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Are You Playing Footsie with Sexual Temptation?

By: Kristen Clark

His heart beat faster as he purposely walked down the dark street. It was nighttime, and nobody else was out. He knew she lived in this area. He was hoping she would come out to meet him.

He glanced around to make sure no one saw him. He continued walking when she suddenly appeared in front of him. Without saying a word, she wrapped her arms around his neck and brazenly kissed him.

“My husband is gone,” she said in a seductive whisper. “Come with me and let’s have our fill of love until the morning!”

Like an ox being led to the slaughter, he immediately followed the seductress inside.

Who are this man and woman? They’re the infamous “seductress” and “foolish man” found in Proverbs 7. This man had a serious case of playing footsie with sexual temptation.

I encourage you to take a quick pause and read Proverbs 7 (here).

There are so many valuable lessons we can take away from Proverbs 7, but I think the most important lesson is the one on the danger of playing footsie with sexual temptation. The man in Proverbs 7 made several foolish choices which led him to ultimately committing adultery with a married woman.

The road he chose to intentionally walk down led him on the path of temptation and in the direction of sexual sin. 

His first bad decision began when he decided to leave his house in the middle of the night. Who is known for being out and about in the middle of the night? Prostitutes. Going out at night was his first wrong “footsie move.”

Second, he made the choice to walk down the exact street where the prostitute lived. We don’t know if he was going directly to her house, or simply hoping he would bump into her… but either way, he made the foolish choice of walking anywhere near her house.

Third, instead of running away from her smooth, seductive speech, he stood there and listened to everything she had to say. The more he listened, the more she made sin sound irresistible. Without hesitation, he followed her to his doom.

One foolish decision at a time, he played footsie with sexual temptation and ultimately gave into to sin. 

Before we point fingers at the foolish man in Proverbs 7, many of us as Christian girls need to recognize that we often choose a similar path of deception. We think we can walk down the street of compromise and play footsie with sexual temptation and not get burned.

Here are some common ways you might be playing footsie with sexual temptation right now:

  • Getting on your phone/computer late at night when nobody is around and surfing the internet.
  • Watching a movie containing sexual scenes and immoral behavior.
  • Starting a chat or texting conversation with a guy who you know is trouble.
  • Reading romance novels filled with overly sexualized and erotic storyline.
  • Getting too physically involved in a romantic relationship.
  • Downloading certain apps that you know will cause temptation for you.
  • Browsing YouTube randomly or freely watching modern secular music videos.
  • Attending certain parties that you know are full of temptations.
  • Scanning channels on TV and watching shows that seem interesting, without really knowing anything about them.
  • Visiting certain social media pages that are filled with raunchy and seductive content.
  • Hanging around people who constantly pressure you to compromise.
  • Dating a guy who isn’t a solid Christian and doesn’t really care about God that much.

Listen up girls, although some of these things might seem like “no big deal” they can become the very thing that will lead you down a road you never intended to go.

I’ve seen solid Christian girls give into sexual sin by making the initial choice to play footsie with sexual temptation.

I’ve seen Christian girls entrapped in habitual pornographic sin due to the initial choice to play footsie with a seductive website. I’ve seen great Christian leaders and influencers lose their entire platform and ministry due to their initial choice to play flirt with sexual temptation. I’ve seen single Christian girls become completely engrossed in an immoral relationship as a result of their initial choice to flirt with that hot guy.

Big dramatic sins almost always start with one small compromise.

Ask any of those people if it was worth it, and they will all tell you no. Playing footsie with sexual temptation is never worth it. I’ve been there too, and it was never worth it for me either. I can’t encourage you enough to discern your direction in everything you do. Always ask yourself, “will this help me move towards purity, holiness, and honor toward God, or away from it?”

Be wise about what you watch. Be wise about what you engage in. Be wise about who you hang out with. Be wise about who you text. Be wise about how you use the internet. Be wise about what you think about.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20 says, “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”

Our world is full of sexual temptation. Our hearts are bent toward lust. Be ready to engage the battle. Be ready to flee. 

