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July 17, 2017
What Christian Girls and Katy Perry Have in Common

This past year my younger sister, Ellissa was a part of a mentoring program at our local public school. She had the privilege of mentoring three little girls that were as sweet and cute as can be. On one of her mentoring days, Ellissa walked through the lunch line and found a spot outside where she and the girls could eat. As they found a spot and began to sit down, the girls excitedly told Ellissa that they wanted to perform a song and dance for her. Within seconds the girls were up and doing their thing. These little girls broke out into the full word-for-word hit song “Roar”Full Post

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July 14, 2017
Radical Purity: Embracing God’s Best in the Midst of a Highly Seductive Culture

The two of us are beyond excited for the Radical Purity Conference happening this weekend in San Antonio, Texas (our hometown). We’re incredibly excited and grateful that God has provided the resources needed for Girl Defined to host this event. Having the opportunity to talk about sex and purity from a biblical perspective is something I’m thrilled to do. (Here’s a peek at our promo video.) Even if you don’t plan to join us at the conference, I want you to know that you are not alone. You are not alone in your struggles to understand sexuality and stay pure. God isn’t surprised or shocked by what you’ve doneFull Post

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July 3, 2017
The Greatest Calling of a Modern Christian Girl

I was in my early twenties and nannying part time. It was a school day, which meant waiting at the bus stop to pick up kids. As  I was heading towards the bus stop, I noticed a young woman waiting at the bus stop as well. I didn’t recognize her and figured she must be new. Being the extroverted and outgoing girl that I am, I quickly introduced myself. Sara shared with me that she had just arrived in Texas, coming from Europe, and would be nannying directly across the street from me. Knowing that Sara was new to town (and had zero friends) I decided to reach out toFull Post

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June 19, 2017
When Posting Hot Selfies Gets You More Attention

I was thirteen years old and heading in for my first experience with the well-known photography company Glamour Shots. My mom and I were on a special girls trip to Dallas, Texas to celebrate my birthday. Getting my hair highlighted, nails manicured, and glamorous pictures taken was a must for this girly girl. I loved every minute of the Glamour Shot experience. The makeup. The hair. The clothes. The attention. The compliments. I felt beautiful and accepted. After the photo shoot, I looked through the pictures and picked out a few of my favorites. We ordered a package and then left the store to continue on our trip. WhenFull Post

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May 24, 2017
The Difference Between a Wild and a Wise Woman

WATCH VIDEO  The Bible makes it pretty clear that there are two very different types of women in the world. There are wild women and there are wise women. Sadly, our culture upholds the wild woman and encourages us to be like her. The Bible makes it very clear that we should be wise though. Not wild. Today’s vlog will show the differences between the two women. You will be encouraged to become like the wise woman we see in Proverbs 31. WATCH VIDEO 

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May 22, 2017
Christian Girls Need to Start Talking about God Defined Sexuality

A few months ago, Kristen and I began praying about a theme for our upcoming summer conference. We talked, prayed, talked some more and still came up empty handed. We wanted to host a conference that would meet the greatest needs of the girls who would attend…we just weren’t sure what that was. The two of us agreed that we didn’t want to settle on a topic just because it seemed interesting or exciting. We wanted a topic that would genuinely help and challenge the girls attending. After hours of thinking, we decided to give the brainstorming a break. A few weeks went by and then we met backFull Post

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May 5, 2017
3 Truths for Becoming a Seriously Godly Woman

A few summers ago I hosted a simulcast conference at my church. The simulcast was put on by Leslie Ludy over at Set Apart Girl Ministries. As she was speaking she mentioned this idea of “becoming one of the few.” She said that in every generation there are only a few girls willing to give up their lives for Christ. There are only a few girls who are willing to give up the world’s ideas and follow the Bible’s. There are only a few girls willing to give up their life plans in exchange for Christ’s plan. Leslie then asked us if we wanted to be one of theFull Post

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April 28, 2017
5 Signs You’re Obsessed with Social Media

My alarm goes off. I rub my tired eyes not wanting to wake up. I roll over in bed and reach toward my nightstand in the dark. It’s here somewhere….oh — got it. I grab my phone and unplug it from the annoyingly short charger cord. The bright light from my phone half blinds my sleepy eyes. But I’m determined. I must…check…my…social media. Half asleep, I begin scanning the latest posts and comments. Like a robot set on repeat, this routine becomes the default for my mornings. Sound familiar to you? I am embarrassed to say that this pitiful scene has been the default method for many of my mornings. CheckingFull Post

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April 23, 2017
To The Woman Who Is Losing Heart

Have you felt like a weight has fallen over you? Are you stuck in a place in life where nothing seems to be changing? Where the same thing happens day in and day out and you’re not getting anywhere? Have you prayed and begged God for something and not seen an answer? Do you feel like you’re being held back, but can’t put a finger on what it is that’s got a hold over you? Maybe you are a young woman with no friends, in a new city and a new job and every night you go home alone. You long for fellowship and a purpose beyond just working yourFull Post

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April 17, 2017
Becoming a Woman Who Genuinely Loves to Pray

