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20 Differences Between Guys and Girls

By: Kristen Clark

I heard a story recently about a single mom who was fiercely feminist and didn’t want her son being stereotyped. Stereotyped for what? Well…for being a man.

She didn’t believe in gender differences so she did everything she could to zap his manliness.

She encouraged him to play with dolls, wear dresses, and sit with his legs crossed.

She never allowed him to play with toy guns or anything that appeared masculine.

She thought she was doing a pretty good job of guarding him from any forms of gender stereotyping until one dreadful morning. While scrambling eggs for breakfast, she looked over, and to her shock, her four year old son had chewed his piece of toast into the shape of a gun.

Boys will be boys, I guess.

God created guys and girls to be different and it’s a beautiful thing. We are not the same and that should affect us in positive ways. Instead of stifling our unique differences and fighting to be the same, let’s embrace God’s design for our womanhood and thrive as He intended.

Check out this list of 20 differences between guys and girls.

While reading, just keep in mind that this list is about the majority, not every instance. Yes, some guys do ballet and some girls play football; but is that the majority? No. That’s what I mean.

Physical Differences:

1. Guys and girls have completely different chromosomal patterns which means we are totally different on a cellular level.

Studies have shown how this difference plays out in everything from how we carry books differently, to how we sit, to how we talk with our hands.

2. Guys gain their fat in the belly while girls gain fat in the rear and thighs.

And yes, girls get more cellulite than guys. However, this annoying fat actually reflects something beautiful about our design. God designed us to store fat more easily than guys for the purpose of preparing our body to nourish a pregnancy!

3. Guys are typically 10% larger than girls.

Why? Because God designed the male to be the leader, provider and protector. This points back to Genesis 2 where God created Adam first and assigned him the task of caring for, managing, and working in the Garden.

4. Guys are stronger.

Guys are typically 50% stronger than girls in brute strength. God created men with larger muscles! When used for good, guys are the perfect candidates for protecting their families, fighting for their country and offering a strong hand whenever needed.

5. Girls tend to mature more quickly.

On average girls reach puberty 2 years earlier than guys do. Maybe that’s why girls start thinking about marriage sooner than guys.

6. Girls often live longer than guys.

It’s kind of sad, but true. Just visit any nursing home and you will see lots of old grannies and very few grandpas. Maybe God did this because women are designed to be nurturers…and this way, we can nurture our dying husbands. Who knows!

7. Guys grow a lot more body hair than women.

This gives a guys a masculine and strong look while girls tend to look softer, smoother, and more feminine.

8. Girls have a womb and are able to get pregnant.

This is HUGE!! This is an amazing unique quality that girls possess and shouldn’t be brushed aside. God gave the female the gift of bearing new life. This speaks to why women are naturally more nurturing, loving, gentle, sensitive, and relational.

9. Girls have 20% fewer red blood cells.

Since red cells supply oxygen to the entire body, girls tend to get tired more easily. Guys are designed to be strong and enduring.

10. Guys have 30% larger lungs than girls.

Since God designed guys to strong protectors, it only makes sense that they would need larger lungs to help sustain their energy during battles and wars.


Emotional Differences:

11. Girls love groups.

Just look at the way teen girls flock to the bathrooms together. You’d be hard pressed to see a group of teen guys doing that.

12. Girls like to take the conversation to a heart level.

On average, we like getting to the “feelings and emotions” stage quicker than guys. Why? We’re designed to be super nurturing and relational.

13. Girls text long messages and include loads of emoticons. Guys…not so much.

This is just another sign of our feminine design to nurture and care for relationships.


14. Guys and girls handle emotional circumstances differently.

Girls tend to get teary-eyed more quickly than guys.

15. Girls love hugging friends and family and show love through physical touch.

Arms around each other, linked arms, crying on each others’ shoulders…girls are relational, and our physical touch proves that.

16. Guys tend to be visually stimulated more than girls.

That is why stats show that 68% of guys and only 18% of girls look at porn at least once a week.

17. Guys tend to love sports (watching and playing) more than girls.

This becomes more relevant as they enter into adulthood. Why do you think there are so many jokes about dads wanting to watch football in their man caves? God created guys to be fighters and competitors. That is why guys are so attracted to sports.  

18. Girls thrive on romance while guys don’t care as much.

Girls love romance because we love being nurtured and cared for. We love the idea of our strong man being gentle and sweet to show us he cares.

19. Girls flock to chick flicks while guys opt for the action movies.

Again, girls are drawn to relational stories while guys are drawn to battles and conquering.