I want to end by encouraging you to pray and ask God to show you areas in your life where you might be opening yourself up to sexual temptation. If you’re not sure where to start, here’s a simple prayer to help you find the words…

Dear God,

I confess that I am a sinner in need of your constant grace and strength. I truly want to honor you with my life and my purity, so please help me do that. I ask you to reveal areas in my life where I’m opening myself up to sexual temptation. Please convict me of where I’m lacking discernment. I ask for your strength to help me overcome sexual temptation today. May my actions, my thoughts, and my motives be pure in your sight! Amen.

Here are some additional questions to think about. 

  • Is God convicting you of areas in your life where you might be opening yourself up to sexual temptation?
  • Are you doing anything right now that you know is sexually wrong? If so, what steps should you take today to change?
  • Do you own any movies, apps, books, magazine, etc. that encourage you to “play footsie” with sexual temptation? If so, I challenge you to throw away (or delete) those items today.

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10 Responses to Are You Playing Footsie with Sexual Temptation?

  1. Ina Yefimov says:

    Thank you for writing this!

  2. Shanae B says:

    Good post! Thoughts in general are pretty much the confines of my struggles in this and other areas. I’m 30 and still single and some people (even a few relatives) are so bothered by it that they try to pressure me to change that by trying to get me to change My stances in this through movie, books, shows, etc. Even if they’re a christian. This of course isn’t every day and gradually over time decreases, but not sure how to deal with it. They don’t appreciate or agree with my life in this area. A number of these people I can’t just ignore or avoid all the time. Talking to them about it doesn’t help. Thanks for sharing this post though! 🙂

    • AlmaRoa says:

      29 and single, I understand what you mean, but in my case iy is a little bit different. Just, don´t give up and keep your eyes on Christ! I´ll pray for you tonight 🙂

    • tfrohlich says:

      I am in a similar situation..I am 27 and single and have many Christian friends trying to get me to change my convictions to find someone. I have to continually guard my heart and mind, even though it’s hard. It’s nice to know I’m not alone! God has His best for us!

  3. Loved says:

    Thank you for this!

  4. Katherine says:

    The only problem I have is your distrust for film. Films are works of art, and you shouldn’t fear them. A lot of them have the things they have either to tell a message, or to show life, but most importantly, to tell a story.

  5. Katherine says:

    What I disagree with is your distrust of film. Films are works of art, and you shouldn’t have to fear them. A lot of them show the things they do to tell a story, and a lot of those stories are inspiring and beautiful. There have been few innovations as great as to be able to show life on a screen, to record life’s best moments, and to tell visual stories.

    • Ruth says:

      From what I understand of what Kristen said, it’s not a distrust of all film, it’s being careful of what we watch. If you’re trying to be a better child of God everyday, then you need to be discerning of what you watch. That’s all she is saying here. If that’s not your goal, then this post will not mean anything.

      Yes, there are many films out there that are inspiring and beautiful such as Oklahoma! or Heaven Sent (a slightly older Christmas themed movie but very well done in my opinion). I also like Gifted (a newer movie). However, movies or TV shows such as This is Us or even Chicago Fire has some scenes that are not something a Christian should participate in. I think that’s what Kristen is getting at here. Not that all film should be “feared” as you put it.

      My .02

  6. Krystel Lumacad says:

    I’ve done six things on the list above and boy was it not worth it. I suffered great pain from compromising my purity and it made a barrier between my relationship with Christ, I highly agree with this post. I wished I haven’t been playing footsie with sexual temptation. But despite of everything I’ve done and been through I thank God for showing me His great love, forgiveness and grace and I get to come back to Him. I am still in the healing process. It’s never easy. Sometimes I think I’m okay, but I know there’s still something heavy in my heart . The great pain and suffering I’ve been through pushed me harder today towards my relationship with Him. I can say I’m on the right track again and this time I’ll be more wise and vigilant with my actions.

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