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Seduction: Using Feminine Allure in the Right Way

By: Kristen Clark

Standing in front of my bedroom mirror, I checked-out at my new jeans. I thought to myself, you look seriously hot. I had been working out a lot, my skin was tan from being in the sun, and my new jeans were snug around my hips. Looking at myself up and down, I knew the guys would notice me. I wanted them to notice me. As a single girl, I wanted to be wanted.

As I headed out the door to meet up with my friends, I suddenly felt very powerful and alluring. Even seductive.

Without ever being formally taught, I knew how to use my femininity to get the attention and affirmation I wanted.

After meeting up with my group of friends, I instantly felt the glances and stares from the guys around me. One of my girl-friends even walked up to me and said, “girl, you’re looking extra hot tonight!” Mission accomplished. I felt hot, and other people thought I looked hot. I never lacked male attention that entire evening. Feeling desired, in-control, and powerful had never felt so good.

My desire to be alluring and seductive that night is something most of us, as women feel. We want to be beautiful. We want to be noticed. We want to be desired. We want to be pursued.

Most of us have also learned that we can use our feminine beauty in strategic ways to get what we want.

We see this being played out almost every day in our society. Beautiful women are often featured in advertisements as a way to attract onlookers. Clothing stores make sales by appealing to our longing to be noticed through the provocative clothes they sell. Social media is filled with sensual selfies from us, as women, hoping to be noticed and desired.  

So here’s the question. Is it wrong to be beautiful and seductive as a woman?

When we open God’s word, we will discover an eye-opening truth. Being seductive is something that comes naturally to most girls and women because it’s actually a part God’s sexual design for us (Proverbs 5:18-19, Song of Solomon 7:6-10). God purposely created women to be beautiful with soft skin, lovely curves, and feminine features.

The problem isn’t that we’re beautiful, seductive or have sexual desires, it’s that we’re embracing these things in the wrong context.

Sadly, what we see in our society isn’t God’s good plan for women. Using our bodies as a means to get attention, produce sales, and gain power is sinful and selfish. Using our feminine allure for personal gratification is selfish and prideful. Seducing the guys around us isn’t true love, but self-gratifying lust (1 Thess. 4:3-5).  

These are the wrong contexts for seduction and sexual allure.

Instead of falling in-line with how our society operates, we as Christian women, need to see what God’s Word has to say about how to properly embrace seduction and sexual allure.

Contrary to what many people think, God is actually pro-sex because He is the author and designer of it (Genesis 2). Sexual intimacy is a complete package deal created by God for the enjoyment of couples within marriage (Heb. 13:4). This package includes things like seduction, allure, desire, satisfaction, and pleasure. God isn’t shy about this either!

He gave us the entire book of Song of Solomon to illustrate the beauty of seduction and sexual enjoyment within marriage.

In our new book, Love Defined: Embracing God’s Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationship, I share this:

“Many Bible scholars believe Song of Solomon is the actual love story between Solomon and his first wife (the Shulamite maiden). This beautiful love poem begins with the ‘courtship’ phase of the relationship, where the couple expresses and reciprocates their love for each other (see 1:2–3:5). Then their love story moves into the wedding stage, where the bride and groom cleave to one another and share their first night of sexual passion together (see 3:6–5:1).

And then, finally, the end of the poem paints a vivid picture of their marriage, showing the realities of a couple working through conflict, restoration, and growing in grace together (see 5:2–8:14). Song of Solomon is a candid and beautiful love story that should prepare us and get us excited about God’s design for sexual passion within marriage.”

God’s good plan is for us to enjoy the gift of sexual intimacy (and all that goes with it) within the beautiful context of marriage.

Even though we have strong sexual desires before marriage, God promises to give single women the strength to live a pure life if we seek Him (Psalm 118:14). God created us to be sexual beings from the moment we’re born and He knows our longings. We can trust that He will supply us with the strength we need to live righteously and walk in purity.

Psalm 118:14 says, “The Lord is my strength and my song; he has become my salvation.”

Psalm 119:9 says, “How can a young man [or woman] keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your word.”

