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Does the Month of February Put You in a Bad Mood?

By: Bethany Beal

The month of love. The month of romance. The month of roses, chocolates and romantic candlelit dinners. February is known for loading the stores with speciality gifts, beautiful bouquets and heart melting cards. Red, pink and hearts fill the aisles reminding us that it’s almost Valentine’s Day!!!

What a fun holiday…if you have a guy! For the rest of us, Valentine’s Day is known as none other than, “Singles Awareness Day.” The day we are confronted with the fact that we are still single.

Instead of enjoying the month of February, we, as singles, dread it. We dread the flowers. Dread all the romance in the air. Dread all the mushy pictures being posted by our friends. Dread all the talk of relationships and dread the idea of being single for another Valentine’s Day.

Can I be real with you for a minute? 

I want to be married. I want to have someone special on Valentine’s Day. I’ve dreamed of the day when I can finally have someone to call “mine.” Someone to share a candlelit dinner with. Someone who will show up on my front porch holding a bouquet of roses.

The fact is, my dreams of love are still just dreams.

Love is in the air and I’m very much not in the air. I’m about as far down on the ground as a girl can get. No true love. No romance. No candlelit dinners waiting for me.

So what’s a girl to do? 

I’m guessing many of you girls are in the same boat as me. You are sooo single and you’re wondering how to enjoy yourself when everything around you screams, “love, romance and relationships.” 

I feel ya girl. It can be hard. But…not impossible.

I’ve been single for twenty-six years and I’ve learned a few things. I’ve learned that I don’t have to dread the month of February. I don’t have to mope around, hating the fact that I’m still single. I don’t have to feel sad and depressed. I don’t have to walk through the store and despise every rose that I see.

I’ve learned that I can have those natural, God given desires for love and romance, and still remain perfectly content with my current state of singleness.

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner and to be honest, I’m not dreading it at all. I honestly am not sad one bit. Yes, I’m looking forward to the day when I can celebrate it with my own true love, but, that doesn’t ruin my Valentine’s Day this year.

I definitely don’t have all the answers, but I do have some. Here are a few of the ways that I’ve learned to totally enjoy February as a single girl.

1. God hasn’t changed. 

Seriously think about what I’m saying. God created the entire universe from nothing. He brought the Israelites out of Egypt in a miraculous way. He parted the Red Sea. He shut the mouths of the lions and saved Daniel. He helped Joseph interpret dreams and made him second in command. Do you realize that that very same God is the one in control of your love life?

God is perfect in love and infinite in wisdom. He has a proven track record of taking care of His people. You have nothing to worry about. God is completely sovereign and will accomplish His purposes. You can rest knowing that if God wanted you to have a guy on Valentine’s Day, you would have one.

When I remember who God is, I stop worrying. I have soooo much comfort in the fact that God has me exactly where He wants me. I don’t need to feel sorry for myself because God is in control. He obviously wants me to be single right now and I need to serve Him as best I can. God hasn’t changed. His character is still the same. We can trust in Him.

2. Spend time with your favorites 

Another way that I fend of the “Valentine’s Blues” is by spending time with people. I find people I love being around and then be with them. I don’t sit by myself mourning my singleness. I stay busy. I stay purposeful. I surround myself with people I love.

This year my family is hosting a huge Valentine’s Party for single aged people. We play games, have a dessert competition, talk and just enjoy each others company.

I would highly recommend planning an activity with people. Invite your girl friends over. Plan a game night with your family. Do something with people you love.

3. Plan a project that takes your eyes off of yourself. 

There are so many great ways to spend your time investing in others. We got an e-mail earlier this week from a girl putting together a Valentine’s challenge called “1,400 Cards By Valentine’s Day.” She is asking people to write Valentine’s cards and mail them to an orphanage. What an awesome way to get your eyes off of yourself and invest into others.

