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July 21, 2017
Choosing to Pursue Radical Purity in Your Own Life

Talking about God’s radical design for love, sex, and purity with 400 girls and women isn’t a normal occurrence in this day and age. But that’s exactly what happened this past weekend at the Radical Purity Conference in San Antonio, TX. We courageously, unashamedly, and tactfully unpacked God’s good plan for our sexuality as women. We talked openly about some of the not-so-often-talked-about areas, and allowed God’s Word to shed light and truth into these relevant topics. We asked the hard questions, and looked into God’s Word for solid answers. We quickly discovered that God’s design for purity is radical. It’s completely counter-cultural. It’s unlike anything you see inFull Post

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July 12, 2017
Be a Girl Who Lives with Vision, Passion, and Purpose

When Kristen and I launched our very first blog (long before GirlDefined existed) we didn’t have a very clear plan of what we were doing. Due to our serious lack of vision for the blog, it didn’t take long for our interests to diminish. Let’s just say that our original blog didn’t last very long. Through that experience, the two of us realized our serious need for vision, passion, and purpose. Once the two of us established our vision for GirlDefined, that drove our passion, which in turn fueled our purpose on a daily basis. We want to challenge you to be a girl who lives with a visionFull Post

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July 10, 2017
Becoming Women Who Understand The Power of Worship

The past few months of my life feel like they’ve been filled with a certain 7 letter word. This word flies in the face of my natural heart’s desire and is the opposite of everything the culture promotes. This word has challenged me, convicted me, encouraged me and given me incredible hope. When I focus on living this word out, I have such incredible rest, contentment, and joy in my heart. I want to share this word with you in hopes that you can find the same hope, conviction, contentment, and joy that I’ve found by striving to live it out. The word is WORSHIP. The word worship holdsFull Post

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June 21, 2017
Answering Your Questions About Infatuation, Modesty, and the Future

WATCH VLOG Infatuation, Modesty and The Future are popular topics amongst modern women. How do I avoid becoming obsessed with a guy? How to let go of a guy after I’ve already ended the relationship? Does dressing modestly mean I’m ashamed of my body? How can I remain faithful to God when I don’t know what the future holds? I have a passion to invest in younger women, but I’m not sure where to start? Any ideas? Kristen and Bethany tackle these questions and more. WATCH VLOG

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June 19, 2017
When Posting Hot Selfies Gets You More Attention

I was thirteen years old and heading in for my first experience with the well-known photography company Glamour Shots. My mom and I were on a special girls trip to Dallas, Texas to celebrate my birthday. Getting my hair highlighted, nails manicured, and glamorous pictures taken was a must for this girly girl. I loved every minute of the Glamour Shot experience. The makeup. The hair. The clothes. The attention. The compliments. I felt beautiful and accepted. After the photo shoot, I looked through the pictures and picked out a few of my favorites. We ordered a package and then left the store to continue on our trip. WhenFull Post

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June 9, 2017
Modern Female Heroes Needed for Battle

The guard slapped her across the face and yelled, “keep moving!” Her tiny frame and malnourished figure stumbled forward. On the brinks of starvation and freezing to death, she was doing everything possible to simply survive. Ripped away from her family and friends, she had nothing left but her faith. The days and months wore on as Corrie Ten Boom endured the horrendous evil inside a Nazi concentration camp. She was in the midst of a monstrous battle. As the days and weeks wore on, she watched her precious sister die from sickness. Fighting the rage of anger inside her heart, Corrie knew that there was only one weaponFull Post

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May 17, 2017
How We Got Our Very First Book Published

WATCH VIDEO  Our dream of becoming authors seemed too big to ever become a reality. We were working hard, but we knew it would take a miracle from Heaven to make this dream a reality. Fast forward to today and we are celebrating the one year anniversary of Girl Defined hitting the bookstores. One year ago, for the very first time, Kristen and I held our brand new book in our hands. Shock, awe, amazement, gratitude, unbelief, excitement, joy, and pure delight are just a few of the feelings we felt when we opened that exciting package. Here is our story of how we became published authors. GET THEFull Post

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May 5, 2017
3 Truths for Becoming a Seriously Godly Woman

A few summers ago I hosted a simulcast conference at my church. The simulcast was put on by Leslie Ludy over at Set Apart Girl Ministries. As she was speaking she mentioned this idea of “becoming one of the few.” She said that in every generation there are only a few girls willing to give up their lives for Christ. There are only a few girls who are willing to give up the world’s ideas and follow the Bible’s. There are only a few girls willing to give up their life plans in exchange for Christ’s plan. Leslie then asked us if we wanted to be one of theFull Post

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May 1, 2017
Why Purity Begins In the Heart {FREE GIVEAWAY}

Every­ Christian has something to say about purity, be it right or wrong, loose or conservative, broad or specific. Purity is a vital element of our walk with God—and one, it seems, that many are missing. Christian girls are pros at talking the talk and getting on mission trip and youth conference “highs for Jesus,” but when it comes down to making right choices, standing blameless before God, and keeping pure, humble, and full of the fear of the Lord—there’s a discon­nect. Purity is not a ring, a book, or even a commitment, though all of those can be good things! But without actively maintaining our whole selves accordingFull Post

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April 23, 2017
To The Woman Who Is Losing Heart

Have you felt like a weight has fallen over you? Are you stuck in a place in life where nothing seems to be changing? Where the same thing happens day in and day out and you’re not getting anywhere? Have you prayed and begged God for something and not seen an answer? Do you feel like you’re being held back, but can’t put a finger on what it is that’s got a hold over you? Maybe you are a young woman with no friends, in a new city and a new job and every night you go home alone. You long for fellowship and a purpose beyond just working yourFull Post

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April 17, 2017
Becoming a Woman Who Genuinely Loves to Pray

I walked out to the front of the church parking lot, found a nice bench to sit on, and opened up my Bible to the book of Psalms. This is going to be a long ten minutes, I thought to myself. I was attending a conference on prayer, and the speaker challenged us to be alone for ten minutes to pray. He challenged us to use a certain passage from the book of Psalms to guide our prayers, encouraging us that praying through Scripture was an incredible way to deepen and enhance our prayer lives. I wasn’t so sure. I was convinced that reading through Scripture for ten straight minutes wouldFull Post

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April 10, 2017
How to Create a Sisterhood of Girls Mentoring Girls

I sat in the conference session with my eyes wide open. It was one of those moments where every word spoken pierced straight into my heart. As the speaker shared about his passion for mentorship and discipleship, I knew my life would never be the same. After that conference, my life took a drastic turn for the better. I went from having head knowledge about the importance of discipleship to having a heart and passion for it. I was turning into a girl who deeply desired to reach out and minister to the young women in my sphere of influence. It was like I was beginning to see withFull Post

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April 5, 2017
Answering Your Questions About Beauty, Romance, and The Christian Life

WATCH VLOG Beauty, Romance, and The Christian Life are popular topics amongst modern women. What if a guy is pressuring me to change myself? How do I know if a guy likes me? What do I do when I feel like God has turned His back on me? What are the dangers in fantasizing? How can I minister as a single girl? How can I be patient in my relationship? Kristen and Bethany tackle these questions and more in today’s vlog. WATCH VLOG

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March 31, 2017
How to Never Feel Like the Ugly Girl Again

I was driving down the road the other day and saw a billboard with an advertisement for a cosmetic surgery office which featured a seductively dressed model and the statement, “Enhance your beauty.” The message was loud and clear: If you want to be beautiful you will need a large chest, plump lips, luscious hair, a skinny waist, and long eyelashes. If you’re a woman alive right now you know exactly what I’m talking about. You’ve seen the commercials, the ads, the music videos, the billboards, and the magazines like I have. You’ve stared into the mirror when nobody else was watching and wished you were a lot prettier.Full Post

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March 19, 2017
Modern Girls Should Still Practice Hospitality

