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3 Bible Verses Girls Hate Most

By: Bethany Beal

“Hunched over his desk, penknife in hand, Thomas Jefferson sliced carefully at the pages of Holy Scripture, excising select passages and pasting them together to create a Bible more to his liking. The “Jefferson Bible.” A book he could feel comfortable with.

What didn’t make it into the Jefferson Bible was anything that conflicted with his personal worldview. Hell? It can’t be. The supernatural? Not even worth considering. God’s wrath against sin? I don’t think so. The very words of God regarded as leftover scraps.” – C.J. Mahaney

Every time I read that story I’m appalled. How dare Jefferson cut out verses in the Bible.   Who did he think he was? Obviously, God put them in there for a reason. Shame on him!!

As much as I enjoy pointing my finger at Thomas Jefferson, I’m feeling some major conviction settling on my head. 

The idea of physically cutting out verses in my Bible sounds horrific. Creating my own “Bethany Baird” Bible sounds prideful, arrogant and stupid! But, it’s exactly what I do.

I open up my Bible and read Do not be anxious about anything”  and what do I do? I ignore that command and continue to worry:

Will I ever get married?!? 

Will I die an old maid sitting on the front porch in a rocking chair?!?  

I read, “Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness” and what do I do? 

I live out my day with Bethany’s kingdom on my mind. 

I wake up in the morning with my plans on the throne. 

The list could go on and on, but, I think you get the idea. In fact, I think you can totally relate to me on this one. You read your Bible, read certain verses, and then take what you like and ignore what you don’t.

The verses you choose to disregard may not be the one’s Jefferson cut out of his Bible, but, you can be just as guilty. You say that you love God and believe in the entire Bible but then mentally cut certain verses out.

In case you are struggling to see your own “cut and paste” Bible, let me give you some suggestions:

Purity: I could be doing worse things…

Patience: If only God had given me a different family then I could be patient…

God’s Name: I only take it in vain when I’m around that one friend…

Movies: I try and look away during the really bad scenes…

You get the idea. In one way or another, each one of us is guilty of the “Jefferson Bible” sin. We cut and paste and create our own personalized Bibles.

It’s time to take a step back and ask yourself if you truly believe in this Bible verse:

All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work. (2 Timothy 3:16-17)

It says that “all” scripture is inspired by God. Last time I checked, “all” means ALL. Not 99.9%, but 100%. Every single word in the Bible is inspired by God so that we may be equipped for every good work.

Do you believe that? 

If you are scared of conviction, now might be a good time to stop reading this blog. I want to bring up a few verses that I’ve noticed are the most hated and ignored by Christian women today.

Let me share three verses with you and see if you agree with me. Are these some of the most ignored “cut out” verses in the Bible?

Here they are: 

1. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. (Ephesians 5:22)

2. But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty        of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. (1 Peter 3:4)

3. The women should keep silent in the churches. For they are not permitted to speak, but should be in submission, as the Law also says. (1 Corinthians 14:34)

Yikes! I feel like I am crunching on some toes just writing these verses. These are not very popular verses amongst Christian women today. They are cut out. Marked out. Blocked out and totally ignored.

It’s time to stop pointing the finger at Jefferson and look in the mirror.

Are you guilty of ignoring, despising, or hating these verses? Are you guilty of brushing them off as too hard to understand and snipping them out of your “personalized” Bible?

If you really believe the entire Bible is inspired by God, then you can’t ignore those verses. God put them in the Bible on purpose and for a purpose. The very same God who sent His Son to die on the cross for my sins and your sins, put those verses in the Bible.

I think it’s time to give them a second look. It’s time to open up your Bible and read the chapters that go along with each verse. Understanding the context of each chapter will help you understand God’s intended meaning for each of them. It’s time to dig deep and grow in your knowledge and understanding of God’s Word.

No more personalized Jefferson style Bibles. Let’s trust, believe, and act on every word of God.

  • Do you trust that God knows better than you? Are you willing to believe in the entire Word of God?
  • Which verses have you “cut out” of your Bible?
  • What were your initial thoughts when you read the Jefferson story? What are your thoughts now?

