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The One Thing You Desperately Need in a Future Husband (FREE GIVEAWAY)

By: Bethany Baird

The moment his piercing blue eyes glanced in my direction my heart melted into a pile of serious infatuation. This guy was everything I’d ever dreamed of and then some.

He was handsome with an extra dose of Hollywood swag.

In my mind, I had us happily married and imagined myself as the luckiest girl on planet earth. My entire future happiness and marital bliss were being based off one thing…my physical attraction to “Mr. Hollywood” himself.

I knew nothing (literally nothing) about this guy, except for his looks.

Long story short, I ended up meeting and getting to know Mr. Hollywood and the two of us developed a serious case of mutual infatuation.

We chatted on and off (via text and a phone call here and there) for a year or so. Eventually, the distance got between us and our infatuation slowly started to wear off. We each moved on to more local possibilities and eventually stopped communicating altogether.

Looking back on that high-school-summer-romance it’s obvious that I was the epitome of a girl raised in “The Bachelor TV Show” generation. A generation where supposed “true love” is totally based off of emotions and feelings.

Where relationships last as long as the spark has spark.

Despite the fact that infatuation is fun, emotionally thrilling, and temporality satisfying, its track record hasn’t proved to be too successful.

Lasting love, committed relationships, and long-term satisfaction is something we (humanity as a whole) can’t seem to figure out. Instead of rethinking our failed romance system, we keep plunging forward in hopes that somehow we will stumble upon success.

Over the years I’ve finally realized that culture doesn’t have this romance thing figured out. Feelings and emotions can only do so much. Piercing blue eyes and Hollywood swag can only last so long. We need a better plan.

Instead of listening to romance advice from the movies, music, celebrities, magazine or even social media, let’s turn to the creator of romance himself and see what He has to say about it.

God’s recommendation for lasting/thriving/satisfying love is so simple.

His ideas are radically different from cultures. They are unique, uncommon, unpopular and WAY effective. You definitely will not find this advice in PEOPLE Magazine and you won’t find your favorite celebrities tweeting about it.

Here is the one piece of advice we desperately need in order to have a thriving love life.

The One Thing = A Man Who Fears Lord

I’m not kidding or messing with you when I say that. Although it may sound way too simple, I firmly believe it’s the one thing we as girls need.

We don’t need… 

We don’t need a smokin hot guy.

We don’t need him to have bulging biceps.

We don’t need him to have piercing blue eyes.

We don’t need him to have Hollywood swag.

We do need… 

We do need a man who will humble himself before God and diligently seek Him.

We do need a man who loves God and desires to serve Him.

We do need a man who understands the awesomeness of his Creator.

We do need a man whose Bible is his lifeline.

We do need a man who will take us to the Word and study it with Him.

We do need a man who has a growing relationship with God.

This blog was completely inspired by the verse, Proverbs 31:30, “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”

Instead of just thinking about this verse with women in mind, let’s switch out the words and think about it with guys in mind.

“Flirty words are deceitful, and smokin hot bodies are vain, but a man who fears the LORD is to be praised.”

Can you even imagine how different things would be if girls seriously prayed for and waited for a man who fears the Lord! Can you imagine what would happen if Christian girls started placing a huge priority on guys who feared the Lord? Can you even imagine if PEOPLE changed their magazine issue “100 hottest people” to “100 people who seriously fear God.”

I challenge you to stop and seriously consider the type of guy you find most attractive.

Is it the guy with the smooth words? The guy with the flirtatious actions? The guy with the muscles? The popular dude? The guy all the girls think is cute?

My prayer is that each one of us will grow a deep desire for a man who seriously fears the Lord.

This is the type of man that I desperately desire. I know that life will be hard at times. I know I won’t always have the spark or the feelings. I know challenges will come my way. And in those times, I want to be with a man who will take me before God and seek His face together.

This truly is the one thing you desperately need in a future husband and the one thing you need to have a thriving romance.

You need a man who fears the Lord.

I want to end with a prayer. I encourage you to pray this prayer and make it your own. Ask God to make this your heart’s desire.

Dear God,

I am so grateful for your love and kindness in my life. I am so thankful that you truly do have the answers to lasting love. Please help me to align my perspective towards guys with yours. Help me to desperately long for a man who fears the Lord. Help me to see the priceless value in a man who does. And I ask that you make me that kind of woman. Make me a woman who fears You and loves You with all that I am. Please give me patience as I wait for my future husband. Help me to be faithful and productive in this season. I love you and am so grateful for your love for me.

In Jesus Name,

Amen

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  • Such an inspiring post, Bethany! This is what every girl needs to read. Thanks for sharing.

  • Rebekah Teravskis

    Thank you Bethany, this is soo timely. I’ve been working through some things about what I want to see in my future husband, and the Lord’s been working on my heart about my guy standard. It’s good, but hard, because the potential guy in my life, for whom I was rooting, doesn’t measure up. But in God’s time and way that relationship was taken care of. This was just confirmation that I did the right thing. (This just all transpired last week.) Thanks Girl Defined. You guys are doing it right. Keep up the good work.

    • SO glad you are willing to follow God and wait for a godly man! 🙂 You are doing amazing!

  • Brooke Mazyn

    Thank you so much for posting this Bethany! Definitely a great encouragement. I don’t really understand what to do with the giveaway though… can you give some more info? Thanks a lot!

    • Hey Brooke, Just go to any of our social media sites and tag one of your friends in the comments section. That will automatically enter you in the contest 🙂

  • Brooke Mazyn

    Who won the giveaway?

    • Hey Brooke! We will announce the winner in the next 2 hours 🙂

  • anonymous

    This is so true!

    But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7

  • Anonymous

    This is so sad. I see so many Christians practicing what you guys preach and ending up with a tragic failure. A person can be all of the good things you listed and still be a terrible person to marry. My parents married based on these principles. There was humility, respect for the bible, trust in God, every good thing. They realized after marriage they had not gotten to know each other. They had gotten to know each other’s theology. 30 years later my mom is stuck with a man who does not know how to love, how to care, how to enjoy, because he has nothing to give even though he’s done all the right things.

    I think it’s also sad how you guys hold so many girls to a high standard, yet yourselves are anything but wise and experienced. If you are still having problems with lust when a man bats his eyelashes at you, you aren’t anywhere near being able to tell others how to deal with their relationship problems. Maturity comes with age and experience. I hope you find it by seeking the truth. Hundreds of impressionable girls who want to be like you is not the same as God telling you that what you do is good.


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