All my life, my family has welcomed people into our home on a regular basis. From Bible studies and dinners to parties and overnight guests, my family has valued hospitality. I’ve watched (and helped) my mother cook giant meals and clean our house in preparation for guests. My sisters and I have set countless tables and sampled many desserts before people have come to our home. All throughout this, I’ve noticed that, in today’s culture, hospitality tends to be shoved under a rug. We like the idea of Pinterest perfect parties and afternoons that come out of the pages of a magazine, but in reality, not everyone wants toFull Post

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February 17, 2017
The Feminist Attack on God’s Design for Womanhood

“Feminism is a movement for all women!” I’ve heard this statement hundreds of times. I’ve received dozens of emails and comments from Christian girls stating similar things. But is it? Is modern feminism truly a movement for all women? Because if it is, I sure don’t feel included. All of those women who were rejected from the “Women’s March” for being pro-life didn’t feel included either. Regardless of how sweetly feminism is defined in the dictionary, the reality of what it is today tells us all that we need to know. Modern feminism is a direct attack on God’s design for womanhood. Disagree? Jump back in time with meFull Post

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February 15, 2017
5 Habits of a Wimpy Girl

WATCH VLOG The truth is, it takes a much stronger woman to stand up against sin than it does to give in to sin. The Bible calls us to have backbones of steel and hearts of fire that fight for His truth and wage war against sin. Our culture needs to see more of that version of a strong girl. Would you consider yourself a strong girl according to the culture or a strong girl according to the Bible? Check out these 5 habits of a weak and wimpy girl and see how you measure up. WATCH VLOG

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February 6, 2017
Let’s Be Women Who Chase Down Truth

The conversation was heated. The room was tense. The looks on my girl friends faces were anything but peaceful. After all of the years of friendship, we had finally hit the landmine. Someone mentioned a specific doctrinal belief and the room exploded. Half the girls believed one opinion and half believed the other. Despite the dramatic pleas from each side to “see the light” we had to call it truce.  No one was budging. When I arrived home that evening, I shared my afternoon’s happenings with my parents. Instead of my parents just saying to me, their young 14-year-old daughter, “this is what you should believe,” they taught meFull Post

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February 1, 2017
Don’t Believe the Lies of Counterfeit Womanhood

WATCH VIDEO We are seeing a lot of different women standing for a lot of different things. As Christian women, we have to decide which camp we choose to be in. Will you be a woman who follows the latest trends defining womanhood? Will you be a woman who picks and chooses from God’s Word? Will you be a woman who allows the Bible to completely inform her worldview on femininity? Without a clear understanding of God-defined femininity, it’s impossible not to be swept up with the popular flow. WATCH VIDEO

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January 25, 2017
Why Christian Girls Should Be Beautiful but Not Seductive VLOG

WATCH VIDEO  Christian girls are never called by God to be seductresses. Never. But they are called to be beautiful women of God. According to God’s Word, beauty and seduction are two totally different things. Our outward beauty as Christian girls should never be used to purposely distract, seduce, entice, lure in, or arouse the people around us. Our beauty should never be used selfishly and without thought to how our actions are affecting others. Our most intimate body parts shouldn’t be thrown around like cheap disposable objects, but rather saved and cherished because we’re pure daughters of a Holy King. Instead of following after our culture’s self-focused definitionFull Post

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January 18, 2017
4 Practical Tips for Overcoming Your Beauty Struggles

WATCH VIDEO If you girls are anything like the two of us, you’ve probably struggled with your outward appearance. It’s hard not to struggle when we live in a world that is OBSESSED with physical perfection. Despite the obsession with perfection, we as women do not have to buy into the lie. We can have freedom in this area. We’ve truly come to embrace the body God has given each of us and we would love for you to have the same! Here are a few practical tips that really helped the two of us break free from our beauty struggles. WATCH VIDEO

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January 16, 2017
10 Common Misconceptions about Biblical Womanhood

I was twenty-two years old and totally taken off guard by Lacy’s blatant attacks on my beliefs. Apparently, she had heard about my perspectives and beliefs on biblical womanhood and was not impressed. In fact, offended/annoyed would be the right way to describe her feelings towards me at that time. During this back and forth “debate” of sorts, I was extremely uncomfortable. I wasn’t exactly sure how to counter Lacy’s arguments and I was a little insecure about my stance on Scripture and biblical womanhood. I felt like Lacy was completely demeaning and attacking biblical womanhood and I felt at a loss for words to defend what I believed.Full Post

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January 4, 2017
6 Must Read Books for 2017

WATCH VIDEO  We want to share with you 6 books that have helped the two of us tremendously in our walk with God. These books have helped the two of us get our eyes off of ourselves and onto Christ instead. In a nutshell, these books have helped to radically change our lives. We can’t recommend them enough. 1. Women of the Word: How to Study the Bible with Both our Hearts and our Minds  We all know it’s important to study God’s Word. But sometimes it’s hard to know where to start. What’s more, a lack of time, emotionally driven approaches, and past frustrations can erode our resolve toFull Post

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January 2, 2017
Top 5 Most Popular and Shared Posts from 2016

Whether you’ve been reading the GirlDefined blog for a while or you’re new to our website, we are SO excited to enter this brand new year with you.  God is so good and He’s done amazing things in your lives (as we’ve learned from the many emails you all have sent us), and we praise Him for that! Some of you have shared how God used the GirlDefined blog posts and vlogs to help you overcome the darkest of sins, relationship struggles, guy complications, unfulfilled longings, growing in your walk with God, and much, much more. For that, we raise a glass of sparkling grape juice and joyously say, “Amen!Full Post

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December 28, 2016
Practical Tips for Having a Thriving Relationship with God

WATCH VIDEO The two of us love God. We’re so grateful for Jesus. We’re thankful for God’s Word. But despite having these desires, meaningful personal devotions have often been a struggle for the two of us. Can you relate? Maybe you (like us) desire to dig into God’s Word, meditate on Scripture, and pray powerful prayers. But (again, like us) you’re just not sure how to make it happen. We’ve learned that with a few simple tools in our belt we can make our personal devotion time one of meaning, connection, and revival. Here are a few of our own practical tips for having a thriving relationship with God.Full Post

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December 21, 2016
Choosing to Reflect Christ in a Self-Absorbed Society

WATCH VIDEO  When the two of us were in high school, we strategized a plan to draw as much attention to ourselves as possible. We strapped on the high heels and strutted through the mall. We soaked up the attention we received from the young guys working the kiosks and enjoyed every glance that turned our way. Attention. That’s what we wanted. We wanted people to look at us. We wanted people to admire us. We wanted to people to stare at us. We wanted all eyes on us. Fast forward ten(ish) years to today and our goal is no longer to bring attention to ourselves but to pointFull Post

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December 19, 2016
Bethany’s Secrets to Planning, Hosting, and Throwing a Fabulous Party

I love hosting parties. Having people in my home (I still live at home with my family) is one my favorite things to do. I love hosting, planning, organizing and watching my friends enjoy a super fun time together. The work that goes into planning and hosting a fabulous dinner, game night, or party, is totally worth it to me. I find so much joy in creating a time and space for people to have community, fellowship, and a good clean time. Sadly, hospitality has become such a lost art in our generation. People just don’t invite people into their homes anymore. Our homes are more like quick restFull Post

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December 2, 2016
The #1 Beauty Hack Every Christian Girl Needs to Know

Beauty hacks. They’re all the rage, right? Just do a quick Google search and you’ll have instant access to beauty hacks that promise a prettier you (in under 5 minutes flat). How about these: “25 Beauty Hacks To Make You Look Like A Million Dollars” or “44 Lazy Girl Beauty Hacks To Try Right Now.” Wait – 44 hacks? For the lazy girl? If I’m lazy, how am I supposed to have time for forty-four  beauty hacks? Sorry, I just thought that one was hilarious. Anyhow. I agree that some of these hacks can be helpful (i.e. I want to hug the person who invented dry shampoo!), but theyFull Post

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November 11, 2016
Practicing Hospitality Before You Have a Home of Your Own

Daydreaming. One of my favorite things to do. I love sitting on the porch swing in my backyard, sipping on ice cold sweet tea, and just dreaming about life. Dreaming about what the future holds. Dreaming about what God has in store for Girl Defined. Dreaming about what God is doing in my life and where He might have me next year. Just dreaming and thinking about all of life’s wonderful possibilities. I remember a few years ago I had a “dream” that I thought couldn’t become a reality until I had a house of my own. My dream? The art of hospitality. In my mind, hospitality meant havingFull Post

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October 26, 2016
Halloween: When Good Girls Go Bad for One Day

WATCH VLOG With Halloween only a few days away, we want to encourage all of you Christian girls out there to stay nice this October 31st. Our culture loves to celebrate death, darkness, perversion, and evil…but we should be different. Our language, our dress, and even our celebrations should look different than the lost world. We hope this Vlog encourages you to continue being a light for Jesus, even on Halloween. WATCH VLOG

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October 21, 2016
Should We Bow Down at the Feet of Modern Hollywood Goddesses?

