When I would go hang out with myFull Post

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July 6, 2016
5 Wardrobe Hacks for Dressing Modestly (VIDEO)

WATCH VIDEO Just because the standards for modesty and decency are extremely low, we as Christian girls, don’t have to give in. We can stand strong in our convictions and continue to embrace purity. Although there aren’t many of us, we aren’t alone. We have each other. Modesty will always be a challenge, but one that we’ve discovered is totally worth fighting for. Without further ado…we give you our 5 FAVORITE wardrobe hacks for dressing modestly during the hot summer months. WATCH VIDEO

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July 4, 2016
Why Being an Independent Woman Isn’t Always Good

“Hey honey, I really think we should go talk about this some more,” Zack said in a serious tone. We had just finished having a rather intense discussion about something that we didn’t see eye-to-eye on (at all). My emotions were completely driving the train and I was “done” discussing it. I crossed my arms like a child throwing a fit and looked up at him with a frustrated look.   “Babe, come on.” He said in a firm, but loving tone. “Let’s go finish this conversation. We need to.” He gestured for me to join him on the couch. I could feel my independent spirit rising up fromFull Post

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July 1, 2016
A Single Guy’s Thoughts on Girls, Getting Married, and God

Girls like knowing what guys think. Right? I know I do. Especially when the guy is single, godly, and striving to honor God with his life. Well, I have something extra special for you today. Kristen and I interviewed a young man who is striving to honor God with his life as a single guy. We asked him five different questions and wanted to hear his honest opinion on each topic. The two of us were encouraged and challenged by his answers, and we think you will be too. 1. What are some of the most important qualities you are looking for in a future wife? The first thing thatFull Post

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June 29, 2016
Are Gorgeous Girls Worth More? | Vlog

WATCH VIDEO Apparently, there’s a certain group of people who claim that physical beauty can actually be measured. As girls, we see the value our culture places on their definition of beauty and we measure ourselves against it. We chase after a certain physical “look” because (deep in our hearts) we believe that gorgeous girls are worth more. But are they? WATCH VIDEO

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June 27, 2016
3 Signs You Love Looking at Yourself a Little Too Much

This mirror was like a magnet for my eyes. Every time I walked past this particular mirror in my house I looked into it. Without even realizing it, I had made it a habit to “check myself out” every time I walked by. Before I knew it, I was “checking myself out” every time I walked past any mirror. This subtle habit was rudely awakened one day during a construction project in my house. My favorite mirror had been removed from it’s normal place…but out of habit, I still looked in that same spot every time I walked by it. Instead of catching eyes with myself, a blank whiteFull Post

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June 24, 2016
Join The 7 Day GirlDefined Prayer Challenge

Over the past few years I’ve seen God at work in my life in incredible ways. I feel like I’ve had a front row seat to witnessing God answer prayers in my life and in the lives of those around me. Looking back I now realize that God has always been at work, I just haven’t been paying close enough attention. When I began seriously praying and taking all of my cares before the Lord, I finally had eyes to see what He was doing. I began to clearly see Him answer my prayers and I knew He was active in my life. Here are just a few examplesFull Post

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June 22, 2016
What Cow Tipping Taught Us About Living Beyond the Moment | Vlog

WATCH VLOG Back in high school the two of us decided to live in the moment and ignore any potential consequences due to our actions. The two of us learned the hard way and we are hoping you can learn from our mistakes. In this video we challenge you to live beyond the moment and make your one life count. Don’t get so caught up in the here-and-now that you forget the One you should ultimately be striving to glorify. Watch today’s vlog for some fresh ideas on how you can make your life count. WATCH VLOG

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June 20, 2016
15 Fun Ideas to Help You Deepen Your Relationships

Ever since Zack and I got married (5 years ago!), we have always made it a huge priority to have a special date night once a week. To keep things interesting, we’ve always taken turns planning the activity. We decided that he would plan the first and third Friday nights of the month, and I would plan the second and fourth. After several months of planning my turn for date nights, I was running low on new and exciting ideas. I had exhausted my internet research and couldn’t find anything new. There were some great Christian movies out, so I decided to rent one and keep the date night relaxing and simple.Full Post

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June 16, 2016
Is a Perfect Body and Pretty Face Enough to Satisfy?

I recently met Jana, a girl from Germany, who is living in America as an au-pair nanny. She told me that, “getting a chance to live in America was like a dream.” Now that she has been here for a good 8 months, I was curious what her perspective on America was. Jana described America as a place where, “everyone appears to be living in a fantasy in the public eye, but they are depressed and unhappy when they are at home.” She continued, “all of the girls, old or young, seem to put so much focus on their outward appearance. I feel like I am a normal dressFull Post

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June 15, 2016
Answering Your Guy Questions: Dating, Bad Relationships, & Guy Friends | Vlog

WATCH VLOG Today – we’ve decided to dedicate this entire vlog to answering your guy questions. We’ve hand picked 3 of the most popular questions we hear from you and have attempted to answer them in this video. What is a good age to start dating? Is it better to be in a struggling relationship than to be single? How can I be “just friends” with guys? These are all great questions! Watch today’s vlog to hear our answers to each one of these questions. WATCH VLOG

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June 13, 2016
God’s Design for Sex is Way Better than Hollywood’s Cheap Imitation

We can’t escape the reality that we live in a highly sexualized American culture. Things are not quite as “behind the scenes” as they used to be. The magazines in the grocery store portray half naked women while billboards display seductive pictures to grab our attention. No matter how sheltered you may feel as a Christian girl, you can’t help but notice the sex-obsessed culture we live in. Every one of us has an opinion on the topic of sex and my question for you today is this: Where does your worldview on sex come from? Is it based on God’s Word, or on what Hollywood teaches? If you don’tFull Post

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June 10, 2016
Single Girl Don’t Waste Your Life Waiting for Marriage

As a young teen I never would have guessed that my season of singleness would have lasted as long as it has. I truly thought that by 27 I would be married. Surely! I thought I’d probably even have two or three kids by now as well. But, single? That wasn’t even on my radar. I realize that many of you are in the exact same position as myself. You’re single and you have no idea when, or if, marriage will be in your future. I get it. I get the singleness. I get the struggles. I get the longing for marriage. I get the wondering if you’ll beFull Post

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June 8, 2016
Strong Girls Obey God’s Word Even When it’s Hard | Vlog

WATCH VLOG If you want to be a strong girl, you must learn to obey God’s Word even when you don’t feel like it. We can’t be wimpy girls when it comes to honoring Christ with our lives. Way too many of us have given up on God’s truths when it’s hard or takes sacrifice. We’ve given into peer pressure, allowed the culture to shape our views, and have followed our emotions. We pray you will join the ranks of (truly) strong girls in today’s culture! We want to leave you with this question: What tough circumstances are you facing today that require you to be a strong girl forFull Post

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June 6, 2016
Me Before You: A Romantically Warped Message

Once upon a time there lived a handsome young man who wasn’t too excited about life. Suddenly, out of nowhere, a beautiful young woman drops into his life and changes everything. He laughs again like he used to and she slowly captures his heart. They fall in love and live happily ever after! The end. Oh wait – wrong ending. They fall in love, and then he decides to commit suicide because his life isn’t worth living. The end. Say hello to a modern romance. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, I’m referring to the new horror-film-disguised-as-a romantic-chick-flick, “Me Before You.” In this new blockbuster hit, aFull Post

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June 3, 2016
Embracing Modesty Throughout the Hot Summer Months

A few years ago I would have been shocked by some of the fashion trends currently taking over the clothing stores. Although it still saddens me, it doesn’t quite shock me like it used to. Extreme Immodesty has become our norm. Ultra mini shorts. Tiny crop tops. Sheer shirts. Practically painted on pants. This is the new norm. The standard for modesty is being lowered further and further and we as Christian girls are being faced with immense pressure to give in. I know that this is not new news to you. You see the stores. You see the way girls are dressings. You feel the pressure. You knowFull Post

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June 1, 2016
Is Gender a Personal Choice? | Vlog

WATCH VLOG HERE Gender is such a hot button topic today! Some people view gender as a personal choice, while others don’t think it’s a personal choice at all. And then there are some who aren’t really sure what they think. In this GirlDefined Vlog, we tackle this controversial question head on: Is gender a personal choice?  As Christian girls, we must have a solid Biblical answer when it comes to these tough but relevant questions. WATCH VLOG HERE

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May 30, 2016
A Glimpse Inside the Most Beautiful Love Life

Have you ever seen a love so beautiful that it made you ache inside? And I’m not talking about the kind of perfect-engagement-shoot, puppy-eyed ardor of youth. I’m talking about the kind of love that is as well-worn and familiar as the wrinkles in the face of your beloved. The kind of love that expresses itself in unglamorous, unending deeds of devotion. It is Sunday morning at my grandmother’s church. I sit in the pew, waiting to sing a special number with my mom, hoping to be a blessing. Glancing around at the surrounding white haired heads and time-worn figures, my gaze is caught by a stooped man wheelingFull Post

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May 27, 2016
A Plea to Leave the Denim Underwear in the Drawer

I just have to say this up front so I can get it off my chest. There is no way that denim shorts –  so short and tight that they are digging into your body – can be comfortable. I don’t care how cute girls think they look, there is just no way. I wish there was a nice, discreet, graceful way to go about this topic, but there isn’t. This is one of those topics that I have to be real and honest about. The summer months are coming at us in hot and boiling waves. The sweaty skin, the sticky feeling, the greasy hair and the humidityFull Post

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May 25, 2016
Is it Okay to Be Obsessed with Guys? | Vlog

We have exciting news to share with you. GirlDefined Ministries is launching an official YouTube Channel today!! We will be posting new Vlogs every Wednesday from now on. If you have a specific topic or subject you’d like us to cover in an upcoming video, just email us HERE.  We hope to use our YouTube channel to reach an even broader audience with the powerful and freeing message of God-defined womanhood. We’d love your help in spreading the word about it! WATCH TODAY’S VLOG 

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May 23, 2016
When Reality Hit Me on My Honeymoon

“Babe, I have a great idea…” Zack said enthusiastically. “I want to plan our entire honeymoon by myself and completely surprise you!” With a shocked face and raised eyebrows, I smiled at my handsome fiance and asked, “Seriously? You want to surprise me and plan our entire honeymoon on your own?” “Yes!” Zack responded confidently. “You don’t have to worry about a thing. I’ve totally got this,” he added with a wink. With four months left until our wedding day, it was honestly a huge relief for me to remove the honeymoon planning from my to-do list. Before I knew it, the time had finally arrived and I foundFull Post

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May 20, 2016
Should Christian Girls Embrace the Transgender Movement

I looked into the eyes of a little nine year old girl as she explained to me why she thought being transgender was okay. This was a Christian girl, attending a solid Christian church and involved in several extracurricular church activities. Despite her upbringing and young age, this little girl was already being forced to ask some big questions. And sadly, her conclusions were not coming from the Bible. Sadly, this little girl is having to answer a generation that has decided to play by their own rules and live by their own standards. She is being forced to decide if God’s Word will be her foundation of truth,Full Post

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May 18, 2016
Courageous Girls Needed To Live Out True Womanhood

The compliments didn’t fix it. The modeling offers didn’t make it go away. The attention from cute guys didn’t make it any better. I liked most everything about my physical appearance…except for this one thing. My nose. I sat in front of the mirror for 30 minutes one time staring at my face, wishing I had a different nose. I would pinch it to make it look more slender, questioning why God didn’t make that one easy adjustment. I was 16 years old and had unknowingly bought into many lies about my physical appearance and beauty. I wasn’t the only one either. Every female friend I had was discontentFull Post

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May 17, 2016
Celebrate! Girl Defined is Here!

We are so excited to announce that Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity officially launched today!!! Today is a day of celebration. A day to celebrate all that God has done and is going to do. We are in awe of His incredible grace and mercy in our lives and this book is a testimony of His faithfulness. Our prayer is that this book will show you God’s incredible design for the girl and help you see that God defined femininity is an amazing and beautiful thing. We’re inviting you to join us on a liberating journey toward a radically better vision for femininity. OneFull Post

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May 16, 2016
Figuring Out if Biblical Womanhood is for You

WATCH VIDEO HERE Have you ever wondered if Biblical womanhood is relevant for your life? Watch today’s video and hear amazing stories of five different girls who each overcame their personal struggles as a result of embracing God’s design for womanhood. This is the fourth and final video in our 4 part series titled, “4 Secrets to Brave and Bold Womanhood.” PS Today is the LAST day to get the FREE pre-order bonus package for ordering Girl Defined. You don’t want to miss this! More info HERE.   

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May 13, 2016
Should Christian Girls Date Non-Christian Guys?

Back in high school, I remember walking out of Walmart and finding a secret “love note” stuck to my windshield. It was from none other than the Walmart parking lot cart guy himself! After weeks of catching him stare at me every time I pulled up, he finally (cleverly) spilled his interest in me. He invited me to join him on a romantic date to Chili’s *ahem* the following Tuesday. Well…long story short, I didn’t go. That marked the beginning and end of my Walmart romance. He seemed like a nice guy and all, I just wasn’t interested in dating around. But the bigger reason I said no wasFull Post

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May 11, 2016
Why Guys Aren’t the Reason I Dress Modestly

“Sometimes I wonder why I even dress modestly. I mean, guys see immodest women all the time anyways. It’s not like they don’t know what cleavage is. I’m starting to wonder if modesty is really worth it.” Those were the words of a girl who was feeling super discouraged about modesty. As she shared her heart with me, I felt like her words could have been my own. At this point in time (mid high school) I had some very similar thoughts running through my own mind. Why am I even doing this? Do guys really appreciate the effort that dressing modestly takes? Do they realize how inconvenient modestyFull Post

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May 9, 2016
I’ve only Kissed One Guy and I Don’t Regret it

Imagine kissing the love of your life for the first time ever…in front of 1,000 people. Yep. That was me. As I turned to face my brand new husband at the foot of our wedding altar, I knew the moment of truth had finally arrived. Neither of us had ever kissed anyone before, and we were about to give a rookie smooch with a thousand faces watching. As the pastor excitedly announced, “You may now kiss the bride…for the first time!,” one pressing question flashed through my mind. “Do I tilt my head to the left or to the right?!” Before I had time to figure it out, IFull Post

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May 5, 2016
The Ultimate “Squad Goal” for Christian Girls (Free Giveaway)

I’ll never forget the days of walking across the basketball court gym, with my teammates by my side, thinking I was Miss Amazing. This was my squad of girls and I was positive we were some of the coolest chicks on the planet. I liked my team, I liked my girls, I liked being a part of a  “squad.” I liked representing my team name and I liked having a group of people I could associate with. Fast forward to today and “squads” and “squad goals” are all the rage. I just recently saw a picture on social media of several famous celebrities and the title was captioned “squadFull Post

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May 4, 2016
3 Reasons Every Christian Girl Needs a Sisterhood

“We have a surprise for you!” our parents said with excitement. I, along with my six siblings, slowly filed into the kitchen, rubbing the sleep away from our eyes. I was a teenager at this point and not excited about “early morning” surprises. At this point in time my siblings consisted of 3 boys and 4 girls. “Well…” my mom said with a smile, taking a quick glance at my dad. “We have a little surprise for you!” My early morning brain tried to guess what it was. A vacation? A french toast for breakfast? Nope. Not a clue. “Well…” our mom continued. “In seven months, you’re going toFull Post

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May 2, 2016
Is It Okay to Date a Guy Who Isn’t a Virgin?

I’ll never forget the day I found out the guy I was in a relationship with was not a virgin. I felt like I’d been punched in the gut. I was so in love with him and never fathomed this would be a part of our future together. After I heard the news, I needed time to process it. I needed time to pray. I needed to search my heart and figure out if this was something I was willing to accept. After a lot of prayer and discussion, I came to the conclusion that I was willing and able to move forward in the relationship. Here are aFull Post

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April 29, 2016
Are you Falling Prey to the Big Bad Checklist?

I have a confession…and I’ll just be real here. I used to obsess over the fact that I had cellulite on my rear. Yeah. Even after I learned that 90% of women had cellulite, it didn’t matter. I wanted to have a perfectly flawless backside. No matter how much I worked out, certain areas of my body never seemed to get the memo. I don’t know why I cared so much either. This was pre-marriage, so that area of my body never saw the light of day. As I got older, I realized that my obsession with wanting to have a “perfect” rear was a result of something sneakyFull Post

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April 27, 2016
What a Single Guy Taught Me About Marriage

The other day I was hanging out with a group of solid Christian friends. We were chatting about life, catching up, and just having a great time. During our time out together, we had some great conversations about dating, romance, courtship and singleness. We went around in a circle and shared our thoughts on those topics. We answered questions like…Would we date? Court? How are we currently preparing for marriage? Etc. One of the single guys shared something that I found really encouraging and inspiring. I thought I would share it with you gals to encourage you and challenge you as well. In a condensed version, here’s what he said:Full Post

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April 25, 2016
Christian Girl’s Guide to Plan, Host, and Lead an Awesome Bible Study

“I’ve alway wanted to host a Bible study…but I’m just not sure how to do it!” “I really feel like God is prompting me to host a summer study…but I’m not sure I have the leadership skills to do it!” “Several of my friends have asked me to start a Bible study…but I don’t know what to do!” These are statements I’ve heard from a lot of girls over the years. Maybe you’ve said something similar. They have the heart and passion for leading a Bible study, but they just don’t know where to start or how to make it happen. If you have a desire to lead aFull Post

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April 22, 2016
5 Reasons You Should Lead a Summer Bible Study

I didn’t want to do it. My summer was busy. I was tired. I didn’t want to plan and lead a summer Bible study. I just wanted to enjoy my summer and focus on hanging with friends and having a good time. God had a different plan.  One evening, out of the blue, a mom of a sixteen year old girl texted me. She said that her and her daughter had been searching for a summer Bible study and couldn’t find anything. She said her daughter really wanted to do one but was having no success. She then went on to ask me if I would lead one forFull Post

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April 20, 2016
What Gorgeous Hair, Perfect Legs, and Long Eyelashes Can’t Get You

We’ve all seen those girls. The “perfect” ones. They have it all going for them. Perfect hair, flawless legs, long eyelashes, and a skinny waist. They seem to have it all. Right? Without even realizing it, we compare ourselves to them and instantly feel ugly. We instantly feel dissatisfied and ungrateful for our bodies. I know exactly how this game works because I’ve played it many times myself. You want to know what’s really crazy about this though? As we look at these “perfect girls” and compare ourselves to them, guess what? They’re doing the exact same thing about their bodies too. It’s hard to believe, but it’s true.Full Post

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April 17, 2016
3 Qualities a Guy Must Have Before You Marry Him

Have you ever wondered why some guys “stand-out” as solid Christian men? On the flip side, have you ever wondered why other guys behave as wimps, displaying immature and jerk-like attitudes? I’m a guy. Yes, I’ve seen both. Yes, I’ve experienced the immature behavior myself. Yes, young solid Christian guy leaders do still exist. And yes, they can be hard to spot at times. Understanding Christian guy leadership has burdened me deeply. Christian guy leaders are desperately needed. They’re needed for the church. They’re needed for young godly Christian single girls. They’re needed to raise families. But, most importantly, they’re needed for the Gospel, for Christ’s sake. As aFull Post

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April 15, 2016
10 Signs He’s Not the One for You

Most of you know that I’m married to an amazing guy named Zack. Throughout the course of our 10 month courtship, it became really clear that he was the man for me. There were specific signs I was looking for in his character, actions, words, worldview, and spiritual genuineness that helped me (and my family) determine whether he was “the one” or not. Obviously, Zack did turn out to be the one. All in, Zack had numerous signs of being a godly, mature, and faithful guy. However, not every guy that came into my life prior to Zack passed the test. In fact, there were some guys that hadFull Post

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April 13, 2016
Future Wife and Mom You Only Have 24hrs

Anna is your typical college age, happy-go-lucky, Christian girl. She’s on fire for God and is very outspoken on her college campus. The guys on campus know she isn’t interested in “messing around” and her professors are all aware of her strong faith in God. Anna takes her life as a Christian seriously and truly desires to live out biblical womanhood. She’s read the books, studied the Bible and has attended numerous conferences that champion God’s awesome design for women. She’s gung-ho-on-board with passages like Titus 2, Proverbs 31 and Ephesians 5. She’s even studied the topics of feminism, biblical submission in marriage and God-defined gender roles. This girlFull Post

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April 11, 2016
Why Modern Girls Should Embrace the Lost Art of Homemaking

Every time I walked into this particular house, I instantly felt swallowed alive by the chaos and mess. Dirty dishes all over the kitchen, laundry piled on the furniture, toys all over the floor, and the TV blaring. This home had no semblance of order, cleanliness or peace. It was chaos. Every time I visited my friend’s home, I left feeling more chaotic and unsettled than when I arrived (and btw, to all of my current friends who may read this, this is not your house. This happened many years ago. *wink*). In our upcoming book, I refer to this problem as the drive-thru kitchen and hotel bedroom lifestyle.Full Post

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April 8, 2016
How My Beauty Ruined My Sense of Worth

I woke up, looked in the mirror, and immediately disliked what I was seeing. During the night my face decided to turn into a broken out mess. Ugh! I was not a hampy camper. I washed, scrubbed and did my best to get rid of this ugly mess. Although my skin is far from perfect, I try my best to keep it clean and fresh. I use natural products, drink tons of water and avoid a lot of sugar on a regular basis. Despite my best efforts, it has a mind of its own. I’m sure many of you girls can relate to me on this one. I wishFull Post

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April 6, 2016
How My Selfishness in Marriage Ruined My Satisfaction

My husband and I recently celebrated two years of marriage. Yes, that’s not a long time compared to some, however God has taught me a lot. Let me just say this upfront – life doesn’t get easier when you get married. I’m sorry single friends…life doesn’t magically get easier with a man by your side (even if he’s amazing). After marriage, I realized how truly selfish and sinful I can be. I used to think it was extremely odd when I heard about people divorcing after two years. Then I got married and realized how selfishness can easily lead down a devastating road. As I allowed “my personal rights”Full Post

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April 4, 2016
Girls With Conviction Live With Passion

Mrs. Jenson walked me into the training room and explained what the next few weeks of my volunteer work would look like. This was the very first time I had volunteered at a pro-life center and I was super excited…and super nervous. I am passionate about life and was excited about the opportunity to help save babies from abortion. Little did I know just how deep my conviction against abortion and my passion for life was about to become. As Mrs. Jenson left the room she clicked play on one of their training videos. It was a video that went step-by-step through the process of abortion and what procedureFull Post

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April 1, 2016
Why Premarital Seduction Always Backfires

She was a missionary’s daughter. He was a missionary’s son. They noticed each other for the first time while serving on the mission field with their families in a remote village. They were both raised in families that loved the gospel. They were both raised in families that loved marriage. As the months stretched on, the missionary’s son decided to pursue this pretty brown-eyed girl. Things took off and both families were excited about the possibility of joining together in marriage. The relationship looked picture perfect from the outside. This couple appeared to be honoring God in their interactions with one another. They appeared to be pure and holyFull Post

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March 29, 2016
How to Find True Joy and Contentment as a Single Girl (Video)

WATCH VIDEO HERE I get it girls. I understand the fear, worry, discontentment and discouragement that can often times accompany our “single status.” I admit that I don’t have this whole “contentment” thing down pat. There are moments where I definitely struggle. I struggle to trust. I struggle to remain joyful. I struggle keep my eyes focused on the One who has the plan. Despite the fact that my desire to get married is currently unfulfilled, I’ve found something that has radically transformed my life. I’ve realized that true joy and contentment isn’t reserved for the super godly or hyper spiritual. True joy and contentment is available for eachFull Post

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March 28, 2016
How Modesty, Romance, and Femininity Relate to the Gospel

“Instead of wasting time on topics like modesty and romance…why don’t you keep the focus on the gospel? Your Christian blog should be all about loving Jesus.” Several girls have written that type of email to us here at GirlDefined Ministries asking why we waste time writing about “secondary” issues rather than keeping the focus on the gospel. They’ve expressed disappointment that we take time to write about “minor” issues like modesty, romance, and femininity. I think it’s time to answer their questions. Why do we take time to write about topics like modesty, romance and femininity? I mean, as Christian girls, shouldn’t we just focus on loving JesusFull Post

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March 25, 2016
The Day My Dreams Became a Reality

I’ll never forget the day that my lifelong dream, to become an official published author, became a glimmer of hope in my future. It was just a regular day with absolutely nothing special about it. Kristen and I were together, working on ministry projects and doing our usual work routine, when the email dropped in our inbox. The email that would change the course of our lives. Before I share the story with you, I want you to put yourself in our shoes for just a minute. Imagine that you’ve been dreaming, praying and hoping for the opportunity to became a published author. The more you research the lessFull Post

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March 23, 2016
Official Girl Defined Book Trailer is Here!

