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Practical Advice for the Christian Girl Going off to College

By: Kristen Clark

I met up with my sweet friend, Rebecca (cute girl in the photo), yesterday who is about to move away for college. She’s 19 years old and just finished her freshman year at a local university. She’s planning to transfer to a different university this year which will take her away from her hometown, family, friends, and church. We got together to chat about her life and this new (big) transition that’s about to hit.

We talked about church, friends, roommates, romance, campus life, how to stay plugged into the Word, and a lot of other things. As we chatted, I was honestly really impressed with Rebecca’s spiritual vision and goals for college. She had already thought through a lot of things and had specific ideas on how she could be intentional in her relationship with God.

For many Christian college girls, the transition from home life to college life can be a tough one.

Whether it’s Christian university or not, many of the same temptations plague both campuses. In Rebecca’s case, she will be attending a secular university and is choosing to stay on campus in the dorms this year. She is well aware of the temptations and pitfalls that await her. As we talked, it became clear that she had already thought through a lot of things and was ready to do whatever it took to stay the course in her faith.

Her ideas were practical, biblical, and wise, so I thought you would find them helpful too.  This advice is coming from real-life decisions that Rebecca is planning to intentionally put into action once she arrives on campus in a few days. I think you’ll find her wisdom helpful.

1. Get Plugged Into Gospel-Centered Church Right Away 

Even before our conversation, Rebecca had already been researching and contacting local, gospel-centered churches near her campus. She wants more than a Sunday “church experience.” She wants to get plugged into a local Body where she can grow, serve, stay accountable, learn, and be mentored in. She is committed to finding a church that prioritizes more than fun and fellowship. She knows how important it is to stay plugged into a solid church family while she is away. This is a non-negotiable for her, and I pray it will be for you as well.

For help on finding a gospel-centered church near your campus, check out these great resources:

Gospel Coalition Church Directory

Acts 29 Churches

2. Connect with a Godly Woman and Chat on a Regular Basis 

Whether it’s your mom, a godly woman from your hometown, or a godly woman you meet in your new church, stay connected with this woman on a regular basis. Having a godly mentor in your life who knows you personally is so important. Rebecca shared with me how important this was to her and is planning to set up weekly calls with her mom. She is also planning to schedule monthly calls with me (I have been mentoring her in person up until now) to stay connected. Rebecca knows how important godly input, wisdom, and accountability is in her life. Especially in this new season where she won’t be surrounded by Christian influences anymore. If you don’t have a godly woman like this in your life, start praying for one. Start looking for one.

If you need help on knowing how to find a godly mentor, I really encourage you to check out this post that I wrote earlier this year:

How I Found a Godly Woman to Mentor Me

3. Stay Plugged into the Word Every Day 

Staying grounded in the Word and in your relationship with God is the most important thing you can do while away at college. Rebecca knows this too. As we chatted, I asked her how she plans to stay plugged into the Word on a daily basis. She said, “I just have to make it a priority. I have to remind myself that I’m not going to miss a class or fail a test because I spent time in the Word.” She went on to share how she plans to get up each morning and spend time reading her Bible and praying before she gets going for the day. As you head off to college, I can’t encourage you enough to do the same. For some helpful tips on how to have a quite time, check out these posts:

What We Do For Our Personal Bible Time

5 Simple Ways to Study Your Bible Each Day

Standing strong in your faith during the college years is completely possible. 

It’s just going to take some serious intentionality on your part. Don’t get lazy in your pursuit of the Lord. Don’t neglect accountability and godly input. My prayer for you is that Psalm 19:7-11 would become the beacon of truth that constantly guides your heart toward the Lord.

“The law of the Lord is perfect, reviving the soul; the testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple; the precepts of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart; the commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes; the fear of the Lord is clean, enduring forever; the rules of the Lord are true, and righteous altogether. More to be desired are they than gold, even much fine gold; sweeter also than honey and drippings of the honeycomb. Moreover, by them is your servant warned; in keeping them there is great reward.”

For some additional helpful resources, check out these posts:

8 Ways to Stand Strong Through the College Years

How to Stand Strong Through the College Years

I’d love to hear from you below! 

  • Based on my conversation with Rebecca, which of the 3 things mentioned do you need to apply?
  • What would you add to my list?

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12 Responses to Practical Advice for the Christian Girl Going off to College

  1. Sophie says:

    Hi! My college roommate this year was randomly assigned. This means that I had no input as to what kind of person I would be living with, which has not gone well for me. My roommate struggles with homosexual attraction, but what is devastating is that she does not view it as a struggle. She embraces the lifestyle–hanging the flag in our shared room and bringing her “girlfriend” around often. It makes me incredibly uncomfortable, but I don’t want to drive her away from the faith by being openly against her lifestyle. What is your advice for encouraging her to give her struggle to God and worship Him? Also, any advice for me on continuing to live with someone who does not walk with the Lord?

