7 Habits of a Brave, Strong, and Courageous Girl

By: Kristen Clark

As Christian girls and women, I think there’s an unspoken expectation in the church that goes something like this: “Christian women shouldn’t be strong. Christian women shouldn’t be brave and courageous. Christian women should remain passive and mind their own business.”

This is false. Very false.

Just look at some of the godly women in the Bible. Esther was a strong and courageous woman (Esther 1-5). Or how about Abigail (1 Samuel 25). That girl was brave. Just look at Mary the virgin mother of Jesus (Luke 1-2). That girl had courage. The godly women of the Bible do not portray a picture of weak and wimpy womanhood.

There are many strong, brave, and courageous women in our modern culture, but sadly, most of them are fighting against God’s design, not for it. 

It’s time for us to get brave. 

It’s time we, as Christian girls and women, got a little fire in our bones for the things that truly matter. The things that matter to God. We serve a mighty King who is passionate about things like truth, life, marriage, purity, holiness, womanhood, manhood, and much more.

With attitudes of reverence, respect, and humility, we should be on the front lines fighting for God’s design and purposes. 

I would LOVE to see thousands of brave, strong, and courageous Christian girls rise up from our generation.

Our culture is in desperate need of godly girls with passion and fire for God’s truth.

May our response be like the apostle Paul in Romans 8:31, “What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?”

If you desire to become a strong and courageous girl for God’s glory, you can start pursuing that right now! In fact, to help you get started, I came up with 7 habits that you can put into action right away. 

I call these the 7 Habits of Brave, Strong, and Courageous Girls. Are you ready? Let’s dive in! 

Habit #1: She is a God-Defined Girl

She doesn’t allow the culture to define her worth, identity and value as a girl. She looks to God’s word for truth (Psalm 119:1-8). She understands that she is made in His image and handcrafted to look exactly the way she does.

She looks to God’s word for answers about her design and purpose as a female. She embraces God’s good design for gender roles and strives to live those out in her life. She is a girl who constantly strives to be defined by God’s word and nothing else.

Habit #2: She Prays Like it Matters

Girls who are strong for Christ become strong by realizing how absolutely weak they are. They understand that without Christ’s help, they are doomed to failure. Rather than getting caught up in the battles of the “flesh,” these girls take the battle to the Lord in prayer (Colossians 4:2).

They get on their knees and pray like it really matters. They fight the battles of this world by seeking the face of the God of the universe. They pray with expectant anticipation for God to work. They believe prayer changes people, so they take it seriously.

Habit #3: She Searches for Truth

This habit is crucial. Rather than “hoping” to make the right decisions in life, this girl searches for God’s truths (Proverbs 2:3-5). She is on a constant treasure hunt for God’s design and purpose in her life. Whether it’s guys, romance, her future plans, or how to love her siblings, she scours God’s Word for answers to her questions.

She reads solid Christian books (like this one and this one), in search for Biblical truths. The more truth her brain is filled with, the less confusing life becomes. She makes wise decisions and becomes passionate about God’s truth.

Habit #4: She Looks for Lies

Not only does a brave, strong, and courageous girl search for truth, she is also on the constant lookout for lies. She knows that her three greatest enemies are her flesh, the world, and the devil (1 Peter 5:8, James 1:14-15), so she keeps a careful watch for lies.

She doesn’t blindly engage in entertainment, but rather carefully examines the content and worldview. She’s on the constant lookout for lies about her design as a girl, lies about God, and lies about her worth.

Habit #5: She Says No to Evil

A strong girl knows the danger of flirting with temptation and does all she can to avoid it and fight it. She knows how evil and seductive our world is, so she prepares ahead of time for the battle (Galatians 5:17). She doesn’t rely on her own strength but stays plugged into the source of strength (Christ) by building a daily relationship with Him. 

She firmly and boldly says no to sexual pressure, compromise, lies, and even half-truths. She doesn’t buy into the popular lies of our culture regarding things like abortion, sexual promiscuity, feminism, and the redefining of marriage. 