WATCH VIDEO HERE. Drumroll please!! We have been waiting for this day for months. We have been praying for this day for years. God has done the miraculous and we are so excited to announce and release this video for you today! Since you’re a special part of the GirlDefined team, we wanted you (our awesome subscribers) to see this video first. Then – after you watch it – we want to personally invite you to join us on an amazing journey! If you’ve ever asked yourself any of these questions, this journey is for you: Am I valuable? Am I beautiful? What’s my purpose as a woman? HowFull Post

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March 21, 2016
Standing Strong In and Through College

Going off to college is probably one of the most trying and difficult times in a young woman’s life. The challenges, pressures, temptations and lack of experience more often than not end up taking Christian girls down. Sadly, Christian girls aren’t coming out stronger (in a biblical sense) but weakened and further away from Christ. I guess that’s why one of the GirlDefined readers e-mailed us asking us to write on this very topic. “How do I keep my faith at school because I know how challenging it will be. Please do a blog about this.” She’s right. It will be challenging…but not impossible. I love that we areFull Post

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March 18, 2016
7 Reasons I’m Not a Feminist

With a bold title like this, some of you probably clapped your hands and cheered, while others of you raised one eyebrow in utter shock and confusion (and some of you just clicked off in disgust). How do I know this? Because I’ve read heartfelt emails from all three camps when it comes to this topic.   Here at GirlDefined, we’ve received dozens of emails cheering us on for taking a stand against feminism, but we’ve also received a handful of heartfelt emails genuinely wondering why we, as WOMEN, would ever be against feminism. Of course, we’ve also received some hate mail. In an attempt to clarify exactly whereFull Post

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March 15, 2016
Red Flags To Look For In a Romantic Relationship

The red flags were there, but I ignored them. I didn’t want to believe that my hours, upon hours, upon hours, of invested time would come to an end. Instead of facing the facts and acknowledging the “red flags” in my relationship, I ignored them. Why did I ignore them? For similar reasons many of you do (or have done) as well. I didn’t want to have to face the truth. I didn’t want to be honest with myself. I didn’t want to think about my future without him. I didn’t want to imagine being single. I didn’t want to face starting over. I didn’t want to deal withFull Post

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March 14, 2016
God’s Truth Helped Me Overcome Suicidal Thoughts

Three months ago I almost took my life. I didn’t like anything about my life. I felt the best thing to do would be to leave. Thankfully, by God’s grace, some friends spoke biblical truth to me, and I am still here today. My life, just like everybody else’s, is hard. I find myself wanting things to go my way and I don’t care if anyone gets hurt in the process. I’ve lost friend after friend and have cut myself just to deal with the pain. No matter what I did, nothing would get rid of the pain. I kept trying to find something to distract myself. I’d runFull Post

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March 10, 2016
How to Overcome Feelings and Live by Truth

A few years ago I had a conversation that I will never forget. It’s stuck in my brain and refuses to leave! Somehow, an acquaintance and I got on the topic of God, the Bible, and personal devotions. He explained to me his idea of being obsessed with Jesus. He told me that he likes to stay on spiritual highs in order to keep up his excitement for God and the Bible. He said that he likes to attend as many conferences as possible, listen to upbeat Christian music, and do things that get his emotions charged. Although I believe his intentions were good, I think his plan wasFull Post

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March 9, 2016
4 Reasons You Should Let Him Open Your Door

I married an amazing gentleman who has never failed to be chivalrous in our marriage. Even before Zack and I got married, he always did one little thing that I absolutely adore. He always opened the door. Not just restaurant doors and house doors. He opened (and still does) my car door too. Every time I get in or out of the car, he opens my door for me – regardless of who is driving. Does he need to open my door? No. Am I perfectly capable of opening my own door? Yes. But this little act of chivalry has taught me huge lessons about our God-defined roles asFull Post

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March 7, 2016
Start Preparing For Your Future Marriage

Let’s say that you’re at a time in your life where you could be in a relationship that leads to marriage. What are you doing to prepare for that role? It is an important stage in your life and you will probably (with God’s hand) be married for the rest of your life. But if we are headed for such a huge blessing and responsibility, then what are we to do to prepare for that? What knowledge should we pursue? What tips should we acquire? When I was younger my parents taught me that marriage was a big deal. It’s not just your wedding day that marks a significantFull Post

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March 4, 2016
Why You Should Totally Trust God with Your Future

“It’s just so hard to trust God with my future when I have no idea what’s going to happen,” she said in a discouraged tone. “I mean…I want to trust God, but it’s just really hard for me. What if I never get married?” I listened as my friend shared her heart with me. She was single and really struggling to trust God with her love life. She was in her late twenties and was wondering if marriage would ever become a reality. Trusting God with our future can be one of the hardest things to do. There’s so much uncertainty in the unknown. “What if I never getFull Post

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March 1, 2016
6 Girls You Definitely Don’t Want to Be

Alright, girls. It’s your turn. The guys just recently received a “write up” on my blog 6 Guys You Definitely Don’t Want to Marry. It’s only fair to turn the tables and hold ourselves to the same standard. If we as girls want to marry godly guys, or simply hope for guys to live up to a certain standard, we should expect the same character in our own lives. Don’t drift into your future and expect Christ-like character to just flow from your life. Becoming a God-defined woman takes serious focus and intentional effort. If you are not intentional about becoming a woman defined by the Word, you willFull Post

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February 29, 2016
The Dangerous Habit of Shopping for Guys

When I was in college I went shopping with some of my best friends every Thursday night. Like you might imagine I was evaluating the size, color, and qualities. The crazy thing is, I never purchased a single thing. In fact, I wasn’t even shopping for clothes, shoes, or accessories. I was shopping for guys. Every Thursday night was my college small group. If there were new guys visiting, I would check them out. If I liked what I saw, I would immediately view them as a “potential.” Over time, I began forming a long list of “options” as I continued to evaluate and shop.   I tried theseFull Post

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February 25, 2016
How to Nourish Your Soul on a Daily Basis

Last summer my older sister (and fellow GirlDefined blogger), Kristen, purchased beautiful flowers to hang in baskets in front of her house. The flowers were vibrant colors and really added a beautiful touch. As the weeks went by when I looked at the flowers, I noticed their color was fading. The leaves withered and the petals looked sickly. I pointed the problem out to Kristen and she said, “Uh, I know. I keep forgetting to water them.” A few weeks later the flowers officially died. (R.I.P pretty petals.) It seems the water never quite made it to their baskets. The next time time I saw Kristen, she half-jokingly said,Full Post

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February 24, 2016
How to Study Your Bible and Love it!

I’ve had so many Christian girls ask me this simple question, “How do I study my Bible?!” They’re not wanting to know how to read their Bible, they’re wanting to know how to dig in and study it. And they’re wondering if there’s a way to do it and LOVE it. The answer is YES! You can learn how to study your Bible and absolutely love it in the process! I’m going to teach you how to do that right now. But first, this question; why would a Christian girl need to “study” her Bible? Why does this even matter? Well, if you want to know what’s true, knowFull Post

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February 21, 2016
5 Ways to Become an Outward Focused Girl

When you hear the words “innie” and “outie,” what comes to mind? I think of belly buttons! I know what you must be thinking: Why in the world is she talking about belly buttons? That’s so awkward! I promise I’m not belly button obsessed, but they make for a perfect illustration. I hope that from this day forward a belly button will never be “just a belly button,” but a reminder of the kind of girl you desire to be. Two Kinds of Belly Buttons and Two Kinds of Girls In this world there are two kinds of belly buttons: innies and outies. One points inward and one pointsFull Post

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February 19, 2016
Why I Didn’t Fall in Love with My Husband

I still remember the moment I laid eyes on him. He was sitting 8 rows in front of me. His strong arms, wavy brown hair, and tall physique caught my attention immediately. I didn’t know who he was or where he came from, but my stomach was churning with butterflies. He was good looking, tall, and attending the same Christian conference I was attending. He had to be a great Christian guy (right??)! We finally met the during the last night of the conference, right after the closing ceremonies. My heart almost leaped out of my chest when I found how close we lived to one another, and howFull Post

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February 17, 2016
Chasing After Something Greater Than Guys

I spotted my target. He was tall, lanky, and had a head full of bushy brown hair. I convinced my sixteen-year-old self that he was drop-dead gorgeous (in a manly sort of way, of course). There was a major problem, though. My best friend thought he was gorgeous, too. Uh-oh. Girl fight! Besties crushing on the same guy is never a good thing. After talking about our crush, my friend and I decided to have a competition. Neither of us had actually met this guy—we’d only stared and admired—and we wanted to change that. We decided that whoever had the most guts to meet him and get to knowFull Post

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February 15, 2016
3 Ways Porn Wrecks a Girl’s View of Herself

If a female porn star showed up at Disney World, would you know who she was? Hopefully not…but sadly, that’s not the case for a lot of young women today. I read a story a while back about a family who took their daughters to Disney World for a vacation. As they made their way through the park, they noticed a long line of people waiting in front of a booth. There were a lot of couples, families, and groups of teenage girls in line, so this family walked up and asked someone what was going on. It turned out everyone was waiting in line to see some famous actress, butFull Post

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February 12, 2016
A Single Guy’s Perspective on Valentine’s Day

With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, I wanted to know how a Christian single guy handles this holiday. Is he sad? Depressed? Happy? Mad? I wanted the inside scoop! Thankfully, I was able to squeeze in a quick interview with a guy friend of mine. I came up with a few questions, sent them his way, and this is what he had to say. Be prepared to be encouraged and challenged all at the same time. Q: How do you handle Valentine’s Day? A: Sometimes Valentine’s Day stinks. On the day when it seems like every other person I know has that “special someone” in their life, there I sit,Full Post

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February 10, 2016
5 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married

The first six months of my marriage were some of the most eye opening months of my life. Up until that point I thought being a wife and a help-mate was easy business. I felt fully prepared for my role as a wife. Major delusion. After six months of marriage I realized how utterly unprepared I was in certain areas. To be honest, there were five things I wish I had known before I got married. If you’re a single girl and are hoping to get married some day, this advice is for you. 1. Your Relationship with God is the KEY to Being a Happy Wife. I hadFull Post

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February 8, 2016
What a Hat Taught Me About ‘Cute’ (Free Book Giveaway)

I saved up my allowance (yes, I still get one) all summer in anticipation of the end-of-year clearance sale at one of my favorite online retailers. As autumn’s first chill threatened to ditch summer like a Hollywood fling, I filled my cart with all those cute lil’ summery clothes I had been eyeing since spring. Including the hat. Not just any hat, my sisters. This black trucker hat with giant, silver “SURF” lettering was the epitome of cool. The model who had worn it in the spring catalog—with her caramel skin and salt-tousled hair—confirmed it was the cutest hat EVER created. Surely all the girls in sunny Costa RicanFull Post

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February 5, 2016
Why it’s Good to Be Closed Minded Sometimes

We live in a culture that is all about open-mindedness. Whatever sounds good goes. Whatever Hollywood throws out there is quickly accepted. Whatever Nashville produces is quickly embraced. The definition for being open-minded literally means: “willing to consider new ideas.” That’s sounds pretty good, right? Who doesn’t want to “consider new ideas?” I mean, think of all the progress our country has made in 200 years due, in large part, to considering and adopting new ideas. A lot of good can come from being open-minded. I’m all for considering “new ideas.” So here’s my question for you. Is it ever okay to be close-minded about something? Is it everFull Post

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February 3, 2016
Who Will Raise Your Babies: Daycare or Mommy?

I’ll never forget this day. I was a teenage girl, fresh new driver, and I had just pulled into the school parking lot to pick up some kiddos I was babysitting. After parking my car I noticed that the alarms at the school were going off and the teachers were bringing all of the kids into the parking lot. The teachers quickly informed all of the onlooking parents that this was a mandatory practice fire drill and there was no need to be concerned. I stood in the parking lot and waited for the teachers to get all of the kids through the gates. What I didn’t realize wasFull Post

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February 1, 2016
Always Pursue Your King Before Your Prince

I went through one of the hardest trials in my life when I was twenty years old. I was one week away from being engaged when everything suddenly ended. I never saw the ring and my “almost” husband exited my life forever. Thankfully, God was sparing me from entering into a marriage that would have been less-than-ideal (and a few years later I married Zack! Hallelujah!). The full story is too long to share right now, but I remember feeling a distinct void in my life right after that heart-wrenching breakup. Instead of turning wholeheartedly to God to fill my void, I sought attention from other guys. There wasFull Post

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January 28, 2016
How to Drastically Change One Girl’s Life

Forty years ago a high school girl did something courageous that would forever change my life. Let me rewind and take you back to that moment. My mom, Heidi, was a high school girl who wanted nothing to do with God. She was an outgoing, tall, blonde, wild, party-going girl, who was living life to the “fullest.” She had a very clear reputation in her school, and everyone knew that “Christianity” and “Heidi” did not mix. That didn’t stop Sheila. Attending my mom’s high school was a courageous girl named Sheila. Sheila was a Christian, actively involved in her church’s youth program. She took her faith seriously and viewedFull Post

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January 27, 2016
5 Easy Ways to Read Your Bible This Week

I sat down to read my Bible one morning and just stared at the cover with a glazed look. Where do I even start? What do I even read?! This book is HUGE! How in the world do I “study” it? If you’ve ever had a moment like mine, this post is for you. I’ll be totally honest. I’ve gone through seasons of my life where I wasn’t sure what to read in my Bible, or even how to read it. I’ve gone through seasons of feeling totally disinterested in God’s Word all together. As I’ve looked back on my Bible reading habits over the years, my “low” momentsFull Post

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January 24, 2016
8 Strategies to Help You Fight for Purity

Let’s be real. Maintaining purity in our modern culture is not an easy thing to do. Unless we as Christian girls are vigilant in fighting for purity from the inside out, we will fail. We will give into temptation. We will succumb to our sinful hearts. We (me included) desperately need Jesus and we desperately need His strength to help us focus on truth and resist temptation. I soooo want to fight for purity and I pray each and every one of you do as well. My hope and prayer is that this blog post will challenge, encourage, and give you the tools you need to continue your fightFull Post

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January 22, 2016
When Girls Unknowingly Tempt Guys Toward Lust

I was standing in line at my local grocery store when an obnoxious magazine caught my eye. I’m used to seeing half-naked women on the cover of tabloids, but this image seemed even too edgy for a tabloid. A small wave of anger rushed over me as I thought of the innocent children and husbands who were being exposed to this – as I call it – “tabloid porn.” As I tried to refocus my thinking on something more positive, a middle aged couple got in line behind me. I watched in curiosity as the wife reached over and selected that magazine off the rack. I watched even moreFull Post

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January 19, 2016
Are You a Rule Follower or a Christ Follower?

Have you ever seen a mamma duck with her babies following in a neat little line behind her? It’s an adorable sight. As a kid, I loved going to the pond to watch the cute little ducklings waddle behind their mommies. Mommy duck jumps in the water. Baby ducks jump in the water. Mommy duck sits down for a nap. Baby ducks sit down for a nap. Mommy duck stands up and starts walking. Baby ducks start walking. These little ducklings have their eyes on their mommy and they copy her every move. When ducks behave this way, it’s totally adorable. When grown adults act this way, it’s seriouslyFull Post

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January 18, 2016
7 Major Benefits of Saving Sex for Marriage – Part 2

I am sharing 7 major benefits of saving sex for marriage. This is the 2nd half of a two part series, so if you didn’t catch the first post, check it out here. You don’t want to miss it! 4. You Set Yourself Apart as Being Highly Valuable Girl, God says you are highly valuable to Him. He created you in His image and you carry immense worth and purpose because of Christ (Eph. 4:2-9). You are worth so much more than a cheap guy who isn’t patient enough to control his sexual passions. When you choose to save the gift of sex for marriage, you tell every guyFull Post

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January 15, 2016
7 Major Benefits of Saving Sex for Marriage – Part 1

I didn’t have sex until I got married. Zip. Zilch. Nada. According to our modern culture, I am nothing more than an ignorant, non-liberated, trapped female, stuck in the age of patriarchy. I didn’t express my sexual “freedom” like I should. I didn’t take advantage of the feminist’s offer to access free birth control as a teen. I didn’t follow my heart and do whatever felt right. Instead, I rebelled. I rebelled against our culture’s expectations for sex and the single girl, and instead, chased after something better. Saving sex for marriage is now considered “so 1800’s.” It’s a thing of the past. It’s for lame girls who can’tFull Post

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January 12, 2016
6 Guys You Definitely Don’t Want to Marry

I’ll never forget the days of being an innocent teen girl who viewed the world through rose colored glasses. I assumed the best of most everyone and figured a guy who claimed to be a Christian, had good manners, and was interested in me, must be a solid catch. And then I grew up. Reality hit. My eyes were opened. I learned very quickly that there are some solid Christian guys who would make for great husbands, and some who would not. I realized through personal experience (and observation of other relationships) that there are 6 types of guys I would never consider marrying (unless he had some seriousFull Post

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January 11, 2016
The Suffering Single

“Will he ever come along?” “Will she ever show up?” These are common questions young singles ask when no relationship materializes – or at least none that resulted in marriage. Why does a loving God allow us to experience this loneliness? Why do we have this longing for a relationship at all? Deep down, we all have a desire to love and to be loved.   Make no mistake; these are God given desires. There are two great commandments: love the Lord your God, and love your neighbor as yourself (Luke 10:27). As great as they are, there is no way for us to keep them in and of ourselves.Full Post

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January 7, 2016
Hot Christian Girls Desperately Needed

I can almost hear you thinking, “she can’t really mean what the title of this blog says. There’s gotta be something else to this.” You are right. There is something else to this blog. Although this blog is about being a “hot girl” it’s not the kind of hot you typically associate with that word. Let me explain. The other day I was brainstorming in my prime brainstorming spot…the bathtub. For some reason I come up with my best ideas in there. Out of nowhere this verse came to mind and my brain went crazy, “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish youFull Post

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January 6, 2016
Don’t Let Your Journal Turn Into a Soap Opera Drama

I love journaling. In fact, I started journaling when I was 12 years old and didn’t miss a single day until I got married. That means I journaled for 12 years straight – every single day. I journaled everything and anything. I wrote about my most intimate thoughts, to what I did that day, to who my latest crush was. Shortly after I married Zack, I thought it would be fun to look back through my journals with him and read all of the entries that he was mentioned in. I traced it back to the year 2006, when I first met him as a teenage girl. Reading thoseFull Post

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January 3, 2016
6 Resolutions For A Better Single Life This Year

Over the past couple of weeks I’ve seen several trending blog posts pop up on my social media feed with titles like, “10 Ways to Make Your Marriage Thrive This Year.” Or “4 Steps to Become a Better Wife This Year.” I see those blogs posts and I love them. I love that married men and women are working on their marriages and striving to make this year better than the last. To be totally honest, I’ve even read some of these blogs and they’re really good! They’ve given me some great things to work on and goals to shoot for (even as a single). Just yesterday I sawFull Post

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January 1, 2016
Top 5 Most Popular and Shared Posts from 2015

Whether you’ve been reading the GirlDefined blog for a while or you’re new to our website, we are SO excited to enter this brand new year with you. God is so good and He’s done amazing things in your lives (as we’ve learned from the many emails you all have sent us), and we praise Him for that! Some of you have shared how God used the GirlDefined blog posts to help you overcome the darkest of sins, relationship struggles, guy complications, unfulfilled longings, growing in your walk with God, and much, much more. For that, we raise a glass of sparkling grape juice and joyously say, “Amen! GodFull Post

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December 29, 2015
Smart Girls Set Goals and Work Hard

Growing up I was obsessed with basketball. I practiced for hours upon end and worked hard to improve my skills. I attended camps, worked on the fundamentals, watched recordings of my games and talked strategy late into the night. The hard work totally paid off because my team was one of the best in the country and I was offered a full ride to college (which I didn’t end of taking). Looking back on my basketball days I’ve discovered an extremely important lesson. Setting goals and working hard really pays off. Carrying That Lesson Into Your Womanhood If I could have one wish for you this year, it wouldFull Post

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December 28, 2015
You Only Need One Man to be Truly Satisfied

I feel so empty some days. Like part of my life or half of my heart is missing. Like I’m a puzzle waiting for that last piece to be put in its rightful spot so the masterpiece can be finished. I know my problem. I have a God-sized hole in my heart but I’ve been trying to fill that hole with a marriage-sized cork or a man-sized puzzle piece.   Neither of these were meant to fill the hole so they aren’t going to fill the emptiness. I have learned that only one man is able to truly fulfill me. Only one man has the ability to fully satisfyFull Post

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December 25, 2015
Merry Christmas: A Personal Letter From GirlDefined

Hey Girls, Wow! I can’t believe this year is coming to an end. So much has happened in the GirlDefined ministry and I’m dying to share it with you. The biggest (and most incredible) surprise of this past year started with a phone call. “Bethany, you aren’t going to believe this. We just got an email from a publishing company and they’re interested in publishing us. This is what we’ve been praying for! You’ve got to come over asap and help me write an email back to them!” When Kristen called and shared the news with me, I was floored. The two of us had been praying about publishingFull Post

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December 23, 2015
What a Scandalous Teenage Pregnancy Taught Me About God

She was the good girl. Everybody knew it. She had a great reputation with her family and friends. She was respected and held up as a great example for younger girls to look up to. Then, the unimaginable happened. After visiting some relatives in a far away city, she arrived back home with some unexpected news. Some shocking news. She was pregnant. Just imagine the rumors and gossip that spread like wildfire across her town. “SHE is pregnant?!” “How could SHE, the purest girl of all, get pregnant?!” “Who’s the father…?” “Why would SHE do this?!” Shock. Scandal. Sin. I’m sure those were the feelings and thoughts that many ofFull Post

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December 21, 2015
The End Goal For a Single Gal Shouldn’t Be Marriage

Like most girls, I have dreamed of the day I will unite in covenant marriage with the man God has for me. Since my mid-teens, I have eagerly anticipated the beautiful sanctification that comes through marriage. The unconditional love. Submission. Dying to self for the sake of one another. Examples that are a testimony and a light to the world. A reflection of the light of Christ in the reflection of holy union. But what about now? When I’m still single? The waiting can be frustrating. I often get so caught up in the desire to glorify God through marriage that I forget that marriage is not the endFull Post

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December 18, 2015
12 Wishes for Having the Best Christmas Ever

I don’t know about you, but the Christmas season has a way of bringing out my best and worst. In the midst of a joyous party with family, I have found myself thinking self-centered thoughts. Rather than focusing on the true Reason for the season…I subtly begin to view myself as the reason for the season. Everything is about my happiness and joy, right? Wrong. While wish lists, Christmas parties, and traditions are all fine and fun, I am realizing this year (more than ever before) that my heart needs a focus shift. My “wish list” needs a makeover. Instead of focusing on my desires and my wishes andFull Post

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December 15, 2015
The Secret to Achieving Diamond Status

I woke up early with a skip in my step and a smile on my face. I had plans to head to the airport to attend a Biblical Counseling conference with my mom and sisters. I’d been eagerly anticipating it all summer long. We arrived at the airport, breezed through security, and found our seats on the plane with no delays. The next few days flew by in a blur as I listened to speaker after speaker share on topics that I’m passionate about. My hand scrambled back and forth as I tried to take as many notes as possible. The conference was even better than I expected it.Full Post

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December 14, 2015
7 Habits of a Brave, Strong, and Courageous Girl

She’s strong. She’s brave. And she definitely has courage. She has everything our modern culture praises. There’s only one problem. She is playing for the wrong team. As a self-proclaimed atheist and radical feminist, she is aggressively fighting for the “rights” of the abortion industry. She loves abortion and is on the cutting edge of advancing this evil movement forward. She is pushing for things that even seem radical to many pro-abortionists. But they like her fire. They like her zeal. They like her passion. She’s a strong, brave, and courageous woman by our culture’s standards…but sadly, she’s spending her time fighting for the very things that God opposes.Full Post

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December 10, 2015
What to do When You’re Not Getting a Kiss Under the Mistletoe

The cold weather. The beautiful lights. The white snow. The music. The traditions. The feelings of warmth and love. The gifts. The Christmas season. I don’t know about you, but when the Christmas season rolls around, I get in a sentimental, sweet, and special sort of mood. I soak up my time spent with friends and family and treasure every special tradition we celebrate during the December month. One of my favorite parts of the Christmas season is…wait for it…the Christmas music. I absolutely L-O-V-E Christmas music. I admit, I’m guilty. I break all the rules. I started listening to Christmas music before Thanksgiving this year. I just can’tFull Post

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December 9, 2015
How Would You Respond if Your Wedding Got Canceled?