    • TheGlassMaiden says:

      Dear Sophie,
      As a fellow sister in Christ, I think that the best course of action is to let her do her own thing. There is nothing wrong with being gay, as you are born that way. In order to continue living with her, I think you need to get over your differences and find stuff you have in common instead. A little kindness goes a long way!

      • Cecilia says:

        What a strange advice, since living as a homosexual is clearly a sin and no one is born that way!

    • Dave Smith says:

      How about just let her live her life? There’s nothing wrong with who she is.

      • Traci Fuehrer says:

        @Dave Smith, it is important to know who’s standards we are believing in and acting upon in our lives. I encourage you to study what God says about love, relationships, and caring for those around us. I would say that although you can’t force someone to believe in God, see something as sinful, or repent of their sins, God does want us to treat our brothers and sisters with love and forgiveness. The act of homosexuality is a sin in the eyes of God, which is revealed to us in his Word. Here are some Bible verses that I believe are relevant to this topic: Roman’s 8, 1 Timothy 4:12, 1 Colossians 6:1-20, Romans 1:18-32, and 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8. Also, Leviticus is an important book of the Bible to become familiar with, as God’s law is written down in a way that we might understand a little bit easier. Leviticus 20 is about sexual relationships. Keep in mind 1 John 1:5-10, which states

        “This is the message we have heard from him and declare to you: God is light; in him there is no darkness at all. If we claim to have fellowship with him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth. But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin. If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us.”

        Another important message is in James 2:12-13:

        “Speak and act as those who are going to be judged by the law that gives freedom, because judgment without mercy will be shown to anyone who has not been merciful. Mercy triumphs over judgment.”

        Hope this helps. God bless you!

    • Shalom! says:

      Dear Sophie..Homosexuality is a Sin. God’s word tells us that. But remember we all have lied, stolen, had sinful thoughts and sometimes we all still struggle with some form of sin but our God is merciful and gracious enough to forgive us our sins and provide us with strength to fight these struggles whenever temptations come our way (I Cor 10:13). And for this to happen we must truly repent and seek Him. My suggestions would be,
      1. Remember…you cannot change her only God can change her heart. So PRAY for her. Ask God to guide her
      and to guide you also.
      2. I don’t really know how close you are with her. If you are not, you could really start out by developing a good mutual
      relationship with her as a friend. You both will understand each other, come to know more about each other and
      whatever the both of you will share, will always be with good intentions at heart.
      3. If you feel really uncomfortable then i suggest you move out to another room where you are more comfortable
      and at ease. It’s super OK to do it. You need to take care of yourself too and always remember God is there to take care.
      4. Lastly and more importantly; talk to your parents, your closest friends, people you trust. Take their advise and
      do the needful.
      May the God of Israel, Who is today also your God, Who called you to share in His inheritance (Romans 8:17) guide you and bless you.

    • Mac N cheese says:

      Cry me a river

    • Me says:

      Start by seeinng her as a person, not her ‘sin’. (I put it in quotations marks because I think that the primary sin here is not her beign gay, but reject God). Lie, steal, pride etc are sins too. Would you be more ok if your roommate lied in a daily basis instead of being gay? Ask that yourself.
      Pray for her, ask the Holy Spirit to open her eyes to the Thruth and that he guides you in how to address her. Ask him to help you being a ligth for her. Ask him to help you how to pray for her! Do not reject her, but pray first and then talk to her about how you feel about her bringing her girlfriend to your room. IDK tell her that is uncomfortable for you that she brings her significant one to your bedroom. I don’t know how things are there, but I guess that they don’t allow boys in the girls rooms for the same reason her girlfriend goes there. just saying…

  2. agnes yalley says:

    Dear Sophie, first of all, homosexuality is sin in God’s sight. It’s not okay. Sodom and Gomorrah was destroyed because of the sin of homosexuality. God made them male and female. I think you should pray for her to be exposed to God’s light which is truth. The god of this world has blinded her to see truth. Share God’s Word with her and pray for her. Put up scriptures in the room if she feels feel to put up her belief. Don’t be afraid or shy to speak truth into her life. Invite her to your fellowhsip and continue to pray for her. Let her know God loves her and is willing to accept her. Above all, pray for yourself Sophie for God to protection and preserve you. Also seek counsel about it with your Pastor and be the light according to Matthew 5:16. God loves you Sophie and I believe He has a purpose for you being in the room with her. You are blessed Sophie.

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