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Becoming a Woman Who Sees Her Need for Jesus

By: Kristen Clark

I sat there staring at the screen as a wave of guilt and gratitude rushed over me. My heart was stirred by what I saw. These poor and desperate people longed for Jesus. They wanted Him. They waited for Him. They rejoiced when they finally saw Him.

After a few seconds, Zack broke the silence. “Well, what did you think, babe?” he asked.

We had just finished watching the first episode of a new and upcoming series called The Chosen. This new show is about the life of Christ through the eyes of the sinners who knew him best. The pilot episode was about Jesus’ birth, shown from the perspective of a poor and injured shepherd boy.

This poor and slightly crippled young man wasn’t valued in his society — not by the Romans or the Jewish leaders.

He was considered worthless.

Of no value. The reality of his hard life was sobering. But even in the midst of great rejection, he was hopeful.

He knew the Messiah would come and offer life to the people. He longed to see Jesus.

As the story unfolded, He was given the greatest gift of all. The angels came to his field to announce the birth of Jesus in Bethlehem! With unspeakable joy, he ran all the way to the stable where Mary, Joseph, and baby Jesus were. With tears streaming down his dirty cheeks, he looked at the tiny baby and smiled. The Messiah has come.

Emmanuel is here.

The final scene faded out with the shepherd boy leaving the stable and exclaiming, “we must tell the world! We must tell the world.”

And that’s right where my mixed feelings of gratitude and guilt come in.

On the one hand, I was feeling overwhelmed with gratitude for the gift of Jesus. He came to this dirty, broken, sin-filled world to save sinners. That is incredible! I am so grateful to Him. But on the other hand, I felt extremely guilty because of how often I don’t have that perspective.

The poor and lowly shepherd boy was excited for Jesus because He saw His need for Jesus. He saw himself as a sinner. One in desperate need of a Savior. His only hope was in Christ.

I walked away from that shepherd boy with some much-needed conviction. I realized that my desire for Jesus is directly tied to how much I think I need Jesus.

For me (and I’m guessing you can relate), I struggle to see my own neediness.

I am often blind to how sinful I am. I can drift into thinking that I’m pretty awesome. That I’m something great. Pharisaical even. And when this happens, I lose sight of how truly needy I am.

And when I lose sight of how needy I am, I quickly lose sight of my much I need Jesus.

You see, Jesus came to this earth to rescue needy sinners. That’s why Jesus Himself said, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. I have not come to call the righteous but sinners to repentance” (Luke 5:31-32). Those who love Jesus the most are those who see their need for Him the most.

If I want to be a woman who passionately loves Jesus, I must become a woman who passionately needs Jesus.

I must be more like that lowly shepherd boy. 

My pride, anger, selfishness, lust, envy, and laziness should be constant reminders of how sinful I am, and how much I need the transforming power of Christ in my life.

Over the past few days, this has become the focus of my prayer time. I am asking God to change my heart to see my need for Him more clearly. I long to be a woman who sees her need for Jesus.

If you, like me, struggle to see your need for Jesus, I want to encourage you to join me in praying the following prayer:

“Lord, I confess that I am prideful and don’t often see my need for you. I regularly sin and just move on, as if it doesn’t matter. Please forgive me for my pride. For thinking too highly of myself. Open my eyes to see how truly needy I am. I am a desperate sinner in need of Jesus. I need you in my life every day. I need your saving grace and transforming power to change my heart. Help me to love you and treasure you more each day. —Amen.”

In closing, spend a moment praising Jesus through the words of the powerful worship song Lord, I Need You. Listen to it here.

May our hearts join in this song together as we become women who see our need for Jesus more and more each day and glorify Him with our lives. 

“Lord, I need You, oh, I need You
Every hour I need You
My one defense, my righteousness
Oh God, how I need You
Lord, I need You, oh, I need You
Every hour I need You
My one defense, my righteousness
Oh God, how I need You.” —credit

I’d love to hear from you below: 

  • In what ways do you struggle to see your need for Jesus?
  • How has Jesus transformed your life so far?

