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So…Why Did God Create Girls?

By: Guest Blogger

There were country-style knick-knacks everywhere, and all around the room hung little wooden signs with witty sayings painted on them.  One of these signs caught my eye. It said:

“A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle.”

Cute, right? There was even a playful drawing of a fish trying to ride a bicycle with its tail-fins.

But is that really the truth? I mean, sure, the world loves to tell girls that they should be strong and independent; it loves to teach that girls don’t need men to be happy or live a fulfilling life, but is that consistent with what the Bible teaches?

To say that women can fulfill their purpose without men isn’t just an insult against men, it is an insult against God and His design for human beings.

“But wait,” you ask, “how on earth can we know what God’s purpose is for human beings?”

Okay, so whenever you want to know why God created something, or how God intends for part of His creation to work, sometimes all you have to do is read the creation account in Genesis, and see what God has to say about it.

For instance, if you want to know why God created people, just look at Genesis 1:26.  In that verse, God explains exactly why He wanted to create people: “Then God said, ‘Let us go down and make man in our image, according to Our likeness.’” Apparently, God’s purpose in creating human beings (both “male and female”) was to create a picture of Himself.

Or, if you want to know what God designed people to do, just read Genesis 2:15, where it says that “The Lord took the man and placed him in the garden of Eden to work it and watch over it.”  Girls weren’t created yet, but God gave the man the job of of working and taking care of the earth.

So…why did God create girls?

Well, according to Genesis 2:18, God looked at the man who was now working, and He said: “It is not good for man to be alone.  I will make a helper for him as his complement.”  Okay, that makes sense.  God designed men for work, and He designed women to help men with their work.

This is the most basic and essential purpose that God has for you as a girl.

Quick theology lesson: whenever you see something mentioned in the Bible for the first time, that means that the passage is extremely important, because it is the first thing that God chose to say about it (This is called the “principle of first mention”).

That last verse was the first thing that God chooses to say about why He created girls, and that means that this is probably the most important part of your design as a girl. You were designed by God to be a complement to a certain man, to be his helper so that he can do the work that God gives to him.

And God said, “This is why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined together with his wife, and the two become one.” God’s design is for a man to join himself to a woman so that they could team up to do God’s work. According to God, this is what marriage is designed for.

That doesn’t mean that you’re supposed to do whatever kind of work your husband does.

If you marry someone who adjusts insurance policies, that doesn’t mean that you need to become a certified insurance saleswoman. And it doesn’t mean that if your husband turns out to a brain surgeon that you need to enroll in medical school.

Although, who knows? Maybe your husband will have a job that you can actually help him with! If he’s a brain surgeon, maybe he will need help with medical filing. Or if he’s an insurance adjuster, maybe he will need help with bookkeeping. Or perhaps by God’s providence you and he will share the same professional skills, and can actually work alongside each other in the same work!

Historically, though, women have found that one of the most helpful things that they can do for their husbands is care for the kids, make sure that meals are planned for the family, and assist in areas that free up the husband’s time during the day to get his work done. These are also ways that you can help your husband with his work.

How does this apply to you if you’re single girl?

 1. Pray for wisdom

Only God knows what He has planned for your future, only He knows what skills will be useful to you when you get married. But even though you don’t know what work God has laid out for your husband, you can still pray that God will prepare you for it. Who knows? He might be developing interests in you that will one day be useful to your husband’s work.

2. Practice on your Dad 

Sometimes a Dad can be a great guy to practice on when you’re preparing to get married. Look for ways to help him get his work done.

3. Ask your Parents 

One of the cool things about having parents is that they have your combined DNA sequence built into their brains, so they always have special insight into what you may need in the future. Try asking your Mom what skills she thinks you might want to develop while you’re preparing yourself to be a man’s helper.

4. Develop a good work ethic

Even if you have no idea what work you will be doing, it’s good to develop character qualities like perseverance, and an ability to work with others. These are skills that you will need to have no matter what kind of work you’re doing.

This is how the Bible defines girls.

“A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle”?  Not hardly.  Fish were never designed to ride bicycles,…God designed them with fins and scales that are perfect for swimming—and there’s nothing better for a fish than to do what God designed it to do.

The most fulfilling thing that you can do is experience is what God designed you to do.  Your purpose (not as a human being, but as a girl) is to help a man complete the work that God gives him to do.

