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Smart Girls Predetermine to Follow God no Matter How Difficult

By: Bethany Beal

A life changing decision needed to be made and I was the only person who could make the final call.

Deep in my heart I knew there were only two options: God’s way or my own way.

I remember sitting with my Bible open to the book of Proverbs trying to fill my mind with Biblical insight. The more I read the more confirmed the answer became.

There was a problem though. I didn’t like the truth. Choosing to accept the insight and wisdom I was gleaning from the Bible meant I had to make a really hard decision. One I wasn’t interested in making.

Although I was very stubborn on the outside, deep in my heart I knew exactly what I needed to do.

A Pre-made Decision

Long ago I’d made the decision to follow God’s path and trust in His Word no matter how difficult.

In my early teen years I had made the commitment to listen to wise counselors and trust the Bible’s teaching no matter the cost.

I had concluded that in the heat of a tough decision I probably wouldn’t have common sense or basic logic. I knew I’d need to have outside input or else I’d make a fleshly and stupid decision totally based on my feelings.

I’m so grateful I made that commitment early in my life and I’m extra grateful God gave me the grace to stick by it in the very difficult moment.

The commitment I made as a teen isn’t a one-time commitment that keeps me from making big mistakes.

I realize that I’m one-hundred percent capable of acting sinful. Because of that my prayer is that God will always give me the grace to choose His Word over my feelings (or outside opinions) every time.

Where Most Girls Go Wrong

I’ve noticed that most girls in between the ages of 17-25 are faced with huge and life altering decisions. One of the biggest obviously being guys, relationships and marriage.

Sadly, most girls haven’t taken the time to think ahead and pre-decide what they will do when faced with a hard decision.

Instead of thinking rationally and biblically, I’ve seen countless girls act on emotion and end up going down a path they never imagined they would.

Having been in serious relationships myself I can totally understand the irrational thinking and bad decision making.

If you don’t make commitments ahead of time, like right now, you have high chances of doing things you never thought you would.

Here are some of the specific decisions and commitments I’ve pre decided to help me prevent making unwise decisions in the future.

These aren’t all of them but they will give you the idea:

1. I won’t marry a guy that my parents aren’t in total support of.
2. I won’t start a “secret” relationship with a guy.
3. I won’t communicate with a guy on a consistent basis without my parents knowing about it.
4. I will seek outside wisdom and counsel whenever I am considering a potential option.
5. I will seek outside accountability and welcome help from those who know me best.

This small list only includes a few of my pre-determined commitments that I’ve set in place to help me choose God’s path over my path when push comes to shove.

If you want to prevent making unwise decisions in your future, I can’t encourage you enough to make commitments and stick to them.

Pray over them, share them with your parents, and start implementing them today.

Please don’t assume that you will automatically choose the wisest, most God-honoring decision in your future. If you aren’t fully prepared and spiritually ready to handle a hard decision, you probably won’t make the right one.

Prepare Now for a God-Honoring Future

I want to challenge you to create your own list of commitments. Decide now what you are willing to do and what you aren’t willing to do.

Have a vision for your future so that you will have a guide to stick to when the hard times strike.

Keep in mind that this list isn’t full proof. It’s simply a goal for you to shoot toward so that you can stay on the straight and narrow.

Smart Girls Plan Ahead

Smart girls don’t assume that they are immune to stupid decision making. Smart girls realize that they are sinners and they plan ahead. They set boundaries in place, welcome outside wisdom, and prepare for a God-honoring successful future.

Final thoughts…

Do you have specific commitments you’ve made to help set yourself up for success in the future? What are those commitments? Have you shared them with an older mentor?
How are you currently setting yourself up for success in your future?

