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What is the Purpose of Being a Girl?

By: Kristen Clark

It was a cold and windy day in Texas. Definitely not ideal weather for shooting an outdoor video, but it didn’t matter. We were on a mission. With our small film crew in tow, Bethany and I headed into the heart of our local University campus.

We scanned the sea of busy students and decided to place ourselves right in the middle of the action. With our microphone in hand and the cameras rolling, we approached random students to get their thoughts on some controversial topics.

“Besides the obvious physical differences, do you think there’s a difference between guys and girls?”

This was the first question we asked each person. Without hesitation, almost everyone agreed that there was a small difference between guys and girls, but not much. We then asked, “Okay, if guys and girls are different, what would you say is the distinct purpose of being a girl?”

This question was instantly met with puzzled looks and surprised faces. “Hmmm…a purpose…” one girl said in slow confusion. Overall, not one girl gave us a confident answer for why she existed in this world.

“Should a person’s gender affect their life plan?”

was our third question. Their demeanors instantly switched gears and they gave their opinions confidently. “Not at all,” several girls said. “A person’s gender should have nothing to do with their purpose and roles in life.” Another girl said enthusiastically, “a man and woman should always do the same things.”

You are distinctly different from a guy.

What’s your personal opinion? Should a man and woman always do the same things in life? Are you any different than a guy? To get some answers to these life changing questions we have to go to the source.

The only person who was around when all of this went down – God himself. He had a blank slate in hand and could have designed anything He wanted. Instead of creating a world with only one gender, or a world with multiple types of genders, what did He do? He designed a man and a woman (Genesis 2).

He purposely created two distinctly different genders. God didn’t design an “Adam and Steve;” He designed an “Adam and Eve.” And He did it for a reason.

Being a girl has a ton of significance because of that one act of God. Our loving creator is the author of the female design, and He never intended for us to become, “basically the same as a guy.”

No way!

God purposely, intentionally, and with forethought invented the woman – you – to be totally different from the man.

God’s Design for the Girl is Incredible.

Whenever God does something as obvious as creating two distinctly different genders, we should always stop and ask, “Why?” What did God have in mind when He decided to make us this way? He had every human being in mind, that’s what.

In order to give you and me a small glimpse of God’s divine nature, He carefully crafted the human race to be a reflection of His personal image (Genesis 1:26). He designed the man and the woman to display the glory of God in ways that are unique to each. He designed us as equally valuable humans with two different roles and purposes in this world. Stay with me now – it’s about to get really good!

“Men were created to reflect the strength, love,and self-sacrifice of Christ. Women were created to reflect the responsiveness, grace, and beauty of the bride He redeemed. And marriage was created to reflect the covenant union of Christ and His bride.” – Divine Design (pg. 27)

As a girl, you can glorify God in ways that a guy can’t.

For starters, you are gifted with the ability to bring new life into this world. You’re able to grow a child inside of you for nine months and then feed that baby with your own body once it’s born.

That’s amazing!

God instilled deep inside of you a nurturing spirit of gentleness, compassion, comfort, sympathy, insight, and encouragement. A guy will never make as good a “mommy” as a girl will. Being a mother isn’t a lowly job in God’s eyes, it’s one of greatest things you could do with your life.

“Many women have done excellently, but you [wife, godly mother & homemaker] surpass them all” (Proverbs 31:29).

God also gave you the role of being a teammate and vice president to your future husband. Marriage isn’t supposed to look like two people living independently of one another. You’re a team!

As a wife someday, you will be able to glorify God by showing the world what a supportive, loving, encouraging, organized, wisdom-filled wife looks like. As you and your husband serve God side-by-side you are called to be the primary overseer and manager of everything regarding your home. You will have the challenge of making your home a place of peace, refuge, security, and hospitality for your husband and family (Titus 2:4-5).

If God calls you to be in the small percentage of women who serve Him through a life of singleness, you will still serve in similar ways as a married woman. You will have a home base where you can serve God through hospitality, reaching out to neighbors, hosting events, leading Bible studies, etc.

Whether a woman is single or married during her lifetime, we are all called to the same standard of godly living.

It’s Time to Embrace Your God-Given Purpose.