I walked out to the front of the church parking lot, found a nice bench to sit on, and opened up my Bible to the book of Psalms. This is going to be a long ten minutes, I thought to myself. I was attending a conference on prayer, and the speaker challenged us to be alone for ten minutes to pray. He challenged us to use a certain passage from the book of Psalms to guide our prayers, encouraging us that praying through Scripture was an incredible way to deepen and enhance our prayer lives. I wasn’t so sure. I was convinced that reading through Scripture for ten straight minutes wouldFull Post

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April 10, 2017
How to Create a Sisterhood of Girls Mentoring Girls

I sat in the conference session with my eyes wide open. It was one of those moments where every word spoken pierced straight into my heart. As the speaker shared about his passion for mentorship and discipleship, I knew my life would never be the same. After that conference, my life took a drastic turn for the better. I went from having head knowledge about the importance of discipleship to having a heart and passion for it. I was turning into a girl who deeply desired to reach out and minister to the young women in my sphere of influence. It was like I was beginning to see withFull Post

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March 24, 2017
Why Becoming Famous and Hot Shouldn’t be Our Goal

She was a nobody. Outside of her small circle of friends, the world didn’t even know she existed. As a music lover, she would sing songs in her room late into the night. She dreamed of becoming a famous singer. But as it was, Nashville didn’t even know she existed. Then one day, everything changed. She decided to post a few of her videos on Youtube. Little did she know what would happen next. She knew her voice was pretty good…but she had no idea how much talent she truly possessed. Within 24 hours her videos went viral. After 10 million views, she got a call from a majorFull Post

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March 22, 2017
5 Verses on Purity That Every Girl Needs to Know

WATCH VIDEO  Staying pure in our culture, at times, can seem nearly impossible. Simple things like getting on Pinterest, Instagram, Snapchat or Facebook can feel like a danger zone. Just walking through the grocery store checkout line can feel slightly scarring at times. Impurity and immorality are very real things that we as Christian girls need to be equipped to fight against. The next time you are tempted to look at, think about or participate in something that you know will not honor God, pull out these 5 verses. They will be your spiritual ammo in your fight for purity. WATCH VIDEO 

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March 17, 2017
Beauty and the Beast: What Else Did We Expect?

I was sitting outside working on a writing project when I first got the news. A text message popped up on my phone from Zack that said, “Check out this article, babe.” I clicked the link and it took me to an article titled, “Beauty and the Beast to feature first ‘exclusively gay moment’ in a Disney movie.” My first thought was, “Oh no. You’ve got to be kidding me!” But then my next thought was, “What else would I expect?” Since that moment, I’ve read dozens of comments from all sorts of Christians regarding this movie. “How could Disney put a gay scene in a children’s movie!?” “WhyFull Post

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March 15, 2017
How to Use the Bible to Answer Tough Questions

WATCH VLOG We as modern girls have a lot of tough questions. What is true love?  What makes a real marriage?  Where will I go when I die?  Where did I come from? The list goes on. Unless we know how to use God’s Word to answer our tough questions, we will get swept up with the most popular opinion. We as modern girls desperately need to know how to use the Bible to answer our relevant questions. WATCH VLOG

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March 13, 2017
Rethinking Hollywood’s Bogus Version of Love and Romance

I pulled into the coffee shop parking lot and headed inside to quickly order my latte. Early mornings and I do not go well together. After a few sips of coffee, my brain slowly started creeping towards a somewhat functioning mode. Why I decided to lead an early morning Bible study…I’m not sure. I guess I assumed the girls I invited wouldn’t want to get up that early. Wrong assumption! They loved the idea. With perky little smiles and energy beyond my understanding, the girls slowly started trickling in and gathering around for our weekly girl talk and Bible time. The girls and I were having great conversations whenFull Post

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March 1, 2017
Answering Your Questions About God, Guys, and Purity

WATCH VIDEO  God, guys, and purity are popular topics amongst modern single women. How do I study my Bible? How do I talk to other people about God? How do I remain pure before marriage? What do I do with attention from a non-believing guy? Questions like these are regulars in our email inbox. It can be so hard to know how to answer these questions and practically live out biblical truth. In today’s vlog, we tackle these questions and do our best to give you down-to-earth biblical answers. WATCH VIDEO 

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February 26, 2017
Finding Freedom from Your Addiction to Porn

I recently read about a girl who was strolling through a local grocery store, when she felt a sudden and overwhelming urge for a chocolate candy bar. The urge became so powerful that she forgot what she was doing and headed straight for the candy aisle. She searched the options wondering which one she should choose. She spotted one she had never seen before. The label pulled at her desire with words like “Great new taste!” “Satisfaction guaranteed!” “No more hunger cravings!” The girl grabbed the candy bar and started savoring the first bite. Her entire being was enraptured in the moment. She loved the way the candy made her feel.Full Post

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February 24, 2017
Rethinking the Sexy Workout Mirror Selfie

I’m guilty. I have totally done it. After a long hard workout I remember snapping a “sexy” picture of myself in front of my bedroom mirror. You know. The kind where you angle your body just right to make your fat disappear and your muscles look huge. Yep. That was me. Nobody could see me though. I was in the privacy of my own bedroom. That didn’t matter though. I wanted to see how hot I looked. I wanted to admire my body. I loved myself. A lot. To be honest, I didn’t post that picture anywhere because I was too prideful of what people would think of me.Full Post

