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What Marilyn Monroe Didn’t Have

By: Kristen Clark

She starred in thirty major films, was awarded the Golden Globe for “Female World Film Favorite,” started her own production company, voted “2nd Greatest Movie Star” of all time by Premiere Magazine, and was chosen by Empire Magazine as one of the “100 Sexiest Stars in Film History.”

She was beautiful, talented, successful, and seemed to have everything a girl could dream of, except for one thing – happiness.

Her life came to a tragic end on August 5, 1962 due to a drug overdose. She was only 36 years old.

Sadly, this is the story of America’s most iconic woman, Marilyn Monroe.

The cultures false version of beauty and success.

Like Marilyn, millions of girls are chasing after happiness and satisfaction down the same dead end road. Our culture teaches you that to be worth anything you need to be pretty, sexy, smart, athletic, skinny, wealthy, popular, etc.

Bethany and I just got back from a trip to Mississippi where we spoke to a group of teen girls about this very topic. After our session, their eyes were opened to the same truths that I’m going to share with you now.

Our culture is constantly feeding you the lie that your worth is based on your beauty and your accomplishments.

Obviously this method of looking for worth isn’t working because Marilyn Monroe had a lot of the accomplishments on the list and she wasn’t happy. How could such a talented, beautiful, famous and rich women feel worthless enough to kill herself?

Simply this: We will forever struggle with feelings of worthlessness and depression until we turn to the only One who has the power to fill our void.

Our status of worthiness has nothing to do with us and everything to do with God.

What true beauty and success really look like.

No matter how famous and pretty a girl is, or how poor and unattractive she is, her worth and value are found in the same place. 

Your worth doesn’t come from anything you do, but from everything Christ already did for you. If you’re a Christian, God calls you a child of God. And because you’re a child of God, He looks at you and sees royalty. You are His most prized possession.

Psalm 139:13­-14 says, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

Not only are you a child of the King, God was knitting you together in your mom’s womb to look just the way you are. Just like an artist creating a masterpiece, God handcrafted your hair color, eye color, skin tone, height, nose shape, ears, and body to look just the way He wanted it to.

Our culture may not consider you to be very special, but God does. And He’s the only One who owns the rights to say how worthy you are.

Applying God’s secret recipe for lasting worth.

If you’ve ever struggled with feelings of worthlessness, then it’s time to apply God’s secret recipe to your life. The reason any Christian girl struggles with these feelings is because we take our eyes off of Christ and start judging ourselves based on the world’s standards.

The minute you look to someone or something other than Christ to tell you your worth, you will go downhill. It’s a guarantee.

The secret to being content is to keep your eyes and heart on THE truth. Keep your mind filled with what God says about you and ignore the ever changing standards of our culture.

After all, our lives shouldn’t be about us anyways, but about serving God and glorifying Him. He gave you the body and features you have and He wants you to gratefully glorify Him with it.

If only Marilyn Monroe had understood these truths, her life would have ended very differently.

I want you to ask yourself these three questions. Answer honesty:

  1. Who are you allowing to define your worth and value?
  2. Have you ever thanked God for the body and features He gave you?
  3. Do you truly view yourself as a daughter of the King?

There’s a lot more we could talk about here but I’m out of time. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic as well as any additional insights you have. Please share whatever is on your heart and mind in the comment section below!

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17 Responses to What Marilyn Monroe Didn’t Have

  1. Jacey Faith says:

    Thanks for this topic. I had no idea Marilyn Monroe died that way, it just goes to show that even the rich and famous don’t have real happiness.

  2. Moriah Mari says:

    This is so true. I think one thing I find so discouraging is how so many people believe that a girl’s value is in her looks/her body and so they believe that that is your worth. I don’t want people to give me my worth because of how I look etc. Does this make sense?

  3. CT says:

    I used to think this way because I was the girl who wore no makeup and was always behind on the fashion, and didn’t have many friends. Now that I’ve realized my identity in Christ, it’s taken away my grief and my bitterness. And even though I still struggle sometimes with picking an outfit from my closet, there are times when I tell myself, “hey, God accepts you just as you are, so pick something that honors Him. It doesn’t have to be the prettiest thing you have, and don’t worry if you don’t have anything prettier.” But one thing that I am still concerned about is now that I wear contacts, I am sometimes hesitant to wear my glasses when I’m out anywhere (basically anywhere other than inside my house) because a) I look younger than I am (e.g. 14 vs 17), and b) I feel like people stereotype me if I look more Asian with my glasses, when I prefer to be considered just as an American and blend in among my peers. Now some of them, like those in my church do accept me, but what about when I’m trying to win some of my secular friends to Christ? I feel like they’re thinking, “here’s an outcast Asian sharing the gospel with me” vs “here’s a typical (fitting) American sharing the gospel with me”. I want to be winsome at the same time. Any advice?