I’ve only scratched the surface on God’s unique design for the girl. Being born a girl isn’t an accident, and it’s not a position that should taken lightly. Our enemy, satan, is working hard to deceive people into believing lies about our gender roles and purposes.

If you choose to believe the lie that guys and girls are basically the same, you are telling God that He didn’t know what He was doing when He designed you.

I challenge you to study passages like Proverbs 31 and Titus 2, and the lives of Biblical women such as Ruth, Esther, Abigail and Mary. These women lived their lives to honor God by displaying His beautiful, feminine design to the world around them.

To sum things up: Yes – I do believe that guys and girls are different.

Very different.

Second, the purpose of a girl is to glorify God by serving Him in ways distinctly designed for her gender. Whether it’s as a wife, mother, single girl, grandma, or little girl, God has instructions for how we as females should live and what our priorities should be in life.

Last, a person’s gender should absolutely affect their life plan. Your gender has everything do with your role and purpose in life. Your future goals and life plans should align with God’s vision for a successful woman.

Don’t look to the world for answers regarding your purpose as a girl.

They will feed you lies. God designed you and He’s the only one who knows how you should live. Follow God’s directions. Turn to His Word for answers. You will never be happier than when you’re walking in the center of God’s purpose and design for you.

For a deeper study on this topic, we highly recommend these resources:

True Woman 101 – Divine Design
30 Day True Woman Makeover
Radical Womanhood by: Carolyn McCulley

Girl in Field

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Radical Purity

23 Responses to What is the Purpose of Being a Girl?

  1. Searching says:

    This post recognizes two genders (based on sex characteristics) and two distinct ways of expressing them. However, many people are born with ambiguous genitalia- that is the way God created their bodies. For example, there are people with congenital adrenal hyperplasia, androgen insensitivity syndrome, anorchia, or 5-alpha-reductase deficiency to name a few. Some people are born with aspects of both male and female sex characteristics. Even if sex chromosomes are used as the determining factor, those with Klinefelter’s syndrome are born with the chromosomes XXY. And are they not fearfully and wonderfully made? How are they to express their gender in a way that is pleasing to God?

  2. GirlDefined says:

    Great questions @disqus_YKYdEeqxXm:disqus. Every person is fearfully and wonderfully made because every human is created by God. He designed our world with the male and female genders in mind from the beginning. However, due to the corruption of sin in the world, we are now faced with disorders and abnormal functions that were not present in the perfect garden of Eden. To answer your questions, I am going to recommend two great articles on the topic of hermaphroditism or intersex for you to read. I think you will find them helpful:

  3. Alenia Dark says:

    I have a confession: I am a feminist.
    Before you jump to conclusions, I am not the type of feminist that believes that girls are better than guys. At the same time, I do not believe that girls are even equal to guys.
    I am a feminist that believes that girls and guys are so different that they cannot be compared. God made us for different purposes, so I think that we shouldn’t be compared. Kind of like chocolate and puppies. They are both amazing (or terrible, it all opinion) but they are different, so they cannot be compared.
    I believe that girls and guys can do similar things, but I believe that they should do those things in their own particular way (With logical restrictions).

    An example for me is opening doors. I have a friend who is quite a gentleman (quite a few of them actually,) but he will ALWAYS hold doors open for me. However, whenever I try to do the same for him, he (jokingly yet seriously at the same time) scolds me saying that opening doors is a man’s job.
    I personally believe that opening doors should be common courtesy and that both men and woman should be able do it. Now, i don’t go out of my way to hurry and open a door for a guy, but if I get to the door first and whatnot, I will open it and hold it open for the people behind me. I really believe that it is adorable and very attractive when a guy holds a door open for a girl, and I think that guys should definitely keep that up, but I think girls should be able to hold doors open for guys as well. 🙂

    What’s your view on this?

    • texassa says:

      Feminism by definition is the belief in women’s rights on the grounds of social, political, and economic equality to men. It has nothing to do with a belief that “girls are better than guys.” This is a inaccurate trope meant to undermine the values and goals of feminism.

