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50 Questions to Ask Before Falling In Love

By: Bethany Beal

You like him. He likes you. The chemistry is jiving. Now what? Where do you go from there?

Working through the nitty gritty of a relationship can be exciting and totally confusing at the same time. Figuring out if this guy is someone you want to spend your life with can be really *really* hard.  

I’ve been in my fair share of relationships and I understand the confusion and difficulties of the process. Trying to figure out if he’s an option worth getting to know can be a challenge, to say the least.

Throughout the years of doing this relationship thing, I’ve consistently fallen back on this one strategy. Asking questions.

Asking questions is a key factor in the relationship process.

Taking the time to slow down and ask yourself (and your man) questions is key. Don’t rush into a relationship and close your eyes and ears. Take the time needed to dig deep and ask questions. Each question could lead you to another question that will help bring clarity.

This list of 50 questions is a great place to start. These are all the types of questions I’ve asked in my previous relationships.

This is not an exhaustive list by any means. It’s a great place to get started though. I’ll also link to a few other blogs, books, and websites to help you continue the process.

50 Questions to Ask Before Falling In Love

Spiritual Questions to Ask Him

Can you explain the gospel to me?

How important is your relationship with Jesus?

What importance does prayer play in your life?  

What is your view on church involvement?

What does your personal quiet time look like?

How would you lead your family spiritually?

What is your perspective on sharing the gospel?

Do you have regular accountability in your life? What does it look like?

What are the last five spiritual books you’ve read?

What is your favorite book in the Bible and why?  

Who is your spiritual hero and why?

General Questions to Ask Him

Why do you want to be in a relationship with me?

What do you see as my best character qualities?

What do you see as my weakest character qualities?

What does your vision of a happy family look like?

What motivates and excites you?

How would you describe a good work ethic?

How important is integrity to you? Why?

How would you maintain purity in our relationship?

What are your convictions on alcohol?

What are your convictions on dancing?

What are your convictions on modesty?

What are your convictions on speeding?

Questions To Ask Each Other

What is your testimony?

What is your ideal church to attend?

What is your understanding of Biblical Womanhood? Use Scripture to make your point.

What is your understanding of Biblical Manhood? Use Scripture to make your point.

Do you have any interest in working in ministry? If so, what specifically?

How important is entertainment in your life? (movies, TV, video games, social media, etc).

What are your views on health and exercise?

What is your perspective on finances and debt?

What kind of legacy do you want to leave?

Questions to Ask Those Who Know Him Well

Is he a man worth getting to know?

What cautions or red flags do I need to know about him?

What is his reputation like?

Can you see the two of us making a great marriage?

Would you encourage your daughter to get to know him?

Questions You Need to Figure Out

Why do I like him?

Does he push me closer to Christ?

How does he treat/talk about his mom?  

How does he love those closest to him?  

Is now a good time for us to pursue a relationship?

What gets me most excited about this person?

What do his actions/priorities say are important to him?

Is he secure in Christ or does he “need’ me in order to be happy?

Could I see myself living the rest of my life with this person?

Do I WANT to be with this guy?

Have I spent a sufficient amount of time praying about him?

What do the people closest to me think about this relationship?

What cautions do my parents/mentors have?

What cautions or red flags do I have?

Those questions are only the start.

I encourage you to use those as a launching pad to help you discern if this man is someone you should get to know.

What additional questions have been helpful to you? Share them with the rest of us in the comments section below.

Additional Resources:

Questions to Ask When Preparing for Marriage  

Courtship Questions for Potential Suitors

Single Girls: Look for a Guy With Vision, Passion, and Purpose

How Do I Know if He’s the One I Should Marry?


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