Biblical Womanhood Promotes Passion Not Passivity

By: Bethany Baird

She was a fearless woman. Willing to give up her very life for the cause. Nothing could stop her from doing it. She knew it was worth it.

She knew God had put on earth for this cause.

With courage in her heart and boldness in her eyes, she approached the King unannounced. An act no one dared to do unless they were willing to die. She was willing to die. She proved it through her actions.

Esther was a woman like none other.

She was a woman that shreds the “biblical womanhood is wimpy” argument to pieces. She was anything but a wimp. She was more bold and courageous than most of us will ever dream of being.

This woman knew who her God was, and because of that, lived a radically bold life.

I wish more of us lived with the mindset of Queen Esther from the Old Testament. I wish more of us would channel the strength God’s given us, as women, into worthy and noble causes. I wish we would stop wasting our lives away on meaningless pursuits and instead live with eternity in mind.

Esther changed the course of world history.

Not just her history. She changed our history. Her willingness to obey God and face her greatest fears, landed her an entire book in the Bible. God wasn’t looking for a weak, spineless, wimpy woman to do the job Esther accomplished. He needed a woman with a backbone and a woman with courage.

I encourage you to read her entire story here.

Unfortunately, we often ignore biblical stories like Esther’s. We ignore the brave, bold, fearless women that God admonishes in Scripture. We forget about insanely bold women like Abigail, Deborah, Ruth, Mary (the mother of Jesus), and the Harlot who washed Jesus’ feet with her tears and perfume.

We brush past those stories and instead believe the lie that biblical womanhood is for the week and wimpy. We believe the lie that God wants women to be spineless doormats who do nothing with their lives.

That sort of wimpy womanhood does not come from God.

God is not calling women to passivity, but to live passionate lives for Him.

The more I’ve studied God’s Word, the more passionate my life has become. The more I’ve understood His design for my femininity, the more bold, brave, and courageous my life pursuits have become. In fact, those who know me best would laugh if you said I was a doormat, passive, spineless, or anything along those lines.

In fact, you can learn more about strong, bold, and brave biblical womanhood in my book, Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity. 

I’m a woman who’s chosen to fully embrace true biblical womanhood (not the biblical womanhood our culture twists the idea into) and it’s left me with a life pursuit I can passionately pour my life into.

Biblical womanhood isn’t about hiding a woman’s brains or strengths.

Biblical womanhood is simply about taking all of that strength and channeling it into a God-glorifying direction. God wants us as women to be strong. He wants us to be brave. He wants us to be bold. He wants us to live the most passionate lives possible.

Let’s look in Scripture at Esther’s life and see what she was facing. Ask yourself if you’d have the guts to live like her. I’ll give you a snippet of her story and you click the link and read the full story.

Queen Esther

When Esther’s words were reported to Mordecai, he sent back this answer: “Do not think that because you are in the king’s house you alone of all the Jews will escape. For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to your royal position for such a time as this?”

Then Esther sent this reply to Mordecai: “Go, gather together all the Jews who are in Susa, and fast for me. Do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my attendants will fast as you do. When this is done, I will go to the king, even though it is against the law. And if I perish, I perish.”

So Mordecai went away and carried out all of Esther’s instructions. (Esther 4:12-17).

Esther did approach the King.

She put her entire life on the line and saved the people He was set to destroy.

Esther was willing to go against the norm and live differently. She was willing to approach the king (something no one dared to do). She was willing to look weird in the King’s eyes and potentially embarrass herself in front of the entire kingdom.

When it comes to living for your King, Jesus Christ, are you willing to live a bold life for Him? Are you willing to look weird in the world’s eyes to live for Jesus? Are you willing to be bold in your school or work place?

God does not want you to live a passionless or pointless life.

He has so much more in store for you. Will you be willing to do as Esther did and live for “such a time as this?” Will you be faithful and bold in the areas God is calling you to be?

I challenge you to embrace true biblical womanhood and imitate the true women of the Bible. I challenge you to live like Esther, Abigail, Deborah, Ruth, Mary (the mother of Jesus), and the Harlot who washed Jesus’ feet with her tears and perfume.