  4. Katie says:

    Dearest Kristen (and Bethany!)
    I just found your blog yesterday, and by the grace of God, I
    have already been BLOWN. AWAY. What I have seen/read so far has left me edified
    and extremely impressed and appreciative! I subscribed to y’all yesterday,
    received the devotional free book (THANK YOU SO MUCH!) and plan on doing it
    soon, and I also watched the video referenced in this post. I ALMOST commented
    on YouTube “wow. Some of the answers given in this video are HEARTBREAKING! L”
    but refrained, for fear of instigating a youtube war lol.
    But I really enjoyed and was blessed by this post. That is
    such a great question I don’t think I’ve thought of very much, or at least not
    in that specific light: what IS the point of being a girl!?
    Because God knew that I could serve and better bring Him
    glory as one!
    I especially was blessed by the quotes concerning the
    specific attributes of God that only women and only men (in proper context!)
    can display <3 I really appreciate your hearts for Jesus and this blog—and I
    intend to be back! ((Hugs to you both))

    • GirlDefined says:

      Hi Katie!

      Thank you so much for your comment. We are so grateful that you find our website helpful and encouraging! Praise the Lord! It is always extremely encouraging for us to hear feedback from women like yourself. May God continue to bless you with wisdom as you strive to honor Him with your life as a woman. Keep fighting the good fight!

      Many blessings,

  5. Brooklyn Mikinzie says:

    Okay, so I just came across this site and LOVE IT! It is amazing and encouraging! Thank you!

  6. A MAN - Husband, Pastor says:

    So if a woman were to be single for their whole life, then they are failing to fulfill their purpose? even though statistically the number of females globally outweighs the number of males? So outside of making babies and supporting her husband women have no purpose?

    Also you said that God made women to reflect the grace, beauty of the redeemed bride… thats not being made in God’s image…. thats the church you’re talking about….

    This is genuinely degrading for women everywhere.

    Sweet Lord

    • Nyelah says:

      If a woman is to be single her whole life then she is fulfilling the Will of the Lord 🙂 Married or single neither is greater than the other and God can certainly understand both: He can understand the single because Christ lived here on earth single, but also has a bride which is The Church. God made man and women in his image, yes, and since marriage is a reflection of Christ and his love for his church men had to be one and woman the other, correct? Man=Christ and woman=church and man is to protect, sanctify, and protect her like Christ died for his church. It’s all just a representation. And yes, women can work there are biblical women out there whom serve God at home, church, and work. However, serving God is the first priority, and a woman can serve God by serving her kids and raising them in the Lord, pleasing her husband and serving him- all which glorify God and at her job. It’s not degrading to women, friend, especially if the will of God is being fulfilled. God has a specific role for women and men and if that’s what you’re saying is degrading, which you are, then it’s not the blog you have a problem with but the Worf of God and the way he has established things to be.

  7. Aimee Anderson says:

    Kristen, I have a question for you and Bethany. Have either of you read or considered books by John and Stasi Eldredge? Do you have an opinion of their books? Just curious, I’ve read and been changed by a few of their books and wondered what you ladies thought of them.

  8. texassa says:

    What, then, is a woman?

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  10. Godgirl123 says:

    Amazing article! You ladies are really inspiring! Thank you so much 🙂

  11. Gwyn says:

    I agree that women should be supportive and encouraging towards their husbands. That is such an important part of marriage! But one can do those things without being in a different role. Men should be supportive and encouraging towards their wives as well. It goes both ways. That is what teamwork is.

    Men and women are different from one another, but these differences don’t necessarily mean that men can’t be loving, nurturing parents and women can’t be strong, career-oriented leaders. In fact, one can fit both of these roles simultaneously, whether they are male, female or something in between.

  12. Emmanuelle Harris says:

    Here’s my view on this article: I don’t want to be defined first by my gender. It is not the most important thing about me. I am so much more than just female. For example, first and foremost, I am a person. I am a person with my own unique personality, giftings, desires, and opinions. And it’s true, some (maybe most) of them do not fit with the traditional conservative Christian views of femininity. Some of them do, and that’s fine, but what do I do with the ones that don’t? This article says that women shouldn’t strive to be the same as men, and my issue with that statement is that it completely fails to take into account who I am as an individual. For example, I don’t like children. I don’t ever want to be a mother or a wife, and I don’t think those things are necessarily wrong. They’re just a part of who I am. I am not a naturally nurturing or motherly person. I love strategy and debate and actively fighting for what I think is right. I am stubborn and strong and a good leader. Are those traditionally feminine qualities? Maybe not, but they are authentically me, and I believe that I can serve God and glorify Him through those qualities. I certainly do not believe that it is sinful for me to be this way because I am a woman when it is generally regarded as very positive for men.