“With a sorrowful heart and deep pain, I must announce that my wedding has been canceled.” Those were the shocking words I read on my soon-to-be-married friend’s Facebook status. What was going on?! I went to her wedding shower less than a week before I read this post…and her actual wedding day was scheduled to take place in three weeks! How could this be possible? Was this a joke? I immediately pulled out my phone and contacted this girl friend of mine. She informed me that the message was true and that her fiance had called of the wedding and the engagement. Everything was over. Her heart was filledFull Post

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December 6, 2015
What’s A Girl To Do With Male Attention?

There it was again. That special look from a guy in my class who was a sandy-haired, blue-eyed walking Gap ad. This time, I hadn’t been mistaken—it was clear that he thought I was cute. The reality of that thought spread a foolish smirk across my face, and I felt my brain suddenly turn into a bowl of pudding. During that semester, his admiration was consistently obvious but not aggressive. I enjoyed the attention and began to look forward to receiving that lovely sense of affirmation every time I saw him.   Does this scenario sound familiar? As Christian women, how on earth should we react when we receiveFull Post

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December 4, 2015
How to Handle Your Sexual Desires as a Single Girl

I may be married now, but I was single for 24 years and I know exactly what it’s like to have unfulfilled sexual desires. In fact, I have a really embarrassing story to confess to you. When I was a young teenager, I thought it would be a good idea to “practice” kissing before I met my husband. So…I “practiced” by smooching a designated kissing spot on my wall inside my closet. Since I wasn’t going to kiss a real guy until marriage, I thought a little practice wouldn’t hurt. Yeah…awkward. I know. Not to mention it didn’t really help. I share that embarrassing story with you to showFull Post

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December 2, 2015
Writing Letters to Your Future Husband

On October 1st, 2004, I sat down on my bedroom floor, grabbed a piece of plain paper, and penned my very first letter to my future husband. Since that day, I’ve written dozens of letters to this future unknown man. These letters contain prayers, dreams, thoughts, encouragement, Bible verses and so much more. My hope is that one day (if the Lord wills) I’ll be able to gift these to him as a reminder of my prayers for him and faithfulness to the Lord even before I knew who he was. These letters are (and continue to be) a huge reminder to me that my future husband is aFull Post

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November 30, 2015
The Quickest Way to Become an Unattractive Girl

Have you ever met someone and thought they were really attractive at first glance, but the more you got to know them the less attractive they appeared? What happened? Their physical looks didn’t change…what changed was the “revealing” of their true character. The more you got to know them, the more their true self shined through and the less attractive they appeared. Our culture trains us to believe that outward beauty is the only beauty worth chasing after. Yet,  how ironic that a highly attractive person can suddenly become “ugly” in our eyes if they’re mean, rude, angry, and self-focused. Who would you rather spend the rest of yourFull Post

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November 26, 2015
7 Letters That Will Dramatically Change Your Life

The past few months of my life feel like they’ve been filled with a certain 7 letter word. This word flies in the face of my natural heart’s desire and is the opposite of everything the culture promotes. This word has challenged me, convicted me, encouraged me and given me incredible hope. When I focus on living this word out, I have such incredible rest, contentment and joy in my heart. I want to share this word with you in hopes that you can find the same hope, conviction, contentment and joy that I’ve found by *attempting* to live it out. The word is WORSHIP. The word worship holdsFull Post

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November 25, 2015
20 Amazing Reasons to be Grateful Today

Life on earth is a far cry from perfect and it can feel overwhelmingly negative at times. In my own life, I’m tempted to focus on the things that go wrong more than the things that go right. I find myself zeroing in on the negative stuff until my sight turns into tunnel vision. I can’t see anything good anymore because I’m so zoomed in on the bad. Ever done that? Honestly, it’s a terrible way to live. It’s nothing but depressing! There’s no joy in tunnel vision, yet we all do it regularly. Since this is supposed to be the month for giving thanks I thought it wouldFull Post

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November 22, 2015
Discovering Your God-Given Purpose (Free Giveaway)

“Watch out for that cable.” “Don’t kick the stand.” These are whispered exclamations as we walk onto the dark stage, doing our best not to trip on each other. Finally, we’re in our positions. It’s dead quiet in front of us, and our audience is waiting. We’ve done this before but there is still a hint of anticipatory queasiness before a show. We each take a deep breath, smile… and suddenly lights blare in our face. That’s our cue, and we launch into our first song. Have you ever looked around and thought “how in the world did I get here – this is crazy awesome!”? I have. AndFull Post

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November 20, 2015
How to Know God in an Up Close and Personal Way

Raise your hand if you’ve ever heard a “Christiany” statement like this: “It’s all about having a personal relationship with God.” Or, “All you need is a little more God in your life.” Or, “Just spend more time with God and you’ll be fine.” I’ve heard all of those statements over the years and I’m guessing you have too. These statements sound helpful – and they are true to an extent – but honestly, they’re not really that helpful at all. Standalone statements like these always left me scratching my head wondering what that actually looks like in real life. As Christians, we know having a personal relationship withFull Post

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November 18, 2015
Single Girls: Look for a Guy With Vision, Passion, and Purpose

I was 19 years old when love and romance came knocking on my door. He was funny, I laughed. He was cute, I was smitten. He liked me, I liked him. He pursued me, I fell in love. And then…it ended. As quickly as it started. My tears covered my pillow for weeks on end. It took me a good six months to get to the point of feeling recovered. Even though I was totally heartbroken, God gave me the grace to come to grips with the situation. Looking back I still can’t believe I was only 19 years old when I started my first serious relationship. I knewFull Post

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November 16, 2015
Should a Christian Girl Date or Court a Guy Who Struggles With Porn?

Megan met Josh through a young adults group at her church and had been going out with him for several weeks. One evening while having coffee with Josh, he confessed to her that he currently struggles with pornography and is trying really hard to stop. Megan wasn’t sure how to process this shocking information and went home with a conflicted heart. She hated the thought of Josh viewing pornography, but didn’t know if it was a big enough deal to end the relationship. What would you do if you were Megan? How harmful is pornography to a developing relationship? Is it wise for a single girl to date or courtFull Post

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November 13, 2015
How to Get Over a Guy in a God Honoring Way

You notice the guy. He catches your eye. Your heart races. You start dreaming. The week goes by and you can’t keep him out of your mind. Without even trying, he’s “won” your heart. You’ve planned your wedding, you’ve planned your future. You even have three adorable kids. And then…the dreaded happens. You find out that your dream dude has a girlfriend. “Noooooooo” you cry. Your future is ruined. Your dreams are shattered. All of your dreaming and scheming has come to an end and you are left with a “broken heart.” Sound familiar? Maybe your story isn’t so much a figment of your imagination, but an actual reality.Full Post

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November 11, 2015
Mom For Rent: New Trend Proves the Value of Motherhood

What if you had to pay your mom $40 every time you spent time with her? That’d be crazy right? Well…not if you live in New York City. Apparently having a mom to talk to is worth a lot more than most of us realize. In fact, a lady named Nina decided to start a business based on that idea. Nina is in her 60’s, lives in NYC, and talks to a lot of young people who claim they don’t have good mother figures. Apparently they want an older, wiser woman to talk to, but don’t know who to turn to. So, Nina decided to become a professional mom.Full Post

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November 9, 2015
Step Back and Rethink the Selfie

I remember this day like it was yesterday. I was thirteen years old, loving life and desperately trying to build up the courage to “post” my selfie. I had just finished a full week at church camp and was hanging out in the sports court waiting for my parents to pick me up. I knew my parents were going to pull into the parking lot at any moment, so I had to act quick. With a knot in my stomach, and my eyes on the guy, I made my move. I walked up to Brandon, pulled out my personal wallet sized portrait, and handed it to him. He, beingFull Post

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November 6, 2015
20 Differences Between Guys and Girls

I heard a story recently about a single mom who was fiercely feminist and didn’t want her son being stereotyped. Stereotyped for what? Well…for being a man. She didn’t believe in gender differences so she did everything she could to zap his manliness. She encouraged him to play with dolls, wear dresses, and sit with his legs crossed. She never allowed him to play with toy guns or anything that appeared masculine. She thought she was doing a pretty good job of guarding him from any forms of gender stereotyping until one dreadful morning. While scrambling eggs for breakfast, she looked over, and to her shock, her four yearFull Post

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November 4, 2015
Strong Girls Desperately Needed to Stand up for Truth

The other day I was playing a game with a group of friends called “Would You Rather.” The game is absolutely hilarious and asks the most bizarre questions. One of the questions asked during the game got the whole group buzzing and discussing. The question asked, “would you rather have shockingly overdeveloped muscles, or, would you rather be extremely skinny and a total wimp?” Hilarious (and weird) question, I know! The group almost unanimously voted that they would rather have shockingly overdeveloped muscles. Comments flew around the room, “No one wants to be a wimp.” “There is nothing worse than being weak and wimpy.” “I can’t stand wimpy people.Full Post

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November 1, 2015
From a Bad Romance to Finally Finding True Love

Our world often portrays singleness as a condition of loneliness, doomed to the unfortunate. I struggled with this for years. At one point in my life, “singleness” clouded my true identity with thoughts like…“since I’m not in a relationship, something must be wrong with me.” I allowed my relationship status to determine my value and worth. We, as Christian girls, are constantly reminded through music, movies, tv shows, commercials holidays and even our friends that we are missing out. We consequently develop an unhealthy desire to be in a relationship because of what we see and what we hear. We begin to glorify a “relationship” as our ultimate goalFull Post

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October 30, 2015
5 Books That Will Radically Change Your Life (Free Book Giveaway)

When I was in 6th grade I entered my first, and last, archery competition. I was attending a church camp and each camper was allowed to enter one competition. Basketball. Volleyball. Horseshoes. Archery. BB gun. Why in the world I chose archery, I have no idea. But, I did, and it proved to be a very *very* important lesson that would stick with me for the rest of my life. The day before the competition, I had a friend explain the basics of how to aim and hit the bullseye. Whatever that person taught me must have worked because I ended up securing the first place trophy *let’s hearFull Post

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October 28, 2015
Should We Celebrate the Most Evil and Sexualized Holiday of the Year?

I’ve been inside a “haunted house” one time and I’ll never do it again. I was in high school on a church missions trip when the youth pastor decided to take our entire group to one of those Halloween scare houses. I wasn’t sure what to do, so I reluctantly joined the group on the tour. After all…everything was fake, right…how scary could it be? Let’s just say one of the girls in my group finished the tour in tears because of how awful and morbid it was. To this day, I’ll never know why the youth pastor took us there. What I do know is this: I’ll neverFull Post

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October 26, 2015
A Message to Tweens on Becoming a Godly Woman

A year and a half ago, I sat down at Starbucks with my 12 year old sister. Her big blue eyes stared back into mine as I shared my heart with her. I said, “Sue, just because you are growing up in a Christian family doesn’t mean you are immune to making sinful choices. Just because your older sisters run a Christian blog for girls doesn’t mean you are guaranteed to become a godly woman yourself. You have to put in the effort to grow in your relationship with Jesus and invest time to grow in your character. If you want to be a godly woman, you have toFull Post

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October 23, 2015
5 Tips for Avoiding a Happily Ever Disaster

After eight long grueling months, I finally walked the aisle to my “happily ever after.” My engagement to Zack felt like a never ending form of torture. If I had possessed the power to rotate the clock forward, I probably would have. To my surprise though, the big day did finally arrive. And before I even knew what was happening, I blinked, and found myself waking up next to my husband on our 4 year anniversary. Time flies. And it flies at supersonic speed. As I’m approaching 4 and a half years of marriage, I’m beginning to see things with a whole new perspective. The man I said “IFull Post

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October 21, 2015
Smart Girls Think Ahead and Plan for a Thriving Future

The prayer requests were shared as Lindsey’s Bible Study leader made her way around the circle. “I’m up to my ears in school loans. I feel like I’ll never be able to pay them off.” “I’ve been struggling with depression ever since I got my divorce.” “Work is overwhelming me. I wish I had more time for family.” “I wish I could pursue a job in the ministry, but I can’t afford the lesser pay.” When Lindsey and I met up for coffee, she told me about the struggles these girls were going through. As I listened these three thoughts came to mind: The struggles shared by these girlsFull Post

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October 19, 2015
How to Wear Makeup in a Feminine and God Honoring Way

Back in high school, I had the most unexpected run-in with a random dad in regards to the amount of makeup on my face. I was attending a Christian conference and chatting with a few sisters I had met, when their dad suddenly slipped into our conversation. After several minutes of casual chatting, he looked and me and politely stated the following: “You have naturally beautiful features,” he said, ” but the amount of makeup you’re wearing seems to be covering them up. As a dad and a man, I think you would look a lot better than you think with less makeup.” Slightly shocked and stunned at hisFull Post

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October 16, 2015
The Pros and Cons of Online Dating from a Christian Girl’s Perspective

With technology continually on the rise and dating sites becoming much more of the norm, I think we should do ourselves a favor and dig into the topic of online dating. I have to be honest with you though, I’ve been avoiding the “online dating” topic like the plague. Why? Because I have several really close friends, that I greatly admire, who stand on the opposite side of the spectrum. Some friends love online dating to pieces and some can’t hate it enough. There are also great Christian ministries (that I highly respect) who hold very different views. On one hand there’s Leslie Ludy who is totally against itFull Post

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October 14, 2015
3 Major Flaws in “Safe Sex” Education

If you’ve read any of our blog posts in the past year, you’ve probably noticed that we’re huge promoters of abstinence until marriage. Our views (obviously) don’t align with mainstream opinions, they align with what we believe the Bible has to say about it. As a result, we’ve received some critical letters on this topic. One person wrote and said, “The fact is that giving an abstinence only sex education is not going to make things any safer. I believe there’s no harm in educating teenagers about safe sex.” As you know, there’s a huge push in our culture to indoctrinate teens with a “safer sex” education program. IfFull Post

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October 12, 2015
What to do When Life Doesn’t Serve You What You Feel Like Eating

The day was miserably hot. The sun glared through my window, and everything outside seemed to be dancing in a ripple of heat waves.   It was definitely summer, and it was here in full force. I looked down at the dried inmates of my once thriving window box. The marigolds were nothing but brown stalks sticking their heads sadly out of the ground. The dirt was dry and cracked, and everything seemed to be completely hopeless. But then I noticed one plant that didn’t resemble the rest.   It was a stem with two or three green leaves still clinging to it, and from the stem, in allFull Post

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October 9, 2015
Can the Bible Help with Depression, Eating Disorders, and Porn Addictions?

Jenna was your average high school girl. From the outside, she seemed happy and excited about life. What most people didn’t know about Jenna, was that her doctor diagnosed her with depression. Jenna has been taking antidepressants for over a year now and seeing a counselor on a weekly basis. Deep down, she sees very little improvement in her life. She feels hopeless and lost on the inside.  Melanie is similar to Jenna, only she’s in college. She’s cute, skinny and all the guys seem to like her. From the outside she’s the girl that all the other girls are jealous of.  What nobody knows though, is that MelanieFull Post

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October 7, 2015
The Value of Waiting Until You’re of Marrying Age to Consider a Relationship

I looked at the caller ID on my pink razor flip phone and immediately got sweaty palms. I was 16 years old and was committed to only pursuing a relationship when I was ready or able to consider the possibility of marriage. As a 16 year old girl I knew I wasn’t ready. And I knew the guy calling on the other line wasn’t ready either. With feelings of hesitation I answered his call. “Hello, this is Bethany” “Hey Bethany!! How ya doing today?” The conversation continued and the expected happened. Jeremy expressed his interest and asked me if I would consider starting a relationship with him. I didn’tFull Post

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October 2, 2015
How I Recovered from Being a Desperate Flirt

It started when I was just 12 years old. I knew exactly what I wanted and I knew how to get it. Attention from Brandon was my goal, and flirting was my strategy. I was at a church camp playing knock out (a basketball game) under the pavilion. Time was ticking. My parents would be there any minute to pick me up. I needed to act quick before I lost my chance. Like a seasoned pro I put on my flirty smile, ran up to Brandon and grabbed the bandana from around his arm. Of course he chased after me and played right into my little game. Score! MissionFull Post

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September 30, 2015
Why Thousands of Women are Shouting Their Abortions

Even amongst pro-choicers, abortion used to be viewed as a sad and unfortunate thing. It was viewed as an “out” for rape victims and women who had “no other choice.” Not anymore. The recent #ShoutYourAbortion campaign took this long-time debate to a shocking new level. Pro-choice women are now raising their voices and cheering for their abortions. Women everywhere are being prodded and encouraged by radical feminists to shout their abortion to the world. To boldly proclaim their “choice” for everyone to see. They are being told to celebrate, cheer and take pride in what they’ve done. Many conservatives are calling this movement wicked and totally depraved, but theseFull Post

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September 28, 2015
How I Found Purpose During My Boring Teenage Years

It was another typical Monday morning and I was not looking forward to waking up early. The alarm went off and I was dreading the start of another day. Life was just not that exciting. In fact, it felt a little boring. As a 16 year old girl life is very much the same old, same old. Lot’s of school, cooking, cleaning, spending time with family, and trying to figure out what I want to do when I grow up. I really don’t have a schedule full of exciting adventures or thrilling opportunities. Because of my “same old, same old” schedule, I’ve struggled to believe that my life mattersFull Post

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September 25, 2015
An Open Letter to the Women of #ShoutYourAbortion

Dear Women of the #ShoutYourAbortion Movement, I saw your popular hashtag on social media the other day and was instantly curious. I quickly did a google search. After reading many of your articles explaining why you did this, I think I’m beginning to understand. Although you might classify me as a right wing fanatic, I’m honestly trying really hard to see things from your perspective. I was tempted to write an article blasting you, explaining why I think you’re wrong. But then, why would you want to read another article written by some conservative only interested in tearing you apart? Instead, I decided to stop and think. I decidedFull Post

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September 23, 2015
Having Courage When the Bathing Suit is Way Too Small

My eyes grew twice the size as I watched my swim coach pull my new bathing suit from the box. “Ummm are you sure that’s her bathing suit? It looks a little small.” My mom asked with a questioning voice. My swim coach chuckled a little and then replied, “I’m positive this is her bathing suit. We order them extra small so that they will fit tight. We don’t want anything slowing her down when she’s in the water.” With hesitation my mom paid for the swimsuit and then handed it to me. I was only ten years old when this bathing suit fiasco went down, but I rememberFull Post

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September 21, 2015
6 Signs You’re Looking for Happiness in the Wrong Places

Have you ever rolled out of bed and thought, “I hope I have a terrible day today?” Probably not. I never have. Not many people have. Why? Because we all want to be happy. We all want to have great days. We live in a world where happiness is the end goal of almost every person’s life. Everyone wants to be happy. Everybody is searching, hoping, and longing to find that “one thing” that will make them permanently happy. Sadly, very few people find lasting, permanent happiness. That’s why many famous, rich celebrities bounce from relationship to relationship, mansion to mansion, car to car…they’re hoping the “next thing” willFull Post

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September 18, 2015
What a Girl in a Green Dress Taught Me about Friendship

A few months ago I was with my three younger sisters enjoying a chocolate latte at our favorite local coffee shop. We were laughing, chatting, and sharing the latest in our lives. Then I spotted a girl in the most adorable dress walking by the window. “Whoa! Check out that adorable, green, sparkly dress.” I interrupted my sisters to point out the amazing piece of fashion in my view. As I expected, they let out squeals of delight and stared shamelessly at the beautiful (and surprisingly modest) green, sparkly dress. The Real Show Stopper What caught our attention next captivated us even more than the dress. This adorable girlFull Post

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September 16, 2015
Porn: What Every Christian Girl Needs to Know

If you’ve believed the lie that pornography is something hidden in the deepest corners of the internet, you’ve been duped. Whether you’ve been exposed to porn or not, you have probably already gone through years of soft porn grooming without even realizing it. If you’re like I was, you probably think of porn as being some form of intense adult content only targeted at men…but it’s not. Listen carefully to how the dictionary describes porn: “Sexually explicit videos, photographs, writings, or the like, produced to elicit sexual arousal.” Did you catch that last part? “Produced to elicit sexual arousal.” How many mainstream movies, songs, books, TV shows, and magazinesFull Post

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September 14, 2015
Is Being a Woman More than Getting Married and Having Babies?

If being a woman is strictly about getting married and having babies, then Kristen and I are failing miserably. I don’t have a husband which means I don’t have children and Kristen has a husband but God hasn’t given her children yet. As most of you know I would love to get married (followed by children) and Kristen would love to have children. Despite our desires and open hearts toward those roles (wife and mother) God has chosen not to fulfill all of those desires in either of our lives. Discovering True Womanhood As a young girl I believed that the ultimate fulfillment and purpose in my life wouldFull Post

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September 11, 2015
When Boys Play Princess and Girls Play Soldier

Taylor Swift made a controversial comment about gender at the recent Video Music Awards. In response to her music video that won video of the year, she stated, “There’s been a lot of discussion about this video and what it means. But I’m just happy that in 2015, we live in a world where boys can play princesses and girls can play soldiers.” Say hello to the modern world of gender confusion. Taylor’s comments received attention in the media and one popular website responded by saying, “Right on, Taylor.” But is she “right on?” I don’t think so. Let’s chat about it. What do her statements actually mean? Well,Full Post

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September 9, 2015
5 Tips to Help You Strengthen Your Bible Time

“I just love my personal devotion time. I get in my closet, fall on my knees, and praise the Lord. I treasure that time with Him. Me and God all alone. It’s the best part of my day. I couldn’t survive without it.” As this sweet, older woman shared her heart about her personal devotions, I stood there wondering why I felt like she was speaking a foreign language. I was sixteen years old. I had been a Christian for many years, memorized tons of Scripture, and read my Bible on a daily basis. Despite these “Christian credentials,” my personal devotions felt nothing like this sweet lady’s description ofFull Post

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September 7, 2015
Why Naughty Girls Don’t Have More Fun

She was bad. She was naughty. She broke all the rules. She lived recklessly. And apparently, she had all the fun. Our modern culture is shoving the idea down our throats that bad girls have more fun. It’s in the movies. It’s in the songs. It’s in the magazines. It’s in the books. You’ve probably seen the bumper stickers or the Pinterest pins featuring the “naughty girl” quotes. See if any of these sound familiar: “Everyone knows naughty girls have more fun.” “Good girls keep diaries, bad girls never have the time.” “I used to be the sweetest girl ever…til I found out being the baddest girl was better.”Full Post

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September 4, 2015
6 Back-to-School Modesty Tips and Tricks

Heading back to school can often times feel overwhelming. There’s the stress of making new friends, trying to fit in, figuring out which activities to participate in, getting to know your teachers, adjusting to your new schedule, and so much more. Although I never went to an actual school building week in and week out (I was homeschooled), I still experienced a lot of what you girls may have experienced. One of my absolute favorite parts of kicking off the new school year was *drum roll* shopping for new clothes. I loved heading to the stores to buy new shirts, jeans, skirts and anything else I could squeeze intoFull Post

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September 2, 2015
The VMAs: Goodbye Classy, Hello Trashy

If pictures are worth a thousand words and fashion is about making statements, then the Video Music Awards (VMAs) have accomplished both. Whether you’re into the music scene or not, you’ve probably seen or heard some of the buzz surrounding MTV’s 2015 Video Music Awards. I didn’t watch the show myself (and I don’t recommend it), but I saw the buzz and decided to look up some articles. Sadly, the buzz isn’t anything to get excited about. These award nights have gone from bad to worse over the years. They’re much less about music and more about foul language, raunchy dancing, and fashion that barely covers the essential areas.Full Post

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August 31, 2015
How to Show Love Towards Prostitutes, Homosexuals, and Muslims

If there was one conversation I’d never prepared for it was this one – randomly talking with a young woman at Starbucks and then finding out she was a prostitute. Caught off guard and totally unprepared would be an understatement for how I was feeling when she told me what she did for a living. I’ll never forget that day or that young woman. My feelings of pity and sorrow went through the roof when she told me why she had recently moved to San Antonio. I wanted to reach out my arms, give her a big hug and help her get a new start. The conversation ended beforeFull Post

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August 28, 2015
Are You Playing Footsie with Sexual Temptation?