With a shocking 451,237,916 combined followers on Instagram, these five women are considered modern-day goddesses. These women have made their mark in our world and we’ve bowed down at their feet. Beauty, money, fame, and talent have given these women world-renowned fame. Our values and priorities are clearly seen in the way culture truly upholds and praises these women. Giving them names such as “Queen” and “Goddess.” Who are these women that claim the love and admiration of hundreds of millions? They are none other than Selena Gomez, Taylor Swift, Beyonce, Ariana Grande, and Kim Kardashian. Above all other celebrities in the world, these five hold the highest numberFull Post

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October 19, 2016
8 Reasons We Aren’t Feminists

WATCH VLOG If you are familiar with our ministry you know that, we created GirlDefined to help girls “get back to God’s design.” As a whole, we as Christian girls and women are really struggling to understand what God’s design is for our lives and how to practically live it out. Over the past 50 years, the feminist movement has sought redefine womanhood on their own terms. Rather than looking to God’s Word for solutions and answers, we as women, have decided to take matters into our own hands. Yes, feminism has done some good over the years, but by and large it has left women more confused and unfulfilled thanFull Post

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October 11, 2016
The Most Challenging Things About Being a Christian Teen Girl

WATCH VIDEO  In our day and age, it’s so hard to stay focused on honoring God rather than joining the popular crowd. It’s even harder when most girls (even in the church) around you don’t take their spiritual life seriously.  If you’re a teen girl living in any part of the world, you know the struggle I’m talking about. It’s a battle I face and I’m sure you are facing it too. It can be really discouraging. It’s not easy to be a teen girl in today’s culture, but I am slowly learning that the road less traveled is totally worth it. WATCH VIDEO 

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October 5, 2016
5 Tips for Overcoming Crazy Girl Emotions

WATCH VIDEO  We as girls seem to wear our emotions on our sleeves. When we feel good, we are happy. When we feel bad, we are unhappy. It can switch in a matter of a split second and it can happen back-and-forth multiple times in a row. After doing some research and thinking this topic through, we’ve come up with 5 truths to help us as girls combat our “crazy girl” emotions.​ WATCH VIDEO 

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October 4, 2016
The Girl Defined Audio Book is Here!

We are so excited to announce that the Girl Defined audio book is now available!!! For a limited time the Girl Defined audio book will be available for only $5.00!! Clink on this link and enter the coupon code: AUDIOGIRL5 to receive your $5.00 audiobook! This special offer will end on October 18th. Keep on eye on the GirlDefined Blog (and our social media sites) because we will be doing some major FREE audiobook giveaways over the next two weeks (including signed copies)! You don’t want to miss out on the fun! The first giveaway is happening this Friday on the blog! Get the Audiobook

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September 28, 2016
It Takes a Brave Girl to Live Out Biblical Womanhood

WATCH VIDEO  God is looking for women who will be brave in today’s society. We’re challenging you to be one of those women. To be one of the few who are willing to liberate yourself from the commonality of wimpy womanhood. Our generation is in need of Christian women who are willing to rise up and show the culture the powerful influence a God-defined woman can have.  In today’s vlog, we are going to show you how to be a BRAVE girl and embrace God’s truth in your everyday life . B = Bold A bold girl doesn’t shy away from truth. A bold girl is unafraid of whatFull Post

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September 26, 2016
The Secret to Becoming a Bold, Brave and Beautiful Woman

The stage was filled with the presence of a woman overflowing with confidence, security, authority, beauty, and boldness. Silence filled the auditorium as we all watched this mighty woman of God share counter-cultural truths that would utterly shock the average woman. She wasn’t scared or afraid to say what she was saying. She spoke like a woman who knew that her source of information was as true as true can be. This woman possesses the secret that we, women as a whole, desperately long for. She has found the secret to true womanhood. She knows that her Authority and Guide is tried and true. This woman has the answersFull Post

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September 16, 2016
The Birth Control Pill: Continuing the Conversation

I recently wrote a post called, The Birth Control Pill: What Every Christian Girl Needs to Know. As a Christian woman myself, my heart behind that post was to remind all of us that God’s plan for sex, marriage, and motherhood is much better than what our culture has been feeding us. I’d love to continue our previous conversation about the Pill and share more of my heart behind writing that post. Just consider this post Part 2. For the women who commented previously who take the Pill strictly for health issues, my heart goes out to you. I am genuinely sorry that you have to suffer from thingsFull Post

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September 12, 2016
My Body Isn’t Perfect and I’m Totally Okay With It

My hair was a wreck, my makeup was half-finished, I was running behind and my sweet friend was already at the restaurant waiting for me to arrive for our lunch date. I sprinted out the door and headed towards my location. I reached across the seat to grab my make-up so that I could finish (Yes! Sometimes I do makeup when I’m driving. Confession time.) and nothing was on the seat. I looked in the back row, under my feet, under the passenger’s seat, and nothing was there. Noooo!!! I realized I had left it inside on the kitchen counter. This was just not my day. Running late. MakeupFull Post

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September 9, 2016
The Birth Control Pill: What Every Christian Girl Needs to Know

Whether you’re on the Pill, know someone who is, or think you might be on it in the future, this post is a must read for every Christian girl. And since government data reveals that more than eight in 10 American women, ages 15 to 44, have taken the Pill at some point in their lives, we need to be educated on exactly what the Pill is, where it came from, and how it affects our bodies. The “Birth Control Pill” hit the American scene in 1960 and changed human history forever. For the first time ever, sexual intimacy and procreation were completely separated. The invention of The BirthFull Post

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September 5, 2016
Real Women Know How to Accept an Act of Chivalry

What better place to observe the possibility of chivalry than in a room full of young singles at a Bible study. And that’s exactly where I was. The room was packed to the brim and almost every spare chair had been pulled out and used by the late arrivals. Somehow a young lady had squeezed in unnoticed and ended up without a chair. She quietly made her way to a small ledge and found a way to lean/sit against it. After a few moments, I noticed a kind young man quietly making his way towards her with his chair. He started to pull the chair out and set itFull Post

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September 2, 2016
3 Reasons Beyoncé Isn’t Empowering to Women

Her larger-than-life persona, bold music, and powerful stage presence have crowned this woman as the epitome of modern girl power. She’s praised by millions as one of the most inspirational women of our day. She is Beyoncé. Also referred to as, Queen Bey. This female superstar has not only become an icon, she has been carefully and strategically crafted into a brand. And this brand is considered empowering to women. Millions of females (young and old) view her as their greatest role model in life. “I want to be just like her,” many girls have said. “I would die to talk to her!,” women have stated. But do weFull Post

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August 22, 2016
The Problem With Constantly Comparing Yourself to Other Girls

My friend and I sat on the floor with our legs crisscrossed. My friend was getting married in just a few short months, and I had flown out to visit her before she entered the married season of life. After a few minutes of light hearted chit-chat, our conversation took on a more serious tone. My friend went on to explain to me that she has constantly struggled with comparing herself to the Victoria Secret models. Although she understands that God is the author of beauty, she sighed and said, “It’s just hard not compare myself to them.” Our conversation turned into a great time of refocusing on theFull Post

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August 12, 2016
What Every Girl Needs to Know About Her Outward Appearance

Her hair was long and beautiful. It was thick and luscious. As she highlighted my hair in the salon, I couldn’t help but compliment her. “I just love your hair!” I said enthusiastically. I expected her to accept my compliment with satisfaction, but she didn’t. “Oh…thanks!” she said laughing out loud. “It’s actually not my hair…well, at least not most of it.” I raised my eyebrows in surprise. “Yeah, it’s actually mostly hair extensions. My real hair is short and thin.” She said with a wink. She went on to explain how their salon offered a high quality fusion hair extension service. They would fuse real pieces of hair ontoFull Post

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July 25, 2016
What Makes A Woman Truly Beautiful?

