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Choosing to Pursue Radical Purity in Your Own Life

By: Kristen Clark

Talking about God’s radical design for love, sex, and purity with 400 girls and women isn’t a normal occurrence in this day and age. But that’s exactly what happened this past weekend at the Radical Purity Conference in San Antonio, TX.

We courageously, unashamedly, and tactfully unpacked God’s good plan for our sexuality as women. We talked openly about some of the not-so-often-talked-about areas, and allowed God’s Word to shed light and truth into these relevant topics.

We asked the hard questions, and looked into God’s Word for solid answers.

We quickly discovered that God’s design for purity is radical. It’s completely counter-cultural. It’s unlike anything you see in modern Hollywood. Although it isn’t popular, we discovered how good it truly is for us.

Since God is the designer of our sexuality, He knows how to best define it.

He knows what will bring us the most fulfillment and freedom in these crucial areas of our lives.

Our theme verse for the conference was Psalm 51:10, “Psalm 51:10: Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”

If you missed the conference and weren’t able to catch the live stream, I want to give you a quick snapshot of what we talked about, and challenge you to be a woman who chooses radical purity as well.

Session 1: Seeing Through the Lies of Our Highly Seductive Culture.

Our culture doesn’t shy away from talking about, promoting, and portraying varying aspects of sex. Whether we like it or not, we as modern girls, are being fed messages every single day about our sexuality. If we’re on our guard, we will easily (and quickly) get sucked into believing many destructive lies.

In this opening session, we exposed 4 of the most popular lies that we see being promoted today:

  1. Your Feelings and Emotions are the King of Your Life
  2. True Liberation is Found by Being Seductive and Raunchy
  3. Having Sex Before Marriage is Empowering
  4. There’s Nothing Wrong with Viewing Pornography

We then countered each of these lies with a truths from God’s Word:

  1. God’s Perfect Word Should be Your Guiding Source of Truth  
  2. True Freedom is Found by Embracing God’s Good Boundaries for You
  3. God is the Creator of Sex and His Plan is Best and Most Fulfilling
  4. God Designed Sexual Intimacy and Nakedness to Be Enjoyed Within the Privacy of Marriage Only

Session 2: Reclaiming God’s Radical Design for our Sexuality

God’s design for sexuality truly has become radical. In this session we dug into 4 essential truths for reclaiming God’s radical design in your own life, and living it out on a daily basis.  

TRUTH #1: God is the Designer and Definer of My Sexuality

God’s Word must be our guide for how to navigate our sexuality best. God created the male and female and made us to be sexual beings (Genesis 2). If we want answers to our questions regarding sex and sexuality, we must look to the author Himself.

TRUTH #2: God Has a Good Plan for Love, Marriage and Sexual Intimacy

In this section we looked at each of these key areas (love, marriage, and sex) and looked at how God’s Word defines each one of them.

We discovered that true love isn’t built on feelings, but on action and self-sacrifice. Marriage isn’t about an “emotional agreement,” but about covenant keeping and permanent love for another. Sexual intimacy isn’t about simply following our passions, but was created by God to be the permanent seal (the super glue) within marriage.

TRUTH #3: Purity is Ultimately for My Good and God’s Glory  

Purity isn’t about “missing out on something,” but about “pursuing God’s best.” Purity is truly about pursuing faithfulness to God by choosing to steer our thoughts, words, and actions away from sexual sin and compromise. The more we pursue genuine lives of purity (in our hearts, thoughts, words, and actions), the more we will reflect the beauty of our Savior.

Session 3: Holiness: Getting to the Heart of Authentic Purity

Our good friend (a true Titus 2 woman), shared with us why simply “looking pure” on the outside isn’t what God is after. God wants us, as Christian girls, to pursue authentic purity from the inside out.

Even though “holiness” might seem like an outdated word, it’s God’s must-have ingredient for embracing lifelong purity. Holiness (being set apart) is God’s solution for experiencing long term freedom in our lives (1 Peter 1:16).

Session 4: 8 Strategies to Help You Fight for Purity

Although our sin may be heavy and weighty in our lives, nothing is too big for Christ to conquer. 1 Corinthians 15:55-57 says, “O death, where is your victory? O death, where is your sting?” The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.”

We must remember that Jesus died because we are sinners, not because we are perfect Christian girls.

In this last and final session, we challenged everyone to put God’s truth into action and shared some practical tools for embracing purity in everyday life. It’s hard! We get it. But with God’s strength, it’s not impossible. However, it is going to require a lot of intentionality in the way we live our lives.