Let’s talk about it…

  • How are you currently preparing to fulfill the role of a helper?
  • Are you developing skills that will benefit your family now and in the future?
  • How do you feel about God’s design for women?

Thanks so much to John Denis for guest posting for us! We are looking forward to more posts from him in the future.

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So...Why Did God Create Girls?

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  • Azi

    4 = absolutely. To have disclipline and stability in life is good to keep yourself on your feet and doing what God desires for you to do.

    I don’t have a problem with girls being helpers; what I’m more concerned about is whether being a helper is mandatory.

    God said it is not good for man to be alone, but how does that define completeness? We have complementary roles and biology, but what about those who don’t wish to be in relationships, or those that have realized through prayer and communication with God that being single is the best way to live his or her purpose?

    I guess what I’m asking is that whether being “helper” is something that we think about in terms of marriage/relationships or if it’s just a purpose of girls in general.

    • Hey Azi, Great questions! I think what the author was trying to emphasize was the fact that God had a specific plan and purpose in mind when He created two distinct genders. Like he said, the Bible does emphasize the fact that the majority of women (all who are married) in the world are designed to be helpers. That does’t mean every woman will get married though. I (Bethany) am not married and I believe that I can serve God, advance His kingdom and have purpose as a single woman. Thanks for chiming in to the conversation! 🙂

  • Sarah

    I love blogs like this but it bothers me that singleness is only discussed as a means to an end. Yes, marriage is God’s plan for most women. But why do we give the message that God will only use women in marriage? What about Corrie and Betsie ten Boom? Would you say that they didn’t follow God’s design for them? What about 1 Corinthians 7? I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.

    Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called.

    Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.

    But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. (‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭7‬:‭8, 20, 25, 32-34‬ KJV

    I agree wholeheartedly that God created Eve as a help for Adam and that is a woman’s function in marriage. But I also see how destructive it can be to girls not to teach them to be content in ALL things, to present themselves a living sacrifice to God in ALL things. I know of a lot of twenty something girls who are treated as second class Christians because they are not married. I know of a lot of teen girls who spend more time pursuing guys and looking for “the one” than they do in fellowship with God and its destructive to their relationship with Him. I want to see more discussion about being content in singleness even if it means being single for the rest of your life. I don’t agree with the notion that if a woman never marries, she never fulfilled God’s purpose for her. Let’s make no mistake. There is plenty of work to do in marriage AND in singleness. We are all to be of the King’s business.

  • Rae

    Thank you once again for this blog. There are not many blogs out there promoting biblical womanhood. This encouraged my soul! Blessings in Christ!

  • Jesusfreak17

    I ditto Sarah and Azi. I defiantly agree that your article describes a woman’s role in marriage and that if we’re planning to be married someday, your suggestions are a great place to start. However, I believe men and women can fulfill God’s purpose for them as individuals without marriage. I wonder if part of the reason God made women was for fellowship, so that Adam would not be alone in general. So then the purpose of women would be to provide fellowship and a way to bring more people, and thus more room for fellowship, into the picture. So it doesn’t necessarily mean we have to be married, but we need to have fellowship (on both sides, men and women).
    A few other things, there are a lot of teen girls reading this blog and it feels detrimental because it seems to be encouraging “chasing after a relationship” even though I know from other articles that that’s not your intention.
    Thirdly I think women can have separate callings from their husbands. That doesn’t mean they are independent from their husbands or don’t support them but it does mean that God can have them working outside their relationship with their husband as well as within it.

    • Hey @jesusfreak17:disqus We have written several blog posts on what Sarah and Azi were talking about. I linked them in a comment to Sarah. I hope they help 🙂

  • Elizabeth Fitzpatrick

    Dear Bethany or Kristen, would it be possible for me to send a private message to the blogger who wrote this post? I’d appreciate it. In Christ’s love, Elizabeth

    • Hey @Elizabeth! We are actually unable to give out any of our guest bloggers personal info. If you have a question about the post feel free to e-mail us at contact@girldefined.com and we will do our best to get that answered for you 🙂

      • Elizabeth

        Totally understand that! How about I send you an email and could you possibly forward it to John Denis? Would that be a good deal? =)

  • CT

    Work ethic is definitely one that I can constantly improve on. There’s the saying that whatever habits you form now when you’re young, you’ll carry into your adult years.

