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Christian Girls Dealing With Dark Seasons and Difficult Circumstances

By: Lisa Hallahan (guest)

When we look around at the circumstances of people in the world today, we discover that there is a vast amount of suffering and pain being endured.

Many different people struggle with many different types of suffering.

Hospitals are full of horrible diseases and injuries, parents are getting divorces, babies are being aborted, war is raging, people are being sold into slavery, drug abuse and alcoholism is affecting more and more people and the list goes ever on and on.

People are hurting.

Everyone is affected by suffering or pain at one point in their life. Iit may not be physical but everyone goes through tragedy. And when they do, they look up to the sky in a moment of anger and rage and ask the all too familiar question “Why is God allowing this to happen to me?” Or “If God is so good, why does He allow suffering?”

Addressing this topic has not been easy.

Books have been written, sermons have been taught, and speeches have been made. But this is what God showed me when I went through a tragedy of my own last month. I was at a low point and my heart was crying out to God.

I felt like David in Psalms 69:1-3 when he said:

“Save me, O God! For the waters have come up to my neck. I sink in deep mire, where there is no standing; I have come into deep waters, where the floods overflow me. I am weary with my crying; my throat is dry; my eyes fail while I wait for my God.”

When I asked God why He was allowing this to happen to me He repeated a message to me over and over again in the weeks that followed. It set my heart free and I was once again reunited with joy from the Lord. The message that I would like to share with you is this:

God puts us in situations that allow us to bring Glory to Him and allows us the opportunity to be an example and witness to others around us.

While you are going through a dark season in your life, no matter what it is, Jesus gives us the opportunity to use our circumstances to bring glory to Him. We bring glory to Jesus by accepting where He has us in life right now and letting go of our stubborn will that says to God, “fix this for me! I can’t live this way anymore. I’m tired.”

God has you here for a reason.

We don’t know what the reason is right now and we may never know. But whatever you are facing God will bring good out of it. God will use it for your good. It is soo hard to believe, but please know that Jesus loves you more than anything in this world. He wants us to love Him back. When you let go of what you want and your dreams and desires, God gives us an unexplainable, overwhelming peace.

Getting to that point of letting go is sometimes the hardest thing we could ever do.

We don’t want to give up the things that will make us happy (or what we think will make us happy). We don’t want to let go of the security we have in the thing(s) we are holding onto. But God wants our complete surrender. He wants all of our heart. Not half. When we give up our will and our way, God blesses us.

He gives us peace beyond anything we could think or imagine.

You might be a cancer patient in the hospital, or a single mom struggling to survive, a girl whose heart has been broken and shattered too many times, a victim of terror, or someone who just lost her job.

Whatever your season of life right now, God wants to hear from you. Silence is only more threatening to your walk with Him. You have been put in this time of life for a purpose. Wherever God has you in life is for a purpose.

Let go of fighting to control your life and circumstances.

Let Jesus take care of you.

You will run yourself ragged trying to make things happen. Surrendering your life and trials to God is the most freeing and rewarding thing. You don’t have to be in charge of things! God can take care of you. God can change your life around in the blink of an eye if you only give him the power to do so.

I love this quote from Charles Stanley:

Is there a difficulty in your life that continues to persist no matter what you do? You may not understand it at the moment, and that’s okay. It is not necessary that you understand your circumstances or why they affect you as they do. What’s important is that you honor the Lord in them.

The key to maintaining hope as you experience adversity is found in this one foundational truth: God is absolutely sovereign (Psalm 103:19). And because He is Lord over all creation, you can know for certain that He will work through everything that touches your life for your benefit. That’s right-everything. Nothing gets through to you if it won’t somehow edify or refine you eventually.

Therefore, the wisest course of action whenever trials arise is to ask “Father, what would you have me learn?” Listen to Him. Trust Him. Obey Him. And endure with confidence, knowing that eventually you’ll see how He’s worked through every detail to bless you.

-Every Day in His Presence, Charles F. Stanley

Focus on your creator.

When we surrender our circumstances to Jesus it allows us to take our eyes off of ourselves, our pain, what everyone else around us is doing, and simply focus on our creator.

