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Being Faithful to a Man You’ve Never Met

By: Bethany Beal

I was driving down the highway. Music off. Brain on. Thinking about my life. With talk of Valentine’s in the air, my thoughts drifted toward my future. The simple idea of my future husband being alive and breathing, made me excited.

Wow! My future husband is alive, breathing and living life. That’s cool. 

And then it hit me. If it’s God’s will for me to get married, my future husband is a real living guy. Not just an imaginary person. One day I will meet him, marry him and spend the rest of my life with him.

When I think about my future in such an incredibly realistic way, it stops me. It makes me question my actions. It makes me wonder if I am honoring him with my life right now. It makes me wonder if I’m doing him good “all the days of my life” even before I know who he is.

I decided to play one of my favorite songs as those thoughts lingered in my mind.

It’s a song that I heard years and years ago. The song is called Faithfully and it’s written/sung by Eric and Leslie Ludy.

The theme of the song is about writing to your future spouse a love song with your life. The song talks about denying momentary pleasure for purity. It’s about waiting for more than the cheap version of romance the world offers. It’s about living in a way that acknowledges your future spouse is a real person. It’s about being faithful even before you know who they are.

I turned up the song and made the words my prayer.

I encourage you to stop reading, listen to the song and make it your prayer. It’s an amazing song about faithfulness and a reminder of what true love looks like.

Some of my favorite lines from the song are: 

1. “For years I have been dreaming of you, And I wonder if you’re thinking of me too”

This line reminds me that he is real. He’s not just an idea or a dream. At this very moment my future husband and your future husband could be thinking about us or praying for us. Wow! What a cool thought.

2. They say that Im a fool to wait for something more. How can I really love someone I’ve never seen before?”

I love how this line talks about waiting for more than what the world offers. Instead of giving in to cheap romance and quick flings, wait. Wait for you future husband. Honor him. Love him even though you may have never seen him.

3. “And I know real love is all about learning how to give. So I pray that God will bring you to me. And I pray you’ll find me waiting faithfully.”

This line is an incredible reminder to practice true love right now. True love is all about learning how to give. That’s something each of us can work on right now. Learning how to give up our rights, wants, desires and wishes. Learning how to live selflessly and love in a way that puts others first.

4. Faithfully, I am yours. From now until forever. Faithfully I will write, Write you a love song with my life. Cause this kind of love’s worth waiting for. No matter how long it takes. I am yours. Faithfully

This makes me question my faithfulness.

Am I really being faithful to my future husband? If he were to find me now, would he find me waiting faithfully? Would your future husband find you waiting faithfully? In your actions? In your thoughts? In the way you interact with other guys? Learning how to honor your future husband now, will only make it that much easier after you are married. What a blessing and a gift to bring into marriage. Faithfulness.

I want to encourage each one of you to stop. Pray that you can be a faithful woman to God. Pray that you’ll be a faithful woman to your future husband. Pray that you can honor him even before you know who he is. Pray that you will live in a way that shows you are being faithful to the one man God has for you.

I would encourage you to play the song again. Close your eyes and make it your prayer.

Questions to consider…

  • Do you pray for your future husband? What specific things do you pray for? I started praying for mine many many years ago. You can watch my video on “Praying For Your Future Husband” or you can read the blog post here. 
  • In what ways are you not being faithful to your future husband? If he were to find you now, would he feel honored by your thoughts and actions?

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28 Responses to Being Faithful to a Man You’ve Never Met

  1. Sarah says:

    Wow I needed this right now. Thank you so much for having a blog that speaks to the “older” singles (20s vs teens :). God has used your posts multiple times to encourage and exhort me just at the right time. God bless you richly!

  2. Hannah L says:

    This is such a great post!! Bethany, you and your sister have a talent for writing and your posts have been a wonderful encouragement to me! Thanks!
    Hannah L

    • GirlDefined says:

      Hannah, thank you so much for your sweet and encouraging words. We feel even more motived when we hear from the GirlDefined readers. Thanks for taking the time to comment 🙂

  3. Hannah says:

    Great Valentine’s post! And the song is one of my favorites!

  4. Inspired says:

    This post was very timely. Thank you!

  5. Abbie Sikma says:

    Excellent reminder, Bethany! Thank you.