If that idea doesn’t work, you could bake cookies for your elderly neighbors. Write encouraging letters to each family member. Cook a special meal for your family. It doesn’t matter what it is, just do something.

Just a few ideas…

Those are just a few of my ideas. Feel free to add to my list by commenting in the section below. I want this Valentine’s Day to be marked by joy and contentment and I want yours to be the same.

What ideas do you have for making this Valentine’s Day a joy and not a dread?

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Does the Month of February put you in a Bad Mood?

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52 Responses to Does the Month of February Put You in a Bad Mood?

  1. kelsey says:

    I usually spend my Valentine’s day with my family and text “happy Valentine’s Day” with a small message to everyone I know. Sharing Valentine’s day with loved ones and being happy and blessed that they’re a part of my life is a great feeling and that’s what Valentine’s Day means to me.

  2. Cleo says:

    To make my valentines day joyful, I’m planning to spend it reading more the words of God, and I’m planning also to join/listen again the True love waits seminar and workshop.
    And I think that’s the usual thing, I do during Valentines… Bible study attending seminar and workshop about true love waits and spending times with my family. And I’m blessed to be single.
    And for all singles out there just always think for your singleness as a blessing.
    Happy Valentines day to all… Be joyful always with God.

    • GirlDefined says:

      Cleo, what a great way to spend Valentine’s Day. I love that you are going to spend time in God’s Word and listen to the True Love Waits Seminar. Thanks for jumping in and sharing your ideas with us 🙂

  3. Allison says:

    Around the 14th of February, I like to spend some extra time relishing in the love of my King. When we spend time meditating on God’s love, the love of a man pales in comparison. Even if we don’t have an earthly prince, we do have a heavenly One, and can make Him the center of our love, especially on Valentine’s day.

    • GirlDefined says:

      Allison, you have some great insight. I love what you said here, “Even if we don’t have an earthly prince, we do have a heavenly One, and can make Him the center of our love, especially on Valentine’s day.” Thanks for sharing with the rest of us!

  4. Rysten Holt says:

    I never really celebrate Valntines Day, but what I do is spend time with Jesus. I pray and thank God for another for year for being single.
    I pray for my future hubby and write a letter to my future hubby, and then I read the Bible. then I watch Bones or something funny

    • GirlDefined says:

      Writing a letter to your future husband is a great idea. I’m sure one day he will be very blessed by your letters and the reminder that you were faithful as a single woman. Thanks for sharing 🙂

    • Elisabeth says:

      Wow, @RystenHolt what a great idea!!I might try that this year!!

    • Elizabeth Williams says:

      I love the idea of writing a letter to your future husband. I may have to do that!

  5. SavedbyGrace says:

    My family always does this special candlelit dinner. We don’t necessarily celebrate Valentine’s day, just the love for each other on that day:) It’s always so much fun. Just wish there was someone new to spend it with:) My older sister is still single. She definitely knows how it feels to have everyone she knows, in a relationship, engaged, or even married. Her greatest desire is to get married and have a family. But Mr. Right sill has not come along:( She wants to do everything God’s way! And I couldn’t be more proud of how she is reacting to the place God has put her in life right now. I keep telling her that God’s man will come for her, but he will come in time. And that God doesn’t mess up on the plans He has for us. I do know how hard it is to be content, especially when you have friends, and family members getting married right in front of you. Pray that my sister continues to stay strong while waiting on the Lord for Mr. Right:) And pray that I will have the words to say:) Philippians 4:13

    • Moriah Mari says:

      Wow. As an older sister (to a younger sister) who would love to get married someday I have to say your comment was an inspiration. I never thought before that my younger sister was watching me/would watch me as she grows older as I walk this path of singleness. You encouraged me.

