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A Sure Fire Sign That You are a Foolish Girl

By: Bethany Baird

A few years ago, I was a foolish girl. I didn’t think I was at the time, but looking back I realize I was a fool with a capital F.

There was season in my life when I lived out the “fool” part of this verse, “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice” (Proverbs 12:15).

I wasn’t a fool in every area of life, but there was a particular area where I very strongly rejected any advice that did not line up with my own opinion.

Here is how that verse looks on a twenty first century girl, aka. Me.

My dad and I are sitting on my bed having a conversation. My dad tries his best to share his heart with me on a certain issue and explains why he doesn’t think this opportunity is good for me at this time in my life.

Embracing the title “fool” I look at him, tears welling in my eyes and say, “You’re just against me. You don’t want me to be happy! Why do you want me to be miserable forever?!?”

During that conversation I had totally shut my ears off to what my dad was saying.

I was doing exactly what that verse described. I was absolutely right in my own eyes and I viewed anyone with a different opinion than my own as being against me. I wanted what I wanted and I wanted everyone to agree with me and cheer me on.

Looking back on that specific situation I am grateful that God gave me enough wisdom to avoid completely rejecting my dad’s counsel. I didn’t accept his wisdom willingly and I cried a lot along the way, but I eventually listened. And boy am I oh-so glad I did.

Now that several years have passed I view that situation completely differently.

My eyes have been opened and I no longer desire what I desired back then. I realize that my parents, and wise counselors around me, were spot on and I was spot off.

If only I had immediately heeded the advice of Proverbs 12:15, I would have been spared mountains of struggle and heartache.

Through that situation I came to realize this sure fire sign of a foolish girl.

The Bible states so clearly that a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. That is the sure fire sign. When you are convinced that you are right and everyone else is wrong, you are on your way to becoming a fool. When you close your ears to the wisdom and counsel of those around you, you are embracing the title fool.

Way too often we as Christian girls follow our emotions and feelings and ignore the wisdom from those around us.

We close our ears to anyone that doesn’t agree with what we want to hear. We convince ourselves that anyone who disagrees with us is either “against us” or “dislikes us.”

I’ve been there, done that and I know exactly how it feels. It’s not an easy position to be in. I’m not here to tell you that obeying God’s Word is easy, because it’s not. It takes guts and gumption and a girl willing to follow God’s Word no matter how difficult. I get that. In fact I wrote a blog on what it truly takes to be a strong Christian girl.

This topic is not an easy one for us as Christian girls to live out. Thankfully the Bible leaves us no squiggle room. Proverbs 12:15 gives us two simple options.

Here is the basic breakdown:

Foolish Girl = Ignores advice.

Wise Girl = Listens to advice.

I so desperately want to be a wise girl. I don’t want to make big mistakes and have lasting struggles because of my foolish and stubborn heart. I want to follow God’s Word and obey it even when it’s so difficult to do.

I’m guessing I’m not the only one who struggles with being a fool. I have a feeling some of you girls are struggling with this issue right now.

You may have a situation in your life that no one (but yourself) seems to understand. Your parents don’t get you, your friends don’t get you, your pastor doesn’t get you, no one gets you.

You have a choice to make. You can either reject the Bible’s wisdom and believe that you are right in your own eyes, or you can accept the wisdom of those around you.

The choice is up to you.

If you are struggling in a certain area, we would love to pray for you or talk with you. Please feel free to leave your comments below and we can start a conversation.

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  • Grace

    This post was really good, thank you.

    I just need some prayer on this topic. To be wise, in everything I do, from the moment the sun rises to when it sets.

    Thanks 🙂

  • Jesusfreak17

    What about when it comes to theology?
    Also, do you have any advice for being graceful on the other end of the situation? Like when you are giving advice to someone else?

