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Two Simple Truths that will Radically Change Your Heart and Attitude

By: Bethany Beal

Jennifer’s tears rolled down her cheeks as she struggled to express her thoughts.

“I just don’t feel like God sees me or cares about me. He’s never answered a single one of my prayers and I never see Him working in my life. I don’t have many friends, my parents don’t give me the time of day, and my health is awful. I just can’t see any reason to live for God or praise Him. I honestly think He has forgotten about me.”

The tears continued to fall and Jennifer seemed to be growing more depressed and discouraged as she thought about her life. From her perspective, life was awful.

She felt alone, neglected and completely forgotten by God.

Jennifer and I continued to talk through her struggles and it soon became very evident (to both of us) that Jennifer’s entire life revolved around herself. She had elevated her wants, needs, desires, and emotions to the center of her life and the focus of her worship.

I’m so glad that Jennifer recognized her sin of idolatry (self-worship instead of God-worship) and was willing to make changes in her life.

She is the perfect example of a girl who went from being a constantly miserable pity party, to a girl who’s thankful attitude become her new reputation. Jennifer applied two simple truths to her life and they radically changed her heart and attitude.

Her life stopped revolving around herself and started revolving around the gospel.

Instead of crying buckets of tears about how forgotten she felt, she praised God for the ultimate sacrifice Christ made and rejoiced in His overwhelming love.

Focus. That’s what Jennifer changed and it changed her life.

Before I dig into the two simple truth’s Jennifer applied, I want you to see if you can relate (in a big or small way) to her story.

  • Do you often find yourself wallowing in a puddle of self-pity?
  • Do tend to focus on what you don’t have rather than what you do have?
  • Do you feel like God has forgotten you?
  • Do you wonder why your life is so awful compared to those around you?
  • Do you often find that you, yourself, and more of you are the center of your focus?  

If you answered “yes” to any of those questions, I think the simple truth’s Jennifer applied will be just what you need. I really encourage you to think through these truths carefully. Don’t brush past them and move on with your day.

Stop. Think. Pray. If you do, these can have the power to transform.

1. Give thanks for Christ’s sacrifice on the Cross.

I once heard someone say, “even if you never receive another earthly blessing again, Christ’s death and resurrection are enough to keep you praising Him for the rest of your life.” Wow! That is so true. As Christians, we have been given the greatest and the most priceless gift of all. We have been given new life and eternity with Christ in heaven…forever. We have been adopted as sons and daughters to a royal priesthood (1 Peter 2:9).

No matter what happens (or doesn’t happen) in your life, make gratitude to God a daily habit in your day. Praise God for His gift of Christ and thank Him for saving you from an eternity separated from Him. Focus on the magnitude of how Christ changed your life and just praise Him for saving you.

2. Get your eyes on someone else.

One of the best cures for self-focus and self-worship is to focus on serving others. Take your eyes off of your life, your problems, your wants, your needs and begin focusing on someone else. Choose to give to others by being a listening ear, a comforting friend, send a kind note, volunteer with the toddlers at church, pray for those around you, or, get involved with a pro-life organization. Just do something that takes your eyes off of you and gets them onto someone else.

It’s time to take action.

I seriously challenge you to take action and act on those two simple truths. In fact, start today. Why wait until tomorrow? Stop right now and thank God for Jesus and His ultimate sacrifice for you. Thank Him for the way Jesus radically changed your future and gave you new life.

Now, pick someone to serve. Did you think of someone? What are you going to do for them? How will you show Christ’s love towards them?

For additional ideas on how to apply these truths, check out my blog 5 Ways to Become an Outward Focused Girl

I would love to hear how you applied these two simple truths.

Share your thoughts and ideas with me in the comments section below.  


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15 Responses to Two Simple Truths that will Radically Change Your Heart and Attitude

  1. Rachel M. says:

    Beautifully written Bethany. I always get so encouraged by y’alls posts and can feel the Holy Spirit telling me to take action and live out what I have learned. God has been bringing these issues to my attention recently. Thank you so much for this post.

  2. Heather Hemsley says:

    Wow, this post is amazing. I often find myself having pity parties for myself like Jennifer did, and you just totally helped me with this post! Thank you Bethany!! <3

  3. Thamires says:

    That post was desperately needed by me. These past days have been rough. My research project in college is not going further, my professors doesn’t seem to be so carrying about me, my college is on a protest period and I seen to be lost on all this.
    But, you know what? I am thankful. Because I have already gotten victory through Christ who gives me strength. Jesus already died and resurrected for me and I’m eternally thankful for my salvation. I will not let this wordly struggles take my focus away of Him.
    And know, I will strive myself to serve more the others around me than myself.

  4. Cait says:

    Amazing post! I’ve been trying with God’s help to be more grateful. I often need to realize what’s right in front of my face – that Jesus died for me to save me and give me life. Even though I deserve to die, He died for me. Also I need to focus on others and not feel bad for myself or wish I was somewhere else in life. Thanks for this encouraging post!!

  5. Kaela Schultz says:

    Great post! i just figured out that if I want to be truly happy, I need to focus on HIM!!!

  6. Dani M says:

    Thank you for this post. After a long hard struggle with trusting God, He showed me so much grace this past week. And as soon as He did that, as I was sitting there in awe of what He did for me, one of my friends went into a downward spiral of self-centeredness, pride, and dissapointment in himself. So this will help me articulate to him what some of the issue is. Thank you!

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  8. Gracey V says:

    This is awesome!

  9. Katie says:

    What should one do if they experience the other extreme? They put everyone above them-self and then feel neglected by god.

    • Heather says:

      If someone put everyone before them-self ultimately they are the one neglecting them-self not God. I would suggest some healthy alone time even if it’s just 10 minutes a day reading a book, painting nails, or reading her Bible.

  10. Heather says:

    For the past 3 years I’ve been struggling with the fact that my life seems so much harder than everyone else’s. My brother died 3 years ago. All of a sudden I was tossed into a storm of grief and sadness that hit me in waves. I began to think that no one had suffered the way I had and could never understand the level of pain I was experiencing. I call the first year the “shock period” because it was still incredibly hard to believe that my brother was just gone so unexpectedly.The second year was harder and I became more self-centered. I focused more on my own pain which led me to make some poor decisions. The third year has shown me something so beautiful that I could no longer pity myself, but instead rejoice because I knew someone who had experienced the same deep level of pain that I had.

    Hebrews 4:15 “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin.” and Isaiah 53: 4-5 “Surely our griefs He Himself bore,
    And our sorrows He carried;
    Yet we ourselves esteemed Him stricken,
    Smitten of God, and afflicted.
    (5)But He was pierced through for our transgressions,
    He was crushed for our iniquities;
    The chastening for our well-being fell upon Him,
    And by His scourging we are healed.”
    Both of these passages helped me see that Christ suffers just like I do. And that is a comfort to me.

    Thank you Bethany for encouraging us to focus on Christ and live for others. I know a family who lives by this quote and I love it. “Give your life away.” That’s exactly what I want to do with my life.

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