His heart beat faster as he purposely walked down the dark street. It was nighttime, and nobody else was out. He knew she lived in this area. He was hoping she would come out to meet him. He glanced around to make sure no one saw him. He continued walking when she suddenly appeared in front of him. Without saying a word, she wrapped her arms around his neck and brazenly kissed him. “My husband is gone,” she said in a seductive whisper. “Come with me and let’s have our fill of love until the morning!” Like an ox being led to the slaughter, he immediately followed the seductressFull Post

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August 26, 2015
Smart Girls Predetermine to Follow God no Matter How Difficult

A life changing decision needed to be made and I was the only person who could make the final call. Deep in my heart I knew there were only two options: God’s way or my own way. I remember sitting with my Bible open to the book of Proverbs trying to fill my mind with Biblical insight. The more I read the more confirmed the answer became. There was a problem though. I didn’t like the truth. Choosing to accept the insight and wisdom I was gleaning from the Bible meant I had to make a really hard decision. One I wasn’t interested in making. Although I was veryFull Post

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August 24, 2015
5 Ways to Beat Back-to-School Temptations

The summer is almost over which means the beginning of the new school year is lurking right around the corner. You can tell it’s the end of summer because every store is advertising their back-to-school gear and accessories. For some of you this is an exciting time of new beginnings and a fresh start. For others, it’s a dreaded time of tests, peer pressure, and waking up at the crack of dawn. Whatever your school year may look like, there’s one thing it has in common with everyone else’s – a little thing called sneaky temptations. The buzz of a new school year is always accompanied by a buzzFull Post

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August 21, 2015
Why Christian Girls Should Wear Modest Workout Clothes

The sun was boiling hot over my little Texas neighborhood. I was determined to run my sixteen miles in prep for my marathon no matter the crazy heat outside. Minus a small break to stop and stretch out the intense cramps in my legs, I’m excited to say I finished the run and survived the heat. I’ll be totally honest with you, training for a marathon in Texas is not a fun thing to do. Texas summers are hot, humid, and sticky. Those ingredients are obviously not ideal for intense outdoor workouts. Maintaining Modesty in the Heat Despite the heat and gallons of sweat dripping down my face, IFull Post

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August 19, 2015
Announcing Project Modesty E-book and Video!

Growing up the two of us were convinced that modesty equalled old-fashioned. We looked around and noticed that the hip stores weren’t pushing long shorts, classy shirts or knee-length skirts. The clothes they promoted were hip, edgy, trendy and, we assumed, top notch fashionable. Because the fashion industry held the loudest voice on clothing, we assumed they were the standard on what equalled fashion and what equalled old fashioned. Modesty and Fashion Didn’t Combine As young women we looked around us and found very few (if any) Christians promoting modest fashionable clothing. We did hear quite a bit on modesty, but to be totally honest we weren’t all thatFull Post

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August 17, 2015
Dressing Modestly Doesn’t Mean You’re Ashamed of Your Body

I will never forget the day that I was accused of being “insecure” and “uncomfortable in my own skin” for desiring to dress modestly. This accusation happened several years ago when I was exploring the modeling world. The agent I spoke with told me that my modesty standards were due to insecurity in my life and advised me to “get comfortable in my own skin.” Up until this point I had never attached the word “insecurity” to my modesty convictions and I was offended that a grown man would label me that way. I left that conversation with a strong desire to further establish my beliefs on modesty andFull Post

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August 14, 2015
The Bikini is Destroying the Christian Girl’s View of Modesty

This piece of clothing was considered so scandalous that mainstream models refused to wear it. In 1946 a man named Louis Réard designed and introduced the bikini. This small piece of swimwear was considered so risque that Mr. Réard couldn’t find a single model who was willing to showcase it. The only woman who was finally willing to model Réard’s new bathing suit was an eighteen-year-old nude dancer from Paris. As the first bikini hit the public scene, it stirred up quite the controversial discussion.  Wikipedia stated, “French women welcomed the design but the Catholic church, some media, and a majority of the public initially thought the design wasFull Post

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August 12, 2015
Smart Dudes Aren’t Looking at Your Body

Back in the day, when I was on the lookout for a woman to marry, Kristen immediately caught my eye. She was (and still is) strikingly beautiful. Her smile was radiant. Her personality was warm and welcoming. She genuinely cared about everyone. She was joyful and everyone loved being around her. Bottom line, she was awesome. Guess what? It wasn’t her body that drew me to her. In fact, I don’t even remember being distracted by her body. She dressed in a way that drew attention to her face. Her clothing reflected the joy and love of Christ in her life. I didn’t have to wonder about her intentions.Full Post

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August 10, 2015
Project Modesty: Being More than a Cookie Cutter Girl

“But everyone else is wearing it, mom! I don’t want to stand out like a super weirdo,” I said through distressed tears. This was me having a small meltdown. Scratch that. A major meltdown. My mom wasn’t super excited about the shirt I was wearing and was encouraging me to put on something more modest. I was thirteen years old at this point and didn’t care about modesty at all. I wasn’t interested in “being different” and dressing like a frumpy old lady. To me, modesty meant grandma garb. I rebelliously argued with her for a while, then finally gave in and changed my shirt. As a young teenageFull Post

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August 7, 2015
The Horrifying Truth About Abortion and Why it Matters

I watched my computer screen in horror as a tray filled with bloody pieces of a freshly murdered baby parts came into view. “How can this be happening? How can the average person think that abortion (killing babies) is totally acceptable? How can these people talk about pieces of bloody, mangled baby parts with zero care or emotion? How is this the world I live in?” Questions and thoughts ran through my mind as I tried to process what I was seeing on the video. If you’re in favor of life and/or live in America you probably know exactly what I’m talking about. But for those of you whoFull Post

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August 5, 2015
What to do When “Loving Your Selfie” is all the Rage

“You have got to be kidding me?!” I said to Bethany in a mildly shocked tone as she showed me a photo on her phone. “Did you really see that shirt in the store?” “Oh, yeah,” she replied while raising her eyebrows and smirking. “Welcome to the twenty-first century!” A popular store in town was selling a t-shirt with bold words on the front that said, “I Heart My Selfie.” I immediately did some research online to see if this “trend” was actually popular. To my astonishment, I found an entire line of “selfie” products. You can purchase any of the following items with the words “I Heart MyFull Post

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August 3, 2015
What’s a Girl to do When God Forgets to Write Her Love Story?

I grew up reading (and rereading) the insanely popular relationship books on courtship and dating. Titles like, “When God Writes Your Love Story,” “When Dreams Come True,” “I Kissed Dating Goodbye,” “Boy Meets Girl” and several others were well worn books on my bookshelf. As a 14,15,16 and 17 year old girl I was gung ho on board with the idea of “leaving the pen in God’s hands.” I trusted God big time. I wanted Him to write my love story. I wanted Him to show off in a mighty way in my love life. I was a “leave the pen in God’s hands” groupie like none other. YearFull Post

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July 31, 2015
Shirtless Guys: What Every Christian Girl Should Know

Shirtless guys. They’re everywhere. Go to any swimming pool or beach and you will see dozens of them. Watch any modern chick-flick and you’ll probably see a generous amount of them. The sidewalks in the summer reveal shirtless guys running. Pinterest is filled with thousands of “hot shirtless guy” boards. Instagram is loaded with male celebrities eager to fill your feed with their shirtless bods. Shirtless guys have been an increasingly common part of the modern American culture. However, it hasn’t always been this way. Wikipedia stated that “during the Victorian period, Western cultures deplored nudity of any degree, even barechested [shirtless] male swimmers at ocean beaches, and peopleFull Post

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July 29, 2015
How to Become the Wife and Mother of Your Dreams

The organ began playing. All eyes locked their gaze on the back of the church. The moment finally arrived and the bride’s beautiful white dress came into view. The bride began her walk down the aisle toward her eagerly awaiting groom. Her eyes were in tears, his eyes were in tears and the entire crowd was in tears as we all watched this new marriage come together. As I watched my two friends seal their marriage with a kiss, I couldn’t help but feel overjoyed for God’s goodness and faithfulness in their lives. Both of them had worked hard to prepare themselves for this day. They both loved GodFull Post

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July 27, 2015
When Guys Become More Exciting Than God

“He just texted me again!” Abby said with a girlish squeal. She and her two sisters were hanging out in her bedroom chatting about guy stuff. Abby was nineteen years old and secretly hoping that Clay was “the one.” She woke up every morning wondering if he had texted her. If he hadn’t texted her, she would instantly think, “I wonder if he’ll text me today!” Or “Should I shoot him a text?” Or “Should I try and casually sit by him when we hang out in groups?” Or “Maybe I should suggest going on a date…?” Thoughts like these consumed her mind morning until night for several months.Full Post

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July 24, 2015
How I Handled the Hardest Day of My Entire Life

I sat there in the hospital room holding my dying baby brother in my arms. Prior to this moment in time I was a happy, outgoing, carefree 16 year old girl. Everything in my life seemed perfect…until I got the dreaded phone call. I was on my way home from a week long summer camp and was laughing over the weeks memories with my friends in the car. My mom was 8 months pregnant and from my perspective seemed to be doing great. Little did I know that tragedy struck home while I was away. “Mom’s in the hospital. The doctor says something is terribly wrong with the baby. TheyFull Post

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July 22, 2015
My All-Time Favorite Tip on How to Have a Consistent Prayer Life

Girl 1: “Hey girl, I’m going through a really hard time right now.” Girl 2: “Oh, really? I’m so sorry. What’s going on?” Girl 1: “Well…I’m just really struggling with some worry and fear in my life. I don’t know what to do.” Girl 2: “Oh man…that sounds really hard. I’ll definitely be praying for you. Girl 1: “Thank you so much. I need it.” Several weeks go by and Girl 2 has never prayed for Girl 1 even a single time. She meant to. She wanted to. She intended to. But it just slipped her mind. She completely forgot about her promise. Have you ever told someone youFull Post

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July 20, 2015
5 Truths to Help You Destroy Secret Sexual Sin

I wouldn’t be surprised if nearly every one of you reading this post has struggled with, or is currently struggling with, secret sexual sin. Why do I assume that so many of you struggle (or have struggled) with secret sexual sin? Because (at times) I’ve struggled with this in my own life and I’ve received enough emails through GirlDefined to know this is a big problem for many of you. I want you to know upfront that today can be a turning point in your life! I hate the thought of you feeling alone, helpless, or hopeless in your struggle. I’m writing about this topic today to offer youFull Post

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July 17, 2015
Why Boyfriends Don’t Get Husband Privileges

He said he loved her. He asked her to move in with him. She liked him a lot. She decided to give it a try. One sunny afternoon, she loaded up her apartment and moved all of her stuff into her boyfriend’s place. They ate breakfast together. They ate dinner together. She did his laundry. She slept in his bedroom. She shared his bathroom. From the outside, they looked like a cute married couple. However, despite how “married” they looked, they were missing one key ingredient. Vows. Neither was committed long term. Neither was in a covenant with the other. Neither was 100% loyal to the other. Neither feltFull Post

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July 15, 2015
Should College be a Must for the Christian Girl?

It happens every year. Thousands of guys and girls pack up their bags and head out to their first year of college. It’s the normal and expected post high school option. Why rethink it? Why consider doing something different? When I graduated from high school I felt like a total freak for not following the normal path and heading off to college.  When the fall semester rolled around I stayed home like a weirdo while every other fresh high school graduate embarked on this new and exciting journey we call college (you can read about that in more detail here). During those years of “weirdness” for not following the cultures expected path,Full Post

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July 13, 2015
3 Quick Tips to Instantly Improve Your Personal Devotions

Do you feel like your personal devotional time is… A. Vibrant and really consistent. B. Pretty good, but could get better. C. Okay, but in need of some passion and consistency. D. Pretty irregular. And honestly, quite boring. E. It basically never happens. If you picked B or below, this post is for you. Keep reading. And guess what – this post is written for me too. I usually fall under the letter B. I’m forever striving to improve my quiet time. Since we’re in this boat together, I’m going to share 3 quick tips that have helped me instantly improve my personal devotion time over the years. They’reFull Post

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July 10, 2015
Where Will You Be 100 Million Years From Today?

I recently saw an image on facebook that I did not want to see. The image was graphic, heartbreaking, and extremely thought provoking. The image pictured several men only moments before they were brutally put to death by the wicked hands of ISIS. When I saw that picture my mind went wild. What if I were in their shoes? What if I were being put to death? Would I be ready? Although I didn’t want to see that image of those men preparing for death, I’m grateful I did. That image was a huge reminder of how short and shockingly fast life truly is. I realize this blog postFull Post

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July 8, 2015
How Setting Up Boundaries Saved My Virginity

My romantic feelings were intense towards him. I’m typically a clear thinker, but my brain cells had turned instantly cloudy. I had no idea how quickly common sense could abandon my sense of reason. I was in love and on my way to marrying the man of my dreams. During my relationship and “dateship” with Zack (read more on that here), I experienced emotions, desires, urges, and temptations like I had never experienced before. I never knew how intense my desire for physical touch was until I was in a relationship with a guy that I really wanted to touch. I longed for physical contact. I longed to beFull Post

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July 6, 2015
How Much Clothing Can We Really Take Off?

“Forget the rules. If it makes you happy, wear it!” Those are the words plastered on the wall of a well known and hip shopping center in downtown Chicago. As soon as I read that quote I immediately thought of the girls (and women) in that massive city I was exploring. As I walked around the streets of downtown Chicago, I felt like I was in the melting pot of females who had made that quote the mantra of their wardrobe selections. Here’s what I saw over the past ten days on my trip: Shorts are no longer intended to cover up the body, but to show off asFull Post

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July 3, 2015
How I Overcame Being Shy, Selfish, and Desperately Awkward

I was 15 years old, had a mouth full of braces and was desperately shy and awkward. Our whole family was involved in the AWANA program at our church and I had just started attending the high school program. The first week came and I sat by myself. I walked to game time by myself. I left by myself. The next week, the same thing happened. This went on for several months. I hated going. I hated feeling shy and uncomfortable. I hated not having any friends and feeling desperately alone. After several more weeks, I thought up a “brilliant” plan. Since, there was no getting out of going,Full Post

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July 1, 2015
You Don’t Have to be a Victim to Your Crazy Girl Emotions

During the past couple of months my life has been busy, busy, busy. My days have been filled with long hours of manuscript revisions, traveling, speaking, working in my dad’s office, visiting with relatives, and so much more. During all of this busyness, I’ve also been facing an emotionally confusing issue in a certain area of my life. Due to the combination of tiredness and busyness, I’ve been struggling to keep my thoughts and emotions under control. Typically, I can focus my mind on Scripture (or prayer) and my thoughts and emotions get in check pretty quickly. Not this time though. For some reason, I’ve been in need ofFull Post

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June 29, 2015
Keeping Marriage Straight: Why the Bible Never Recognizes “Gay Marriage”

We live in a country where marriage has now been officially redefined and legalized to include “any two people who love each other, regardless of gender.” However, our Supreme Court can’t redefine what they didn’t create. Sure, they can change the laws and give legal recognition to same-sex couples, but that doesn’t make it real marriage. In God’s eyes, they are not truly married. They can’t be. The very first verse in the entire Bible tells us exactly who the author and creator of marriage is. He was the only one on the scene when it happened. “In the beginning God… (Genesis 1:1 emphasis added).” Did you catch that?Full Post

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June 26, 2015
The One Thing Hollywood Doesn’t Want You To Do While Watching a Movie

My hands slightly trembled as I glanced up from the movie review sheets I’d printed from an online Christian site. I was about to read two complete movie reviews to my girls Bible study group and I was nervous to say the least. I knew this moment was coming. I’d mentally prepared for it all week. I knew for sure it was going to be awkward (big time awkward) and I was positive I’d step on (or crunch) most every girl’s toes. The moment came and went and I’m glad to say we all survived. I won’t lie though, it was awkward. It was uncomfortable and it was totally outFull Post

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June 24, 2015
Transgenderism: Is it Really Possible to Change Your Gender?

They were the biggest women’s shoes I had ever seen. At twelve years old, I was extremely tall for my age and already wearing women’s shoes. But these…they were bigger than most men’s shoes. I called Bethany over to show her my intriguing find. We were shopping at a resale store with our mom. Holding the enormous high heels in my hands, she came running over with wide eyes. “Look, another pair!” Bethany said pointing to the rack. We both scanned the rack and quickly noticed several more pairs of these mysterious mammoth shoes. They were in pristine condition and all boasted pricey designer labels. Of course we didFull Post

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June 22, 2015
10 Things I’ve Learned from Dating a Godly Man

I (Bethany) was chatting with my small group leader one night after Bible study. She is in a relationship getting to know a very godly man and of course I was curious to know the scoop. Time cut us short and we weren’t able to finish our conversation. Later that evening she sent me an email giving me more details and attached this list of 10 things she’s learning through her current relationship. I loved the wisdom that she offered in her ten points and I just couldn’t keep it to myself. I asked her if I could post the list as a blog and to my delight sheFull Post

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June 19, 2015
Normalizing What’s Wrong Doesn’t Make it Right

If you’ve gone to any grocery stores in the past few weeks, you’ve probably seen the same disturbing magazine covers that I’ve seen. A man who decided he’d rather be a “woman” and an obese female model are being praised for their bravery in going against the grain. Welcome to the new America. The classic patriotic mantra, “land of the free and home of the brave” is taking on a whole new meaning. What used to shock us hardly causes us to blink now. As Christians we can’t buy into this crafty garbage. Just because our culture normalizes what’s wrong, doesn’t make it right. Sin is sin, no matter howFull Post

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June 17, 2015
5 Qualities Christian Guys Find Extremely Unattractive in Girls

Christian guys and non-christian guys seem to be in agreement on one thing: qualities they do not find attractive in girls. Over the years in talking to my dad, brothers, guy friends and acquaintances, I’ve learned that there are certain qualities that guys do not find attractive or appealing in girls/women. I wanted to confirm what I’ve heard over the years, so I went to the internet and did loads of research. I scoured blog after blog after blog and what I found seemed to perfectly line up with what I’ve heard in the past. Christian guys and non-christian guys tend to agree on the qualities they find unattractiveFull Post

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June 15, 2015
Letting Go of People’s Expectations

I couldn’t fall asleep. My heart was heavy and my mind was spinning with one thought – my imperfections. The day hadn’t gone very well. I thought of all the people who seemed better than me and I was overwhelmed by emotions. Eventually, I fell asleep. But mere sleep cannot remedy a struggle. Our culture today has a very loud voice and it wastes no time in telling us what they think we should be. In grocery store checkout lines and on billboard advertisements we see what the world claims to be “perfection.” Not to mention, friends, family members, peers and even people in the church throw expectations uponFull Post

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June 12, 2015
Being a Christian is Not About Obeying a List of Rules

How often have you seen a girl “stay on track” until college, or her early twenties, and then go off the deep end? Her Christian faith seems to have all but disappeared and she is embracing her new found “freedom.” Sadly, I’ve seen that exact scenario happen over and over and over again. Somewhere along the way we, as Christians, have slightly (or majorly) missed the point of why we do what we do. The Christian life has become a list of rules containing do’s and don’ts, and sadly we’ve left our Savior completely out of the picture. Way too many young people view Christianity as restraining them fromFull Post

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June 8, 2015
A Sure Fire Sign That You are a Foolish Girl

A few years ago, I was a foolish girl. I didn’t think I was at the time, but looking back I realize I was a fool with a capital F. There was season in my life when I lived out the “fool” part of this verse, “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice” (Proverbs 12:15). I wasn’t a fool in every area of life, but there was a particular area where I very strongly rejected any advice that did not line up with my own opinion. Here is how that verse looks on a twenty first century girl,Full Post

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June 5, 2015
Why I Didn’t Wear a Strapless Wedding Dress

“I think I might cry,” I said to my mom as we exited yet another wedding dress store. “I thought this was supposed to be fun. We’ve been to every store in the city and I haven’t found anything close to what I need.” “Hang there in honey,” my mom replied with a sympathetic smile. “It’s out there somewhere.” The day was coming to an end and my dream dress was nowhere in sight. I felt completely exhausted from trying on dozens of dresses and re-explaining my “strange” modesty standards to skeptical sales ladies. My heart sank into discouragement. I felt a twinge of annoyance at my modesty convictionsFull Post

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June 3, 2015
A Love Story in the Mind

She was thirteen years old when she was noticed for the first time by a guy. Butterflies swarmed inside of her making her feel as if she was the most special thing in the world. She felt beautiful for the first time in her life, because no one had ever treated her like Austin did. Her parents were very Godly people and always tried their best to raise their kids the right way. However, they came from a worldly background before they came to know the Lord, so they were well aware of what the world and Satan had to offer for their children. Her parents warned her ofFull Post

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June 1, 2015
True Love: What it is and What it isn’t

James and Bridget were approaching their four year marriage anniversary when Bridget suddenly filed for a divorce. Things had become rocky within the first year of marriage and neither one did much to help the situation. Shortly before filing for a divorce, one of Bridget’s friends tried to convince her to stay in the marriage and work things out. “I just can’t do this anymore.” Bridget said with a stern face. “And honestly, I don’t really love James anymore. The love we had when we got married dissolved a long time ago.” Jessica was a recent high school graduate and was trying her hardest to get out of herFull Post

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May 29, 2015
3 Ideas for How to Have True and Lasting Friendships

A few nights ago I was with my three younger sisters enjoying a chocolate latte at our favorite local coffee shop. We were laughing, chatting, and sharing the latest in our lives. Then I spotted a girl in the most adorable dress walking by the window. “Whoa! Check out that adorable, green, sparkly dress.” I interrupted my sisters to point out the amazing piece of fashion in my view. As I expected, they let out squeals of delight and stared shamelessly at the beautiful (and thankfully modest) green, sparkly dress. The Real Show Stopper What caught our attention next captivated us even more than the dress. This adorable girlFull Post

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May 27, 2015
Answering Your Guy Questions

Like most of you, as a single girl, I had unanswered “guy questions” rolling around in my mind. I know many of you have guy questions because you email them to us at GirlDefined. Not to mention the last two conferences Bethany and I spoke at seemed to be sprinkled with questions about guys. So, today – I’ve decided to dedicate this post to your guy questions. I’ve hand picked 5 of the most common questions I hear from you and have attempted to answer them in a nutshell. Ready? Here we go! Question 1: What is a good age to start dating? As many of you know, I optedFull Post

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May 25, 2015
It Takes a Strong Girl to Obey God’s Word

I was thirteen going on fourteen and dying for my birthday to arrive. I had asked my parents for my very own weight bench and I couldn’t wait to start lifting those weights. Yes, I know that’s a little weird. What thirteen year old girl wants a weight bench for her birthday? I knew that increasing my strength would make me a better basketball player and that’s exactly what I wanted. I wanted to be strong so that I could be successful. As I’ve grown older my desire to be strong has only increased. Don’t worry, I’m not into bodybuilding or anything like that. In fact, my weight benchFull Post

