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Living a Life that Younger Girls Should Mimic

By: Lisa Hallahan (guest)

The other day I was listening to a conversation between my youngest sister and youngest brother. As I sat there (harmlessly) listening to this conversation I heard my sister mimic something I had said earlier that day.

I had no idea that Cali had been in the room when I said it but apparently she was and had just repeated me. Same tone of voice and everything!

This got me thinking.

It just goes to show how easily young people pick up on positive and negative things that are so small and insignificant to an adult.

I began thinking back to what I learned when I was younger from those who were older than me. Honestly, I learned a lot. Some good, some bad.

Jesus said in Matthew 18:6 that “Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in Me to sin, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were drowned in the depth of the sea.”

Jesus was serious when it came to harming His children.

He is serious when it comes to you being harmed and pulled away from Himself and His Word too. We are to be the example to the children/teens/peers around us. We need to take our example of Christ’s Bride extremely seriously.

What do you think is being taught to our generation today? Think about the schools, think about the media, think about the culture.

What is being fed to you on a daily basis? Well, the little kids around you are a lot more susceptible to the influences of the world because they are younger and more vulnerable. The last thing they need is another worldly-minded person to look up too.

We should take up our responsibility as examples to the younger generation with enthusiasm and intention.

You are a shining light in the dark. A city on a hill. A generation builder. A culture influencer. Don’t let our culture and society influence or define you. Defy your peers who want to drag you down and make you one of them. Stand up to the crowd. Choose to be the influencer.

Instead of accepting the 21st century ways as the “norm” and complying with the ways of the world, you can influence the crowd.

You can.

You can start in your home, in your church, with your friends and even go beyond that.

The little 13 year old girl in your church will be an 18 year old soon. What will she look/be like then? What influence will you have had on her life?

When we take into consideration the lives and futures of the younger people it helps us reevaluate our actions and behaviors in the present time because of the influence we have on their lives.

What will you do to contribute to the influence on our younger people?

Will you, like Jesus, die to self and take your Christ-exemplifying role model position seriously and strive to point others to Him? Or will you ignore the calling and go with the tide of your peers?

Romans 12:1-2 says, “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”

When we refuse to be conformed to the world we are being conformed to Christ’s image and therefore becoming a living example to others.

Here are 3 ways to combat the ways of the world and become an example to those around you and especially those younger than you.

1. Get a New Identity.

When you accepted Christ into your heart you were given a new identity. You were covered by Jesus’ blood and bought with His love for you. You are highly valued and loved. When you make this your identity you become secure in your calling and no longer need people’s acceptance and approval to feel good about yourself.

By having this security in your identity you can choose to separate or pull away from conforming to the world. In doing so, your life will be a shining example to all who see you.

2. Be a Student of the Word.

Become a student of the Bible. Try to read at least one or more chapters in your Bible every day. Underline verses that stand out to you and write them down. Dig into the Word and listen for God’s voice. Do this every day.

Don’t get caught off guard by the devil. It’s important to keep your sword with you and knowing the Word of God is the best way to stay walking in the Spirit on a daily basis. This will not only keep your eyes open to recognizing the devil’s temptations of the world but it will inspire you to encourage and bless others in the way of the Lord.

3. Pay Attention to Others.

When you are in a public place, at church, school, or work, try to keep your eyes and heart open. Try to see how others are doing. Make yourself available to others by being kind, outgoing and talkative. If you see someone who might need an encouraging word in their day, walk up to them and be a blessing.

Don’t only pay attention to yourself and your friends. Be there for others just like Jesus.Also, don’t forget to do the same thing at home with your family. They are the most important people to be an example to.

Thank you for taking the time to read this.

I hope you will take some time to seriously evaluate what kind of role model you’re being to the younger girls around you.

  • Do your actions encourage younger girls to be pursue godliness in their actions, speech, dress and activities?
  • Would you be proud if a younger girl copied some of the things you do?
  • What are some things you can do to encourage the younger girls around you to become God-defined girls?

I would love to hear your thoughts on this topic so please leave a comments below.

*This guest post is written by Lisa Hallahan. To read more form Lisa, check out her blog called A Lovely Calling.  