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February 6, 2017
Let’s Be Women Who Chase Down Truth

The conversation was heated. The room was tense. The looks on my girl friends faces were anything but peaceful. After all of the years of friendship, we had finally hit the landmine. Someone mentioned a specific doctrinal belief and the room exploded. Half the girls believed one opinion and half believed the other. Despite the dramatic pleas from each side to “see the light” we had to call it truce.  No one was budging. When I arrived home that evening, I shared my afternoon’s happenings with my parents. Instead of my parents just saying to me, their young 14-year-old daughter, “this is what you should believe,” they taught meFull Post

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January 4, 2017
6 Must Read Books for 2017

WATCH VIDEO  We want to share with you 6 books that have helped the two of us tremendously in our walk with God. These books have helped the two of us get our eyes off of ourselves and onto Christ instead. In a nutshell, these books have helped to radically change our lives. We can’t recommend them enough. 1. Women of the Word: How to Study the Bible with Both our Hearts and our Minds  We all know it’s important to study God’s Word. But sometimes it’s hard to know where to start. What’s more, a lack of time, emotionally driven approaches, and past frustrations can erode our resolve toFull Post

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December 21, 2016
Choosing to Reflect Christ in a Self-Absorbed Society

WATCH VIDEO  When the two of us were in high school, we strategized a plan to draw as much attention to ourselves as possible. We strapped on the high heels and strutted through the mall. We soaked up the attention we received from the young guys working the kiosks and enjoyed every glance that turned our way. Attention. That’s what we wanted. We wanted people to look at us. We wanted people to admire us. We wanted to people to stare at us. We wanted all eyes on us. Fast forward ten(ish) years to today and our goal is no longer to bring attention to ourselves but to pointFull Post

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December 19, 2016
Bethany’s Secrets to Planning, Hosting, and Throwing a Fabulous Party

I love hosting parties. Having people in my home (I still live at home with my family) is one my favorite things to do. I love hosting, planning, organizing and watching my friends enjoy a super fun time together. The work that goes into planning and hosting a fabulous dinner, game night, or party, is totally worth it to me. I find so much joy in creating a time and space for people to have community, fellowship, and a good clean time. Sadly, hospitality has become such a lost art in our generation. People just don’t invite people into their homes anymore. Our homes are more like quick restFull Post

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December 16, 2016
3 of the Most Popular Places to Misplace Your Identity

“Meet Laura Van Ryn and Whitney Cerak: one buried under the wrong name, one in a coma and being cared for by the wrong family.” Those were some of the first words I read in a gripping book called, Mistaken Identity. This true and shocking story made national news when it was discovered that the identity of two college girls was accidentally swapped after a tragic bus accident. One girl died and was accidentally buried under the identity of her friend, who was in critical condition. After weeks of mourning the death of their daughter, the family was shocked to discover that it wasn’t their daughter they had buried,Full Post

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December 14, 2016
Shocking Results from the Past 100 Years of Beauty

WATCH VIDEO  After doing some more in-depth research on beauty, the two of us came across information that shocked us. We had no idea just how flakey the culture’s standards for beauty truly are. Get this. Over the past 100 years, the ideal body for a woman has changed drastically at least ten times. 1910: The Gibson Girl 1920: The Flapper 1930: May West 1940: Rita Hayworth 1950: Marilyn Monroe 1960: Twiggy 1970: Farrah Fawcett 1980: Jane Fonda 1990: Kate Moss 2000: The Victoria’s Secret Model When the two of us look over that list and see the drastic changes, we can’t help but get a little upset. InsteadFull Post

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December 7, 2016
Why We Gave up Modeling to Pursue Ministry Instead

WATCH VIDEO The modeling world looked glamorous and the two of us wanted to give it a try. The promised money and fame looked enticing until it became a possible reality. We chose to give up modeling for something so much better. Here is a snippet from our story in Girl Defined: “The two of us were both in our early twenties and desperately curious. The seed that had taken root in our hearts as young girls was finally coming to bloom. We wanted to explore the modeling world. Truthfully, our hopes weren’t that high. We assumed, out- side of a miracle, that our moral convictions and living as modelsFull Post

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November 22, 2016
The Quickest Way to Ruin Your Holidays

WATCH VIDEO  The holiday season is supposed to be the happiest, most joyful, and celebratory time of the year, right? Unfortunately, there have been times in the two of our lives where the holidays have been some of the most miserable. Looking back on those “miserable” holidays, we realize exactly where we went wrong. High Expectations.  Self-Centered Attitudes. Lot’s of Complaints.  We really want to help you avoid ruining your holiday season by getting rid of these three attitudes. We truly believe that the holidays can be some of the happiest and most joyful times of the year if you have a proper heart attitude and focus. WATCH VIDEO       

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November 18, 2016
Resisting the Seduction of Beautifully Packaged Lies