Did you know that God actually wants women to be out-of-this-world beautiful?  Believe it or not, God compares the stars, the cosmos, and galaxies with idea of true beauty! He connects these two seemly unrelated concepts with a really cool Greek word.  Hang tight with me as I briefly explain God’s poetic analogy in the following verse: 1 Peter 3:3-4 says “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight isFull Post

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July 6, 2016
5 Wardrobe Hacks for Dressing Modestly (VIDEO)

WATCH VIDEO Just because the standards for modesty and decency are extremely low, we as Christian girls, don’t have to give in. We can stand strong in our convictions and continue to embrace purity. Although there aren’t many of us, we aren’t alone. We have each other. Modesty will always be a challenge, but one that we’ve discovered is totally worth fighting for. Without further ado…we give you our 5 FAVORITE wardrobe hacks for dressing modestly during the hot summer months. WATCH VIDEO

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June 24, 2016
Join The 7 Day GirlDefined Prayer Challenge

Over the past few years I’ve seen God at work in my life in incredible ways. I feel like I’ve had a front row seat to witnessing God answer prayers in my life and in the lives of those around me. Looking back I now realize that God has always been at work, I just haven’t been paying close enough attention. When I began seriously praying and taking all of my cares before the Lord, I finally had eyes to see what He was doing. I began to clearly see Him answer my prayers and I knew He was active in my life. Here are just a few examplesFull Post

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May 18, 2016
Courageous Girls Needed To Live Out True Womanhood

The compliments didn’t fix it. The modeling offers didn’t make it go away. The attention from cute guys didn’t make it any better. I liked most everything about my physical appearance…except for this one thing. My nose. I sat in front of the mirror for 30 minutes one time staring at my face, wishing I had a different nose. I would pinch it to make it look more slender, questioning why God didn’t make that one easy adjustment. I was 16 years old and had unknowingly bought into many lies about my physical appearance and beauty. I wasn’t the only one either. Every female friend I had was discontentFull Post

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May 17, 2016
Celebrate! Girl Defined is Here!

We are so excited to announce that Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity officially launched today!!! Today is a day of celebration. A day to celebrate all that God has done and is going to do. We are in awe of His incredible grace and mercy in our lives and this book is a testimony of His faithfulness. Our prayer is that this book will show you God’s incredible design for the girl and help you see that God defined femininity is an amazing and beautiful thing. We’re inviting you to join us on a liberating journey toward a radically better vision for femininity. OneFull Post

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May 16, 2016
Figuring Out if Biblical Womanhood is for You

WATCH VIDEO HERE Have you ever wondered if Biblical womanhood is relevant for your life? Watch today’s video and hear amazing stories of five different girls who each overcame their personal struggles as a result of embracing God’s design for womanhood. This is the fourth and final video in our 4 part series titled, “4 Secrets to Brave and Bold Womanhood.” PS Today is the LAST day to get the FREE pre-order bonus package for ordering Girl Defined. You don’t want to miss this! More info HERE.   

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May 5, 2016
The Ultimate “Squad Goal” for Christian Girls (Free Giveaway)

I’ll never forget the days of walking across the basketball court gym, with my teammates by my side, thinking I was Miss Amazing. This was my squad of girls and I was positive we were some of the coolest chicks on the planet. I liked my team, I liked my girls, I liked being a part of a  “squad.” I liked representing my team name and I liked having a group of people I could associate with. Fast forward to today and “squads” and “squad goals” are all the rage. I just recently saw a picture on social media of several famous celebrities and the title was captioned “squadFull Post

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May 4, 2016
3 Reasons Every Christian Girl Needs a Sisterhood

“We have a surprise for you!” our parents said with excitement. I, along with my six siblings, slowly filed into the kitchen, rubbing the sleep away from our eyes. I was a teenager at this point and not excited about “early morning” surprises. At this point in time my siblings consisted of 3 boys and 4 girls. “Well…” my mom said with a smile, taking a quick glance at my dad. “We have a little surprise for you!” My early morning brain tried to guess what it was. A vacation? A french toast for breakfast? Nope. Not a clue. “Well…” our mom continued. “In seven months, you’re going toFull Post

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April 29, 2016
Are you Falling Prey to the Big Bad Checklist?

I have a confession…and I’ll just be real here. I used to obsess over the fact that I had cellulite on my rear. Yeah. Even after I learned that 90% of women had cellulite, it didn’t matter. I wanted to have a perfectly flawless backside. No matter how much I worked out, certain areas of my body never seemed to get the memo. I don’t know why I cared so much either. This was pre-marriage, so that area of my body never saw the light of day. As I got older, I realized that my obsession with wanting to have a “perfect” rear was a result of something sneakyFull Post

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April 20, 2016
What Gorgeous Hair, Perfect Legs, and Long Eyelashes Can’t Get You

We’ve all seen those girls. The “perfect” ones. They have it all going for them. Perfect hair, flawless legs, long eyelashes, and a skinny waist. They seem to have it all. Right? Without even realizing it, we compare ourselves to them and instantly feel ugly. We instantly feel dissatisfied and ungrateful for our bodies. I know exactly how this game works because I’ve played it many times myself. You want to know what’s really crazy about this though? As we look at these “perfect girls” and compare ourselves to them, guess what? They’re doing the exact same thing about their bodies too. It’s hard to believe, but it’s true.Full Post

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April 13, 2016
Future Wife and Mom You Only Have 24hrs

Anna is your typical college age, happy-go-lucky, Christian girl. She’s on fire for God and is very outspoken on her college campus. The guys on campus know she isn’t interested in “messing around” and her professors are all aware of her strong faith in God. Anna takes her life as a Christian seriously and truly desires to live out biblical womanhood. She’s read the books, studied the Bible and has attended numerous conferences that champion God’s awesome design for women. She’s gung-ho-on-board with passages like Titus 2, Proverbs 31 and Ephesians 5. She’s even studied the topics of feminism, biblical submission in marriage and God-defined gender roles. This girlFull Post

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April 11, 2016
Why Modern Girls Should Embrace the Lost Art of Homemaking

Every time I walked into this particular house, I instantly felt swallowed alive by the chaos and mess. Dirty dishes all over the kitchen, laundry piled on the furniture, toys all over the floor, and the TV blaring. This home had no semblance of order, cleanliness or peace. It was chaos. Every time I visited my friend’s home, I left feeling more chaotic and unsettled than when I arrived (and btw, to all of my current friends who may read this, this is not your house. This happened many years ago. *wink*). In our upcoming book, I refer to this problem as the drive-thru kitchen and hotel bedroom lifestyle.Full Post

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April 8, 2016
How My Beauty Ruined My Sense of Worth

I woke up, looked in the mirror, and immediately disliked what I was seeing. During the night my face decided to turn into a broken out mess. Ugh! I was not a hampy camper. I washed, scrubbed and did my best to get rid of this ugly mess. Although my skin is far from perfect, I try my best to keep it clean and fresh. I use natural products, drink tons of water and avoid a lot of sugar on a regular basis. Despite my best efforts, it has a mind of its own. I’m sure many of you girls can relate to me on this one. I wishFull Post

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March 28, 2016
How Modesty, Romance, and Femininity Relate to the Gospel

“Instead of wasting time on topics like modesty and romance…why don’t you keep the focus on the gospel? Your Christian blog should be all about loving Jesus.” Several girls have written that type of email to us here at GirlDefined Ministries asking why we waste time writing about “secondary” issues rather than keeping the focus on the gospel. They’ve expressed disappointment that we take time to write about “minor” issues like modesty, romance, and femininity. I think it’s time to answer their questions. Why do we take time to write about topics like modesty, romance and femininity? I mean, as Christian girls, shouldn’t we just focus on loving JesusFull Post

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March 23, 2016
Official Girl Defined Book Trailer is Here!

