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La La Land: A Conflicting Message for Christian Girls

By: Guest Blogger

With every new chick flick that is advertised, untold numbers run to the nearest movie theater with their significant other in hopes that this will be the next cult classic.

“This will be the movie that makes my boyfriend realize how lucky he is to be going out with me!”

“This will be the movie that makes me cry and causes me to shamelessly fantasize myself as the lead actress.”

La La Land was supposed to be this movie.

Critics built this movie up to be the biggest blockbuster of the year. Awards so far include Golden Globe Award Winner for Best Motion Picture, Best Actress, Best Actor, Best Director, and Best Original Score, and the film is tied for the most Academy Award nominations in history…so it’s universally considered the best.

But I have a question to ask: Why doesn’t the couple in our new “best” movie end up spending the rest of their lives together? Where is the “happily ever after?” Where is the wedding? Where is the long term commitment?

While critics rave, audiences have mixed feelings and opinions about the ending of the movie. 

La La Land was created to captivate your emotions with a whirlwind of catchy songs, romantic scenes, and quote-worthy lines. However, unlike traditional love stories, the last fifteen minutes of this movie deviate far from the “happily ever after path.”

[Spoiler Alert] The leading couple, Mia and Sebastian, share many romantic moments, lip-locking scenes, and even decide to move-in together. However, the last few scenes fast-forward five years to show Mia marrying another man.

You read correctly.

Mia does not choose to marry Sebastian, but smiles fondly on the time she and Sebastian spent together. The conclusion left for viewers is that while their relationship was important, it was not forever.

Mia now has a new life with her new husband and a new baby, and she is able to smile when she thinks about her former live-in boyfriend.  

“Why does the ending of this movie matter?” you may be asking.  

This movie ending matters because it has profound implications for the Millennial Generation and it is a defining representation of our culture. As I contrasted the ending of La La Land with the ending of the notorious chick flick, The Notebook [not recommended or endorsed by GirlDefined Ministries] I noticed something very telling.

Just twelve years earlier, that movie ended with the aged married couple holding each other as they died together in the same bed. The idea was that the husband and wife could not live without one another; therefore, each would literally die without the other.

While in many movies the lead couple does not end up together, La La Land has a startling and inaccurate account of sexual immorality.  

Only in la-la land (i.e. a fantasy world or dream world) does a girl smile as she sees her ex-boyfriend who lost interest in her after having sex. Only in la-la land can a girl feel unashamed as she runs into her former live-in boyfriend while on a date with her new husband.  

Only in la-la land can a girl emerge unscathed after neglecting God’s guidelines for relationships and sex. Only in la-la land is this sort of short-lived not committal type of relationship considered romantic.

Despite how this movie makes modern girls feel, it is false advertising. Disregarding God’s design for love, sex and marriage does not lead to a “dream world.” There is only pain when we ignore God’s command to “keep the marriage bed pure” (Hebrews 13:4).

The majority of our culture is neglecting this truth and wondering why many of them end up with broken hearts and relationships.

Statistics tell us that the majority of people are far from following God’s guidelines for sex.

This is one reason our culture is so accepting of and so excited about La La Land. This movie represents the life so many individuals are living.

As Christian girls, we can’t get sucked into this counterfeit version of love. We can’t get fooled! There is only heartache when we ignore God’s guidelines for sex and marriage. We have to remember that God created sex, which means He knows how it works best.

The notions that cohabitation produces stable relationships, that unmarried guys will stay interested in girls after sex, and that a girl will experience no shame when she sees her ex-boyfriend (and former sex partner) while standing next to her new husband are all ideas that only truly exist . . . well . . . in a La La Land.

For a more detailed review of this movie, check out the helpful Christian review over at Plugged In. 

To learn more about God’s amazing design for true love and sex, check out the following posts.

God’s Design for Sex is Way Better than Hollywood’s Cheap Imitation

7 Major Benefits of Saving Sex for Marriage – Part 1

7 Major Benefits of Saving Sex for Marriage – Part 2

This guest post was written by Julia Jeffress Sadler who serves as the Girl’s Ministry Director at First Baptist Dallas. If you would like to submit a guest post, please see our guidelines here.