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May 22, 2015
5 Signs You’re Not Ready for Marriage Yet

Before I got married, I remember people telling me things like, “Marriage is awesome, but it’s also a lot of work.” Or, “Marriage is a wonderful institution, but you’ll be challenged like never before.” Or, “Getting married is the most amazing thing on earth, but…you’ll also uncover new levels of selfishness in your heart that you didn’t know existed.” Well…as I look back on the past 4 years of my marriage to Zack, I realize that all of those statements are correct. Marriage is an incredible blessing from God, but it’s also one of the most “sanctifying” experiences I’ve ever had in my life. If there’s anything I’ve learnedFull Post

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May 20, 2015
Ignoring Guys: Spiritual or Just Plain Rude

A few years ago I attended a Christian singles dinner/conference and noticed a disturbing trend. Guys congregated on one half of the room and the girls socialized on the other. This was a “singles” event and the guys and girls literally were not speaking to one another…minus a few exceptions. After a few minutes of “guys on one half and girls on the other,” the speaker asked everyone to find a seat. As I sat down at a table, I looked around me and noticed something just plain ridiculous. Nearly every girl attending the conference huddled together and congregated at the same tables. Minus a small handful of braveFull Post

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May 15, 2015
One Must-Have Recipe for Overcoming Sadness

In 1967, after graduating from high school, Joni had her fateful accident that would change her life forever. It was a hot July day so she decided to meet her sister Kathy and some friends at the beach in Chesapeake Bay to swim. They unloaded their stuff and settled down for a fun day of swimming. They didn’t waste any time getting into the water. Laughing and smiling, Joni took a big jump and dove into the sparkling fresh water. She immediately knew something was wrong. She couldn’t move her body. Everything went numb. Without realizing it, Joni dove head first onto a large rock that was hidden justFull Post

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May 13, 2015
Lust: A Christian Girl’s Problem Too

I have an honest confession. As a young high school girl, my heart was full of lust and I did very little to fight against it. One night, God got ahold of my heart and everything changed. I came across a little hardback book that blasted truth into my heart like never before. It’s the little book written by Josh Harris called, Sex is Not the Problem, Lust Is. Tears streamed down my face as I realized how wrong and sinful I had been. I felt dirty before a Holy and perfect God. I confessed my sin and asked Christ to forgive me. Was life perfect after that? NotFull Post

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May 11, 2015
Why I’ve Chosen my Sisters as my Very Best Friends

Late(ish) last night my three younger sisters and myself loaded into the car and headed to one of our favorite local coffee shops. We laughed, we talked, we sang, and we tried not to annoy each other on the car ride down. Going out for coffee on a Saturday night, with my three younger sisters, is one of my favorite things to do. Those girls (even though two of them are several years younger than me) are truly my bestest friends and my top choice for people I want to chill with and have a good time with. To be totally honest I haven’t always felt this way aboutFull Post

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May 8, 2015
3 Essential Ways of Life for Every Christian Girl

Several months ago I was walking through a gift shop in Estes Park, Colorado when Bethany handed me the craziest book. “Check this out!” she said in a half-serious/half-sarcastic tone. She handed me a small hardback book. The title read, Everything Men Know About Women. With a title like that, I was immediately interested in finding out what the inside would reveal. I took a deep breath, put my hands on both sides of the book to gear up for what I was about to read. Then I opened the book. To my utter shock the entire book was BLANK. I flipped through the pages from front to backFull Post

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May 6, 2015
Rethinking College and Planning Smart for Your Future

Eight long years ago, I made a radical decision and chose not to attend college. Saying “no” to college is weird today, but I think it was even weirder back then. So…what was my deal? Why was I being a weirdo? Let me me start by giving a small disclaimer: I didn’t say “no” to college because it was too hard, too scary, too expensive, or too anything else I can think of. I also didn’t say “no” to college because I thought it was bad or wrong. So why did I say “no” to college? I chose to say “no” to college because it wasn’t the smartest planFull Post

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May 4, 2015
From a Guy: Finding Satisfaction During Singleness

Like many of you girls, there lies a deep desire within me to someday have that person who will read my mind, get my sense of humor, and be there to share all of the wonderful experiences life has to offer. There is something deep inside of me that longs to be accepted and loved. Something that thinks this person will fulfill what I so desperately crave. I don’t know, for some reason there is a part of me that believes once I find this person I will be oh-so-happy. But guess what? I’m not there yet. I haven’t found that person. Like many of you, I am notFull Post

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May 1, 2015
How to Find Happiness When Your Heart’s Desire is Unfulfilled

“Rachel was a real knockout. Rachel undoubtedly knew that when it came to feminine charms, she had her sister Leah beat hands down. She must have relished the favor that was hers. She was so beautiful that when Jacob first laid eyes on her, he knew she was the one for him. In their first meeting she captured his heart, and he served her father fourteen years for her. In fact, he loved her so much that the years he spent working to secure her for himself ‘seemed to him but a few days’ (Gen. 29:20). That’s real devotion! With a beginning like this, you would think that theFull Post

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April 29, 2015
Finding True Worth in an Image Obsessed Culture

After years of failed attempts to become a European supermodel, Alana’s dream job finally became a reality. Out of thousands of girls, she was selected to be a runway supermodel for a famous fashion designer in Milan, Italy. She was exactly what they wanted. After spending a short vacation at home with her family in America, she arrived back in Italy only to find that her position had been replaced. “You’re not what we want anymore,” one of the Italian agency directors told her. “You’re too short and too pale. We found someone better.” Alana’s dreams shattered before her eyes. This was her life. She was good enough oneFull Post

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April 27, 2015
Letting Go of Pain and Suffering

When we look around at the circumstances of people in the world today, we discover that there is a vast amount of suffering and pain being endured. Many different people struggle with many different types of suffering. Hospitals are full of horrible diseases and injuries, parents are getting divorces, babies are being aborted, war is raging, people are being sold into slavery, drug abuse and alcoholism is affecting more and more people and the list goes ever on and on. People are hurting. Everyone is affected by suffering or pain at one point in their life. Iit may not be physical but everyone goes through tragedy. And when theyFull Post

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April 24, 2015
Why I Quit Trying to Make Everyone Like Me

A few weeks ago I did an online personality test with my younger sister Ellissa and a good friend of ours. Ellissa randomly came across a free online site and thought it would be fun to try it out. The website nailed each of our personalities. Mine was “entertainer.” Apparently I’m a total extrovert and thrive on being the life of the party. I think my family and most of my friends would agree with that. What struck me most during the survey was a hidden piece of my personality that came to light. The survey asked a question along the lines of, “do you worry about what peopleFull Post

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April 20, 2015
10 Ideas on How to do Your Single Years Well

I sat on my bed, the tears flowing. I’d done it again, interacted with a nice guy and wondered if it was “him.” I got home and realized how incredibly ridiculous I had been. I felt like an utter failure at this being “content in the single years” thing. A failure at keeping my focus where it belonged. This could have been true of me two years ago or two months ago. Hello, my name is Moriah, I live in Illinois where it’s sometimes too cold and sometimes too hot. I have a wonderful family, a great church, and delightful friends. There are a lot of things that contributeFull Post

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April 17, 2015
Taking True Love into Your Romantic Relationships

Somehow she knew he was looking her way. She slowly glanced in his direction to find out. His handsome face smiled at her. Their eyes locked for several long seconds. She shyly smiled back. Invisible sparks flew as butterflies erupted in both of their stomachs. True love just hit the scene. Or did it? The word love comes in all shapes and sizes today. We, as a culture, use it in a casual moment after we bite into a hot slice of pizza, or a monumental moment as we stand at the altar on our wedding day. Love. Such a short, but powerful word. Most of us say theFull Post

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April 14, 2015
The Past 100 Years of Beauty and How it Affects You

My dad and I were catching a quick breakfast before heading into work. We were at the checkout counter in a local bakery waiting to pay our bill. The waitress walked up to the counter and stopped dead in her tracks. She looked me up and down and said, “You are freakishly tall!” I stood there absolutely stunned. I had no idea how to respond to that. I know that at 6’ 1” I’m on the taller side, but I’ve never been called “freakishly tall.” I decided to just smile nicely and say, “Yeah . . . I am really tall . . .ha ha.” Awkward. What Does Perfect LookFull Post

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April 13, 2015
Why Smart Girls Applaud Chivalry (From a Guy)

If you’re like some girls I know, you think chivalry has gone extinct. Or at least is in hibernation. Even as a guy, I look around and see so few men being courteous to women. It’s surprising (not to mention embarrassing). I am constantly asking myself “Is chivalry dead?” Let me be honest: I don’t think it is. I see examples of it in men all around me. It’s just not as common as it used to be. Noah Webster’s 1828 dictionary defines “chivalry” as “the system of knighthood; the privileges, characteristics or manners of knights; the practice of knight errantry [if you’re wondering what “errantry” means, it wasFull Post

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April 10, 2015
The Hardest Thing About Being a Christian Single Girl

I’ve been thinking about this specific blog post for the past two weeks. When I first thought of the title I was excited and ready to write. And then I realized that this isn’t just a normal (1. opening story 2. helpful advice 3. ending questions) blog post. This is a blog post that requires me to be totally down-to-earth and honest. It’s a time for me to open up my heart and be as truthful as I possibly can. I want you to know that I’m just a regular girl, with regular struggles, and regular fears. My life is far from perfect and I am far from perfect.Full Post

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April 8, 2015
Why I Pulled the Plug on TV

“Oh hey, come on in!” I said to my friend while giving her a big hug. This was her first time over to my new house. “We still have a lot of remodeling to do, but we’re getting there.” I said gesturing to a pile of drop cloths and paint cans. “Are you kidding?” she said enthusiastically. “Your house is seriously adorable already!” We slowly walked through the front entryway and into the family room. We chatted back and forth about house projects and remodeling woes. Then, after carefully examining the entire room, she looked at me with a puzzled expression and asked, “I don’t see a TV anywhere…doFull Post

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April 6, 2015
How the Art of Conversation Has Transformed my Life

It was one of those spring days. The sun smiled warmly, and the air carried the fragrance of flowers. Perfect day for a bridal shower. As the guests trickled in, I began to feel like a paperclip in the safety pin tin. I quickly realized this was due to the fact that there were very few people present with whom I was even distantly acquainted. The ladies mingled, chatting and laughing familiarly, while I stood awkwardly on the fringes of conversation. My sweet friend Anna (the bride-to-be) had not yet arrived, so I knew that immediate action on my part would be required if I wanted to avoid furtherFull Post

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April 3, 2015
You’re a Model Whether You Realize it or Not

Everyone was yelling at him. Everyone was mocking him. You stood there watching, not sure what to do. Then, without even realizing it, you started to yell too. Anger burst from your lips as you joined in with the crowd. “Kill him! Kill him!” you sneered, holding your fist in the air. You continued yelling as you followed the crowd up the hill. His body was covered in blood. His face was barely recognizable. Without a thought of sadness, you watched the soldiers pound large nails into his hands. “Hey you!” one of the soldiers yelled, looking straight at you. “Come here!” Without hesitating, you quickly ran over toFull Post

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April 1, 2015
Why Christian Girls Should Take The Bible Seriously

There’s a message that has been on my heart for awhile. Actually it’s more like a passion. This passion is the very reason Kristen and I launched this blog. It’s the reason we publish three posts a week and update our social media sites daily. This passion is what keeps the fire burning. When I look around and see the direction that most young women (even Christian women) are headed, I see the need. I see the need for a better answer. I see the need for young women to make better choices. I see the need for a better outcome. I’m saddened by the skyrocketing numbers of womenFull Post

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March 30, 2015
The Hardest Thing About Being a Christian Teen Girl

“Oh, have you seen this latest movie?” A teen friend of mine went on to tell me the name of the movie she had watched. I sat there, staring blankly, having no idea what she was talking about. She continued telling me about her favorite movies and bands. I continued to sit there, nodding my head, acting like I knew what she was talking about. On the inside, I was searching my memory for any trace of those names. A few more girls joined and rambled on about different celebrities. Half of the time, I didn’t know who these girls they were talking about, but I so desperately wantedFull Post

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March 27, 2015
Do You Ever Feel Like God is a Cosmic Killjoy?

I can only imagine what pop culture would say if they read the GirlDefined blog. They would probably request that we be sent to the insane asylum for crazy thinking. In fact, some of you might think we are at the top of the crazy meter, too. Let me offer you some words of encouragement. We understand that the message of God Defined womanhood is not the norm. It’s not popular or cool, and it’s totally counter cultural. So what’s up with us being so counter cultural? Why are we so passionate about a message that is totally uncool?  Maybe this story will help you understand. “The story isFull Post

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March 25, 2015
How to Change a Guy from a Frog into a Hero

“Guys are stupid.” “Girls are smarter.” “Girls are better than boys.” “Guys don’t know anything.” “Guys don’t have common sense.” These are some of the statements Bethany and I heard again and again from the girls we interviewed during our GirlDefined video (watch here). Our poor brother was behind the camera and later commented on how negative the comments had been. The theme was obvious. The average girl doesn’t view the average guy in very high regard. The “girls rule and boys drool” chant has traveled far beyond the playground. Our society as a whole portrays the average male as nothing more than a stupid, helpless, good-for-nothing slob. AlthoughFull Post

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March 23, 2015
Why Do Girls Always Ask, “Is He Cute?”

It happened twice in one week. I went out to coffee with two different friends, two separate times, both in the same week. Like any normal girls, we talked about the latest “guy updates” in our lives. Here is how our conversation went. Friend: “Soooo, any guy updates in your life?” Me: “Not really any major updates, but there is one guy I’d love to spend some more time with. Friend: “Oh my goodness . . . is he cute?” Me: “Well . . . yeah, I think he is.” Friend: “What does he look like? Do you have a picture?” Do you see what happened in that conversation? MyFull Post

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March 20, 2015
Why Feminism and Christianity Can’t Mix

Let’s play a quick game. It’s called “What comes to mind when you hear the word?” Here we go. First word: Men. What came to mind? Be honest. Next word. Marriage. What popped into your head? Next word: Equality Hmmm…that’ll get a variety of thoughts. What’d you think of? Last word: Feminism Oh yeah. Now we’re getting controversial. What was the first thing that popped into your head when you read that word? Great job! You successfully played your first game of “What comes to mind when you hear the word?” If I played that game in a large auditorium with 50,000 women from all walks of life, theFull Post

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March 18, 2015
I’ll Keep My Clothes On, Thank You

I vividly remember my one and only interview with a local modeling agency. The director pulled out the personal information sheet and slid it across the desk. I scanned through the pages and my hands started to sweat. What was I going to tell this guy? I was supposed to mark down which categories of modeling were most interesting to me. Club wear? Lingerie? Swimwear? None of those options were going to cut it. I was hoping for something with a bit more…coverage. I awkwardly explained to the director my personal convictions for clothing standards. I could see the look of mockery in his eyes. According to him IFull Post

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March 16, 2015
Turning Your “Husband Wish List” On Yourself

It was one of those winter days where you’re never quite warm enough, unless you’re curled up in a big bed with a soft blanket and a good book. I didn’t have anything else to do, so I pulled the covers all around me, and instead of a book, I chose my journal. I had been thinking a lot about character qualities that I would look for in a future husband, so I chose that as my topic, and began writing. In a sense, I was writing out my “husband wish list.” As I wrote, a realization struck me, and the words of a sermon by Andy Stanley cameFull Post

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March 13, 2015
Feminism is Laughing at Our God

The giant stood on the hill laughing at God’s people. “If you are the children of God, come out and fight with me.” How dare that giant mock the children of God. How dare he call them “grasshoppers” that he would crush and feed to the birds. Where were the warriors to stand up against him? Where were God’s people? Why were they allowing this pagan to speak so defiantly against the one true God? Finally a mere boy spoke up. “I will fight the giant!” And with those five little words the camp fell silent in disbelief. “He’s just a boy…that giant will kill him,” whispered the soldiersFull Post

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March 11, 2015
Why Watching People Make Out Should be Awkward

The tension was building. Something big was about to happen. Everyone felt it. The romantic story had been a roller coaster of ups and downs, sorrows and joys. But something was about to change. As the young couple finally realized their passion for one another, it happened. They embraced one another and engaged in a full blown make out session. I sat there watching this climactic scene unfold. And…after about three seconds, I began to feel awkward. I glanced around the room to see if anybody else looked uncomfortable. Nothing. All eyes were locked on the screen. After what felt like an hour, the kissing finally stopped. I’ll beFull Post

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March 9, 2015
So…Why Did God Create Girls?

There were country-style knick-knacks everywhere, and all around the room hung little wooden signs with witty sayings painted on them.  One of these signs caught my eye. It said: “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.” Cute, right? There was even a playful drawing of a fish trying to ride a bicycle with its tail-fins. But is that really the truth? I mean, sure, the world loves to tell girls that they should be strong and independent; it loves to teach that girls don’t need men to be happy or live a fulfilling life, but is that consistent with what the Bible teaches? ToFull Post

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March 6, 2015
Why Pretty Girls Don’t Have What it Takes

How do you know if Hollywood thinks you’re pretty enough? I mean, beauty is in the eye of the beholder right? Well…apparently there’s a certain group of people who are trying to prove that beauty can actually be measured. They call it the “golden ratio.” The golden ratio is a number (1.62 to be exact) which these groups claim can be used to measure beauty. This number is used to measure everything from how far apart your eyes are, to how long your head is, to how much space you have between your chin and lips. If you measure really well (basically perfect according to this group), your numbersFull Post

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March 4, 2015
How to do Prom in a Modest and Pure Way

I scoured the local department stores hoping to find something to wear to prom. I was sixteen years old and was about to experience my first and last prom. Like any normal girl, I wanted to look my absolute best. I wanted feel and look like a princess. After days of endless searching, I decided that the words modesty, tall, and prom did not exist in the same category. I talked with my mom and she kindly took on the task of sewing me a floor length, red silk dress. The day of prom finally arrived. I was so excited. This was something I hoped I would get toFull Post

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March 2, 2015
Living a Life that Younger Girls Should Mimic

The other day I was listening to a conversation between my youngest sister and youngest brother. As I sat there (harmlessly) listening to this conversation I heard my sister mimic something I had said earlier that day. I had no idea that Cali had been in the room when I said it but apparently she was and had just repeated me. Same tone of voice and everything! This got me thinking. It just goes to show how easily young people pick up on positive and negative things that are so small and insignificant to an adult. I began thinking back to what I learned when I was younger fromFull Post

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February 27, 2015
Say Hello to our Big, Tall, Crazy Homeschooling Family

Today is a day for change. Instead of writing a usual topical blog post, I am writing a personal blog post. This a blog about my big, tall, mostly blonde family in the picture above. I want to take you inside my personal life and help you get to know us just a little bit better. Side note: You can see inside our personal lives on our family blog. Check it out for all the latest. Get to know who we are outside of GirlDefined. This is a picture of my immediate family. Two parents. Eight kids and two extras who married in. We are one tall, fun, crazy,Full Post

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February 25, 2015
How to Be Intentionally Available Without Chasing Boys

“Do you think there is a difference between chasing a boy and maturely showing interest in one?” -Rachel This question popped up after we posted a popular article called “When Girls Chase Boys They Don’t Get What They Want.” If you haven’t read it yet, you should! Check it out here, then come back and finish this blog. Back to Rachel. She asks a great question. I used to wrestle with this question myself. In fact, the conclusion I came to was instrumental during my early relationship with Zack. Is it possible to maturely initiate interest in a guy? Well, it depends on what we mean by the wordFull Post

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February 23, 2015
One Girl’s Dreams of Fame and Being in the Spotlight

I wanted fame. Sometimes I still do. My first dream of the spotlight was wanting to be an actress. Oh, how I wanted to star in some heart-rending movie! I lingered on the thought, planning my strategies and begging God to let me act. As I got older, that dream faded, only to be replaced by other quests for fame. I wanted to write a national best seller that would sweep the nation! I would get asked to speak and do interviews! I would be famous! So I sat down to write that earth-shattering manuscript, and guess what? I didn’t make it very far. “God, don’t you want meFull Post

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A Teenage Girl’s Beauty Struggle

Have you ever looked in the mirror, and not liked what you saw? And no matter how hard you tried, your outfit, makeup, hair, etc. just didn’t look ‘good’? That’s me. I’m the girl who everyone thinks is confident, carefree, and knows that God loves me, mainly because I’m the pastor’s daughter. I’m sure that every girl has had this struggle, it’s probably the most popular of all the teenage-girl problems. My hair is plain brown, no volume. My eyes are dull blue-ish grey. I’m short, with absolutely NO curves whatsoever. For the past four years or so, I’ve struggled with the fact that I’m not beautiful. That noFull Post

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February 20, 2015
Becoming a God-Defined Girl in a Culture-Defined World

I once knew a girl who said she loved God. She called herself a Christian and even went to church every Sunday. But the rest of her week was full of activities, school, sports, friends, and just plain busyness. She occasionally read her Bible…but mostly because it was the “right” thing to do. She attended a church youth program once a week, but cared more about hanging out with her friends than growing spiritually. Sadly, this girl began struggling on the inside. She wanted to be a strong Christian, but did very little to help herself get there. I wish this girl was someone else, but she’s not. ThisFull Post

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February 18, 2015
3 Ways to Encourage the Guys in Your World

It was a hot, Texas day about eight summers ago when I had a huge revelation about guys. I was with my team of twelve, six guys and six girls, preparing for a national sporting competition. After one of our many practices under the boiling sun, our coach suggested that we take turns offering up words of encouragement to each other. I guess it was supposed to be a team building activity of sorts. To say the least, I wasn’t really excited about this time of “sharing.” Typically, they contain awkward moments of silence with lots of crickets chirping. But, I didn’t really have a choice in the matter.Full Post

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February 16, 2015
When Life is Tough Cling to This Truth

Every morning after my yawning, stretching, and rubbing of the eyes, I hop out of bed to see the carefully painted wood sign sitting atop my dresser. “It is well with my soul.” Those words to the familiar hymn stare back at me. As I read those piercing words, I feel a little tug at my heart as if they are reminding me to cling to the truth of their powerful message as I try to stay afloat during the craziness of the day. I love that familiar hymn, but all too often I am ashamed to say I struggle to believe those convicting lyrics. Let’s all be honest.Full Post

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February 13, 2015
Being Faithful to a Man You’ve Never Met

I was driving down the highway. Music off. Brain on. Thinking about my life. With talk of Valentine’s in the air, my thoughts drifted toward my future. The simple idea of my future husband being alive and breathing, made me excited. Wow! My future husband is alive, breathing and living life. That’s cool.  And then it hit me. If it’s God’s will for me to get married, my future husband is a real living guy. Not just an imaginary person. One day I will meet him, marry him and spend the rest of my life with him. When I think about my future in such an incredibly realistic way,Full Post

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February 11, 2015
When Romantic Fantasies Get the Best of You

I was at a major league baseball game recently with my grandparents when the strangest thing happened. As the game reached the ninth inning, an entire flock of teen and college age girls began swarming towards my section. They quickly formed a line right across the aisle from where I was sitting. Apparently they were lining up to get photos with some guy. I couldn’t figure out what was so special about this guy, so I asked one of the girls rushing past. She looked at me in slight shock and said. “It’s Juan Pablo Galavis!” I stared blankly back. “Who’s that?” I asked. She looked even more shocked. “He’sFull Post

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February 9, 2015
Does the Month of February Put You in a Bad Mood?