WATCH VIDEO HERE. Drumroll please!! We have been waiting for this day for months. We have been praying for this day for years. God has done the miraculous and we are so excited to announce and release this video for you today! Since you’re a special part of the GirlDefined team, we wanted you (our awesome subscribers) to see this video first. Then – after you watch it – we want to personally invite you to join us on an amazing journey! If you’ve ever asked yourself any of these questions, this journey is for you: Am I valuable? Am I beautiful? What’s my purpose as a woman? HowFull Post

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March 10, 2016
How to Overcome Feelings and Live by Truth

A few years ago I had a conversation that I will never forget. It’s stuck in my brain and refuses to leave! Somehow, an acquaintance and I got on the topic of God, the Bible, and personal devotions. He explained to me his idea of being obsessed with Jesus. He told me that he likes to stay on spiritual highs in order to keep up his excitement for God and the Bible. He said that he likes to attend as many conferences as possible, listen to upbeat Christian music, and do things that get his emotions charged. Although I believe his intentions were good, I think his plan wasFull Post

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March 9, 2016
4 Reasons You Should Let Him Open Your Door

I married an amazing gentleman who has never failed to be chivalrous in our marriage. Even before Zack and I got married, he always did one little thing that I absolutely adore. He always opened the door. Not just restaurant doors and house doors. He opened (and still does) my car door too. Every time I get in or out of the car, he opens my door for me – regardless of who is driving. Does he need to open my door? No. Am I perfectly capable of opening my own door? Yes. But this little act of chivalry has taught me huge lessons about our God-defined roles asFull Post

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March 1, 2016
6 Girls You Definitely Don’t Want to Be

Alright, girls. It’s your turn. The guys just recently received a “write up” on my blog 6 Guys You Definitely Don’t Want to Marry. It’s only fair to turn the tables and hold ourselves to the same standard. If we as girls want to marry godly guys, or simply hope for guys to live up to a certain standard, we should expect the same character in our own lives. Don’t drift into your future and expect Christ-like character to just flow from your life. Becoming a God-defined woman takes serious focus and intentional effort. If you are not intentional about becoming a woman defined by the Word, you willFull Post

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February 25, 2016
How to Nourish Your Soul on a Daily Basis

Last summer my older sister (and fellow GirlDefined blogger), Kristen, purchased beautiful flowers to hang in baskets in front of her house. The flowers were vibrant colors and really added a beautiful touch. As the weeks went by when I looked at the flowers, I noticed their color was fading. The leaves withered and the petals looked sickly. I pointed the problem out to Kristen and she said, “Uh, I know. I keep forgetting to water them.” A few weeks later the flowers officially died. (R.I.P pretty petals.) It seems the water never quite made it to their baskets. The next time time I saw Kristen, she half-jokingly said,Full Post

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February 21, 2016
5 Ways to Become an Outward Focused Girl

When you hear the words “innie” and “outie,” what comes to mind? I think of belly buttons! I know what you must be thinking: Why in the world is she talking about belly buttons? That’s so awkward! I promise I’m not belly button obsessed, but they make for a perfect illustration. I hope that from this day forward a belly button will never be “just a belly button,” but a reminder of the kind of girl you desire to be. Two Kinds of Belly Buttons and Two Kinds of Girls In this world there are two kinds of belly buttons: innies and outies. One points inward and one pointsFull Post

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February 8, 2016
What a Hat Taught Me About ‘Cute’ (Free Book Giveaway)

I saved up my allowance (yes, I still get one) all summer in anticipation of the end-of-year clearance sale at one of my favorite online retailers. As autumn’s first chill threatened to ditch summer like a Hollywood fling, I filled my cart with all those cute lil’ summery clothes I had been eyeing since spring. Including the hat. Not just any hat, my sisters. This black trucker hat with giant, silver “SURF” lettering was the epitome of cool. The model who had worn it in the spring catalog—with her caramel skin and salt-tousled hair—confirmed it was the cutest hat EVER created. Surely all the girls in sunny Costa RicanFull Post

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January 19, 2016
Are You a Rule Follower or a Christ Follower?

Have you ever seen a mamma duck with her babies following in a neat little line behind her? It’s an adorable sight. As a kid, I loved going to the pond to watch the cute little ducklings waddle behind their mommies. Mommy duck jumps in the water. Baby ducks jump in the water. Mommy duck sits down for a nap. Baby ducks sit down for a nap. Mommy duck stands up and starts walking. Baby ducks start walking. These little ducklings have their eyes on their mommy and they copy her every move. When ducks behave this way, it’s totally adorable. When grown adults act this way, it’s seriouslyFull Post

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January 7, 2016
Hot Christian Girls Desperately Needed

I can almost hear you thinking, “she can’t really mean what the title of this blog says. There’s gotta be something else to this.” You are right. There is something else to this blog. Although this blog is about being a “hot girl” it’s not the kind of hot you typically associate with that word. Let me explain. The other day I was brainstorming in my prime brainstorming spot…the bathtub. For some reason I come up with my best ideas in there. Out of nowhere this verse came to mind and my brain went crazy, “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish youFull Post

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December 29, 2015
Smart Girls Set Goals and Work Hard

Growing up I was obsessed with basketball. I practiced for hours upon end and worked hard to improve my skills. I attended camps, worked on the fundamentals, watched recordings of my games and talked strategy late into the night. The hard work totally paid off because my team was one of the best in the country and I was offered a full ride to college (which I didn’t end of taking). Looking back on my basketball days I’ve discovered an extremely important lesson. Setting goals and working hard really pays off. Carrying That Lesson Into Your Womanhood If I could have one wish for you this year, it wouldFull Post

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December 25, 2015
Merry Christmas: A Personal Letter From GirlDefined

Hey Girls, Wow! I can’t believe this year is coming to an end. So much has happened in the GirlDefined ministry and I’m dying to share it with you. The biggest (and most incredible) surprise of this past year started with a phone call. “Bethany, you aren’t going to believe this. We just got an email from a publishing company and they’re interested in publishing us. This is what we’ve been praying for! You’ve got to come over asap and help me write an email back to them!” When Kristen called and shared the news with me, I was floored. The two of us had been praying about publishingFull Post

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December 15, 2015
The Secret to Achieving Diamond Status

I woke up early with a skip in my step and a smile on my face. I had plans to head to the airport to attend a Biblical Counseling conference with my mom and sisters. I’d been eagerly anticipating it all summer long. We arrived at the airport, breezed through security, and found our seats on the plane with no delays. The next few days flew by in a blur as I listened to speaker after speaker share on topics that I’m passionate about. My hand scrambled back and forth as I tried to take as many notes as possible. The conference was even better than I expected it.Full Post

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November 26, 2015
7 Letters That Will Dramatically Change Your Life

The past few months of my life feel like they’ve been filled with a certain 7 letter word. This word flies in the face of my natural heart’s desire and is the opposite of everything the culture promotes. This word has challenged me, convicted me, encouraged me and given me incredible hope. When I focus on living this word out, I have such incredible rest, contentment and joy in my heart. I want to share this word with you in hopes that you can find the same hope, conviction, contentment and joy that I’ve found by *attempting* to live it out. The word is WORSHIP. The word worship holdsFull Post

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November 22, 2015
Discovering Your God-Given Purpose (Free Giveaway)

“Watch out for that cable.” “Don’t kick the stand.” These are whispered exclamations as we walk onto the dark stage, doing our best not to trip on each other. Finally, we’re in our positions. It’s dead quiet in front of us, and our audience is waiting. We’ve done this before but there is still a hint of anticipatory queasiness before a show. We each take a deep breath, smile… and suddenly lights blare in our face. That’s our cue, and we launch into our first song. Have you ever looked around and thought “how in the world did I get here – this is crazy awesome!”? I have. AndFull Post