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  • Wolfsmädchen ChasingButterflie

    Oh my. What a sad ending.

  • Breanne

    I think the ending is even sad if you don’t look at it from a Christian perspective. 🙁

  • Tiff

    There were so many mixed feelings about this film… I agree here with the blogger’s thoughts that are written from a Christian perspective. But I also enjoyed the film—just before those last fifteen minutes, of course. I teared up as I watched how Mia imagined her life if she had married Sabastian. In a way, the story was letting you know she seemed to somewhat regret not spending the rest of her life with him. Of course, I can imagine that this is because they had sealed their relationship with all things “marital”before actually tying the knot—which they never did.
    As a Christian, my thoughts when leaving the theater that day after the movie were this: “I am incredibly thankful for my relationship with Jesus Christ. He alone is the only One who can truly satisfy. It is evident that Mia and Sabastian both have no hope. They are constantly looking to self and their own dreams and desires to fulfill them, so much so that they choose to follow their own dreams individually instead of pursuing commitment and a life joined together in marriage. Such regret! I can only imagine. What a lesson I have learned! And the makers of this film will never know exactly what they taught me.”
    I choose to look to Christ. He alone can satisfy the deepest needs and desires of my heart.

  • Halee

    Sooooo agreed.

  • Gabrielle

    Wow…thanks so much for sharing this! With movies like this I ask myself, why even make it? Anyway, I’d say the title is quite appropriate, judging by what you said is in the movie!

    • OrangeGirl

      “…why even make it?”

      This movie is about human experiences. Why not make it? It’s about people.

  • OrangeGirl

    The movie was about human experience. I f Life is not a bible fairy tale where everything ends up nice and in a bow. Life is messy. I fail to see how this movie capturing that is a bad thing.

    • There is a lot of sin in this world. That doesn’t mean we go through great expense to televise the sin. This post is not saying that this type of a lifestyle never happens in the world. In fact it is happening so much it’s sickening. The post is stating that it is completely a sin, and that to make a movie about it is only making it seem right and okay. I don’t see how making a movie about something that is wrong helps young men and women see that this is something they shouldn’t do.
      When someone is needing to learn what cash is legit and what is not, they are not shown the counterfeit money, but the true money. So that when they are confronted with counterfeit, it sticks out right away. Same as knowing what the Bible says. You don’t read something that counters the Bible, so you can learn the truth of the Bible. You study the Bible, know it in your heart, so that when something comes up, such as this movie, you know right off the bat that it is wrong, no doubt about it.
      Also, as for the Bible being a fairy tale, everything was not nice and in a bow. There was sin, and sexual immorality. Yeah it might have been talked about, but it was openly judged as sinful and wrong. And there was also consequences for that sin.

      “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” Romans 12:2

      One last thing, I know that this might seem cliche. But what do you think Jesus would think if he was sitting in that movie theater, watching that movie? Do you also think that a movie about a homosexual couple is okay, because it’s life? If you are a believer, please rethink your standards.

      • Kathleen Caldwell

        I understand you may not agree with her. But telling her to rethink her standards is a bit much. She has a relationship with Christ. You have a relationship with Christ. No one’s relationship with Christ is the same. She has standards that she has set because of what the bible says. You have standards that you have set because of what the bible says. They may not be exactly the same. That’s totally alright. There’s no need to get so worked up over a movie that you tell someone to rethink there standards. Now, if she had turned to prostitution that would be one thing. But she was just stating something about a movie. She was correct in saying the world isn’t a biblical fairy tale. The world is messy. This movie is from the world. If a christian had made this exact movie then we could say something. But since a christian did not make this movie. What happened in it is from a worldy point of view.