      • SavedbyGrace says:

        Awww that is sooo sweet of you to say:) I’m really glad I could encourage you! There are 5 kids in my family. me and my sister are the only girls:) So all we have is each other (and then are 3 crazy brothers:) ) There are 6 years between us(her being 24, me being 18). Now that we’re older, we talk about relationships all the time. What we want in a guy, ect. My sister isn’t discontent. But she is at this point where she’s wondering if Mr. Right is ever gonna come:) And every time we talk, the desire for a husband grows even more. I love her sooo much! All I want for her is to be happy:) Once she gets her man, and she’s happy then I’ll be happy. Like I said before, waiting is sometimes hard:) I’ll pray that the Lord sends you a Godly man too:) xoxo!

        • Moriah Mari says:

          🙂 Believe it or not there are 5 kids in my family too and my and my sister are the only girls. She is 61/2 years younger than me! I think being single can definitely be difficult but there will always be difficulties in each season that we face. I need to learn to be content in this season or I may always struggle to be content. Knowing that my younger sister is watching me is an inspiration to use these years wisely and to be cheerful and content no matter what the Lord has for me. Thank you so much for your prayers – that is so sweet! I’ll pray for you and your sister. 🙂

          • SavedbyGrace says:

            Same here!! God bless you and your family:) I have found Psalm 37:3-4 very encouraging! It’s a verse I often share with my sister! Hope it’s an encouragement to you as well!

          • Moriah Mari says:

            Thank you for the verse! God bless ya’ll as well!!!

        • Elisabeth says:

          How neat!!

    • GirlDefined says:

      @SavedbyGrace I love that your family does a special candlelit dinner. What a great way to spend Valentine’s Day! My dad has made it a tradition of taking us five daughters out every year for a special Valentine’s Dinner. I still look forward to that even though I am twenty-six. Thanks for sharing the prayer request about your sister. I will pray that she can focus on God’s perfect love and infinite wisdom. He will bring the right man along in His perfect timing.

      • SavedbyGrace says:

        Thank You so much for your prayers! You’re right about God’s perfect timing too!:) And btw, how special that your Dad does a Daddy/Daughters date night kind of thing! How special!!! Love You guys! xoxo!

  6. Graciela Acosta says:

    Last year, I had the greatest time hanging out with my best friend on Valentine’s Day. We watched chick flicks and ate ice cream. Celebrate your singleness! There may come a day when you miss the freedom 😉

  7. Sarah Shaw says:

    I just enjoy the company of best friends on valentines day. We like to get together and play a game or just hang out getting to know each other even better.

  8. Allie says:

    Bethany! I feel exactly the way you do!

    Sometimes I love to think about the wonders of the creation and think that the Lord that made all those thing is the One who died to win my soul. It’s a glorious privilege that humbles and encourages my soul!

    We´re having a dinner for couples that haven´t heard the gospel, in order to make them know the good news of Jesus Christ!!

  9. Elizabeth Williams says:

    I love the phrase “Singles Awareness Day”! Also, the book giveaway is such a good idea! I would love to win. Those are great ideas you mentioned for us singles. Another thing I like to do, is think about the topic of love and how it pertains to our relationship with Christ. After all, He is out first love! And He already has my heart right now. A couple of other ideas, if you sing or play an instrument, think about playing/singing a classic for church, like “Oh How I Love Jesus” or “I Love You, Lord”! The biggest thing I don’t like about being single around Valentine’s is that it looks like such a fun holiday to celebrate, I just hate missing out on it lol. I’m actually thanking God that I am still single, because He knows exactly what I need and when I need it. Obviously He knows that I’m not ready for a relationship yet!

  10. Moriah Mari says:

    This year the young (mostly singles – my brother just got engaged:) people at our church are hosting a Valentines Banquet for couples. We’re endeavoring to make it a beautiful and special night.

  11. Hollie head says:

    This year I have a wedding to go to. Some might say ugh! You have a
    Wedding to go to on Valentine’s day and you’re single! But you know what? Even though I am single, this is exactly where God wants me to be right now in my life, and I’m super content to be here. He will in his perfect timing bring my “Prince charming” along and then it will be my turn, but this Valentine’s day I’m going be overjoyed for my dear friend who waited paitently for the Lord to be her matchmaker.