Rather than embracing feminine beauty in the wrong ways, God is calling us, as Christian women to use our femininity in ways that will bless and serve those around us (Gal. 5:13-14).

Rather than being seductive and alluring, we should strive to radiate the beauty of Christ through our genuine love for others and desire to walk in purity.

I was convicted of this after that night out with my friends. God opened my eyes to see how wrongly and selfishly I had been using my feminine beauty as a single woman. I was looking to guys to be my satisfaction rather than Christ. Deep inside, I was trying to fill my longings with a temporary solution. I learned that seduction, in the wrong context, never satisfies long-term.

As one author says, “Seduction is a powerful tool to get a man’s attention…but at the deepest level of our heart, we desperately long for a relationship and to be cherished and loved by a man. Seduction doesn’t give us that.”

Seduction outside of marriage will always leave us empty and longing for more.

But seduction — within the beautiful context of marriage — will draw us closer to our spouse by fueling the intimacy we have with the one we’ve committed our lives to.

God’s ways truly are best. His plan for seduction and feminine allure within marriage are good. May God transform our desires and actions to be in line with His. May we live out our femininity (in every season of life) in ways that are truly beautiful and glorifying to God.

If you want to learn more about God’s design for love and marriage, grab a copy of our brand new book, Love Defined: Embracing God’s Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationship. If you pre-order by April 30th, you’ll also get the complete audiobook, coloring book, and verse card set for FREE!

Let’s chat below. 

  • In what ways are you tempted to use your feminine allure in selfish ways?
  • How have you seen feminine beauty used in God-honoring way?

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49 Responses to Seduction: Using Feminine Allure in the Right Way

  1. Girlady Bouvier says:

    This article is just beautiful. I’m using to read articles who tries to teach us through fear and shame. No wonder why it never works! I loved how you showed that by protecting our feminine allure, we focus on the beauty that really matters. We realize that while mundane beauty is all about us, the Godly beauty is focused beyond ourselves, and doesn’t wear out with age. Like every truth that comes from God, it feels liberating and heartwarming to remember that!

  2. Shanae B says:

    Spot on article! Good reminder to think why and for who we dress for! I thankfully grew up in a home were modesty was instilled to me from a very young age, so this hasn’t been much of a struggle for me. But totally see it in the culture. Even at church girls as young as 10 wear clothes and make up as if they’re in their twenties or stepping out of a fashion magazine, just to get a boys attention and/or to feel better about themselves and worth it. Instead of having their worth in God. My heart goes out to them. Thanks for posting!

  3. This is a great topic and I’ve never thought of seduction and allure in this way! I’ve always thought of it to be sinful but in a marriage it is a beautiful thing.

    I’ve never been a flirty or seductive girl I’m just really shy and I’m choosing not to date until I’m ready for marriage (I’m 16) but still I find myself wanting attention from guys. Since I’m not a big flirter, guys don’t pay as much attention to me as other girls which can make me feel down sometimes. Whenever that happens I think of you guys and y’all beautiful love stories and how y’all waited and how God will bless my marriage as I wait.

    You guys are such an inspiration to me. I’ve always had a passion for purity and helping girls live out a God filled life of purity and joy and y’all have only grown that passion inside my spirit! May God bless y’all! You guys have a true gift from the Lord☺️❤️

  4. Peace says:

    Wow, I love this post as it refers to me a lot. Yes, I dress modestly and want compliments from people to feel good about myself. When I was younger,I never cared what I wore, I dressed moderately and happily withoust caring of what other would say but now I am 16, I feel people are watching me and I want compliments from them. Thanks for this post as now I can feel happy dressing the right way even if no one is gonna compliment me. God bless you guys!
    Modesty in all things!

  5. Jason Garrick Shirtz says:

    “Many Bible scholars believe Song of Solomon is the actual love story between Solomon and his first wife (the Shulamite maiden).”

    Good. Kristen and Bethany are aware then, that Polygamy was a God-sanctioned practice in the Bible, and therefore marriage as defined by the Bible is not “one man, one woman” but rather “one man, many women”.