    • Hey Jesusfreak17, opening up your ears and listening to the wisdom of others does not mean that you have to agree with what they are saying. When it comes to theology your final authority should be God’s Word. The wisdom of those wiser and older can many times help us “younger ones” to understand what the passage is saying. I personally try to avoid pointless debates with people that I know I do not see eye to eye with doctrinally. Your goal in any controversial conversation needs to be focused on pointing the other person to Christ and not on getting them to see your point of view. In Ephesians 4:29 it says, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” We should keep that in mind anytime we are speaking with others 🙂

      • Heather

        Hey Bethany, what about when you are not on the same page as your other family members when it comes to practical application of the Bible? When it is between parents/older children (like college age), are children still to submit to the parent’s point of view? Also, when you grow up and move out of your parents’ home, is it okay to do some things differently than what your parents would tell you to if you were living under their roof? Practical things such as how to vacuum the carpet, organize your belongings, whether you wear shoes in the house, etc? Not in an attitude of rebellion but just a difference in preferences, that is.

        • Hey Heather, Great questions! The Bible only commands “children” to obey their parents in all things. The Bible does tell everyone (no matter the age) to honor their parents. When it comes to a difference in preference and conviction, you need to make sure that you are honoring your parents. That doesn’t mean you will agree on everything or do everything exactly the same, but it does mean you are loving, caring and respectful in the way you go about handling those differences. I think it would be very beneficial for you to have an open and honest conversation with your parents discussing exactly what you’ve written here. What do you think?

  • Oh wow. Thank you SO much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! <3

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  • Elisabeth

    Hey,Bethany,I have a question?What do you do when the music you listen is sometimes classical and or modern classical, but more often then not it’s pretty soft rock,and your parents just don’t agree with even most of the super soft kind, and you don’t want to start an argument, but the classical and hyms music just doesn’t “get you” ya know what I mean, or like usually isn’t your type?Thanks for the post!!As inspirational as usual.

    • Elisabeth Great question! I think the best place to turn for answers is the Bible. The Bible does not tell us exactly what we can and can’t listen to. It gives us principles that we should follow and shows us (as far as lyrics go) what honors God and what does not. Your disagreement with your parents sounds like a difference in personal conviction. The Bible has plenty to say about young people interacting with their parents. Here are a few of those verses:

      Exodus 20:12 Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.

      Ephesians 6:1-3 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.”

      Proverbs 23:22 Listen to your father who gave you life, and do not despise your mother when she is old.

      You have to make sure that you are obeying God’s Word first and foremost. You have to make sure that you (as a young person living in your parents home) are honoring your parents and their difference of conviction and opinion. If this issue is a really big deal to you, I would recommend humbly talking to them and explaining your thoughts. If they say “no” you may have to give that music up for now in order to honor the parents God has placed over you. Make sense?

      • Elisabeth

        Yes, it certainly does make sense!Thank very very much!!If I talk to them and they still say no, I guess I’ll just have too.Proverbs 31 Women would if she were ask to I know.

  • Jazzy

    Hey, there, Bethany! You don’t know how much your blog has really ministered to me and the rest of the girls in my family! You’ve challenged, encouraged, and helped us seek the Lord in our lives and choices! Thank you so much, we appreciate everything that you write about! =) God’s definitely using you girls! <3

    -Jasmine

    • @disqus_nZamI6kFuU:disqus That is so encouraging to hear 🙂 Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for letting us know how GirlDefined has been a blessing to you <3

  • Cassie Kellogg

    Deciding to go against the advice of those around you doesn’t make you foolish, it makes you independent. You can appreciate the wisdom of your parents and still decide that you don’t agree and decide to pursue your own path. It’s just being an adult who makes mature independent choices, even if their family doesn’t agree or support those choices.

    • Hey Cassie Kellogg, Thanks for jumping in and sharing your thoughts. I agree that you do not have to obey every piece of advice that your parents, or others, give to you. The goal of this blog post was to challenge girls to start listening to advice and heeding the wisdom of those around them. Way too often we as Christian girls close our ears to wisdom and follow after our feelings instead. The Bible has SO much to say about listening to the counsel of others. Here are a few of those verses:

      Proverbs 11:14 “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.”

      Proverbs 15:22 “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.”

      Proverbs 19:20 “Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future.”


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