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You Don’t Have to be a Victim to Your Crazy Girl Emotions

By: Bethany Beal

During the past couple of months my life has been busy, busy, busy. My days have been filled with long hours of manuscript revisions, traveling, speaking, working in my dad’s office, visiting with relatives, and so much more.

During all of this busyness, I’ve also been facing an emotionally confusing issue in a certain area of my life.

Due to the combination of tiredness and busyness, I’ve been struggling to keep my thoughts and emotions under control.

Typically, I can focus my mind on Scripture (or prayer) and my thoughts and emotions get in check pretty quickly.

Not this time though.

For some reason, I’ve been in need of extra work to get a reign on my crazy thoughts.

I’m not the only girl who struggles with this, right?

Despite how weak or strong I’m currently feeling, I know that Bible commands me not to worry but to give thanks in all circumstances.

Philippians 4:6 says it this way, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.”

Knowing the truth of that verse and actually applying it and putting it into action has been difficult recently. Do you ever go through seasons of struggle like this?

Two Questions to Battle Discouragement

Instead of standing by and giving into my thoughts and emotions, I’ve been kicking things into high gear and striving to honor God in this area of my life.

I’ve been spending extra time reading through one of my new favorite books by Nancy Leigh DeMoss titled: A Place of Quiet Rest. (I consider it a must read!)

As I was reading today, a small section jumped out at me. I think Nancy must have written it with me in mind. She said,

“When I encounter someone who is battling discouragement or depression, I often ask two questions: ‘Are you singing to the Lord?’ and ‘Are you memorizing Scripture?’ These two exercises are not some magical formula to make all our problems go away, but they do have incredible power to change our perspective and attitude toward the issues we are facing.”

This piece of wisdom popped out of the page and brought me loads of encouragement.

I don’t have to be a “victim” to my thoughts and emotions.

By the power of God I can do practical things that will revive and restore my thoughts, which will then direct my emotions.

Without wasting a second, I went about singing some of my favorite classic hymns. Immediately, my spirits were lifted, and I started to feel revived. I also started meditating on Psalm 23, which helped remind me of the truth of who God is.

From One Emotional Girl to Another . . .

As an emotional girl to emotional girls, I want to encourage you to give Nancy’s advice a try. Don’t give in to worry, fear, depression, or discouragement when it comes knocking at your door.

Try singing great hymns (or praise songs) and meditate (that’s a fancy word for thinking about over and over) on passages like Psalm 23.

You will be pleasantly shocked by the incredible results.

I know this will not be the last time I will face worry or discouragement in my own life. I know that confusing circumstances will be back in before I’m ready. With a solid plan of action, like this, I have nothing to fear.

I know how to fight off crazy thoughts that can so easily turn into crazy emotions.

Are any of you girls struggling with worry, confusion, discouragement or depression? If so, how can you apply Nancy’s advice to your situation?

Are you willing to give it a try?

I would love to hear how you have dealt with crazy emotions in the past. How could singing to the Lord and memorizing Scripture help in the future? Let’s carry on this conversation in the comments section below.

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15 Responses to You Don’t Have to be a Victim to Your Crazy Girl Emotions

  1. Ash says:

    It’s absolutely crazy how God works – it’s literally been these past two weeks that I’ve been feeling like I’m all over the place. I’ve just finished my last two weeks at Bible College for the semester (I’m from Australia) and these last two weeks have been the absolute hardest! Unfortunately, at the moment it’s an every day battle but taking it day by day will help to overcome it and have the Holy Spirit teach me at every turn. Plus it makes it a little less overwhelming than looking at the bigger picture going “just get it together!” Looking forward to trying Nancy’s method out!

    Being kinder to ourselves at the place we’re at in our journey is key, I believe, but we just shouldn’t get complacent or comfortable there! LOVE all your blogs x
    My life is richer because of it 🙂

  2. Elizabeth Williams says:

    I’ve definitely struggled with every kind of emotion out there! lol But one of the things that makes it way worse, is when I start thinking and thinking about my emotions and “Why am I feeling this way?” And if I know there’s a certain situation that’s causing it, thinking and thinking on that situation. It DEFINITELY helps to sing hymns to myself or play them on the piano. And memorizing Scripture is also a big help. You have been very busy lately! I don’t know how you handle it. I would’ve been crazy by now lol