    Could we see an article justifying the constant use of “one man, one woman” at some point, despite the Biblical evidence otherwise?

    It’s not just David and Solomon I’m talking about either.

    Abraham makes the list, as does Jacob, as does Esau, as does Moses.

    A quick google search pulled up a list of 40 Polygamous men listed in the Bible.

    I just don’t see how you can say with a straight face “The Bible says, one man, one woman” when that is very clearly not the case to anyone who has ever read the thing.

    • Voice of Reason says:

      God never approved of that practice. Ever. In each instance it occurred in the Scriptures, it ended terribly. TERRIBLY. Sin always ends with the death of something and even someone. Solomon was brought low because of this. David had a horrid lust problem and caused him to murder and even lose his own child. Abraham and Sarah’s sin caused their maidenservant and her child to be cast out forever. Polygamy is clearly disfunctional BECAUSE God never intended it to ever be, but allowed it to happen to show how sin affects us all.

      • Jason Garrick Shirtz says:

        You sure about that?

        Because the way I read 2 Samuel 12: 7-9 it sounds like God sanctioned David having multiple wives, although he did not sanction David committing adultery, nor did he sanction David committing murder.

        And Nathan said to David, Thou art the man. Thus saith the Lord God of Israel, I anointed thee king over Israel, and I delivered thee out of the hand of Saul;

        8 And I gave thee thy master’s house, and thy master’s wives into thy bosom, and gave thee the house of Israel and of Judah; and if that had been too little, I would moreover have given unto thee such and such things.

        9 Wherefore hast thou despised the commandment of the Lord, to do evil in his sight? thou hast killed Uriah the Hittite with the sword, and hast taken his wife to be thy wife, and hast slain him with the sword of the children of Ammon.

        • UnSeen One says:

          In God wisdom it is permitted to some to have more than one wife, but this is not given to all because of their unrighteousness. higher ways will come to those who make it to Millennium new mystery’s revealed of higher understandings.

        • Shanae B says:

          In this aspect things were very different in the Old Testament before Christ came. It was also (before Christ) a rule that if a mans brother died and left he’s wife childless the living brother had to marry the widow and produce a son for his dead brothers line. Having multiple wife’s was a sort of provision and protection for women back then. Notice since Christ’s resurrection multiple spouses is never considered or condoned.

        • Jason Garrick Shirtz says:

          @unseen_one:disqus ,@shanaebutterworth:disqus

          You both give excellent examples of why polygamy is not a currently accepted practice by Christians.

          However, that point was not the stakes of this debate!

          my point was “One man, One woman” is not a biblical claim, especially not one that you can establish using the Old Testament.

          You cannot simultaneously claim that “one man, one woman” “because God created Adam and Eve in Genesis” and claim “In the Old Testament polygamy was tolerated by God because marriage practices were different than they are now.”.

          Either God established “one man, one woman” in the Old Testament, and the prophets who practiced it were sinning; or he didn’t in which case “one man, one woman” at best is a New Testament” concept, at worst a “non-biblical culturally defined concept”.

          There is no means to establish it as a “Biblical” concept, as it is clearly practiced in the OT by key figures with God either directly condoning it, or perhaps even supporting it.

          • Shanae B says:

            When the fall happened in Eden and the order of things God had set in place was turned upside down God had to make (or allow) temporary things like this until through Christ a way was set to put it back upright. Just because there are no exact words saying marriage is only one man and one woman doesn’t mean it isn’t implied.

        • Jason Garrick Shirtz says:

          @shanaebutterworth:disqus , @unseen_one:disqus

          Please note, that the arguments that the two of you are offering me, don’t really modify the crux of my argument.

          I claimed, that at best you could say that “one man, one woman” is a new testament, New covenant argument. one that is not supportable by the OT, and therefore is not supported by the bible as a whole.

          Which, is so close to the argument that the two of you are making….

          That I think we are basically in agreement at this point, except for some reason, rather than agreeing with me on that, the two of you are….

          I dunno. Re-arranging the deck chairs of ship that is not sinking?

