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A Love Story in the Mind

By: Guest Blogger

She was thirteen years old when she was noticed for the first time by a guy.

Butterflies swarmed inside of her making her feel as if she was the most special thing in the world. She felt beautiful for the first time in her life, because no one had ever treated her like Austin did.

Her parents were very Godly people and always tried their best to raise their kids the right way. However, they came from a worldly background before they came to know the Lord, so they were well aware of what the world and Satan had to offer for their children.

Her parents warned her of the “angles” this Austin guy had up his sleeve. They told her that just because he appeared innocent, didn’t mean he was.

She let her parents’ advice go in one ear and out the other.

She never really listened to her parents because she thought she knew Austin more than anyone else did.

Months went by, and every Sunday she saw Austin at church, her heart leaped within her because he was always flattering her. Years went by, and it was always a new and wonderful flattering line every time he talked to her.

Austin and that girl talked all the time at church events, parties, family get-togethers, etc. To this young girl, nobody else got the “Austin Treatment” like she did.

This flirting and fantasizing over Austin went on for five years of this girl’s life.

Throughout the five years, she grew more rebellious. All to prove to her parents that she knew more than they did. It was pure act of defiance toward the authority God placed in her life.
God then brought her to this point in her life of absolute brokenness.

She realized how much sin she was in. She then repented after a long go at playing with sin. She finally realized that Austin was everything her parents warned her about. She really loved Austin, so much to the point that she broke her own heart.

She gave her heart to a guy who never loved her.

It was nothing but a fantasy she let her mind create. She finally let go of Austin knowing that, despite how much it hurt, it was what God wanted her to do.

The next few months for her were filled with tear stained pillows, sorrow, guilt, and anxiety.

There were so many times she cried out to God asking Him why? Questions like, “Why didn’t I just listen to my parents? Why didn’t I just do it your way, God? Why can’t I move on? How did I let this happen? I knew what the right thing was, yet I openly rebelled because my pleasure mattered more.”

All she could do was read God’s word, and pray that He would heal the brokenness she had. God started to slowly mend her broken heart. It took a long time for her to feel okay again. But I guess she wouldn’t be the girl she is today without the hardships she has endured.

I don’t know about y’all, but I know I can relate to this story. Perhaps, because this story is mine.

During this heartbreak, I felt like there was no end to the pain I was going through. There was no hope for this lost sinner stranded. I was ready to give up on life. And then I grabbed onto God’s anchor for my restless life.

He took me under His wings, and gave me the hope that I have today.

One of the verses that I held onto the most during that time in my life was Proverbs 3:5-6, which says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”

In conclusion, I want you younger girls (especially) to know something.

And take it from a girl who has been in your shoes before. Just because a guy tells you that you’re beautiful (which is probably true), doesn’t mean that he loves you. Don’t let your mind run away with you.

When a guy like this comes along, pray that God gives you self control to keep your emotions together. If you’re like me, chances are that the guy was just telling you what you wanted to hear.

Unfortunately on Austin’s part, his idea of a game was just a cruel joke. But on my part, I was not on top of my crazy emotions. I let myself believe that something was there, when there wasn’t.

Always listen to your parents too.

They have been on this earth longer than you have, so they know more. If I had listened to my parents, rather than rebel, chances are I wouldn’t have ended up getting into so much trouble.

All I can say is I made a choice that I will live with for the rest of my life.

But I have peace knowing that my mistake has been forgiven by my merciful Savior. 1 John 1:9, says “If you confess your sins He is faithful and just to forgive you of those sins, and to cleanse you from all unrighteousness.” Trust in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.

Let’s Talk…

– Have you been through an experience like this? If so, how did the Lord get you through it?

This guest post was written by Charlotte Mackenzie. If you’re interested in writing a guest post for GirlDefined, visit this page.

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13 Responses to A Love Story in the Mind

  1. Dolly says:

    This a really awesome post. Unfortunately, I am very much like you and have the same story. However I’m not quite out of the woods yet. Prayers would be nice. Thanks girlys!

  2. Moriah says:

    Thanks for the great post, Charlotte!! I’ve had a similar situation except mine was one where the guy was genuinely interested in me and didn’t know how to handle his emotions, how to approach my parents or even what he really wanted in life. All he wanted was me. For a short time, I did fall into the trap of “oh, he’s so sweet and he likes me, blah blah blah.” But I soon came to realize that we both had some growing up to do. My parents knew neither or us were ready for a relationship and didn’t want me to limit my options at the tender age of 16. I’ve realized that what God wants for me is so much bigger than what I could possibly imagine or desire and that He will make it clear in His own time. A God-written love story won’t be laden with confusion and doubt but peace and contentment.

