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Modesty Hacks and Fashion Tips with Hello Modesty

By: Bethany Beal

Big tears streamed down my face. I just knew I was destined to a life of drabby, old-fashioned clothing. I was sixteen, and my parents and I were having another modesty conversation.

I wanted to be fashionable, but I felt like my parents were dooming me to a life of turtlenecks and bonnets.

They did their best to explain that modesty didn’t have to look old-fashioned.

They encouraged me to have fun and explore styles but not to compromise on my modesty standards.

After years of trial, error, tears, and lots of creative thinking, I’ve finally come to understand the balance of fashion and modesty my parents were pushing for. They were right! I can dress modestly while still looking totally adorable. I don’t have to choose one or the other.

Fashion and modesty truly can go hand-in-hand.

Maybe you’ve experienced a “tears streaming down your face” moment too. You want to have fun with your fashion, look trendy, but still pursuing modesty. You feel discouraged because you can’t seem to find the balance.

I’m here to bring you some awesome news. It can be done! You can dress cute and trendy without giving up on modesty.

Today I want to bring in one of the pros to give us some of her tips and tricks.

I’ve decided to interview Rebekah Baird, who is the founder of the Instagram page, Hello Modesty. Rebekah is nineteen years old and has a passion for encouraging Christian girls in the areas of fashion, beauty, and modesty. She’s created an entire blog to inspire all of us in this area.

I asked her a few questions and she gave some awesome answers. Here’s what she has to say about combining modesty and fashion:

1. How do you dress modestly while looking totally adorable in the process?

I’ve learned that it takes a lot of creativity to dress fashionably and modestly. It’s not impossible; it just takes extra work. Creativity is the name of the game! When I see a new fashion trend hit the stores, I creatively think of ways to make that trend work in a modest way.

2. What are some of your favorite modesty hacks?

I absolutely love modesty hacks! They help me maintain my fun sense of fashion while still remaining modest. A few of my favorites are:

  • Denim jackets over tight shirts or shirts that don’t have enough coverage.
  • Fitted tees underneath spaghetti strap dresses is really easy and stylish.
  • Long shirts are great for adding extra coverage to the rear area if the pants are tight.
  • Camisoles. I wear them under everything to add coverage up top and to keep my midriff from showing.

3. Can you share with us a few of your favorite trendy pieces?

I love the hair scarf (not to be confused with a regular scarf) because it adds a really cute touch to just a plain outfit. Hairstyles make a big difference with the outfits. I personally love cute hairstyles because they add a super fun touch. I also love a fun lip color. I feel like it adds a great pop to the outfit.

4. Do you have any wisdom or advice to share?

Modesty doesn’t have to be about dressing old-fashioned; you can dress trendy in a modest and feminine way. It just takes a little extra effort. Don’t compromise your modesty standards, just get creative.

If you want more on this topic, check out Project Modesty: How to Honor God With Your Wardrobe While Looking Totally Adorable in the Process

It’s your turn.

  • How do you maintain modesty while still dressing fashionably?
  • What are a few of your favorite modesty hacks?

PS: For more tips and tricks from Rebekah, check out her Instagram Hello Modesty.

Photo Credit: Ellissa Baird

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36 Responses to Modesty Hacks and Fashion Tips with Hello Modesty

  1. hannah says:

    I love shopping at old navy they almost always have modest stuff and one of my favorite modesty hacks is to put a skirt under a dress that is to short.

  2. Bella D. says:

    Sewing! You can make anything work if you know how to sew just a little bit. When I buy camis from the store, they’re usually too low down in the front to serve the purpose I bought them for, so I fold the straps a little bit and sew them into place with just a few stitches, and it works like a charm. You can also add an extra length of lace or trim to something that’s too short, or make things cuter by replacing buttons.

    Always shop at thrift stores! Thrift stores really fuels creativity, plus the discount you get buying things second or even third hand. Even though my family has enough money to buy whatever we need brand new, I rarely buy my clothes new just because I like thrift stores so much.

    Also, as a bonus, maxi dresses are taking the fashion stands by storm these days, and they can be very modest even without doing anything to some of them to make them work.