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27 Responses to Becoming a Woman Who Sees Her Need for Jesus

  1. Shanae B says:

    This reminds me of seeing the speck in our brother’s eye and ignoring the plank in our own eyes from Matthew 7:3. It’s easy to notice these things in others and forget that we’re no different, except being redeemed. It’s easy to get the “I’m doing awesome at this” additude, and forget that we still need to come to Jesus each and every day for a renewed mind. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

    • Hannah B says:

      Love your perspective on these theological topics! Thanks for your insight; it’s helped to clear up a lot of things for me! I love to see Godly wisdom being passed around in this community. God bless you! ♥️

  2. Jude says:

    “My pride, anger, selfishness, lust, envy, and laziness should be constant reminders of how sinful I am, and how much I need the transforming power of Christ in my life.” Maybe instead of talking about how you “felt” convicted, you could actually let your beliefs change you. You could set an honest example to your readers. Instead, I see you getting rich off of desperate girls. You are the face of greed and consumerism. You prove day by day that your humility is skin deep. Do you really feel you can call sipping your Starbucks in your two story White House in the safe rich part of San Antonio “ministry”? Every martyr is rolling over in their grave. Pigs will fly on the day when I let two rich obnoxious airheads teach me about life. And yes. I know. This comment is totally persecuting you. You poor martyrs.

    • I'm serious says:

      They have lots of money which means god has blessed them so they couldn’t be wrong. And you have to agree with me or you’re disagreeing with god!!!!

    • Shanae B says:

      How do you know anything about the configurations or their house or it’s exact location, do you spy on or stalk them?

      • Jude says:

        I knew them for a long time personally. Been to Baird weddings and parties. They basically decorate with cash.

        That’s beside the point, but thanks for asking such an important question.

        • Shanae B says:

          You knew them. You don’t know them now. Also just because they’re related to their parents (which is where the wedding cash you speak of came from) they might not necessarily be their parents. Also families who homeschool and/or have more then 3 or 4 kids usually save up for weddings years before the kids are old enough to get married. Not everyone agrees on things and many personalities don’t get along. God knows fully their hearts and your heart. He will deal with all of us accordingly in His timing. You’re just mad because of a past history which may or may not be relevant. Yet God is doing good through this ministry regardless of where their hearts actually stand. No one is forcing you or anyone else to listen to or take to heart what they say. What I get from them is put what they say up to scripture and work out with God how it aligns.

          • Jude says:

            Yeah, you definitely missed the point.

          • Shanae B says:

            The only point I get is that you’re spiteful and vindictive, not them being bad. Show me where they call themselves martyrs. I so far have not come across that and genuinely want to know.

          • Jude says:

            Deductive reasoning. I can reasonably deduce they are self centered through observing them and their brand, in the same way you can deduce that I don’t like them without me actually having to say “I don’t like them”. Every time someone who isn’t a good Christian criticizes a Christian, someone inevitably quotes a bible verse about persecution from “the world”. Thus, the martyr metaphor. Girl Defined is basically Botox for the brain.

          • Hannah B says:

            Christians weren’t called to debate our theology and bash people we disagree with. We were called to spread the Gospel. I see no reason to bash these women who’ve positively impacted so many lives and are bringing others closer to Jesus. I see no reason to bash anyone the way you have and then reply “you’re missing the point” to anyone who disagrees. Just because Jesus called them to a different ministry and life than you does not mean we should criticize them so harshly. If you disagree, maybe find a kinder way to do it.

          • Jude says:

            I’m not a Christian so I guess that leaves me free to use logic. I think it’s totally ok for me to point out people who preach a toxic and deceptive self centered ideology. Pretending you’re teaching girls about humility and then building a lifestyle brand around YOURSELF is inherently deceptive. It turns you into a Pharisee. Whitewashed tombs. Jesus would drive you right out of the temple.

          • Britts says:

            I agree there are a lot of Christians who aren’t logical. But that doesn’t mean all of us are illogical. Say, why are you not a Christian? Christianity is not a religion. . .it is a personal relationship with Jesus. It’s trusting upon what He did for you (taking your place on the Cross), that He died and rose again. A precious gift of love and grace. Just because Christians say dumb stuff, doesn’t mean the truth of Jesus Christ is dumb. . .

            I agree that this ministry isn’t as humble as it could be, but neither am I. Pride is such a deceptive thing, and only by the grace of God are we to lose it. If these people are greedy. . .they need to turn from that and get on their knees before God. If they aren’t, that’s good.

