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Good Hospitality Doesn’t Require a Big Home 

By: Bethany Beal

After a breathtaking two weeks in the beautiful Rocky Mountains, my new husband and I were headed home. 

Home no longer looked like it had for 30 years of my life. Home was now different. With someone different. Home was now a very small garage studio apartment across town from the rest of my family.

I’ll never forget the moment Dav and I pulled into our new driveway. We walked up the stairs and unlocked the doors for the very first time as husband and wife. The place was small, but it was ours. 

We were home.

Living in a small space has been a fun and unique challenge for Dav and I. We’ve been basically forced to downsize and reevaluate everything we own. 

Instead of just piling things in cabinets and drawers (which we don’t have very many of), we’ve only kept what we really needed and wanted. 

One of the biggest questions I’ve been getting from you gals on Instagram is this; “Is it hard to have people over in such a small space?” 

That’s a great question. I think it’s fair to wonder how I handle having people over in my tiny studio apartment.

I’d probably wonder the same thing if I were you. 

To be totally honest, Dav and I have never ever viewed our small space as a limitation to having people over. 

I personally believe that people are much more interested in feeling welcomed, loved, appreciated, and accepted than being a big house. 

Hospitality isn’t about having a big house. Hospitality is about loving others and giving them a space to feel welcomed in. 

Don’t buy into the lie that you need “more” in order to be hospitable. 

You can be hospitable in whatever space you have. Whether that’s a small apartment, a big house, a shared space, or even a table at a coffee shop, you can make someone feel loved and welcomed. 

I challenge you to ask yourself these 3 questions and figure out a way that you can put them into practice. 

  1. How can I make someone feel loved and welcomed?
  2. How can I use the space I have to make someone feel accepted? 
  3. What needs to change about my perspective in order to love others well? 

If you’re willing to answer those questions honestly, you’ll quickly realize that you can be hospitable in whatever space you have. 

Whether that’s welcoming your younger sister into your room for some girl chat, or inviting a girl friend to coffee and buying her drink, or simply changing your mindset from being “self-centered” to being “others-centered.” 

Each and every one of us can grow in this area and become even more hospitable. 

I want to hear from you. 

How can you display hospitality this week? 

How can you make someone feel loved and accepted? 

Dav and Bethy

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6 Responses to Good Hospitality Doesn’t Require a Big Home 

  1. Shanae B says:

    Great article, and great questions! It’s so easy to fall into the my place is too small, I’m too busy, or my place isn’t clean/nice enough for guest mentality/excuse. I love how you said that it’s primarily making people feel welcomed! Thanks for sharing!

  2. Lilly Shyree says:

    Love this!! I’m inspired to be more hospitable! Thanks for posting, Bethany!

  3. Learning Humble Hospitality says:

    There’s an interesting book about Amish parenting called “More Than Happy” I read a year or so ago. It’s actually a great resource, because it delves into the culture and behaviors Amish communities instill into their children. One thing the author noted (which I’ve never forgotten) was this: Amish mothers will welcome you into their home regardless of the state of the house (spotless or disheveled) – and, the author realized, they NEVER apologize for its condition. In other words, unlike the average american woman, they wouldn’t say “come on in, but please excuse the mess” or “oh, you caught me at a busy time, sorry” or making excuses for their house like “the kids are in the middle of a project, you’ll have to excuse them.” The author explains that this is primarily due to the overarching culture of humility in Amish communities; their concern is not to impress, but to be welcoming and hospitable to their guests. I’ve tried to hand on to that concept, and though my tendency is to feel humiliated when an unexpected guest comes into my unkempt home, I’m working on keeping humility and hospitality at the forefront of my mind. Thanks for the beautiful post.

  4. Jacqueline Bonnell says:

    These people don’t listen to the devils and Satan like we do today. That is why are such good neighbors. They do not commit the sin of being unfriendly.

  5. Jacqueline Bonnell says:

    Oops. I meant to say that is why they are such good neighbors.

  6. Ruth Harding says:

    This is so true! When we got married and moved to a rental house with a very small dining room (part of the kitchen really), I was embarrassed to have people over for dinner at our tiny, rickety table. I hated the idea of having dirty dishes in full view just a metre or two behind us. So I rigged up some sheer curtains to separate the areas, and installed a hanging globe light from Ikea over the dinner table, to create some ambience. Now it feels cosy!


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