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Guy Answers Questions on Purity, Marriage, Makeup and More

By: Bethany Beal

It seems like every girl has questions in the back of her mind that she just wishes she could ask a godly guy. Questions that would give her as close to a “guy’s perspective on life” as she could get.

We are so glad to inform you that this post is exactly that!

We had the opportunity to have three young ladies brainstorm and come up with a few questions that they would ask a guy, if given the opportunity. Their questions are in bold below.

We took those questions and sent them on over to a godly guy and had him answer the questions from his perspective.

We hope his answers will give you a little bit of insight into what a godly guy might think about these topics.

Question 1

“How ready do you expect your wife to be before you get married? Practically I feel ready but how spiritually ready do you expect me to be?”

Kevin DeYoung, a favorite author of mine, once wrote something to this effect: “You will very likely never feel ready for anything. But you’ll never go anywhere if you don’t take that first step of uncertainty.” What I’m looking for is a girl who is simply spending consistent time in God’s word and growing in love and knowledge of God. I know that during our relationship we’ll both be doing a LOT of growing, but I’m NOT expecting her to be a saint before we’re married (or even after!).

Question 2

“What are you expecting physically? What if I feel overweight? Do you expect me to workout and be thin?”

Taking care of yourself physically translates over into so many other areas of life. Winston Churchill’s dad once told him “without the help of the body, the mind cannot go as far as it should.” So exercising physically does, I believe, show responsibility.

The American “ideal body” seen on newsstands is a fictitious image which no girl can truly measure up to. Sometimes it’s easy to forget that, but it’s something both guys and girls need to keep in mind. One of the most important verses in the Bible, especially in our day and age of airbrushed “beauties” and fake bodies, is Proverbs 31:30. “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

Question 3

“What are your thoughts on hair dye and makeup? Are you okay with my trying out different styles and fashions?”

Absolutely! I personally love creativity and have no problem with a girl changing up some things. Of course I have my preferences (e.g. hair color – I’m not big on green or pink hair) but if we’re in a relationship that’s just something we’ll have to talk through. Oh, and I have nothing against makeup – If you want to wear it, by all means apply that powder and put on your lipstick!

Question 4

“What are deal breakers for you? Do we have to agree completely?”

To be honest, there’s one thing first and foremost in my mind when I’m wondering about a certain girl: “does she love the Lord with all her heart, soul, mind and strength?” That’s it. Because that’s 100% the most important thing.

Wholeheartedly I believe that no two people will ever agree completely in life. We all have our little quirks and preferences which make us one-of-a-kind. I do believe that we must be able to agree to disagree on some issues. There will be other issues which will arise that we will probably want to work out an agreement about, and then there are some issues which we will agree about right off. But no, we certainly don’t have to agree completely.

Question 5

“Do you think purity rings are a turn off to guys because it looks like your taken?”

I’ve never been turned off by a purity ring. If I’m interested in a relationship with a girl (don’t tell anyone – this is a guy’s secret) I’ll get my sister or a friend to scope out the scene and find out if there’s already something going on between this girl and a guy. Go ahead and wear the ring – a guy who’s really interested will take the time and initiative to find out if you’re available.

There you go. A godly guy’s answer to some of your most pressing questions. What did you think of his answers? If you could ask a godly guy a few questions, what would you ask him?


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15 Responses to Guy Answers Questions on Purity, Marriage, Makeup and More

  1. Loved this! Lol, “Not a fan of green and pink hair.” 😀 😀

    I always love hearing from Godly guys. I love asking these questions and similar ones to my dad and brothers and hearing what they think. It helps me remember what they don’t expect of me (to look like an airbrushed model) but also to invest in disciplines like daily Bible reading and exercise. I’ve found things like waking up early and exercising to be ways that I fight indulgence in my body, which translates into being more equipped to fight indulgence in my mind.

    Thanks for this article! 🙂

    P.S. I have been on your mailing list for a long time, but I don’t think I downloaded your devotional so I cannot seem to access it. Do you know how I can get it? Thanks!

    • Abbie says:

      Hi Anastasis! If you click on the “Shop” section on this website, you can find the devotional there and get it for free. 🙂 I went through it and I loved it!

      I love your blog by the way and I receive the devotionals daily. Keep up the good work! 😀

  2. Girlady Bouvier says:

    I like how this guy answered the questions with honesty, reasoning and some light hearted humor. You can tell he’s got his priorities sorted out but he’s not entitled to anything. We already hold so many expectations on ourselves, it’s refreshing to know there are men out there who think on relationships as a way to grow spirtually and not just for physical/emotional fullfilment.

  3. Shanae Butterworth says:

    Always nice to hear a guy’s perspective on these topics! Thanks for sharing!

  4. KatelynS says:

    This was very beneficial for me. Thank you very much for conducting this interview Bethany!

  5. Britt says:

    Awesome. God was right about guys.

  6. Esther Sentosa says:

    YAY!! I LOVE this post!! I always end up laughing after looking at a guy’s point of view! Thanks so much!!

  7. Ana Castro Yanez says:

    You guys should do a video about this!

  8. Emma Grace says:

    This was so good! Thank you 🙂

  9. Rainbow_sprinkles7 says:

    The sad thing about reading this is that the way it is written makes it seem like the girls HAVE to have the guy’s approval of how they can dress/express themselves. Girls should not have to ask their husband what he likes, and instead dress how they want and wear what makes them feel beautiful and confident. I’m all for asking guys opinions on things, but whether they like dyed hair or not is ridiculous. Be yourself, girls, and a guy will like you for who you already are, not who you are with him.

    • Christine says:

      That all boils down to a submissive issue… Are you willing to do ALL in pleasing your husband whom God has put over you. Or do you want to live your own life do thing your own way? Proverbs 31:11: The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. Proverbs 31:12: She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Isn’t it amazing when a husband can safely trust in his wife because he knows that she will do him good all the days of her life (and that counts for before marriage as well). Not all men will tell their wife what to wear, but I believe it is important to be willing. There also will come a time where he doesn’t need to tell her anymore because he trusts in her and she knows and wants to please him, then it come naturally.

      • Rainbow_sprinkles7 says:

        Wow. That whole comment is so depressing. You are cherry-picking a verse that says women should be submissive to mean what you want it to. Maybe in some families the husband has the last say in financial decisions or other important things, but when a woman can’t even wear what she wants or dye her hair without her husband’s approval, that is not being submissive, but not having a sense of self. And that is just sad.
        If a husband can’t “trust” his wife to pick out clothes or dye her hair, there is a bigger problem there. Both spouses should have an identity outside of their marriage. It’s not about whether you trust someone, it’s whether you are so controlling that they lose themselves.
        It is not “living my own way” if I am my own person, and it’s sad that you think that. Marriage is a partnership.
        If a person doesn’t think tattoos or a style of clothes is attractive, then they won’t date that person. It’s pretty simple.

  10. setapartforchrist says:

    I have always wondered about the purity ring question

    • Christine says:

      how about wearing it on another finger, or on a chain just something to remind you that it is there and what it stands for…? It’s only a symbol of your commitment it is more important that you stay pure than that you’re wearing it.

      Does this give you any ideas?

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