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11 Responses to Smart Girls Predetermine to Follow God no Matter How Difficult

  1. SavedbyGrace says:

    So… this couldn’t have come at a better time for me:) I actually have this dilemma of not knowing how to handle a situation. There is a guy who i had a relationship with starting about a year ago. The relationship was known by a few people, but the real problem lied where my parents were the ones who did not know about the secret relationship. I made the mistake of keeping it low key bc i didn’t want the mushy, weird, and annoying feedback i thought I would get. Well this relationship, all though 110%clean, pure, and non-physical, it was still a secret. We had countless conversations about God, and our future. And there is no denying that what we discussed was pure, just how we handled our conversations (behind everyone’s back) was where we went wrong. God eventually laid it on my heart that I really needed to end this relationship with this guy, and TRULY let him go. Well, in June I let my best friend go. And I explained why i made that decision myself in a letter to him. I told him it was for the best, that I loved him, and that it was time to move on, and let GOD control our futures. Not us manipulating the circumstances for the outcomes we want. He agreed whole-heartedly with the decision, and we broke up. It’s been three months now, and at first we were closer because we knew we were actually making the right decision to part ways. There was a peace about it. But now, he seems to be distancing himself more than he originally said he would, and he seems very down and lousy. I asked him how he REALLY was, he said he was fine:( But i know him, and I know he’s not just fine. I still love him, but not in the same way as i did before. I think my love for him now is more of a brotherly one. Should I tell him that I still love him, and that I am praying for him???? or should I just let him figure out what he’s going through on his own?? And just pray for him behind the scenes? Just because we aren’t together anymore, doesn’t mean I don’t still love him. It just means that I have accepted what I know to be right according to God’s word, and I have to live in obedience to God’s word no matter how difficult the circumstances are. And no matter who is involved. So if anyone has any help or council on the matter, I would appreciate it!!! I have confessed my secret relationship to the Lord, and I know I was wrong in the way I handled this matter. And i do believe that He has forgiven me of my sins. Just now… I need to figure out how to continue to get back up after all of this:)

    • Jesusfreak17 says:

      I would start with just praying for him. If God wants you to be involved with helping him, He will make it happen. Also, if you haven’t already, tell your parents about it. It may be hard but it will truly help in the long run.
      Praying for you!

      • SavedbyGrace says:

        Thank u @jesusfreak17:disqus! I will continue to really pray for him:) He still has a special place in my heart, just not in a serious way right now:( I’m just worried about him:( I want him to come to the point of peace about our decision like i have. But i feel as if he has become maybe a little bitter, and that he is drowning in his feelings:( So yes, please pray for me and him, because it is still hard seeing him like this. I almost hesitate to question if the way he feels is my fault, because I was the one who wanted to end this:(

    • GirlDefined says:

      @SavedbyGrace Thanks so much for opening up and sharing your story with us. I can only imagine how difficult it must have been to give him up and move on from the relationship. I’m really proud of you for taking that step and following the Lords lead in that area.

      You asked, “Should I tell him that I still love him, and that I am praying for him???? or should I just let him figure out what he’s going through on his own?? And just pray for him behind the scenes?”

      From my own personal experience I would highly recommend NOT communicating with him about his struggles or your feelings. You have to trust that God is in control and will bring the right people into his life to encourage him and push him forward spiritually. God sees his struggles and is totally sovereign over his situation. I would encourage you to leave him in God’s hands and just pray for him behind the scenes.

      Here is a great post to read that dig deeper into this topic:

      Also, If you haven’t shared all of this with your parents I would HIGHLY encourage you to do that as well.

      I hope this helps 🙂 -Bethany

  2. Tabby says:

    Let me start by saying, God is so awesome! he has been showing me that I need to rely on him in my life decisions such as guys. About a year ago had a serious crush on a guy in my church he was the guy that I thought I wanted but God kept showing me that he was NOT the one for me. Finally I gave it over to God.I look back and realize that God has the best for me. I can’t rely on myself. God is always better!!!

    • GirlDefined says:

      Tabby, Thanks for sharing your story with us! I am so excited to hear that you gave up the guy and are trusting God with your love life. I know how difficult that can be. Way to go! -Bethany

      • Tabby says:

        Thanks Bethany. You are such an encouragement to me. You gals are the best! Can you please be praying for me I have just become an awana leader at my church and I need Gods love and guidance for the kids.
        blessings ~Tabby

    • Leisha says:

      That is so cool!!! God is so good. I have had a similar experience except it involved someone close to me. I have seen though that after three years of praying to stop liking him, God answered. If you wouldn’t mind, I would like prayer because I still haven’t totally let go of the guy and I don’t want to habor any hard feelings towards the person close to me. I just want to let go of my bad feelings and just let it go.

  3. Elisabeth says:

    Wow what I great Idea, making a lot of comments to God!!How cool is that!!I’ll think about doing my self

  4. Gabrielle says:


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