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November 11, 2015
Mom For Rent: New Trend Proves the Value of Motherhood

What if you had to pay your mom $40 every time you spent time with her? That’d be crazy right? Well…not if you live in New York City. Apparently having a mom to talk to is worth a lot more than most of us realize. In fact, a lady named Nina decided to start a business based on that idea. Nina is in her 60’s, lives in NYC, and talks to a lot of young people who claim they don’t have good mother figures. Apparently they want an older, wiser woman to talk to, but don’t know who to turn to. So, Nina decided to become a professional mom.Full Post

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October 30, 2015
5 Books That Will Radically Change Your Life (Free Book Giveaway)

When I was in 6th grade I entered my first, and last, archery competition. I was attending a church camp and each camper was allowed to enter one competition. Basketball. Volleyball. Horseshoes. Archery. BB gun. Why in the world I chose archery, I have no idea. But, I did, and it proved to be a very *very* important lesson that would stick with me for the rest of my life. The day before the competition, I had a friend explain the basics of how to aim and hit the bullseye. Whatever that person taught me must have worked because I ended up securing the first place trophy *let’s hearFull Post

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October 26, 2015
A Message to Tweens on Becoming a Godly Woman

A year and a half ago, I sat down at Starbucks with my 12 year old sister. Her big blue eyes stared back into mine as I shared my heart with her. I said, “Sue, just because you are growing up in a Christian family doesn’t mean you are immune to making sinful choices. Just because your older sisters run a Christian blog for girls doesn’t mean you are guaranteed to become a godly woman yourself. You have to put in the effort to grow in your relationship with Jesus and invest time to grow in your character. If you want to be a godly woman, you have toFull Post

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October 19, 2015
How to Wear Makeup in a Feminine and God Honoring Way

Back in high school, I had the most unexpected run-in with a random dad in regards to the amount of makeup on my face. I was attending a Christian conference and chatting with a few sisters I had met, when their dad suddenly slipped into our conversation. After several minutes of casual chatting, he looked and me and politely stated the following: “You have naturally beautiful features,” he said, ” but the amount of makeup you’re wearing seems to be covering them up. As a dad and a man, I think you would look a lot better than you think with less makeup.” Slightly shocked and stunned at hisFull Post

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September 14, 2015
Is Being a Woman More than Getting Married and Having Babies?

If being a woman is strictly about getting married and having babies, then Kristen and I are failing miserably. I don’t have a husband which means I don’t have children and Kristen has a husband but God hasn’t given her children yet. As most of you know I would love to get married (followed by children) and Kristen would love to have children. Despite our desires and open hearts toward those roles (wife and mother) God has chosen not to fulfill all of those desires in either of our lives. Discovering True Womanhood As a young girl I believed that the ultimate fulfillment and purpose in my life wouldFull Post

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May 25, 2015
It Takes a Strong Girl to Obey God’s Word

I was thirteen going on fourteen and dying for my birthday to arrive. I had asked my parents for my very own weight bench and I couldn’t wait to start lifting those weights. Yes, I know that’s a little weird. What thirteen year old girl wants a weight bench for her birthday? I knew that increasing my strength would make me a better basketball player and that’s exactly what I wanted. I wanted to be strong so that I could be successful. As I’ve grown older my desire to be strong has only increased. Don’t worry, I’m not into bodybuilding or anything like that. In fact, my weight benchFull Post

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May 8, 2015
3 Essential Ways of Life for Every Christian Girl

Several months ago I was walking through a gift shop in Estes Park, Colorado when Bethany handed me the craziest book. “Check this out!” she said in a half-serious/half-sarcastic tone. She handed me a small hardback book. The title read, Everything Men Know About Women. With a title like that, I was immediately interested in finding out what the inside would reveal. I took a deep breath, put my hands on both sides of the book to gear up for what I was about to read. Then I opened the book. To my utter shock the entire book was BLANK. I flipped through the pages from front to backFull Post

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April 29, 2015
Finding True Worth in an Image Obsessed Culture

After years of failed attempts to become a European supermodel, Alana’s dream job finally became a reality. Out of thousands of girls, she was selected to be a runway supermodel for a famous fashion designer in Milan, Italy. She was exactly what they wanted. After spending a short vacation at home with her family in America, she arrived back in Italy only to find that her position had been replaced. “You’re not what we want anymore,” one of the Italian agency directors told her. “You’re too short and too pale. We found someone better.” Alana’s dreams shattered before her eyes. This was her life. She was good enough oneFull Post

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April 14, 2015
The Past 100 Years of Beauty and How it Affects You

My dad and I were catching a quick breakfast before heading into work. We were at the checkout counter in a local bakery waiting to pay our bill. The waitress walked up to the counter and stopped dead in her tracks. She looked me up and down and said, “You are freakishly tall!” I stood there absolutely stunned. I had no idea how to respond to that. I know that at 6’ 1” I’m on the taller side, but I’ve never been called “freakishly tall.” I decided to just smile nicely and say, “Yeah . . . I am really tall . . .ha ha.” Awkward. What Does Perfect LookFull Post

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April 13, 2015
Why Smart Girls Applaud Chivalry (From a Guy)

If you’re like some girls I know, you think chivalry has gone extinct. Or at least is in hibernation. Even as a guy, I look around and see so few men being courteous to women. It’s surprising (not to mention embarrassing). I am constantly asking myself “Is chivalry dead?” Let me be honest: I don’t think it is. I see examples of it in men all around me. It’s just not as common as it used to be. Noah Webster’s 1828 dictionary defines “chivalry” as “the system of knighthood; the privileges, characteristics or manners of knights; the practice of knight errantry [if you’re wondering what “errantry” means, it wasFull Post

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March 18, 2015
I’ll Keep My Clothes On, Thank You

I vividly remember my one and only interview with a local modeling agency. The director pulled out the personal information sheet and slid it across the desk. I scanned through the pages and my hands started to sweat. What was I going to tell this guy? I was supposed to mark down which categories of modeling were most interesting to me. Club wear? Lingerie? Swimwear? None of those options were going to cut it. I was hoping for something with a bit more…coverage. I awkwardly explained to the director my personal convictions for clothing standards. I could see the look of mockery in his eyes. According to him IFull Post

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March 9, 2015
So…Why Did God Create Girls?

There were country-style knick-knacks everywhere, and all around the room hung little wooden signs with witty sayings painted on them.  One of these signs caught my eye. It said: “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.” Cute, right? There was even a playful drawing of a fish trying to ride a bicycle with its tail-fins. But is that really the truth? I mean, sure, the world loves to tell girls that they should be strong and independent; it loves to teach that girls don’t need men to be happy or live a fulfilling life, but is that consistent with what the Bible teaches? ToFull Post

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March 6, 2015
Why Pretty Girls Don’t Have What it Takes

How do you know if Hollywood thinks you’re pretty enough? I mean, beauty is in the eye of the beholder right? Well…apparently there’s a certain group of people who are trying to prove that beauty can actually be measured. They call it the “golden ratio.” The golden ratio is a number (1.62 to be exact) which these groups claim can be used to measure beauty. This number is used to measure everything from how far apart your eyes are, to how long your head is, to how much space you have between your chin and lips. If you measure really well (basically perfect according to this group), your numbersFull Post

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February 23, 2015
A Teenage Girl’s Beauty Struggle

Have you ever looked in the mirror, and not liked what you saw? And no matter how hard you tried, your outfit, makeup, hair, etc. just didn’t look ‘good’? That’s me. I’m the girl who everyone thinks is confident, carefree, and knows that God loves me, mainly because I’m the pastor’s daughter. I’m sure that every girl has had this struggle, it’s probably the most popular of all the teenage-girl problems. My hair is plain brown, no volume. My eyes are dull blue-ish grey. I’m short, with absolutely NO curves whatsoever. For the past four years or so, I’ve struggled with the fact that I’m not beautiful. That noFull Post

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February 20, 2015
Becoming a God-Defined Girl in a Culture-Defined World