The month of love. The month of romance. The month of roses, chocolates and romantic candlelit dinners. February is known for loading the stores with speciality gifts, beautiful bouquets and heart melting cards. Red, pink and hearts fill the aisles reminding us that it’s almost Valentine’s Day!!! What a fun holiday…if you have a guy! For the rest of us, Valentine’s Day is known as none other than, “Singles Awareness Day.” The day we are confronted with the fact that we are still single. Instead of enjoying the month of February, we, as singles, dread it. We dread the flowers. Dread all the romance in the air. Dread allFull Post

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February 6, 2015
When Girls Chase Boys They Don’t Get What They Want

“Hey, my friend wanted me to tell you that he thinks you’re pretty.” This young whippersnapper pointed across the basketball gym towards his friend. I glanced across the gym and noticed a good looking guy sitting on the second row. “Oh really?” I said raising my eyebrows. “Well, then tell your friend to come tell me that himself.” I smiled. The guy shook his head in acknowledgment and ran off. Later that day, the “real guy” did come talk to me. He didn’t tell me I was pretty to my face, but he did strike up a conversation. We had a fun “teenager-style” chat and I walked away withFull Post

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February 4, 2015
The Starbucks Drive-Thru and a Challenge For You

It was a hot, Texas summer day, and I was headed to Starbucks to get an iced vanilla latte. Right as I pulled up to the speaker to order my drink it happened… The Holy Spirit started convicting my heart. I had a gospel tract in my purse, but I was not in the mood put to pass it out. I started talking to myself. I go to this Starbucks all the time. They are going to think I’m so weird if I give them a tract. My conversation between myself and the Holy Spirit continued on…until I finally gave in and decided I would pass out a tractFull Post

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February 2, 2015
One Girl’s Journey from Brokenness to Beauty

Have you ever looked in the mirror and not liked what you saw? No matter how hard you tried your outfit, makeup, hair, etc. just didn’t look “good?” That’s me. I’m the girl who everyone thinks is confident, carefree, and knows God loves me. Mainly because I’m the pastor’s daughter (any PK’s out there?). I’m sure most of you have had this struggle too. It’s probably the most popular of all the “teenage-girl problems.” My hair is plain brown, no volume. My eyes are dull blue-ish grey, no pop. I’m short with absolutely NO curves whatsoever. For the past four years I’ve struggled with the fact that I’m notFull Post

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January 30, 2015
Getting God Off the Back Burner

I looked my husband in the eyes and told him how much I loved him. I said, “You are the most important person to me. I can’t imagine loving you any more than I already do. You are so valuable and special to me.” After my little time of sharing He said, “I love you too! Let’s get a cup of coffee and sit down and talk. I’d love to share my heart with you and hear what’s on your heart.” As much as I love Him, I looked back and said, “I am really busy . . . I just don’t have any time. I love you soFull Post

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January 28, 2015
Why I’m Not Jumping Into the Gender Blender

I read a disturbing story recently featured in the New York Times. It was about a little boy named Alex who couldn’t decide whether he wanted to be a boy or girl. He knew he was born a boy, but demanded that his parents let him wear dresses sometimes. He was a boy, but demanded that his parents call him a “girl” when he wanted. He liked the idea of being half-boy-half-girl. The article explained that Alex’s parents were conflicted by his constant desire to wear dresses and play with Barbies. His mom, Susan, was struggling to embrace her son’s feminine desires. She decided to seek help. Susan wasFull Post

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January 26, 2015
How to Handle Your First Real Heartbreak

“Bethany, you’ve got to come to Bible study with me. I met this super cool guy and I think he might ask me out soon!!! Oh, and his best friend is awesome too. Maybe you could get to know him *wink wink*.”  I was nineteen years old, carefree and enjoying my post high school freedom. A serious relationship wasn’t really on my mind at this point. I wasn’t interested in going to meet a guy for me, but, decided to go for my friend. If one of my close girl friends was interested in a guy, I wanted to see what the dude was all about. First Serious LoveFull Post

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January 21, 2015
Godly Girls Have These 4 Things in Common

The word guy is the most popular word on our blog. Every single time we have posted a blog about guys, it’s been a huge hit. We’ve put two and two together. Girls want to hear about guys. They want to know how guys think. What guys like. What guys don’t like. What guys want in a girl. What guys are looking for in a wife. I can relate. I’m a single girl. I think guys are a pretty fascinating topic. I’m totally tracking with why the word guy is so popular. No surprise. We as girls like the topic of guys. The bad news. This blog post isFull Post

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January 19, 2015
6 Signs You’re Addicted to Instagram

Do you love Instagram or other photo sharing apps? Are you addicted to them? Let’s find out! Insert your favorite photo sharing app in the context below and see how you measure you. 1. You check Instagram first thing in the morning. You wake up from a good night’s sleep. Another great day. Before you even roll out of bed you glance over to your nightstand. There it is. You get your morning stretch in by reaching for your fully charged phone. Without even thinking you open up Instagram. You catch up on latest since you went to bed last night. You browse every photo until you’re completely caughtFull Post

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January 16, 2015
How to Handle Those Unexpected Single Years

Me: “Sooooo any new guy prospects in your life?” Kelly: “Nope, none in mine. What about you?” Me: “Are you kidding? I’m just as single as ever!” Kelly: “Well, at least we have each other.” Me: “No kidding. I’m glad I’m not the only single girl in town.” That is a typical conversation between me and my friend Kelly. We are both in our mid twenties and *I don’t want to say this* still single. Kelly and I have known each other for nearly our entire lives. Neither one of us would have ever guessed that we would both be in our mid twenties and still single. I alwaysFull Post

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January 14, 2015
Why We Like Hard Working Women

“How much is your allowance?” My snobby 12 year old neighborhood friend asked me. She was at it again. Always trying to one-up me. She didn’t have any siblings and I had seven. Take a quick guess at whose allowance was bigger. I stood there brainstorming for a good comeback. I was in a perpetual state of competition with this girl. How was I going to tell her that I actually didn’t get any allowance money. “Well..” I slowly said. Then I had it. With my chin raised I delivered my speech. “My parents don’t give me an allowance because they say when I grow up to be anFull Post

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January 12, 2015
Can Women Really Have It All?

“Dear Haveitall, You have been lying to me and to my friends. In fact, you’ve lied to millions of women and have deceived them into wasting the best years of their lives. I’m a little upset with how you’ve convinced women to give up the qualities that are completely unique to them. It makes me sad to see women who are entering their 30‘s, 40’s, 50’s and realizing they’ve spent the majority of their lives working towards a goal that won’t bring them the joy and fulfillment they desire.  I can’t keep quiet about this any longer. I have to expose you for who you really are.   Sincerely,Full Post

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January 9, 2015
Dating and Courtship: Is One Better Than the Other?

“So..hey…can I have your phone number?” He asked me smoothly. I pretended not to notice his chuckling friends in the background. There was no way in the world I was giving this guy my phone number. For one, I just met him. Two, I was only sixteen. Three, he wasn’t the type of guy I wanted to stay in “touch” with anyways. If you catch my drift. So, I did what any good Christian girl would do. I decided to play a little joke on him. “Yeah…I’ll give you my phone number” I replied. “But you’ll have to ask my dad for it.” Okay – the chances of this guyFull Post

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January 7, 2015
When Looking Hot Gets You More Attention

I was thirteen years old and heading in for my first experience with the well known photography company Glamour Shots. My mom and I were on a special girls trip to Dallas, Texas to celebrate my birthday. Obviously getting my hair highlighted, nails manicured and pictures taken was a must for this girly girl. I loved every minute of the Glamour Shot experience. The makeup. The hair. The clothes. The looking at pictures. The compliments. I felt beautiful and accepted. After the shoot I looked through the pictures and picked out my favorites. We ordered a package and then left the store to continue on our trip. When theFull Post

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January 5, 2015
Taylor Swift Ditches Purity and Embraces Feminism

A few months ago was the launch of Taylor Swift’s new and “improved” album, 1989. Girls everywhere are raving about the new pop icon’s greatest success and her amazing new style of music. I can’t help but notice that Taylor got her popularity by singing about broken relationships and whimsical love stories. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not hating on Taylor Swift. I used to truly respect and look up to this girl. Taylor was my fashion icon for several years. She wore beautifully vintage feminine dresses and adorable, chic feminine clothes. I used to be able to relate to her on several issues in life and was ecstaticFull Post

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January 2, 2015
A Goal You Can’t Live Without

I pulled up to a coffee shop several days ago with my sister, Ellissa, for our weekly mentoring meeting. She graciously asked me to be her mentor earlier this year and we’ve had some incredible meetings over the past 6 months. As we prepared to get out of the car she began telling me about a really interesting New Years fact she heard about. She went on to tell me about the shocking difference someone discovered when they compared the top 3 New Year’s goals of the 1940’s to the top 3 New Year’s goals of today. Here’s what they look like: 2015: 1. Lose weight 2. Get moreFull Post

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December 31, 2014
Top 10 Blog Posts of 2014

Lindsey logged into her e-mail and saw the words “future husband” in one of the titles. Guys, marriage and romance had been on her mind recently, so, she decided to click the link. As Lindsey read through the blog, she thought to herself, “this is exactly what I needed right now. I wonder if there are any other girls dealing with the same thoughts and struggles as myself.”  Lindsey clicked on a few related posts and then rushed to get ready for the day. Lindsey had no idea that thousands of other girls, with questions and struggles of their own, were reading the very same blog post that sheFull Post

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December 29, 2014
What Kind of Girl To Be In 2015: Advice From a Guy

I’m guessing that 2014 was an eventful year for you. For me, the year held unexpected surprises, some sadness, uncertainty, many laughs and countless memories. God’s hand in life was evident daily. Now, however, there are only two days left on the 2014 calendar and I’m planning for 2015. Which leads me to ask you a question: What do you want out of 2015? Do you want it to be a year of adventure? Spiritual growth? Broadened horizons? Are you going to focus on a character quality in your life? Helping others? Let me suggest that you can pursue all of the above if you have one thing: a focusFull Post

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December 26, 2014
Why You Should Still Party the Day After Christmas

I don’t know about you, but today can be a sad day for me sometimes. I’ve been hyped up on Christmas cheer and anticipation for weeks and now everything is over. It’s kind of a small bummer. Did you know there’s actually something called the “The Christmas Blues?” Some people literally feel depressed the day after Christmas because all of the festivities are over. It’s not surprising since all of the Christmas songs tell us “it’s the most wonderful time of the year” for weeks leading up to Christmas day. If Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year…what does that make the day-after Christmas? For most people,Full Post

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December 24, 2014
God Used a Teenage Girl to Accomplish the Impossible

She had no guarantees. She had no promises for her future. She wasn’t handed a map telling her how her life would work out or how the details would unfold. She was given a message by a man she’d never seen, was told she would accomplish something that had never been done in the past and would never be done in the future. She was given a message with no further instructions and was left to trust that God would work out the plan. Mary was only a young teenage girl when she was assigned the most important job in the world. God chose Mary, a young unmarried woman,Full Post

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December 22, 2014
What an Amish Guy Taught Me About Christmas

I was driving down the road the other day listening to one of our local Christian radio stations. The DJ asked people to call in and share something that helps them keep Christmas in its proper place. As I was listening, this lady called in from Pennsylvania and said she has several Amish friends in the area (she is not Amish). One evening during a Christmas party she was talking to one of the Amish guys and asked him how his family celebrates Christmas. He shared with her many of his favorite family traditions and how special each one was to him. She went on to ask if hisFull Post

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December 19, 2014
When Good Girls Do Dumb Things

It was a hot summer day a little over ten years ago, when Kristen and I decided to do a really dumb thing. Back in those days, we were known as the “good girls” and we thought we did a good job of measuring up to that reputation. In a way, we almost felt immune to doing bad things and never really imagined ourselves making any dumb decisions. We grew up in a Christian family, attended church regularly, were homeschooled, didn’t date around and actually liked our parents. We figured life was good, we were good and   we weren’t really capable of doing dumb things. Wrong!  Let’s getFull Post

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December 17, 2014
7 Deadly Sins You Should Run From

There are some things in life that are extremely tempting for me. There’s a Starbucks Coffee shop right down the street from where Zack and I live and their grande, decaf, no-whip mocha seems to call my name every time I drive by. If there was some way to justify it as “healthy” and budget friendly, I would probably drink several cups a day. Zack asked me a funny, but true question the other day. “Why do all the unhealthy food and drinks have to taste so good?! Why can’t a carrot or a piece of celery have the same taste-bud-explosion experience? It would be so much easier toFull Post

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December 15, 2014
Six Verses on Purity That Every Girl Should Know

I recently received an email from a girl asking me to send her Bible verses on the topic of purity. The girl said she vaguely knew that the Bible promoted purity and holiness, but that she wasn’t exactly sure where to find the passages. After I emailed her back with a list of verses I wondered if there were more girls out there like her. Girls who know that the Bible “promotes purity” but aren’t exactly sure where to find the passages in the Bible. If you are one of those girls who wants to fight for purity, keep reading. This blog post is written for you! Let’s beFull Post

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December 12, 2014
Why Christian Girls Should Be Beautiful but Not Seductive

Several months ago I wrote a controversial blog post that went viral and picked up a lot of positive and negative attention. It currently has over 730 comments and has reached over a million people. It’s called “Why Christian Girls Post Seductive Selfies.” If you’re interested, you can read it here. My main point was to bring up the question of why so many Christian girls post provocative, sensual and seductive selfies online. I challenged Christian girls to reevaluate their online images and ask themselves if what they’re posting is honoring to God. After reading through several hundred of the comments I began noticing a theme. People were makingFull Post

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December 8, 2014
When God Doesn’t Give You What You Desperately Want

Three and half years ago I stood at the altar of a beautiful church with a handsome groom across from me beaming from ear to ear. I was getting married (read more on that here) and everything in my life seemed absolutely perfect. I had a loving, wonderful, supportive family and was marrying into an equally awesome family. My soon-to-be husband had a great job with no fear or concern for financial struggles. I was experiencing top notch health and didn’t have a single ache or pain to be burdened by. My relationship with God was really good and I had an exciting future ahead of me. I actuallyFull Post

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December 5, 2014
It Takes a Tough Girl to Say These Words

I remember three very distinct times in my life that I had to be a tough girl. Once at age seventeen, twenty and twenty-four. When I was seventeen I’d been offered multiple full basketball scholarships to division one universities. Basketball was my passion and I loved playing. When I wasn’t playing basketball I was either talking about it, thinking about it or dreaming about it. In my junior year of high school the university basketball coaches needed an answer from me and I had to give them my final decision. After many hours of prayer and long discussions with my parents, the answer was crystal clear. I didn’t acceptFull Post

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December 3, 2014
Is it Wrong to Be Angry at God?

I held her little furry body in one hand as she licked my face. This tiny puppy had me at “ruh-roh.” She was so small and yet so full of life. I looked at my husband, Zack, and he knew I was sold. “I guess this means we’re taking the puppy.” He said to the owner. We exchanged money and paperwork and before I knew it I was holding a 1 lb., 8 week old Maltipoo puppy on my lap as we drove home. She was my early Christmas present. “I just love her!” I said with a huge smile as her big black eyes looked into mine. “SheFull Post

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December 1, 2014
Why I’m Not Looking for JUST a Husband

I am going to do something that I’ve never done in a blog post before. I’m going to open up my journal and share some completely personal things that I wrote down this past week. Here’s the deal, last week I was sitting on my bed praying for different members in my family, for the GirlDefined Ministry and then, for my future husband. As I was praying for my future husband, my mind started working and I began truly thinking about what I was praying for. I wondered…am I praying for JUST a husband or am I praying for something more? Do I JUST want to get married andFull Post

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November 28, 2014
This is Better than Black Friday Deals

I am one of “those” people. The crazy type who goes Black Friday shopping and hunts for awesome deals late into the night. Yep, that was me last night. My husband showed true love by escorting me to all of the many stores I “needed” to go to. And to top it off, we just added a new puppy addition to our family which we couldn’t leave behind. Hand-in-hand with our puppy, Addie, in tow we scoured the stores for Christmas presents until we dropped. I love finding great deals, but one thing I’ve noticed about Black Friday shopping is how they keep pushing “Friday” earlier and earlier. EverythingFull Post

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November 26, 2014
Are You a Whiner or a Worshiper? {Free Book Giveaway}

I quietly walked up the stairs and peeked inside my friends bedroom. The lights were dimmed and she was asleep. I tip-toed over to her bed and whispered, “surprise” as I held up her favorite Starbucks drink in my hand. She smiled up at me and then slowly sat up. From the outside, she looked as sweet, beautiful and joyful as I always remembered, but on the inside she is in terrible pain. The doctors have exhausted their level of knowledge and have told her multiple times that “we don’t know what else to do.”  Despite the doctors’ words of hopelessness and lack of answers, my friend, Grace, hasFull Post

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November 21, 2014
Why Your Singleness is a Really Big Deal

Have you ever had one of those AH-HA moments in your life? I had one of those last week as I was talking to a friend at church about her recent broken engagement. She shared with me her heartache, but also the hope of knowing that God is sovereign and He does have a plan for her life. God knew her engagement would be broken and still allowed her to go through it for a very specific reason. Although she may not understand why, she is choosing to trust God and praise Him through this storm. She went on to explain how she is grateful that God is givingFull Post

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November 19, 2014
Planning a Future You Won’t Regret

Conversation #1: Me: “Hey Rachel! Since you’re a senior in high school now, what do you think you’ll do once you graduate?” Rachel: “Oh…well, I’m not really sure. I applied for a bunch of colleges, so if I get accepted to one, I guess that’ll be God’s sign that I should go!” Me: “I see…so have you prayed about which college you should go to?” Rachel: “Not really…I mean, I don’t really need to. The college that accepts me will probably be God’s will for me.” Conversation #2: Me: “How ya doing Ashley? Congrats on graduating from high school last week! That’s super exciting. Do you have plans forFull Post

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November 17, 2014
5 Truths to Combat “Out-of-Control” Emotions

Sarah checked her outfit in the mirror, grabbed her purse and headed out the door. She had been planning and preparing for homecoming night for months and couldn’t wait to meet up with her friends. She arrived at school only to find Jake, her crush, laughing and chatting it up with some of the most popular girls in school. Sarah’s emotions ran wild with jealousy and she found herself sulking the entire night. She couldn’t help but wonder if Jake “liked” one of those girls and would soon forget that she existed. Sarah’s emotions were out-of-control when it came to guys. When guys noticed her she was happy, whenFull Post

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November 14, 2014
Lost Virginity: Practical Help to Reclaim Your Future

Jana was new to youth group and seemed to have a built in magnet for every guy who met her. She was pretty, but very quiet, which instantly created intrigue and curiosity in all the guys who saw her. Her parents weren’t a fan of her having a boyfriend until she was older, so she didn’t take any of the guys too seriously. Until she met Nate. Nate was the youth pastor’s son and didn’t flock to her like the rest of the guys. This created curiosity and intrigue in Jana and she became secretly determined to add his attention to her list. Within a week they were friends.Full Post

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November 12, 2014
10 Books That Will Change Every Girl’s Life

When I turned thirteen years old I had some major life questions. I wanted to understand how to deal with big areas in my life like guys, purity, morals, the future, femininity, and my worth and value as a girl. I had (still have) awesome parents who gave me great advice and provided me with incredible resources to learn from. One of the most challenging and helpful resources I had as a teen were books. The authors of these books were some of my best mentors and counselors. I want to give you the inside scoop on my top ten favorites of all time. These are the ten booksFull Post

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November 10, 2014
Should Christian Girls Wear Purity Rings?

My bags were packed, the car was loaded with snacks, and I was ready to embark on a milestone road trip with my mom. It was a very significant trip in my life because it marked the end of my childhood season and the beginning of womanhood. My family has a really neat tradition where each kid gets to take a special trip with one of my parents (girls go with mom and boys with dad) shortly after we enter our teen years. The purpose of the trip is for my parents to spend quality one-on-one time with us and to officially launch us into becoming men and women. OnceFull Post

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November 7, 2014
What Your Dream Guy Wants in a Girl

I recently did an interview on the topic of dating, marriage and courtship. I was giving my thoughts on romance, boundaries, guys and how I want my future relationship to work out. One of the questions the lady interviewing me asked was “what qualities are you looking for in guy?”  Talk about a super basic question that I should easily know the answer to. Wrong! I was totally caught off guard and had to scramble to give an answer. It had been awhile since I’d seriously thought through that question and wasn’t really prepared. After the interview I rethought through her question and was pretty satisfied with my “on the spot”Full Post

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November 5, 2014
How to Have Godly Friendships with Guys

Interacting with guys on a regular basis is a normal part of life. Some girls go out of their way to make sure they get plenty of guy time in their life, while other girls awkwardly avoid contact with guys. Whether you feel natural and comfortable around guys or not, you need to learn what the right and biblical way to treat them is. I love what Leslie Ludy says about this topic, “It’s not more spiritual to act shy and insecure in a conversation with a guy. You can be friendly, outgoing, and confident toward any guy you meet. The key is to be God-honoring in the wayFull Post

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October 31, 2014
From a Guy: Why Being Different is Good

*Disclaimer: To those of you who hate and fear bugs, please brave your fear and continue reading. Lucy the ladybug has a pretty good life. Lots to eat, wings she can use to fly, and a colorful outfit to boot. But one day Lucy sees Doris the doodlebug. Doris’s whole life is a party – lots of friends, great food, surrounded by guy doodlebugs, and wearing the newest style. Doris is living the dream. Lucy envies Doris. Pretty soon she starts using the words Doris uses, crawling like Doris, and eating the same things as Doris. But no matter how hard Lucy tries, she still sticks out like aFull Post

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October 29, 2014
Halloween: When Nice Girls Turn Naughty

“Awww Man, I hate this holiday.” He said rolling his eyes. “I just don’t get it…” “Oh really?” I asked, “What are you talking about?” This is me several years ago having a conversation with a Christian college guy I knew. “I just don’t get Halloween parties and Christian girls. Why do so many Christian girls use this holiday as an excuse to dress in raunchy costumes?” He asked raising his eyebrows in question. “I don’t know…” I said. “It is kinda weird.” “Like, my Christian college has tons of Halloween parties and I don’t even want to go to any of them.” He continued. “It’s just too awkwardFull Post

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October 27, 2014
3 Secrets That Changed Michelle’s Life

If you had the choice which girl would you choose to be? Girl #1 Shannon Shannon grew up in church, was raised by Christian parents, attended youth group on a weekly basis and even went on short-term missions trips. As Shannon grew older she became very self-conscious and desired to be loved and accepted by those around her. Instead of turning to God’s Word to discover her value in God’s eyes, Shannon turned to the culture. She slowly but surely bought into the lie that beauty, a good looking body and attention from guys was the key to happiness. Shannon’s life soon became an out-of-control mess as she strivedFull Post

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October 24, 2014
When “The Best of Me” Isn’t That Good

Boy meets girl, they “fall in love,” they jump in bed together, and then grow up and move miles apart. Unfortunately, the story doesn’t end there. If having sex before marriage wasn’t bad enough, this pair of high school sweethearts return to their hometown many years later and decide to hook up again. There’s a catch though. She now has a husband. Instead of remaining faithful to her husband and family, she believes “fate” is reuniting her with her former beau. Instead of telling him, “Sorry, I’m married and can’t go out with you anymore,” she jumps at the chance to rekindle an old flame. In dazzling lights andFull Post

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October 22, 2014
Fierce Girls Needed For Battle

FIERCE  “I’m hot, I’m sexy and I’m in control.”  A few years back a friend of mine pulled up the computer to show me pictures of a semi-finalist on the popular show America’s Next Top Model. It just so happened that the girl competing for the Top Model title attended my friends university. My friend was so shocked by how “fierce” this girl looked in her photos that she just had to show me. This girl definitely had the “I’m hot, I’m sexy and I’m in control” fierce look going on. She must have been trained well by the shows host, Tyra Banks. This whole idea of being fierce wasFull Post

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October 20, 2014
What Marilyn Monroe Didn’t Have

She starred in thirty major films, was awarded the Golden Globe for “Female World Film Favorite,” started her own production company, voted “2nd Greatest Movie Star” of all time by Premiere Magazine, and was chosen by Empire Magazine as one of the “100 Sexiest Stars in Film History.” She was beautiful, talented, successful, and seemed to have everything a girl could dream of, except for one thing – happiness. Her life came to a tragic end on August 5, 1962 due to a drug overdose. She was only 36 years old. Sadly, this is the story of America’s most iconic woman, Marilyn Monroe. The cultures false version of beauty andFull Post

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October 17, 2014
How Boy-Crazy Are You? {Free Book Giveaway}

Does boy craziness seem so . . . junior high? You might be surprised. Take the Boy-Crazy Quiz to find out where your focus is. Simply answer yes or no to the following fourteen questions. I’m going to make a quick cup of chai while you’re working on it. See you in a few! In a room full of people, do you always know where “he” is? (yes/no) Are boys your number-one favorite topic of conversation with your friends? (yes/no) Do you often dress to catch a guy’s attention? (yes/no) Do you replace one crush with another almost as soon as you realize the first relationship is not going anywhere?Full Post

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October 15, 2014
Are Pretty Faces Worth More?

