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3 Reasons Every Christian Girl Needs a Sisterhood

By: Kristen Clark

“We have a surprise for you!” our parents said with excitement.

I, along with my six siblings, slowly filed into the kitchen, rubbing the sleep away from our eyes. I was a teenager at this point and not excited about “early morning” surprises.

At this point in time my siblings consisted of 3 boys and 4 girls.

“Well…” my mom said with a smile, taking a quick glance at my dad. “We have a little surprise for you!”

My early morning brain tried to guess what it was.

A vacation? A french toast for breakfast? Nope. Not a clue.

“Well…” our mom continued. “In seven months, you’re going to have a brand NEW sibling!”

Our tired eyes grew big as we erupted in cheers. We loved our big family, and one more sibling sounded like a fabulous idea to us.

“Is it a boy or girl?!” my little sister, Ellissa, shouted out.

“Well, we decided it’s going to be a surprise!” Our dad said while grinning. “We won’t know until your mom has the baby!”

This news was met with half cheers and half “boos.”

The next seven months flew by and before we knew it the moment of truth had arrived. We gathered together in anticipation of the big news. If our mom had a boy, our family would be even – 4 girls and 4 boys. But…if our mom had a girl, our house would be an estrogen powerhouse!

“It’s…it’s…” our dad said holding us in suspense. “It’s…a…GIRL!”

Highfives and big smiles were exchanged by the sisters. “Girls rule!” Bethany said smiling.  

When Suzanna tipped the scales that August morning, she tipped them hard. She’s the girliest girl of us all. If she could wear tulle skirts and sparking shoes every day, she’d be in heaven.

As the years went on, and Suzanna grew older, the five of us sisters grew really close to one another. Slowly but surely, we grew to be best friends. When one sister was sad, the other sisters comforted. When one sister accomplished something big, the rest of us celebrated. When one sister needed support, we were there for her.

Without even realizing, we had formed a “sisterhood” of love, support, encouragement, and accountability.

Growing up with a built-in sisterhood has taught me something really important about life. I realized that having a “sisterhood” is essential for every Christian girl.

Whether they’re your siblings or not, having a group of “sisters” is extremely important in the Christian life. I like to call this group your “go-to girls.” These go-to girls are the Christian “sisters” who are THERE for you. They’re also the girls that you’re there for as well.

When life is hard, tough, or easy…you’re there for one another. When you have to stand alone in a tough situation, they stand with you. When your faith is put to the test, they encourage you. When you’re struggling in a certain area, they offer accountability for you.

In our new book, Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity we dedicated an entire chapter on the value and need for sisterhoods. But for now, here’s some quick reasons why I believe it’s so helpful.

3 Reasons Every Christian Girl Needs a Sisterhood

1. Support

Let’s face it. Life can be really hard. And when it is, your sisterhood will be there for you. Whether it’s prayer, an encouraging text, or a shoulder to cry on, your sisterhood will offer the support you need.

As a Christian girl, you’re going to be constantly swimming against the current of pop-culture. Your sisterhood will be right there, swimming with you.

2. Encouragement

Sometimes it’s just plain hard to do the right thing. Your sisterhood will be there to encourage you when you don’t feel like pressing on. They’ll be the girls reminding you of why it’s so important to honor Christ with your life.

And when you’re doing great, and one of your friends is struggling, you’ll be the girl to offer encouragement to her.

3. Accountability

Wanting to honor Christ with your thoughts, actions, and words is great, but without accountability, it’s easy to let things slip between the cracks. And that’s where your sisterhood comes in. These are the girls who are willing to ask you the tough questions. “How has your personal devotional life been lately?” “How are you doing in keeping your thought life pure?” What areas are you struggling in the most right now?”

Accountability is huge for the Christian walk. Surrounding yourself with strong Christian girls who are willing to ask you the tough questions is key.

And there you have it! 3 reasons YOU need a sisterhood.

Now I know what some of you are thinking. “Yeah, I’d love to have a sisterhood, but there aren’t any girls like that in my community!”

I’m glad you asked.

Start by doing this: Pray everyday and ask God to bring strong Christian friends into your life. Next, be open and willing to reach out to new friends. Whether it’s a long-distance friendship or someone who lives nearby, take the first step and initiate a friendship. Be intentional and express your desire to have a Christ-centered, mutually encouraging friendship.

Intentionally surrounding yourself with a small sisterhood is one of the key elements to standing strong in your Christian walk. I have experienced this first hand.

As Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”

What can you do this week to intentionally start building a sisterhood?

For more details on how to build a strong sisterhood, grab a copy of our new book, and check out chapter 14.

I would also like to personally invite you to join our online sisterhood THIS summer! GirlDefined Ministries is hosting an 8 week LIVE online webinar study starting June 8th. Come be a part of an amazing online sisterhood of girls from around the world and learn more about God’s amazing design for your life! Click here for details. 

Let’s chat below!

  • Do you have a sisterhood in your life right now? If so, what does it look like for you?
  • What additional benefits do you see in having a strong sisterhood?