Habit #6: She Says YES to Righteousness

This girl loves God’s heart for righteousness and holiness and strives to live according to His word (1 Peter 1:16). She understands that being holy means being “set-apart” from the culture. 

Rather than following the popular trends and worldviews of the day, she chooses to put her hope and trust in the Word of God. She prays and asks God to make her more like Himself in character, thoughts, actions, and words.

Habit #7: She Does Hard Things

The final habit of a brave, strong, and courageous girl is clearly seen through her actions. She isn’t afraid to do hard things for the sake of Christ. Whether it’s sharing the gospel with someone, leading a girl’s Bible study, mentoring a younger girl, getting involved in the pro-life movement, ministering to her own family, or many other things, her life is marked by her hard work for Christ.

So there you have it! 

7 habits of brave, strong, and courageous girls. I pray you’ll join the ranks of passionate girls living all-out for Christ in our generation. Becoming this type of women is a life-long pursuit (I’m still on the journey!), but it’s one that will end with our Savior telling us, “Well done, my good and faithful servant” (Matthew 25:23). And there’s no better ending than that. 

Let’s chat about it…

  • Which habit do you find the hardest to pursue? Why?
  • If you could add Habit #8 to my list, what would it be?

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  • Sandra

    I think #4 is the hardest. Because the world and the enemy (I’ve learned to never say or write his name, because that it gives him strengh every time someone uses it, so I always call him the enemy) let us believe the lies are the truth. By reading Scriptures, we learn the truth and we have to seek for it in the world, discuss if the right is really the right, or if it might be the wrong and a lie.

    And maybe #8 could be: A brave, strong, courageous girl asks God to lead her, helps her to become the person He wants her to be. At least, it is what I ask for all the time.

    • Rebeka

      HI Sandra! Just curious…how does using the “enemy’s” name give him strength? I’m not trying to contradict you, I’m just wondering if it is something that you have found in the Bible or if it is just a personal belief. I’m really curious! 🙂

      • Sandra

        Hi Rebeka!

        It’s something a friend told me. She read it somewhere or heard it somewhere. She told me that every time you say the enemy’s name, you think about him. And the fact you think about him, saying his name, makes that he thinks he is important, which gives him the power and strength to continue whatever he is doing. Since then, I try to avoid saying his name, because I think there is a truth in it :o)

        Ofcourse everyone has to deside how he or she calls the enemy, but this is where I hold on to :o)

        • Rebeka

          Thanks Sandra!

        • Catherine

          How does saying “the enemy” differ from saying his name? You’re still thinking about him. Christ Himself called Satan by his name. Why not follow the example of the Master instead? What is there to be afraid of? We’re protected, the final battle has been won.

          • Sandra

            Hi Catherine!

            In my opinion saying things out loud, gives it strength. But like I said, no one has to agree with it, it is just something I choose for :o)

  • Faith

    Kristen, I cannot thank you enough for writing this! This is definitely one of the absolute best articles I have read in a VERY long time. I can’t tell you how much it means to me. THANK YOU SO MUCH!

    • So grateful this post was an encouragement to you, Fath!! PTL! Thanks for sharing. -Kristen

  • ThePoeticMusician

    Great post! #1 is probably the most often forgotten in today’s culture. We as young women are taught to define ourselves by everything else but Christ–whether it’s marriage, family, education, career, beauty, ability, talent, etc. We aren’t to be defined by any of those things; rather, we are to look to Jesus as the author and finisher of our faith, and the meaning for our lives. We have all we need in Jesus–that should be more than enough to motivate us to be strong women for Him!

    • Great thoughts, @thepoeticmusician! Love your insights.

  • Olivia Scott

    This is one of my favorite posts ever written on this blog! Love it and thanks so much for these words of wisdom, Kristen!

    • So grateful it encouraged you, Olivia! May you continue to shine for Jesus. Thanks for sharing!

  • vwlover

    I loved this and it came right on time!

  • Anonymous

    What are the books being referred to in “she reads solid Christian books (like this one and this one)”?