            I don’t think they are trying to hurt anyone, but you never know honest in this day and age. I’m a skeptic. I hope you ignore things that bother you in other Christian people and come to know the beautiful glory, love, grace, and power of Jesus Christ. Because at the end of the day this ministry is not all that important, but Jesus Christ is SO IMPORTANT. Whenever a person, or a ministry, or whatever is glorified, honored, above Jesus. . .that’s bad. It’s ALL about Him. If anyone reads this, I hope it drives you to let Christ rip the idols out of your heart. . .and worship Him alone.

            God bless you!

          • Hannah B says:

            How have they built the brand around themselves? Sure, they talk from their perspective, but everything they do is based on honoring Jesus and bringing women closer to Him. They’re not hateful in their content, and they can’t go a couple of words without talking about Him. You may think that’s close-minded, but I think it’s great to be devoted to an unchanging, amazing, loving God. If you don’t agree, fine. But please find a less hateful way to express it. I know we Christians may annoy the crap out of you with our defending God, but you’ve got to realize that we’re going to defend God and His people because we would die for our faith. We’re devoted to God because He’s devoted to us. Hope this helps.

          • Shanae B says:

            I never quoted any Bible verse to you. Way to completely avoid answering my question though.

          • Jude says:

            Wait, now you’re being vindictive. Let’s be honest and admit that vindictiveness isn’t wrong always. And you didn’t have to quote verses to me about persecution. Daniela C. did it for you! Read the recent comments. I’m basically a prophet.

          • Shanae B says:

            I’m sorry you feel persecuted. Stating facts (which are viewable to anyone who reads this comment tread) isn’t ventictivness (especially when you’re avoiding answering questions and not providing evidence).

        • Shanae B says:

          So you do stalk them.

    • Britts says:

      I am not sure girldefineds intentions are malicious. Starbucks supports abortion, tho. . .so let’s put a stop to going there. Same with Amazon. . .

  3. JustBabs says:

    Oh my, this feels like me – but am taking steps into child-like faith, in realising I am nothing without Him, that all I need is from Him, that he is my refuge, my firm foundation, the Rock on which I stand

  4. Paige says:

    Thank you for sharing with us, Kristen. You are right: we are sinners in desperate need of a Savior. In fact, we are so desperate, we don’t know just how desperate we are! But thank God, that,”while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” (Rom. 5:8)

    “My pride, anger, selfishness, lust, envy, and laziness should be constant reminders of how sinful I am, and how much I need the transforming power of Christ in my life.” Amen! Let us all remember that. Looking continually inwards at how yucky we are is not the answer. Fixating our gaze on the cross is. Jesus is the only one who can change us, not we ourselves.

    Thanks again for “speaking the truth in love”. “And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” Thank you for your ministry. You and Bethany are so encouraging to many girls who are growing in the faith. Keep “fighting the good fight”. ❤️

  5. Daniela says:

    Hello girls. I saw some hateful comments here. Don’t be sad, your blog has blessed a lot of girls from the whole world and the enemy is not happy with that!

    Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you. (Matthew 5:11-12)

    • Jude says:

      Bingo! That’s the comment I was expecting. You’re terribly predictable.
      “The Enemy”

    • Britts says:

      Hi there 🙂 Just in case you think I was hating on any of them. I’m not. I like how they freely talk about issues like s3xual sin. Not many girls ministries do that, and it’s brave of them. I have been blessed by them, that’s why I read this blog. We r called to love eachother and bless those who persecute, including the ”haters.”

  6. Anna Madarász says:

    I’ve joined you in this prayer! I need Jesus too.

  7. DJR says:

    Because I was curious, I watched the first episode of The Chosen. I found it to be wayyyy over-the-top sentimental, melodramatic, maudlin and full of cliches. I enjoy finding out about cultures other than my own, but this is really too much to take seriously.

  8. Anna Zimmerman says:

    “If we say we have no sin, we are misleading ourselves, and the Truth is not in us.” 1 John 1:8
    How often do we view ourselves as sinners? If we don’t see ourselves sinners in need of a Messiah, then Messiah is not within us. That’s a scary thought to think about.
    With no Saviour, there is no inheritance in The Kingdom.
    A lot of it could be pride (like written above), but it may also be not having the understanding what Messiah did for us, and why He did it.

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