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18 Responses to Living a Life that Younger Girls Should Mimic

  1. SavedbyGrace says:

    In my church, I’m sort of the only 18 yr old who wants to hang out with the little kids. Most of them, I babysit all the time:) Anyway, I believe that God has put me in this position to be there for these little girls especially. Most of the little girls don’t have an older sister, do have an older sister who doesn’t want to be there for them, or don’t even have a mom. All of these little girls hang out with me. They are all around the same age range, 9-12. Most of them are going through “that stage” that we’ve all been through at once:) And the more they grow up, the more they are trying to figure out what their image is. In other words, who they want to be, and who they want to imitate. One of the mom’s already told me that her little girl is now trying to dress like me. OF course I’m flattered,but I never knew that they would start copying me on the littlest things. It’s a great reminder to check what you’re wearing, what you say, who you hang out with, ect, Because, like you said in the post, you never know what little girl or boy is gonna repeat what you said, wear the clothing style that you wear, or hang out with the same type of friends that you do. My mom says, “You never know who is looking up to you when you’re put in the position of leadership, so be a leader that Everyone wants to follow.” Be the leader, and example that parents want teaching their children. This was an amazing post!!!!!. It was encouraging, and convicting to be the best you can be as an example, leader, and Bright Light for the younger generation. I pray that the Lord continues to help me be what I should for these little kiddos:) Pray for me, it isn’t always easy:)

    • Joy says:

      This is soo true SavedbyGrace a lady in our church has three daughters and she told me that one of them has been looking up to me and wanting to be a teen really bad a she even tries dressing like me in a way its flattering but in another way it scares me to death!

      • SavedbyGrace says:

        I don’t have any little sisters. So it is very scary knowing that a little soul is looking at you 24/7 for example, and guidance. But I’ve learned to be yourself, always being cautious with what you’re wearing, what the topic of your conversation is, and the older friends u hang out with (separate from the little kiddos). They r always watching, especially when u don’t think they are. It is hard to juggle your older and younger friends all at once. But look at it this way, u should be honored that this little girl chose you and not a bad influence:) Look after her like you would if she was your little sister!! I know I look after these 15 little girls, like they were the little sisters I never got:) I’ll be praying for you as you minister to this little one:) They are all so special, help point the ones that are looking to you, in the right direction!!! Proverbs 17:17

  2. Anna Jones says:

    Thank you for this article, Lisa! I’ve been thinking about this recently – on both ends of the spectrum, both the way I am being influenced and how I’m influencing others, specifically those younger than me. Thank you for the encouragement to “not be weary in well doing”!

  3. Elizabeth Williams says:

    I was just thinking about this last night! I am 22 and I was thinking about how much it would’ve meant to me, if when I was 12,13,14, I had had an older Godly Christian girl I could’ve looked up to. I would love if God places a young girl like that in my life who I can invest in and be an example to!

  4. Joy says:

    I love this! So true when I was this young I wish I had godly people to look up to! This will definitely be a challenge I will strive to complete!

  5. Guest says:

    This is such a good post! So important to remember!
    I have three younger sisters and there are many younger girls at my church, some of whom are beginning to show interest in talking to me. It’s so important to be reminded of how littler girls look up to us. I love spending time with them, and hope I influence them for good!
    Great post!

  6. Isa says:

    Hi, I’m from Brazil and I am learning English, your blog has been very helpful in learning to read and learn about how to be a girl of god.
    Love your post!

  7. Abby says:

    Great message! 🙂

  8. Lillian says:

    This is such a good post. I wan my little sister and her friends to be able to see me as a positive role model. I want them to be able to see that it is ok to be different than their peers and different than the world.

  9. Azi says:

    “Don’t only pay attention to YOURSELF and your friends.”

    I want to stress this point because I think that some of the best role models are the ones that do whatever they can to help others, and children take note of this. At least when I was a child, seeing really helpful, kind adults inspired me to want to do the same. for others. It’s easy to forget that we don’t live in a self-enclosed bubble of our own thoughts that’s hard to get out (case in point is myself). Interacting with compassionate people, however they may shape us in the future, helps to remind us of that. And so becoming that kind of adult is worth doing because it helps the kids that we know realize that as well.

  10. Sarah says:

    Good evening, this was exactly what I needed. And to be honest, I truly need help.
    Do you all have any pointers for me..?

    I have two foster sisters(11&14) both from different families, go to public school, and very much involved in the ‘modern’ day world (from dress, drama, music, you name it…) I feel like they are constantly testing me and seeking to belittle me because I live so ‘different'(especially the older one). I am 16, have been homeschooled almost all my life(took some live online classes too), grew up in a Christian family, strive to live for The Lord, seek to help others, chose to stay away from the worlds ‘modern’ dating system(along with saving my ‘first’ kiss for my husband), and also chose to stay away from much of the worlds ‘modern’ music, thus I enjoy hymns and classical music.