20. Girls love Pinterest and guys don’t (as much).

Stats show that 71% of Pinterest users are females. Why? Because God created girls to be natural nurturers of relationships and our home. Home decorating, DIY’s, and food recipes are amongst the most popular boards.

The list could go on and on.

Guys and girls are undoubtedly different. Your gender matters. God created you to be a female for a specific reason. It wasn’t an accident. Understanding more about your design as female will radically change the way you live.

I challenge you to learn more about your God-given design as a girl by reading some of the following books:

True Woman 101: Divine Design: An Eight-Week Study on Biblical Womanhood

True Woman 201: Interior Design – Ten Elements of Biblical Womanhood

Let Me Be a Woman

Also, check out these other GirlDefined blog posts:

What is the Purpose of Being a Girl?

Equally Valuable, Purposely Different

5 Reasons Why I Love Being a Girl

Your Womanhood is Not About You

Now it’s your turn to share!

  • In what ways can you glorify and honor God as a girl?
  • If you could add some more “differences” to my list, what would they be?

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55 Responses to 20 Differences Between Guys and Girls

  1. Lizzy says:

    I love this so much! Half of this stuff had never crossed my mind before, but everything you said is so true!

  2. That was great, I loved reading it! Thanks for pointing these out, lots of which I didn’t know before!

  3. Jacey Faith says:

    This was very informational! thanks for putting this together:) I especially loved the last one, because its too true!

  4. Olivia Scott says:

    Very good, Kristen! Enjoyed reading this! One way that we as women can glorify and honor God is to remember what you said about men being visually stimulated more so than us. This is so true. I have four younger brothers and they get so frustrated when girls with immodest clothing are put in front of them, whether it be on TV, on the internet, at the mall or store, or in person somewhere else. I am so grateful for their pure hearts and their wanting to honor God by guarding their eyes. It’s especially sweet when they look out for each other. Anyway, up until about March of this year, I would hardly leave the house not wearing a pair of skinny jeans. I decided that I needed to dress more modestly and so I don’t wear those jeans anymore unless I have a top long enough and so I just so happen to wear skirts most of the time now. It’s been a challenge to be modest, but rewarding. It has made me feel so much more feminine and more like a lady and it makes me feel relieved and wonderful to know that I’m honoring God with my clothes and not leading guys astray by the way I dress! 🙂

  5. Elisabeth says:

    I’m so glad God made me a girl!And my fav part is that I can get married and have kids some day!!

  6. Autumn Lawler says:

    I have a question. When your personality is more bent towards some of the things guys like (e.g. sports, competition, action), what am I as a girl supposed to do with those? Is it okay that I have those, or does God need to get rid of them? I’m curious what you think.

    • Sara says:

      How sad that you would think God would want you to get rid of the things that make you who you are. You don’t have to fit into a tiny gendered box. If you enjoy athletics and completion then keep pursuing that! Being female doesn’t mean that you only have to enjoy Pinterest and chick flicks. It’s okay to have a variety of interests.

  7. MR says:

    We have way more female workers for the childrens wednesday night meeting. I think we enjoy that kind of work more, but you notice the lack of men when you need someone who can help lead and get the kids under control with their stronger personality

  8. Tami says:

    Hallo GirlDefined! I have to say that y’all are doing a great job.I’e been following for a few months now. You’re really going in on the ‘difficult’ topics. and trying to shed light on them from a GODly perspective

    On this topic though, I just have to make a comment. It’s great to highlight all these things that generally show that GOD has made men and women unique creatures. But what happens when someone does not fit into these neatly itemised boxes? How about that man that’s 5ft tall and actually likes romcoms; or the lady who gains weight n her belly and loves sports? These are the people who will begin to feel marginalised when lists like these come up.

    I really don’t think this dichotomy helps when blurred lines surround us in our everyday lives. I’m all for appreciating your femininity or masculinity. And to be honest, I really don’t get the whole gender neutral thing, or the feminist trying to make her son like ‘girly’ things. So, this is not to support that. I’d just like to say that these explanations, like the ones in this piece, might not really answer the deep questions that will affect some individuals. And could cause even more confusion if you don’t fit neatly into whatever mold of femininity or masculinity that has been prescribed.

    Good job though. Y’all are inspiring.

    • LaSara says:

      I’d also add that some girls also have lots of body hair.

    • Isabella Jo says:

      This list was just to get a rough idea of our differences. Kristen writes, “While reading, just keep in mind that this list is about the majority, not every instance. Yes, some guys do ballet and some girls play football; but is that the majority? No. That’s what I mean.”

      We have to read this post in light of it not including everyone but to get the idea that we are designed specifically to be either girl or boy, not to decided which we feel like being.

