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10 Reasons I Don’t Watch Chick Flicks Anymore

By: Kristen Clark

She’s rich. He’s poor.

True love was never meant to be for the two of them.

She rebels against her father’s dreams of marrying the wealthy doctor and instead runs away with the handsome peasant boy. If they can only escape from their family and friends to find freedom they will surely live happily ever after.

Drama. Tears. The climax.

The movie slowly fades to an end as the sunset glows on the young couple walking hand-in-hand in a breezy, grassy field. True love wins the day again.

Sound familiar to any of you?

Chick flicks draw in millions of girls and women to the theaters every year.

Guys usually avoid them like the plague, but girls eat them up – especially the under 30’s crowd. We just can’t seem to get enough of the sappy romance, rebellious love, and one night flings.

Hollywood knows that guys and girls are wired differently, and they purposely market these movies to women. “What’s wrong with that?” You might be wondering. Chick flicks are a harmless piece of entertainment.

Think again.

A study was actually done by secular scientists who made some alarming discoveries about chick flicks. Fox News covered the story several years ago and titled it, “Romantic Comedies Can Ruin Your Life.”

The study was done to find out if girls had false expectations about real life relationships after watching chick flicks.

Kimberly Johnson, a woman who worked on the study, said: “[Chick flicks] do capture the excitement of new relationships but they also wrongly suggest that trust and committed love exist from the moment people meet, whereas these are qualities that normally take years to develop.”

The study also stated, “Romantic comedies promote unrealistic expectations of love and relationships.”

If secular studies are raising the alarm about these films, shouldn’t we give it a bit of questioning ourselves?

For some reason, movies in general seem to be a slippery slope for most Christians. Our conscience meter seems to get a little duller with each Hollywood film we consume.

What once shocked us now only makes us laugh.

Chick flicks can be tricky films because they always portray a “sweet story.” As girls, we love the sweet stories. We’re willing to overlook a few minor bedroom scenes, illicit relationships, and total unfaithfulness for a “sweet story.”

Whether you realize it or not, the chick flick movies you absorb will most likely cause more damage than good to your real life relationships. They paint an alluring, but false picture of what romance, marriage, sex, and true love really is. Chick flicks should be required to have a “do not try this at home” disclaimer on all of their movies.

Now don’t get me wrong, I enjoy a good movie like the best of them, but the list I’m about to share with you has caused me to stop and ask, “What is a good movie?” Sadly, they’re getting harder and harder to find.

Here are 10 lies I see being promoted in most modern chick flicks today:

1. True love happens right away.
2. Committing adultery is okay if it’s for “true love.”
3. Rebelling against your parents is a good thing if they stand in the way of you and your dream man.
4. Men are portrayed as perfect heroes or total idiots.
5. You should give up everything for your guy.
6. Saving sex for marriage is b-o-r-i-n-g.
7. Follow your heart no matter where it takes you.
8. Falling in love with the “bad guy” is a good thing.
9. Sex outside of marriage has no consequences.
10. The Bible is never used as a standard for truth.

You probably read that list and rolled your eyes thinking, “seriously, chick flicks can’t be that bad.” But if you had to be totally honest, I think you would agree with me. Think back on the last 3 chick flicks you watched. Were any of them guilty of at least one (or more) of the ten points from above?

Over the past view years, God has been challenging me in my personal entertainment choices. Like so many of you, I’ve been very guilty of watching a modern chick flick and hardly noticing the immorality and nastiness taking place on the screen.

Craig Cabaniss calls this “thoughtless watching” in the book Worldliness.

“Many of us don’t think about actively filtering our viewing. As long as we avoid the obvious traps such as pornography, we don’t consider deliberate evaluation necessary. Though we may faithfully apply Scripture in other areas of life, we may not consciously think about how God’s Word applies to our entertainment choices.” -Craig Cabaniss

I have come to the conclusion that I cannot watch “unwatchingly” any longer. I have to be more intentional than that. If I’m going to faithfully honor God in every area of my life, I must take my media choices seriously.

We can’t watch blindly.

“Discerning what pleases the Lord requires critically evaluating media content at all times.” -Craig Cabaniss

Because of the major lies and flaws that I see in modern chick flicks today, I’ve made the crazy choice to give up watching those movies altogether. In my heart of hearts, I know I can’t honor God and watch that garbage at the same time. It doesn’t work for me.

