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3 Lies Porn Teaches Women About Their Sexuality

By: Kristen Clark

We live in a day and age when pornographic content is readily available with the click of a button. What used to be a hush-hush industry is turning into a booming mainstream business. Porn is no longer primarily targeted toward men either but is targeted at women, teens, and even children.

The sad reality is, if you have any of the following devices, you’ve probably been (or will be) exposed to some form of porn:

  • Social media accounts
  • A phone with internet
  • A TV in your room
  • A laptop with internet access
  • OR – you hang out with friends who have any of the above.

As tantalizing as pornography may seem, it leads down a path of lust-filled, habitual sin that ends in unfulfillment, shame, and a warped view of sexuality.

Porn distorts God’s beautiful, sacred, and holy design for sex. It tramples on the most intimate celebration of love that God created exclusively for a husband and wife.

Whether you have been exposed to porn or not, you need to be aware of the many lies and dangers it hides. Porn may appear “harmless,” but will totally warp your understanding of your identity as a woman and your view of God’s design for sexuality.

Here are 3 lies that porn teaches women about their sexual design. 

1. A Woman is Only as Valuable as Her Body. 

Porn is a thriving business built upon the images and videos of airbrushed and physically enhanced women. These women are often not the real deal, and they’re not going to last. The moment a porn actress is deemed “unattractive” she’s out of a job.

The porn industry is nothing more than a revolving door of perfectly ideal females coming in, and less than ideal females going out.

When a young woman (you) sees images and videos of these “perfect” women, you will instantly form a false view of feminine beauty. You will be tempted to compare your body to these “perfect” women. And 99% of the time, you’re not going to measure up to this false standard of perfection. Within a matter of seconds, your view of feminine beauty and worth has been warped.

2. A Woman’s Nakedness isn’t Sacred. 

You may have grown up hearing your parents say things like, “those are your private parts,” or “that area of your body isn’t for the public.” Then, the moment you’re exposed to porn, everything changes. Suddenly, a woman’s nakedness isn’t private or special anymore. It’s public.

Porn teaches you that showing off your body for strangers is considered beautiful and hot.

You’re taught that allowing others to see you without clothes on is normal and appropriate. Porn wrecks a woman’s view of sexuality and femininity…and it wrecks quickly.

3. A Woman is Empowered by Being Objectified. 

Lastly, and most importantly, porn teaches us that it’s empowering to be objectified. This is one of the biggest and most dangerous lies out there. Being viewed as an “object” is a horrible and demeaning thing for a female. Sadly though, the porn industry has done a brilliant job of objectifying women and then convincing them that it’s glamorous and empowering.

Porn instantly teaches us the message that it’s empowering to become eye candy for others. We’re fed the lie that our sexuality is a consumable commodity. As a result of buying into this lie, we begin to view our bodies as an object and wonder how much we would be worth.

There is nothing more demeaning to a female than objectifying her.  I wrote an entire article to address this lie called, 4 Reasons Modesty Empowers Women and Nudity Doesn’t. I encourage you to read it.

Porn always leads down a toxic and deadly path, and will totally distort your view of sexuality. 

This world is full of seductive lies. Don’t buy into them naively. Porn is not beautiful and it does not place true value and worth on us, as women. God’s design for your womanhood is so much more than your body. Your sexual design is a sacred and holy gift that God wants you to preserve for a covenant marriage. Instead of falling prey to the lies of pornography, choose to fill your mind with God’s truth about your beautiful, God-defined identity as a woman.

And if you’re struggling with a porn addiction, I highly recommend grabbing a copy of this book and reading it with a mentor immediately: Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace 

Let’s chat more about this below. 

  • In what ways has our porn-saturated culture influenced your view of yourself and your sexuality?
  • When you look in the mirror, do you see a beautiful female handcrafted by God, or do you view yourself with critical eyes, wishing you were prettier?

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9 Responses to 3 Lies Porn Teaches Women About Their Sexuality

  1. just a girl says:

    For once I actually agree with you guys on something, good post.

    Also, may I give a tip? Please put images or graphics between some of your points, it’s hard to read your full post without getting distracted.

  2. Clarissa says:

    I would also add that it’s distracting with underdressed people on the street these days, both men and women, to be fair. The screen world is sadly drifting into the real world too. Our society has decided to reject God’s design for how to live according to the Bible, hence the departure of moral standards. Another reason to win people to Christ! You are not guaranteed tomorrow; if you are not saved, trust Christ for salvation today! His blood cleanses you of your sin.

  3. Shanae B says:

    Very true what you said in this post! Of coarse girls and women can believe these lies from just seeing magazine covers. Not to mention adds on tv, Internet, billboards, and some clothing stores. Only this is a more deep and personal level of it. Very relevant topic for today, thanks for sharing!

  4. lovemydognc says:

    Thank you for posting and for talking about a subject many don’t want to reference or discuss. You have provided some great points for mother’s to discuss with their daughters and for youth leaders to discuss with their teens. I would add scripture to each of your points to make these truths even more relevant to how we live as Christians. As Christians we are all moved by the power of scripture not necessarily with true statements by a human.

  5. resilient says:

    I really like this article. I think it is important to be modest and also important for some people to take note of the title of the blog ‘ GirlDefined: Getting back to God’s design’. The two key words I think are God and design. This isn’t Kristen say ” ok this is how I want you to dress because I think it is best” it is her sharing Gods word, what he expects of us how He wants us to carry ourselves. It’s God our creaters way. She is simply spreading, elaborating snd hopefully inspiring others through Christ our Lord. Don’t forget that Gods way is best. And also when we are spreading Gods word it is vital to note that not everyone who does so is condemning others for we are all sinners but we are trying to encourage one another to overcome sin.

  6. Bella D. says:

    Thank you for writing this, Kirsten! I agree, women are much more valuable than their bodies, and this industry is lying to us about that big time.

  7. Noah says:

    take this from the devil

  8. Disa says:

    To me, growing up in a family and sourroundings in the 80ies were all children were running around naked outside playing with the water hose hot summer days wile our mothers were sitting sunbathing in bikinis and breast feeding babies while sipping some cool lemonade or something, really don’t get hiw we as a community came to understand nakedness as purely sexual. When we learned swimming at school, boys and girls changed into swimwear in the same room. To me, that is how it should be. Nakedness is natural! I come from a culture with saunas, and it is not unusual that a family goes in together naked and just sit together. No biggie! Today almost everyone covers up while breastfeeding, and kids are not allowed to run aroubd naked due to the ozone layer and sexualisation of nakedness. It is a shame.


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