        • Thank you for stating that, in your way. After re-reading my comment, I realized that no matter how I feel about a subject, I can’t just push it on someone else. Jesus never pushed his truth on anyone, and whether or not my thoughts were true, I should not have stated that she needed to change her standards. I in no way was intending to come off in a way sounding judgmental. I am sorry, please forgive me.
          I do have a question about the Bible though, what is it that you think is a fairy tale? I just have never looked at it in that light, and am having a hard time imagining it all fairy tales and bows.
          Thanks for letting me know where I was out of place.

          • Kathleen Caldwell

            I don’t know if we meant fairy tale but just thinking that every movie is going to meet biblical standards ( is a fairy tale in itself because that’ll never happen) And I hope you know that I in no way meant to be rude! I was just stating something. Please know I love you as a sister in Christ!!

        • OrangeGirl

          I appreciate your kind words, there is a lot of introspection on your part. There is one thing I wanted to point out.

          “The world is messy. This movie is from the world. If a christian had made this exact movie then we could say something. But since a christian did not make this movie. What happened in it is from a worldy point of view.”

          It should not matter who made the movie, the story was a portrayal of human life; Christian or not. Please do not put Christians on a moral pedestal or that they should be the ‘example.’ Christians are people, people have messy lives, the two are bound to overlap.

          • Kathleen Caldwell

            Oh no no no! I wasn’t meaning to put Christians on a pedestal. What I was meaning is that Christians should know not to move in with someone if they weren’t married and if this were a Christian movie that that most likely wouldn’t have happened!

          • Or if it was in a Christian movie, it would have been made aware of the fact that it was wrong.

          • Kathleen Caldwell

            exactly! They would’ve dealt with it in a christian manner/perspective!

          • OrangeGirl

            I see. I understand what you meant. Have a good day my friend. 🙂

      • Melissa VDA

        Amen, Tori!

      • OrangeGirl

        Jeez, I hate the filter on this website. My reply was filtered for some weird reason. I did not swear or anything in my post, so I have no idea why it was filtered.

        • What were you meaning to write?

          • OrangeGirl

            I wish I could remember everything. I spent 30 minutes fleshing it out. I get picked up a lot on their filters for using common words that are needed for a healthy discussion on here. (such as s3x and h0m0s3xuality). I think I get picked up a lot because I post as a guest, not as a member. I’ll try to re-create everything.

            I grew up in the church and with a strong sense of right and wrong. I saw things in life as a grayscale, as everyone should. But as I grew older I saw just how big that gray scale is. Not everything can be wrapped up in a nice little bow and be completely 100% G rated all of the time. That’s not how life works. Creating a film which showcases that life doesn’t always go the way we think it will is great in my opinion. I feel more human and more emotion when I see a movie about human experience than I ever do hearing about perfect couples enjoying their perfect lives.

            I don’t understand what is so bad about two consenting adults who love one another living together before marriage. If they aren’t abusing one another or trying to destroy the other’s life, then what is the issue?

            “You don’t read something that counters the Bible, so you can learn the truth of the Bible.”

            With all do respect, without challenging our beliefs, is our faith really worth anything? If you went through life never questioning your faith and growing, then how would you grow as a person? Personally, because I believe murder is always wrong, I find that God in the bible commits horrible acts of violence. These acts are inexcusable. I feel this way because I didn’t just take the bible as law, I questioned it.

            “There was sin, and sexual immorality. Yeah it might have been talked about, but it was openly judged as sinful and wrong. And there was also consequences for that sin.”

            I am referring to the modern-day view that many Christians have that if you believe in God, then everything will be okay. This site is an ample example of this. The writers genuinely believe that if you just pray your clinical depression will go away.

            “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” Romans 12:2

            Ah, Romans 12:2. How I’ve struggled with verses like this. I think they sound an awful lot like the brainwashing techniques of a cult.

            “But what do you think Jesus would think if he was sitting in that movie theater, watching that movie?”

            I try not to presume what anyone would think or feel, because that would just be putting words in his/her mouth. However, I do hope Jesus would see it as a movie about the messy thing that is life.

            “Do you also think that a movie about a h0m0s3xual couple is okay, because it’s life?”