I was chatting with a friend recently who shared an eye-opening experience with me. Being a huge music fan herself, she’s always on the lookout for new and inspiring tunes. One of her other friends had sent her a song to check out, which they had been raving about for days. Within seconds of listening to it on Spotify, she was instantly captivated by how incredible the voice of the singer was. She clicked repeat. And then repeated it again. After several days of playing the song over and over, she naturally memorized the lyrics. One morning while getting ready for the day, she was singing the song quietlyFull Post

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October 26, 2016
Halloween: When Good Girls Go Bad for One Day

WATCH VLOG With Halloween only a few days away, we want to encourage all of you Christian girls out there to stay nice this October 31st. Our culture loves to celebrate death, darkness, perversion, and evil…but we should be different. Our language, our dress, and even our celebrations should look different than the lost world. We hope this Vlog encourages you to continue being a light for Jesus, even on Halloween. WATCH VLOG

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October 21, 2016
Should We Bow Down at the Feet of Modern Hollywood Goddesses?

With a shocking 451,237,916 combined followers on Instagram, these five women are considered modern-day goddesses. These women have made their mark in our world and we’ve bowed down at their feet. Beauty, money, fame, and talent have given these women world-renowned fame. Our values and priorities are clearly seen in the way culture truly upholds and praises these women. Giving them names such as “Queen” and “Goddess.” Who are these women that claim the love and admiration of hundreds of millions? They are none other than Selena Gomez, Taylor Swift, Beyonce, Ariana Grande, and Kim Kardashian. Above all other celebrities in the world, these five hold the highest numberFull Post

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October 17, 2016
Thinking Clearly in the Most Dysfunctional GENDERation Ever

Every generation has its thing. The 1960’s brought about the sexual revolution, rebelling against God’s design for sex. The 70’s brought about the no-fault divorce laws, minimizing the long-term commitment of marriage. The 70’s also brought about abortion, the decision to redefine the value of our smallest human life. One thing leads to another. One compromise becomes the foundation of the next. And now this generation has brought about some of the most radical changes of all. The total redefining of marriage and gender. Some are calling it the GENDERation. Of all the generations in the history of our nation, no generation has thrown out the “gender rulebook” furtherFull Post

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October 11, 2016
The Most Challenging Things About Being a Christian Teen Girl

WATCH VIDEO  In our day and age, it’s so hard to stay focused on honoring God rather than joining the popular crowd. It’s even harder when most girls (even in the church) around you don’t take their spiritual life seriously.  If you’re a teen girl living in any part of the world, you know the struggle I’m talking about. It’s a battle I face and I’m sure you are facing it too. It can be really discouraging. It’s not easy to be a teen girl in today’s culture, but I am slowly learning that the road less traveled is totally worth it. WATCH VIDEO 

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September 16, 2016
The Birth Control Pill: Continuing the Conversation

I recently wrote a post called, The Birth Control Pill: What Every Christian Girl Needs to Know. As a Christian woman myself, my heart behind that post was to remind all of us that God’s plan for sex, marriage, and motherhood is much better than what our culture has been feeding us. I’d love to continue our previous conversation about the Pill and share more of my heart behind writing that post. Just consider this post Part 2. For the women who commented previously who take the Pill strictly for health issues, my heart goes out to you. I am genuinely sorry that you have to suffer from thingsFull Post

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September 9, 2016
The Birth Control Pill: What Every Christian Girl Needs to Know

Whether you’re on the Pill, know someone who is, or think you might be on it in the future, this post is a must read for every Christian girl. And since government data reveals that more than eight in 10 American women, ages 15 to 44, have taken the Pill at some point in their lives, we need to be educated on exactly what the Pill is, where it came from, and how it affects our bodies. The “Birth Control Pill” hit the American scene in 1960 and changed human history forever. For the first time ever, sexual intimacy and procreation were completely separated. The invention of The BirthFull Post

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August 29, 2016
3 Ways to Reach Out to the New Girl at School

My heart felt like it was going to beat out of my chest as my dad dropped me off for my very first co-op class. I was thirteen and slowly learning how to brave the world of strangers. As a tall, skinny, slightly awkward teen, I wasn’t very confident in my social skills. Can you relate? Walking into a classroom full of people I’d never met made my heart race and my palms sweat. I couldn’t wait for the dreaded unknown to become known and a memory of my past. As I opened the door and walked into the classroom, I was greeted by a sweet, smiling teacher. SheFull Post

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July 4, 2016
Why Being an Independent Woman Isn’t Always Good

“Hey honey, I really think we should go talk about this some more,” Zack said in a serious tone. We had just finished having a rather intense discussion about something that we didn’t see eye-to-eye on (at all). My emotions were completely driving the train and I was “done” discussing it. I crossed my arms like a child throwing a fit and looked up at him with a frustrated look.   “Babe, come on.” He said in a firm, but loving tone. “Let’s go finish this conversation. We need to.” He gestured for me to join him on the couch. I could feel my independent spirit rising up fromFull Post

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June 29, 2016
Are Gorgeous Girls Worth More? | Vlog

WATCH VIDEO Apparently, there’s a certain group of people who claim that physical beauty can actually be measured. As girls, we see the value our culture places on their definition of beauty and we measure ourselves against it. We chase after a certain physical “look” because (deep in our hearts) we believe that gorgeous girls are worth more. But are they? WATCH VIDEO

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June 24, 2016
Join The 7 Day GirlDefined Prayer Challenge

Over the past few years I’ve seen God at work in my life in incredible ways. I feel like I’ve had a front row seat to witnessing God answer prayers in my life and in the lives of those around me. Looking back I now realize that God has always been at work, I just haven’t been paying close enough attention. When I began seriously praying and taking all of my cares before the Lord, I finally had eyes to see what He was doing. I began to clearly see Him answer my prayers and I knew He was active in my life. Here are just a few examplesFull Post

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June 16, 2016
Is a Perfect Body and Pretty Face Enough to Satisfy?