          Seriously this one is done. It’s time for us to move on.

      • Jason Garrick Shirtz says:

        Give those verses a good read. Please note the phrasing “I gave thee thy master’s wives”…. which was the Prophet Nathan in his “thus saith the Lord” voice; not his personal voice.

      • Jason Garrick Shirtz says:

        As far as the “it always ended “TERRIBLY” argument, that’s just not true. Yes; things went poor for King David, but that was due to aduletry, and murder, not having multiple wives. The prophet Nathan was a smart guy. He didn’t condemn David for having more than one wife, just for adultery and murder.

        And uh. I’m pretty sure that Jacob fathering the 12 tribes of Israel is not usually described as “ending terribly”.

        I’m also scratching my head trying to think of the karmic punishment that Abraham got for his multiple wives. As I seem to recall, there was no issue with that in the OT, and no bad end for him in any way, shape or form.

    • Skye says:

      We can confidently say that marriage in the Bible is “one man, one woman” because that is how it was for Adam and Eve. Adam and Eve were designed to be perfect, so their marriage arrangement is one that we should model for our own marriages. In cases like David, Solomon, Jacob, Esau, and Moses, they were all imperfect men with imperfect women. The Bible gives many other examples of different lifestyles: some bad, some good. By reading the Bible with the context in mind AND knowing God’s righteous standards, we can discern whether or not an example is one we should follow or not. Even though Adam and Eve made a mistake, God designed them and their marriage to be perfect. Therefore, it is the type of marriage that we should model ours after.

    • Jason Garrick Shirtz says:

      Skye, there are several major problems with that argument.

      1. God never actually said that Adam and Ever were married in the book of genesis. He said that they were to be “one flesh”. The inference that they were married by God, while popular, has no direct Biblical evidence to back it up.

      2. God never explicitly states that their marriage relationship was “perfect”. You can assume that prior to the Fall it was, but after the fall there is no evidence that their situation was “perfect”.

      3. You cite all of the other prophets/practitioners as “imperfect men with imperfect women” ignoring the fact that many of those “imperfect men” were kings, prophets and guides for Israel. According to the bible these “imperfect men” gained direct revelation from God , and surely would have been told by God that their marriages were sinful if it had been that high of a priority for God. Moses for example was given the Jewish code of health in the book of Leviticus, and also gained many commandments on the sexual practices observed by the Jews in that book. At no point in Leviticus does it prohibit Polygamy, and as that book is frequently cited as why God forbids Homosexuality, one would assume that if God actually wanted to make that clear, that’s the book where he would have done so.

    • Jason Garrick Shirtz says:

      My problem with the “one man, one woman” argument, is that it relies on relatively modern relationship mores, and has little to nothing to do with the claims made by the Bible.

      Abraham and Jacob; two of the major old testament prophets CLEARLY practiced Polygamy, and on top of that, received direct instruction from God according to the OT.

      that gives us a huge doctrinal problem: Did God not bother to tell two major OT prophets “Oh, by the way, your having more than one wife is a sin unto me, stop that”

      On top of that, the Law set forth by Moses had some regulations concerning the practice of Polygamy; such as not marrying sisters, and a few other odds and ends Finding these is as easy as doing a google search and looking in the books of Leviticus and Deuteronomy

      While many modern Christians like to claim that Polygamy is not a Godly practice, there is little; if any Biblical support for that idea. Marriage is hardly mentioned in the New Testament, and the facts and writings of the OT seem to support it.

      A “higher law” argument could be made from the passage from the OT, to the NT, but that same argument could be just as easily applied to invalidate any OT practice or prohibition; (such as banning homosexuality).

      You can make that argument if you like but if you do, don’t be shocked when some of your more “Liberal/Moderate” christian friends cite the same logic to justify their support of same-sex marriage.

  6. Noelani Smith says:

    Thank you for this article!! ❤ It was very clear and helpful on understanding these particular topics.

