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Why Naughty Girls Don’t Have More Fun

By: Kristen Clark

She was bad. She was naughty. She broke all the rules. She lived recklessly. And apparently, she had all the fun.

Our modern culture is shoving the idea down our throats that bad girls have more fun. It’s in the movies. It’s in the songs. It’s in the magazines. It’s in the books.

You’ve probably seen the bumper stickers or the Pinterest pins featuring the “naughty girl” quotes.

See if any of these sound familiar:

“Everyone knows naughty girls have more fun.”

“Good girls keep diaries, bad girls never have the time.”

“I used to be the sweetest girl ever…til I found out being the baddest girl was better.”

“I’m a good girl with a lot of bad habits.”

“Good girls are bad girls who never get caught.”

With all of this “naughty girl” talk, it makes a good girl stop and wonder… Do naughty girls really have more fun? I mean, after all they’re the ones partying it up, right? They’re the ones getting all the attention, right? They’re the ones doing whatever they want, right? They must be having more fun.

Although naughty girls appear to always have more fun, there’s another side to this story that’s rarely told.

It’s the side that actually shows the consequences of her choices.

The naughty girl’s choices lead to consequences, but sadly, those consequences rarely get screen time.

I want to debunk this myth once and for all and show you why naughty girls don’t have more fun. After reading the following descriptions, I want you to decide which girl has more fun in the end; the naughty girl, or the godly girl.  

Bad Girl’s Choices:

The bad girl lives an extremely loose moral life. She has sex out of marriage and does whatever sounds fun in the moment. She dates any guy who is “hot” and intentionally puts off marriage to keep her independence.

She wears sensual clothing and takes pride in flaunting her body. She’s not afraid of partying and hits up the most popular clubs on Friday nights. She rebellious, loud, and appears to be living the high life.

Bad Girl’s Consequences:

She looks confident on the outside, but she’s falling apart on the inside. Her entire worth is wrapped up in how pretty she looks. As a result, she lives in a constant state of comparison and never feels like she measures up. Sleeping around seemed fun at first…until the doctor told her she contracted an STD.

She is struggling to keep any guy around longer than 6 months. Her last boyfriend even confessed to cheating on her. Her heart is filled with distrust towards men. She tries to hide her feelings of depression. Life is complicated, hard, and the only days worth living are the weekends.

Godly Girl’s Choices:

She is a fun and bubbly girl, and leads a life of intentional moral conviction. She views sex as a sacred gift to share with one man only (her future husband). She is careful about who she hangs out with and guards herself from inappropriate relationships with guys.

She treats her guy friends with respect and they treat her like a lady. She dresses fashionably, yet with modest class. Her weekends aren’t filled with clubs and partying, but hosting game nights with her family and friends, and serving in her church. She is joyful, fun, and everyone likes being around her.

Godly Girl’s Consequences:

She never has to worry about contracting an STD or getting pregnant, because she never sleeps around. Her life is free from sexual baggage and weighty boyfriend drama. She finds her worth and value in what Christ thinks of her, not in how hot her body is or how sexy her outfits are.

She radiates with confidence and security because she finds her identity in Christ alone. She lives every day with true purpose and excitement. Her life is filled with joy, peace, contentment, and anticipation for tomorrow.

In the end, which girl has more fun?

The naughty girl, or the godly girl?

Despite what our culture tells you, the girl who honors God will have way more fun than the girl living for the world. 

In the end, the girl who honors God and lives according to His word is the one who will be celebrating. She will be the girl living in peace, freedom, joy and fulfillment.

God designed us and gave us boundaries and limits for our own good. The world tries to make God’s standards sound dull, boring, and lame. But when we take a step back and look at the BIG picture, we quickly see how beneficial they really are.

The Bible makes it very clear: You can either, A, chase after the world and reap undesired consequences. Or, B, chase after God’s truth and reap His blessings.

Naughty girls can’t have more fun in the end.

Why? Because sin never leads to a life of happiness. As C.S. Lewis so wisely said, “God cannot give us a happiness and peace apart from Himself, because it is not there. There is no such thing.”

If you want a life filled with excitement, peace, and fulfillment – follow God. Obey His Word. Honor His commandments. Make wise choices.

Don’t be naughty girl, be a godly girl. In the end, you will have way more fun, joy and fulfillment. 

What are your thoughts?

  • In what ways has our culture’s glorification of the “naughty girl” affected your personal thinking?
  • What do you personally find alluring and tempting about being a “naughty girl?”
  • Do you think a girl can live her entire life being “bad” and still have a great life? Why?