I recently met Jana, a girl from Germany, who is living in America as an au-pair nanny. She told me that, “getting a chance to live in America was like a dream.” Now that she has been here for a good 8 months, I was curious what her perspective on America was. Jana described America as a place where, “everyone appears to be living in a fantasy in the public eye, but they are depressed and unhappy when they are at home.” She continued, “all of the girls, old or young, seem to put so much focus on their outward appearance. I feel like I am a normal dressFull Post

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June 13, 2016
God’s Design for Sex is Way Better than Hollywood’s Cheap Imitation

We can’t escape the reality that we live in a highly sexualized American culture. Things are not quite as “behind the scenes” as they used to be. The magazines in the grocery store portray half naked women while billboards display seductive pictures to grab our attention. No matter how sheltered you may feel as a Christian girl, you can’t help but notice the sex-obsessed culture we live in. Every one of us has an opinion on the topic of sex and my question for you today is this: Where does your worldview on sex come from? Is it based on God’s Word, or on what Hollywood teaches? If you don’tFull Post

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June 6, 2016
Me Before You: A Romantically Warped Message

Once upon a time there lived a handsome young man who wasn’t too excited about life. Suddenly, out of nowhere, a beautiful young woman drops into his life and changes everything. He laughs again like he used to and she slowly captures his heart. They fall in love and live happily ever after! The end. Oh wait – wrong ending. They fall in love, and then he decides to commit suicide because his life isn’t worth living. The end. Say hello to a modern romance. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, I’m referring to the new horror-film-disguised-as-a romantic-chick-flick, “Me Before You.” In this new blockbuster hit, aFull Post

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May 5, 2016
The Ultimate “Squad Goal” for Christian Girls (Free Giveaway)

I’ll never forget the days of walking across the basketball court gym, with my teammates by my side, thinking I was Miss Amazing. This was my squad of girls and I was positive we were some of the coolest chicks on the planet. I liked my team, I liked my girls, I liked being a part of a  “squad.” I liked representing my team name and I liked having a group of people I could associate with. Fast forward to today and “squads” and “squad goals” are all the rage. I just recently saw a picture on social media of several famous celebrities and the title was captioned “squadFull Post

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April 25, 2016
Christian Girl’s Guide to Plan, Host, and Lead an Awesome Bible Study

“I’ve alway wanted to host a Bible study…but I’m just not sure how to do it!” “I really feel like God is prompting me to host a summer study…but I’m not sure I have the leadership skills to do it!” “Several of my friends have asked me to start a Bible study…but I don’t know what to do!” These are statements I’ve heard from a lot of girls over the years. Maybe you’ve said something similar. They have the heart and passion for leading a Bible study, but they just don’t know where to start or how to make it happen. If you have a desire to lead aFull Post

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April 22, 2016
5 Reasons You Should Lead a Summer Bible Study

I didn’t want to do it. My summer was busy. I was tired. I didn’t want to plan and lead a summer Bible study. I just wanted to enjoy my summer and focus on hanging with friends and having a good time. God had a different plan.  One evening, out of the blue, a mom of a sixteen year old girl texted me. She said that her and her daughter had been searching for a summer Bible study and couldn’t find anything. She said her daughter really wanted to do one but was having no success. She then went on to ask me if I would lead one forFull Post

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April 11, 2016
Why Modern Girls Should Embrace the Lost Art of Homemaking

Every time I walked into this particular house, I instantly felt swallowed alive by the chaos and mess. Dirty dishes all over the kitchen, laundry piled on the furniture, toys all over the floor, and the TV blaring. This home had no semblance of order, cleanliness or peace. It was chaos. Every time I visited my friend’s home, I left feeling more chaotic and unsettled than when I arrived (and btw, to all of my current friends who may read this, this is not your house. This happened many years ago. *wink*). In our upcoming book, I refer to this problem as the drive-thru kitchen and hotel bedroom lifestyle.Full Post

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April 4, 2016
Girls With Conviction Live With Passion

Mrs. Jenson walked me into the training room and explained what the next few weeks of my volunteer work would look like. This was the very first time I had volunteered at a pro-life center and I was super excited…and super nervous. I am passionate about life and was excited about the opportunity to help save babies from abortion. Little did I know just how deep my conviction against abortion and my passion for life was about to become. As Mrs. Jenson left the room she clicked play on one of their training videos. It was a video that went step-by-step through the process of abortion and what procedureFull Post

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March 21, 2016
Standing Strong In and Through College

