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How to Not Have an Abortion Some Day

By: Kristen Clark

Rachel was a Christian girl from a conservative family. She grew up in church and went to all the Christian conferences. As she grew older, she decided she didn’t like the straight and narrow path of the Christian life, so she ventured out to try some worldly “fun.”

After several bad friendships, parties, and guys, she woke up one morning and found herself pregnant. Shocked and embarrassed, she didn’t know what to do. Becoming a single mother had never been in her plans…but here she was.

Her life came to a fork in the road and she had to make a choice. 

Rachel hated the idea of getting an abortion and knew it was a terrible thing to do, but she felt trapped. She justified her choice by saying it would be better for the baby to die than to be raised by a single mom in this crazy world.

She never thought her life would turn out the way it did because she grew up in a Christian home. Rachel never dreamed she would be the girl contemplating an abortion some day.

When promiscuity rules.

You and I live in a culture where promiscuity rules. I talked about our raunch culture earlier this week and how you’re being bombarded with over sexualized content on a regular basis. The world makes sexual sin look fun, enticing and consequence-free.

Rachel became curious with the world and wanted to try a few things out herself. One party led to the next, one bar led to another, and one guy led to a night of serious consequences.

Her promiscuous behavior landed her with a tiny, innocent baby inside her womb. Nobody told her this was going to happen. Hollywood forgot to mention the potential consequences of sex outside of marriage. Her choices led her to a big fork in the road and sadly, she took our world’s advice again.

When promiscuity rules, unanticipated pregnancies become a common thing.

Whether we like to admit it or not, girls who claim to be Christians are finding themselves at abortion clinics all across this country. More and more Christian girls buying into our world’s promises of sexual fun with no consequences.

The road of promiscuity always leads them to a place they never thought possible. Like an avalanche effect, one choice leads to the next and eventually their entire life come crumbling down.

Getting to the root.

Many of you are growing up in homes just like Rachel. You’re from a Christian family, you had a great upbringing, you know abortion is wrong…so you think your future is “abortion proof.” You say things like, “that would never happen to me.” You call yourself pro-life.

You know the obvious fact that staying away from sexual activity before marriage will keep you from getting pregnant, so you think you’re good. Yes, it’s true that staying away from all sexual activity will keep you from getting pregnant…but that’s not the most important thing to do. That wasn’t the only place where Rachel went wrong.

Her biggest problem was that she completely lost her fear of God.

She stopped honoring and fearing the God of this universe. She began losing interest in His laws and commands for her life. She stopped reading His Word. She stopped praying. She cared more about following her heart and having fun than staying inside God’s protective boundaries for her life.

The world looked so much more enticing and she wanted to have some “fun” and to “live it up” while she was young.

This could happen to you. This could happen to me. Losing your fear of God puts your life on a very slippery slope.

The best way to not have an abortion some day is to fear God.

If you want to make sure you’re never faced with the question of having an abortion someday, you MUST have a strong fear of God. Staying away from sexual sin should be a result of your fear of God and your desire to obey His commandments.

If you truly fear God, you will love His law and you will obey his law. You will love children and babies because you’ll see them as a precious creation of God. You will see them as human life as God sees them and not a blob of tissue.

Having a fear of God will give you the right perspective and overall worldview for life.

If you’re a girl who has made some serious sexual mistakes, maybe even had an abortion, it’s never too late to turn back to God. It’s never too late to repent and seek God’s forgiveness. It’s never too late to begin fearing God again. Our God is a gracious God to those who fear Him and humbly call upon His name for help.

Here are 4 ways you can develop a fear of God:

  1. Read His Word and pay attention to His instructions for the Christian life.
  2. Develop a heart that genuinely loves God’s commands because you see them as His good protection for your life.
  3. Pray to God every day and ask for strength to honor Him in every area of your life.
  4. Memorize key Scriptures that will remind you of truth when the world tempts you with lies.

What are your doing today to keep your future abortion-free?
How strong is your fear of God?
Do you genuinely care about honoring God with your life?

I’d love to hear your thoughts, opinions, and insights on this topic, so please share below.

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17 Responses to How to Not Have an Abortion Some Day

  1. Jacey Faith says:

    That is such a sad story:( and there’s so many Christian girls who do that. Thanks for the article. I really love the way you lay everything out.

  2. DA says:

    It’s very easy for Christian girls to look down on people who get abortions…until they find themselves in a “sticky” situation and end up doing the exact same things. Your friend unfortunately had to learn this lesson the hard way :-/ You can’t live outside of God’s will for your life and expect to reap blessings. God says, “If you love me, you’ll obey my commandments.” Kristen I agree with you 100% that the fear of God is key. Excellent post! 🙂

  3. Preeyanka says:

    Under the ‘4 ways you can develop a fear of God’- is that really it? That’s all I have to do to have a fear of God..?
    (Sometimes it’s easier to obey a bunch of rules/seem to be serving. but to have a heart of love and honor for God is hard to cultivate. because ya God doesn’t just want my acts of service in obedience. He wants my heart (soul, mind and strength) to be in Him..)

  4. Great post and thoughts here. I just have questions of my own, like how can someone “develop” the fear of God without learning it first? How can light be perceived without the darkness that is first present in Genesis, an allegory of our own lives. I believe that some people are simply chosen by a sovereign God, who has written the trials of our life before we were ever born (Psalm 139:16), to live the mistakes we deem so inglorious, so that we can learn fear through them. Yet, it isn’t until we’ve gone through it that we can look back and see what a blessing it has wrought in our lives. Isaiah 63:17 says this: “Why, LORD, do you make us wander from your ways and harden our hearts so we do not fear you? Return for the sake of your servants, the tribes that are your inheritance.”