Here are the 8 strategies to help you fight for purity:

  1. Get in the Word
  2. Pray for Strength
  3. Be on Your Guard
  4. Confess When You Sin
  5. Get Rid of the Temptation
  6. Fill Your Mind With Truth
  7. Find a Group of Christian Girls
  8. Ask for Accountability

At the end of the conference, we challenged and encouraged everyone to be women who choose to embrace God’s radical design for purity in their own lives.

To be women who trust that God’s ways are best. Women who boldly and courageously embrace God’s good design in their lives. Women who reflect the glory and holiness of our incredible God through the way we live.

I want to encourage you to do what we did at the end of the conference. Take some time right now to pray and ask God to help you “create a pure heart” in your life from this point forward (Psalm 51:10). Ask him to show you how you can better honor and glorify Him in this area of your life.

And then choose to live courageously. All for His glory. 

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  • Loved the conference and loved this summary post! Recently I’ve been in a “throw away” mood as I prepare to move out, but I’m keeping my notes from the conference. 🙂 The sessions were powerful and everyone was SO NICE. Thank you so much for this conference.

    I love the point about how purity is for our good and God’s glory. It’s far too easy to get caught up in our emotions (because we think emotions are king) and we miss why God’s plan is best, so we don’t obey it. I’m so thankful that we CAN look around and see many reasons why God’s way is best. But even if we couldn’t, it’s a command from our Creator so we must trust and obey–and that gives Him glory.

    Thank you! 🙂

  • Emmy

    Thanks for this recap for those of us who couldn’t come to the conference! Really good stuff.

  • Schylie

    So was the conference not recorded?

  • Gabriela

    I really love the ending of this post… “choose to live courageously”
    I made that decision a while ago (as in, a few months ago) and it has been the best decision I have made so far: to be fearless
    Choose to be courageous. It’s worth
    Thank you, Kristen & Bethany for being so encouraging, God bless ♡

    • Gabriela

      I meant ” worth it”, sorry for the typo

  • Kd

    Hello. As a Christian woman, I would like to politely ask you to actually study what the Bible really says about homosexuality. The Bible says judge and you will be judged. Also this is the twentieth century. Girls do not need to be housewives anymore and being independent is something every woman should practice. And I’m pretty sure Jesus cares about what is in your heart, not how you dress. If you wear blue jeans in 95 degree weather, the only thing you will get out of it is heat stroke tbh.

    • Angie

      Hi Kd, the bible does say that to judge you will be judged, however this is referring to judging by your own morals and standards which are flawed by our flesh. (“Lean not on your own understanding.” – Proverbs 3:5) The bible actually instructs us to righteously judge by GOD’S standards. “He shall not judge by what his eyes see, or decide disputes by what his ears hear, but with RIGHTEOUSNESS he shall judge the poor, and decide with equity for the meek of the earth;… RIGHTEOUSNESS shall be the belt of his waist, and faithfulness the belt of his loins.” (Isaiah 11:3-5, ESV) What we must practice as Christian girls is loving the sinner and hating the sin because we know Christ loves everyone despite their sins. (Romans 5:8). Because we also know that Jesus Christ is God and we know that God hates sin, we know that Jesus likewise hates it. Christians are followers of Christ, and we are called to mimic His actions in our lives on earth. (1 Corinthians 4:16) The Bible says that homosexuality is a sin, but it also says at least 12 times to love your neighbor as yourself. Because of the love we have for our neighbors, and for God, we are convicted by the Holy Spirit to righteously judge and bring them back to God’s best.
      Concerning biblical womanhood, we are called as Christian girls to, again, choose God’s best for us. If God’s Word says it’s His perfect plan for us to care for the house and our children at home, then that’s what it says! However, the bible never does say that women cannot provide for their families. You’re right in saying that women don’t need to be housewives anymore, but it is still God’s original plan for women, and His way is always the best way! 🙂 As women of Christ, we are also called not to be independent, but to be 100% DEpendent on God, and to eventually depend on our future husbands who will be our providers, protectors and spiritual leaders in a Godly marriage. Another part of biblical womanhood is purity in Christ. A big part of being pure is dressing modestly… not showing off our bodies. Our body is meant to only be seen by God and our future husbands. “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought at a price. So glorify and honor God in your body.” – 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (ESV). Dressing modestly is honoring to God because you are showing Him how much you value the body He gave you. It also shows those around you that Christ sets us apart and makes us the light of the world! 🙂
      Sorry for the super long response! I hope this may have helped you understand the message these two lovely women of Christ are trying to spread! God bless!


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