Going off to college is probably one of the most trying and difficult times in a young woman’s life. The challenges, pressures, temptations and lack of experience more often than not end up taking Christian girls down. Sadly, Christian girls aren’t coming out stronger (in a biblical sense) but weakened and further away from Christ. I guess that’s why one of the GirlDefined readers e-mailed us asking us to write on this very topic. “How do I keep my faith at school because I know how challenging it will be. Please do a blog about this.” She’s right. It will be challenging…but not impossible. I love that we areFull Post

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March 10, 2016
How to Overcome Feelings and Live by Truth

A few years ago I had a conversation that I will never forget. It’s stuck in my brain and refuses to leave! Somehow, an acquaintance and I got on the topic of God, the Bible, and personal devotions. He explained to me his idea of being obsessed with Jesus. He told me that he likes to stay on spiritual highs in order to keep up his excitement for God and the Bible. He said that he likes to attend as many conferences as possible, listen to upbeat Christian music, and do things that get his emotions charged. Although I believe his intentions were good, I think his plan wasFull Post

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February 5, 2016
Why it’s Good to Be Closed Minded Sometimes

We live in a culture that is all about open-mindedness. Whatever sounds good goes. Whatever Hollywood throws out there is quickly accepted. Whatever Nashville produces is quickly embraced. The definition for being open-minded literally means: “willing to consider new ideas.” That’s sounds pretty good, right? Who doesn’t want to “consider new ideas?” I mean, think of all the progress our country has made in 200 years due, in large part, to considering and adopting new ideas. A lot of good can come from being open-minded. I’m all for considering “new ideas.” So here’s my question for you. Is it ever okay to be close-minded about something? Is it everFull Post

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January 18, 2016
7 Major Benefits of Saving Sex for Marriage – Part 2

I am sharing 7 major benefits of saving sex for marriage. This is the 2nd half of a two part series, so if you didn’t catch the first post, check it out here. You don’t want to miss it! 4. You Set Yourself Apart as Being Highly Valuable Girl, God says you are highly valuable to Him. He created you in His image and you carry immense worth and purpose because of Christ (Eph. 4:2-9). You are worth so much more than a cheap guy who isn’t patient enough to control his sexual passions. When you choose to save the gift of sex for marriage, you tell every guyFull Post

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January 15, 2016
7 Major Benefits of Saving Sex for Marriage – Part 1

I didn’t have sex until I got married. Zip. Zilch. Nada. According to our modern culture, I am nothing more than an ignorant, non-liberated, trapped female, stuck in the age of patriarchy. I didn’t express my sexual “freedom” like I should. I didn’t take advantage of the feminist’s offer to access free birth control as a teen. I didn’t follow my heart and do whatever felt right. Instead, I rebelled. I rebelled against our culture’s expectations for sex and the single girl, and instead, chased after something better. Saving sex for marriage is now considered “so 1800’s.” It’s a thing of the past. It’s for lame girls who can’tFull Post

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December 14, 2015
7 Habits of a Brave, Strong, and Courageous Girl

She’s strong. She’s brave. And she definitely has courage. She has everything our modern culture praises. There’s only one problem. She is playing for the wrong team. As a self-proclaimed atheist and radical feminist, she is aggressively fighting for the “rights” of the abortion industry. She loves abortion and is on the cutting edge of advancing this evil movement forward. She is pushing for things that even seem radical to many pro-abortionists. But they like her fire. They like her zeal. They like her passion. She’s a strong, brave, and courageous woman by our culture’s standards…but sadly, she’s spending her time fighting for the very things that God opposes.Full Post

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November 26, 2015
7 Letters That Will Dramatically Change Your Life

The past few months of my life feel like they’ve been filled with a certain 7 letter word. This word flies in the face of my natural heart’s desire and is the opposite of everything the culture promotes. This word has challenged me, convicted me, encouraged me and given me incredible hope. When I focus on living this word out, I have such incredible rest, contentment and joy in my heart. I want to share this word with you in hopes that you can find the same hope, conviction, contentment and joy that I’ve found by *attempting* to live it out. The word is WORSHIP. The word worship holdsFull Post

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November 9, 2015
Step Back and Rethink the Selfie

I remember this day like it was yesterday. I was thirteen years old, loving life and desperately trying to build up the courage to “post” my selfie. I had just finished a full week at church camp and was hanging out in the sports court waiting for my parents to pick me up. I knew my parents were going to pull into the parking lot at any moment, so I had to act quick. With a knot in my stomach, and my eyes on the guy, I made my move. I walked up to Brandon, pulled out my personal wallet sized portrait, and handed it to him. He, beingFull Post

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November 4, 2015
Strong Girls Desperately Needed to Stand up for Truth

The other day I was playing a game with a group of friends called “Would You Rather.” The game is absolutely hilarious and asks the most bizarre questions. One of the questions asked during the game got the whole group buzzing and discussing. The question asked, “would you rather have shockingly overdeveloped muscles, or, would you rather be extremely skinny and a total wimp?” Hilarious (and weird) question, I know! The group almost unanimously voted that they would rather have shockingly overdeveloped muscles. Comments flew around the room, “No one wants to be a wimp.” “There is nothing worse than being weak and wimpy.” “I can’t stand wimpy people.Full Post

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October 28, 2015
Should We Celebrate the Most Evil and Sexualized Holiday of the Year?