We can bask in His love and bring Him glory by magnifying Him in our lives instead of what we are going through at the present moment.

Tune into God’s character, His promises, His blessings, what He has delivered you from in the past, and it will bring you peace and joy, comfort and love. Believe it, dear sister.

“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28).

Don’t grow bitter by trying to question God’s plans or by trying to conquer your own battles.

Jesus wants you to run to Him for help. He is waiting for you to surrender so that HE can open the floodgates of heaven to save and deliver you and win all of your battles.

This is not about you. It is about God fighting for your salvation and for your heart. He is a jealous God. Won’t you trust Him?

Are you ready to surrender your circumstances to Jesus and stop fighting to win your own battles?

Thanks for reading. Let’s talk! Leave your thoughts in the comments. God bless!

Blog Post Written by Lisa Hallahan of A Lovely Calling.  


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24 Responses to Christian Girls Dealing With Dark Seasons and Difficult Circumstances

  1. Alessandra says:

    Thank you for the encouragement, I’m currently lost. I live with a “Christian mother” but I am not happy at home. My mum says horrible things everything she is angry, very hurtful the my s. Remember each one of my failures or disappointments and is always making declarations of how bad Christian I am every time she doesn’t agree with her. Many have suggested me to move out, even people in my church… How can I let it go in that circumstance? I live with it, and when I try to be good I am rejected and shout at. I don’t know what to do, I have played and said that I can’t anymore, that I give up and that I need help…

    • Aleksandra says:

      It might be that God wants you to learn humility and patience. I also do have currently a situation with a good friend of mine which is very hard for me. It’s nothing like your situation as I don’t live together with her, but I can understand you.

      Before you really consider moving out pray to God and really seek Him and His will in this situation. He knows what’s best, even if this means to take the harder path.

      God bless.

    • Erica says:

      Hi, this situation sounds very familiar, having experienced it personally as well as friends accounts. I get that it’s terrible to live under a “Christian” environment, but witnessing the example of those in authority (especially parents) can be very discouraging at times. A verse I always cling to is Psalms 27:10 🙂 . Press on!

    • Brittania says:

      Shake it off. . .That is a lesson I had to learn. I have had people cuss at me hard because I talked about Jesus. . .but not by my family. I don’t agree with my brother politically and he annoys me with that, so I just had to learn to shake it off. . .when he gives me cold shoulder for those reasons.

      Look to Jesus to meet your needs! Look to Jesus. Cast all your cares and fears and worries. No matter what choose HIS WAY. Sometimes you need to let go of what people think of you.. . .even your family. Let Jesus’ opinion of you be the one that matters most, and shake off lies.

  2. Lydia says:

    Oh wow! Thank you my Heavenly Father. You know exactly what I need. (& more) and your timing is always Perfect.
    The Lord has been blessing me with so much encouragement today – through His Word, some Godly quotes on pintrest & now through this blog.
    At the end of last year I finally got my life right and started serving the Lord with a love like never before. And so began a wonderful relationship with my Lord that just kept growing and growing. Just as of recently though, I’ve begun putting other things before God and started focusing on my desires and how my other friends seem to be making more progress than I am (in getting their Mrs. degree. Lol). I begun to become impatient and started spending less time with the Lord and just last night I was ready to give up. Praise the Lord He never gives up on us and never leaves us when we leave Him. Today He found every way possible to encourage me and remind me that I need to submit to Him and His will every day and keep Him in the center of my life – #1 focus. Only with His help can I wait patiently for things to come in the future and to keep on serving Him with my whole heart.
    “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.” Philippians 4:13 (KJV)

  3. anas says:

    ohh i Need help on this. im really struggling now.

    • Mais says:

      Praying for you right now. Whatever it is, be honest with God and ask Him for help. He truly does know what you need before you even ask for it.

  4. Merci says:

    Thank you so so much for this post. I’ve been going through a very difficult time and a dark season for the past few months. Sometimes it feels like it’s never ending and it’s always “winter”. Will try to fix my eyes on God instead of the circumstances. Thank you!

