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How God Changed My Relationship with Makeup

By: Guest Blogger

I abruptly opened my eyes to the blaring sound of my alarm.

As the blurriness began to subside, I slowly sat up and peered toward the window directly in front of me. It was a grey and overcast day in Chicago, but it was an exciting day nonetheless.

My mom was asked to be a part of a show that highlights the benefits of incorporating raw fruits and vegetable into your diet. She was going as a testament to how raw foods have greatly improved her type 2 diabetes. My two sisters and I were also invited to come to the shoot to get some footage with our mom.

Going to the shoot also brought one more thing that I was even more excited about: I could wear makeup. As a young teen, I wasn’t allowed to wear makeup unless it was for a special occasion. So whenever I could, I got super geeked out about it. Anyway, I put on a little bit of foundation, then eyeshadow, and finally mascara (because that’s all that my mom would let me put on that day).

Sis, let me tell you, I got more compliments on my beauty that day than I had gotten all year, and maybe even the year before that.

Sadly though, that day single-handedly forged the notion in my mind that I was only beautiful when I had makeup on. And quite frankly, it was that poisonous thought that controlled how I viewed myself for years to come. I genuinely believed this lie, which meant that the majority of the time, I just simply wasn’t beautiful.

This lie caused me to overdo it (sometimes to the point of looking like a clown) because according to my twisted logic, there were only a few times a year where I was actually beautiful.

Then one day God decided to teach me a lesson.

I was seventeen years old and still holding onto the lie that “I was only beautiful when wearing makeup.” I was getting ready for my annual spring formal and putting on liberal amounts of makeup. Finally…I get to be beautiful today, I thought to myself. I continued applying cakes and cakes of makeup with no proper blending techniques. Yikes!

I did my full face and was ready to take on the evening with full-fledged confidence. I had a lively and enjoyable night hanging out with my classmates around downtown Chicago and wished that it would never end. But alas, we all went home.

That night, I remember staring into my bathroom mirror trying to savor the very last moments of being “beautiful” before having to wash it all off. I didn’t want to let go. I was grieving internally. More time passed and I knew I had to go to bed.

Begrudgingly, I took one long, heavy sigh as I bent over the sink to wash my face.

My first glance in the mirror after I rose from cleaning my face was a shocking one. Here I was without a spec of makeup on and yet I was…beautiful! My skin was radiant, my eyes were bright and I looked just as stunning as I did with a full face of makeup a few minutes ago! I had never seen myself in that way before and God totally used that moment to teach me that I am truly beautiful, unique, and precious with or without makeup on.

In that moment, I knew I could feel confident because I am a beautiful daughter of the King. I have so many attributes that He has instilled in me that go far beyond aesthetics.

That one moment completely changed my relationship with makeup forever. Since then I have started wearing it regularly and I really do enjoy the creative aspect of it. I get to play around with different products, colors, techniques, and finishes and it’s just plain fun to change up my look every now and then.

I am able to enjoy makeup without makeup defining my beauty and worth. 

I now have so much freedom in that regard because I’m fully grounded in who I am and who God made me to be.

I don’t need makeup, but I enjoy it. So I’ll wear it but only on my terms.

Sister, if you’re struggling with something similar to this just know that you are an exquisite and beautiful woman. You do not need A N Y T H I N G to validate your worth. You are truly remarkable because God created you in His image. Know that. Breathe it in until it sinks into your psyche. You are loved.

What material things have you turned to in order to validate your beauty? How did you overcome it?  Do you still enjoy them?

This guest post was written by: Megan Richardson

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20 Responses to How God Changed My Relationship with Makeup

  1. Rachel Taylor says:

    I wasn’t allowed to wear makeup until I was thirteen. Even then, I actually wasn’t interested in wearing it. I didn’t start wearing it more regularly until I was seventeen. I mostly wear it only for special occasions. I never thought I would like wearing makeup. I thought I might try to use it to hide my natural beauty. A friend of mine taught me that using the right amount (not too much) only enhances the natural beauty that I already have. (I still haven’t tried eye shadow on my own.) Thank you for writing this post. I enjoyed reading it.

    • Megan Richardson says:

      You sound like my sister haha! Glad you enjoyed it 🙂
      P. S. You should totally try eye shadow. It’s super fun!

  2. Lilly Shyree says:

    Wow!! This is so inspiring. I didn’t start wearing any makeup until I was 12. And even then it was only lip gloss and powder. Now I’m fifteen and wear a little bit of lip butter, powder, and mascara. This enhances my natural features and covers up blemishes/ache. It’s enough to draw attention to my face without becoming to flashy. 🙂

    Love this post so much! <333

    • Megan Richardson says:

      Hey Lilly! Thank you for taking the time to read this. I like your approach when it comes to makeup! God bless you!

  3. Jaedyn says:

    I’m 15 and started wearing makeup regularly maybe a year to a year and a half ago… I got my makeup kit from Bare Minerals when I turned thirteen. I have definitely gone through times in those years where I only felt beautiful with makeup on, but months ago I had a bit of a realization that I am beautiful without it. Of course, I still have bad days where I feel awful and so I put on more makeup than usual, and I have a basic routine that includes concealer, mineral veil, usually mascara, and chapstick, sometimes lip gloss, foundation, blush, rarely eye shadow. I do enjoy doing my makeup, but I try to keep it as natural as possible. I have been going out more without makeup on, and it feels great!

