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Guy Answers Questions on Purity Rings, Weight, Makeup and More

By: Bethany Beal

It seems like every girl has questions in the back of her mind that she just wishes she could ask a godly guy. Questions that would give her as close to a “guy’s perspective on life” as she could get.

We are so glad to inform you that this post is exactly that!  

We had the opportunity to have three young ladies brainstorm and come up with a few questions that they would ask a guy, if given the opportunity. Their questions are in bold below.

We took those questions and sent them on over to our guy blogger, Beecher, and had him answer the questions from his perspective.

We hope his answers will give you a little bit of insight into what a godly guy might think about these topics.

Let’s go!

Question 1

“How ready do you expect your wife to be before you get married? Practically I feel ready but how spiritually ready do you expect me to be?”

Kevin DeYoung, a favorite author of mine, once wrote something to this effect: “You will very likely never feel ready for anything. But you’ll never go anywhere if you don’t take that first step of uncertainty.” What I’m looking for is a girl who is simply spending consistent time in God’s word and growing in love and knowledge of God. I know that during our relationship we’ll both be doing a LOT of growing, but I’m NOT expecting her to be a saint before we’re married (or even after!).

Question 2 

“What are you expecting physically? What if I feel overweight? Do you expect me to workout and be thin?”   

Taking care of yourself physically translates over into so many other areas of life. Winston Churchill’s dad once told him “without the help of the body, the mind cannot go as far as it should.” So exercising physically does, I believe, show responsibility. 

The American “ideal body” seen on newsstands is a fictitious image which no girl can truly measure up to. Sometimes it’s easy to forget that, but it’s something both guys and girls need to keep in mind. One of the most important verses in the Bible, especially in our day and age of airbrushed “beauties” and fake bodies, is Proverbs 31:30. “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”

Question 3 

“What are your thoughts on hair dye and makeup? Are you okay with my trying out different styles and fashions?”

Absolutely! I personally love creativity and have no problem with a girl changing up some things. Of course I have my preferences (e.g. hair color – I’m not big on green or pink hair) but if we’re in a relationship that’s just something we’ll have to talk through. Oh, and I have nothing against makeup – If you want to wear it, by all means apply that powder and put on your lipstick!

Question 4 

“What are deal breakers for you? Do we have to agree completely?” 

To be honest, there’s one thing first and foremost in my mind when I’m wondering about a certain girl: “does she love the Lord with all her heart, soul, mind and strength?” That’s it. Because that’s 100% the most important thing. 

Wholeheartedly I believe that no two people will ever agree completely in life. We all have our little quirks and preferences which make us one-of-a-kind. I do believe that we must be able to agree to disagree on some issues. There will be other issues which will arise that we will probably want to work out an agreement about, and then there are some issues which we will agree about right off. But no, we certainly don’t have to agree completely. 

Question 5

“Do you think purity rings are a turn off to guys because it looks like your taken?” 

I’ve never been turned off by a purity ring. If I’m interested in a relationship with a girl (don’t tell anyone – this is a guy’s secret) I’ll get my sister or a friend to scope out the scene and find out if there’s already something going on between this girl and a guy. Go ahead and wear the ring – a guy who’s really interested will take the time and initiative to find out if you’re available. 

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Guy Answers Questions on Purity Rings, Weight, Makeup and More

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15 Responses to Guy Answers Questions on Purity Rings, Weight, Makeup and More

  1. Brooklyn Mikinzie says:

    I love this!!! It answered a lot of questions for me. Thank you!

  2. Anna Jones says:

    Great article!! It always helps to actually know what he’s thinking. 🙂

  3. Jacey Faith says:

    Those were good questions and its nice that he shared what he truly thinks. Thanks for taking the time to do that.

  4. Rysten Holt says:

    Wow am SO blown away, Great Job!!!! This helps me a lot.

  5. Anne says:

    Love! I especially liked what he said about makeup. I’d love to see more post like this!

  6. Mickey says:

    I LOVE the purity ring discussion! I personally have one and it’s good to know what guys think about that kind of thing.

  7. waitingforboaz says:

    I personally like how he said don’t tell anyone the guys secret about having a sister to scope out the situation. because I know sooo many girls that do the same thing!!

  8. Grace says:

    Like hearing the guys’ perspective. I’ve heard of other men having their sisters do the same thing for them. Side note here, but whenever my brothers and I were at a new church or a church function the girls would always come up to me and start asking questions and just seemed really interested in me. But I could tell 2 minutes into the conversation that they were only interested in my brothers. Such an annoyance but whatever. 😉

  9. Awesome post! I really enjoyed reading the answers and found them very insightful & informative. I would definitely love to see more posts like this in the future!! I love reading and learning from every post of y’all’s so keep them coming and keep up the good work! 🙂 God Bless!

  10. Kyersta says:

    I was feeling a little hopeless about wearing my purity ring to school since I’m a senior in a new school but after seeing the last question I’ve gained my confidence back! Thank you so much for posting!

  11. Me112233 says:

    I read an interesting study a few years ago. Two studies, actually. The first was about women and weight. It found that roughly 3% of women in their 20’s are materially overweight solely because of their individual genetics (as opposed to diet and lifestyle issues). The other study found that roughly 3% of men PREFER significantly overweight women as far as looks go (believe it or not, 0% preferred the extra-skinny women). As such, looks like God wired up the right proportion of men to like big girls; problem is, a lot of women are obese who shouldn’t be. She who has ears, let her hear.

  12. Kaylee O'Brien says:

    Question 5 made me very happy because that is one of the reasons I wear a purity ring. I wear it on my left ring finger and it looks a little like a wedding band. It is actually a benefit, because a guy will have to get to know me a little if he is interested, before expressing his interest, which is something I am looking for.

  13. kat says:

    Wow!! This was so helpful. I liked the one about weight. but i also feel that you shouldnt be judged by your wieght. I also liked the one about the purity rings. what do you feel is a reasonable amount of make up for a teen? I have been stuggling with this and it would mean SOO much to me if you could answer that for me. thanks!

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