    • Brittania says:

      Hey. . .I’ve just come out of a dark season. . .and let me tell you one thing. No matter how hard it is or how much you are doubting God, He IS GOING to take your pain, and doubt. . .bring it all together for good. . .

      (Mandisa’s new CD out of the dark fits any dark season well. . .)

      The biggest help, for me was to cast my cares on Jesus immediately. . . instead of carrying the weight of them myself. pretty soon you’ll see the spring! God bless! 🙂

  5. Brittania says:

    I thought I’d NEVER be this close to Jesus again. . .so there is HOPE for you. . .never even think it’s hopeless. Thank you so much for this post, Lisa. . .let’s all keep seeking Jesus!

  6. Anna says:

    Hi everyone! I’m in a difficult situation. I didn’t get my degree in May, because I’ve failed my final exam. After that I didn’t get a job which fits my competences. So, I’ve had to make compromise. Now I have a part-time job, but I have to commute two times a week. I’m not unemployed, but I’m unpaid. I’ve not got salary for two months. I’m seeking for another job now, I’m applying for a few advertisements and that’s all.
    What have I experienced in this time? God cares. Every single day I’ve felt his grace, and his care.
    God has a plan for me, and I pray for it every day.
    Is there somebody else in my shoes? Look at Luke 12:24-26.

    • Mais says:

      Hi Anna, I’m not exactly in your shoes, but I can relate. It took me multiple attempts to pass a final exam in school in order to get my degree. And at the time, it was really really hard to trust God. It seemed like He was suddenly taking away everything I had worked so hard for for years. But that wasn’t the case. I learned that He was allowing me to go through a very difficult time in order that I would lay down everything I held dear and hold Him even more precious. He wanted me to look to Him for help, not to try and solve my problems on my own, as I am so quick to do. He wanted me to be humble, and see that I can do nothing without Him. And He wanted me to trust Him. Truly, if there’s one thing I learned that I want to impress on you, it’s that if God wants you somewhere (or in some situation), He WILL put you there. No one (not you, not anyone in this world), can stop His plan for you, and that’s very comforting! Just keep reminding yourself when it’s rough that even though you’re going through these hard times, God still has a plan for you, and He WILL put you exactly where He wants you when He wants you there. Sometimes it takes a hard lesson to really get this, as it did for me. But you’re doing a good job staying encouraged. Keep close to Him! 🙂

      • Daryan Campbell says:

        Yes!!! this is soo true. I used to say God i know you got this or know tht he will fix the car or heal me but when it came to my schoolwork i’d say lord help me and still go on to do things on my own,worrying,praying against anxiety while i was anxious. I really learned how wrong i was. God is definitly in control of all situations and he wanted me in those situations to really see that he had control. My mind alone couldn’t get me the A but God’s help. Good is Soooo good:). Being humble is something that is Needed,we all must be humble.

  7. Sophie Clemens says:

    Amazing blog post. I just needed this. Thank you very much!

  8. Caroline says:

    This is exactly what I needed to read! I’ve been struggling for a while and needed to realize to focus on God through it all and let him fight my battles. Thank you so much for your wisdom.

  9. Lonely teen girl says:

    This is kind of off subject but I didn’t know where else to ask…my question is; How do you make Friends? I’m 16 and homeschooled and I have no friends at all. (Well at least ones that are girls, everyone I know is a boy.) I’m not shy really, and I don’t feel awkward when talking to people, all except fellow teen girls. I always feel like they are silently judging me and are labeling me as a loser (because I can’t drive yet and I don’t even have a cell phone :(. I recently joined a volleyball team and I have been going to a slight practice every week. I like the people that are there, I just don’t know how I’m supposed to become friends with them, especially since I don’t have a phone. (But I have an iPod so I can still text).
    What do I do if they don’t want to be friends with me because they have enough friends of their own?!
    Any advice? I’m Christian also, so that’s the kind of people I wanna be friends with.