Don’t settle for anything less.

To dig deeper into the topic of biblical womanhood, grab a copy of Girl Defined. 


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  • Shanae B

    Very much so needed this reminder today! I really like what you said Bethany about “meaningless pursuits.” It’s so easy for us women to fall into that instead of going after what really does matter and has Eternal value. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  • Maddy K

    Thank you, Bethany! I have been really encouraged lately to find out more on Biblical Womanhood. It’s definitely a topic under attack, as our culture says there is ‘no such thing as womanhood’. I am praying for all my sisters in Christ as we stand up under the label and translate Biblical Womanhood into our modern culture. <3

    • Shanae B

      I totally agree that biblical womanhood is under attack from the culture. It’s ridiculous what is said and believed about it now days. We definitely need to live it out accurately!

    • Thank you!

  • Skye FitzHugh

    Hey Guys,

    I think that God has put it on my heart to start a ministry. I do not know how or when, but I do know why. Pls be praying for guidance for that. As a young girl. I want others to get to know our lord and savior. I want to tell people about Jesus but I either don’t have the strength to or I don’t know what to say without sounding weird. Also any idea on cool ways to reach girls around my age like 14,15,16,17? Thanks!!

    • Maybe you can start a book club with a few girls? You could start with GirlDefined or our free 30 day devotional. Have all of the girls read and discuss. <3

      • Skye FitzHugh

        That is a cool idea! I will try that! How do you suggest asking people without sounding like “Christian” if you know what I mean. I don’t want them to think I am trying to “recruit” them or something. How do you suggest asking them as a friend? I mean I know that how they accept it is up to God but there must be something that I can do to not i guess weird them out so to speak…

  • Girlady Bouvier

    Last week was the International Women’s Day, and I decided to avoid all the discussion in the internet, instead I spent the day thinking about which kind of woman I want to be. Biblical womanhood has been a constant subject in my mind for a couple months now, but now it got stronger than ever. I do want to live a passionate life, but not the wordly passion – I want to do it in a way that glorifies God! And I want to inspire other young women to do the same.

    • Shanae B

      I did the same thing that particular day, you’re not the only one!

    • I’m inspired by your heart and intentionality! Keep up the great mindset and focus <3

    • red

      I ignored that awful holiday.

      • BaddestBinchOnTheBlock

        You write like Donald Trump, girl. You should fix that.

  • Agnes

    What you wrote made me think about a lot of things in my life. I’m married and I work in the afternoon and evening I wascthinking about working in the morning too but my question is what am I pursueing. Is it correct for married woman to work???

  • RB

    “Biblical womanhood isn’t about hiding a woman’s brains or strengths.” Does the Bible mention women’s brains at all? Seriousl question. I’ve read the Bible many times and it seemed pretty clear that women were made for men (procreation). The New Testament says women shouldn’t teach. Pretty sure that includes purity blogs…

    • Shanae B

      Look up Titus 2:3.

      • RB

        This post isn’t about old women or wine. Try again, maybe.

        • Shanae B

          Try reading the whole verse. How older is a 25 year old compared to a 16 year old? It doesn’t directly mean elderly woman. 1 Corinthians 14:34 means women aren’t to teach the Bible to grown men, and nothing more.

          • RB

            You just made that up! It is so talking about older women.

          • Shanae B

            It isn’t talking only about old ladies. Get your Bible straight (especially with God) before you claim to have read it so much or know so much about it.

    • Shanae B

      Look up Titus 2:3.

    • Women are commanded to teach women and children. Over a third of the people Paul commends for their leadership in the Church (which is crazy culturally speaking). The Bible is full of examples of strong capable women, many of whom never have children or husbands even mentioned. Women are called to every position of leadership except spiritual authority over men.

    • BaddestBinchOnTheBlock

      I think you’re right about the bible’s view of women’s brains. And women in general. One thing’s for sure, these women in particular have no business telling people what to think…..have you seen their vlogs? Classic white girls. But they know all the things to tell women because they’ve read the bible!