I once knew a girl who said she loved God. She called herself a Christian and even went to church every Sunday. But the rest of her week was full of activities, school, sports, friends, and just plain busyness. She occasionally read her Bible…but mostly because it was the “right” thing to do. She attended a church youth program once a week, but cared more about hanging out with her friends than growing spiritually. Sadly, this girl began struggling on the inside. She wanted to be a strong Christian, but did very little to help herself get there. I wish this girl was someone else, but she’s not. ThisFull Post

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January 21, 2015
Godly Girls Have These 4 Things in Common

The word guy is the most popular word on our blog. Every single time we have posted a blog about guys, it’s been a huge hit. We’ve put two and two together. Girls want to hear about guys. They want to know how guys think. What guys like. What guys don’t like. What guys want in a girl. What guys are looking for in a wife. I can relate. I’m a single girl. I think guys are a pretty fascinating topic. I’m totally tracking with why the word guy is so popular. No surprise. We as girls like the topic of guys. The bad news. This blog post isFull Post

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January 14, 2015
Why We Like Hard Working Women

“How much is your allowance?” My snobby 12 year old neighborhood friend asked me. She was at it again. Always trying to one-up me. She didn’t have any siblings and I had seven. Take a quick guess at whose allowance was bigger. I stood there brainstorming for a good comeback. I was in a perpetual state of competition with this girl. How was I going to tell her that I actually didn’t get any allowance money. “Well..” I slowly said. Then I had it. With my chin raised I delivered my speech. “My parents don’t give me an allowance because they say when I grow up to be anFull Post

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January 7, 2015
When Looking Hot Gets You More Attention

I was thirteen years old and heading in for my first experience with the well known photography company Glamour Shots. My mom and I were on a special girls trip to Dallas, Texas to celebrate my birthday. Obviously getting my hair highlighted, nails manicured and pictures taken was a must for this girly girl. I loved every minute of the Glamour Shot experience. The makeup. The hair. The clothes. The looking at pictures. The compliments. I felt beautiful and accepted. After the shoot I looked through the pictures and picked out my favorites. We ordered a package and then left the store to continue on our trip. When theFull Post

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December 24, 2014
God Used a Teenage Girl to Accomplish the Impossible

She had no guarantees. She had no promises for her future. She wasn’t handed a map telling her how her life would work out or how the details would unfold. She was given a message by a man she’d never seen, was told she would accomplish something that had never been done in the past and would never be done in the future. She was given a message with no further instructions and was left to trust that God would work out the plan. Mary was only a young teenage girl when she was assigned the most important job in the world. God chose Mary, a young unmarried woman,Full Post

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December 12, 2014
Why Christian Girls Should Be Beautiful but Not Seductive

Several months ago I wrote a controversial blog post that went viral and picked up a lot of positive and negative attention. It currently has over 730 comments and has reached over a million people. It’s called “Why Christian Girls Post Seductive Selfies.” If you’re interested, you can read it here. My main point was to bring up the question of why so many Christian girls post provocative, sensual and seductive selfies online. I challenged Christian girls to reevaluate their online images and ask themselves if what they’re posting is honoring to God. After reading through several hundred of the comments I began noticing a theme. People were makingFull Post

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November 21, 2014
Why Your Singleness is a Really Big Deal

Have you ever had one of those AH-HA moments in your life? I had one of those last week as I was talking to a friend at church about her recent broken engagement. She shared with me her heartache, but also the hope of knowing that God is sovereign and He does have a plan for her life. God knew her engagement would be broken and still allowed her to go through it for a very specific reason. Although she may not understand why, she is choosing to trust God and praise Him through this storm. She went on to explain how she is grateful that God is givingFull Post

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November 12, 2014
10 Books That Will Change Every Girl’s Life

When I turned thirteen years old I had some major life questions. I wanted to understand how to deal with big areas in my life like guys, purity, morals, the future, femininity, and my worth and value as a girl. I had (still have) awesome parents who gave me great advice and provided me with incredible resources to learn from. One of the most challenging and helpful resources I had as a teen were books. The authors of these books were some of my best mentors and counselors. I want to give you the inside scoop on my top ten favorites of all time. These are the ten booksFull Post

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November 10, 2014
Should Christian Girls Wear Purity Rings?

My bags were packed, the car was loaded with snacks, and I was ready to embark on a milestone road trip with my mom. It was a very significant trip in my life because it marked the end of my childhood season and the beginning of womanhood. My family has a really neat tradition where each kid gets to take a special trip with one of my parents (girls go with mom and boys with dad) shortly after we enter our teen years. The purpose of the trip is for my parents to spend quality one-on-one time with us and to officially launch us into becoming men and women. OnceFull Post

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October 27, 2014
3 Secrets That Changed Michelle’s Life

If you had the choice which girl would you choose to be? Girl #1 Shannon Shannon grew up in church, was raised by Christian parents, attended youth group on a weekly basis and even went on short-term missions trips. As Shannon grew older she became very self-conscious and desired to be loved and accepted by those around her. Instead of turning to God’s Word to discover her value in God’s eyes, Shannon turned to the culture. She slowly but surely bought into the lie that beauty, a good looking body and attention from guys was the key to happiness. Shannon’s life soon became an out-of-control mess as she strivedFull Post

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October 22, 2014
Fierce Girls Needed For Battle

FIERCE  “I’m hot, I’m sexy and I’m in control.”  A few years back a friend of mine pulled up the computer to show me pictures of a semi-finalist on the popular show America’s Next Top Model. It just so happened that the girl competing for the Top Model title attended my friends university. My friend was so shocked by how “fierce” this girl looked in her photos that she just had to show me. This girl definitely had the “I’m hot, I’m sexy and I’m in control” fierce look going on. She must have been trained well by the shows host, Tyra Banks. This whole idea of being fierce wasFull Post

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October 20, 2014
What Marilyn Monroe Didn’t Have

She starred in thirty major films, was awarded the Golden Globe for “Female World Film Favorite,” started her own production company, voted “2nd Greatest Movie Star” of all time by Premiere Magazine, and was chosen by Empire Magazine as one of the “100 Sexiest Stars in Film History.” She was beautiful, talented, successful, and seemed to have everything a girl could dream of, except for one thing – happiness. Her life came to a tragic end on August 5, 1962 due to a drug overdose. She was only 36 years old. Sadly, this is the story of America’s most iconic woman, Marilyn Monroe. The cultures false version of beauty andFull Post

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October 13, 2014
7 Habits of a Wimpy Girl

Bethany and I came home yesterday from an awesome weekend in Indianapolis attending the True Woman ’14 National Women’s Conference. We met some amazing women of faith and were challenged in our own understanding of biblical womanhood and what it means to have a personal walk with Jesus. On Friday morning we heard an eye opening message by Mary Kassian on how NOT to be a wimpy woman in this world. She highlighted 7 bad habits that most Christian girls and women fall prey to. After her message, I was blown away by how easily I fall prey to our world’s way of thinking and buy into its lies.Full Post

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October 10, 2014
Reporting LIVE From True Woman ’14

Tuesday night Kristen and I packed our bags, preparing to fly out the next morning to attend one of the best womens’ events in history. Which event is that? The True Woman ‘14 Conference hosted by Revive Our Hearts and Nancy Leigh DeMoss. It’s seriously the most counter-cultural, mind-blowing, life-changing event that a young woman could attend. That is why I love it so much and why I wish each and every one of you could be here. Since you weren’t able to make it to the conference, I want to give you a snapshot of the opening ceremonies and share some quotes from these top notch authors and speakers.Full Post

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October 8, 2014
How the True Woman Movement Changed our Lives

Exactly four years ago Bethany and I headed out on a road trip to a conference that we knew very little about. We heard it was going to be amazing but we had never experienced it first hand. Four days later, a notebook full of notes, and our brains exploding with awesomeness, we knew we had discovered a gold mine. I’m talking about the one and only True Woman Conference. And now, exactly four years later, we’re headed back to the True Woman ‘14 Conference in Indianapolis and we are SO excited about it. In fact, we’re probably on the plane right now as you’re reading this! If youFull Post