    This post is really relatable, and I enjoyed reading it 🙂 Thank you! God bless <3

  4. Chelsea Ejimakor says:

    I am 21 and started wearing makeup regularly but not daily at age 18. My teeth as it is now require braces. When I was a little kid, I wanted braces but but i didn’t get one. Now that i am an adult without braces , I feel very comfortable with my teeth . As an adult, I learned to understand that without the braces, I am still beautiful. I am not so eager to get it now as i was when i was a child. The words GOD spoke to my heart made me more confident and How he created me from the beginning . Also , compliments from admirers, people and family gave me more wisdom. For that, I am so grateful to God. Thanks Meghan for posting this blog. It’s inspiring

    • Megan Richardson says:

      I’m glad you enjoyed it Chelsea! I’ve also wanted braces as a kid, but never got them. So happy to know that you’ve found confidence without them 🙂

  5. Karen Elaine Fulmer says:

    Thanks so much for this article! I am 15 and started wearing makeup two years ago. For my 13th birthday, my twin sister and I received some “starter” things from our mom (i.e. mascara, eye shadow, blush, lip gloss, foundation). I only have one other sister, and she was very against makeup as she had struggled a long time on the basis that girls are “addicted” to makeup. This year I was allowed to wear eyeliner, and when I turn 16 my parents have said I can wear whatever I want. I have fun wearing makeup and trying out new things, and have never really felt like I “needed” it. If I am tired and don’t want to put any on, I don’t. But I do like to wear it because it makes me feel more tidy sometimes. ;P Anyway, thank you so much!

  6. Erika says:

    Thank you for sharing your encouraging story!

  7. Lydia says:

    Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, for this post. I have struggled with my beauty lately, I need to remember the truth of whose image I (and WE) are created in. God. An incredible, perfect, awe-inspiring God made US in His image. I pray that we can believe it!

  8. Virtue says:

    I loved this one! I wear makeup but I like it natural and I only wear it on special occasions and Sundays… I’m not afraid to go without it! Even though sometimes my acne is bad! I think it’s fun but I’m also learning it can be a heart thing as well!

  9. Virtue says:

    I believe that I and everyone else are beautiful and wonderfully made!

    • angel says:

      my experience of makeup was very different. As a teen I associated makeup with falseness because I went to a dance club and we put different makeup on to match our costume. I associated it with acting. I knew I was beautiful my family told me so and I never had anything to prove. I thought women that wore makeup were wearing a mask because they didnt feel beautiful – I knew they were beautiful , I KNEW IT!!!!!! and found it incredibly sad they couldnt even nip to the corner shop without mascara! “I dont EVER want to become like that”, I determined in my little heart.
      I wore makeup for special occasions like weddings etc. the rest of the time I arrogantly refused to wear makeup. I hated it even more when those that wore makeup looked down on me for not wearing it, as though I hadnt matured in my 20s or 30s. I even tested how they reacted towards me my wearing it to test their reaction, sure enough the ‘makeup’ people acknowledged me only when I wore makeup – how shallow I thought. Some people even suggested I wore makeup so that I’d get a husband. (well you can imagine my reaction) after years of hating makeup I thought I’m sick of people not accepting me without makeup I’ll do one year of wearing makeup to attempt to understand other womens need to wear it. Maybe they dont feel confident in their own skin?????? God is very clear….. you are fearfully and wonderfully made.
      I hated that year! I felt like I was acting and being false, I wasnt being me, I felt like I was cheating everybody and putting on an image of perfection, when of course nobody is perfect. It felt like a lie. oh yes I lovely comments on my beauty and my appearance but not so frequently on character. whereas before people commented on my good character, reliablilty , goodness, gentlness, sweet lady, trustworthy. suddenly all the comments were about appearance – and I was thinking, what?????! I dont like it, it doesnt make me feel good that you think I look beautiful. I’d rather have the character recommendations which is more important to our Father. I never told anyone what I was doing with the experiment, I didnt change what I did in action either.
      If someone doesnt like you without makeup, seriously its their loss. But never treat them any different from anyone else, they may be feeling insecure or unbeautiful and if you befriend a person who cant face the world without makeup (which is expensive dirt the same colour as our face really if we’re honest) they may draw strength to reveal their natural beauty just by being around someone who DOES have the confidence to walk daily with a naked face. Build each other up, ladies of the lord. Instead of covering up with makeup – use your money on healthy eating fruit and veg get your skin nice with drinking plenty water so you dont need foundation to clog your pores, let your skin breathe. Learn to cry with happiness and not worry about black eyes running down your cheeks. Its wonderful to cry in church when the holy spirit touches you and you sit back in your seat knowing that your eyelashes are the beautiful shade God created not “standard black” that you can wipe your face without worrying about smudge marks or having to run to the toilet to ‘check everything is ok’ there’s so much freedom to just be you. enjoy being you, dont tell God that he made mistakes and you just need toadjust his design. GOD NEVER MAKE MISTAKES dont listen to the worlds definition of beautiful. Go for it, people DO get used to you without makeup and after a time they stop asking if you’re ill because you look abit paler than what they’re used to. Learn to control the conversation by changing it into a different subject treat people the same, they’ll accept your new you and respect you. hold your head up high. You are created by a loving God who specifically designed you the way you are. Dont be shackled anymore by makeup, making-up your face to be something it isnt. Be free and enjoy being who God made you.
      blessings xx

  10. Abi says:

    I loved this post!
    I’m 16 and I have two younger sisters, 12 and 11 years old. I am passionate about being a great role model for them, and right now one of the main areas I feel like I really need to be an example in is with makeup. Many people I’m around encourage me to not wear makeup, but the way they talk to me about it is more pressuring than encouraging. I constantly feel pressured to not wear makeup because “you’re beautiful without it, you don’t need makeup to make you pretty,” and while I know this is true and am fully confident in myself, that is not the reason I wouldn’t want to wear makeup. I don’t want worry about what PEOPLE around me say. These people have good intentions, but they want me to stop wearing makeup in order to worship myself, and not God. Whether I wear makeup, or whether I go about my day with a fresh face, I want it to be for God, not myself or the people around me.


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