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God Made You Beautiful, Despite How Ugly You Feel

By: Kristen Clark

Her hair was long and beautiful. It was thick and luscious. As she highlighted my hair in the salon, I couldn’t help but compliment her hair.

“I just love your hair!” I said enthusiastically. I expected her to accept my compliment with satisfaction, but she didn’t.

“Oh…thanks!” she said laughing out loud. “It’s actually not my hair…well, at least not most of it.”

I raised my eyebrows in surprise.

“Yeah, it’s actually mostly hair extensions. My real hair is short and thin.” She said with a wink.

She went on to explain how her salon offered high-quality fusion hair extension service.

They would fuse real pieces of hair onto the ends of the clients hair to give them a natural looking set of long locks.

“And it only costs around $1,000,” she said matter of factly. “And you only have to re-fuse every few months.”

By the time I left that salon I learned that I could sign up for fusion extension, eyelash extensions, a tanning membership, bi-weekly pedi/mani package, and a weekly cellulite massage treatment.

For a couple thousand dollars a month, I too could be beautiful.

That little conversation reminded me of how crazy the beauty industry is in this modern age. As women, we’re offered every product and treatment to fix all of our “imperfections.” We’re offered solutions to get our dream body and finally achieve “lasting beauty.”

Sadly though, despite our billion dollar beauty industry, women and girls are feeling less beautiful than ever before. With all of the beauty products available to us today, we should be the happiest and most satisfied females in the history of the world.

But we’re not.

In fact, if you asked any female today if she loved everything about her physical appearance, she would probably say no.

If you stood in front of a mirror right now, what would focus on? Would you see all of your flaws? Would you zero in on all of your imperfections?

Sadly, as modern women, most of us are extremely insecure and discontent with our physical bodies because we’ve been lured into a sneaky lie. We’ve bought into the lie that physical beauty comes in a one-size-fits-all mold.

We see the female movie stars, we see the magazines, we see the billboards. We look at the women that society upholds as “beautiful” and then try to squeeze our bodies into their shape. And if we don’t measure up in certain areas (not tall enough, not short enough, not skinny enough, not tan enough, not toned enough), we become discontent.

And that discontentment will drive some of us to do whatever it takes to fix the “problem.” But even if our beauty “problem” gets fixed, we will still find ourselves discontent about something else. The carrot of perfection is always just out of reach.

Thankfully, God had something much better in mind when He created our physical bodies.

The one-size-fits-all mold is the last thing God desired when He created women. 

Our God is a creative God and had a plan when he chose to make each woman look different. Instead of making every woman the same, he handcrafted each of us to look beautifully different.

Psalm 139:13-14 reminds us that God handcrafted each of us in our mother’s womb to look just the way we do, and designed us to be fearfully and wonderfully made in His image.

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

God chose to create you to be beautiful in your own unique way.

Some of us have been handcrafted with brown hair, blonde hair, red hair, blue eyes, brown eyes, long legs, short legs, large frames, small frames, etc. Each of us have been handcrafted by our Creator to the look just the way we do, and it’s a beautiful array of diversity.

God didn’t handcraft us to look uniquely different, only for us to decide that we should all look the same.

Think of it this way.

Flowers are beautiful and unique each in their own way. We can appreciate and enjoy the sunflower for its unique beauty and at the same time appreciate the rose for its unique beauty. They look nothing alike, but they’re both beautiful.

Flowers come in all shapes, sizes, and colors, but they’re each beautiful in their own distinct way. Our world wouldn’t be as colorful if every flower was the same. Now imagine if all the flowers decided they should look like the sunflower…that the sunflower was the best-looking flower out there. How boring would that be?? Each flower was creatively handcrafted by God to display its own unique beauty.

We, as women, are the exact same.

Our differences create a beautiful bouquet of colors that would not be there if we all looked the same.

Instead of trying to fit a one-size-fits-all mold for beauty, we need to take a step back and remember this flower example. You are a beautiful woman created by God and your physical appearance is a reflection of God’s creativity.

Instead of buying into the endless lies of “sameness,” let’s instead thank our Creator for loving us enough to give us beautiful and individual looks. Let’s thank our Creator for giving us unique bodies that each reflect a beautiful part of His creation.

