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Guy Thoughts: Come on Girl, Keep it Modest

By: Beecher Proch (Guest)

In today’s culture modesty is totally out of style. The phrase that I’d say best describes the current trend would be “less is more – show your skin.”

Skin is everywhere: billboards, magazines, social media – everyone everywhere seems to be attempting to show off as much skin as possible and draw as much attention to themselves as they can.

The American culture is constantly putting the *wrong* message into girls’ heads. “If you don’t flaunt what you’ve got, guys are going to pass you over and move on to the skin-revealing, midriff-baring, hottie.”

You probably already know this, but I’ll say it anyways: Guys are extremely visual.

I believe that men are 100% accountable for where they put their eyes, and what they do with what they see once it enters their mind. But I also know this: it sure is a blessing and encouragement when a woman makes the effort to dress modestly.

A woman who doesn’t reveal as much skin as she can shows love and consideration for the men around her striving to pursue godliness.

You might be asking right now, “Well, sure, your opinion is that women should dress modestly. But does the Bible talk about it?” Not surprisingly, the Bible has a good deal to say regarding modesty!

Here are a few verses that speak to the issue of modesty:

  • “Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control…” (I Timothy 1:9).
  • “So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God” (I Corinthians 10:31).
  • “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28).

Modesty is Biblical! 

It shows that a woman understands who she is in Christ and that she knows she’s valued by God. A woman’s body is beautiful and amazing. There’s no embarrassment in how different the shape of a woman’s body is from a man’s.

Modesty doesn’t hide the difference, it clearly acknowledges it with the correct attitude and focus on God’s creative differences in body shape. Immodesty focuses on the body with the wrong attitudes of lust, pride, and self-focus.

Think about this too: your body is for your husband’s eyes.

It shouldn’t be used as eye-candy for just anyone. Proverbs 11:22 says, “Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman without discretion.” Discretion is “the quality of behaving or speaking in such a way as to avoid causing offense or revealing private information.”

Wow! Did you catch that?

Discretion happens when a person chooses not to reveal private information. It’s so easy for a little extra skin or those short shorts to be a distraction for a guy. A lot of what girls today are showing of their bodies was never meant to be shared with the world.

Listen to what Matthew 18:7 says. “Woe to the world for temptations to sin! For it is necessary that temptations come, but woe to the one by whom the temptation comes.”


Do you, as a Christian, want to be responsible for dressing in a way that might tempt a guy pursuing godliness? I hope not!

So what are some practical things you can do to help us guys out?

  1. Dress modestly! Cover up the cleavage, ditch the short shorts, and go for some fashionable, but modest, clothing. Convictions in this area will differ, but I think we can all agree that clothing which blatantly draws attention to certain parts of your body isn’t modest. Do the mirror check before heading out the door.
  2. Think twice before posting that photo to social media. Are you holding your photos on Facebook and Instagram to the same standards you yourself hold in real life? Could the photos you post cause others to stumble? Here’s a great post by Kristen about seductive selfies that will challenge your posting standards.
  3. Ask yourself this catchy little phrase: “Is it too high at the bottom, too low at the top, or too tight around the curves?” Then respond appropriately.

Modesty truly comes down to an outward expression of your heart.

A girl can dress with a floor length dress and long-sleeved turtleneck, and still be completely immodest in spirit and attitude and the way she carries herself.

Rules and regulations won’t guarantee modesty – you need to get to your heart attitude.

I Corinthians 6:20 tells us to “…glorify God in your body.”

The next time you go to put on those shorts with the 2 inch inseam, or the shirt that reveals cleavage, ask yourself, “Is this really glorifying to God? Will it direct people’s thoughts towards God, or will it lead them somewhere else with their thoughts (and eyes)?”

Remember your ultimate end is to honor God with every single thing you do.

So I want to know, how do you counter the undressed culture of today?

  • What are some ways that you think could help practically with dressing modestly?
  • What’s one area of your wardrobe you’re going to change today to help guys keep their thoughts centered on God and not your body?
  • Do you struggle with battling the world’s message to “uncover”?

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22 Responses to Guy Thoughts: Come on Girl, Keep it Modest

  1. Stevie says:

    I dont have a facebook account.Is there still a way I can enter the giveaway?Thanks!

  2. Cee says:

    “‘But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.’ (Matthew 5:28).”

