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Guys Speak Out About Girls Showing Cleavage

By: Bethany Beal

The girls in the audience sat on the edges of their seats as they watched the video play. The speaker had recorded several different godly guys sharing their personal thoughts and opinions on the topic of modesty.

The guys were asked very specific questions about modesty and then the recording was replayed on the big screen for the girls.

One question was asked,  “When a girl shows midriff is that a temptation for you as a guy? Why or why not?”

The girls in the audience were shocked to hear the responses from the guys.

The girls had no idea that the clothes they wear could be such a hindrance and temptation to the Christian guys around them.

The girls in the audience had only viewed modesty from a girl’s mind, but never stopped to think of modesty from a guy’s perspective.

That’s exactly what I want to do in this blog. I want to bring in a few godly guys and have them share their thoughts on a very specific topic.

I’ve been observing and there seems to be a white elephant in the room that not many are addressing. I’m not sure if it’s because we as girls just don’t want to talk about it, or we don’t care, or that we’re just oblivious. It’s time to stop being oblivious and start talking about the elephant.

The white elephant in the room is this: Christian girls showing off cleavage.

I have a feeling some of you are thinking, “This is another legalistic post putting rules in the Bible that aren’t there.” Actually, no. This is simply a challenge to myself and to my sisters in Christ to rethink modesty in the area of showing off cleavage.

It’s a challenge to evaluate your current modesty standards and see if there is any way you can become more of a blessing to the Christian guys around you.

I want you to step out of your girly mind and try to view yourself from a guy’s perspective for just a minute.

Put all of your ideas about modesty on hold. Put your defenses down and open your ears and listen to what some godly guys think. Are you willing to do that? Here we go:

Godly Guy #1

“I don’t want to be dogmatic about it, but I would say that, in general, I do appreciate it when girls cover up cleavage…depending on the situation, it can be just a bit less distracting that way. Sometimes you can tell when a girl is trying to use the way she’s dressed as a way to get attention. It’s the spirit she has.”

Godly Guy #2

“Almost every time a woman’s cleavage is left exposed before a man’s eyes, the man will mentally acknowledge that part of the woman’s anatomy, and be tempted to sin.

Now, I understand that our culture’s dress code allows for women to show certain parts of their breasts. The sad fact of life, though, is that when men see a small part, it’s very easy for them to imagine the whole thing.

I don’t want anyone to hear me say that girls are responsible for my sin if I lust after them though. I have the power that comes from Christ to cut off the chain immediately after I’m tempted and keep myself from sinning.

I just want girls to know that I have a huge appreciation for those of you who are sensitive to the weaknesses found in their brothers in Christ, and who are kind enough to cover their intimate areas so that I am not sorely tempted to sin against God.”

Godly Guy #3

It’s confusing to me when Christian girls reveal cleavage. Our mission and aim as Christians is to show honor to God through what we do – and showing off your cleavage to the world, I’m pretty sure, isn’t directing people’s eyes to God; it’s directing them to your body.

I’d be honored and impressed if the girl I marry had realized early on what a precious gift her body was for me and my eyes alone and had decided not to reveal anything more than was necessary to the world.”

Godly Guy #4

When cleavage is revealed a whole new dimension (literally and mentally) to a girl’s body is opened up in a guy’s mind. It’s not like guys should try to ignore the fact that a girl’s body is different than his own. But just because guys know the difference doesn’t mean girls should let every guy see that difference.

Showing cleavage also exposes and reveals a private part of your body that should be saved for the enjoyment of your future husband. It just takes away how special it is, and diminishes the value of that part of your body.

Wow! Talk about insight into a guy’s perspective.

It’s so interesting to me that each one of those guys was basically against girls showing off cleavage. They each acknowledged that when a girl is showing cleavage, it’s distracting and can be a temptation. We should take that to heart and apply it to our outfit selections.

Here is the good news, there are still godly guys out there who value you for more than just your body. There are single guys out there striving for purity. That is really encouraging!

With all that being said, let me make a very clear point here: The ultimate purpose and goal for having any modesty standards should be to honor Christ first. Your heart should be focused primarily on honoring Christ in this area and as a result you will most likely bless your brothers in Christ. The purpose of this post is simply to give you an inside scoop into a godly guy’s brain.

Putting it into action.

I want to challenge you to think through each of these guy’s comments and evaluate your current wardrobe. When you get dressed each morning ask yourself these questions:

1. When I am talking with a guy will he be tempted to look at my chest instead of my face?

2. Is my shirt so tight that a guy can visualize vividly what’s underneath?

3. When I lean, bend, move etc., will the guys around me be able to see down my shirt?

4. What are my motives in wearing this top? Am I fishing for attention from guys and using my cleavage as a lure to get that?

5. If I think this shirt could be a temptation to guys, am I willing to change and wear something else?

If we each answered these questions honestly, I think it would change the way that we dressed. In the end though It comes down to your heart motivation. Do you desire to push your brothers in Christ towards purity? Do you desire to point their eyes towards Christ and not towards yourself?

When your heart’s desire is to point others to Christ and not yourself, dressing modestly becomes so much easier.

Wrapping it up.

We’ve just heard from several single godly guys who each expressed appreciation for girls who desire to help guys out by covering up their cleavage. These guys aren’t against a woman’s beauty or body, they just want to preserve their hearts and eyes for their future wife’s body.

There is a time and place to show off all of your God given beautiful body, but until you’re married it’s not the time. Just check out Proverbs 5:15-23 if you aren’t quite convinced of that. Or, take a quick scan in Song of Solomon and you will see that there is definitely a time to show off your beautiful body within the context of marriage.

Let me leave you with one more comment from a godly guy:

“Guys are 100% responsible for guarding their eyes and choosing not to lust. But it sure is a blessing when Christian girls choose to help us out by dressing modestly”

Let’s view our clothing choices as an opportunity to bless (not hinder) the Christian guys around us.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on the guy’s comments about cleavage. Feel free to ask questions, share insight, or add to what’s been said.

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