      • red

        Tell us how to be an intellectual, such as yourself!

        • BaddestBinchOnTheBlock

          Here are a few tips on becoming an intellectual. Results are not guaranteed, but with hard work and perseverance you should eventually be capable of holding your own in any comments section. Just like me!

          1. To the people who speak English as a first language–learn English. Most of the people on this website do not have a very firm grasp of English. This is bad for credibility. Half the time I’m laughing so hard at spelling, grammar, and punctuation errors I can hardly decipher what it is you’re trying to say.

          2. Learn how to use SARCASM. Tip: what you’re doing now doesn’t cut it. Not even close. I recommend reading G. K. Chesterton and Sir Winston Churchill to help you out with your style. There are lots more, those are just for starters.

          3. Don’t be stupid. That’s totally on you, there’s really nothing I can say that will actually help you not be stupid.

          Good luck! See you in the comments section!

          • red

            I actually didn’t read any of that :/

            Sorry about your ego

    • 2 Timothy 2:24

      Just as a clarification, I believe that you were referencing 1 Timothy 2:12: “I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.” As you can see, this only prohibits women teaching or exercising authority over men, and we see in Titus 2:3-5 that women are to teach and encourage younger women. (“Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.”) According to this passage, there is nothing unbiblical about women running blogs to encourage younger women in their faith. I’m not sure if the Bible mentions anything about women’s brains, but I felt compelled to respond when I read your comment. I hope that this gave some insight into your question.

  • Marie Joana Bete Duetes

    Great encouragement to live-out as a woman after God’s heart..

  • DJR

    Esther was a heroine indeed, greatly celebrated in the Jewish holiday of Purim. Does this heroine, according to your beliefs, get a heavenly afterlife, even though she never knew or accepted Jesus?

    • red

      Probably, because she followed God. After Jesus revealed that He is God, accepting Jesus is following God. Rejecting Jesus is rebellion.

  • BaddestBinchOnTheBlock

    My dear poptarts, were you even aware that the book of Esther doesn’t mention God? Not even once? Also, Esther took it upon herself to prevent genocide. Pretty sure she would have done that with or without a battle cry of “living passionately for God”. Passion is not a virtue that belongs only to Christians. Oh excuse me I forgot, Esther wasn’t a Christian….Passion isn’t a virtue that belongs only to people who pray. According to the biblical record, that’s really the only common denominator that you can claim.

    So we’re supposed to live like women of the bible….basically wait around and live strictly utilitarian lives until you have the opportunity to prevent mass murder, a man shows up needing help (hopefully he’s not just running from his dealer), you get raped by God, or you break your bottle of Chanel No. 5 and have to act like it was on purpose. Gotcha.

    • Shanae B

      The God of the Jews is the same exact God christians serve. Who else would they have prayed and fasted to for three days? Just because God isn’t directly meantioned in Esther doesn’t mean His hand wasn’t in the situation, or that you have any real knowledge on this. God was Lord of her life as He is to be ours, and He guides and directs us all during our time spent with Him in prayer.

      • BaddestBinchOnTheBlock

        Shanae B, you’re the popsicle stick to my gag reflex. Whenever I write some inflammatory psychedelic nonsense in the comments section of this blog, I eagerly wait to see if you’ll respond with something equally nonsensical but incomparably less self-aware.

        It’s entirely plausible to propose that Esther and co. were praying and fasting to a foreign god. If you read the major and minor prophets in the Old Testament, you’ll see that the Children of Israel were more likely than not to stray from their native religion and adopt the pagan customs of their captors. Not only that, but even as an independent nation they actively exported foreign religions. Does that count as real knowledge, or not?

        I hope, I yearn, I anxiously await your reply.

        • red

          you still have a gag reflex, so there’s that

          • BaddestBinchOnTheBlock

            ????? I would ask you to explain what the point of that comment is, but I’m not sure you could.

          • red

            There is no point, because you wouldn’t get any elation from it anyway.

        • Shanae B

          Get your biblical information from the actual bible not Wikipedia.