I’ve been inside a “haunted house” one time and I’ll never do it again. I was in high school on a church missions trip when the youth pastor decided to take our entire group to one of those Halloween scare houses. I wasn’t sure what to do, so I reluctantly joined the group on the tour. After all…everything was fake, right…how scary could it be? Let’s just say one of the girls in my group finished the tour in tears because of how awful and morbid it was. To this day, I’ll never know why the youth pastor took us there. What I do know is this: I’ll neverFull Post

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October 14, 2015
3 Major Flaws in “Safe Sex” Education

If you’ve read any of our blog posts in the past year, you’ve probably noticed that we’re huge promoters of abstinence until marriage. Our views (obviously) don’t align with mainstream opinions, they align with what we believe the Bible has to say about it. As a result, we’ve received some critical letters on this topic. One person wrote and said, “The fact is that giving an abstinence only sex education is not going to make things any safer. I believe there’s no harm in educating teenagers about safe sex.” As you know, there’s a huge push in our culture to indoctrinate teens with a “safer sex” education program. IfFull Post

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September 30, 2015
Why Thousands of Women are Shouting Their Abortions

Even amongst pro-choicers, abortion used to be viewed as a sad and unfortunate thing. It was viewed as an “out” for rape victims and women who had “no other choice.” Not anymore. The recent #ShoutYourAbortion campaign took this long-time debate to a shocking new level. Pro-choice women are now raising their voices and cheering for their abortions. Women everywhere are being prodded and encouraged by radical feminists to shout their abortion to the world. To boldly proclaim their “choice” for everyone to see. They are being told to celebrate, cheer and take pride in what they’ve done. Many conservatives are calling this movement wicked and totally depraved, but theseFull Post

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September 25, 2015
An Open Letter to the Women of #ShoutYourAbortion

Dear Women of the #ShoutYourAbortion Movement, I saw your popular hashtag on social media the other day and was instantly curious. I quickly did a google search. After reading many of your articles explaining why you did this, I think I’m beginning to understand. Although you might classify me as a right wing fanatic, I’m honestly trying really hard to see things from your perspective. I was tempted to write an article blasting you, explaining why I think you’re wrong. But then, why would you want to read another article written by some conservative only interested in tearing you apart? Instead, I decided to stop and think. I decidedFull Post

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September 21, 2015
6 Signs You’re Looking for Happiness in the Wrong Places

Have you ever rolled out of bed and thought, “I hope I have a terrible day today?” Probably not. I never have. Not many people have. Why? Because we all want to be happy. We all want to have great days. We live in a world where happiness is the end goal of almost every person’s life. Everyone wants to be happy. Everybody is searching, hoping, and longing to find that “one thing” that will make them permanently happy. Sadly, very few people find lasting, permanent happiness. That’s why many famous, rich celebrities bounce from relationship to relationship, mansion to mansion, car to car…they’re hoping the “next thing” willFull Post

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September 16, 2015
Porn: What Every Christian Girl Needs to Know

If you’ve believed the lie that pornography is something hidden in the deepest corners of the internet, you’ve been duped. Whether you’ve been exposed to porn or not, you have probably already gone through years of soft porn grooming without even realizing it. If you’re like I was, you probably think of porn as being some form of intense adult content only targeted at men…but it’s not. Listen carefully to how the dictionary describes porn: “Sexually explicit videos, photographs, writings, or the like, produced to elicit sexual arousal.” Did you catch that last part? “Produced to elicit sexual arousal.” How many mainstream movies, songs, books, TV shows, and magazinesFull Post

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September 7, 2015
Why Naughty Girls Don’t Have More Fun

She was bad. She was naughty. She broke all the rules. She lived recklessly. And apparently, she had all the fun. Our modern culture is shoving the idea down our throats that bad girls have more fun. It’s in the movies. It’s in the songs. It’s in the magazines. It’s in the books. You’ve probably seen the bumper stickers or the Pinterest pins featuring the “naughty girl” quotes. See if any of these sound familiar: “Everyone knows naughty girls have more fun.” “Good girls keep diaries, bad girls never have the time.” “I used to be the sweetest girl ever…til I found out being the baddest girl was better.”Full Post

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September 2, 2015
The VMAs: Goodbye Classy, Hello Trashy

If pictures are worth a thousand words and fashion is about making statements, then the Video Music Awards (VMAs) have accomplished both. Whether you’re into the music scene or not, you’ve probably seen or heard some of the buzz surrounding MTV’s 2015 Video Music Awards. I didn’t watch the show myself (and I don’t recommend it), but I saw the buzz and decided to look up some articles. Sadly, the buzz isn’t anything to get excited about. These award nights have gone from bad to worse over the years. They’re much less about music and more about foul language, raunchy dancing, and fashion that barely covers the essential areas.Full Post

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August 31, 2015
How to Show Love Towards Prostitutes, Homosexuals, and Muslims

If there was one conversation I’d never prepared for it was this one – randomly talking with a young woman at Starbucks and then finding out she was a prostitute. Caught off guard and totally unprepared would be an understatement for how I was feeling when she told me what she did for a living. I’ll never forget that day or that young woman. My feelings of pity and sorrow went through the roof when she told me why she had recently moved to San Antonio. I wanted to reach out my arms, give her a big hug and help her get a new start. The conversation ended beforeFull Post

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August 28, 2015
Are You Playing Footsie with Sexual Temptation?