  7. Chelsea Ejimakor says:

    Great article. Mostly needed for women in our society today. Seduction will lead to fake relationship or marriage that will be cut short. Thanks Kristen

  8. UnSeen One says:

    Continue to stand for righteousness, help the need and poor for such is also necessary that Christians meet the requirements of Charity. The hour is soon here this world will shake to and fro in it orbit and those worthy to escape shall be taken up to a hidden place to await the coming Millennium. The world will continue to worsen, but the righteous need to come together and not be part of the sins of Babylon, make yourself not a enemy to the wicked but a peaceful people, lifting not the sword in word or action the Lord thy God is with ye and will keep ye safe. But be not afraid to call the world to repentance but do so in wisdom with love in heart, know ye too were a sinner once and should not judge others for their sins instead show them the light and warn them of the dangers, but let it come by the spirit of truth for it knows when to speak and what context. It is pleasing to God to see some standing up for righteousness and seeking to bring others into the Light, for many do the opposite in this generation for it is now fulfilled it has become as the day of Noah and becoming as days of lot.

  9. Michael B says:

    So, this is why sexy alluring women are ignoring me, when I desire their bodies… they are seeking God instead of poor me!I
    I wondered what the reason was! 🙂 Why then don’t they cover their bodies so as not to allure my sexual desires?

    • Anon says:

      It is not the responsibility of a lady to unexpose her shoulders so that it is easier for you to resist her sexually.

      • Michael B says:

        I would say that your ‘Response-Ability’ is entirely a matter of your own choosing? 🙂

        • Anon says:

          The culpability for you getting all hot and bothered when you see someone’s ankle is yours, not someone else’s.

          • Michael B says:

            Ankle only now is it? Thankfully where I live it’s usually rather more than that! I did see a beautiful foot in a sandal today though, so perhaps that can exert some influence – which is my responsibility?

          • HIS says:

            I believe personally that that’s why women should dress modestly… that way their not a stumbling block for other men.
            Also I believe men should turn away when temptation is in front of them.
            My body isn’t for show or sell it’s for my future hubby and him alone.
            If people have a problem with me dressing modestly, that’s their problem, if people have a problem with something I’m wearing I’d ask them to let me know because I don’t want to be the reason you stumble.

          • Michael B says:

            I guess that Muslim customs follow these viewpoints. Perhaps beauty of any kind should be covered up and hidden – lest it be a temptation of some kind?
            Personally I view all manifestations of beauty to be an expression of the creator. In that sense covering it or hiding it, reduces our world to mere shadows of the creators creative intent.. Each to their own beliefs!

          • HIS says:

            Well I’m not a muslim… I agree that God made us all beautiful, but I believe that we are supposed to be more intrigued by the inside rather then the outside of a person.
            Beauty doesn’t last.

          • Michael B says:

            I would agree, that ‘Beauty’ is not just a persons physical attributes – but all the aspects ,or expression of their inner (or non-physical) self too. As a male. I am constantly in awe of feminine expressions. I even view the male female differences, as exhibiting the wonderful creativity of ‘God’ or ‘Source’.
            The attraction between the sexes, is part of the design of this reality. Attraction, exists, not merely from physical attributes, it doesn’t end there. A person, is a whole package. To separate out physical, is to limit these other aspects, I feel.

          • HIS says:

            That’s what marriage is for… outside of marriage to have the whole “package” (as you call it) it would be sin… right?

          • Michael B says:

            By the term ‘Whole package’ I’m merely referring to ‘All’ that a person is. Obviously there is more to someone than their physical expression. Inner character or personality can be ‘Attractive’ also.
            As for marriage… in ideal terms it can be the natural context for a family. But, statistics of divorce separation or breakdown of relationships, show that it is not ‘Ideal’ for everyone.

            And as far as the word ‘Sin’ is concerned, I think that each of us may understand and define it somewhat differently, As you may realise, I don’t view ‘Sin’ in the same way that you seem to indicate.

          • HIS says:

            How do you view sin? May I ask?

          • Michael B says:

            I thought I’d let myself in for that question. 🙂 It is a complex question. Depends upon the context of belief within which it is asked. In a Christian context of belief; I would refer to the words of Jesus, when he said ‘Let he who is without sin cast the first stone’!. And the statement; ‘Judge not lest you be judged’!