    • Leanne

      I think Kristen just forgot to hyperlink them. I’m sure she’ll fix it soon 🙂

    • Oops! I forgot the hyperlinks! I just updated it though. Good catch! Thx!

  • Lizzy

    THIS is what I need to focus on, these seven habits.
    I’m not strong, and I’m not courageous. I am weak to everything you’ve mentioned. But if I focus on these seven things, maybe, over time, I will be a strong Christian Girl just like the one you talk about.
    I’m going to write this article down, if you don’t mind, and keep it as a reminder.
    Thank you for posting this, Kristin.

    • That sounds like a great idea, Lizzy! I love it. With God’s strength, He will help us become the women he’s called us to be. Keep striving for His truth, girl! You’re on the right track.

      • Lizzy

        Thank you, Kristin!

  • “girls who are strong for Christ become strong by realizing how absolutely weak they are.” I loved this point! When we are weak then He is strong. Thank you so much for the reminder to press into Christ for our strength!

  • Shanae B

    Amen, super agree!!! There is a very false view of godly womanhood out there today. I really like how you said “with attitudes of reverence, respect, and humility.” It’s too easy for people to speak and live truth without these in place. Habit #4 is hard for me because it’s easy to let your guard down and think something isn’t affecting you as much as it might be. Thanks for posting this encouraging reminder! 🙂

  • #christmasjoy

    Thank you so much Kristen! This post really helped me to see what a strong, courageous, and brave young woman looks like. I think the ones I would have trouble pursuing would be #2 and #3. But this blog really helped me so I am going to start trying to be the type of woman that God has called me to be. Thank you again!

  • Kamikun

    Thanks Kristen for this inspiration. I think my major ones are 2 and 3. I used to find it hard to fit in with friends till i realised that i had the wrong group of friends. I thank God for my new friends and I pray God gives me the ability to pursue him everyday no matter what. I really am inspired. GO BRAVE CHRISTIANS GIRLS!!

  • Marie Joana Bete Duetes

    Thank you for this article, blessed to be able to read this..grateful and inspired by your zeal on encouraging individuals mostly women to be someone whom God created us to be. The habit I personally find it a bit hard to pursue is doing hard things. Like when God had made conviction in your heart to let go of something in your life, it may my dream career, being away from home, leaving the comfort zone, but i do believe that He is the one who put those longings in my heart even before i was born, the moment that i was conceived in His mind gives me a lot of comfort and confidence that He has laid it all in a well detailed plan and i just need to fully trust Him and obey His leading.

  • Abigail White

    Kristen, Thanks so much for writing articles like these. It can be hard for us girls to stand up for what we believe when the pressure is on to please the world. Seeing what a true brave, strong, and courageous woman looks like, will help me to press on to what God wants me to be. The habits that are probably hardest for me, would be #4, Looking for lies, and #7, Doing hard things. Thank you for showing us these 7 habits of a woman of God. I want to work on them.

  • Susan

    Wow this post was truly convicting to me. I admire you and bethany so much and really appreciate y’alls ministry. You both are so encouraging!!

  • tfrohlich

    Habit #4 (Looks for Lies) and Habit #8 (Does Hard Things) are challenging for me because so many of my Christian friends don’t have a strong conviction about what types of movies or music they listen to and it’s very hard to be the odd one out and I have had a strong desire to mentor to teenage girls over the past couple years, but struggle with being confident and allowing God to give me what I need to start and continue in that.

  • DenelleB

    Thank you so much for this post, and for all your work at GirlDefined, Kristen and Bethany! The world truly does need more strong and courageous Christian women like you! I probably struggle with #2 the most – with boldly and consistently praying for help to beat the ever-present temptations of the flesh, the World and Satan each and every day. Thank you for encouraging me to do this more!