            Yes, yes I do.

            “If you are a believer, please rethink your standards.”

            I do. I do this every day. I always try to learn and grow, even when it’s hard. There are days when my stubbornness about an idea gets in the way, but I try. My standards are love and acceptance. So far, those are two of the few that have held up against everything I’ve seen so far.

          • So i did respond about a week ago to this…but the comment is still pending because i attached a link. So I just am copying and pasting the comment without the link.

            As I apologized to Kathleen Caldwell, I was not meaning to come off in a judging way. I am sorry if it seemed that way. And whatever I say after this, I mean no offense. This is something that I believe in, and if I believe it, I should be able to answer for what I believe, right? My intentions are never to use a verse out of context, and I apologize if it seemed that way in the previous comment.

            First of all, I understand that not everything is perfect in life. Having a lot of older siblings in my family, I have been able to see most of them go through a lot of different stuff in life. Very very messy. I am in no way trying to make light of life.

            “You don’t read something that counters the Bible, so you can learn the truth of the Bible.” In regards to this, I did not mean that we need to live secluded lives solely reading the Bible and never communicating with unbelievers. Or hearing what others have to say about things. I only meant that we don’t need movies portraying someones life, especially when it doesn’t explain that even though this seems to occur in many lives, it’s still not right. It is very good for our faith to be tested. It’s definitely unbelievably difficult, but if it’s never tested, how will we know that we actually do believe in something? I didn’t mean that we should never be tested. But why fill our minds with things that are not of God? (Philippians 4:8)

            As for a couple living together before marriage. I guess it would depend on how you interpret the Bible. What you see as glorifying to God. Kristen made a post about this exact topic.

            And relating to murder being a sin. I guess the question would first need to be answered if whether or not you completely believe the Bible, or if you use parts of it. You said you didn’t just take it as law, but you questioned it. Also that what God did in the time of the Bible was “inexcusable”. God did not need to create us. He could have just made the earth, water, creatures and everything else but man. He has every right to do whatever He sees fit. Also, without God giving us a will, there would be no sin. Because all that He does is perfect. “God’s way is perfect. All the LORD’s promises prove true. He is a shield for all who look to him for protection.” Psalm 18:30 God is just in all that He does. Sometimes we want to scream at Him because we really don’t understand what on earth He is doing! We don’t see how He could allow our loved one(s) die. We question our financial situation, and doubt and doubt and doubt some more.

            I am right now going through Romans with some friends. We were on the second part of the first chapter. The question was how to explain righteousness to a new believer. It is clearly shown in verses 16 and 17. After talking for a while, the realization of how much God really just wanted to have a relationship with us just overwhelmed me. It’s just not something we’ll ever understand. He had it (the righteous relationship) with Adam and Eve, and then sin entered and separated them from having a righteous relationship with God. The only way it could be completely washed away was for Christ to be the sacrifice for us all. (Heb. 9:19-28) God obviously wanted this relationship with us more than anything. So much that He was willing to give up His only Son to be our salvation. Even though He knew all that we would do after Jesus’ death and resurrection, He still pursued us. I am sorry if it may come across that I am explaining the Gospel to you like you haven’t heard it before. From the sound of it you know it well. I simply was explaining what I had seen in studying those verses the other day.

            Standards. I realized that the way I told you to rethink your standards sounded judgmental, and incorrect. I responded hastily to something and have learned to think more before commenting on something. Especially when I am not sure if I will be understood in the way I meant. Thinking about it, the standards that Jesus set were in relation to what He said when questioned regarding which commandment was more important than another. (Mat. 22:37-40) I do not think that just because someone is sinning that you banish them and have no more association with them. No. You still believe what you believe, and if necessary let them know what you believe and why.

            “But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.” 1 Peter 3:15

            In the end, I still believe what I do about this situation. I don’t in any way mean to imply I know more than you, for I am sure I don’t, except what the Lord has shown me personally and in reading the Bible. I have stated, I hope clearly, what I believe about this. I did not mean to cause an argument, as that is not my cup of tea, to debate something with someone. Rather, I have taken that previous verse to heart. I know that sometimes I may not have the correct answer for every question, but I believe that the Holy Spirit will give me the words to speak when I need them.