  3. Sea Star says:

    I think Rebecca’s answer to #1 is the heart of the issue for me – dressing modestly allows me to use creativity! It makes me feel like an artist to try out new outfits, make sure they fit my personal modesty checklist, and look nice along the way.

    My favorite thing is colors. The right colors for you make your eyes pop and draw attention to the face (for me, that can be royal blue or bright jewel tones. I’ve got a friend who looks stunning whenever she wears pastels). You can use colors strategically that way – plus, they’re lots of fun. One general rule I follow is that an outfit that’s on the form-fitting side should cover lots of skin, but an outfit that doesn’t cover as much should be loose and breezy. Also, have you noticed that the loose, baggy look is in right now? I’m seeing fashion catalogs showcasing long, high-necked, loose tops over shorts or slim jeans. Let’s take advantage of this look while it’s still in style! 🙂

  4. Allison Bontrager says:

    This is BEAUTIFUL, you dear girls! Thank you for sharing this message with such love + grace + class. You make modest look good! Most of all, making our LORD look good.

  5. Shanae B says:

    Such a great post, this topic is very near and dear to my heart! I actually personally did this myself throughout my life! All throughout my teen years I was rediculed for sticking to my modesty standards (even in shorts and a T-shirt). But I never comprised and have no regrets in this! Modesty was attacked back then and is more so now. Thanks
    for posting about this!

  6. Erika says:

    I actually decided way back when I was a child to ditch fashion entirely. I never felt comfortable in pants or shirts with pictures on them and so, as soon as I could I got rid of both. Last year I only wore skirts and dresses (no more pants, finally!) and now I have enough ankle-length dresses with pretty flower prints that I basically only wear those, because they are comfortable, practical (they have a good-sized pocket on one side!!) and I have learned how to sew some more myself should I ever need more. I’m not saying everyone has to wear this kind of outfit or that any other way pf dressing can’t be modest, it’s just what I have arrived at 🙂

  7. Mai says:

    A few years ago, I was convicted about my approach toward femininity, and I now wear skirts almost all the time, unless I’m doing something that requires bending or lifting that would make a skirt immodest or unsafe. With the transition to skirts, I had to take a HUGE step back and re-think all my modesty tricks. For example, I used to LOVE long shirts (or too-short dresses) over jeans, but those extra-long shirts almost always look frumpy over skirts. Needless to say, my modesty hacks have changed, and here are the ones I like most NOW:

    -ALWAYS wear clothing that fits you well. Too big, and it looks frumpy; too small, and (even if you’re fairly thin like me) you’ll have weird bulges and immodest tight spots.

    -Wear shirts that hit at your hip, and not much lower. This allows more of the skirt to show which lengthens your legs (alternatively, try tucking the blouse into a high-waisted skirt with a belt). For some reason, though, this rule does not apply to well-fitting winter/rain coats; if they’re belted and they hit about mid-thigh, they look great
    -Avoid chunky shoes, especially when wearing knee-length or calf-length skirts. Skirts add a lot of width to the lower half of a woman’s figure, so I’ve found that the smaller the shoe, the more balanced the overall outfit looks. My shoe styles lean toward: for casual – flats, thin sandals or flip flops, or very low-ankled sneakers with very low ankle socks; for workout – petite tennis shoes with ankle socks; for winter: boots that hug tightly to the leg (regardless of the height of boot) and make the foot look as thin as possible; for dress I almost never have a problem, because women’s dress shoes/pumps/heels are generally made to look good when wearing a “dress”!

    Beautiful post, I really enjoyed it. God bless.

  8. Ana says:

    Not enough practical advice (except 4 things she already shared, I am a long-time reader) nor images. Please make your articles more detailed, not repetitive and sloppy.