I’d love to continue this conversation in the comments section below. Leave a comment and I’ll get back to you as soon as possible!

p.s. Let me know how what you learn when you study those three verses.

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31 Responses to 3 Bible Verses Girls Hate Most

  1. Hannah says:

    What about the verses in 1 Cor. 11 where it says that women are to cover their hair and also the verses that say to greet other Christians with a kiss of charity?

  2. Marie says:

    @Bethany- Thank you for this article! I am so guilty of writing my own “bible” and am ashamed to say that I am no better than Jefferson! I never realized how arragant it is to pick and choose what I like/dislike out of Gods Word! I’m so glad for a new fresh start today to set things right with God! I would also like your response to Hannah’s comment!

    • GirlDefined says:

      I’m so glad you found this article helpful. I posted some links below that I think you will find extremely insightful. I hope you will take the time to read through the, 🙂

  3. Marie says:

    I agree with most of your article…but, wouldn’t you say that some of the things in your article are more your preference rather than absolutes in scripture. Aren’t there gray areas such as personal conviction with choice of movies and clothes ? I’d love your comments please!

    • GirlDefined says:

      Great questions Marie:) The Bible doesn’t specifically say “watch this” or “watch that” but it does give some general principles that if applied can be very convicting. Imagine if we as Christians applied these verses to our media choices:

      Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. (Philippians 4:8)

      Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. (Ephesians 5:11)

      I will not set before my eyes anything that is worthless. I hate the work of those who fall away; it shall not cling to me. A perverse heart shall be far from me; I will know nothing of evil. (Psalm 101:3-4)

      Imagine if those Bible verses played across the bottom of the screen every time you watched a movie? Don’t you think they can apply?

      As far as modesty goes, we should do the exact same thing. We should select our wardrobe according to verses like:

      And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothes. (1 Timothy 2:9)

      Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. (1 Peter 3:3-4)

      If we truly applied scripture to our lives, it should look radically different from the world.

      I’d love to hear your thoughts 🙂

      • Sherii Parrett says:

        Other verses which seem to be disregarded in our culture pertain to baptism …many sprinkle water although the Bible clearly says we are buried with him in baptism. Baptismo = immerse.

        Acts 2:38 says to be baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ…yet many are baptized in the titles Father Son and Holy Ghost falsely believing the titles are the name Jesus refers to in matt28:19. *the name, singular **what is the name? A. Jesus There are no recording of anyone being baptized in titles but every recording of baptism by the apostles was done in Jesus name….but, “cut and paste” time for all who Refuse to be baptized in Jesus name by immersion.

        Other verses I could mention but won’t for lack of time.

        Acts 2:38. Read it.

        TRY to find a church to baptize you in Jesus name.
        Try to find a church which allows seeking for the Holy Ghost which is evidenced by speaking in tongues.

        Try a United Pentecostal Church, this week.

  4. Thankful says:

    One of your best articles. Great job!

  5. Lisa Hallahan says:

    Whoa, Bethany, this was awesome! Thank you so much. This post really blessed me! =) <3

  6. Rebecca says:

    Great job on this post! I had fun guessing which verses they were going to be when I opened your email.

  7. Marie says:

    Thank you so much for clarifying! I see what you are saying! You’ve really given me something to think about! Wow! Great answer! Love your website!

  8. Hi! I don’t think anyone metioned this, but in 1 Corinthians 14:34, Paul was addressing the prostitutes, who were newly Christians.
    Though I don’t have a very deep knowledge of this topic, from what I have come to understand, the prostitutes of that era would stand up and speak to crowds – they were almost political leaders. Paul was addressing the prostitutes, because once they came to the Faith, they acted as though they still had the same authority when they didn’t.
    Hope this helped:)

    • GirlDefined says:

      Hey Olivia,

      Great thoughts on that passage! The context of that passage is really interesting. Got Questions explains that passage and others like it extremely well. I would highly encourage you to read through the article at this link:

      Thanks for sharing,


      • Chelley says:

        I appreciate your research, and I noticed often that you refer to this “gotquestions” website. It is important to check out a variety of sources. i am a student of theology, and wholeheartedly believe in the inspiration of scripture. But man’s desire to rule over his wife is is mentioned as a consequence of the fall ( Genesis 3:16 He said to the woman: I will intensify your labor pains; you will bear children in anguish. Your desire will be for your husband, yet he will rule over you.) there is a redemptive hermeneutic portrayed throughout the Bible that increasingly treats women better throughout Scripture. Prisca helped Apollos understand the gospel better, Jesus interacted with women in radical ways for his day. Luke has the great respect for women in the Bible. I think Scriptures such as those you listed have been misused. Slavery was condoned in the Bible, but many of us would hardly agree that it is desirable or right. But the treatment of slaves got progressively better as it was heading toward the ultimate ideal of no slavery. (which was not achieved in Bible times). You could say the same for women. God did not create women to live a lesser humanity. Christ’s life, death, and resurrection makes us fully alive. I would encourage you to check out some varying points of view rather than relying so heavily on one source. It takes more effort, but it is hard to say that male and female are equal in essence, but different in function. The specific website you cited said women should be quiet in prophecy and interpretation, but Joel 2:28 says the Spirit is poured out on Sons and daughters.

        • GirlDefined says:

          Thanks for chiming in Chelley. I appreciate you taking the time to comment and share your thoughts! 🙂 I just responded to Jessica in a comment above this. I think that will answer some of your questions as far as context goes.

          I agree that getting all of our information from one source would be a problem. Some of my personal favorite teachers and preachers are John MacArthur, Eric Ludy, Nancy Leigh Demoss and Mary Kassian. I often refer to for quick answers if I agree with them. They have a wide variety of authors (many that I really like) that contribute to their website.

          Also, I think you will find these two previous blog posts clarifying! I’d love to hear what you think about them.

  9. Jessica says:

    I agree we shouldn’t only apply scripture when it suits our tastes. However, I’m afraid these scriptures have been often taken out of context. 1 Corinthians 14:34 seems to be Paul addressing a specific problem in the Corinthian church, and not speaking generally. To support this claim, back up a few chapters and he talks about how women should pray/prophesy within the church setting. Hence, I would think he wasn’t simply saying “Women, shut up in church,” but was addressing some specific issue occurring within this particular church.

    Regarding Ephesians 5:22, I think we need to review Paul’s command for the husbands “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” Let’s remember the historical context in which Paul is writing. Women were regarded as the property of their fathers/husbands with few or no rights of their own. In many societies at that time, women weren’t even trusted enough to testify in court or own property separately from their husbands. Many times, a husband could sell his wife into slavery if he so chose, and spousal abuse was perfectly legal (as long as the husband wasn’t hurt). In that context, Paul’s writings are pretty radical. He’s basically telling men “No, you shouldn’t treat your wives like dirt; you should love them enough to die for them.” He’s encouraging mutual love between spouses. It could be argued that, in this historical context, Paul almost had to include something about the wife submission so as to not make the church look bad in the societies with new Christian women suddenly rebelling against the societal ethics.

    Nevertheless, Paul does say some pretty radical things that were almost feminist for his day. “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28). What?! Given the culture at the time, this is one radical, inclusive statement.

    Paul takes it even further. In Romans 16:1, Paul wrote “I commend unto you Phebe our sister, which is a servant of the church which is at Cenchrea…” and in 1 Corinthians 3:5, Paul wrote “Who then is Paul, and who is Apollos, but ministers by whom ye believed, even as the Lord gave to every man?” You may think “What’s the big deal?” However, if you look at the Greek Bible, the word “servant” (used for Phebe) and the word “ministers” (used for Paul and Apollos) are the same–even down to the same gender usage (no feminized version for Phebe here)! The only noticeable difference is the singular word is used for Phebe, whereas the plural is used to describe Paul and Apollos (which is logical). So, not only is Paul acknowledging Phebe’s role in the church, but he’s making no differentiation between her role and his/Apollo’s roles!

