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Resisting the Seduction of our Sexualized World

By: Kristen Clark

I was chatting with a friend recently who shared an eye-opening experience with me. Being a huge music fan herself, she’s always on the lookout for new and inspiring tunes. One of her other friends had sent her a song to check out, which they had been raving about for days.

Within seconds of listening to it on Spotify, she was instantly captivated by how incredible the voice of the singer was. She clicked repeat. And then repeated it again.

After several days of playing the song over and over, she naturally memorized the lyrics. One morning while getting ready for the day, she was singing the song quietly to herself when she was suddenly shocked by what she was saying.

“What in the world am I singing about!?” She thought out loud. “These lyrics are horrible!”

Without skipping a beat, she looked up the lyrics on her iPhone.

As she read through the first verse, the chorus, the second verse, and the bridge, she was amazed at how sexually promiscuous the song was.

“How in the world did I not hear this before?” She wondered.

Shocked by her own ability to mindlessly sing such sensual lyrics, she realized how easily she had been seduced by the sexualized messages of this world. The song itself sounded beautiful – and no doubt the singer had some serious talent – but the message of the song was against everything she knew God’s Word called her to.

Falling prey to the seduction of this sexualized world has happened to me in my life more times than I’d like to count. We live in a culture that is enticing us with sensual messages everywhere we go.

However, it can be really hard to spot them sometimes.

Hollywood is constantly pumping out feel-good-chick-flicks that promote a version of true love that is completely contrary to God’s design. Nashville is regularly feeding us new music that is bursting with fresh talent and catchy tunes but often promotes a worldview that flies in the face of God’s truth.

New York City and LA are constantly creating alluring fashion trends that captivate us on the runway, but their clothing ideas don’t always line up with God’s heart for purity and modesty.

So much of what we watch, hear, and look at in our modern culture appears to be beautiful, but sadly, falls short of God’s calling for holiness, righteousness, and honor.

If we want to be Christian women with strong backbones in this modern age, we’re going to have to be intentional about looking out for seductive lies in our everyday life.

I studied the book of Colossians recently and was struck by a certain verse in chapter two.

It says, “See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ” (Colossians 2:8).

“See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit…”

That is the part that really struck me between the eyes. That no one takes you captive… This verse is warning the early Christians of the exact same things we need to be on guard against today. Not much has changed in 2,000 years. The presentation might look a little different today, but the seduction and lies are just the same.

As modern Christian women, we must be on our guard against these lies, or we will easily (and unintentionally) get swept up in them.

The more we tune our hearts to the melody of the world, the more desensitized we will become to God’s truth. 

Before long, we find ourselves right where my friend (and I) have been – singing catchy songs about premarital sex that contradict everything about God’s good design for marriage. Songs that mock God’s holiness and righteousness. Songs that laugh at God’s design.

If we want to avoid getting swept away in the enticing current of modern culture, we have to do what the first part of that verse says: “See to it that no one takes you captive…”

“See to it…”

We have to be aware and on our guard.

We have to “see to it” on a daily and hourly basis. We have to carefully examine what we’re watching, listening to, and telling ourselves. We have to intentionally filter everything we’re fed and everything we feel through God’s Word. Anything that contradicts God’s truth – no matter how appealing – needs to go.

“Seeing to it” takes a lot of intentional effort and thought. It requires God’s strength and grace each and every day. We need to be in God’s Word, renewing our mind with His truth on a daily basis. We need to be on our knees, praying for God’s strength to live honorable lives for His glory.

And when we’re feeling weary and tired, let’s pull out Galatians 6:8-9 and remind ourselves of this truth: “The one who sows to please his flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; but the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”

I want to encourage you to pray and ask God to help you “see to it” in your daily life.

Ask God to help you spot the subtle lies that might be taking you captive.

Make it a priority to get into God’s Word so your mind will be filled with His truth. Ask God to help you stay the course so you can grow into a godly woman whose life displays the beauty of the gospel.

For more help on how to become a woman who pursues truth, I want to personally invite you the 2019 GirlDefined Conference on August 2-3 in San Antonio. This year’s theme is, Chasing Truth: Being a Girl Who Fearlessly Pursues God’s Word. You will be equipped on how to chase truth in your own life in crucial areas such as sexuality, purity, social fear, food struggles, guy crushes, singleness, unfulfilled longings, inner anxiety, social media, and much more. For information, visit this page. 

Now let’s chat.

  • Think of your life right now. Can you think of any seductive lies that you might be buying into?

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16 Responses to Resisting the Seduction of our Sexualized World

  1. Abigail Mae Carpenter says:

    I love this post so much!

  2. Karen Elaine Fulmer says:

    So good for us to hear! I am a big music person, as I play piano and guitar, and it’s really hard to judge which songs are good and which aren’t. Thanks so much for this!!

  3. Nicolas Cage says:

    So true! That’s why I only listen to 666 by Miss Sharon Needles. Hail Satan!!

  4. Shanae B says:

    So very true! The sexual hype is literally everywhere. Sometimes I feel like it’s being spoon fed by force. If it isn’t a provocative image, statement, or some kind of rights; it’s a scandal, crime or accusation. It’s definitely getting harder to not come across something sexual related these days. We really do need to very much so be watchful and aware!

