Can I Wear a Purity Ring if I’m Not a Virgin?

By: Bethany Baird

I was 13 years old when my dad gave me my purity ring. He took me to the jewelry store, showed me the rings, and let me pick one out. I chose a silver ring, with swirly shapes, surrounding a purple gem.

It was the perfect ring in my little girl eyes.

Later that day, my dad asked me what commitments I wanted my purity ring to represent. I shared with him a few specifics. He continued explaining to me that my ring was only an outward symbol of my inward commitment towards purity.

It was very clear that my purity ring didn’t make me pure.

The ring didn’t make me holier than other girls who didn’t wear purity rings. The ring didn’t have any “special power” to protect me from making unwise choices. The ring didn’t elevate my worth in God’s eyes.

The ring was simply a symbol of my commitments and a reminder of the direction I was praying the Lord would help me to go.

As a now twenty-nine-year-old unmarried woman (who still wears her little purple gemmed purity ring), I get quite a few emails and questions about the topic of “purity rings.”

The one question I want to answer is the one I titled this blog after.

Can I wear a purity ring if I’m not a virgin?

This question makes me want to jump through the computer and give the young woman who asks it a great big hug. I want to encourage her and remind her of the grace and forgiveness that Christ has already offered her on the cross. I want to cheer her on as she desires to move forward in purity. I want her to know that “YES!” she can absolutely wear a purity ring.

If you are that young woman asking that question, this blog post is for you.

Before you continue reading, please pause and read my recent blog, Lost Virginity Does Not Define Your Worth.

This is the heart of what I want you to embrace before we continue.

“Your worth has nothing to do with your good or bad works. Your worth has nothing to do with your reputation. Your worth has nothing to do with anything you’ve ever done or ever will do. You can’t earn your worth and you can’t lose your worth. Your worth is found totally and completely in the love God has given you through His perfect Son, Jesus Christ.”

Now that you’ve read that blog post, let’s continue with the topic of purity rings.

Sweet sister in Christ, please know that any woman desiring to embrace purity can wear a purity ring. There is no rule book about the ring. There is nothing magical about wearing the ring. The purity ring is simply you saying:

God, I desire to walk in purity. I know I haven’t lived a perfect life. I’ve sinned against you in my past. I’ve given my body to a man that wasn’t my husband. I so desire to walk in purity from this point forward. I put this ring on as a representation of my desire and hearts prayer to live a pure life.

Please strengthen me and help me to honor You in this way.

If you’ve ever asked the question “can I wear a purity ring if I’m not a virgin?” I want you to consider what a purity ring actually represents.

It’s not intended to set you apart as a special holy woman who’s better than other women. It’s not intended to represent “I’ve never had sex before.” No. Its purpose is to simply remind you of your current commitments to the Lord. I personally believe that any woman, no matter her past, can wear a purity ring. In fact, I would encourage you to wear one if you desire to embrace God’s forgiveness for your past and move forward in His grace.  

Here are a few things I believe a purity ring should represent:

  1. A clear understanding of God’s grace and forgiveness for any sins committed.
  2. A heart that desires to honor God through a lifestyle that reflects purity.
  3. A heart of humility before God and dependence on Him for Strength.
  4. A symbol of your personal commitments and boundaries before the Lord.
  5. A regular reminder that you are only worthy because of Christ and not because of your purity ring.

Whether you decide to wear a purity ring or not, I hope you will truly know that you are loved and you are forgiven. We, as Christian women, are made holy in God’s eyes because of Jesus death and sacrifice on the cross. We don’t have to earn our worth.

We strive to become like Christ because of our gratitude for what He’s done for us.

I want to hear from you now. How would you answer this questions: Can I Wear a Purity Ring if I’m Not a Virgin?

I’d love to hear your feedback in the comments section below.


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  • Savannah Lueck

    awesome article thanks for sharing!

  • Anna

    Lord of the rings…just kidding. I don’t really like rings. I have some, but I just wear them accoccasionally. So, for me this isn’t a big deal. In my oppinion our life has many rings, for example the proposal ring, the marriage ring, the little hand-made rings what will be given from our children. I know there are prizes which are actually rings in literature, or other areas. I think the ring isn’t important. Your promise to God, this is priceless. Take it, fight for it, pray for it. I’ve lost my virginity too, and I have a purity promise to God. He calls me for that. Your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, and God calls us, women to be pure, because he is pure, he is holy. Would you like to get a reminder? Look up the cross!

  • Ana

    Thank you for this blog. I’ve asked the Lord a thousand times this question. I thank you for answering my prayers.

  • Emmy

    I love this response, Bethany. I completely agree. I actually just wrote an essay for school about the symbolism of a specific ring in a Shakespeare play, so I’ve been thinking about rings and the various covenants they represent. The ring itself isn’t the point- it’s simply the symbol of a committed heart.

  • Loved

    My purity ring is on my finger because I want others to know and I want to remind myself that I am committed to God and want to honor him with my body. With that being said, I believe, in fact, I know, A purity ring is not you, it is simply a symbol of what you believe and what you are striving for. You can absolutely wear a purity ring and not be a virgin. He Doesn’t care if you’re a virgin or not when you wear a purity ring. God loves you and He loves that you are ready to start showing the world what you believe and how you’re gonna try to live.

  • Shanae B

    100 Thank you’s for posting this Bethany!!! I’ve always hated how so many people thought that a purity ring was making the wearer more holy and just automatically would keep them from committing promiscuity. Thankfully I never thought that way about mine! But some people thought I did. Some people when I was in my early teens would tell others I was (according to them) holier because I had one. Which was wrong of them. I totally agree that it’s a symbol of our commitment to God and if you’re like me waiting or if you’re waiting again you can still wear it as an outward symbol and personal reminder of recommitment in this area!

  • I agree, even if a girl has lost her purity, not all is lost! From that moment forward, she can make a commitment to the Lord that she wants to be pure and honor Him. He is quick to be merciful + forgive. God bless you my sisters!

  • Daisy

    Bethany, thank you so much for this message and encouragement. This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I completely agree – you can wear a purity ring if you’re not a virgin. The Lord has already forgiven you, it’s a symbol and reminder that in whatever you do, you will glorify and honour Him moving forward, there is forgiveness, repentance and a new creation!

  • Great article! 🙂

  • Krystel Lumacad

    Thank you so much for this post! Because of this post, I’m encouraged to wear a purity ring also to remind myself every time about my commitment to God. 🙂

  • Charmaine

    Hi Bethany, I’m a jewelry student and I’m amazed by your post because over the past week I feel like God has laid it upon my heart to design and make purity rings for me and the young girls around my community, even the young boys acutlly because boys are usually the one’s who initiate a sexual relationship. I’ve been praying to God to show me the way forward because I was not sure if I should make them or not but I feel like your post was a confirmation from God. Thank you so much B! God Bless you!!

  • Chelsea Ejimakor

    Great article, Bethany. I believe that God forgives and is merciful so it is okay to wear the ring if one is not a Virgin in order to continue to remain pure till marriage.

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