    In some areas, I am gifted in the same way that some men are gifted. In those areas, I am technically “the same” as men. But not the same as all men, because not all men are the same. Do you see what I’m trying to say? Both men and women are people first, so to try to shove everyone into one of two categories is ridiculous. Who fits perfectly into the image of femininity? Surely not every woman. Who fits perfectly into the image of masculinity? Surely not every man. What I enjoy about feminism is that it gives me space to be an individual, not a category. Is it perfect? No. Does it get everything right? No. But it allows me to figure out who I am supposed to be on the basis of my humanity, the basis of what I like, what I can do, what I’m good at, instead of telling me that I must be a certain way because I was born female.

    Also, as a side note, check out Dorothy Sayers’ collection of essays called, “Are Women Human.” It has some really great stuff on this topic from a Christian viewpoint.

  13. Saltasaurus says:

    I don’t believe that women are always better nurturers than men. I mean, I’m a girl and I’m terrible with kids. I don’t see them anywhere in my future. I’m certain there are boys and men who would be a hundred times better at nurturing children than me. Does that mean I’m not being a girl the right way? I don’t think it makes sense to place people in boxes like that. Also, why does a wife have to be a Vice President to her husband? Why can’t she be the metaphorical president? Or maybe one person should not be given power over their spouse simply because of their gender. Would a marriage in which a wife is a breadwinner and a husband is a homemaker go against God’s word? To be completely honest I just think the whole idea of gender roles is toxic and unhealthy for everyone.

    • Lorelei Thorne says:

      I am late to the game on this reply, but you have some great questions that I have wrestled with before, as well. I would say that your lack of nurturing skills with children does not make you less of a woman. I would also say that anyone–male or female–can learn how to be better nurtures as their life progresses. Like the article stated, there is a number of ways for a woman to glorify God–you do not need to have kids and be a perfect, natural nurturer to do so. And I would say that “Vice President” is the best picture from our current society that can be used to describe the role of a wife according to God’s plan. The Vice President is, absolutely, the right-hand man to the President. The VP is the Presidents confidant, helper, encourager, and the one who does the work that the President cannot or does not have time to do. And when/if something bad happens to the President the VP takes their place because they have been their teammate in it all and are the only one who could do the job properly with the President gone. I do not see the VP as a lesser title–the President and VP are equal, they just hold different purposes. I do not believe that God gives “power” to one gender–that is the wrong way to look at it. Each person has their own strength and weaknesses and, hopefully, when put together, they can balance each other out and fill the gaps–each have “power” (if you want to use that term) in different ways and in different areas. I also do not believe that the person in the family who makes the most amount of money (the “breadwinner”) determines who the head-of-household should be. A woman could make more money than the man just because of the career she has chosen, but in the house the man can still act as the President/head-of-household. Money, within the home, should never distinguish power or role in my opinion. Our society placed high importance on gender roles for so long–roles that were distorted–and now our society is fighting against the very distorted gender roles they created and are denying any definition or distinction at all, which is inherently nonscene…anyone can see that there is at least some type of distinction. And defining things gives things purpose, it doesn’t/shouldn’t limit things. Hope this helps. 🙂

  14. Boston says:

    “Last, a person’s gender should absolutely affect their life plan. Your gender has everything do with your role and purpose in life. Your future goals and life plans should align with God’s vision for a successful woman.” – This statement is a form of emotional abuse. To tell a person exactly how to live thier life because of thier gender is abuse. This blog is incredibly narrow minded. I embrace people of all gender identities. Your writing is mysgonistic and clearly influenced by a male run patriarchal church. Please stop using these words. Your ignorance hurts many.

  15. Nola says:

    Where in the Bible does it say that women always have to be homemakers? NO WHERE. Just look at some of the women in the Bible, Ester, Deborah and Ruth. They were called to things other then homemaking and were very Godly women. Although I agree that there are gender differences and that they need to be embraced, I dont think that that means the main purpose of being a woman is to be a homemaker. The Bible does not say that.

  16. No, just stop says:

    If this is true then hail Satan!

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