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27 Responses to Why Naughty Girls Don’t Have More Fun

  1. Elisabeth says:

    Well, I totally get what you mean!!And I know your right, I just haven’t seen it personially experienced,Except by Snowhite and Prince Charming on TV.That’s only example on TV.Unfortionally, I’ve get more then twice the times examples of the opposite.My one year at a Christian School,certonially was contrary to what you said the naught girls had more fun.And now,two of my most fav tv show’s show or seem to be showing the opposite.Well, with one, I can see it even show effects to what you say.It’s to believe some one could be betrayed to love dome one else yet neither one of them ever want to get married till like 20 years down the road.But sadly, on the other hand over the coin it fells like the good girls never marry.It’s like you can wait 20 years, or never marry, and even though I know your right the 20 years sounds better.Because lot’s of times the good girl falls in love with the bad boy, and the changes for her.So, other then the fact that she shouldn’t be dating him in the first place what’s wtong with that.I want believe you, I REALLY DO,BUT I don’t see it coming from some nice guy out there.And Personally, I’d rather wait 20 years then NEVER marry at all.

    • Grace says:

      One of the things we have to be wary of as Christian girls is who’s input we are believing: the world’s or God’s. Because the world shows us all of these movies, tv shows, and books where people can and do cling to each other and good morals that look like godliness. “Good” girls meet “bad” guys, they fall in “love” and the “bad” guys suddenly, without looking to or clinging to God, become “good” and they live out the rest of their lives as “good” people, staying perfect and moral in their own power, and that is impossible. If we really could do that we wouldn’t need God, we wouldn’t need salvation. God says that all are sinners and fall short of the glory of God. We can’t be righteous without His help. God says that He has a plan for our lives that we in our fallen sinfulness couldn’t even dream of. Yes, that future may be without a husband, or it may have a husband and we have to wait for him. I don’t know what your future holds, but I do know that God will probably not give you a husband or boyfriend while you are making idols out of them. When boyfriends/husbands are more important to you in life, are what you cant live without, they are your idols. They are what you are truly worshiping instead of God. But, God says that we never have any temptation or sin in our life except what is common to man, that He has faced, understands, and did not give in to, and that He does not give us a way out of. He promises to help us, and strengthen us against our sin. He promises to renew our hearts so that they are focused on Him above all else. Did you know that the famous martyr for Christ, Jim Elliot, also faced your struggle? When he first met this girl Elizabeth he was so taken with her that she was most of what he thought about. And when he wasn’t with her, he wanted to be with her. But then, God put it on their hearts that they were making idols out of each other, and that He had to be first in their lives. So they broke up. And they focused on drawing closer to God and having Him be first in their lives. You know what? They ended up getting married. Once the idols were out of their hearts, God gave them their heart’s desire and used them to change a whole nation of people!! When we sacrifice our idols and desires before the throne of God, and we ask God to help us put Him in their places, God does amazing things in our life, and He often gives us our hearts desires. But remember, God is still sovereign. He knows what is best for you and what fits into His plans for you whether you trust Him or not. The only way we can truly find joy in the plans He has for us, is if we ask Him to help us, if we ask for His grace to guide us, then we will find the joy we are looking for; joy that will never be found in our selfish and idolatrous desires. That is the difference between the good girl and the bad girl. They both may end up appearing fine and happy, the good girl will have a joy that is filled with Christ and the fulfillment He brings to each aspect of her life, but the bad girl will have a joy like a small child gorging itself on candy, it feels good, it feels like true joy and happiness, but it will never fill that hunger that God has given us for the joy that only He can provide.

      • Elisabeth says:

        Your right, I guess I just live more by example and what seems to work, and I don’t see much example if what God wants.I can sometimes take me a long time to admit what I’m doing is wrong, and even longer to tell it to others and want to change.But the devil is always tempting with the thought that God wants to keep me in my painful loneliness for ever which is why I have a difficulty saying no, and want to sooty the pain instead if fight it.Yes,I also have low motovation, because anything with in some reason is my fav activity, and yes. I know that means I’m a whimp , but when you’ve lonely all your life and never really had many enjoyable things to do, what would you do.

        • Ina Yefimov says:

          You really need to read “When God Writes your Love Story” by Eric and Leslie Ludy.

        • Grace says:

          Oh, I wrote a reply to this the day it was put up, but it never got posted :/ I am going to ask why. Hopefully it will show up 🙂 Just wanted to let you know I wasn’t ignoring what you said. (But Ina is right you should definitely read “When God Writes Your Love Story” and “Before you meet Prince Charming” by Sarah Mally)

          • Elisabeth says:

            Thanks, I can try.I just hope it keeps my attention, I struggle with not over downing it about guys and loveing kids so much and want yo have Such a large family some day that I spend almost all my time Thinking about them!!With Pinterer boards, on thoes topics, music, TV, books, my own thoughts, writing,any thing I can get that’s old enough to at least be some easy decent!!Well except got once upon a time which is modern and the most descent I’ve watched.I know I’ve got to stop isolating my self but there really very little I can do about it.It just feels like unless I’m naught I never get what I need!!I’d never want to be naughty towards others just you know in my own time and I know that’s got to stop but I don’t have enough activities, or things that interest me, or will power to do it.I’d appreciate it if you’d pray for me!!