            I am sorry if you have been hurt in the past by someone professing Christ. I hope that as we all are to do, even though it is so hard, you give your questions and worries to God, and He will provide us with all we need to know. He is good, all the time.

            Thank you for being honest. I hope this all made sense. As in everything, I pray that God was and will be glorified through this all. 🙂

          • So I did respond to this about a week ago, but because I had a link in it, it’s still pending. I am just copying the comment without the link. 🙂
            ——
            As I apologized to Kathleen Caldwell, I was not meaning to come off in a judging way. I am sorry if it seemed that way. And whatever I say after this, I mean no offense. This is something that I believe in, and if I believe it, I should be able to answer for what I believe, right? My intentions are never to use a verse out of context, and I apologize if it seemed that way in the previous comment.

            First of all, I understand that not everything is perfect in life. Having a lot of older siblings in my family, I have been able to see most of them go through a lot of different stuff in life. Very very messy. I am in no way trying to make light of life.

            “You don’t read something that counters the Bible, so you can learn the truth of the Bible.” In regards to this, I did not mean that we need to live secluded lives solely reading the Bible and never communicating with unbelievers. Or hearing what others have to say about things. I only meant that we don’t need movies portraying someones life, especially when it doesn’t explain that even though this seems to occur in many lives, it’s still not right. It is very good for our faith to be tested. It’s definitely unbelievably difficult, but if it’s never tested, how will we know that we actually do believe in something? I didn’t mean that we should never be tested. But why fill our minds with things that are not of God? (Philippians 4:8)

            As for a couple living together before marriage. I guess it would depend on how you interpret the Bible. What you see as glorifying to God. Kristen made a post about this exact topic.

            And relating to murder being a sin. I guess the question would first need to be answered if whether or not you completely believe the Bible, or if you use parts of it. You said you didn’t just take it as law, but you questioned it. Also that what God did in the time of the Bible was “inexcusable”. God did not need to create us. He could have just made the earth, water, creatures and everything else but man. He has every right to do whatever He sees fit. Also, without God giving us a will, there would be no sin. Because all that He does is perfect. “God’s way is perfect. All the LORD’s promises prove true. He is a shield for all who look to him for protection.” Psalm 18:30 God is just in all that He does. Sometimes we want to scream at Him because we really don’t understand what on earth He is doing! We don’t see how He could allow our loved one(s) die. We question our financial situation, and doubt and doubt and doubt some more.

            I am right now going through Romans with some friends. We were on the second part of the first chapter. The question was how to explain righteousness to a new believer. It is clearly shown in verses 16 and 17. After talking for a while, the realization of how much God really just wanted to have a relationship with us just overwhelmed me. It’s just not something we’ll ever understand. He had it (the righteous relationship) with Adam and Eve, and then sin entered and separated them from having a righteous relationship with God. The only way it could be completely washed away was for Christ to be the sacrifice for us all. (Heb. 9:19-28) God obviously wanted this relationship with us more than anything. So much that He was willing to give up His only Son to be our salvation. Even though He knew all that we would do after Jesus’ death and resurrection, He still pursued us. I am sorry if it may come across that I am explaining the Gospel to you like you haven’t heard it before. From the sound of it you know it well. I simply was explaining what I had seen in studying those verses the other day.

            Standards. I realized that the way I told you to rethink your standards sounded judgmental, and incorrect. I responded hastily to something and have learned to think more before commenting on something. Especially when I am not sure if I will be understood in the way I meant. Thinking about it, the standards that Jesus set were in relation to what He said when questioned regarding which commandment was more important than another. (Mat. 22:37-40) I do not think that just because someone is sinning that you banish them and have no more association with them. No. You still believe what you believe, and if necessary let them know what you believe and why.

