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From a Guy: Why Being Different is Good

By: Beecher Proch (Guest)

*Disclaimer: To those of you who hate and fear bugs, please brave your fear and continue reading.

Lucy the ladybug has a pretty good life. Lots to eat, wings she can use to fly, and a colorful outfit to boot.

But one day Lucy sees Doris the doodlebug. Doris’s whole life is a party – lots of friends, great food, surrounded by guy doodlebugs, and wearing the newest style. Doris is living the dream.

Lucy envies Doris. Pretty soon she starts using the words Doris uses, crawling like Doris, and eating the same things as Doris. But no matter how hard Lucy tries, she still sticks out like a sore thumb. Why?

Because Lucy isn’t embracing the design God gave her! She’s trying to be something God never intended her to be.

Our story above is one you’ll probably laugh about as a silly little tale.

But it’s really an illustration of the problem many Christians face today: trying to blend in with the world.

It’s hard not to do everything that the world does; carry ourselves like the world, dress like the world, flaunt our bodies like the world. Why wouldn’t we do that? It helps get us in with the “cool crowd” and attract guys’ (and girls’) attention right?

But you and I weren’t called to be like the world.

We were called to change the world, not to let the world negatively influence us. Check out this verse from Galatians 5:19, 21.

“Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry … I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such thing will not inherit the kingdom of God …”

Blending in will never make you different. You were created by God for a purpose (Psalm 57:2) and that purpose was not to simply look and act like the crowds. Your purpose is to give God glory through your life.

So ask yourself: Is blending in with the world giving God glory?

For example, tonight, when millions of people celebrate Halloween, are you going to blend in or are you going to stand out (whether that means wearing a different costume than the one you had chosen or choosing to attend a “Fall party” instead of trick-or-treating or giving out tracts to the kids who come to your door)?

Let me give it to you from my perspective as a Christian guy.

A girl who doesn’t flaunt her body like the world stands out. In a good way. I know a lot of girls who are super fashionable, yet modest, and people constantly do double takes (being “different” really isn’t a bad thing. In fact, people may even ask you why you act and/or dress differently than others which then gives you the opportunity to share the Gospel!).

I’m going to make a bold statement: modesty is captivating.

When I see a girl who knows she’s been given her body as a gift and isn’t try to show as much skin as she can, I’m impressed. That kind of girl knows who she is in Christ, and isn’t trying to draw superfluous attention by wearing a minimal amount of clothing.

The world will never love you if you live for Jesus (John 15:19). But by living for him and embracing who HE meant for you to be, you are a testimony to others. And you will inspire others to live for Jesus as well.

Don’t attempt to be a doodlebug when you were designed to be a ladybug!

You were created to be different.

I just have two questions for you.

  1. Are you trying to be like the world when you’re called to be like Jesus?
  2. What’s one thing that might be drawing your love away from Jesus, and are you willing to give it up?

Photo Credit: | Lucija Tatarević

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15 Responses to From a Guy: Why Being Different is Good

  1. Abi Holloway says:

    Wow! This is really a great reminder! Thank you so much!! I am totally going to share this. 🙂

  2. Elizabeth says:

    This is so encouraging hearing this from a guy’s perspective! Thanks!

  3. A.A. says:

    I really love this story about the bugs. It’s cute, but it explains the point good. But anyways, what does it mean in Galatians 5:21 when it says if you do those things, you will not inherit the kingdom of God?

    • Blue buddy says:

      I believe when it says that you will not inherit the kingdom of God, it means, that you will not reap the benefits and rewards . But, another side to that is that there are going to be different parts of the new Jerusalem. Not all people will live in the inner city with Jesus. If you’re saved you’ll be in heaven but depending on the way you lived your life you might be I’m a different part of God’s kingdom. But, if you are saved NO MATTER HOW YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE, YOU WILL GO TO HEAVEN!!

      • Anne says:

        I disagree. Can you give me a place in the bible where it talks about how we’ll be in different places in heaven? (I’m just wondering, Maybe I missed it.) In regards to that last statement, you can’t just say a prayer to be saved, then go on living your life the way you were. No, you have to turn from your sinful ways and strive to live a life glorifying to God. We have to try to live in light of the gospel. It’s not that we’ll never sin (we’ll sin a lot!), but when we do, we need to repent and turn away from our sins. If you prayed a prayer (or something) once, maybe even attend church weekly, but if you don’t change your life and live out your faith, you won’t go to heaven. Does that make sense?

        • A.A. says:

          Yes it does make sense. I know without doubt that I’m saved and going to heaven. I was just curious about what that verse meant, and this seemed like a good place to ask.

          • Anne says:

            Yeah, I don’t have a good answer as far as what the verse means. And this is a good place to ask. I love GirlDefined! I hope my above comment doesn’t come across as rude. I’m not trying to be rude. 🙂

          • A Lee says:

            I think it means that if you do all those things you’re really not saved and you won’t go to Heaven.

  4. Briana Soto says:

    We give out tracks and gospel coins with a few pieces of candy every year and its awesome because we know that we are planting that seed.

  5. Abby says:

    I loved reading this from a guy’s point of view! Such a great reminder that following God’s command is higher than the world’s. 🙂

  6. Brooklyn Mikinzie says:

    This is an incredibly helpful article! Thanks so much!

  7. Kaylee O'Brien says:

    This is super encouraging to read as a christian girl. Not to just hear it from a guy, but to hear similar opinions on modesty as mine are still alive and well.

  8. Elaine says:

    I enjoyed reading this post! It is so true, accurate. We ARE called to be different–in this world but not of it!

  9. thehappygirl says:

    Super encouraging post!! I’m 21 and single and sometimes wonder if acting more “worldly” would get me some attention from guys. I know this thinking pattern is not right amd God has been helping to change that pattern. Being Godly will attract a good godly man and being worldly will attract a worldly man. Makes sense. I’ll just keep striving to be like Christ each day and trust God to bring along the right man at the right time. This post has been so helpful to me!

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