What’s your personal opinion about chick flicks? Do you see any of the ten lies in modern chick flicks today?

What changes do you need to make in your personal media choices? Do you “unwatchingly watch” things without evaluating the content first?

Is God’s design for love, romance and sex being honored and valued in the movies you watch?

Movies can be really fun! So let’s enjoy the God honoring ones and courageously say no to the worldly trash.

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11 Responses to 10 Reasons I Don’t Watch Chick Flicks Anymore

  1. Rebekah says:

    Very true! I haven’t watched many “chick flicks” for these very reasons. And the same can be said of Christian romance novels. My favorite “girl” movies are Anne of Green Gables and Wives and Daughters, because they show true love, not just some fireworks upon first meeting, so everything possible must be done to be together no matter what the cost to other relationships or anything else.

  2. GirlDefined says:

    @midwestgirl I totally agree. This is one area we can and should take control of. Keep standing and fighting for truth!

  3. Elisabeth says:

    It’s not just movies which aren’t my thing is tv show too.Even back from almost twenty years ago you can find some actual occasional(sexual or bad seans).Though I completely hate thesd wicked thing in real life.I find it very hard to hard them when it with a “handsome couple” on tv.Especially, if it’s one of my fav ones!!.Please pray that I will turn down such things now if I see them on tv.

  4. A few months ago, we were watching a chick flick series which I really liked. I was also reading a romance novel. When I started feeling more and more discontent and sour, I had to stop and diagnose the problem. I realized how much all that romance was hurting me! The result was I put away the romance novel and stopped watching the movies–even if my whole family was watching them. I also wrote a blog post on it. It was so neat to see how many things changed for the better when I put those aside!

    Thank you for this blog post! Such a great reminder!! 🙂

  5. Mary says:

    What movies do you girls watch Kristin? What about movies like Pride and Prejudice, Love Comes Softly, Anne of Green Gables, and Christian chick flicks? Is kissing something you consider wrong in a movie such ones like these?

  6. Gabrielle says:

    AMEN, AMEN, AMEN!! I can totally relate. I try to stay away from movies that are solely about love, and that give unrealistic expectations in (romantic) relationships. It’s just not healthy! You know it’s something….I’ve thought to myself why do some of us as God’s daughters have twisted views of love and relationships – the movies. If you’re subjected to something it can subtly come in and begin to form views, your thoughts and opinions. I will say though that there are some excellent movies out there that contain a romantic relationship but THAT’S NOT the focus like so many others. You know? I guess there’s a fine line to be recognized!

    A few years ago God challenged me, and I guess in a way still is challenging me personally on what I watch. Ever since, I’ve been trying to be more guarded and aware of those hidden messages that you may not easily catch while actually viewing a film.

    Anyway, thanks for posting!

  7. Gracie says:

    I think there a lots of good movies that have romance in them, particularly hallmark stuff (some are yuck), but mostly these movies were from 2000-2003. Today, the movies are just trashy, gross, and dark.

  8. Kesslyn Fleck says:

    Wow! This message really hit home for me! Movies and entertainment have always been something my parents have focused on, and recently I have become especially convicted on the subject of godly media. Thank you for clearing some things up for me in this area! Great post!!

  9. Adjeley says:

    Love this!!!! For a girl who is obsessed with movies, I am going to be careful what I watch next time

  10. Christine says:

    This is really late coming, but I just read this article and absolutely loved it. This is so true, and also applies to novels, T.V. shows, music and even conversations with others who don’t live by Bible principles. We must not forget what 1 John 5:19 says: “We know we originate with God, but the whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one.” If we think that the devil is not using media and entertainment to blind our eyes and turn us away from being in an approved standing with God, then we really need to think again. Some might say that not watching “innocent” movies is extreme, but Jesus said at Matthew 5:30 “If your right hand is making you stumble, cut it off and throw it away from you.” Obviously that is not literal, but anything that can make us stumble and stop serving God should be treated as if it were a disease; we have to get rid of it asap. Might I add, this is not applicable only in the ‘romance’ genre but also includes any entertainment that involves and promotes violence, spiritism, magic and love of anything that God detests.
    Thanks for this post!

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