    • Brittania says:

      Reading this reminds me of reading something I might of posted 2 months ago. And God changed my perspective.
      To be friends with people. . .you gotta dare. Dare to be friendly. I don’t drive. . .I don’t have a cell phone, and I have lots of good friends (girls) via texting WITH MY IPOD! LOL. Textnow is an awesome app on your ipod you can get and you can text or call people from any device.
      Make friends with Jesus and find your worth in Him 1st. Tell Him your fears. . .and just be patient. He will bring a friend along. 🙂
      I used to think everyone hated me, I was homeschooled.. . .I was 16 at the time. . .sure were not secret twins? Haha. . .I’d love to be friends with you since, I feel ike I’ve been where you’ve been.

      Just be kind . . .compliment. . .n’ stuff. . .its pretty easy to make friends when you be one!!!

      • Lonely teen girl says:

        Thank you so much for the advice!
        I’m currently meeting new girls via my volleyball team and I’m trying to take your advice and be kind, compliment and stuff (lol) I always try to be a friend!
        I’ll have to download that App! I didn’t know that I could text other people with different devices besides an IPhone.
        And maybe we are secret twins! Lol my name starts with a “B” too.

        Thanks again!

        • Brittania says:

          Haha no problem. 🙂

          And if everything doesn’t work out. . .which happens in this crazy world…Jesus cares and understands 🙂

    • Ellie Joy says:

      Hey! I totally feel you on this one. I’m also homeschooled and I understand the struggle with friends! I would suggest that you get involved in some more activities, maybe if your church has a youth group you could go to that (my youth group has been a huge blessing to me!), find people with similar interests to your own. If they don’t want to be friends with you that is unfortunately their choice, but if you hook up with some Christian girls hopefully that won’t be a problem! As for the phone thing, I totally feel you! I was without a phone when most of my friends had one for a very long time, and only recently did I get one. I would say try to make friends that you can see on a regular basis, at church or practice or whatever and hopefully that won’t be too much of an issue. Hope this helps!!

  10. Daryan Campbell says:

    I am constantly praying and looking for different ways in life that i can give to God because i take some things on too much and get stressed out,saying i’m giving it to God but still stressing. I want to be transparent with God and I am still working on some areas. I just have to stop thinking that I can do it when I know i cant. Nothing great can be done without God and that is a battle a lot of christians have but as I continue to Grow I put God more and mor at the forefront of everything…..I’m not sure if i made complete sense co-relating to the piece but that’s me.

  11. Khloe Q says:

    can you guys do a blog or vlog about why cutting yourself is bad? Because I’ve tried to go to God and ask for help, but He doesn’t seem to answer me. I cut myself one time, and I have this urge to keep doing it because it actually felt good and distracted me from my pain for a while.

    • Bea says:

      Hi Khloe. I’m so sorry to hear that.
      Cutting yourself may distract you from the pain for a while, but it’s not in ANY way Biblical or God honoring. It’s actually spoken against in the Bible
      by God Himself, see Leviticus 19:28.

      No pain should be so great to where you need to harm yourself. You just need to lay it all out and tell it to Jesus, because believe me, He really does care and he is always there listening to your every plea and care. Cutting your self may give you relief (of whatever it may be that you’re going though) but cutting yourself is giving The Lord pain and hurt.

      Jesus came into this world and died for you. He died for your sins. For your pain, hurt, and struggles. He is our one sacrifice for all time. Just believing and having faith in Him, I pray will give you relief of whatever your going through.
      The Lord loves you Khloe, and He is waiting with open arms to hear and comfort you.

      You have to trust him.

      I hope this advice helped you in some way.
      Also, I’m in no way trying to tell you what to do, it just broke my heart when I read your comment.
      My prayers go out to you.
      Signed, Bea.

    • A Friend says:

      Hi Khloe,
      I know in the moment it seems like this pain is the biggest thing in the world right now but realize God has so much GREATER plans for you. We can all relate that we’ve felt depressed and wanted to get away from things, but God teaches us as his children, we are called to confront our sins and at the same time to respect our bodies. Your body is your temple and the “distraction” that cutting yourself gives you is only temporary and the only thing that can end this pain is God. I pray that you will go to him instead of putting this harm upon yourself because YOU deserve better than that.

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