            “But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.” 1 Peter 3:15

            In the end, I still believe what I do about this situation. I don’t in any way mean to imply I know more than you, for I am sure I don’t, except what the Lord has shown me personally and in reading the Bible. I have stated, I hope clearly, what I believe about this. I did not mean to cause an argument, as that is not my cup of tea, to debate something with someone. Rather, I have taken that previous verse to heart. I know that sometimes I may not have the correct answer for every question, but I believe that the Holy Spirit will give me the words to speak when I need them.

            I am sorry if you have been hurt in the past by someone professing Christ. I hope that as we all are to do, even though it is so hard, you give your questions and worries to God, and He will provide us with all we need to know. He is good, all the time.

            Thank you for being honest. I hope this all made sense. As in everything, I pray that God was and will be glorified through this all. 🙂

          • OrangeGirl

            UGH! Another pick up by the filter. If you’re able to read this, then I succeeded in avoiding the filter.

            “In regards to this, I did not mean that we need to live secluded lives solely reading the Bible and never communicating with unbelievers… I didn’t mean that we should never be tested. But why fill our minds with things that are not of God?”
            You just contradicted yourself.

            “What you see as glorifying to God.”
            I honestly don’t much care for what is or is not glorifying to God. When I read the bible I see a violent God who only cares about a select few of his creations. I don’t much respect a being who massacres without care. If he cared, he wouldn’t kill his children.

            “And relating to murder being a sin. I guess the question would first need to be answered if whether or not you completely believe the Bible, or if you use parts of it.”
            Murder is wrong. I don’t need the bible to tell me how wrong that is.

            “God did not need to create us. He could have just made the earth, water, creatures and everything else but man. He has every right to do whatever He sees fit.”
            My mother could have chosen not to have children, but she did. She does not abuse me or my siblings and doesn’t kill us when we mess up too many times. I expect the same of a ‘loving’ God.

            “Also, without God giving us a will, there would be no sin. Because all that He does is perfect.”
            No. Murder is not perfect, it is sick and wrong. Whether or not I have the ability to consciously think that, it is still 100% wrong. A God that would condone it is not worthy of worship.

            “Sometimes we want to scream at Him because we really don’t understand what on earth He is doing! We don’t see how He could allow our loved one(s) die. We question our financial situation, and doubt and doubt and doubt some more.”
            Sometimes bad things happen, I don’t blame God. I’m not angry at him when people die. I’m angry at him when the bible specifies that he directly kills people.

            You were right in assuming that I know the gospel well. I do. All four, actually. My problem lies in the fact that I don’t agree with the idea of God’s punishment in the garden of Eden in the first place. Sure, punish Adam and Eve. But why their children? Why punish them if he is so forgiving? Why make death part of the price of forgiveness? For a God that controls the fabric of space and time, he sure does like death a heck of a lot.

            “I do not think that just because someone is sinning that you banish them and have no more association with them.”
            If you’re God, you just send them to h3ll. So why not do it on earth as well? If God is so angry about people not spreading his word and saving people from a h3llfire, then maybe he shouldn’t send people there in the first place.

            Please know that the harshness above is not directed towards you. I don’t like God very much at all. I think he’s cruel and manipulative and terrible to his creations. I believe he exists, but not that he is generally loving towards people. Not in the way that even the bible describes love.

            I appreciate your kind words and I urge you to believe what makes your life a more positive and easy thing to live. Truly, please, be happy.

            There is one thing I’d like to ask, what do you think of the writers of this blog saying that depression is caused solely by sin in one’s life?

          • OrangeGirl

            I really wish the two women who wrote this blog wouldn’t censor everything that is even slightly offensive. I thought my comment had posted, so I closed the browser. Now my entire comment is gone. Yeesh, this is so annoying.

            ” In regards to this, I did not mean that we need to live secluded lives solely reading the Bible and never communicating with unbelievers… I didn’t mean that we should never be tested. But why fill our minds with things that are not of God? (Philippians 4:8)”
            You just contradicted yourself.

