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Embracing Modesty Throughout the Hot Summer Months

By: Bethany Beal

A few years ago I would have been shocked by some of the fashion trends currently taking over the clothing stores. Although it still saddens me, it doesn’t quite shock me like it used to. Extreme Immodesty has become our norm.

Ultra mini shorts. Tiny crop tops. Sheer shirts. Practically painted on pants. This is the new norm.

The standard for modesty is being lowered further and further and we as Christian girls are being faced with immense pressure to give in. I know that this is not new news to you. You see the stores. You see the way girls are dressings. You feel the pressure. You know exactly what I’m talking about.

I just want you to know that I see it too and I get it. I see that the standard is being lowered. I feel the pressure to slowly give in. I know what you, as a Christian girl trying to dress modestly, are facing.

I’m here to offer you some words of hope and encouragement.

Just because the standards for modesty and decency are extremely low, we as Christian girls, don’t have to give in. We can stand strong in our convictions and continue to embrace purity. Although there aren’t many of us, we aren’t alone. We have each other.

With summer quickly approaching, we need to prepare our minds, hearts and closets in order to stand strong…and covered.

I want to share with you a few personal tips that help me embrace modesty throughout the hot summer months.

1. Dressing modestly requires sacrifice.

Modesty isn’t always easy. Modesty takes sacrifice. You have to acknowledge that dressing modestly makes shopping a little bit harder. You also need to acknowledge that modesty isn’t always the most weather friendly option. When it’s one-hundred and something degrees outside, it’s not easy to stay covered. Modesty may require that you forgo some of the latest fashion trends and styles.

I could list other ways that modesty requires sacrifice but I think you get the idea. I want you to approach this summer with a realistic perspective. Prepare yourself ahead of time for what modesty might require of you and then joyfully deal with it when the time comes.

Romans 12:1 encourages us to live with this perspective and I think it’s a great reminder in the area of modesty. “I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.”

2. Dressing modestly may take extra creativity.

Modesty becomes a lot easier when you use creativity. Think outside the box and try to figure out ways to make dressing modestly easier. Instead of waiting until summer is in full swing, why not start planning outfits and working on pieces now. I encourage you to start working on your wardrobe and figuring out new ways to wear old clothes. You can check out my video Project Modesty for some fun ways to get creative with your clothing.

3. Dressing modestly isn’t about you.

When I have a “me, me, me” mindset, modesty is very difficult. When I remember that dressing modestly is first and foremost to honor Jesus, it becomes a lot easier. I really encourage you to remain humble in this area. As Christians our first priority is always to glorify Christ and point others to Him. If you are struggling in the area of modesty, I encourage you to spend some time getting your heart right before God. Pray and ask God to give you a humble attitude and a desire to honor Him with your clothing.

I want you to know that we are in this together!

I am striving to dress modestly throughout the hot summer months and I’m inviting you to join me. We don’t have to do this alone. We can link arms, encourage each other along the way and strive to honor Christ to the best of our ability.

Here are a few ways that we can stay connected and that you can get some encouragement as the hot summer months roll in.

You can start out by watching this super fun and inspiring video my four sisters and I made. We wanted to encourage and inspire other Christian girls in this area and thought a video was a great way to do that! Watch the video here.

Secondly, you can follow my younger sister, Rebekah, on her blog Hello Modesty. Her entire blog is designed to show girls how to dress totally adorable and modest at the same time. You will be encouraged and inspired.

I want to hear your thoughts now. How do you embrace modesty throughout the hot summer months? Do you have any tips or tricks you can share with the rest of us?

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30 Responses to Embracing Modesty Throughout the Hot Summer Months

  1. Great post, Bethany!
    I usually just wear flowy and loose (but not too loose) cotton clothes during the summer… long skirts are my go-to! They keep me cool and comfy and modest!
    Thanks again for another great post!

  2. Hannah says:

    I just have one question. How can anyone think that skinny jeans are modest? I will give allowance if you’re wearing a long tunic shirt or a dress out over them maybe. But just with an ordinary shirt? I just can’t understand how people think they are modest. (And they look terrible on guys! Most girls can’t even pull them off.) So that’s my opinion, I know. What do y’all think?

    • Abby says:

      I totally agree with you Hannah! TOTALLY!!!!!! Even Rebekah Baird has posted on her “modesty blog” wearing skinny jeans and a regular shirt… doesn’t make sense! I know they have a good heart, but it’s JUST. NOT. MODEST.

      • Breanne says:

        Totally agree with you guys! I like some of the thing she post but she’ll wear skinny jeans and I just don’t get it! I’m glad someone else noticed! 😀

    • Leanne says:

      I definitely see what you’re saying. My take on it is, it depends on how it looks on the person, and as you know, there’s lots of different body types. I myself happen to wear more regular jeans, and if I see a good pair of jeans on sale, I try to avoid those that are skin tight to the ankles like leggings. Some skinny jeans are more just straight in the calf area, and would be better labeled as straight jeans rather than skinny jeans. The one occasional allowance I’ll give is if I’m wearing tall boots, especially fall/winter fashion boots that almost reach my knees. In that case, skinny jeans do relieve some of the headache in trying to wear them, as opposed to tucking in flare pants.