  • Alice

    It was so encouraging to read these words today, thank you! I can relate to the last one, because God wants us to stand up for his design and show it bravely to the world – by making so hard decisions for him that noone else would do. But I think it is all woth it because He is by our side and helps us with these hard and difficult situations. All the glory to Him! 😀
    And my #8 would be: She is not afraid of expressing love and being helpful to others. She bravely says what she thinks about a certain situation and not allows others to humiliate her friends. She also knows that she is God’s beautiful creation and that’s why she is not shy when it comes to love and compassion. She helps others by listening to them and giving them wise advice or hugging them. She is not afraid of expressing her feelings and thoughts. She is not afraid of showing God’s love to this world. 🙂

  • Krystel Lumacad

    I think the habit that I find the hardest #4! Thanks for this post and God bless you and your ministry.

    • Erika

      I’ve been reading a book called Lies Young Women Believe by Nancy Leigh DeMoss and Dannah Gresh, and it’s all about finding the truth and not believing in Satan’s lies. You might like, I’ve found it’s been helpful for ME…!

  • Maria

    I LOVED this blog post, it was so encouraging!!! It can be really hard to be a good, not lukewarm, Christian girl and this posts really summed it out for me. Thanks!!! Could you do more posts about how to find Christian friends, and maybe some blogs on social media? those are just two things I have been struggling with lately, and would love your opinion. Totally understand though that you two probably have other things planned, it was just a thought!! God bless you and your ministry!!

  • Mary

    Hey you guys need update ypur family blog!!!! I always loved reading about about all your family parties and stuff!!!

  • Lexie

    I have trouble with #4: She Looks for Lies. I love reading. I read a lot of “solid Christian books” this days but I also like to read some books just for fun. There is so many YA books that I’m not sure if I should even read. LGBTQ and other not Christian stuff are all over books this days. How you choose your books? Do you avoid everything that is not Christian?

    • Abigail

      Hi Lexie =D I think it’s usually fine to read some morally questionable books, so long as you’re AWARE of the problematic worldview it presents and guarding against its influence in your life. But I would steer clear of a book/movie if I knew beforehand that there was a lot of immoral content in the story. I personally love YA fiction too, and there are some books that I’d love to read, but I don’t read them if I know there’s a lot of bad stuff in it. I don’t think there’s a distinct line that you have to follow, but I’d say if you feel God convicting you or you just feel wrong about reading something, don’t read it. That’s just my opinion – hope it helped!

      • Lexie

        It helped, thanks Abigail 🙂

  • Jaedyn

    The hardest habit for me is Habit #2 right now. I do pray, but I mostly pray a little bit before bed. I’m working on devoting more time to God, praying longer, and more often. I’m trying to make it a second nature for me to pray when I am distressed or need help or guidance with something at any time during the day. Thank you so much for this post, this was perfect for me right now! The references were also amazing 🙂 <3

  • M Mo

    The hardest habit for me would be #7
    I’ve recently taked interested in God’s word because I need help and guidance to make the right choices in my path, I have felt him, I know he is good, I know he loves me and he has called me to fulfill my purpose on this earth.
    But I don’t feel connected to the christian community, I’ve been set apart in different stages in my life and that just made me isolate myself from people, becoming vulnerable in front of them is a challange. Integrating christianity as part of my indentity is the most vulnerable thing I can do right now, is a big step, integrating in a community I know nothing of, a foreigner.
    A christian girl is kind, in the way she talks, listens an does things. She understands that people make mistakes, that not everyone is going to be the same way, so she does thing with kindness, so that people know and feel how passionate and dedicated she is about living, giving things live and giving people live.

  • Erika

    Thanks, this was a very good post!

  • Marissa Maiden

    WOW! talk about inspiration. I am ready to go fight some battles after ready this.

    If i had to add one it would be. She is not ashamed

    I think in our culture now that Christian’s in general are more cautious on how they share the gospel. I think speaking life into people should be something that set us on fire and tell the world who saved us and loves us but not in a aggressive way, a way that is full of grace and peace and contentment.

  • Tiffany

    Habit #7 challenged me when I read it! I have been thinking about mentoring/discipling for a few months now, and I think I am moving into a season where my schedule will allow me to pour my heart into a younger girl. This was a great article for me to read today!

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