    • SO true CT! It’s important to build good work ethic now so that habit can carry into the future. 🙂

  • C

    Hey ladies, I’ll answer one of the questions: currently I fill the role of helper by working full time while my husband works hard to finish pharmacy school, so he can provide for us. I take him burritos late at night while he’s working at the hospital :). I make sure he has clean socks :). I think the underlying point here is that God made women to partner with men – to team up with them – because God made them distinct from men, with different qualities. (that could be a whole other discussion :). I’ll respond to the idea that being made for a man is a woman’s purpose. Certainly, being married to and helping one’s husband is ONE of God’s purposes for many women. But what were we really made for? And for whom? For Jesus, for relationship with Him. And that is the only eternal thing. For many of us, marriage will be a wonderful season of our lives – but still, only a season. Jesus reminds us that there is no marriage in Heaven. In marriage we get to learn to lay down out lives to serve our spouse – but this sacrifce is not only for women! Husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loved the church. To the final question: I’m in awe of God’s design for me – his lovingkindess has manifested in my life in so many ways. I’m amazed by the loving and wise husband that God has provided for me. I’m in awe of God’s design for me as a person. Nearly everyday I have the opportunity to share some small piece of the Kingdom of Heaven with folks searching for hope. It’s amazing. Yet I don’t define God’s plan for my life only as that plan relates to my marriage! I saw God work in my family when I was a teenager, long before I was married. I know that I am a sinner – and that’s how I was defined. Now I’m defined by grace, by relationship with Jesus – and that realtionship with Him is the ONLY thing that will last, when all the things of this world – even the good things – have passed away.

  • I have this mindset before that I’ll devote myself entirely to the passion that God has planted in my heart, which is teaching. And now that I’m studying Education, I shared my views to others of choosing not to marry because I personally think it’ll be unfair to my future children to have more time with other children and not give them my full attention and care as a mother (considering what I know with my old friends who’s got a parent/s who are teachers). But one of my new Christian girl friends have shared with me things about my ‘design’ as a woman–to be a helper to a man and to bear fruit for His glory. I realized that I was being selfish with my decision not to marry, making me see that it robs God the opportunity to use me in ways that He actually designed me to do. It’s just very recent that I’ve decided otherwise after God pulled my heart… and so I’m grateful for your posts like this for it gives me new perspectives on things and things to hope for!

  • Fernanda Santos

    I think that is possible that you’re not supposed to get married. So you supposed to help with the work of your spiritual husband, God. I think that is possible because if there were mens that don’t get married that can be girls that don’t get married.

  • I think there’s a fundamental misunderstanding of what the word ‘helper’ means in that verse. Often Christians read the bible from the english translation and expect that the fullness of scripture is manifest in that, when in actuality sometimes you have to look at the Greek or Hebrew translation to understand what the author meant. (example, there are two words for ‘day’ in scripture, each with a unique meaning).

    This word ‘helper’ comes from the hebrew word ‘ezer’. Ezer is a combination of two roots, meaning ‘to rescue/to save’ and ‘strength’. The word is used twenty two times in the Old Testament, two of which are in description of women. The other twenty are either in reference to either battle situations, in which someones help is a matter of life and death, or the help of God himself. All these biblical texts are talking about a powerful kind of help, that in no way suggests the role of an underling. Quite the contrary, it suggests the role of a protecter and someone of great power.

    Now, if we look back at how God made Adam to watch over the Earth and couple that with Eve’s role as an ezer we see that Eve was meant to watch over the world just as much as Adam was, and help him maintain God’s glory on the earth.

    It’s interesting, because we see Eve compliantly fail at her position of power and influence when she caved to desire, ate the apple, and in turn gave it to her husband. People like to make Adam guiltless here, but in the context of scripture, he was standing right there watching the whole thing. Eve was meant to help protect her husband from this kind of thing, and ending up being the catalyst to his downfall.

    If we apply the concept of ezer today, I don’t think it has to mean that women either help their husbands directly at work, or stay home and watch the children (though, those are both admirable options for those who want to pursue them). I think it means we are to be a strong helper of our husbands in their ultimate line of work: furthering the body of Christ. Sometimes that may mean working along side him, sometimes that may mean we have different jobs. I have seen this played out in my parents lives when my mother was a pastor at one church and my dad was running sound at another. It was a hard sacrifice, but in the end worth it when we saw what God was doing in and through their lives and ministries. They now happily work at the same church, but head different ministries.

    I hope that all made since and added a little to your interpretation of the scripture. 🙂


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