    • Ruth says:

      I was just talking about that with a friend, specifically about music but also movies. About a year ago, I felt convicted and tossed a bunch of my movies and deleted some songs off my Ipod. (Do people even have Ipods anymore…I feel like it’s dying). Anyway, whenever I want to try a new movie — I’m almost always shocked/annoyed of all the sexualzation even in kids movies. It’s sad. Many of the christian films are corny in my opinion and just aren’t fun to watch. You’re right….it’s everywhere!! As I get older, it only gets harder to avoid. Almost depressing.

      • Shanae B says:

        I actually still have and use an iPod! Maybe I somewhat like corny because at least some the christian movies I enjoy! But yes as I get older I definitely have changed what I watch and listen to. I’ll see an old cartoon show I use to watch and enjoy as a kid and am shocked by the “adult” references or humor. It very much so getting harder to avoid. Which is why we kind of always need to be on alert for such things!

  5. Bekky says:

    This is so true! It’s absolutely crucial to remind ourselfs from time to time.
    + Here’s a practical tip: Spotify settings make it possible to exclude music with explicit lyrics from the get go 🙂

  6. an Excitable History Buff says:

    This is especially true, for someone very obsessed with musical theater. I try to stay away from musicals like Falsettos, Book of Mormon, Spring Awakening, Heathers, etc. It’s hard, though, especially since those musicals are so mainstream in the theater community.

  7. Nola says:

    You have got to be kidding me. This is so stupid.

    • Ellie says:

      Go ahead. Spurn these words of truth. GirlDefined is the best site, and these sisters are two of my biggest heroes.

      • Nola says:

        Omg please just stop

        • Mary says:

          Friends, people have different opinions on this just like everyone else. Nola, as Christians we’re called to be set apart from the world. In music, a lot of people (including me, but I’ll try not to let that make me stubborn and rude to those who don’t feel this way) feel that a way to be set apart is to listen to things that aren’t hurtful to their minds and hearts. If something accidentally slips in, that might feel like a big deal, because they were trying to guard their hearts and minds against that. I hope that sheds a little light on this subject. Ellie, some people may not feel convicted about the same things you feel. In fact, you can both even be strong Christians and disagree with each other on what you would consider a clear cut issue. The question you have to ask is, “Will I change anyone’s mind by arguing, or is it best to not engage?” I’m trying to mediate a little bit because it’s upsetting when people dispute about things that really won’t matter in the long run. All in all, listen to the advice given here, then talk to God about it. If you feel Him convicting you to change, then do so. If you don’t think it’s something you should change, then move on.

  8. Sea Star says:

    I love this! There is a part of me that used to respond to this kind of practical advice as legalistic. Keeping the Christian liberty mindset is ideal here (what’s a stumbling block to me may not be to my sister in Christ, and vice versa, and we need to allow for that!), but it’s still such a practical way for us to get serious about putting passages like the one you cited in Colossians 2 into practice.

    Also, to my younger sisters in Christ – it gets easier!! High school (and even college/undergrad) can be such a time of pressure to keep up with the latest stuff. In the real world, I am usually respected to make my own decisions about what I watch and read and nobody *really* cares one way or another. So the peer pressure to keep up with this stuff slackens as you and your friends mature.

    Also, the easiest way for me to cut out the lies in my life is when I tell myself, “This isn’t the best use of my time.” Why spend hours watching chick flicks that make me feel painfully single when I could be spending it investing in God’s Word, my friends & family, and healthy interests/hobbies like reading, writing, cooking, exercise, learning new things?

    So in a practical sense, though my initial reaction to “this is an unhealthy lie – cut this out!” was negative, telling myself “you don’t have time for this. What is the best use of the time God has given you?” made it much easier. And of course, these ‘seductive lies’ are like junk food. When you eat it, you think you need it, but if you cut it out for a while, you’re more likely to come back to it later and realize it’s actually kinda gross.

  9. Nat c says:

    Yep this happens to me and whenever I listen to secular music I get sad. I am vunerable in those areas so that is why I have an accountability partner to help me out and monitors my phone but also I pray about and ask God primarily for help

  10. Ellie says:

    I buy the lie that I have to be super skinny to be beautiful and for guys to notice me, since they never do.

    • Casey Nagel says:

      Ellie- You are BEAUTIFUL! You don’t need to be skinny, or ‘perfect’ according to the world, to be beautiful. God created you to be gorgeous just the way you are! And one day, if it’s God’s plan for your life, he will bring a wonderful, handsome, Godly, Loving man into your life, who will love you for the person you are inside. If people judge you or talk bad about you, on account of how skinny you are, then they are really shallow people.
      Psalm 139:14 says ‘I will praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made’ God made us beautiful on the INSIDE, and that is really what this life is all about, to shine Gods light out to the world. And how we do that, comes from inside us. Who we are at our core. Who Jesus is through us! I hope that this encourages you to look past what others think, and remember how our Savior sees us! Have a good day! Casey

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