    I am trying to stay strong and be a Godly example, however, it is so hard to know what to do and say, when they constantly criticize me for the way I live and almost everything I do that is different. 🙁

    There are not many others like me around here.. However, like them.. There are thousands. In some ways, I wonder if their thinking, “I am fine the way I am. Why would I want to be different?! To change? She acts weird and has no ‘fun’.”

    When I was younger there were a couple girls in my church who I highly looked up to and they were a big influence upon me, I constantly wanted to be more like them in every way, and by looking back I feel like my influence is important for these girls.. However, I just don’t know how to show it in a way they would truly understand, grasp, and even want to follow.
    And to make things more complicated I really don’t have any encouragement myself, besides my mom. Where I live the people are very bitter and keep to them selves causing our churches to be very small. This also makes things hard, one of the girls explained she would not like living like me because she wouldn’t get to have ‘any’ or be able to hang out with all her ‘friends’ at school(referring to which kind of school she would prefer.)

    If there is any thoughts/suggestions whatsoever anyone has, please, I would appreciate it.
    Thank you for reading, and if you wouldn’t mind saying a little prayer for me to help me be an example to these girls and others around me, I would greatly appreciate it.

    • Abigail Cotton says:

      Hey Sarah I am praying for you and wanted to encourage you that during times when the best attempts you make at being an example are laughed off, know that God is sovereign and He is faithful to use your life as a light now or in that future-even when you don’t see it. Keep walking with Him and He wll “perfect that which concerns you” (Ps. 138:8)
      “May God make you worthy of his calling and fulfill every resolve for good and every work of faith by his power” (2 Thessalonians 1:11).

    • Allie says:

      If you are insulted because of the name of Christ, you
      are blessed, for the Spirit of glory and of God rests on you.
      1 Peter 4:14

      However, if you suffer as a Christian, do not be ashamed, but praise God
      that you bear that name.
      1 Peter 4:16

      Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute
      you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me.
      Matthew 5:15

      I hope that verses encourage you. God is with you, He is on your side!
      You´re blessed, and God is pleased! Praise the Lord!! He holds our hand and help us!

      You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord’s coming is near. 9 Don’t grumble against one another, brothers and sisters, or you will be judged. The Judge is standing at the door!

      Brothers and sisters, as an example of patience in the face of suffering, take the prophets who spoke in the name of the Lord. As you know, we count as blessed those who have persevered. You have heard of Job’s perseverance and have seen what the Lord finally brought about. The Lord is full of compassion and mercy.
      James 5:8-11

      I know it may be really hard, but run the
      race with your eyes fixed on Jesus. Seek Him continually to strengthen you and
      to give you wisdom and to comfort you.

      And, love them with a 1 Corinthians 13
      love! They need what you have. Maybe you could challenge them with questions about
      eternity, sin, salvation, the vanity of life. They do need Christ, but they
      need to realize it. And pray a lot for them and for grace.

      I´ll be praying for you.

    • Sam says:

      Thank you for sharing your story. I know it takes courage to share it, so thank you. What I would do in your situation would be to try to get to know your foster sisters. Be accessible to them. Be intentional to make time to talk and laugh and share stories with them. If they have a hard day at school, be there for them. That would be a great way to show them you love them and care for them. It might be rocky at first, but be persistent! I am praying for you!

    • Sarah says:

      Dearest Sarah,
      I understand only too well! I will be praying for you. My mom is my only and best friend, and I have younger sisters to responsibly set the example for.
      Have you read any of John MacArthur`s commentaries?!? They are SO GOOD! May God bless you richly with his spirit, and in everything you daily do around them!!! Read Hebrews 12 and rely on Christ alone, and he will be with you. Love and prayers, sister in Christ!!!

  11. Melea says:

    Thank you so much for posting! 🙂 I’m only 14, but I’m beginning to realize more and more that I need to strive to be a good example to the younger kids around me. I am the youngest of 7 kids, so I am used to being the one to look up to others, and not used to being the example myself, but as I get older, I am starting to realize that I need to change my mentality, and start to become that good influence on younger girls. I really appreciate your encouraging post 🙂

  12. Shanae B says:

    Really needed this reminder today! Too easy to forget that younger girls are watching us older girls.

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