Your physical appearance is beautiful just the way God created you, and He says you are fearfully and wonderfully made.

Do you believe Him? Next time you look in the mirror, choose to thank God for handcrafting you to look the just the way you do. Beautiful. Unique. Distinct. All for God’s glory. 

Share your thoughts with me below. 

  • In what ways have you struggled with embracing your outward appearance?
  • Leave me a comment below and let me know one unique thing about your physical appearance that you’re grateful to God for.

For an in-depth study on God’s amazing design for beauty, check out our book, Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and identity.

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26 Responses to God Made You Beautiful, Despite How Ugly You Feel

  1. Girlady Bouvier says:

    I’ve had a hard time dealing my body insecurities these past few weeks, so that’s exactly what I needed to read today!

  2. Quiggs says:

    I needed to read this today, so thank you. I’ve struggled with weight my entire life. In all honesty, I’ve never felt beautiful. Not once. To make matters worse, I just finished chemo. I gained even more weight from the steroids they give you with chemo. My hair is coming in gray. I feel like a fat, old grandma. I’m so glad God loves me as I am because I certainly don’t see anything beautiful about me right now.

    I do love one thing about my appearance and that is my eyes. I have my Momma’s eyes. She passed away in 2011. Every time I look in the mirror, I have a little piece of her staring back at me. I thank God everyday for that small blessing.

  3. Heather says:

    I came to grips long ago in high school that I was not beautiful – not ugly – but certainly not in the beautiful category. (My brother’s words that disappointed me but I have held on to them all my life.) I cannot see beauty in my appearance and I am ok with that. My husband truly sees beauty when he looks at me and I find comfort in that. God sees me as beautiful since I am His creation. I rest in that. I was not put here to impress others with my looks or get compliments. I am put here to glorify God. I see a miracle when I look in the mirror knowing God has saved me from reckless behavior before I knew Jesus. And that is enough for me.

    • Cathy says:

      heaths, (can i call you heaths? just say the word!)
      i am.. floored to the max. that statement alone shows the depth of your inner beauty. am i tearing up? H-CK YEAH I AM. Whoo, sorry. Got a little ahead of myself there. I haven’t felt emotions since my hubby (great guy. met back in 2011) took the kids. yeah.

  4. Shanae B says:

    Great post! It’s so true that people are by the culture made to feel like the hair, eyes, skin and body type God created them with has to be a certain way to be considered beautiful. Or that they should feel oppressed and degraded by some of their outward things. I’ve always liked my little ‘Cinderella’ like feet! Thanks for sharing this!

  5. Kaytlynn Kingsriter says:

    Something that I consistently struggle with about my outward appearance is my nose. I don’t particularly like my nose, it really makes me not like side profile. If I ever see a picture of myself and it’s my side profile it get’s deleted or I ask my mom not to post it on social media. This happened just over labor day weekend, we were with my family hanging out outside and playing games, photos were being taken of all of us having a good time. Later that day I saw my mom getting ready to post some pictures of our fun time with family, when I saw it. There was a picture of my sitting in a chair and my sister and grandma were in the picture as well. The first thing that I noticed is that it was a side profile of myself, right away I asked my mom not to post it and she said ok. I feel like I am always trying to convince myself that it’s not that bad in hopes that one day I will be ok with it. As I am typing this out it sounds so silly to be complaining about a nose, but it is something I struggle with and the first thing I start to pick apart about myself. The thing that makes me sad though, is that I am a Youth Leader and the oldest sibling in my family, and I have two younger sister, and I would never want any of the girls that I mentor or my younger sisters to ever pick themselves apart in anyway. One time I caught my youngest sister talking poorly about herself and I wanted to cry, she is 13. Then it made me think, how many times have I talked negatively about myself in front of my youngest sister, no matter what it was about. How many times have I mentioned that I want to be skinnier, or I don’t like my nose, or that I wish my hair was longer, that my thighs were smaller, etc. I would never want her or anyone else to ever think that they aren’t perfect just the way that they are. So why would I say that to myself. We are our worst critics, nobody has ever said anything poorly to me about my physical appearance, and I would never say anything to anyone else about their physical appearance. So again where did these ideas come from that I am not good enough, or that I am not pretty enough. The enemy, satan. He puts these lies into our heads. I love in this article how it is mentioned that if God wanted all of us to look the same, he would have created us to look and be the same. It’s something that get’s forgotten so easily, we were each made uniquely, and beautiful in our own ways. How special is it that He created each and every one of us to look different. How boring would be if we all looked the same. I suppose that if God created everyone to look the same we would all be trying to look different and to stand out from one another. Basically what I am trying to say is that, I am 22 years old and I am still struggling in this area of life as are many women, but I am going to work so much harder to overcome the temptation to be negative about myself and to start thinking more positively about myself. Thank you Kristen and Bethany for this encouraging word today! I am going to go out and try to be a better example to those around my, especially my younger sisters.