    • GirlDefined says:

      Hey CT,

      Thanks for sharing your struggles with us. We love to hear what’s going on in your life 🙂 I think you need to remember that God is the one who works in the hearts of your friends and those you are trying to share the gospel with. He doesn’t need the stereotypical “American” girl to spread the good news. I would encourage you to think back to some of the great Heroes of the Faith and remember that God used some pretty unique people to make a huge impact.

      If you are willing God will use you. Don’t believe the lie that “if I was only more American then I could make an impact” God want’s your faithfulness not a different appearance. Be faithful with the Gospel and God will do the rest 🙂

  4. Virginia says:

    I’m told I’m ugly all the time it is hard to not hear them and I started to believe them I got so tired of it I started to where make up than I realized they wanted me to be ugly then I went to Parkview Church of God on the 18 and stopped listening to them and started to pray for them and there starting to get a little nicer every day.

  5. JR says:

    Thanks for let God use you girls in such a beutiful way.
    Actually, I struggle with this topic every since I became (or tried to be) a godly girl.
    God has spoken to me over and over about my worth, but it just seems like I don’t get it.
    He talks to me, (like he did right now trough this text) and for some time, I keep this. But some months ahead, there is the feeling of worthless again.
    I now this is not healthy, and I’m going trough this dificult time in my life that I don’t know what to do about my career (I’m 23 and have just graduated, but don’t wanna work with that) and because of that I just feel worthless.

  6. Isabelle says:

    Thanks for this text. I hope God bless you to make this website a place when girls can glorify God.

  7. Elizabeth Williams says:

    This is something that I have to admit that I struggle with a lot more than I’d like to. It’s definitely the message girls are being told everywhere. Maybe not so much in actual words, but more by the way the world puts stuff out there. I think it’s so sad when you see a young girl who feels she has to dress showing off her body to get attention.

  8. joy says:

    Thanks for the insight. I go this unworthiness feeling over and over again. I am married with one beautiful gal and with a second on the way. ever since I moved in with my husband, things changed after sometime. he told me how fat i got and never complements me on anything even when I know i look good in this and that. This has stolen away my self esteem and I always feel that I do no look the kind of a wife she wants or even feel confident out there. I cry over it many times and pray that God opens his eyes since i was in perfect shape when we met and before our baby.

  9. Marla Erika Suan says:

    Yes. God’s truth truly can only sets me free. Free from comparing myself to other people. I felt grateful God designed me uniquely and can live as His daughter. Liberating truth. Thanks for sharing.

  10. ts says:

    mm was born into a tragic family, her life was marked by sorrow. the sultry lust filled image was brought about bc she had no one who loved her. she was abused and neglected and women follow her life not knowing it was birth in the crucible of pain. and she died tragically.

  11. Kennedy Sim says:

    I love this blog post! I remember just a few weeks ago I felt so worthless of myself so when I saw this happening I started looking in the mirror and telling myself that God made me beautiful and I looked into the mirror and said those words I felt happy with myself because I am beautiful in the eyes of God and that is enough for me to be happy with me <3

  12. JezebelBoleyn says:

    Normally I ignore stuff like this (boring fundamentalist Christian bull) but you’ve dragged my innocent baby Marilyn into this so I’m gonna rant. MARILYN WAS NOT HAPPY BECAUSE SHE SPENT HER ENTIRE CHILDHOOD BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED DEALING WITH HER MOTHERS MENTAL ILLNESS BEING SENT FROM FOSTER HOME TO FOSTER HOME MARRYING AT SIXTEEN TO STAY OUT OF AN ORPHANAGE BEING SEXUALLY ABUSED AS AN ADULT AND MISOGYNY IN THE FILM INDUSTRY! Don’t act like if she read the Bible she would have been happy, Marilyn was not that type of woman. Also she most likely didn’t commit suicide. Her death was an accident, she was on a deadly cocktail of sleeping pills (you know cause she couldn’t sleep as most childhood sexual abuse victims cannot sleep at night) and may have messed up her dosage and accidentally overdosed. Get your toxic crap away from my angel. Read a book or watch a documentary to actually learn about Marilyn.

  13. Eve Morningstar says:

    No. Marilyn’s life ended as tragically as it did because of the atrocities that happened to her in her youth. She was an amazing and beautiful woman who overcame sexual, verbal, and emotional abuse at the hands of several ‘foster parents’, fought for the rights of her African-American and LGBTQ+ friends, made it in a very hard industry, and was one of the few to do it on talent alone, and not by sleeping with powerful men to get what she needed. Marilyn Monroe is one of the best role models we can have for young women this day. She is considered to be the sexiest woman to have ever lived, but she was no pixie. She had curves, and with all the images of sunken skeleton models we see, that is very important.

    The unhappiness that led to her death was not a lack of anything but the proper chemicals that her brain was not producing, through no fault of her own. As a Christian girl with numerous mental health issues, I can tell you that God gives His hardest battles to His strongest warriors, but sometimes, He calls them back to Him.

    ‘What is, is what must be.’

  14. Quite harsh on a woman. She did have a very poor and troubled upbringing, and was alone in a “casting couch” ruthless industry.

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