I looked at the card and shoved it in my wallet. A recruiter for a local modeling agency was trying to convince me to pursue a career in the industry. I smiled at the woman and said, “I’ll think about it.” then walked away. I was seventeen or eighteen years old at this time. I wasn’t interested in a modeling career at this point because basketball and sports ruled my time. I was an athletic sports girl, not a fashion model. I didn’t put another thought into the modeling scene until I graduated from high school. I started to get curious. With the cautious approval of my parents IFull Post

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October 13, 2014
7 Habits of a Wimpy Girl

Bethany and I came home yesterday from an awesome weekend in Indianapolis attending the True Woman ’14 National Women’s Conference. We met some amazing women of faith and were challenged in our own understanding of biblical womanhood and what it means to have a personal walk with Jesus. On Friday morning we heard an eye opening message by Mary Kassian on how NOT to be a wimpy woman in this world. She highlighted 7 bad habits that most Christian girls and women fall prey to. After her message, I was blown away by how easily I fall prey to our world’s way of thinking and buy into its lies.Full Post

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October 10, 2014
Reporting LIVE From True Woman ’14

Tuesday night Kristen and I packed our bags, preparing to fly out the next morning to attend one of the best womens’ events in history. Which event is that? The True Woman ‘14 Conference hosted by Revive Our Hearts and Nancy Leigh DeMoss. It’s seriously the most counter-cultural, mind-blowing, life-changing event that a young woman could attend. That is why I love it so much and why I wish each and every one of you could be here. Since you weren’t able to make it to the conference, I want to give you a snapshot of the opening ceremonies and share some quotes from these top notch authors and speakers.Full Post

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October 8, 2014
How the True Woman Movement Changed our Lives

Exactly four years ago Bethany and I headed out on a road trip to a conference that we knew very little about. We heard it was going to be amazing but we had never experienced it first hand. Four days later, a notebook full of notes, and our brains exploding with awesomeness, we knew we had discovered a gold mine. I’m talking about the one and only True Woman Conference. And now, exactly four years later, we’re headed back to the True Woman ‘14 Conference in Indianapolis and we are SO excited about it. In fact, we’re probably on the plane right now as you’re reading this! If youFull Post

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October 6, 2014
3 Amazing Benefits of Living at Home

As soon as I hit my senior year of high school I started getting the comments. “I bet you can’t wait to get out of your house.” “Once you graduate, move out and gain some independence!” “I love living on my own. There is so much freedom and no more parents telling you what to do. I totally recommend it.” To be honest, I liked living at home and didn’t really see a reason to move out. My friends were all moving out, going to college, and loving their newfound freedom. They couldn’t understand why I wanted to continue to live at home after my eighteenth birthday. Community, accountability,Full Post

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October 1, 2014
Guy Answers Questions on Purity Rings, Weight, Makeup and More

It seems like every girl has questions in the back of her mind that she just wishes she could ask a godly guy. Questions that would give her as close to a “guy’s perspective on life” as she could get. We are so glad to inform you that this post is exactly that!   We had the opportunity to have three young ladies brainstorm and come up with a few questions that they would ask a guy, if given the opportunity. Their questions are in bold below. We took those questions and sent them on over to our guy blogger, Beecher, and had him answer the questions from his perspective.Full Post

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September 29, 2014
Surviving the Relationship Status

Lori tossed her books onto her nightstand and then threw herself onto her bed. She began sobbing into her pillow. God had finally blessed her with an amazing man in her life and things were going great between them. She just couldn’t understand why she felt so scared and so upset.  Lori had thought that once she began a relationship with someone it would be fun and all of her problems would go away! So why was Lori so out of whack and emotional? Because things were changing. Life couldn’t be the same way that it had always been for Lori and that thought scared her. Flashes of doubt,Full Post

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September 26, 2014
7 Good Reasons to Hate Cosmo Magazine

If you’re one of those girls who’s never heard of Cosmopolitan Magazine – praise the Lord! For the rest of you who couldn’t avoid seeing the front cover in your grocery store checkout aisle or worse, purchased it, this blog is especially for you. Let me rewind real quick. Earlier this year I noticed a particularly explicit magazine in the checkout aisle at my grocery store. The cover was raunchier and more shocking than the typical magazine I see, and I couldn’t help but do something about. After some encouragement from a friend, I called my grocery store headquarters and navigated my way to the man in charge ofFull Post

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September 24, 2014
Confessions of a Skinny Obsessed Girl

There I was, waking up every morning with a new resolve to not eat as much as I did the day before. I was determined to eat less so I didnʼt gain weight, but every day it seemed like I failed. My thoughts as I stood in front of the mirror went something like this: “Why can’t I just be skinny? I would be so much happier if I was as thin as a Gap model. I’m not going to eat anything till dinner, and when it comes, I’m going to have bird size portions.” I hated thinking this way, but I felt helpless. I would remind myself thatFull Post

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September 19, 2014
Duggar Girls, Guys and People Magazine

I set my groceries on the counter at the checkout line and noticed a Duggar girl on the front of PEOPLE magazine. I was shocked!  In case you aren’t familiar with the Duggars, they are a famous conservative, Christian and homeschooling family. They are well known for their reality television series called 19 Kids and Counting.  Think about that, an ultra conservative homeschooling family with 19 kids being featured on the cover of PEOPLE magazine. That just doesn’t make any sense. PEOPLE magazine is the source for celebrity updates and gossip. Homeschool families and PEOPLE Magazine do not jive. Why would any reader of PEOPLE magazine care about theFull Post

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September 17, 2014
Why Peer Pressure will Make or Break You

I was fifteen years old and surrounded by my girl friends at a sleepover party. The birthday girl stands up and announces that we’re all going to watch a movie. She says the name of the movie and my heart immediately sinks. This movie was bad news. What’s worse, I knew specifically that my parents did not want me to see it. All the girls cheered as my friend popped it into her VHS player. I didn’t want to look dumb by leaving the room or worse, announcing that “my parents wouldn’t approve.” Instead, I caved into peer pressure like a little mute mouse and silently watched the film.Full Post

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September 15, 2014
Your Womanhood is Not About You

After a long and deep sleep Adam finally woke up. There before his eyes was the most beautiful creature he had ever laid eyes on. This newest creation was beyond anything he could have ever imagined. He immediately realized that this beautiful woman was perfectly designed for himself. She had been taken from his very own body and was fashioned to fit him perfectly.  Can you imagine how Adam must have felt that first moment he laid eyes on Eve? Wow! What a way to get a woman. Not only was Adam getting a companion, lover, and friend, he was getting a woman who would compliment him and helpFull Post

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September 12, 2014
How to Not Have an Abortion Some Day

Rachel was a Christian girl from a conservative family. She grew up in church and went to all the Christian conferences. As she grew older, she decided she didn’t like the straight and narrow path of the Christian life, so she ventured out to try some worldly “fun.” After several bad friendships, parties, and guys, she woke up one morning and found herself pregnant. Shocked and embarrassed, she didn’t know what to do. Becoming a single mother had never been in her plans…but here she was. Her life came to a fork in the road and she had to make a choice.  Rachel hated the idea of getting anFull Post

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September 10, 2014
Getting Married Is Still a Good Thing

Little girls are no longer growing up and being pushed towards marriage and motherhood. In fact, girls are looked down upon if marriage and motherhood is anywhere in the top 10 on their priority list. How do I know this? Because it’s happened to me and it’s happened to almost every young woman I interact with. It doesn’t matter if you’re a homeschooler, private schooler or public schooler, the pressure is the same. If you tell people that you are pursuing a career, going to school or fighting to get to the top of the corporate ladder, you will find nothing but praise and applause! If you tell peopleFull Post

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September 8, 2014
4 Ways our Raunch Culture is Lying to You

It was Christmas morning when 6 year old Kelly was exposed to our raunch culture for the first time. She excitedly opened one of her presents and pulled out a small doll. It wasn’t the type of doll you might imagine a little girl playing with though. No, this was a new kind of doll. This was a doll invented as a result of people in America embracing the most recent feminist ideas. Little Kelly pulled her Bratz doll out of the box with wide eyes. Dressed in a mini skirt, skimpy shirt, fishnet leggings, platform heels and dowsed in heavy makeup, Kelly wasn’t sure what it was. “DoFull Post

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September 5, 2014
The Secret that Tormented Me

Long long ago when Kristen and I were just young girls, living at home, enjoying life and building tree forts, we stumbled upon a secret that kept us tormented for weeks. Kristen asked my mom to type in the internet passcode on our big old desktop computer (laptops weren’t really a thing back in those dinosaur days). It just so happened that my moms fingers were greasy from the food that she was eating and the grease left marks on each key she pressed. Kristen was a smart little whip and wrote down the letters on each greasy key and called me over to help decipher the code. OurFull Post

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September 3, 2014
3 Side Effects of Loving Yourself

I was driving down the road the other day when I suddenly hit a bunch of traffic. I was in a hurry and not in the mood to be generous to any intruding cars trying to merge into my lane. As one car tried to squeeze their way in front of me, I reluctantly slowed down and let them over out of sheer Christian obligation. I wasn’t excited about it. Ever been there? Not too long before that I was with a large group of people and pulled out my pack of gum to grab a quick piece. Instead of offering a piece to everyone in the group, IFull Post

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September 1, 2014
Brave Girls Needed! Will You Share the Gospel?

I walked down to the school bus stop and waited to pick up the kids I was nannying. I noticed there was a new girl waiting to pick up kids as well. I introduced myself and found out she was from Europe and worked directly across the street from me also as a nanny. Sara and I soon built a sweet friendship. I introduced her to my family, and she became a regular guest in our house. She was even invited to spend Christmas with us! A Big Opportunity As time went on, I realized that Sara did not believe in Jesus as her personal Savior. Sara didn’t knowFull Post

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August 29, 2014
Mind-Virgin: Saving More than Just Your Body

I walked down the long aisle in my beautiful silk dress. My heart pounded with excitement as I locked eyes with my handsome husband-to-be. He beamed from ear to ear as I slowly approached him. This was the day, the moment we had been anticipating for the past eight months. We were both raised in Christian homes and were taught from a young age that saving sex for marriage was the Biblical and right thing to do. The anticipation of giving the gift of virginity to one another was overwhelmingly exciting. There we stood on our wedding day – both virgins and looking as pure and as perfect asFull Post

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August 27, 2014
Taylor Swift and Her Big VMA Reveal

This past Sunday night the highly anticipated VMAs took place in sunny California. Screaming fans stood on the sidelines of the red carpet hoping to catch a glimpse of their favorite celebrity. For those who couldn’t make it to California they were able to live stream the event from the comfort of their own home. Taylor Swift’s fans were waiting on pins and needles for her arrival to the red carpet. Fans could hardly make it through the night as they waited for her highly anticipated first ever big reveal of her live performance to the pop song Shake it off. Taylor decided to reveal a little more thanFull Post

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August 25, 2014
College, Guys, and the Homeschooled Girl

School is starting and that means college will be commencing soon too. All of your friends are going off to college and you feel left out, shied into a corner and stuffed into a box with the rest of your homeschooled friends. What’s worse is that maybe you’re old enough to have a boyfriend now and it seems like all of your friends have either been in a relationship or they are in one now. You’re the odd ball out on this one too. Boys seem like uncharted territory to you. You wish you could crawl up into your bed, pull the covers over your head and just waitFull Post

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August 22, 2014
How to Become a Godly Girl

I was at a wedding recently and noticed how beautiful the bride’s wedding cake was. It not only looked good but it tasted really good too. The cake didn’t start out that way though. The day before the wedding it was nothing more than a pile of flour, sugar, eggs, butter, etc. In order to get the amazing end result that was displayed at the wedding reception someone had to carefully follow the directions on the recipe. If anything was left out, or if too much of one ingredient was added, the cake would have been a flop. Real life works the same way. As a Christian girl, youFull Post

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August 20, 2014
5 Reasons I’m Ditching the “Me Time” Mentality

I grabbed my computer and headed to my bedroom for some Me Time. I was exhausted from the day’s work and just wanted to “veg” out in front of my computer. Browsing through Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest was exactly what I thought I needed to rest up for the next day. The hours flew by and I lazily closed my eyes and fell asleep. I woke up the next day, went through the usual routine, and came home tired and in need of more, you guessed it, Me Time. Day after day I cherished my Me Time in hopes of feeling energized, rested up and excited about the nextFull Post

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August 18, 2014
Why Committed Girls Win in the End

“Do you have a boyfriend?” One girl asked her friend as they bagged my groceries. “Yeah, I do…but I still keep my eyes open.” She said winking at her friend. My ears perked up when she said that. Since I blog for GirlDefined, I’m always interested in hearing what teenage girls think about life. “My boyfriend is great,” she continued, “but I’m not gonna lie – there are a lot of really cute guys that work here too.” The two girls giggled. “I have a lot of crushes on the side.” I walked away thinking about their conversation and had a feeling it would make it into one ofFull Post

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August 15, 2014
Inspire Boys to Become Men

Guys are watching. It was a hot Texas day about eight summers ago when I had a huge revelation about guys. I was with my team of twelve, six guys and six girls, preparing for a national sporting competition. After one of our many practices under the boiling sun, our coach suggested that we take turns offering up words of encouragement to each other. I guess it was supposed to be a team building activity of sorts. To say the least, I wasn’t really excited about this time of “sharing.” Typically, they contain awkward-moments-of-silence with lots of *crickets chirping.* But, I didn’t really have a choice in the matter.Full Post

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August 14, 2014
Help for the Crush-Obsessed Girl

It’s 7:00pm and the varsity guy’s basketball team is running onto the court. I have a front row seat in the bleachers when I set eyes on him. Tall, blue eyes, good-looking, extremely athletic – how was a girl supposed to resist crushing on this guy?? Our eyes met during the game while he was shooting free throws (and I was sitting strategically behind the goal). Sparks flew. He slipped a dozen more glances at me throughout the game and I was toast. He casually made his way over to me after the game and introduced himself. We chatted for a few minutes before his coach called him awayFull Post

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August 13, 2014
Guy Thoughts: Come on Girl, Keep it Modest

In today’s culture modesty is totally out of style. The phrase that I’d say best describes the current trend would be “less is more – show your skin.” Skin is everywhere: billboards, magazines, social media – everyone everywhere seems to be attempting to show off as much skin as possible and draw as much attention to themselves as they can. The American culture is constantly putting the *wrong* message into girls’ heads. “If you don’t flaunt what you’ve got, guys are going to pass you over and move on to the skin-revealing, midriff-baring, hottie.” You probably already know this, but I’ll say it anyways: Guys are extremely visual. IFull Post

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August 12, 2014
Confessions of a Flirting Queen

Where it all began. I was in sixth grade and knew exactly how to work it. Every girl at church camp liked the same guy and I was determined to get his attention. He was cute, popular and I wanted nothing less than for him to like me. I wasn’t interested in a relationship or anything serious because I was only 12 years old. I just liked the way I felt when I had his attention. I clearly remember the situation. We were playing knock out (a basketball game) on the camp sports court. I made my shot and then went in to lure my prey. I ran overFull Post

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August 11, 2014
How Christian Guys Describe a Godly Girl

Click HERE to watch the video. I was one of those high school girls who was all about guys. A day didn’t go by where I wasn’t thinking about one of my crushes. I spent a lot of time flirting with guys, but even more than that I spent countless hours dreaming about them. I clearly remember wondering what certain guys were thinking. Getting inside of a guy’s mind intrigued me and I wanted to know how they thought about girls. Have you ever wanted to know that? Well, several years later my wishes became reality. I got married! Ever since then I’ve had a front row seat into the mindFull Post

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August 8, 2014
Equality With Guys Does Not Mean Sameness

There’s a group of women who say, “If a man can go shirtless than a woman should be able to as well.” This group of activists claims they are fighting for “gender equality.” They have decided that equality with guys means total sameness as guys. Anything a man can do a woman can do, right? I’m sad to say that this group of activists will be coming to my city to put on this ridiculous display. I guess their goal is to cause a big scene, get people riled up, and then get them to jump on board with their message. Before you get all up in arms letFull Post

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August 6, 2014
Self-Esteem: Why Christian Girls Don’t Need it

Meet Jenny. She’s a tall and lanky high school girl who wishes she was shorter and prettier. Jenny hates the way she looks. She’s never had a boyfriend and blames it on the fact that she’s too tall and too ugly. Years of bitterness and anger turn Jenny into a depressed young woman. Her parents decide to take her to a counselor. After hearing about her problems, the counselor explained to Jenny that she suffered from having low self-esteem. The counselor said that the solution to this problem is to simply love and accept herself more. Like Jenny, millions of girls around the world are struggling with similar feelingsFull Post

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August 1, 2014
Letting Go of the Guy

I was recently in a very serious relationship with a young man, praying over the possibility of getting married. After long hours of praying, fasting, and more praying, God made His will known. Although the answer wasn’t what I had originally hoped for, I surrendered my dreams of marriage to God and ended the relationship. Letting go of the guy wasn’t easy.  If you have ever been in a break-up, ended courtship, broken engagement, etc., you know just how hard ending a relationship can be. When I started this relationship, I wanted to get married very badly and didn’t want anyone or anything to get in my way. Thankfully,Full Post

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July 30, 2014
How to Outshine a Supermodel

The months of preparation were finally finished. The big night was here. The runway was ready, the lights were shining, and the cameras were rolling. After ten hours of makeup, hair, spray tans, manicures, and fake eyelashes, the models were ready. They looked flawless. “And now,” the announcer said with his best radio host voice, “the moment we have all been waiting for!” The music started and the models emerged onto the runway. “The most beautiful and perfect females on the planet!” he said enthusiastically. We live in a society where the picture-perfect female is nothing less than a highly  airbrushed supermodel. As girls we’re tempted to feel uglyFull Post

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July 28, 2014
Guys Speak Out About Girls Showing Cleavage

The girls in the audience sat on the edges of their seats as they watched the video play. The speaker had recorded several different godly guys sharing their personal thoughts and opinions on the topic of modesty. The guys were asked very specific questions about modesty and then the recording was replayed on the big screen for the girls. One question was asked,  “When a girl shows midriff is that a temptation for you as a guy? Why or why not?” The girls in the audience were shocked to hear the responses from the guys. The girls had no idea that the clothes they wear could be such aFull Post

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July 25, 2014
Chocolate Covered Sin

The lights were off and we could hear our dad making his way to bed. Bethany and I pretended like we were asleep as he poked his head into our bedroom. After several minutes of lying there, I leaned over to Bethany and whispered, “the coast is clear.” We slowly opened our bedroom door and looked to the right and left. Our parents’ door was shut for the night and all of our siblings were fast asleep. We tiptoed quietly to the kitchen and gently pulled the freezer door open. This was it – the moment we had been planning for all night. I reached inside and carefully grabbedFull Post

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July 23, 2014
Bored, Single and Still Living at Home

This goes out to all the single girls still living at home! I sat down on a lawn chair on our pool deck. The summer wind blew in my hair and the sun shined warm rays on my face. I took a deep breath and a sip of my sweet tea. I stretched my legs out and wiggled my toes. Everything was quiet and peaceful. This was the beginning of a beautiful lazy afternoon and a perfect time to finish my book. I guess my mom had other plans. She loudly pushed open the screen door disrupting the fantasy world of my book. “Lisa! I’m gonna need your helpFull Post

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July 21, 2014
Should Christian Girls Kiss Before Marriage?

I’m just going to be honest from the get-go. I’m twenty-five years old, I’ve been in two serious relationships, and I’ve never kissed a guy. It’s not because I think kissing is gross, or that I’ve never wanted to kiss. The fact is, I’m saving my very first kiss for my future husband on the day of our wedding. Kissing is totally the norm. In a day and age where kissing is the norm for elementary schoolers and losing your virginity in, or by high school is expected, it seems absurd and ridiculous that anyone would possibly save their first kiss for marriage. I’m totally aware of the factFull Post

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July 18, 2014
4 Dangers of a Secret Romance

Lindsey turned out the lights and quietly opened up her computer. Her parents thought she was turning in for the night, but for Lindsey, things were just getting started. She quickly logged into Facebook and grinned as she saw Bryan’s name pop up in the chat. Lindsey saw the words, “Hey hottie.” appear in a message from Bryan. “I’ve been looking forward to this all day.” Lindsey’s heart started pounding a little bit harder. “Ohhh, really?” She replied. “I guess I have been too…” She teased. “So…you think I’m hot, huh?” The conversation went on like this for three hours. Lindsey and Bryan met each other at a ChristianFull Post

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July 16, 2014
Praying For Your Future Husband

Jason grabbed a cup of coffee on the way out the door. It was summer and that meant working like crazy before the college season hit. Jason started the engine and then realized he hadn’t spent any time praying or reading God’s Word. He sat in the car for a few minutes, opened up his daily devotional app on his cell phone and read the verse of the day. “Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me” (Psalm 51:10). Jason closed his eyes and asked God to give him the strength to guard his mind and live a pure life. He putFull Post

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July 14, 2014
A Popular Way to Lose Your Respect as a Girl

I was at our local grocery store the other day in the checkout aisle when I saw her. I had never seen anything this disturbing in my grocery store before. There she was, right in front of my eyes without a shirt on. I’m not exaggerating here. Thankfully she was wearing jeans…but she was shirtless! I glanced back and forth to see if anybody standing around me was as shocked as I was. Not a blink. Nobody seemed to care a bit. Frustration began to well up inside of me. Why would a family friendly grocery store allow this shirtless woman to parade herself down the checkout aisle?! ThereFull Post

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July 11, 2014
Getting Rid of Barbie’s “Perfect Image” Pressure

It was a regular Wednesday morning at work when the mail arrived. I started scanning through the letters when I noticed a big hot pink magazine. “Barbie” was the only thing written on the front cover. I was annoyed to see this piece of junk mail at the office and started to cut out the address label in order to remove us from the mailing list. Right before I tossed the magazine in the trash, curiosity got the best of me and I took a peek inside. The magazine was filled with dozens of perfect images of plastic dolls dressed in slinky, provocative outfits. The pages were loaded withFull Post

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July 9, 2014
Why Christian Girls Post Seductive Selfies

When I was in high school Bethany and I decided we wanted to do a really cool photo shoot of ourselves. We put on the most modern outfits we could find, layered on the jewelry, doubled the mascara and headed to a prime location – our roof. We recruited (begged) one of our younger sisters to be our photographer. We all climbed onto the roof of our house and she snapped away with the camera. Yes, a roof is a random place to do a photo shoot, but we did it there to get that perfect “modelesque” breeze to blow our hair just right. For each picture, we posedFull Post

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July 7, 2014
God, Please Don’t Mess Up My Dreams

Three years ago I sat in a doughnut shop with some friends and had a conversation that  I will never forget. I ended up in a heated debate over the topic of marriage and motherhood. My responses during that debate would mostly likely have been a shock to you considering what this GirlDefined: Getting Back to God’s Design blog is all about. As surprising as this may sound, I (in so many words) told this person that marriage and motherhood wasn’t enough for my future. I said that I could not be happy unless I was heavily involved in this ministry or something similar. Although I didn’t say theseFull Post

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July 4, 2014
Are You a Bratty American?

