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Why Naughty Girls Don’t Have More Fun

By: Kristen Clark

She was bad. She was naughty. She broke all the rules. She lived recklessly. And apparently, she had all the fun.

Our modern culture is shoving the idea down our throats that bad girls have more fun. It’s in the movies. It’s in the songs. It’s in the magazines. It’s in the books.

You’ve probably seen the bumper stickers or the Pinterest pins featuring the “naughty girl” quotes.

See if any of these sound familiar:

“Everyone knows naughty girls have more fun.”

“Good girls keep diaries, bad girls never have the time.”

“I used to be the sweetest girl ever…til I found out being the baddest girl was better.”

“I’m a good girl with a lot of bad habits.”

“Good girls are bad girls who never get caught.”

With all of this “naughty girl” talk, it makes a good girl stop and wonder… Do naughty girls really have more fun? I mean, after all they’re the ones partying it up, right? They’re the ones getting all the attention, right? They’re the ones doing whatever they want, right? They must be having more fun.

Although naughty girls appear to always have more fun, there’s another side to this story that’s rarely told.

It’s the side that actually shows the consequences of her choices.

The naughty girl’s choices lead to consequences, but sadly, those consequences rarely get screen time.

I want to debunk this myth once and for all and show you why naughty girls don’t have more fun. After reading the following descriptions, I want you to decide which girl has more fun in the end; the naughty girl, or the godly girl.  

Bad Girl’s Choices:

The bad girl lives an extremely loose moral life. She has sex out of marriage and does whatever sounds fun in the moment. She dates any guy who is “hot” and intentionally puts off marriage to keep her independence.

She wears sensual clothing and takes pride in flaunting her body. She’s not afraid of partying and hits up the most popular clubs on Friday nights. She rebellious, loud, and appears to be living the high life.

Bad Girl’s Consequences:

She looks confident on the outside, but she’s falling apart on the inside. Her entire worth is wrapped up in how pretty she looks. As a result, she lives in a constant state of comparison and never feels like she measures up. Sleeping around seemed fun at first…until the doctor told her she contracted an STD.

She is struggling to keep any guy around longer than 6 months. Her last boyfriend even confessed to cheating on her. Her heart is filled with distrust towards men. She tries to hide her feelings of depression. Life is complicated, hard, and the only days worth living are the weekends.

Godly Girl’s Choices:

She is a fun and bubbly girl, and leads a life of intentional moral conviction. She views sex as a sacred gift to share with one man only (her future husband). She is careful about who she hangs out with and guards herself from inappropriate relationships with guys.

She treats her guy friends with respect and they treat her like a lady. She dresses fashionably, yet with modest class. Her weekends aren’t filled with clubs and partying, but hosting game nights with her family and friends, and serving in her church. She is joyful, fun, and everyone likes being around her.

Godly Girl’s Consequences:

She never has to worry about contracting an STD or getting pregnant, because she never sleeps around. Her life is free from sexual baggage and weighty boyfriend drama. She finds her worth and value in what Christ thinks of her, not in how hot her body is or how sexy her outfits are.

She radiates with confidence and security because she finds her identity in Christ alone. She lives every day with true purpose and excitement. Her life is filled with joy, peace, contentment, and anticipation for tomorrow.

In the end, which girl has more fun?

The naughty girl, or the godly girl?

Despite what our culture tells you, the girl who honors God will have way more fun than the girl living for the world. 

In the end, the girl who honors God and lives according to His word is the one who will be celebrating. She will be the girl living in peace, freedom, joy and fulfillment.

God designed us and gave us boundaries and limits for our own good. The world tries to make God’s standards sound dull, boring, and lame. But when we take a step back and look at the BIG picture, we quickly see how beneficial they really are.

The Bible makes it very clear: You can either, A, chase after the world and reap undesired consequences. Or, B, chase after God’s truth and reap His blessings.

Naughty girls can’t have more fun in the end.

Why? Because sin never leads to a life of happiness. As C.S. Lewis so wisely said, “God cannot give us a happiness and peace apart from Himself, because it is not there. There is no such thing.”

If you want a life filled with excitement, peace, and fulfillment – follow God. Obey His Word. Honor His commandments. Make wise choices.

Don’t be naughty girl, be a godly girl. In the end, you will have way more fun, joy and fulfillment. 

What are your thoughts?

  • In what ways has our culture’s glorification of the “naughty girl” affected your personal thinking?
  • What do you personally find alluring and tempting about being a “naughty girl?”
  • Do you think a girl can live her entire life being “bad” and still have a great life? Why?

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