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8 Strategies to Help You Fight for Purity

By: Bethany Baird

Let’s be real. Maintaining purity in our modern culture is not an easy thing to do.

Unless we as Christian girls are vigilant in fighting for purity from the inside out, we will fail. We will give into temptation. We will succumb to our sinful hearts. We (me included) desperately need Jesus and we desperately need His strength to help us focus on truth and resist temptation.

I soooo want to fight for purity and I pray each and every one of you do as well.

My hope and prayer is that this blog post will challenge, encourage, and give you the tools you need to continue your fight for purity.

Let’s jump in.

8 Strategies to Help You Fight for Purity:

1. Get in the Word

“For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart” (Hebrews 4:12).

Did you catch that first line? “The word of God is alive and active.” It has power! We need to open up our Bibles and fill our minds with Scripture on a daily basis. This is the first and most important tool in fighting for purity.

2. Pray for Strength

God is big, mighty, strong and ruler of all of creation. We need to cry out to Him through prayer and ask for protection, strength and courage. He’s given us access to Him through the Holy Spirit and we need to take advantage. Hebrews 40:28 gives us a reminder of just how great He is.

“Have you not known? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable.”

How amazing that we have the privilege of praying to that God. Let’s make prayer a part of our daily fight for purity.

3. Take up Your Shield of Faith

We are in a battle girls. We need the armor of God and we need our shields of faith.

“In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one” (Ephesians 6:16).

I love how this article describes the importance of the shield of faith,

“We give in to temptation when we believe what it has to offer is better than what God has promised. Faith reminds us that, though fulfillment of God’s promise may not be readily visible to us, God is true to His Word. When Satan attempts to plague us with doubt or entice us with instant gratification, faith recognizes the deceptiveness of his tactics and quickly extinguishes the arrows.” (Full Article)

4. Confess When You Fail

When you fail, cry out to Jesus and ask for His forgiveness. Don’t shove it under the rug and move on, and please don’t wallow in shame. Acknowledge your sin before God and humbly ask for His forgiveness.

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).

If you confess, He will forgive. Find comfort, strength, and peace in that truth.

5. Get Rid of the Bad

I can’t tell you how important this point is. When I was younger I was challenged to get rid of the bad in my life. The bad being anything that was tempting me to fall or give in to temptation. I (on several occasions) went through my room and threw away any books, movies, magazines, etc. that were not helping in my fight for purty.  

I encourage you to do the same. Think through everything in your life (people you follow on social media, movies, magazines, friends, TV shows, etc.) and remove anything that is causing you trouble in your fight for purity.

6. Fill Your Mind With Good

Be super intentional about filling your mind with things that promote purity in your life. Read solid Christian books, listen to the Revive Our Hearts Radio broadcast, listen to Christian music with solid lyrics, download the Set Apart Girl Magazine and read it. Get your hands on solid Christian resources and fill your mind with good.

7. Find a Solid Group of Girls

Godly friendships have been, and continue to be, a huge blessing in my life. My close knit group of girlfriends has challenged me, encouraged me, and continually points me towards Christ. I can’t encourage you enough to find a godly girl or two who would be that encouragement for you.

“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken” (Ephesians 4:9-12).

8. Get Accountability

Please, please, please don’t try to fight your battles on your own. Find a godly older woman who can offer you wisdom, advice and accountability in your fight for purity. The Bible instructs us to walk with the wise. I can’t encourage you enough to find a wise person who you can walk with along your journey.

“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm” (Proverbs 13:20).

That’s a Wrap

I hope you’ve been encouraged and challenged by those 8 strategies. I would love to hear how you plan to apply these tips in your fight for purity. Share your comments in the section below and we can talk more there.

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  • thehappygirl

    Each one of these points are so very important for maintaining purity!! I think numbers 1, 2, 4, 5, and 6 are probably most important (and helpful) for me personally. I have been taking extra time in the morning recently to read my Bible and pray before I go to work. It seems to help me to think better thoughts, and flee temptation more easily. I’m also working on weeding out the bad things…. Magazines, books, music, etc. and replacing them with good things! It is sad how evil and self-centered our culture is, but it’s so wonderful we have the tools to keep ourselves pure 🙂

  • Olivia Scott

    Great post, Bethany, as always!! Much needed for so many of us, I’m sure. Also, just wanted to mention to you that under the second section, you put Hebrews 40:28, when that’s actually Isaiah 40:28. 🙂 Haha. Have a blessed day!

  • Elizabeth Williams

    These are all so important! I remember I use to never think that purity would ever be a challenge for me, since I wasn’t in a relationship with a guy and didn’t have THAT kind of temptation. But it is so much more than that! And you can’t just “be” pure. You really have to fight for it! Thanks for the encouragement!

    • Jesusfreak17

      Oh I so thought the same thing! It’s so much more a problem then you’d think!

    • Kate

      I second this comment!

  • Gabrielle

    This is awesome!! Thanks for sharing this!!! Purity is such a beautiful thing, and SO worth fighting for!!!!!

  • Kristen Paulson

    I have learned first hand how important it is to get accountability. I was so embarrassed and too full of myself to tell anyone. I thought I could overcome my sin by myself. I had that mindset and I kept failing at fighting temptation. When I finally got accountability I still had temptation, but it was SO much easier to just walk away (sometimes literally). I know how important accountability is. Even if you don’t want to do it. It helps SO much. Thank you so much for this post, it opened my eyes greatly! 🙂

  • Danielle

    I love this

  • Great post. I think it’s so unfortunate that the church is silent on the issue of purity oftentimes, especially when it comes to girls. As someone who has struggled in the past (and in the present) with purity and lust, it’s so important to talk about this stuff. Thanks for being willing to really discuss these things! It means a lot that you both aren’t afraid to address sexual purity and lust.

    Just a quick correction–the “two are better than one” verse under point 7 is actually Ecclesiastes 4, not Ephesians 4 🙂

  • Magdalene

    How did you told your husband en how did he reacted?


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