            Will that do?

          • HIS says:

            I see… I think I need to ask if I may now ask… what do you call or consider “Christian” because there are many people who call themselves “Christians” but Mormons, reformers, Muslims, first Baptist believers and so on call themselves Christians… but of course you know as I know not all are…

            All wrongdoing is sin, but there is sin that does not lead to death.
            1 John 5:17 ESV

            And you were dead in the trespasses and sins
            Ephesians 2:1 ESV

            Jesus answered them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, everyone who practices sin is a slave to sin.
            John 8:34 ESV

            I told you that you would die in your sins, for unless you believe that I am he you will die in your sins.”
            John 8:24 ESV

            If I had not come and spoken to them, they would not have been guilty of sin, but now they have no excuse for their sin.
            John 15:22 ESV

            Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him,
            Luke 17:3 ESV

            By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it?
            Romans 6:2 ESV

            I’m wondering… do you think that we should hold each other accountable… or let sin abide?
            I’m sorry if this is to many questions… I’m just honestly really curious… May I ask what religion you would connect yourself with? Please if this question is to straight forward just let me know!

          • Michael B says:

            Sorry! You are addressing everything with the terms ‘Sin’ and ‘the even more blanket term ‘Sins’.
            That kind of open ended, undefined inclusion of almost anything being viewed as a ‘Sin’ or ‘Sins’
            is not very helpful. It’s a quagmire of beliefs. It’s how ‘You’ define them in ‘Your’ life, that is the point!
            We live our lives through our accepted definitions and beliefs. Those are where your answers lie. Not in my definitions!

            Have a nice day!

          • HIS says:

            Ugh… I’m sorry to hear this… every time I try and get answers people either ignore or dump me… I’m honestly just trying to figure what you believe….

            I never knew the bible bothered people so much after all it is Gods word right?

            So many people tell me I don’t understand but how am I supposed to understand if nobody is willing to teach me.
            I’m even more confused when people are always mad at others but won’t explain what we are supposed to be doing to make them happy…
            16 and counting I’m going to be 79 before people will give me their answers.

          • Michael B says:

            You are asking questions of others! Which denies or ignores the intrinsic validity of yourself! There is no ‘Supposed to be’ – we choose continually. We are totally free to ‘Choose’. By our very existence we have ‘All’ the capability with which ‘God’ endows us. Will you continue to ignore this innate gift? Learn to trust your own guidance. All creatures are ‘Plugged into the whole’ so to speak. There is no separateness.
            Just relax into the wonder of life expressed through your own being!

            If you are sixteen… you are at a wonderful stage of your life. You may feel you ‘Don’t know’ or ‘Understand’… but;; you will in your own good time. Relax and enjoy yourself.. and life!
            Whatever we focus upon expands. So choose your own focus!

            I wish you well.. please don’t ask me for answers. Ask yourself what you prefer instead. You are in control! Physical existence is a playground. Have fun!
            Give yourself a chance! It’s all there inside you!

            God bless!

          • More says:

            But Mr Michael, I don’t understand. You say choose your own path do what you will explore life enjoy yourself and life, but is this not the exact opposite that God has asked of us?
            Mr Michael, my God has given me his very own words and they are clear that we are not supposed to be of this world.
            My understanding is that our God who made heaven and earth you and I, who is just loving in control and sovereign and so much more! Has commanded us to be like him!
            For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world.
            1 John 2:16 ESV

            They are not of the world, just as I am not of the world.
            John 17:16 ESV

            If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.
            John 15:19 ESV

            Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
            1 John 2:15 ESV

            But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.
            1 Corinthians 6:17 ESV

            Our God hasn’t told me to do my own will but his!

            and try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord.
            Ephesians 5:10 ESV

            He hasn’t told me to throw away my youth and spend my body on every young man who asks of it! But to save it!

            I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.
            The Song of Solomon 8:4 ESV

            He’s said to let my youth be an example to others!

            Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.
            1 Timothy 4:12 ESV

            Mr Michael! Your very own words grieve me to heart! As an man older then I, you are my example I look up to you! And many others but how am I to learn if I am directed to the path that my Lord has told me not to follow!? How am I to know what a true man of God looks like?
            Mr Michael please tell me who is your God?
            My God Mr Michael is not a weak God! He’s in control he’s just! My God! Is not weak!
            Mr Michael I beg you I appeal you to take up the rule you’ve been given! Please! Don’t lead me to stumble! But please follow his will! Do what he has asked of us!

            Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness. Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled. Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us. For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works. Declare these things; exhort and rebuke with all authority. Let no one disregard you.
            Titus 2:2‭-‬8‭, ‬11‭-‬15 ESV

            Mr Michael please! He’s called us to live life’s that are worthy of His sacrifice! How are we to do that when we are following the path that leads to death? I beg you to answer me honestly please! Don’t forget me!

          • HIS / more says:

            Mr Michael, you said I have the choice to choose, your right I do! The choice to follow the world or the choice to follow the one true God! I have chosen the second! I have chosen to be my Lord’s servant! For what am I but a wretch who is at the hands of a just God!

          • More/his says:

            For he has chosen me!

          • HIS says:

            But Mr Michael, I don’t understand. You say choose your own path do what you will explore life enjoy yourself and life, but is this not the exact opposite that God has asked of us? 
            Mr Michael, my God has given me his very own words and they are clear that we are not supposed to be of this world.
            My understanding is that our God who made heaven and earth you and I, who is just loving in control and sovereign and so much more! Has commanded us to be like him! 
            For all that is in the world—the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride of life—is not from the Father but is from the world.
            1 John 2:16 ESV

            They are not of the world, just as I am not of the world.
            John 17:16 ESV

            If you were of the world, the world would love you as its own; but because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you.
            John 15:19 ESV

            Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
            1 John 2:15 ESV

            But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.
            1 Corinthians 6:17 ESV

            Our God hasn’t told me to do my own will but his!

            and try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord.
            Ephesians 5:10 ESV

            He hasn’t told me to throw away my youth and spend my body on every young man who asks of it! But to save it!

            I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.
            The Song of Solomon 8:4 ESV

            He’s said to let my youth be an example to others!

            Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.
            1 Timothy 4:12 ESV

          • HIS says:

            Mr Michael! Your very own words grieve me to heart! As an man older then I, you are my example I look up to you! And many others but how am I to learn if I am directed to the path that my Lord has told me not to follow!? How am I to know what a true man of God looks like? 
            Mr Michael please tell me who is your God? 
            My God Mr Michael is not a weak God! He’s in control he’s just! My God! Is not weak! 
            Mr Michael I beg you I appeal you to take up the rule you’ve been given! Please! Don’t lead me to stumble! But please follow his will! Do what he has asked of us!

            Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness. Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled. Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that an opponent may be put to shame, having nothing evil to say about us. For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works. Declare these things; exhort and rebuke with all authority. Let no one disregard you.
            Titus 2:2‭-‬8‭, ‬11‭-‬15 ESV

            Mr Michael please! He’s called us to live life’s that are worthy of His sacrifice! How are we to do that when we are following the path that leads to death? I beg you to answer me honestly please! Don’t forget me!

          • HIS says:

            I was actually asking like what do you declare as sin/sinful… but that was my bad.. if you feel open/able to answer both of my posts PLEASE do!

    • Esther Roos says:

      well, bro, why are you on a girl website?

  10. Esther Roos says:

    I have long legs, so sometimes i want to wear shorts that i just use for pjs. that’s not necessarily on purpose though.

  11. Lygeia says:

    “God purposely created women to be beautiful with soft skin, lovely curves, and feminine features.” So… Women who aren´t like that are out of God´s design? Nice. I always knew he had no power over me, and I know why now. Thanks, Kristen!

    Also, you can´t feel powerful, confident, or even enjoy our own looks or sexual lives, because any of this has sense without a husband. That´s what I call a healthy view… If you want a naive, insecure, and utterly repressed wife.

    Oh, wait. Men in biblical times wanted exactly that.


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