    So, my point is we need to take these verses in context and dig into their meanings to find the intent or “spirit of the law.”

    • Miriam says:

      Totally agree with you here Jessica

    • GirlDefined says:

      Jessica, thanks so much for taking the time to research those verses and give us your feedback. You had a ton of great insight! The original goal of this post was to challenge teen girls to apply all of God’s Word to their life. Not just pieces and parts. The reason that I listed those specific verses is because girls and women have come to completely ignore those passages. Anything in the Bible that talks about “submission” or “gender roles” seems to make 21st century Christian women mad.

      My hope in writing this post was to challenge Christian girls to take a second look at those passages and dig deeper into their meaning. I didn’t give those verses a context in the blog post for that purpose. I simply listed them. I want girls to read the passages and chapters for themselves. All scripture needs to be looked at through the lens of context. That is key. I couldn’t agree with you more on that point.

      I wrote a couple of post’s in the past addressing the issues of male and female equality, gender roles, God’s design for the woman etc. If you read through those blogs I think it would clear up any confusion on where we stand. I’ll attach the links.

      I appreciate you pointing out those verses and challenging girls to dig deeper into God’s Word. That is exactly what I was hoping girls would do. I also plan to write some posts in the future digging deeper into the meaning of each of those verses.

  10. Elisabeth says:

    I couldn’t believe Anyone would Actually be Stupid enough to do something like that!!To the BIBLE of all things!!Thanks, I intend to think more about the verses in the Bible.Thanks sooo much for all the tips and advice!Your website is my fav for learning what kind of “God’s Girl”.He wants me to be!!

  11. Kelly says:

    Is 1 Corinthians 13:34 saying we should not participate in church? In Sunday school? Does it mean there should be no woman’s ministry at church?

    • GirlDefined says:

      Great questions Kelly! The context of 1 Corinthians 14:33-35 is actually talking about interpreting and understanding the gifts of tongues and prophecy (1 Corinthians 14:26-32). Therefore, 1 Corinthians 14:34 is not a command for women to be completely silent in the church all the time. Paul was only saying that women should not participate when tongues and/or prophecy is being interpreted and tested (1 Thessalonians 5:19-22; 1 John 4:1).

      Women absolutely have a place of ministry within the church body. Many women excel in gifts of serving, hospitality, mercy, teaching and evangelism. In fact, much of the ministry of the local church depends on women. Women in the church are not restricted from public praying, (1 Corinthians 11:5), but only from having spiritual teaching authority over men. According to Scripture, women are not to serve in places of spiritual leadership over men within the church (pastors, elders, etc).

      However, women are free to teach and lead other women, teach children’s classes, minister to women through counseling, ministry to the community, and much more. There is definitely a wonderful, and much needed, place of ministry for women in the local church. Hope that helps!

  12. Kelly says:

    Thanks! it did!

  13. Mal says:

    So, God doesn’t want women to be pastors in a church? Why would He not choose to use someone to teach Christians about Himself just because they are female?

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  15. Sandra says:

    Hi Beth,
    thank you for this post. It’s right that we start submit gods word than resist it.
    Do you know how to understand 1 corinthians 11, 1-16?
    Do we need to cover our head as women or married women ? I would like to hear your opinion because I have no idea what the bible want to say. May God answer my prayer..<3

  16. OrangeGirl says:

    I started hating the bible and the verses in it when I realized how many people God unjustly massacres. As I say often, I like Jesus, but God and I have a problem.

  17. Nola says:

    1. At the heart of this birth, both people are putting themselves aside and being selfless for the other person.
    2. I actually love that verse
    3. If you look at the original Greek words here the word that Paul used meant “at this time” where at other times in the Bible when it said “I do not allow” it did not say “at this time”. Paul didn’t want women to teach right away because women were just being allowed in the church and were not yet equipped to teach. Now, that is not the case. There are plenty of women who are equipped to be pastors.

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