    What does this have to do with a woman’s modesty?

    • Elisabeth says:

      Cee, I think what it means is that by dressing imodestly that we are helping thoughts like this to enter guys minds, but by covering up, and dressing modestly we are helping guys to think the right kind of thoughts so that they are not tempted to sin.Even if it is there own choice to think them.

    • averyswife says:

      I agree. Modesty is an important heart issue, but this verse doesn’t really belong. It calls attention to a man’s thought life, not to the way a woman dresses.

      • Avi yah says:

        Well, then it calls attention to the modesty of the mind, which is also a part of modesty, isn’t it?

      • Britts says:

        Who says the woman the guy lusted after was dressing poorly. Don’t make assumptions ppl 🙂

    • GirlDefined says:


      Thanks for stopping by and pointing out that verse. From what I understand I think his goal was to point out the fact that lust is a real problem with guys. God takes it very seriously and compares it with adultery.

      I’m assuming his point in using that verse was to help us girls see the seriousness of the issue from a guys perspective and act and dress in a way that would encourage guys towards purity and not towards lust.

      I also love what Elisabeth said below “I think what it means is that by dressing immodestly that we are helping thoughts like this to enter guys minds, but by covering up, and dressing modestly we are helping guys to think the right kind of thoughts so that they are not tempted to sin. Even if it is there own choice to think them.”

      Thanks for chiming in girls! 🙂

      • Pam says:

        The verse is putting the responsibility on the luster. This article puts responsibility on ‘girls’ (personally as an adult I prefer to be called a woman, girl is infantilising) which is the opposite of Jesus’ words. Also, the majority of bible passages about modesty aren’t about covering up, if they’re about appearance at all they’re about not being ostentatious in showing off riches. So the interpretation used to tell women to not wear clothes that make it clear that we are, well, women is an incorrect interpretation.

  3. Bennie says:

    Modesty is defined by character and purpose .
    Girls ask urself two questions ,
    #1 am I avaiable or taken by God ?
    #2′ when looking in the mirror ‘ why did I choose this outfit ?

  4. Hannah says:

    Awesome post! Thanks so much!

  5. Marla Erika Suan says:

    Love it. A challenge and a guide. Thanks.

  6. Abby says:

    Very good post!
    I always enjoy reading them cause they help so much!

  7. Madison Mullins says:

    Yes, it’s a man’s job to respect a woman, but it’s a woman’s job to give a man something to respect.

  8. thehappygirl says:

    It’s good to know there are still young men out there that appreciate women dressing modestly. Great post!

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  10. Candice says:

    I agree, to a point. I try to dress appropriately, especially to fit whatever occasion or place I’m going to. Work clothes tend to be a bit more covered than say gardening clothes or running errand duds. But I do value comfort, and being almost six feet tall, ALL shorts are short shorts on my frame. But am I going to shun shorts in 80 degree weather? no. I have long legs, it’s a fact. I gave up on finding comfortable, longer shorts, that fit too, long ago. I feel that as long as they cover all the important bits, and the bottom curve of my behind isn’t hanging out I’m doing pretty good. I have better luck with tops. I don’t show off cleavage for the most part and try to avoid any shirts that will “ride up” during the day. But I feel the definition of what constitutes “modest” clothing is different for each person. Some feel women should only wear loose skirts and no pants, and others think women should only wear burkas, while others are perfectly find with whatever a woman decides to wear so long as the most important bits aren’t on full display 🙂

  11. Varsha says:

    it’s not a girl’s duty to make sure a guy doesn’t “sin”. If a guy “sins” cause he couldn’t control his hormones seeing a girl’s legs then that’s his problem.

  12. Jean says:

    The topic gives us a lot to think about . But we should not blame girls and women, for men and boys lusting.

  13. Erika says:

    I would like to know more about modesty for guys. I know this is a blog for girls, but I think if we don’t want girls in bikinis we don’t want shirtless guys either. Girls lust too! I wish guys would think about this.

  14. Nola says:

    Two of those verses aren’t even about modesty…..not to mention, I don’t care if guys are naturally visual. If you have the Holy Spirit inside of you, you should be able to fight those sinful desires. Jesus is stronger then your natural sinful desires. Also, lust is more about imagining yourself doing something sexual with a person. Its not wrong just to find somebody’s body attractive to look at.

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