    • Kate I. says:

      Same…you said it better than I could:) I don’t think that was her intention, but to me it kinda came out that way. I also know a ton of guys who watch chick flics, love to hug, love to be in groups and cry a lot. God has created us differently and that is ok.

    • Marie says:

      If I understand you correctly,Tami, I think I agree. And yes Kristen and Bethany are very inspiring! I agree with most of their posts (this might be the only one that I don’t completely agree with). Keep up the good work Kristen and Bethany 🙂

  9. Rebekah Baird says:

    Thanks so much Kristen!! I really liked the list! The texting one was cracking me up! Lol. 🙂

  10. Faith says:

    This is great! This is something that every teenager should read!

  11. Double Dukes says:

    I love action movies! Chick flicks… not so much. I’m not the only female that feels this way, either.

  12. ThePoeticMusician says:

    Really a great read. Thanks for tackling these tough topics! 🙂

  13. -Sue! says:

    WOW! That was suuuuper interesting! I’d never heard of a few of those! Loved it!!!

  14. ji says:

    you make minority girls and guys feel bad and that they are abnormal.

    • Leanne says:

      Direct quote from Bethany’s article:

      “While reading, just keep in mind that this list is about the majority, not every instance. Yes, some guys do ballet and some girls play football; but is that the majority? No. That’s what I mean.”

      Does that help? 🙂

  15. Esther says:

    This is beautifully written and very encouraging!! Thank you!! 🙂

  16. Kate I. says:

    Haha this is funny. I love action movies. I don’t really thrive on romance. My love language isn’t physical touch, but rather acts of service and words. I don’t get teary eyed a lot. I love solitude and quiet rather than large groups. Yeh, I’ve always been the odd girl:)

    • Sara says:

      You’re not odd at all. There are lots of girls like you. I’m one of them. Pay no attention to this narrow-minded garbage and just keep being yourself.

      • Kate I. says:

        I think that this post had good intentions, but to me it rubbed off as…”this is what it means to be a woman of God (watches chick flics, isn’t muscular, like groups, likes to cry and get emotional…)” I mean I am a woman of God, but I am an action movie lover and I work out and have muscles. I still consider myself very feminine. Doing all these things doesn’t make me less of a woman…God has created us differently, right?

        • Danielle Wegner says:

          I agree with you and you are no less of a woman as long as you follow what the Bible says about femininity, and there’s nothing in the Bible about watching chick flicks or not being strong. I think strength is mentioned as a positive quality of a woman, possibly referring to emotional strength, but still nothing that says you cannot be physically strong and still a Godly woman.

          • Danielle Wegner says:

            If you want to look into Biblical examples of women, I recommend Esther, Deborah, Huldah, Lydia (New Testament), and Miriam.

  17. Steph M. says:

    I really liked this post! It was super interesting. I love learning different things about how God made each person unique and special!! 🙂

  18. Sara says:

    Here is a helpful tip: Everyone is different and stereotypes are not beneficial to anyone.
    I’m female. But I also do not like so-called “chick flicks” (my favourite movie this year was Mad Max: Fury Road, an action film), I don’t really like hugging and showing physical affection unless it’s with a select few people, I’m highly visual and sexual rather than romantic (although romance is nice too), I think Pinterest is lame, and my text messages are always brief and to the point. I guess this makes me a guy! *looks down* Nope, my boobs and vagina are still there. It’s almost like I’m a human being with my own individual personality and likes and dislikes rather than a cardboard cut-out.
    Basically, what I’m trying to say is that It’s dumb to stereotype people. Most people do not fit neatly into these gendered boxes that you’ve created. Wanna know how I know? Because I exist in the real world and interact with people every day where it has become clear to me that people are a lot more complex than gender essentialists want to give them credit for. The manliest man I ever met who was over 6 feet tall and muscular still cried while watching Disney movies with his daughter and enjoyed domestic tasks cooking and gardening, things we often associate with women. I also happen to be married to a man who is very romantic and artistic and doesn’t care much about sports or other stereotypically manly things. That’s just who he is. That’s how God created him. And God created me the way I am too. I may not be a stereotypical woman, but I am still a woman. I am me. And that’s all I can be.

  19. Sara says:

    I also think it’s kind of sad that we associate guns with masculinity. Given how many mass shootings there are in America on a yearly basis (all of those shootings being carried out by males) I think maybe it’s time we re-examine our cultural fixation with equating masculinity with violence, war, and destruction.