    • Celestria says:

      My parents think skinny jeans are so ugly and weird looking Hahaha. I definitely think guys need to stop wearing them. Me and my mom were just talking about that yesterday. We used to go to a church and the lead singer wore his skinny jeans as skin tight as the girls do. And to me that is Just not attractive on a dude AT ALL!!! I could never go out with a guy that wore his pants like that eww. I’d be embarrassed, in all honesty.

    • Val says:

      Modesty is such a controversial topic and everyone has a different opinion on what’s modest and what is not modest.
      I think that everyone should pray for wisdom in this area and decide 🙂

      • Hannah says:

        Hmmm. I agree with you somewhat but not totally. People can use the “I prayed about it and don’t feel it’s wrong so it’s okay” excuse and not actually really seek the Father in their decision. Your heart can be deceived. But yes it does certainly require wisdom! 🙂

        • Val says:

          Of course, only they know if they have really prayed about it or not, but the fact that their standards don’t align with ours doesen’t necessarily mean that they have not prayed about it 🙂

          • Hannah says:

            True. And I think that people can still dress modestly even if their dress standards aren’t exactly like mine. Sometimes people can wear certain clothing modestly even if you can’t (whether because of form or conscious). We have all received grace and we need to learn how to give it as well!

          • Val says:

            That’s so true! “We have received grace and we need to learn how to give it as well” I love it!

  3. Hannah says:

    I do appreciate your post too!

  4. Ashton Morren says:

    I think the problem with staying modest in the summertime these days is hard because of all the synthetic fabrics! It causes people to want to take off their clothes because the material is so hot. I used to be involved in rodeos when I was younger, and we always wore long sleeve cotton shirts and never felt like we were being cooked while wearing them. Cotton BREATHES, y’all! And if you think about it— imagine Little House on the Prairie in your head— folks have been wearing cotton for yeaaaars, even long sleeved, floor length dresses, and still stayed cool!

    • Annalysa says:

      Yesssssssssss….we were trying to find stuff that wasn’t huge or sleeveless and everything else was not breathable at all! I guess we just have to start making our clothes again… 😀

  5. Autumn Lawler says:

    Does anyone have any suggestions for stores that have modest clothes for reasonable prices? I’m running low on nice church clothes for the summer, especially tops.

    • Melissa VDA says:

      I personally find that the thrift stores are the best place to find modest clothing. 🙂 I also love halftees which can be put under an otherwise immodest shirt making it totally modest. You can find them by googling halftee.

      • Melissa VDA says:

        The halftees are great for under dresses that aren’t quite modest up top either!

        • Annalysa says:

          I hadn’t thought about that – that’s a great idea!!! And we love thrift stores. I find all my skirts at thrift stores…and I found my Junior recital dress at Goodwill for like, $6! 🙂

      • Autumn Lawler says:

        Thanks! Yes, thrifts stores are pretty great.

  6. Natalie says:

    this! In regards to #2, the best thing I have learned is that don’t shy
    away from certain pieces because they would be immodest (by
    themselves)…some of my favorite layering pieces are crop tops that
    have a higher neckline than most tank tops, and tight knee length
    bodycon skirts are perfect for adding length to a dress or skirt that’s
    too short!

  7. Annalysa says:

    Yes!!! We were trying to find some comfortable, classy but not too dressy, modest tops today for me and I didn’t find anything. It’s either t-shirts or sleeveless tops or shirts made of polyester (which isn’t comfortable in 90* weather)….Any store recommendations, too? Thanks so much for posting this <3 <3

    • Celestria says:

      Yes!! It’s hard for me to find anything cute and stylish and not too hot. All I find is t-shirts ):

  8. Anna Hannigan says:

    LINEN! Girls, the type of fabric is important and cotton is absolutely a great choice, but don’t disregard 100% Linen or a blend of the two. I have button up linen tops in white and pink. I also have shorts and pants that are 100% linen. It is a very lightweight fabric. Linen tends to be a little more expensive but worth it or try thrift stores.
    In addition, while I appreciate all of you who are striving for modesty let me share that it took nearly five years for God to develop my current sense of modesty. When you share your convictions know that they are your own and not to be forced on others. You have no idea what God is doing in other girls’ hearts or minds. He will work in his timing in their hearts and their convictions.

  9. Sam says:

    So encouraging to know that we’re all in this together and God honours our sacrifice! 🙂

  10. Bianca says:

    I think a few people have mentioned this already, but here’s my take. Several years ago I began layering items to achieve a style I was happier with, but once you get a few layers the added heat isn’t always comfortable. Finally I realised that each individual piece didn’t need to be modest on its own; several pieces could be mixed to achieve the same style I had before, but without all the extra fabric. Sleeveless (or even strapless, in some cases) tops or dresses can be paired with a shrug or small cardigan to be just as modest as a t-shirt, but more stylish (my preference).

  11. Joy says:

    Wonderful! I particularly was encouraged by the 3rd point.

  12. Snarky says:

    Since when did dressing modestly justify judging others on their clothing…it’s their choice to do so and if they can buy their own clothing they should wear whatever they like… I just don’t think what they wear has anything to do with your life…wear whatever you feel good in as long as it is appropriate to the situation (Don’t wear pajamas to a job interview)

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