  3. SavedbyGrace says:

    Well, I must say this post couldn’t have come into my life at a more convenient time. I just told a guy whom I deeply care for that a relationship cannot work for the two of us right now in our lives (because of other priorities that demand our attention). It’s very hard because we’ve known each other our whole lives, and have become very best friends over the past ten months. And now to call it off…is just very hard for us. We know it’s for the right reasons. But it’s one of those things that just really hurts! Pretty much every night for the past two weeks, I’ve cried myself to sleep. I’ve prayed and cried out to God asking Him to relieve the pain. And He does, but the fact that this guy is no longer there, kills me inside. Our bond was crazy tight! And now…we’re hardly talking to one another:( I’m trying to be strong, but it’s REALLY hard especially since I have to see him every week at church and church events. Do you have any other advice that might help me get stronger? Besides reading God’s word, and praying a lot. I don’t what else to do. I want to get to a place where I’m myself again, and where it’s okay to be around him and not want to cry:) I just don’t know how to get there! Love you ladies! I’m so thankful for this group of women that I can relate to! Keep spreading truth for our Savior’s name!

    • Allie says:


      I´m going exactly through the same thing (that´s so weird, isn’t it?). I know it´s hard, and it´s harder when he is so indifferent towards me, or even harder when he asks me thing as if nothing has changed, but knowing everything has changed.

      But what has helped me to overcome my pain, and the fact that i DO miss him, is being thankful! The Lord has being cleaning my heart through this, I think he was like an idol for me, I couldn’t (can´t) imagine my life without him, and that´s a bad thing; he was satisfying something only God was suposed to satisfy and eventually my future husband.

      So I give thanks to the Lord for cleaning my heart and I ask Him to forgive me for my idolatry. I constantly pray with the Psalm 51.

      I also pray with Psalm 16, He is my portion, He is enough and I want to believe it and live that way.

      And I sing when He is around… It helps me to praise the Lord instead of focusing on my feelings, I also try to look for the needs around me; a lonely girl, a lady with problems, something that needs to be cleaned.

      And I´ve tried to seek Him with all my heart, I want Him to fill all of me, to satisfy every longing and desire, but He wants us to diligently seek Him.

      Don´t give up, give Him your pain and rejoice in your loving Savior!

      “Let us acknowledge the Lord;
      let us press on to acknowledge him.
      As surely as the sun rises,
      he will appear;
      he will come to us like the winter rains,
      like the spring rains that water the earth.”
      Hosea 6:3

      I say to the Lord, “You are my Lord;
      apart from you I have no good thing.”
      Psalm 16:2

      I’ll be praying for you, please pray for me too…
      Love in Christ

      • SavedbyGrace says:

        Hi Allie! Thank you soooo much for those encouraging Bible verses that completely lifted my spirits!:) I actually talked with this guy today. Sunday, was when I told him (through writing a letter) that we needed to part ways and get our priorities straight. He told my brother last night that he wanted to talk with me so that we can straighten everything out. So I talked with him today, and his reaction was the exact opposite of what I thought it would be. I thought he would make it out like it didn’t happen, or get mad, you know? Well by God’s grace, he told me that he was glad that I wrote that letter. And he was really happy that he had met a girl who knew how to handle certain situations. He said he wanted to clear the air, because if we were doing this, he didn’t want it to be awkward. And even if he ever had a chance to meet another girl, he wouldn’t because he couldn’t find another girl like me:):) I couldn’t have asked for a better way to say goodbye to this guy:)! God really answered my prayers at night:) One of the things I specifically prayed for, was that this guy wouldn’t get hurt, and that he’d understand. Well he did, and he and I walked away without hurting eachother. And he handled this in a way that was respectful, and caring:) God does answer prayers, so Allie, don’t give up!! God does ease the pain. I’m okay knowing that this guy is okay. We just have to keep living our lives being content with where Christ has us. And no matter how hard it may be to accept His will for our lives sometimes, we have to trust that His plans are greater than ours! Jeremiah 29:11 is living proof:) I’ll pray for you as you go through this difficult experience as well. xoxo!

