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3 Ways Porn Wrecks a Girl’s View of Herself

By: Kristen Clark

If a female porn star showed up at Disney World, would you know who she was? Hopefully not…but sadly, that’s not the case for a lot of young women today.

I read a story a while back about a family who took their daughters to Disney World for a vacation. As they made their way through the park, they noticed a long line of people waiting in front of a booth.

There were a lot of couples, families, and groups of teenage girls in line, so this family walked up and asked someone what was going on. It turned out everyone was waiting in line to see some famous actress, but this family didn’t recognize the name.

After a quick google search, they were shocked to discover what made this woman so famous.

She was a porn star.

What was even more shocking was the amount of young people waiting in line to meet their favorite star. Young women, just like you, were obsessed with a porn star.

You may not be waiting in line to meet a porn star, but you’re being exposed to the many influences of porn on a regular bases.

And if you think you’re too young, too innocent, or too naive to be exposed to porn, think again.

The truth is, if you have any of the following items, you may (at some point) be exposed to some form of porn:

  • Social media accounts
  • A phone with internet
  • A TV in your room
  • A laptop with internet access
  • OR – hangs out with friends who have any of the above

Whether you have been exposed to porn or not, you need to be aware of the many lies and dangers it hides. All of those girls waiting in line have no idea how many lies they’re believing about porn. They are being fed some big, fat, juicy lies about their identity as a female. They’re being fed some seductive and enticing lies about their sexual identity.

Whether they realize it or not, they’re being given an “education” about themselves by the porn industry.

Porn is so dangerous because it can appear “harmless,” but it will totally wreck a girl’s view of herself in seconds.

Porn educates. And it happens almost instantly.

Here are 3 ways porn will wreck a girl’s view of herself:

1. You are only as valuable as your body.

Porn is a thriving business built upon the images of airbrushed and physically enhanced women. These women are not the real deal, and they’re not going to last.

The moment a woman is deemed “unattractive” she’s out of a job.

The porn industry is nothing more than a revolving door of perfectly ideal females coming in, and less than ideal females going out.

When a young woman (you) sees images and videos of these “perfect” women, she instantly forms a false view of “beauty.” Then, she compares her body to these “perfect” women. And 99% of the time, she isn’t going to measure up. Within a matter of seconds this young woman has gained a false education about her beauty and her worth.

She walks away feeling discouraged because she believes a woman is only as valuable as her body.

2. Your private parts are actually public parts.

A young woman may grow up hearing her parents say things like, “those are your private parts,” or “that area of your body isn’t for the public.”

Then, the moment this young woman sees porn, everything changes. Suddenly, private parts aren’t private anymore.

They’re public.

She learns that showing off her cleavage and breasts is considered beautiful and hot.

She learns that allowing others to see her without clothes on is normal and appropriate. She learns that her parents are old fashioned and don’t know what they’re talking about.

Porn wrecks, and it wrecks quickly.

3. It’s empowering to be viewed as an object.

Last, and most importantly, porn educates girls that it’s empowering to be objectified. This is one of the biggest and most dangerous lies out there. Being viewed as an “object” is a horrible and demeaning thing for a female.

However, the porn industry has done such a brilliant job of making it look glamorous and empowering, that women are jumping on board.

Porn instantly feeds young women the message that it’s empowering to become eye candy for men.

She is educated with the lie that her sexuality is a consumable commodity. She begins to view her body as an object, and wonders how much she would be worth.

There is nothing more demeaning to a female than objectifying her. In fact, I wrote an entire article about why porn doesn’t empower women, here.

Whether you’ve been exposed to porn or not, I can’t encourage you enough to be proactive and avoid seeing it at all costs.

Porn is dangerous (and sinful), and it will totally wreck your view of yourself.  

Our culture is full of sneaky lies that can’t wait to trap you in them. Don’t allow porn to wreck your view of your God-given worth, value, sexuality and beauty as a female. Instead, fill your mind with God’s truth about your beautiful, God-defined identity as a woman.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this! Answer the following questions in the comment section below:

  • In what ways has our porn-saturated culture influenced your view of yourself and your sexuality?
  • When you look in the mirror, do you see a beautiful female handcrafted by God, or do you view yourself with critical eyes, wishing you were “prettier?”

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  • Sarah

    Wow.. Thanks so much for sharing this!
    I think this is so common today. I am constantly meeting up with today’s teen girls and it’s so true.. They look up to these women because their “beautiful”.. Gawking and wishing they were just as pretty, wishing people would “notice” them too.
    Even for myself(I have been guilty of this) I know if I’m not careful I’m so easily led to thoughts questioning my God given physical appearance.. Thinking more about how I look on the outside rather than who I am on the inside..
    In all reality I think America has really forgotten what “true” beauty is, and so many girls need to be reminded of that… Thanks for sharing this! <3

  • Amber Payton

    How do you undo this?


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