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September 15, 2014
Your Womanhood is Not About You

After a long and deep sleep Adam finally woke up. There before his eyes was the most beautiful creature he had ever laid eyes on. This newest creation was beyond anything he could have ever imagined. He immediately realized that this beautiful woman was perfectly designed for himself. She had been taken from his very own body and was fashioned to fit him perfectly.  Can you imagine how Adam must have felt that first moment he laid eyes on Eve? Wow! What a way to get a woman. Not only was Adam getting a companion, lover, and friend, he was getting a woman who would compliment him and helpFull Post

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September 10, 2014
Getting Married Is Still a Good Thing

Little girls are no longer growing up and being pushed towards marriage and motherhood. In fact, girls are looked down upon if marriage and motherhood is anywhere in the top 10 on their priority list. How do I know this? Because it’s happened to me and it’s happened to almost every young woman I interact with. It doesn’t matter if you’re a homeschooler, private schooler or public schooler, the pressure is the same. If you tell people that you are pursuing a career, going to school or fighting to get to the top of the corporate ladder, you will find nothing but praise and applause! If you tell peopleFull Post

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August 22, 2014
How to Become a Godly Girl

I was at a wedding recently and noticed how beautiful the bride’s wedding cake was. It not only looked good but it tasted really good too. The cake didn’t start out that way though. The day before the wedding it was nothing more than a pile of flour, sugar, eggs, butter, etc. In order to get the amazing end result that was displayed at the wedding reception someone had to carefully follow the directions on the recipe. If anything was left out, or if too much of one ingredient was added, the cake would have been a flop. Real life works the same way. As a Christian girl, youFull Post

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July 30, 2014
How to Outshine a Supermodel

The months of preparation were finally finished. The big night was here. The runway was ready, the lights were shining, and the cameras were rolling. After ten hours of makeup, hair, spray tans, manicures, and fake eyelashes, the models were ready. They looked flawless. “And now,” the announcer said with his best radio host voice, “the moment we have all been waiting for!” The music started and the models emerged onto the runway. “The most beautiful and perfect females on the planet!” he said enthusiastically. We live in a society where the picture-perfect female is nothing less than a highly  airbrushed supermodel. As girls we’re tempted to feel uglyFull Post

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July 14, 2014
A Popular Way to Lose Your Respect as a Girl

I was at our local grocery store the other day in the checkout aisle when I saw her. I had never seen anything this disturbing in my grocery store before. There she was, right in front of my eyes without a shirt on. I’m not exaggerating here. Thankfully she was wearing jeans…but she was shirtless! I glanced back and forth to see if anybody standing around me was as shocked as I was. Not a blink. Nobody seemed to care a bit. Frustration began to well up inside of me. Why would a family friendly grocery store allow this shirtless woman to parade herself down the checkout aisle?! ThereFull Post

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July 11, 2014
Getting Rid of Barbie’s “Perfect Image” Pressure

It was a regular Wednesday morning at work when the mail arrived. I started scanning through the letters when I noticed a big hot pink magazine. “Barbie” was the only thing written on the front cover. I was annoyed to see this piece of junk mail at the office and started to cut out the address label in order to remove us from the mailing list. Right before I tossed the magazine in the trash, curiosity got the best of me and I took a peek inside. The magazine was filled with dozens of perfect images of plastic dolls dressed in slinky, provocative outfits. The pages were loaded withFull Post

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July 9, 2014
Why Christian Girls Post Seductive Selfies

When I was in high school Bethany and I decided we wanted to do a really cool photo shoot of ourselves. We put on the most modern outfits we could find, layered on the jewelry, doubled the mascara and headed to a prime location – our roof. We recruited (begged) one of our younger sisters to be our photographer. We all climbed onto the roof of our house and she snapped away with the camera. Yes, a roof is a random place to do a photo shoot, but we did it there to get that perfect “modelesque” breeze to blow our hair just right. For each picture, we posedFull Post

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June 4, 2014
5 Reasons Why I Love Being a Girl

Let me clarify from the get go. This is not a post about how great girls are and how rotten guys are. It’s actually quite the opposite. Without guys in the world, none of my five points would matter. I need the male gender to give my five reasons their special touch and uniqueness. Trust me. I don’t typically sit around my house writing down all of the reasons why I love being a girl. In fact, up until recently I had never thought this topic through. So why did I start thinking about this? A few days ago some friends and I were talking when one of themFull Post

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May 16, 2014
3 Lessons I Learned in a Modeling Interview

I walked into the modeling agency and sat down in the owner’s office. One of his recruiting agents had seen me in a clothes store several weeks earlier and had given me a business card. From what I knew about the modeling industry, I was pretty sure that my personal convictions and the modeling scene wouldn’t jive. In the past I had never taken any modeling offers seriously. I’m not sure why I felt different this time, but I did. My curiosity was pricked and I needed to find out for myself what the modeling world was all about. I wanted to know what really went on behind theFull Post

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May 2, 2014
Forced to Enter a Beauty Competition

She didn’t have a choice. She was forced to enter the beauty competition whether she wanted to or not. From this point forward her life would never look the same. If she wins the competition, she will become the new bride of a violent and powerful king. If she loses, she is sent to live in a house filled with all of the other losers, known as concubines. Her life would not be one of flattery, love, and romance. She would live out the rest of her days trapped in a guarded house. Her dreams of having children and a family would be long gone at this point. AndFull Post

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April 12, 2014
What is the Purpose of Being a Girl?

It was a cold and windy day in Texas. Definitely not ideal weather for shooting an outdoor video, but it didn’t matter. We were on a mission. With our small film crew in tow, Bethany and I headed into the heart of our local University campus. We scanned the sea of busy students and decided to place ourselves right in the middle of the action. With our microphone in hand and the cameras rolling, we approached random students to get their thoughts on some controversial topics. “Besides the obvious physical differences, do you think there’s a difference between guys and girls?” This was the first question we asked eachFull Post

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August 21, 2013
She Wants to Be Like You

I pulled into a carwash the other day to use the vacuums and couldn’t help but hear the loud rock/pop music coming from the SUV next to me. I looked over and saw a lady (probably 40 years old) vacuuming out her car, with what appeared to be her 3 year old daughter sitting in a carseat. I smiled at the little girl and waved. She returned my wave and gave me a sweet, innocent smile. It was impossible for me to avoid hearing the lyrics of the loud song as we vacuumed our cars side by side. The song was about partying, being sexy, having sex, drinking andFull Post

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June 11, 2013
Why Hot Weather Doesn’t Justify Immodesty

Summer time is almost here! We’re breaking out the lemonade, grilling in the backyard and playing horseshoes in the evenings (yes, we play horseshoes). I especially love wearing the bright and cheery colors that my summer wardrobe brings. During the summer months it seems like everyone is so happy and upbeat, doesn’t it? I am usually happy and upbeat myself until I remember the one down side of summer – the blistering heat. Down here in south Texas our summer days seem to average a lovely 100 degrees, with a nice humid breeze to keep your hair moist. Doing anything outside during the summer without sweating is pretty muchFull Post

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September 28, 2012
Advice From a New Bride

All eyes were on the back doors of the church. The organ began playing the wedding march, and there she was in a beautiful white wedding dress. She began her walk down the aisle toward her groom, God’s chosen man for her to spend the rest of her life with. All eyes were in tears as we watched the bride and the groom seal their marriage with a kiss. They were finally husband and wife. I was beyond excited as I watched my friend marry the man of her dreams. How could I become like my married friend, Stacy? My good friends, Stacy and Logan, have now been marriedFull Post

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April 13, 2012
The Victoria’s Secret Lie

Victoria has boldly been telling girls all across the world that the secret to true beauty is a sexy body. If you want to be beautiful you must have tanned skin, long legs, lots of cleavage and basically a perfect body. That’s a tall order. If that’s the standard, how will any man ever love me with my lack of beauty? My body is so far from Victoria’s standard of perfection that I may as well become a nun. According to Victoria I will never be perfectly beautiful. What are we supposed to do with the message of Victoria’s Secret? Should we believe them? Is it true that havingFull Post

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