        • cutiepie888 says:

          Wow. I guess most girls go through such situations – especially if you want a relationship based on God’s principles. I too have been going through a similar situation and, apart from prayer and reading God’s word, this blog, among other things, has helped me get through it. Always remember why you made certain decisions cos it makes it easier to stick to them. Always remember to trust how God leads your life. Don’t perpetuate your pain by fixating on certain things and re-running them in your mind. Move on and keep yourself busy with other beneficial things. We go through certain situations just so that God can make us stronger for other things in the future so we need to trust God completely. Let go and let God.Talking to friends about such things doesn’t always help. Often as girls, we want to cry and cry and cry over things and talk to our ‘girlfriends’ just so we can feel better. This doesn’t always help. Seek counsel of Godly people and seek God’s counsel above all else. Give yourself time to heal and don’t let your life be one of emotions/feelings, but rather, live a life of principle. I know you’ve probably heard these things being said lotsa times but it is the truth. And this is what helps me. 🙂

  4. Taylor says:

    Thanks so much for this post, Bethany! I have to say though, it’s crazy how God works…this post came at the perfect time! God works in mysterious ways sometimes. These past few weeks especially I’ve been overcome with lots of different emotions. A few weeks ago, a guy wanted to start texting me & even though I didn’t really like him, I continued to text him every day. I realize now that I was texting him & leading him on for all the wrong reasons; I liked the attention that I was getting from it. This morning I told him that I could no longer text him….and I think that’s for the better. I’m going through the book “Get Lost” by Dannah Gresh right now (I would recommend this book to any girl struggling with their emotions), and it’s crazy how many blog posts & such have come into my life over this past week, saying that I need to surrender to God & become so deeply in love with Him before any guy comes into my life.

    Are there any books that you would recommend for a girl struggling with her emotions?

    • SavedbyGrace says:

      Taylor, I find your experience very relatable:) A good book that I would suggest to you is Emotional Purity: An Affair of the Heart by Heather Arnel Paulsen. It has had a huge impact on my life, and will really encourage you I think! It talks about how we should handle guy/girl relationships but at the same time guarding your heart. Hope this helps you:) And I know what you are going through with letting a guy go:( I just told a guy whom I love very much that we can’t work out right now:( Hardest descion of my life right now. It’s also one of the more painful decisions too:( But God is good ALL the time no matter what happens! I’m praying for u!

      • Taylor says:

        Thanks so much! I’ll definitely be checking out that book! I’ll be praying for you too!

  5. Taylor B says:

    This post has definitely hit home! This summer is packed with activities, traveling, trying to the beach, and spending time with family.– I need to remember to constantly pray and rejoice in the Lord for this season because it is here for a reason. Even is I am unaware of His reason for such a busy life I can trust with all my hear that He has a purpose bigger than me.

  6. Elisabeth says:

    Hey Girls, Loved the post as always, I can honestly, and thankfully sat,(at least for the time being)that God has helped my over my run away emotions!Just recently, I was worringso much about Ya know, stuff like”Prince Charming,I’m ready, where are you?, and stuff like if God will ever give my my own kids some day.Because I absolutely love kids!!But then, by Gid’s grace he got me to the point where I said, Okay God, I give you my future and desires.Give my what you want me to have, and please direct me.I have never been so happy,Joy filled, and at ease.I still may worry about some things, and not have enough interesting things to do.Being Board has always been a Big issue for me, but when I realize God and my family are there to help.I see that I can eather waste, and or ruine my day, and be a sour puss, or I can pick myself back up, find a new way to use my day. Not being so focused on getting everything on my list done always, but be more focused on others.Which makes life so much better and sweeter.Hops this helps, and Keep looking up to God!!

  7. Maria Wilson says:

    This advice is really helpful. Ill give it a try.

  8. Diana Dunn says:

    Years ago, a mentor of mine shared with me some advice for battling worry and overwhelming thoughts, and I’m so thankful for how the Lord has used it in my life time and time again. She suggested that I go through the alphabet in my mind and think of attributes of God that begin with each letter. “God is amazing, almighty, beautiful, caring, calming, etc. ” I continue on until God has prompted me to pray more deeply about one of these attributes or until my mind is completely redirected. It’s such a great way to consciously “set your mind on things above” and “be transformed by the renewing of our minds.” The Lord has carried me through many seasons of anxiety and grief, moment by moment in this manner 🙂

  9. Joy says:

    This is a post for me. I am constantly busy with many siblings, homeschool, helping out around the house, and working out. Thank you for the encouragement.

  10. Joy says:

    It is so hard. But God is good.

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