  12. Caitlin says:

    I made up my mind to love this February, too. 23 and also sooooo single, I decided to throw a little Valentine’s Day party for my little sisters: decorations, games, and pretty food! Surrounded by those I love and who love me right back, I’m Looking forward to this Saturday. I have not been bothered by the singleness in my life this February since I made the decision to be content where God has me today. Happy Valentine’s to everyone who celebrates V-Day, single or not! 🙂

  13. Ina Yefimov says:

    I can not help but love February because of my birthday, and Valentine’s Day has never bothered me (maybe because I’m home schooled) even though I used to be super boy crazy. At least, I don’t remember it bothering me. 🙂
    This is the first time it ever occured to do something for Valentine’s Day! Thank you for sharing!I am so excited though because my family is doing a huge party for couples at our church at our house. It is going to be so much fun! I will definitely try to do one of your ideas.

  14. Karen Salazar says:

    I really liked this post 🙂 not only because it gives a lot of great encouragement but because just like you I dreaded Valentine’s Day for years not only because I had always been single during the day but also because I was broken up by an ex- on Valentine’s Day.. Yup! Anyways my point is the God healed me from dreading that day because it’s just a day that our society has made such a big deal about. God and my special people don’t just love me on that day (or tell me they love me) more importantly they love me the REST of the days left in the year! And that’s more valuable knowing that I don’t have to wait for the 14th of Feb to come to have expressions of others love towards me or my own expressions of towards others to be displayed.

  15. Nyla says:

    I love valentines day… Despite never having a boyfriend on that particular day all 23 years of my life. I have fond memories of watching chick flicks with friends, baking chocolate desserts with my sister and dreaming for the day I do have a man on feb 14th. I use this day and the follow up to it as a reminder to dream! Find some friends, pick out a movie (doesn’t have to be a romantic one, I’m thinking Maze Runner this year!), decide on some delicious food (I did subway once and a homemade pasta dinner another time) and treat yourself to a fun day!

  16. Anne says:

    I found this post encouraging in other areas of my life (especially the part where you were talking about who God is.) I haven’t dreaded valentines day, yet. I’m only fifteen so I’m not worried! 🙂 I definitely found this post helpful though!

  17. Alicia says:

    dont forget that valentine’s day in not only for “couples”… you can go to the beach, pool, movies, have a sleepover, a DIY party, a picnic… anything with your friends

  18. Elisabeth says:

    When This post I at first thought,”Oh, great something to reminded me who lonely, and sad I’m gonna be when Valentine’s comes around” Strangly enough, because I always love your posts!! Then it came to me especially as I started reading the comments, “I asked God once to give me the most special, and wonderful experience ever, and it was that I didn’t even want to date any one, until I was sure that that was the one God wanted me to marry!!” Know I know that’s an awful tall order, especially for a just turned 18 year old me who’s got her head stuck on love, and is an only child who’s homeschooled, and very rarely gets to see or do anything with her friends, may seem impossible!!But I know God can do it if he’s willing, nothing’s to big for him!!Besides, Hey God gave me parents, and a dog, I can just love on them for now!!!

    • GirlDefined says:

      @disqus_z2IDP02Le2:disqus I’m so glad you didn’t skip over this post. I love what you said here, “What was going to be a ‘Oh no, why am I reading this I’ll just get depressed,’ God has turned into a Blessing, and something to really make me think in my life!” Thanks for being a part of the GirlDefined online sisterhood. We love having you as a reader.