    • Quite Distinguished says:

      I love your comment: “A God-written love story won’t be laden with confusion and doubt, but with peace and contentment.” What a great heart barometer. 🙂

    • SavedbyGrace says:

      Moriah, all I can say, is that if I had listened to my parents, I wouldn’t have broken my own heart. But if I didn’t go through this tough experience in my life, I would never have the respect for my parents that I have now. My relationship with both of my parents has grown sooo much. We can talk constantly about how not to make the same mistake again. I’m just really thankful to God that all that happened in this experience with “Austin” was just a heartbreak, and not something more serious!! God spared my life from soo much real hurt and possibly un-fixable mistakes. I learned that “Austin” today is all of the things that my Father said he was back when I first met him. Turns out “Austin” was never really saved like he claimed he was. He told me himself, a few months ago that “the whole salvation stuff was just to impress my parents:(” But thankfully God has saved me and has mercifully opened my eyes to what I was once blinded by in this situation! Praise His name that this post was encouraging to you!! God Bless You and I’m praying for your future with the “God written love story” that you deserve!!

      • Moriah says:

        That is amazing how God worked in your life to bring you closer to Him as well as to your parents! I have learned to confide in my mother and older brother in this area and others areas that God has shown me I can’t do on my own. It’s very sad that “Austin” wasn’t truly devoted to God. But praise God for how He transforms all of us. Thank you for your sweet blessing! May God do the same for you!

  3. Madeline says:

    Thank you for this post! I really try to remember to guard my heart because I want to protect myself from the heartbreak. I think I should share this website with my friends because I find it helps me a lot. 🙂

  4. Ephie says:

    Just recently, I went through something like that. I believed all the lies, at one point I was aware of how wrong things were and I insisted I could change the circumstances and got into really big trouble, then I asked God to intervene but things were not my way, so that means that I ended up breaking my own heart, too.
    Now I’m still in the process of healing, my Heavenly Father is doing his amazing work, but it’s a really hard and (I suppose) long process. I’m a little stubborn and want things my way, but getting your heart broken by your very own self because you insist on sin, that is something no one can live forever and it’s not what God intends for us.

  5. Painting says:

    Thank you for this post! How do u know if a guy actually likes you or he is just pretending to like you?

    • Kaitlyn Neese says:

      For me, at least, I know if a guy likes me by the was he treats me. I’ve asked a lot of my friends what they think, and we’ve all come up with a few things we think are the way you can tell if a guy likes you.
      1. He makes time to be around you.
      2. He cares about what you have to say, and will make time to listen to your problems.
      3. He will do things for you.
      4. And finally, he will compliment you. And not want anything in return.
      I really hope this helped! 🙂

      • emmalee says:

        well my crush doesn’t really apply to these things. i wonder if he is just too scared to do anything for me??

        • Kaitlyn Neese says:

          I know for a fact most guys are. It actually took my boyfriend a while to do some of those things. You can’t lose hope. I thought that he would have never asked my out, but here we are, 3 months into our relationship. And honestly, I’m really grateful for the fact that he waited so long to ask me out. Cause if he hadn’t I don’t think I would be in the place I am right now, with God. So, just keep watch out for if he does any of those things, and pray to God to see if he really wants you to go out with him.

  6. Janet says:

    I can totally relate. It’s tempting to associate the tiniest nice remarks of a guy as romantic signals, but, as Kristen mentioned in a previous post, that is not the main ingredient of true love. For me, there is a guy in my life that I’m tempted to interpret smiley faces in his texts as romantic signals when in reality they are not, and I’m trying to keep my focus on Christ instead. It’s a lot easier to have a pure brother-sister in Christ friendship and intentionally focus your words and your actions on pointing each other to Him instead of trying to impress each other or pick up romantic flings here and there. It’s also very painful when (I also made this mistake once) you like a guy, he clearly has no interest in you, although he’s not acting clearly repulsed, just neutral, and you still bank all your hopes on him and dream of being in a relationship… only to find out eventually that it was all simply a dream and nothing in real life is going to happen. The heartbrokenness is almost as bad as a divorce-style breakup of a marriage-style dating relationship. The best thing I could say is to KEEP YOUR EYES ON JESUS, regardless of what happens with the guy, Jesus will never fail you. He is your all in all! He is your comforter and friend, and way more trustworthy than any boyfriend that claims to do so.

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