          • Grace says:

            I would love to pray for you!!!
            Dear Lord,
            Please help Elisabeth, she is really struggling right now. she needs your help with loneliness, anxious thoughts about her future, how she turns her attention towards boys, and strength and will to follow you. She is seeing her weakness, please reveal your strength! Help her through this trial, and help her to see your power and righteousness all the way through it! In your precious and holy name I pray, Amen!!

          • Elisabeth says:

            Thank you lots!!That’s really sweet.

  2. Melissa says:

    This resonates with me. Here in the college scene where I am, partying is the norm and anything other than partying is viewed as drab and gloomy. But I like how you put it in eternal perspective – that’s what always puts me back on track. I was reading this morning in Hebrews about how the great heroes of the Bible all obeyed God by faith. And I was reminded that living the Christian life is not about being part of the cultural norm, or what’s expected, or what’s supposed to happen because it’s in the stats. Sarah had a child when she was old. What?? Since when does that happen? It was God, and He let it happen because she had faith and trusted Him. I realize that’s what obeying Christ is all about. Even if it seems impossible, our duty is to follow Him out of faith, trusting that He will work the very best that He wants to happen.

  3. Mary says:

    Like Jaime Grace’s song, “I’m a God girl, that’s who I be, from the top of my head to the toes of my feet”

  4. folasade says:

    it doesnt work. I was pushed into being the naughty girl bc being the nice girl I was bullied. so now im reaping consequences and have lost out to the good girls. they get the blessing while you get the burdens and pain of sin. its not worth it. I wish I had someone to tell me the difference.

  5. Robyn says:

    Before I became a Christian this is the exact life I was living – I was the party girl, I was the naughty one. And Kristen, you hit the nail on the head. I was on a hamster wheel looking for approval, I was depressed, anxious, lonely, broken, suicidal – I was lost.
    The consequences were bearable to a point; you can only run for so long until your
    legs final give way.

    I’m still dealing with the consequences today 18months later but walking the paths of a Godly girl is way way more rewarding!

    • Dolly says:

      Great comment. I love the way you wrote that. Have you ever written a book? I think you have talent for that. Just saying’!

      • Robyn says:

        I’ve never considered writing a book but I’ve always loved writing…. Wow! Thank you! Ahaha this feels like a lightbulb moment – I appreciate your encouragement 🙂 X

        • Dolly says:

          Absolutely! Please take it seriously, too. You have talent, my friend. God’s Blessings! Have a great day!

  6. qkit says:

    You know that there are more than two types of girl, right? There’s not just the “sinful naughty sleeping around” girl and the good Christian girl. There’s also the girls who live in sin and spend their evenings and weekends with their long term boyfriend, who have no depression or self esteem issues, and who live a quiet and contented life with their friendships with people of all genders, all of whom can respect her as a person and not a trope.

  7. Daniela Coimbra says:

    Hello girls! I’m a sister of Christ from Brazil! I read every new post of your blog! It has been blessing my life in many ways! 😀 Keep up the good work!

  8. Brita Long says:

    So do you only approve comments that agree with you? Mine was polite and thoughtful, just in disagreement.

  9. Isabella Alves Santana says:

    “2-4Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work so you become mature and well-developed, not deficient in any way.
    5-8 If you don’t know what you’re doing, pray to the Father. He loves to help. You’ll get his help, and won’t be condescended to when you ask for it. Ask boldly, believingly, without a second thought. People who “worry their prayers” are like wind-whipped waves. Don’t think you’re going to get anything from the Master that way, adrift at sea, keeping all your options open.” James 1.2-8 MSG

  10. thehappygirl says:

    Great article! I’ve always struggled with thinking my life as a Godly girl is kinda boring/not fun, especially when I look around and see the “naughty girls” in relationships and with great jobs and seemingly not a care in the entire world! This has really opened my eyes to the fact that they suffer severe consequences in the end. I also realize that they are just empty and looking for ways to fill that hole or gap they have. They don’t realize that Christ is the only hope they have….. It’s really sad to think about. I hope some of these girls will find the truth of the Gospel and give their lives over to God. Then they’ll realize (like I have) Godly gals win in the end 🙂

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