          • Rocky

            Shanae, those are the main events of the Old Testament! It’s not just in the Bible… it IS the Bible! I can’t comprehend how you could possibly deny any of that.

    • thefreckleddisciple

      Excuse me, did you READ the post? The whole point of it was that we, as Christian females, aren’t called to sit around, what a small God we would serve, if that were the case. No, God has good plans for each one of us, whether married, single, young, old. Look at Any Carmichael, Gladys Aylward. They never got married, if you believe that ‘s a thing that all Christian females have to do, and they did Crazy Dangerous, Exciting things for God.
      Lastly, True Passion, Love, Hope, every virtue, comes from God alone. It is a Christian virtue. If you have passion outside of being a Christian, it’s not eternal, and it’s not glorifying to God. It clear you have some misconceptions about Christianity. Let me know if you want to talk, I ‘d be glad to help in any way I can.

      • BaddestBinchOnTheBlock

        Interesting. Permit me to make the following points in response to your rather incoherent reply:

        1) You claim that all the virtues, named or otherwise, are CHRISTIAN! Probably, if challenged, you would admit that you should have actually said Christian and Jewish, because Christianity has only been around for a couple thousand years, and I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t say that the start date of every virtue was when Jesus rose from the dead. Also, I disagree profoundly with that, and I think that the kind of “passion” that is supposed to glorify God is either deluded or completely counterfeit. Do you know what “counterfeit” means?

        2) Who brought up Christian women having to be married? Not me…..

        3) Actually I think I have very few misconceptions about Christianity. I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian home, and I have studied under the best minds in conservative Christian thought. I concluded that Christianity is a massive scam perpetuated by power-hungry men, not a sacred belief system that is the only way to eternal salvation. However, you would never respect this conclusion, because you have been brainwashed into believing that anything outside a very narrow belief system is invalid and inherently corrupt.

        4) I’m sure you really think you can help me, but you can’t. You assume that I need Jesus, without any effort to respect my opinions or to understand why I think the way I do. This is why the only kind of conversation I can have with you people is while I hone my sense of sarcasm in the comments section of fundamentalist Christian blogs–which, by the way, never fails to amuse.

        • red

          Maybe you should start a blog for overweight, older Atheist ladies. You can write breathy articles whining about how Christians don’t measure up to your standards, and no one will read it nor care. They’ll probably just assume the content, tbh.

          • BaddestBinchOnTheBlock

            That’s a great idea, but I would have a hard time making sure all my readers were old, overweight, atheist, and female. Any suggestions on how to monitor this? Also, keep in mind that sarcasm is only crushing if it is intelligent. You don’t have to convince anybody, but if you’re going to take the sarcasm angle then for God’s sake make it witty. Try harder darling.

    • red

      Her: Gotcha
      Me: No, u

      • BaddestBinchOnTheBlock

        Is that how you would smite your husband’s foes diligently?

    • Malgorzata Kleczkowska

      What you said about Esther not mentioning God was a valid point, I think the point of that book is that God provides for his people and how much it meant to Him to have them preserved. He can use a girl who hid her national identity (OK, it’s hard to describe whether Esther was really a heroine, or whether God just used her).
      The problem is when you use a sarcastic tone and poke fun, as it sounds insincere and people immedaitely react to that, not to any valid points you point out.

    • JP

      Girls, please? If she was insecure enough to comment on a post such as this, of all things, let that be your satisfaction. Not debating with a person you literally never saw. You will never convince her differently by arguing with her over the Internet. Not even if you get frustrated with her. You don’t know if “she” is a man or a woman, fat or thin, tall or short, or even what her past has been like. You have never been her. You do know Jesus loves her, and has an amazing future in mind for her. Let Him convict her of whatever.
      So you know what you believe, and why you believe what you believe. Don’t you? You should. And you just read Bethany’s post. And now you are here debating someone you never saw. Don’t degrade yourself to… debating someone you never saw. 🙂

  • red

    Jael, Heber’s wife is my role model! I would someday love to bless my husband with such loyalty, by patiently waiting, and smiting his foes diligently.

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