  20. Haha I love the post…Although there are some characteristics I lean toward a guy than a girl. First, I love action movies and mystery shows. I’m okay with chick flicks or romance movies or books, but they’re not my favorite.
    Also, I write short texts—long texts take too much time. I love watching sports, but since I’m home schooled I don’t do sports.
    Funny, I’ve seen guys bunch up in groups before, but I don’t really do that with my buddies.
    All girls and guys are different; there are some of us who fit in the stereotypical box and there are some of us who have their own box of unique characteristics.

  21. Jolie Simmonds says:

    I love this blog in general, there are some amazing articles, but this specific article, not so much. I’m a girl and I LOVE superhero movies, chickflicks gross me out. I tend to be visually stimulated and I’m very protective. Plus, I’ve just never gotten into Pintrest. Be careful that you don’t confuse cultural femininity and masculinity with God-given and scientific femininity and masculinity. I’m not saying that all your points are wrong, but just be careful.

  22. Clare says:

    So true about this! Although, I could live on sports. Don’t know why because I’m not very competitive. Strange but true fact about me. Haha.

  23. Annie says:

    I’d like to talk about the first point of our list:
    “1. Guys and girls have completely different chromosomal patterns which means we are totally different on a cellular level.

    Studies have shown how this
    difference plays out in everything from how we carry books differently,
    to how we sit, to how we talk with our hands.”

    I wouldn’t say “completely different chromosomal patterns” because there’s only ONE different chromosome between men and women. And we aren’t totally different on cellular level : we are still the same species so there’s just a few differences that make us boys and girls.

    And I’d like to see those “studies” because some people release studies without them being accurate. And people usually mix up genetics/biology with education and culture.

  24. Roxi says:

    Could you provide information (actual links to actual studies) on where you found these statistics? None of your points seem to be rooted in actual evidence.

    • Bethany Hacquoil says:

      I would love the original sources too, cause some of these don’t seem to be based on fact.

    • Jesusfreak17 says:

      Please! Whether it’s biblical or not, the information you formed your opinions on would be so, so helpful to see!!

    • Shanae B says:

      A lot of these are based on biology and anatomy anyone who’s taken them wouldn’t ask such a question.

      • Madi says:

        as a person who studies biology, I am telling you these are NOT based on any scientific data. These are all qualities that have been defined through society.

        • Shanae B says:

          Any person who actually studies biology wouldn’t make such an enept statement. I question on weather you’ve actually ever taken a biology class. There are tons of scientific/Medical data on this subject. How about you try looking up videos about this on YouTube since that’s probably more on your level (and possibly your primary source of information). Also girls have extra ‘padding’ on the hips making their hips typically look bigger, yet guys have wider hip bones which is the real reason they usually sit with their legs apart. So there’s a percentage of wrong in being upset about that.

          • Madi says:

            The differences listed here are based off of societal standards, not scientific.The shift from nomadic to hunter-gatherer lifestyle is what accounts for a lot of the differences on this list. Genetics and environment can drastically change between times and cultures. So no, this is not a very scientific based blog. Because from the first one, you would know anyway. The only difference on a chromosomal level is the ONE that determines the physical characteristics(brain wiring as well). As for the physical differences, these can be attributed to the switch in lifestyle as well. Men did the hunting so they would need to be more fit, women did the gathering so they need to have a better field of vision(ie a wider spectrum of colors) to find food.

          • Madi says:

            And don’t tell me to look for videos on Youtube, when I can simply open one of my many textbooks(and professors that required them) that can inform me better. You should seek information on how the switch of lifestyles affected the life we live.

          • Shanae B says:

            I don’t understand how I made any statement that said I only get information from YouTube videos, sorry you were confused. So you only get information from textbooks? Are your books high school or college level? A lot of introverts take to secluded reading and hardly if ever ingage in stimulating/educational conversations with people. In regard to ‘switch of lifestyles’ how do you know I haven’t.

          • Madi says:

            i did read the article and I could go in on just how scientific each point is but im not going to. By “lifestyle” i was refering to nomadic vs hunter-gatherer. A lot of the points made here are used thru an anthropologic lens. It’s a soft science, but science nonetheless. From a biological lens, no, not all these are characteristics of gender on a biological level. Most of these changes can be seen as evolutionary traits that the previous generation has handed down. But these two don’t believe in evolution so we can scrap a lot of these out as scientific proof. Besides, the emotional differences especially prove how narrow their world view is. Many men are and are much more capable of emoting compared to women. They word this article as if they sent out a survey(non-bias w/ christian women as a control group) and are informing their viewers on the results. This isn’t the case, they dipped their toes in unverifiabke sources and are cherry picking which ones that fit their view. That certainly isn’t very scholarly, especially not listing their sources.