            “What you see as glorifying to God. Kristen made a post about this exact topic.”
            First off, I don’t much care what is or isn’t glorifying to God. He is a being who wrongly murders his children. And for what? Because he can? Yeah, that’s rich. So many people decry abortion, but are okay with God dashing people to pieces. Secondly, Kristen and Bethany have said that people with depression just struggle with sin. I don’t take much of what they say to heart.

            “And relating to murder being a sin. I guess the question would first need to be answered if whether or not you completely believe the Bible, or if you use parts of it.”
            I don’t need a bible to tell me murder is wrong. If I did, then I’d be okay with senseless killing.

            “God did not need to create us. He could have just made the earth, water, creatures and everything else but man. He has every right to do whatever He sees fit.”
            No. I will never accept this terrible argument. And you want to know why? My mother didn’t have to have my siblings and I, but she did. She doesn’t abuse us. She doesn’t kill us because we sin too much. She loves us and doesn’t just get rid of us or banish us if we mess up. Even if I didn’t hold God to a higher standard (because you know, he’s God) then I would still at the very least hold him to the standard of my mother and father.

            “Also, without God giving us a will, there would be no sin.”
            Yes there would. Sin is doing wrong. Even if we were not aware of our wrongdoings, they would still be wrong.

            “Because all that He does is perfect. “God’s way is perfect.”
            Yeah, if I was an all-powerful being with no morals I would tell people I was perfect and that my way was just.

            “We don’t see how He could allow our loved one(s) die. We question our financial situation, and doubt and doubt and doubt some more.”
            Sometimes bad things happen. It sucks, but it happens. I don’t blame God for that. What I am angry at God for is the senseless killing he allows and COMMANDS that is littered throughout the bible. Another thing is how his ‘instruction manual’ is so easily interpreted to mean terrible things.

            “He had it (the righteous relationship) with Adam and Eve, and then sin entered and separated them from having a righteous relationship with God. The only way it could be completely washed away was for Christ to be the sacrifice for us all.”
            I have some questions for you. Why on earth would God make death the punishment for sin? Doesn’t that seem rather cruel to you? Would you condemn someone to death for messing up? Another thing, I think that an all-knowing, all powerful, ever present God would be able to come up with a way around sin that didn’t involve death (the killing of animals, sacrifice of Jesus). But he didn’t. He decided that bloodshed was the best way. I do not accept that.

            “Even though He knew all that we would do after Jesus’ death and resurrection, He still pursued us.”
            Yeah, he knew what we would do, so he made the alternative to heaven as hospitable as possible. For a so-called forgiving God he sure likes h3llfire a lot.

            “I do not think that just because someone is sinning that you banish them and have no more association with them. No. You still believe what you believe, and if necessary let them know what you believe and why.”
            It’s God’s job to send people to an eternity of pain and suffering. It’s just our job to make fluffy bunnies out of the situation. He’s sending people who don’t agree with him or choose his one tiny path, to h3ll. There is no way around that. That is barbaric.

            Please know, that after this whole comment, I do not hate you. I have a lot of love for you, friend that I’ll never know in person. I hate the teachings of God and how much of an uncaring sociopath he seems to be. To quote the bible, hate the in not the sinner. I hate some of the beliefs, but never ever the person.

          • OrangeGirl

            I have retyped the response three times now. I give up. This blog is terrible with its excessive censorship. I took out every single suggestive thing I could think of, and it still got picked up by their automatic moderation.

            If you want to email me, let me know. I’ll give you my email.

    • Kathleen Caldwell

      I agree. We, as Christians have different standards as the world. This was just portraying what happens to people ( in a very dreamy and musical way) that are not christians. Life is certainly not a bible fairy tail. I totally agree!

      • OrangeGirl

        “This was just portraying what happens to people ( in a very dreamy and musical way) that are not christians.”

        Not trying to pick a fight, but I see this every day with all kinds of people. Christian, atheist, Muslim, Jew, Buddhist, etc. It’s a human experience, not exclusive to any one people group.