    If it is God who is causing it, according to Isaiah 63:17, what remedy do we have but to pray for mercy? Look at these verses of scripture I copied from an online NLT bible written by Paul in Romans 9:9-16:

    9For God had promised, “I will return about this time next year, and Sarah will have a son.”

    10This son was our ancestor Isaac. When he married Rebekah, she gave birth to twins. 11But before they were born, before they had done anything good or bad, she received a message from God. (This message shows that God chooses people according to his own purposes; 12he calls people, but not according to their good or bad works.) She was told, “Your older son will serve your younger son.” 13In the words of the Scriptures, “I loved Jacob, but I rejected Esau.”

    14Are we saying, then, that God was unfair? Of course not! 15For God said to Moses,

    “I will show mercy to anyone I choose,

    and I will show compassion to anyone I choose.”

    16So it is God who decides to show mercy. We can neither choose it nor work for it.

  5. David was a man after God’s own heart who feared him and wrote many Psalms worshipping God and yet he slept with another man’s wife, got her pregnant, had the man killed in battle and then God punished him by taking his child… pretty sure David read the Bible, prayed, memorized scripture etc etc and yet he screwed up big time! This message comes across that if women(and consequently men for that matter) do the above list you wrote they won’t end up doing something “really” bad like having an unwanted child before marriage… I think God meets us in our biggest screw ups to remind us that he couldn’t love us more or delight in us more than in that moment of our deepest regrets. That he is so big and his grace do incomprehensible that we’re still sinless in his eyes even if we spend our lives living like the prodigal son! That’s the God I have experienced on my journey of healing and grace.

  6. Daphne Secretaria says:

    Amen to this! FEAR OF GOD is really the most important thing. Having fear of God, the rest will just follow. God bless u all! :))

  7. Lauren Purser says:

    This is a very good post. I always want to live in a reverent, healthy fear of the Lord. Temptations will always be there…but so will God. By the grace of God, He has usually kept me from succumbing to any temptation to sin sexually. I have to constantly rely on His grace.

    I do want to mention that we should also pray for compassion for those who do find themselves in this situation…and that we should praise God when a girl chooses LIFE for her child. I have two friends, one whose son is almost 2 years old. She chose life and now has a precious, beautiful son. I have another friend who is pregnant with a baby boy. She is coming to my home for Christmas Eve because her parents are in her homeland of Italy.
    I think of Mary. Obviously, Mary became pregnant by a miracle of the Holy Spirit, but she was definitely ridiculed, stared at, gossiped about. How would Jesus want us to respond to these women? With grace, compassion, and the Gospel.

  8. First Amendment says:

    How to Not Have an Abortion Some Day
    (in three easy steps)
    1. Never have sexual relations that you could possibly regret
    2. Avoid all medical complications in childbirth
    3. Avoid getting raped

  9. Cappy says:

    What about abortion in cases you cannot help? My sister had an unviable pregnancy and would have died had she not had an abortion.

    • BiaTweety says:

      I’m sad that neither Kristen nor Bethany have replied to this tough question. All I can say is that in countries where abortion is illegal, yes, women die in those circumstances. And I don’t think it’s right. Pro-life here is really pro-unborn life at all costs, which then translates into nobody lives.

  10. OrangeGirl says:

    This is a great way to avoid abortion. It really is. There is no way anyone could have an abortion for medical reasons, or rape, or even for their child to not have to suffer outside of the womb. But yeah, this is a great way to ALWAYS deal with the issue.

  11. Allison says:

    But what if a baby is conceived through rape/incest? And if God values all life, why does he allow so many miscarriages to occur, and why does the body flush out so many fertilized eggs during menstruation? Not trying to be rude, these are genuine questions

    • DA says:

      Hi Allison, those are all very good questions! With regards to the former, that’s a very tough situation. On the one hand, it’s difficult to have to deal with sexual abuse as well as a pregnancy. However, on the other hand, a child should not have to pay for its father’s sins. I know that some people may disagree, but I personally don’t believe a child should be aborted even in this case. Instead, if the mother cannot deal with taking care of a baby that is the result of rape or incest, then she can give it up for adoption. That’s just one perspective. With regards to the miscarriage question, the reality is we live in a fallen world. Once Adam and Eve sinned, sin entered the world and so did death, disease, illness, and every other bad things. And in this case, miscarriage is just another negative event that occurs. The good news is that for Christians God can and will still bring something beautiful out of a broken situation. He sees all of the women who suffer from miscarriages and He is near to the broken-hearted. Lastly, I remember asking the same question regarding menstruation a while back. At that time, I was told that the body needed to clean out whatever was not currently being used (Idk if that is scientific, so don’t quote me lol). But just another perspective.

      • MAd says:

        How is it fair to the mother to have a chance instant reminder of the rape? Remember, being pregnant isn’t cheap, between doc visits and other expenses, that’s enough to drive anyone mad. What about the trauma of childbirth itself? Who’s to say the mother won’t fall into a form of psychosis. Rhetoric like this leads to more Andrea yates’ and dead children at the hands of woken who feel like they’ve run out of options.

  12. M says:

    Did they mention that the highest rates of abortion take place along the Bible Belt? Because that’s something to keep in mind

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