  19. Quite Distinguished says:

    Amen! What a wonderful reminder of the One whose love is greater than all other loves. Personal pet peeve: I dislike when people refer to Valentines Day as Singles Awareness Day (SAD) because it is so self-focused. Why don’t those of us who are still single use V-day to support and encourage the married couples in our lives? Rather than bemoan our single status or wallow in self-pity, let’s use V-day to affirm the beauty of marriage as God designed it, and rejoice with those on whom God has bestowed such a blessing. After all, we want to be there some day too 🙂 I’m not saying that V-day isn’t difficult for many people–just as Mother’s Day can be hard for women who want children but are unable to conceive–but how very different a joyful and fulfilled (in Christ) single appears to a world that can’t see beyond its own neediness and desire for self gratification. And in a world where marriage is under heavy attack, the best thing Christian singles can do is support and value what God values and calls good. Let’s shine the light of the Love of Christ to a dark world this February 14th!

  20. jiujitsulover says:

    God’s timing is good! I am single and it seems like all girl friends “have a guy.” This post is such a good reassurance that God is writing our stories, whether we are single or in a relationship. Thanks for writing this. I will definitly read again. 😀 God bless. <3

  21. Justme says:

    This is great! I especially like what you said about spending time with people you just love to be around!
    I help teach a kids sunday school class at church and this last Sunday we made hearts to decorate our room and some of the kids made cards and this one little boy (who can sometimes be kind of ornery!) made me a heart that said “I LOVE YOU!!!!” in his handwriting it was just soo sweet! Valentines day is sometimes about that special someone but sometimes I think we forget its also about those around us that well- we Love! friends, siblings, family, and church family 🙂

  22. Briana Soto says:

    Okay so I am 15 in high school and it is so difficult because you see couples left and right and your there all single…..Ehhh. Instead of being sad about it I am making a video saying that everyone is beautiful or handsome with our without a boyfriend or girlfriend. Afterwards I am going to send it to my principal and ask if he could send it to the teachers for them to show the students since I could reach all of them. I am also going to write encouraging notes and put them in the girls bathroom. I hope those give y’all more ideas. Have joy through your singleness. #SinglesJoy.

  23. Rosalie says:

    Haha! I love your point on how God hasn’t change! 🙂 🙂 To think I wonder if He can handle finding me a man after all the incredible things He’s already done makes me laugh out loud! 🙂 🙂 Thanks so much for this post! 🙂

    • GirlDefined says:

      Rosalie, I feel the exact same way. When I stop and remember who God is, I laugh at myself. God can totally handle finding each one of us a man if thats His will. He is amazing 🙂

  24. One Valentine’s day my best friend and I baked cookies and put two and a slip of paper with a bible verse in a sandwich bag, went downtown and handed them out to him homeless people. It really put things into perspective, made any of our problems seem really silly

    • GirlDefined says:

      That is a great idea @chelseamelendez:disqus I love how you took care of both their physical and spiritual needs. Thanks for sharing. Super inspirational!

  25. Janique says:

    Have valentines brunch with family and friends. Arts and crafts. Visit Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament and bring him a rose

  26. Tiana says:

    I really like the 1,400 Cards By Valentines Day idea! I’m going to get my mind off of being single by going to a girls night with my youth group on February 14th and having a special girls day with my 2 sisters.

  27. Gracie says:

    I think we can turn the ”Love month” into a chance to love people like never before. Instead of cheap fake romance which isn’t love but can be added to, be a blessing and a friend to those other people in the world who are TRULY ALONE. They need Jesus. Be bold and pass out tracts esp, ones that might be valentines day related, I am sure they have them. Lots of broken girls and guys out there, and Feb. might be a way to connect, if your single. This life isn’t about us at all. The sooner we realize it, the sooner, we will break the chains the world wants to cover us with.

  28. Esther Sentosa says:

    I’m 13 so I’ve just figured out how awful it is for me to be single on Valentines. This post is very inspiring because I don’t get the chance to interact with a lot of people and that puts me in a horrible mood. I learned that it doesn’t have to be this way. I could choose to focus on God and other people instead of being selfish. Thank you.

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