    • Jane Almeida

      Life is messy with a capital M, and everything around is sick in this fallen world. Only that people should seek to reform even a handful of individuals through good movies or any other form of media depicting that no matter what, having a relationship with God is much MUCH better, and following His commandments, than wallowing in the pit of mud of an ungodly life. God would have people follow what He said as He knows what will bring peace of mind and a lot of other abstract benefits, which is through HIS way, though life ain’t good and easy.

  • MrsDWWatson

    OK, I have to ask: If this movie is about 2 people not being married but are living together how is is a “great” girl movie and why is it being promoted as good family entertainment? It flies in the face of what God wants for a relationship between a man and a woman and for their marriage. This is NOT a good movie! Don’t buy the lie! This is not what Christian girls need to be focusing on and pattering their life after! There are far better, moral movies out there for our young girls to watch. Don’t accept this as good entertainment – it isn’t!! Mrs. Doc Watson

    • OrangeGirl

      It’s a great girl movie because it accurately depicts life. Not everyone can live a perfect biblical marriage that so many aspire to. Though I haven’t seen the movie (romance films aren’t my thing) I appreciate that it told a human story.

    • Wolfsmädchen ChasingButterflie

      Some people can write such stories in a convincing way without glorifying the things that are not God’s best for us. I don’t think that every movie has to be “totally clean” without portraying real, broken and sinnig people. However, there are of course many movies and books that do not manage to NOT glofiry these things.

      But there are many people that do not know about God’s will for their life and they don’t think that these issues are problematic.

  • Tammy

    Although I haven’t seen the movie, and i do agree that it is important to remind young women who see films like this and have the tendency to take it to heart together with the culture around them to remind them about the consequences of sexual immorality. I do think that when it was said that “Only in la-la land can a girl feel unashamed as she runs into her former live-in boyfriend while on a date with her new husband.” It makes me think of the friends that i have who have made mistakes like that and struggle to believe that they really have been forgiven by God for their mistake. Because I’ve been learning that there is freedom in Christ from the shame of our sins. Although ofcourse in the context of a christian girl reading this and feeling like she is in the same position as the lead character of the movie. Perhaps for those who would be new to this, it would seem like an article that is just trying to bring down a movie. I think it could have also been an opportunity to edify the gospel here somewhere for those who have experienced what the leading characters experienced to know that they are not condemned when they have already found forgiveness in Christ

    • anonymous

      Yes, I agree with everything you said. This post would be a great opportunity to offer hope to those who have been in cohabitation relationships. Also, I think sometimes these articles paints these situations as abstract and that it’s us Christians against the culture. We do live by God’s standard, but remember we are all sinners and Jesus set us free. We can’t expect non-Christians to live by Christian standards, and when watching movies such as this one, all we need to do is remember these characters aren’t Christians and aren’t going to act like them. Depending on your personal convictions, you could watch some movies and “filter” out the negative aspects in the movie. Personally, I still want to watch this movie, but with other movies, I won’t watch them depending on how they stack up against my convictions.

      “Biblical orthodoxy without compassion is surely the ugliest thing in the world.”
      ― Francis A. Schaeffer

  • While I totally agree that the movie was problematic in that Mia and Sebastian were shown living together before marriage with apparently no regrets, I think La La Land should be given more credit than you’re giving it. Much of the love story was very sweet and innocent, and the costumes were surprisingly modest (the dress styles were delightful!). Other than the cohabitation business, it was a refreshingly sweet movie compared to what’s been coming out of Hollywood for years.

    • Val

      I agree!

  • I do not see it yet, but I read so many opinions and the approve is high. Must of it is because the movie represents a big part of the real life, how is living in this days.
    Before I tell anything about the movie, I’ll see first to have a good opinion. But I agree with you.

  • Molly

    I know it’s hard (or even impossible) to see when you embrace radical purity… but it is totally possible to not have hard feelings about a relationship that did not end in marriage. That’s just par for the course for a mentally healthy person.

  • Paola

    Very well said! Thank you.


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