7 Major Benefits of Saving Sex for Marriage – Part 2

By: Kristen Clark

I am sharing 7 major benefits of saving sex for marriage. This is the 2nd half of a two part series, so if you didn’t catch the first post, check it out here. You don’t want to miss it!

4. You Set Yourself Apart as Being Highly Valuable

Girl, God says you are highly valuable to Him. He created you in His image and you carry immense worth and purpose because of Christ (Eph. 4:2-9). You are worth so much more than a cheap guy who isn’t patient enough to control his sexual passions.

When you choose to save the gift of sex for marriage, you tell every guy out there that you are worth more than your body.

You are worth more than a one night stand. You are worth more than cheap romance.

If you want guys to respect you, you need to respect yourself first, which starts by respecting God’s design for sex. By saying no, you’re telling that certain “guy” in your life that you respect your body and God’s gift of sex enough to wait.

And, if you have already given away your virginity, it’s never too late to start over. Check out this encouraging post on how to do that.

5. True Love Will Always Wait

Let’s be real. No girl sets out to marry a dud. Unfortunately, a lot of girls end up marrying a dud because they believe the lie that “true love should have sex whenever it feels right.”

You’ve heard the saying, “true love waits.” Well guess what? It’s TRUE. True love will always wait. I’m not talking about “love” defined by Hollywood and Nashville (that’s just glamorous lust).  I’m talking about true, genuine, selfless, agape love.

1 Corinthians 13 is known as the “love” chapter in the Bible.

It shows us exactly what true love is and how we should define it. Basically, this chapter shows us the guidelines and criteria for true love. And guess what the very first qualification for true love is?


“Love is patient love is kind…” (1 Cor. 13:4).

Bam! A guy who truly loves you (according to God’s definition) will be eager to wait. He’ll be adamant about being patient. If he’s not, he’s not truly loving you.

6. You Will Avoid the Silent Killer

There’s currently about 319 million people living in the US. Out of those 319 million, over 65 million of them have a sexually transmitted disease. That’s 1 in every 5 people. Every time you go to the mall, a restaurant, or the movies, you’re most likely coming in contact with people who are suffering with an STD.

I’m sure many of these suffering people are questioning whether unrestrained sex was worth it. Sadly, this is the side of the coin Hollywood doesn’t want you to see.

Sexually transmitted diseases come in all shapes and sizes. Some will kill you, others will just make your life miserable.

Our culture preaches “safe sex but they’re obviously missing the point here.

They’re trying to mask the issue with a band aid rather than getting to the root. The real problem here isn’t a lack of “safe sex” but a lack of God-defined sex.

Zack and I were both virgins on our wedding night, and guess what? Contracting an STD was never, ever a worry or concern of ours. We lived in freedom our entire lives as single people knowing our bodies were safe and protected.

7. You Get to Experience God’s Absolute BEST

The last and final (and greatest) benefit of saving sex for marriage is this: You get to experience God’s absolute best! Sex within a committed marriage, between a loving husband and a wife, will always trump the cheap alternative.

There is no lasting fulfillment in lust-filled sex, selfish passions, and prideful hearts that shove God’s Word aside.  

By rebelling against our modern culture’s seductive message, I have uncovered an amazing blessing in my marriage. I have reaped incredible benefits that will last me until “death do us part.” I have avoided loads of baggage and suffering. I have shared the most priceless gift with the man I will spend my entire life with. I have honored God and reaped many blessings in my marriage.

That. Is. Worth. It.

God’s design is always best because He designed it with our best interest in mind.

Saving sex for marriage is God’s best because it brings Him the most glory, and the most satisfaction. I pray you will join me in this modern rebellion to say “no” to the cheap imitation of sex we see in the culture, and instead embrace God’s best.

For me, waiting was hard – but it was totally, completely, and undoubtedly worth it. I can’t encourage you enough to save sex for your marriage too. You will not regret it.

And like I mentioned earlier, if you have already given away your virginity, God’s grace and forgiveness is big enough to cover and redeem your future! Read this post for some serious encouragement.

I’d love to hear from you now!

  • What kind of messages do you hear from the culture regarding sex?
  • Do you personally believe saving sex for marriage is worth it? Why or why not?
  • Have you made the choice to save sex for marriage? Why or why not?

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  • Caroline Pennings

    My husband and I were both virgins on our wedding night and it was TOTALLY worth it! We’ve been married 4 months now and we’re still in the “honeymoon stage”! I hope and pray we can stay like that our whole marriage!
    I love your blog and could totally relate with the the post “Why I Didn’t Wear a Strapless Wedding Dress”!
    But wearing a modest wedding dress was so worth it! I got many, many compliments on it and how it was so wonderful that my bridesmaids and I weren’t showing lots of skin.
    Keep up the good work and God bless!

  • Dalia

    Good reminder and great encouragement!!

  • vwlover

    I am dedicated to waiting and don’t regret it. I actually find it out that people think it’s strange that I’m waiting (both Christians and. On-Christians!).

  • Huy Pham

    I don’t need my wife to be a virgin though. As long as she loves me and she has a kind heart that would make me happy.

  • Deepika

    Thankyou so much for the encouragement. I have recently struggled a lot o let go of a former relationship with similar issues. I even faultered more number of times than I would like to mention but by God’s grace I am out of it. It was really painful though, I still hoped every single day that his mind would change because obviously, he told me that he loved me but I have come to slowly accept the reality. This post gave me a much needed boost. Thankyou once again!

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