    • Ruth says:

      I can relate so well to this. I just turned 27 ahhhh so old and still struggle. I actually gave a talk about this very thing in college and will have to see if I still have my notes! GirlDefined is one of the best “young women/girl focused” godly blogs out there that doesn’t constantly talk about being a mommy or a wife. We are our worst critics and I don’t know how many times older women in my life have told me that I’m beautiful or that my thighs aren’t huge and I just can’t seem to believe that. I really need to refocus and remind myself of that truth, “God made us uniquely wonderful.”

    • Suzie says:

      Wow! I have a younger sister also so thank you for this.

    • sarahwiggins says:

      kaytlynnkingsriter 5++

  6. Rachel Taylor says:

    I’m really thankful that God gave me long, thick, brown hair. Even though it takes forever to shampoo and brush, it’s worth the effort. I thought I wanted to be taller but I don’t to be. I’m thankful for the face and body that God gave me. How creative He is to give us such unique bodies to love just as they are.

  7. Maddy K says:

    Great article Kristen! I loved how you compared each woman’s beauty as a different type of flower! I have really struggled with my weight. It embarrasses and shames me. Even though I’m not overweight, it still bothers me that I, for example, don’t have super small thighs, or I don’t have a flat tummy. I know these are lies, but it is very hard to combat them with truth. Something I’m thankful for is my hair and my eyes. 🙂

    • Claire Bear says:

      Ugh Maddy I so relate to this. it feels like all of my friends are skinny and beautiful and I’m, well, not. I hate my thighs and my stomach and myself in general. I also was gossiped about for it and told i was just, “Plus-sized”. I think that labeling people is not ok. I work out every day, I eat mostly healthy, but no matter how hard I try, I’m never enough.

      • Ruth says:

        Claire, been there so been there. It sucks, I won’t lie but we all have to learn to be happy with the way God created us. This doesn’t mean “letting ourselves go” to the point of being overweight but overall being healthy and treating our bodies right. I too try to eat healthy and go to the gym three times a week. I’m doing cross-fit for the first time tonight…we’ll see how that goes. But I also really enjoy pizza and cake.

        I know I will never look like those skinny girls and I have to catch myself on a daily basis not to compare my weight or looks to others. My body shape and chemistry are so different — not weird just different. I have to live with the fact that I will never be 130 lbs and have super skinny legs. Not in my DNA. Weight is one of those things that are immediately apparent and unfortunately sets us apart and defines us. I agree 100% with you. Labeling people is NOT ok. My advice: continue to eat healthy, workout and listen to your body. If it needs fuel, eat some nuts or a piece of cheese. I struggle with becoming borderline obsessed with my weight but I try to refocus on what really matters — my relationships with true friends, family and God 😀 You will always be enough to all of them.

        • Claire Bear says:

          Girl you made my day! Sometimes it feels like there is no one else out there like me. It’s nice to know that im not alone.

          <3 Claire

          • Ruth says:

            I’m glad! I know how disheartening it can be thinking you are all alone in what you’re feeling. It is quite freeing when you realize there are others with the same struggles. Together we can become better children for God. I now understand better about how important community is — it really does help!