  6. Elizabeth Williams says:

    Great post! I definitely have been praying for him with Valentine’s coming up, praying that he would not get discouraged and that he would be patient!

  7. Bia Baraldi says:

    It’s a really great post. Yes, I.m praying for my future husband and it’s amazing!!

  8. Gods_girlcoco says:

    Once again, an amazing post that really made me think. How do you know if you are being faithful to your husband when interacting with other guys though? What is a godly interaction with a guy look like? Thanks, for this post! Love yall!

  9. SavedbyGrace says:

    This post and song makes me stop and think. It makes me think about everything that I have done and am doing in preparing for my future guy:) Thank you for this convicting post! Love You Girls! xoxo!!

  10. Allie says:

    Wow! Thank you! I needed to read this!

    I think I fail sometimes thinking that certain guy would be a perfect husband… I feel so unfaithful!
    But it is true, he is alive, he is a real man! And if I´ve been waiting 25 years for him, he must be awesome.

    Sometimes I´m afraid that if I pray often for a husband I´ll become obsessed with marriage… and I´m just learning to control my thoughts that I don´t want to go back…
    What should I do? if I were married, I´d pray for him constantly!!

    And, is there a moment in your life when you must completly die to the dream of getting married? I mean, certain age or circumstance… What if marriage is not for me and I coninue dreaming all my life? I don´t want that dream to be something between God and me…

    • Melissa Borgens says:

      “What if marriage is not for me and I coninue dreaming all my life? I don´t want that dream to be something between God and me…”

      I learned from my leader who all were calls to get married. Only when someone is called to do the “celibacy” not.

      I have a friend who spoke that was called for that but lived thinking of being a mother. Namely, God put a desire in your heart to be a mother. She then discovered that was not called to celibacy, but he was just afraid of marriage.

      If marriage is something that burns in your heart but it’s getting outta control (you’re thinking a lot on this subject), don’t worry. Ask the Holy Spirit give thee peace you need. (Philippians 4: 7)

      But I nominate you to read what Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 7: 9.

      I hope I helped a little.
      God bless you!
      #I’m using the translator HAHA 🙂

      • Allie says:

        Melissa, thank you so much for your effort!
        I kind of know how you feel; my first language is Spanish 🙂

        You made my heart smile, I think it´s biblical!! And it helps a lot! I wont´s give up praying and waiting God´s perfect time, striving to Know Him better and to love Him with all that I am.

        But I just wonder why there are so many wonderful women in their 30´s or 40´s wanting to get married and with no men loving them?

        Thanks from Mexico

    • Melissa Borgens says:

      I hope I have understood what you said. =) HAHA

  11. rae says:

    Thank you for this beautiful reminder of staying steadfast on the path!!!

  12. Ina Yefimov says:

    That is such a good reminder, Thank you

  13. Melissa Borgens says:

    Thank you so much for being sensitive to the Spirit!

    Every day I read this blog, God talks to me, he says what needs to be changed in my life and I want to obey him.

    Be faithful, is something so unusual lately. As the world today is “fast food”, everything has to be fast and nobody wants to honor the time to wait for her future husband.

    While I was reading this article, God brought me the parable of the 10 virgins. Foolish women (crazy) are the infidels, because they weren’t prepared and neither were ready when her husband arrived.

    That we be found faithful.

    (I’m at work, but I really wanted to go crying to Jesus in my room. This impacted my life!)

    PS: I hope you understand me, I am again using a translator HAHA


    • GirlDefined says:

      I am so glad you were able to relate to this blog post. You are so right. We live in a fast, fast, fast paced world. We want what we want and we want it when we want it. Faithfully waiting is not a normal concept in this day and age. God has called us to “be in the world but not of it.” This is just another way that we can reflect Jesus to the lost world around us. 🙂

  14. Karina says:

    wonderful text! God bless your life

  15. jiujitsulover says:

    Thank you for writing this post! I will definitly be reading again! God bless. 😀

  16. Rose says:

    I love your posts! thank you for being so real❤

  17. Veronika says:

    Awesome post! Thank you 🙂

  18. Anna Jones says:

    If you loved “Faithfully”, you should check out “Haven’t Even Kissed” and “I’ll Wait for You” by Moriah Peters. Both amazing songs about waiting for love.

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