PS If you haven’t met my sisters yet, check out this fun video we created on modest fashion.

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11 Responses to 3 Reasons Every Christian Girl Needs a Sisterhood

  1. Kayla Cherney says:

    Thank you so much for this post! I have two sisters and we are like this in many ways! It was wonderful to learn of other areas that we can grow our “sisterhood” relationship. 😉

  2. Reigha Sunshine says:

    This is crazy! Your blog has answered exactly what I’ve been asking God about ever since I started following you guys!!! I’m up early in the morning, trying to finish an English paper on Christian Fellowship and definitely needed some encouragement!!! Thank you guys!!!!!!

  3. Olivia Scott says:

    I have been praying and desiring for this so much in my life! In a house of almost all boys (I have 4 younger brothers + my dad), my mom has become one of my best friends (which I love), but I have always desired and prayed for a sister. I’m almost 18 and I have been praying for a sister for well over 10 years, but I’m not giving up yet! 🙂 But especially lately I have been praying for some godly friends that are eternally minded. I have lots of Christian friends, and I love them, but to be perfectly honest, I feel increasingly like we have less in common as I am striving to give my EVERYTHING to Jesus. Basically, I want friends like yourselves, haha! Anyway, this was a great reminder to keep praying, so thank you for the encouragement! 🙂 And if you wouldn’t mind saying a prayer for me, that would be wonderful!

  4. Anne says:

    I’m very outnumbered in my family! After me, there’s five boys. I finally got a sister at the end, but she’s almost five. I love her, but right now she’s too young to help keep me accountable! 🙂 my whole life I’ve been surrounded by boys. Our neighbors, most of my cousins, and our church have always been heavy with boys. (My dad is the pastor). I long for a community and I’ve been praying and asking God for years. It’s hard at our church now, because I’m one of the only girls my age, and I’m too old for children’s ministry, but I’m too young for the women’s/adult ministry things. Our church has an awesome college ministry and I can’t wait to be a part of it! But right now, I’m really struggling. I’ve been praying for a friend/community for about the last six years.
    There’s one girl who’s been my best friend for the last couple years, but this fall she completely broke my trust, so I’m having a super hard time trusting her. My best friend now is my brother after me. Him and I get along well, and he really is my best friend.
    Sometimes have been harder then others. I’ve had a few years, where I’ve been so depressed because I’ve been so lonely. I cried so, so much from ages 10-14. I longed and longed for a friend. Thankfully over the past couple years, God has been gracious to me, and I’ve really been finding my satisfaction in him. That doesn’t take away my longing for a community though. Seriously though, a couple months ago, a lady in her late-20s at our church, walked over to me one Sunday, to say hi. It almost made me cry, because very rarely to people just come talk to me. Another week, it had been a very difficult week where I had cried a lot, and just wanted someone to hangout with. That Sunday, one of the college girls in our church, told me we should go to lunch sometime. I walked away from the conversation and cried.
    But it’s tough. Everyday I long for a community. I want someone so bad, who can encourage me and keep me accountable. So I’ll keep praying! This blog has been such an encouragement to me though over the last couple years! Thank you! (Sorry this was so long!)

    • Anne says:

      Just to clarify, my friend really broke my trust, so I’ve just been more guarded around her. And then pretty much my one friend is my brother. I don’t know if that part made sense. 🙂

  5. Kaitlin Weaver says:

    I love all your posts. I totally agree on this one. I am a big sister of ten, and most of my siblings are boys. A year ago, I cried out to God and asked him for a friend…even just one..who I could connect with and who could be a sister and encouragement. He answered my prayer and now even though Me and my friend live miles away from each other, we keep in contact over text. When I am down, she encourages me, when I wonder if it’s worth the fight, she challenges me, and she’s just amazing. So thankful God is faithful, and gives us the desires of our hearts. And thankful for you ladies too, each of your posts are such a blessing. God bless you richly.

  6. Amaris Lancaster says:

    I do have lots (and I mean LOTS) of sisters but none of them really an encouragement in God as all my younger sister’s have turned their back on God and my older one is a christian but laughs at us ‘hardcore’ christians. But God has put some amazing, supportive, godly girls into my life, I don’t get to see them much as they all live HOURS away, some in different states, but when I do get to see them It is an amazing encouragement, so peaceful and refreshing.

  7. maddy says:

    great posts!!! Will u be at allison b.’s retreat on the 14th? it would be wonderfull to get to finally meet u!! Love ur blog!! keep sining gods light!!

  8. Rachel D says:

    We should come together, girls! Let’s be best friends, for real! My Instagram is @ do life big 2015 (no spaces, of course). It’s a private account but I will accept your follow request if you comment.

  9. Bianca says:

    Love this! Right now I mainly have one super close friend, but I’m working on growing current relationships and beginning new ones

  10. Mackenzie Jones says:

    This post really inspired me! I don’t have any sisters, and I don’t really have a sisterhood among my female friends. I’m hoping that with my move coming up, I’ll be able to make friends that have the same beliefs as I do, and that I’ll be able to form a sisterhood among those women.

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