From the time they were born their families despised them. Their parents hated them and hoped they would die. These two feeble sisters were born into a poverty stricken home with barely enough food to survive. Not only were they starving, but they lived in a world of scary darkness. Both sisters were born completely blind. These two Cambodian girls endured years of physical and verbal abuse from their parents. Having an incurable disability immediately classified them as “trash” in their country. Nobody loved them. Nobody wanted them. At one point during their youth, their parents took them to the center of the jungle and left them there to die.Full Post

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July 2, 2014
Pinterest Girls and the Proverbs 7 Woman

Jennifer grabbed her phone, hopped onto her bed and started browsing the wonderful world of Pinterest. Scrolling through the categories she came to one of her favorites, fashion. As she browsed through the never ending images, she pinned, pinned, pinned away. “Adorable!”, “for my dream closet”, “to die for”, were the comments she left with each pin. Her dream closet was set and it was time to move into her dream future. Celebrity guys was her next search. “He is a dreamboat”, “what a hottie”, “look at those abs”. Jennifer’s dream future was in place. The hottest looking guys on the block were quickly pinned to her board titled,Full Post

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June 30, 2014
2 Things I Look for in a Girl (From a Guy)

You’ve heard the question asked. Your brothers, your friends, and your cousins have all had this question posed to them (or will eventually). It sometimes causes a sudden shuffling of the feet and anxious stares out the window. It’s the question which will never get exactly the same response: “What are you looking for in a wife?” If you feel like the answers could be limitless… join the club! There are some obvious answers (especially for a Christian guy) like, “I want her to love the Lord with all her heart,” “I want her to be a Proverbs 31 woman” and on down the line. But today I wantFull Post

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June 27, 2014
Modern Guys Who Value Modesty

In 2010 five young guys stepped onto the music scene and stole the hearts of millions of teenage girls worldwide. They went from being five nobodies, to claiming international fame within months. How did they do this? By simply appealing to every girls heartfelt longing – to be called beautiful. Girls swarmed by the thousands to their concerts to hear them passionately sing to them about just that. This famous boy-band from England broke international records with their debut single, What Makes You Beautiful. Yes, you called it. I’m talking about the band One Direction. Don’t get confused though, these aren’t the guys who value modesty. We’re about toFull Post

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June 25, 2014
3 Bible Verses Girls Hate Most

“Hunched over his desk, penknife in hand, Thomas Jefferson sliced carefully at the pages of Holy Scripture, excising select passages and pasting them together to create a Bible more to his liking. The “Jefferson Bible.” A book he could feel comfortable with. What didn’t make it into the Jefferson Bible was anything that conflicted with his personal worldview. Hell? It can’t be. The supernatural? Not even worth considering. God’s wrath against sin? I don’t think so. The very words of God regarded as leftover scraps.” – C.J. Mahaney Every time I read that story I’m appalled. How dare Jefferson cut out verses in the Bible.   Who did heFull Post

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June 23, 2014
Don’t You Have a Life?

Hi! I guess I should introduce myself to you beautiful people. My name is Lisa Hallahan, I am the daughter to two wonderful parents and the oldest sister (but second born) to 6 amazing siblings! We live on a 20 acre ranch in Montana and have plenty of animals, plenty of laughs, and like everyone else, we have had our share of trials as well. We own and operate a web design business from home and our finances are never stable.  My dad is mentally disabled, but loved and cared for by my mom and loving kids. Mom is the CEO, Sales Manager, Home-school Teacher, Counselor, Chef, Ranch operator, andFull Post

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June 20, 2014
Responding to the Homosexual Movement

This is the second half of a conversation we started about the gay pride movement a few days ago. Catch the first part here. Does God view homosexuality as a sin? There’s a widespread belief among people today that God is actually in support of the homosexual lifestyle. In fact, someone Tweeted me yesterday and asked, “If God considers homosexuality a sin, why did He create it?” This might come as a shock to some Christians, but the Bible does not support, value, uphold or accept the homosexual lifestyle in any way. You can’t find a single verse in the Bible that praises, encourages, or accepts that lifestyle asFull Post

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June 18, 2014
The Gay Pride Movement and Their Sneaky Agenda

The movement is on the rise. If you’ve read or watched any news stories in the past few years, you’ve seen it. If you’ve viewed any modern TV shows or movies, you’ve been entertained by it. If you’ve walked into a modern makeup store in the past 12 months, you’ve felt it. It’s everywhere. In my short lifetime I’ve never experienced the push for an agenda as strong as I have this one. I’ve never seen Christians lose their backbone so quickly when the pressure’s on. You know what I’m talking about. The gay pride movement is gaining some serious momentum right here in America and all around theFull Post

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June 16, 2014
Join the Seven-Day Mom and Dad Prayer Challenge

Jenna stomped up the stairs and slammed her bedroom door. This was the third blow-up in one week. Jenna and her mom weren’t mortal enemies, but they weren’t best friends. Let’s just say they tolerated one another. This sneak peak into Jenna’s life is one small example of what many of you are dealing with. Last week on the girl defined blog and lies young women believe blog I wrote about loving your dad when he doesn’t deserve it. Many of you commented saying that you struggle to love both your dad and your mom. Here are a few of the words I picked out from your comments: bitterness,Full Post

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June 13, 2014
How To Love Your Dad When He Doesn’t Deserve It

Gabbi walked into the church doors with tears in her eyes. I put my arms around her and asked what was wrong. She tearfully explained that ever since her family had moved, she felt like everything had changed. Her dad, who used to play with her, read to her, spend time with her, and take her on dates, now seemed to have no more time. His new job was all consuming, and Gabbi felt like she was no longer on his list of cares. Not to mention the new move seemed to stir up loads of conflict among everyone in the family. Gabbi’s tears now flowed from the painFull Post

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June 9, 2014
Happily Ever After with His Wife’s Last Name

My younger sister, Ellissa, was sitting in Starbucks recently when she overheard a conversation by two of the baristas. It went like this: Guy #1 “When I get married, I’m going to take on my wife’s last name because it’s more socially acceptable.” Guy #2 “Really?” Guy #1 “Yeah! It’s more socially acceptable these days.” Wow! What a conversation. I was aware of modern girls saying “no” to the name change, but I didn’t realize that guys were okay with taking on their wife’s last name. That was news to me. Thankfully one of my favorite authors has already tackled the tough topic of why it’s crucial to sayFull Post

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June 6, 2014
How to Win Against Your Naughty Side

Have you ever been naughty? Have you ever purposely done something that was sneaky when you knew you shouldn’t have? I remember one specific time during my teen years when I did something that was really sneaky and bad. Some of my basketball teammates were talking about a certain movie and it sounded so cool. I wanted to be a part of the “in crowd” like them. I didn’t want to be that homeschool girl who only knew every line from every episode of Little House on the Prairie. I wanted to be way cooler than that. My parents weren’t as concerned about my coolness as I was. InFull Post

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June 4, 2014
5 Reasons Why I Love Being a Girl

Let me clarify from the get go. This is not a post about how great girls are and how rotten guys are. It’s actually quite the opposite. Without guys in the world, none of my five points would matter. I need the male gender to give my five reasons their special touch and uniqueness. Trust me. I don’t typically sit around my house writing down all of the reasons why I love being a girl. In fact, up until recently I had never thought this topic through. So why did I start thinking about this? A few days ago some friends and I were talking when one of themFull Post

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June 2, 2014
Exposing the Dark Past of Planned Parenthood

I knew what Planned Parenthood was but had never been this close to one of their buildings before. I was standing twenty feet away from their front door and silently watching as several teen girls got out of a car. One of the girls was wearing sweat pants which is a dead giveaway for why she was there that morning. She kept her head down as she and her friends quickly walked inside the building. My heart pounded fast and my hands began to sweat as I realized what was about to happen. The reality of abortion became more alive to me in that moment than ever before. IFull Post

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May 30, 2014
From a Guy: How to Challenge the Guys in Your Life

Many of my girl friends are in mourning. They talk about their loss a TON (though they don’t go around dressed in black). In fact, we all talk about the loss. The reason for their mourning is simple: It’s the demise of manhood. I don’t blame them. Where have the men gone? Are they under a rock?! (I’m a guy – I can say that.) When I go out to eat and there is a girl in the group, I don’t see many guys opening doors (actually, they do open the door. Then they let it slam on their female companion). I don’t see many guys giving up theirFull Post

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May 26, 2014
The Naked Truth About Why We Wear Clothes

Katrina and I ran down the stairs of our hotel and sprinted across the windy parking lot towards the hot tub. We had checked the hot tub from our window and it was empty, perfect timing to take advantage. After about fifteen minutes of soaking up the warm water, Katrina turned to me and in an almost annoyed sounding voice asked, “I don’t get it. Why don’t you wear a bikini?” Yikes! I was not excited about answering Katrina’s question. She and I did not see eye-to-eye on the topic of modesty and I wasn’t interested in getting into an argument. I was a foot away from her inFull Post

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May 23, 2014
Godly Guys Have These 4 Things in Common

“He’s one of the cutest guys I know! I seriously have a major crush on him.” It was 3 am and the conversation was just getting good. “Yeah, Caleb is good looking alright, but his older brother, Josh, has him totally beat!” We giggled like little girls. “Would you marry Josh if you could?” I asked my friend with a wink. Without hesitation her words bursted out, “In a heartbeat! I would marry that guy tomorrow if he asked me. He’s perfect!” This was me at fourteen years old pulling an all-nighter with one of my good friends. Like most girls, we loved talking about our latest crushes andFull Post

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May 21, 2014
Are You Ready for Bikini Season?

Bikini season is back! Stores all across America have traded in their furry winter coats for the itsy-bitsy-teeny-weeny-yellow-polka-dot-bikini. Summer is almost here and girls are heading to the malls to pick out their new favorite swimsuit. Bikinis are the standard when it comes to Summer swimwear. Just the other day I walked into a Target store and the first thing to greet me was a mountain of bikinis. If a store is stocking up like that, girls must be buying them. Check out this statistic: American women spend more than 8 billion dollars a year on bikinis alone. Wow! Bikinis must have something going for them or girls wouldn’tFull Post

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May 19, 2014
The Summer My Vanity Ruined My Hair

I clearly remember the day it happened. I was fourteen years old and decided that my hair was too short and too thin. I looked around and saw other girls with beautiful, long, Barbie-like, hair. I wanted that hair. I did the calculations and figured out that I could achieve my dream hair by the time I hit high school graduation if I kept the snipping to a minimum. My hair growing journey began. There was only one problem though. My hair grew as as slow as a turtle running in peanut butter. Several years went by and my was hair was barely a few inches longer. Before IFull Post

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May 16, 2014
3 Lessons I Learned in a Modeling Interview

I walked into the modeling agency and sat down in the owner’s office. One of his recruiting agents had seen me in a clothes store several weeks earlier and had given me a business card. From what I knew about the modeling industry, I was pretty sure that my personal convictions and the modeling scene wouldn’t jive. In the past I had never taken any modeling offers seriously. I’m not sure why I felt different this time, but I did. My curiosity was pricked and I needed to find out for myself what the modeling world was all about. I wanted to know what really went on behind theFull Post

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May 14, 2014
10 Reasons I Don’t Watch Chick Flicks Anymore

She’s rich. He’s poor. True love was never meant to be for the two of them. She rebels against her father’s dreams of marrying the wealthy doctor and instead runs away with the handsome peasant boy. If they can only escape from their family and friends to find freedom they will surely live happily ever after. Drama. Tears. The climax. The movie slowly fades to an end as the sunset glows on the young couple walking hand-in-hand in a breezy, grassy field. True love wins the day again. Sound familiar to any of you? Chick flicks draw in millions of girls and women to the theaters every year. Guys usuallyFull Post

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May 12, 2014
Feminists Say: Men are Women’s #1 Problem

What is the biggest problem women face today? “It’s men, pure and simple.” That was the number one answer I received as I read through an article hitting on the hottest topics for feminists today. The article pointed out five reasons why men are women’s biggest enemy. I’ll spare you the trouble of searching for the article and break down the author’s five main arguments. And, as the writer points out, “by the end of this article, you’ll basically be a Gender Studies graduate.”  Hmmm, we’ll see about that. WARNING: These five points are a summary of a feminist article. I do not agree with these five points andFull Post

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May 9, 2014
4 Tips Your Future Husband Wants You to Know

I love road trips. Especially road trips with super fun people like my husband, Zack, and my awesome siblings. Several weeks ago I ventured with those people on a road trip to my 3rd favorite state, Colorado (Texas and Alaska ranking higher, respectively). The entire trip was great until the last leg on the way back home. Zack brought up a topic that instantly sparked some heated discussion between the five of us. As the conversation progressed, sides began to form, leaving it 3 against 2. I ended up agreeing and siding with one other person (and it wasn’t Zack) as we unashamedly voiced our opinions. The conversation wasn’tFull Post

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May 7, 2014
Will Marriage Turn Me Into Princess Perfect?

As a little girl I thought that meeting Prince Charming, falling in love, and living happily ever was (basically) the entire point of being a woman. Not being married by at least nineteen would have been a disaster in my little girl mind. Fast forward a chunk of years and – surprise surprise – I’m not married. Nineteen is long gone and the husband is nowhere to be found. Not Prepared. Looking back I realize that at eighteen-to-nineteenish years old, I was absolutely not prepared for marriage. I thought I was prepared, but looking back, I wasn’t. I (100%) bought into the lie that no matter what my characterFull Post

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May 5, 2014
Freeze Your Eggs – the New Trend for Women

“Freeze your eggs, free your career.” That was the eye catching title on the front page of the Bloomberg Businessweek magazine last month. The subtitle read, “A new fertility procedure gives women more choices in the quest to have it all.” My interest was sparked. I opened the magazine to scan over this intriguing cover story. “Later, Baby” was the title on the inside. “Egg freezing technology is helping women kiss the mommy track goodbye.” As I flipped through the next three pages, I read several stories of women who had decided to take the egg freezing route and their reasons for doing so. “I just wanted to takeFull Post

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May 2, 2014
Forced to Enter a Beauty Competition

She didn’t have a choice. She was forced to enter the beauty competition whether she wanted to or not. From this point forward her life would never look the same. If she wins the competition, she will become the new bride of a violent and powerful king. If she loses, she is sent to live in a house filled with all of the other losers, known as concubines. Her life would not be one of flattery, love, and romance. She would live out the rest of her days trapped in a guarded house. Her dreams of having children and a family would be long gone at this point. AndFull Post

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April 30, 2014
A Call to Manhood – Part 2

This is part two in a series. Check out part one here if you missed it. So what’s the solution? Actually, the real question should be “is there even a solution?” And my answer is yes. But before you come to the solution, you must be resolved to do what it takes to reclaim true manhood. There’s nothing easy about becoming a real man in today’s world. You’ll be flying in the face of everyone and, very likely, everything you’ve been taught. But your quest will be worth it. And once you begin your journey to being a real man, you’ll realize that sacrifices, pain, hard work, and theFull Post

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April 28, 2014
A Call to Manhood – Part 1

I’m sick of the grocery store parking lot. Nope, it’s not because I seem to be there all the time picking something up (I’m a guy, and the grocery store is full of food. That’s a winning situation right there). The reason I’m sick of the grocery store parking lot is because it’s a showcase for the lack of true men in our world today. I realize beginning a blog post in the parking lot of the grocery store is a little unusual. But as I’ve been stewing on this issue lately, it seemed a good place to start. You see, as I’ve been in the parking lot, theFull Post

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April 26, 2014
Miley Cyrus: You Really Can’t Have the Best of Both Worlds

Would you believe me if I told you I’ve been to a Miley Cyrus concert? As shocking as this may be… it’s true. This wasn’t a recent venture though. It took place several years ago during the Hannah Montana craze days. I was a nanny to a Christian family and their two little girls were sold out Hannah Montana fans. Their dad surprised them one day with tickets and told me that the girls really wanted me to take them to the concert. Wow. This wasn’t exactly something on my bucket list, but I wasn’t sure how to say “no” at the time. So there I was several daysFull Post

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April 24, 2014
Give the Guy a Chance

I was a sophomore in high school and had just finished playing in the semi-finals for a big basketball tournament. As my team and I were sitting in the bleachers scouting out our championship game competition, one of the high school guys teams came and sat right behind us. It just so happened that they quickly struck up a conversation and went on to introduce themselves. It didn’t take long for my ears to tune in to their major language problem. Their English was fine but their choice of words was borderline sailor language. Being the outgoing girl on my team, I turned around and looked at the leaderFull Post

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April 21, 2014
Hear Me Roar

Helen Reddy was born into a showbiz family and hit the road traveling and performing at the age of 4. Her dad earned a living as a comedian/actor/producer/writer, while her mom made a career in the soap opera industry. Helen’s life was constantly on-the-go, jumping from one entertainment job to the next. By the time Helen hit age 17 she was fed up with her showbiz life and said she’d had enough. She rebelled against her parents’ dreams of becoming a star to pursue a secret dream of her own – to become a housewife and mother. At age 20 she jumped into a marriage with a considerably olderFull Post

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April 18, 2014
The Trend of the Feminine Guy

It all started a few years ago. Guys began throwing away their rough and tough work pants for a pair of teeny-bopper-skinny-stretch-jeans. How or why a guy would want to wear girl’s jeans I’ll never understand. But it’s happened and it’s encouraged our generation of guys and girls to accept a new form of feminine masculinity. It’s not accidental either. I googled “the trend of the feminine guy” and came up with quotes like these: “Diminished Masculinity” “Mens Fashion has been feminized” “Add a Purse and you have the final nail in the coffin of masculinity” The fashion industry as a whole doesn’t create “accidental” clothing. They have anFull Post

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April 15, 2014
Equally Valuable, Purposely Different

The world says that Girls can’t. We know that girls can. We’ve proved to the world that girls can rock, girls can be strong, girls can rap, girls can be funny, girls can play the lead and girls can run the show. You just have to be courageous and challenge the notion of what it means to be a girl. We’ve proved girls can. It’s no surprise that when a recent makeup commercial had famous actors and singers quote lines like those, the commercial instantly received millions of views as soon as it hit youtube. I don’t know if you realize it or not, but 21st century girls haveFull Post

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April 12, 2014
What is the Purpose of Being a Girl?

It was a cold and windy day in Texas. Definitely not ideal weather for shooting an outdoor video, but it didn’t matter. We were on a mission. With our small film crew in tow, Bethany and I headed into the heart of our local University campus. We scanned the sea of busy students and decided to place ourselves right in the middle of the action. With our microphone in hand and the cameras rolling, we approached random students to get their thoughts on some controversial topics. “Besides the obvious physical differences, do you think there’s a difference between guys and girls?” This was the first question we asked eachFull Post

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April 6, 2014
100 Sexiest Stars in Film History

She starred in thirty major films, was awarded the Golden Globe for “Female World Film Favorite,” started her own production company, voted “2nd Greatest Movie Star” of all time by Premiere Magazine, was chosen by Empire Magazine as one of the “100 Sexiest Stars in Film History,” and ranked # 6 on the American Film Institute’s “50 Greatest Screen Legends.” She was beautiful, talented, successful, and seemed to have everything a girl could dream of, except for one thing – happiness. Her life came to a tragic end on August 5, 1962 due to a drug overdose. She was only 36 years old. Her childhood was crazy.  Norma JeaneFull Post

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April 3, 2014
Candace Made the Choice

Earlier this year I told you a story about a girl named Candace. She was born without any limbs. That’s right, no arms and no legs. Shockingly enough, Candace was able to give thanks to God for her life despite the fact that she was limbless. Read the full story here: Candace – The Girl Without Limbs. The story of Candace still amazes me even to this day. I often put myself in Candace’s place and imagine having her life. What would life be like without arms and legs? Could I give thanks to God if I were limbless like Candace? Although Candace is limbless, I think each oneFull Post

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August 21, 2013
She Wants to Be Like You

I pulled into a carwash the other day to use the vacuums and couldn’t help but hear the loud rock/pop music coming from the SUV next to me. I looked over and saw a lady (probably 40 years old) vacuuming out her car, with what appeared to be her 3 year old daughter sitting in a carseat. I smiled at the little girl and waved. She returned my wave and gave me a sweet, innocent smile. It was impossible for me to avoid hearing the lyrics of the loud song as we vacuumed our cars side by side. The song was about partying, being sexy, having sex, drinking andFull Post

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August 16, 2013
God, I don’t Understand

“God, I don’t understand why my parents got divorced.” “God, I don’t understand why I’m still single.” “God, I don’t understand why we had to move across the country.” “God, I don’t understand why my parents have such strict rules for me.” “God, I don’t understand why my family is on such a tight budget.” I vividly remember a time in my life when I had my very own “I don’t understand why” moment. I was nineteen going on twenty when God allowed a guy to enter the scene of my life. I met this guy (let’s call him Nate) at my church’s young adult Bible study. Slowly butFull Post

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August 9, 2013
10 Signs Your Phone is an Idol

Have you ever had one of those moments where you wish you could rewind the time and do things differently? I had one of those moments several weeks ago. I was running late and needed to grab a quick birthday present for my little sister. I zoomed to Old Navy and found a few cute shirts for her and then hurried home to get to the party on time. I set my bags down and reached into my purse to grab my phone. It wasn’t there. I ran outside and checked in the car, but it wasn’t there either. I had a sinking feeling in my stomach. I mustFull Post

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June 11, 2013
Why Hot Weather Doesn’t Justify Immodesty

Summer time is almost here! We’re breaking out the lemonade, grilling in the backyard and playing horseshoes in the evenings (yes, we play horseshoes). I especially love wearing the bright and cheery colors that my summer wardrobe brings. During the summer months it seems like everyone is so happy and upbeat, doesn’t it? I am usually happy and upbeat myself until I remember the one down side of summer – the blistering heat. Down here in south Texas our summer days seem to average a lovely 100 degrees, with a nice humid breeze to keep your hair moist. Doing anything outside during the summer without sweating is pretty muchFull Post

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February 24, 2013
Candice – The Girl Without Limbs

Candace is a beautiful and vibrant young lady. She is well known in her church for her contagious smile and joyful attitude. One Sunday as Candace was sitting in the back row of her church, her pastor asked the small congregation to share one thing for which they were grateful. Candace leaned forward and caught the attention of her pastor. He looked at her and asked her what she was grateful for. She looked back with a big smile and said “I am so grateful that God has given me a really great nose.” Everyone in the congregation knew exactly why Candace was thanking God for her nose. TheyFull Post

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February 14, 2013
Confessions of a Single Girl

It’s Valentine’s Day and romance is in the air. If you had asked me when I was twelve years old what I would be doing at twenty-four years old, I would have never said, “still single.” As a little girl I thought that meeting prince charming, falling in love, and living happily ever after was (basically) the entire point of being a woman. In my little girl mind, not being married by at least age 19 would have been in a disaster. Could there be more to life than romance? As the years have passed, I’ve spent countless hours reading and studying God’s plan for this season of myFull Post

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January 23, 2013
Emily’s Enticing Temptation

Emily tightly gripped the folded piece of paper in her hand as she sat down at her desk. Her history class was starting and the big mid-term test was haunting her. The teacher gave a few opening words for the day and then passed out the mid-terms to each student. Emily’s mouth went dry as she flipped her paper over and scanned the first ten questions. She slowly unfolded the small piece of paper in her hand while glancing around to make sure she was unnoticed. Her heart rate doubled and her palms started to sweat as her eyes scanned the secret paper. One of her friends had handedFull Post

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December 17, 2012
Life With Instagram

The wheels of the plane finally touched the ground in Austria. I had been waiting for this moment my entire life. I grew up listening to my grandmother (Helga Aloisia Grosslercher) tell story after story of her life in the far-away land of Austria. She grew up during the days of Hitler and even watched her father get arrested and taken away as a prisoner of war. When she was in her mid-twenties, she met my grandpa who was serving in the United States Army, and they soon fell in love and moved back to America. My grandmother has been back to her hometown many times, but I hadFull Post

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September 28, 2012
Advice From a New Bride

All eyes were on the back doors of the church. The organ began playing the wedding march, and there she was in a beautiful white wedding dress. She began her walk down the aisle toward her groom, God’s chosen man for her to spend the rest of her life with. All eyes were in tears as we watched the bride and the groom seal their marriage with a kiss. They were finally husband and wife. I was beyond excited as I watched my friend marry the man of her dreams. How could I become like my married friend, Stacy? My good friends, Stacy and Logan, have now been marriedFull Post

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