          • Shanae B says:

            This article has nothing to do with anthropology. You’re the one using words as if being indoctrinated. You’re evolutionary reference is worldly popular yet not accurate. Even many non Christians have scientifically disproven it, and don’t believe it. You really believe you actually know what you’re talking about, and aren’t proving me right. I really am sorry for you. Very few of the things listed here aren’t biological. There was no survey/control group wording, I don’t see how you could authenticly get that from this article. I also grew up studying creation vs. evolution because of family members working in such areas. I’m not as dumb as you feel I am, or want me to be.

          • Madi says:

            I never once insinuated that you’re stupid, no one is attacking you, sit down. Also, how is this not anthropological? Wouldn’t tracing back how the differences occur in the first place, and how others in different regions developed different be an anthropological question? Biologically speaking, there are very few differences between the s*xes. I never said they did do one, but I brought up a survey because that’s the best way to gather the differences they stated in the blog, it is also is a great way to have other people use it to run their own experiences. It’s hard to validate their words when we don’t know where they’re getting the information on. I’m not arguing over the scientific competency, because had this actually been a study on the differences,they would’ve presented it in a manner that others could repeat to compare results. But I am going to say that you shouldn’t try using distractors to prove a point most of us have already debunked. This blog is fallacy and out of date. This is reminiscent of the ‘50’s mindset.

          • Madi says:

            Did everything just pass over your head? Or are you just picking which words or phrases you want to jump on. My comments perfectly answer the questions you’re asking. IN light of my new policy of ending a discussion that clearly is one-sided, I’m ending this discussion. There is only so many times I can reword myself to try and get you to understand my point of view. And fyi there are these things called lenses that scientists use to view a situation accordingly. And the Theory of Evolution isn’t debunked, you’re just focusing on keywords in an article. We can’t debunk it or prove it because it isn’t as observable as gravity is . thru fruit flies and such other creatures with quick reproduction and growth cycles, we’re able to trace microevolutions and if it happens on a small scale it’s only logical to conclude it’s happening on a bigger scale as well. sharks and crocodiles are dinosaurs technically, they’ve survived millions of years and have barely evolved besides shrinking in size. I never see the religious community attack situations like that. God made animals before he made man. And evolution conflicts with this.

          • Shanae B says:

            You are insulting my intelligence, you’re comments prove that. You’re also yet again proving me right. Anthropology and biology can in certain aspects work together yet aren’t synonymous. There are many ancient civilizations that have sculptures, carvings, and hydroelectrics that picture people with dinosaurs. Which contradicts evolution. Various things contradict and debunk it. Also in regards to gender differences how about trying some observation outside in daylight. This article isn’t as one sided as you want to believe it to be. I’ve personally have kept up with GD for almost two years now and they have videos and articles where they’ve talked about reading books, studying, and having discussions among other things to get information on what they speak and write about. This is probably the only article you’ve ever read from them.

  25. Talya says:

    I loved this! They’re so true! I love romance books and movies except for fantasy! I love it Sooo much! I am a big fan of Tolkien and C.S. Lewis and love their works. Also I really really loved the physical part. I honestly can’t wait until I have a husband who would protect me! Thank you so so so much!

  26. hannah Mwilambwe says:

    nice and true..I think that somehow guys die early because they are raised and taught not to express their emotions. In our culture guys aren’t supposed to cry or show weakness and brokenness. i think that’s why they die quickly. I would so encourage my husband to cry when he’s broken..

  27. Ashley says:

    This is incredibly poorly written.

  28. Rachel says:

    This is so helpful and very true. The girls with groups makes alot of since. I do not like being alone. I’m thirteen and I was in a gas station with my dad, I was getting something and realized my dad was about 10 feet away and I was standing next to people I didn’t know. Yes 10 feet, not a big deal, but I called my dad over and he said something like this, “Oh my gosh, really Rachel, really” when I told him he was too far. Lol, I guess we as woman liked to be protected by someone, weather it’s our Dad, Husband, etc.

  29. Cece says:

    then internal misogyny jumped!

  30. Madi says:

    The only thing different on a genetic level are the biological chromosomes that determine the organs the child will have. Speaking from an evolutionary standpoint men are better at spatial reasoning because of things like hunting while women have a broader sense of color because they were the gatherers. These attributes you list are societal differences that only came into play after the nomadic lifestyle was all but traded in for hunter/gatherer lifestyle. Also, males have bigger lungs and more oxygen BECAUSE they were the ones that fought wars and hunted. If you’re going to bring up these differences you should have more in depth information as to why that is.Your other points are basically meaningless as they differ from person to person. Please do actual research before posting.

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