  9. Clarissa says:

    Thank you, ladies, for those of you who have commented about wearing skirts. When I was first introduced to the idea that pants do not belong on women, I at first thought it was crazy! Over time, the Lord opened my heart to understand the Biblical principle behind this. God created the human race to be male and female. These two genders are to have distinct appearances – the woman should not wear that which PERTAINS to a man (Deuteronomy 22:5). Pants is a sign of leadership – hence the saying “who wears the pants in the family” – which God intended for the man! We also know that the sign for restrooms is a woman wearing a dress. Furthermore, pants on women came about as more women entered the workforce in the mid 1900s, and the two people who were influential in designing pants, particularly tight ones exposing the female figure, and making it popular on the market, were a homosexual and a feminist. No doubt that this has played a role in the fight for transgender rights, and breaking down the God-ordained line of distinction between men and women. Especially in the secular world we live in today, I wear skirts as a way of proudly saying, I am a female, the way God created me, and I am not ashamed of my Creator!

    • Rashka says:

      This is a disgusting way to view the world. It is so damaging to imply that women shouldn’t have leadership qualities as this is only “something that belongs to a man”. Women should have just as much opportunity to be a leader and be powerful as a man as although there are differences it doesn’t mean one should be more in control than the other. Women should not be made to feel below or weaker than a man. I also notice how men are not told to dress modest or in a way that would not attract sexual thoughts and desires. Why would god even bother giving us lust if he didn’t want us to give in to it ? Why not make us slaves to his will and make sure we didn’t have free thought to disobey him ? These teachings makes God sound like a facist dictator with misogynistic tendencies and one I would hate to worship and look towards for guidance. DISGUSTING!

    • Laura says:

      Why should the same intrinsic quality (leadership) be praised in men but deemed rebellious in women? There are clearly many women in the church who were called to leadership, including the ones you’re learning from right now (Kristen & Bethany).

      • hannah says:

        Vary true!

      • Wondering says:

        Because even the bible says that men are the leaders and that women should not teach in the church…
        I’m saying you can’t teach other women like Bethany and Kristen do but you shouldn’t teach men.

        • Laura says:

          So what you’re saying is a woman could never have an insightful thought on her own that God would deem worthy of being shared with men in the church? I’m so sorry you believe that.

        • Wondering says:

          I’m sorry there was a typo in this post I meant Kristen and Bethany can teach other women, like they are. But God says clearly in his word that women are naught to teach men.

    • Geritude says:

      I truly hope you enjoy life despite your ridiculous and narrow minded opinion.

      • Wondering says:

        And how is it a ridiculous and narrow minded opinion?

        • ANONYMOUS says:

          I do not think that women only should wear dresses/skirts. Pants can be modest, and appropriate for everyday wear. Pants are comfortable and practical. In everyday situations, pants are often a more practical choice to wear. I will NEVER wear only pants, and I think that this is a very narrow minded opinion. This is not a good idea.

  10. Caroline says:

    Leggings or tights under skirts or dresses that are a little too short.

  11. IAmMe says:

    Ummm did everyone forget that the book these girls love to preach? Because as far as I remember, modesty was NEVER a thing in God’s perfect world. Humans did not know modesty till Adam and Eve ate the apple… them suddenly hiding their flesh was how God knew they had eaten the forbidden fruit IN THE FIRST PLACE.
    Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”

    2 The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, 3 but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’”

    4 “You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman. 5 “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

    6 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. 7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.

    8 Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden. 9 But the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?”

    10 He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.”

    11 And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?”

    12 The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”

    13 Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?”

    The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”

  12. Snarky says:

    Ehhh just wear whatever you want, seriously…..

  13. Melissa says:

    Halftees are my go to modesty hack! Camisoles most of the time don’t work for me. Plus I get the halftee that has a cap sleeve which works great for dresses and shirts with no sleeves!

  14. hannah says:

    ur #1 can be helped by long shirts. ur #2 in some jobs u have to wear pants and ur #3 i know u can do so much in skirts but pants r more convenient u dont have to worry about bending over which i do alot of.

  15. Nola says:

    There is no logical reason why we need to dress modestly. Your stomach isn’t private, it is literally what food goes into, shirts under spaghetti strap dresses look stupid, and there is nothing wrong with tight pants or shirts. You literally aren’t even showing skin. There is no good reason why people need to cover up their bodies. Our bodies aren’t inherently sexual, you are the one sexualizing people by telling them that their bodies are sexual objects that need to be hidden, for I don’t know what reason.

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