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A Complicated Mess Made Beautiful

By: Guest Blogger

I plopped down on my bed, exhausted from the week’s events.

I then began trying to unravel my mess. A mess of emotions, thoughts, intentions, words spoken, and implications.

As I sat there replaying every word of our conversation, trying to glean any hint of interest or non-interest, I finally broke down. I couldn’t figure it out.

No matter how hard I tried, I could not understand what was going on in my heart.

I was trying to figure out if I really liked a guy, and if he actually liked me. But the more I psychoanalyzed every aspect of my situation the more helpless and entangled I felt.

Tears started forming in my eyes as my incompetence seemed to be screaming at me.

Why does love have to be so complicated? Why does it have to be so confusing? As those questions swirled in my head, the Lord graciously handed me the answer: true love isn’t complicated, nor is it confusing.

Rather, it’s beautiful and satisfying and precious.

I’m not talking about Disney princess’s true love here. I’m talking about true agape love. The love that Christ exhibited countless times in the Bible. The kind of love that we as sinners aren’t even capable of, yet that God shows to us every day of our lives.

As His word says, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13)

God loved us so much, and He cares for us so deeply, that He was willing to send His Son Jesus to die for us. Think about that for a minute. Jesus Christ, perfect and holy, living in absolute paradise, came down, took on our humanness, lived in our messy, evil-filled world for 40 years, teaching and healing people who couldn’t even fully fathom His greatness, and then absorbed a cruel punishment for our wrongdoings.

How’s that for selfless love?

What’s more, no one on planet earth could ever love us more than God does. Not our parents, siblings, friends, or even husbands.

The more I pondered this, the more I began to see that God’s love for me is uncomplicated. He loves me simply because He does and I am His. Isn’t that wonderful?

Regardless of age, gender, social status, paycheck size, IQ, Instagram followers, ethnicity, background, hobbies, or anything—He loves me unconditionally. And He loves you unconditionally.

It’s an amazing thought, isn’t it?

Having someone love you that much? Who always will, even into eternity? Plain and simple. Uncomplicated. God loves me. God loves you. God loves the guys in your life.

So why worry? Why spend hours trying to figure out love, when you can rest in the sweet love of God? Now I’m not saying don’t ever enter a relationship or like a guy. What I am saying is that when you’re single, wondering if a guy will ever love you, God loves you. When you are in a relationship, but things aren’t going as well as you’d hoped, God loves you. When you’re married and you’re wondering why it wasn’t as easy as you thought it would be, God loves you.

Maybe you’re in the same boat as me: utterly confused by guy problems. Or maybe you’re doing pretty good right now. Regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in, remember this: God loves you selflessly, unconditionally, eternally, every moment of your life.

And that is beautifully satisfying.

  • When are you tempted to feel overwhelmed? Remember God loves you (John 3:16).
  • How can you better focus on God’s promises than on wondering when Mr. Right will come along? Remember that God is working His plans for you and He isn’t done yet (Philippians 1:6).
  • How can you better practice gratefulness to God for His love, rather than dwelling on the things you want?

Guest Post Written By: Molly Luxeder


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9 Responses to A Complicated Mess Made Beautiful

  1. Kara Theriault says:

    I so needed this today! Thank you so much! What a sweet reminder!

  2. Gifty Eliyana Grace Acts 17:28 says:

    Slight correction. It’s 33 years. ☺

  3. Sara says:

    Beautiful post.

  4. Shanae B says:

    I needed a reminder of God’s unconditional love today because almost two weeks ago He took one of my brothers home to Him. Not the kind of guy relationship this article is talking about, but it’s been an encouraging truth for me! Thanks for sharing!

    • Trinity C says:

      I’m so sorry to hear that Shanae, the death of a loved one is very heartbreaking. But yes God is good & I’m praying His unconditional love overwhelms you! Praying for you.

  5. Tori W. says:

    Thank you, Molly! I needed this. I’m feeling very perplexed about a current “relationship” with a wonderful, godly guy. We’re good friends, and message every day, but so far it’s going no further. And we’ve known each other for 2 years, been really good friends for 1 year, and messaging for a couple months. Trying to be patient, but struggling! Prayers are appreciated!

  6. Nohemí Barrios says:

    It’s a really beautiful post, I only have one thing to say, Jesus didn’t live 40 years, he died when he was 33. I know it wasn’t the central part of the post, but it’s something really important, that people who don’t know a lot about Jesus’ life can read without knowing it is wrong. Blessings!!

  7. Susannah says:

    Thank you Molly. God loves me, God loves you, God loves the guys in our lives!

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