  8. Gabriella Palazzo says:

    Thank you so much for posting this!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  9. Esther Roos says:

    I really feel bad about my appearance sometimes, seeing other people who are struggling and then they look at me. . . I’m like a tall stick. I do ballet, but I’m just naturally skinny, and I’m 5’9″. Okay, it’s hard to tell the tone of this comment probably. I’m not gloating, I just feel embarrassed. But naturally skinny (well, slim) with a high metabolism is not good sometimes. For example, I have a huge sugar addiction. I seriously ate (all bulk packages) Sour Patch Kids, two packs of Twizzlers, Swedish fish, Starburst, and half a bag of mnms in NOT VERY LONG!! It was like two weeks. I felt so bad (not my stomach, just ashamed). I have a really hard time with eating healthy. Most of my insecurities are with my feet. I wish I had a higher arch so that when I’m en pointe, it doesn’t look bad. Well, I don’t have flat feet, but I don’t have the highest arch in the world. Also, I used to be like, well, they look better than me because I’m not as curvy and I never will be. The only other thing I’m really insecure about sometimes is my nose. . . It doesn’t have a flat bridge, and I thought I did for a long time. . . Something I’m thankful for is my long limbs and my hair and my eyes.

    • Lia says:

      I can really relate with what you said about your feet!! I have terrible flat arches, and they never look as good en pointe as other girls in my class 🙁 Oh well haha
      As for the sugar addiction, this is something I am trying to work on too. Ask God for the gift of self-control! Cry out to Him and tell Him you are struggling in this area, and He will help you!
      I know an absolutely beautiful woman who eats a very healthy, balanced diet, and I was shocked when she told me that she used to struggle with binge-eating sugary foods, especially chocolate – which she said she used to eat by the block! She told me that one day she got down on her knees and begged Him to help her change and become less greedy. Every time she felt like over-snacking, she cried out to Him for help again, and now she doesn’t have those temptations! She also said that God sent her dates and nuts to replace the junk foods with, and now she is content! Anything is possible with God!

  10. Suzie says:

    I haven’t totally embraced God’s design in my facial features. I break out, I have sensitive skin and I think I look better in makeup when other people say that I am beautiful just the way I am and I don’t need to cover up all my “imperfections” with a mask. I am trying to trust God with my beauty and know that He created me the way I am for a reason. Thank you for the flower example. That was so great! This blog helped so much Kristen!! Thank you! And I might read this blog to my Bible Study group because we will be talking about beauty.

  11. Louise Therese says:

    I am content with the features God has given me, even though they are definitely not perfect or stereo-typically beautiful.
    However, I really struggle with disliking myself because of my acne and scarring 🙁 I feel disgusting and unlovable quite a lot.

    • Alice says:

      Louise Therese, I can relate to you! <3 But you can help it many different ways and despite all of your acnees you are still beautiful. You are not disgusting or unloveable just because of this! Remember that God made you and beauty is much more than your appearance!
      When i am struggling with self-love because of acnees i usually think of the things i struggled with before i had acnees and i realized that i had problems with myself even without my acnees! Isn't that funny? So you will always find something that you don't really like about yourself but instead: focus on the things you love about yourself! Let God love you by allowing him to compliment on you – especially on your heart. Because he loves your heart. Truly. 🙂

    • Esther Roos says:

      You know, I used to be like, “Oh my goodness, all my friends are gonna be like, ‘eww. . . She has a pimple on her nose!’ and all the boys would be like, “gross! cant be friends with her!” But then I realize, when I look at people who have acne, I disregard it. Other people do that too. If they are real friends, they disregard it!

  12. C says:

    I don’t understand. We are supposed to be content with our appearance, yet isn’t highlighting our hair a way of altering our God-given appearance? Why would we alter the color of our hair if we are supposed to be content with what God gave us. We can’t be shocked or upset by someone having extensions or altering the appearance of their hair, if we are sitting in the chair as well, also altering our hair.

    • Ruth says:

      This is just my opinion based on what I know Scripture says about our bodies. I think we should consider the “why” behind what we do with our hair, face etc. Highlighting hair can be vain if doing it to show off or look sexy for some guy you like. If you’re doing it just because you like the color…I don’t see why not. I highlighted my hair red freshman year because I loved the color on me. It wasn’t to seek more attention — I wanted something different, something cool. I now have extensions/braids cause it’s easier to keep my hair looking nice and helps it grow.

      It can become sticky situation, I realize, with the way the world’s ideology is going but the crux of the matter is why are we changing things? Is it permanent? Will it help me honor God? All solid questions to ask ourselves and really seek God to see if it’s causing us to become “whatever makes me feel good” vs “what will honor Him.” Hope I didn’t confuse you more.


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