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Smart Girls Set Goals and Work Hard

By: Bethany Beal

Growing up I was obsessed with basketball. I practiced for hours upon end and worked hard to improve my skills. I attended camps, worked on the fundamentals, watched recordings of my games and talked strategy late into the night.

The hard work totally paid off because my team was one of the best in the country and I was offered a full ride to college (which I didn’t end of taking).

Looking back on my basketball days I’ve discovered an extremely important lesson. Setting goals and working hard really pays off.

Carrying That Lesson Into Your Womanhood

If I could have one wish for you this year, it would be this: That you would set goals for your womanhood and work hards towards those goals.

Way too often we as christian girls (me included) work hard on our  school, jobs, careers, our bodies, relationship status, hobbies etc., but then neglect our character and womanhood. We often forgot that becoming a God-defined woman doesn’t just happen. We don’t automatically grow into Christ-focused women who naturally value what God values.

Unless we fix our eyes on the goal (Christ and biblical femininity) and work hard towards that end, it ain’t gonna happen.

Smart Girls Set Goals and Work Hard  

I want to share with you my personal plan for the coming year. My hope is that I can focus on this bullseye and slowly (day-by-day) make progress in this direction.

I hope that this will inspire you to create a plan and set of goals for the coming year. Without a target you won’t know what to work towards or where to aim your life. Think carefully as you read through this list and then prepare to brainstorm for your own set of goals.

Here are my three categories of goals I plan to work on this year:

1. A Realistic List With One Dream

I like to create a small list of 7-10ish goals. This list of goals gives me an idea of what I want to work on and what I want to spend my time on during the coming year. I typically make the majority of my list practical and add one “dream” goal.

For example, I always set a goal to read a certain amount of books each year. I typically shoot for 15 (we have a great book list if you need ideas).

Some of my other goals in the past have been: memorize a certain number of Bible verses, lead a Bible study, work on a character quality, improve on a specific skill, workout a certain amount or something else along those lines.

Last year my dream goal was to secure a book publishing contract. Thankfully (by the grace of God and a ton of hard work) it happened.

2. The Kind of Woman I Want To Be

A good friend of mine shared this idea with me and I was totally inspired. Instead of just hoping to become a more God-defined woman, I plan to write out specifics for my future. Basically I’ll write out a description of who I want to be one year from now. I’ll then figure out ways to work towards becoming that person.

I highly encourage you to do this as well. Create a small description of who you hope to be one year from today and then map out how you plan to get there.

3. Do One thing Every Day That Scares You

Way too often I get set in my “norm” and don’t push myself outside of my comfort zone. This year I plan to work through a journal that challenges the reader to do one thing every day that scares you. I personally love this idea because it pushes me and challenges me to do new, hard and scary things on a daily basis.

This is a great idea for any of you hoping to push yourself outside of your comfort zone and bravely take on your fears.

That’s a Wrap

This coming year I pray that you will set goals, strive toward God-defined femininity, and challenge yourself to get outside your comfort zone. This year, set goals and work hard. You won’t make forward progress if you don’t have a target to shoot towards.

I would love to hear your goals and plans for the coming year. What do you hope to work on? How do you plan to accomplish your goals?

Share with me in the comments below.

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17 Responses to Smart Girls Set Goals and Work Hard

  1. Sandra says:

    Years ago, I always made a small list with goals for the coming year. But always when I made the list, I couldn’t complete it. And yes, my goals where realistic. That is the reason I desided to never have goals for a new year. There are a few things I hope for, but I will wait for the time God thinks is the right time, which practices me patience :o)

    But yes, there is one very big goal I hope to accomplish for a part this year. And the year after. And the year after that. I want to become the perfect woman, like God desribes in Proverbs 31. For now, it is my main goal for life – a goal I will set every year!

  2. Hailey says:

    I love this post! Softball has taught me to work hard and set goals just like basketball taught you. I have several specific goals for 2016 in all areas of my life–school, softball, ministries, writing, my relationship with God, etc.
    What is the name of the journal that challenges the reader to do one thing each day that scares them?

  3. Carliss says:

    Thank you so much for this Bethany! This is something God had actually just begun challenging me with; to prayerfully set myself a few goals to work towards over the coming year. I think that it’s really important to make your list prayerfully though and to continue to make it a matter of prayer all year as you strive to complete it. Otherwise I can see how this kind of thing could turn out like most New Years Resolutions, with good intentions that never get past February. 😛

    I loved your idea of determining a character quality you would like to develop and then creating a plan for how you are going to work on that, rather than just sitting back and hoping it happens! God has really challenged me with 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” I know its going to take a lot of hard work and purposeful planning to learn this. But that’s one of my goals for the year ahead.

  4. Dani M. says:

    I’m curious as to what kinds of things you’ll do that are hard for you. I’m sure that since you’re an adult it’ll be a little easier. As a homeschooled sixteen-year-old who doesn’t even drive yet, there’s not a lot of situations I’m in that I have an opportunity to challenge myself.

    • Lizzy says:

      I, too, am 16, homeschooled, can’t drive yet, ect, and I’m curious to what kind of “hard things” I can challenge myself to do as well.

    • Kay Marie says:

      It does get a little easier when your older, more independent, and can make your own decisions. But there is always something we can do better. In the past some of my challenges have been: Study more, read my Bible more, become a prayer warrior (don’t ever underestimate the power of prayer,) be kinder, and more confidant. Don’t know if that helps at all, but I’ve been there too.

    • Anne says:

      I also am almost 16 (2 weeks ;)), homeschooled, can’t drive yet (I’ll get my permit in a couple weeks). I would like to know the name of the journal too!

    • GirlDefined says:

      Hey Dani,

      I have a 16 year old homeschooled sister and somewhat understand your situation. We’ve had a lot of convos about doing hard things in her current season of life. I’ve challenged her to do several different things that I think might work for you as well. Here are a few ideas:

      1. Invest time into a ministry. Rebekah volunteers weekly for our local AWANA program and leads a group of 5th grade girls. She works hard to invest into the girls lives and prays for them on a regular basis. Maybe you could do something similar.
      2. Read, read, read. Spend time learning and growing in your understanding of Biblical womanhood. True Woman 101 and 201 are awesome books to work through.
      3. Find a way to make and save money. Rebekah started a business called “Pooches and Bows” in our very own neighborhood. It’s a doggy watching, walking, babysitting business. She created flyers, passed them out and has made quite a bit of money through that endeavor. It’s been a huge learning experience for her and one I think would benefit most any girl.
      4. Find your passion and work hard at it. Rebekah recently started a weekly “Modest Fashion Blog” through our family blog This has been a huge (but awesome) challenge for her. I highly recommend finding one of your passions and figuring out a way to put it into action.

      I hope those ideas help.


  5. Hannah N says:

    Great Post! I already started charting out some of my goals for the year. A couple of years ago I was discouraged from making goals. People said it was silly to make resolutions that you wouldn’t end up keeping. But the last two years after reading your posts, I have been encouraged and have set my own goals. Some of mine this year are; to keep my focus on Christ and to keep Him at the center of every day, To find something to be thankful for each day and keep a journal of it, and to serve my family (like the Proverbs 31 woman I want to work with willing hands).

    I was also curious about the challenge journal you mentioned working on. What is it called?

    Thank you for your posts! They are always inspiring!

  6. Kay Marie says:

    Great post! Something God has been teaching me recently is that I’m not going to wake up a year or two from now and be the woman that I want to be. Every day is important, it’s important to put your all into life today and not wait until tomorrow.

  7. Taytay says:

    What’s the name of that journal that challenges you to do one thing every day that scares you?

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