His heart beat faster as he purposely walked down the dark street. It was nighttime, and nobody else was out. He knew she lived in this area. He was hoping she would come out to meet him. He glanced around to make sure no one saw him. He continued walking when she suddenly appeared in front of him. Without saying a word, she wrapped her arms around his neck and brazenly kissed him. “My husband is gone,” she said in a seductive whisper. “Come with me and let’s have our fill of love until the morning!” Like an ox being led to the slaughter, he immediately followed the seductressFull Post

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August 24, 2015
5 Ways to Beat Back-to-School Temptations

The summer is almost over which means the beginning of the new school year is lurking right around the corner. You can tell it’s the end of summer because every store is advertising their back-to-school gear and accessories. For some of you this is an exciting time of new beginnings and a fresh start. For others, it’s a dreaded time of tests, peer pressure, and waking up at the crack of dawn. Whatever your school year may look like, there’s one thing it has in common with everyone else’s – a little thing called sneaky temptations. The buzz of a new school year is always accompanied by a buzzFull Post

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August 7, 2015
The Horrifying Truth About Abortion and Why it Matters

I watched my computer screen in horror as a tray filled with bloody pieces of a freshly murdered baby parts came into view. “How can this be happening? How can the average person think that abortion (killing babies) is totally acceptable? How can these people talk about pieces of bloody, mangled baby parts with zero care or emotion? How is this the world I live in?” Questions and thoughts ran through my mind as I tried to process what I was seeing on the video. If you’re in favor of life and/or live in America you probably know exactly what I’m talking about. But for those of you whoFull Post

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June 29, 2015
Keeping Marriage Straight: Why the Bible Never Recognizes “Gay Marriage”

We live in a country where marriage has now been officially redefined and legalized to include “any two people who love each other, regardless of gender.” However, our Supreme Court can’t redefine what they didn’t create. Sure, they can change the laws and give legal recognition to same-sex couples, but that doesn’t make it real marriage. In God’s eyes, they are not truly married. They can’t be. The very first verse in the entire Bible tells us exactly who the author and creator of marriage is. He was the only one on the scene when it happened. “In the beginning God… (Genesis 1:1 emphasis added).” Did you catch that?Full Post

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June 26, 2015
The One Thing Hollywood Doesn’t Want You To Do While Watching a Movie

My hands slightly trembled as I glanced up from the movie review sheets I’d printed from an online Christian site. I was about to read two complete movie reviews to my girls Bible study group and I was nervous to say the least. I knew this moment was coming. I’d mentally prepared for it all week. I knew for sure it was going to be awkward (big time awkward) and I was positive I’d step on (or crunch) most every girl’s toes. The moment came and went and I’m glad to say we all survived. I won’t lie though, it was awkward. It was uncomfortable and it was totally outFull Post

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June 24, 2015
Transgenderism: Is it Really Possible to Change Your Gender?

They were the biggest women’s shoes I had ever seen. At twelve years old, I was extremely tall for my age and already wearing women’s shoes. But these…they were bigger than most men’s shoes. I called Bethany over to show her my intriguing find. We were shopping at a resale store with our mom. Holding the enormous high heels in my hands, she came running over with wide eyes. “Look, another pair!” Bethany said pointing to the rack. We both scanned the rack and quickly noticed several more pairs of these mysterious mammoth shoes. They were in pristine condition and all boasted pricey designer labels. Of course we didFull Post

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June 19, 2015
Normalizing What’s Wrong Doesn’t Make it Right

If you’ve gone to any grocery stores in the past few weeks, you’ve probably seen the same disturbing magazine covers that I’ve seen. A man who decided he’d rather be a “woman” and an obese female model are being praised for their bravery in going against the grain. Welcome to the new America. The classic patriotic mantra, “land of the free and home of the brave” is taking on a whole new meaning. What used to shock us hardly causes us to blink now. As Christians we can’t buy into this crafty garbage. Just because our culture normalizes what’s wrong, doesn’t make it right. Sin is sin, no matter howFull Post

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June 12, 2015
Being a Christian is Not About Obeying a List of Rules

How often have you seen a girl “stay on track” until college, or her early twenties, and then go off the deep end? Her Christian faith seems to have all but disappeared and she is embracing her new found “freedom.” Sadly, I’ve seen that exact scenario happen over and over and over again. Somewhere along the way we, as Christians, have slightly (or majorly) missed the point of why we do what we do. The Christian life has become a list of rules containing do’s and don’ts, and sadly we’ve left our Savior completely out of the picture. Way too many young people view Christianity as restraining them fromFull Post

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May 25, 2015
It Takes a Strong Girl to Obey God’s Word

I was thirteen going on fourteen and dying for my birthday to arrive. I had asked my parents for my very own weight bench and I couldn’t wait to start lifting those weights. Yes, I know that’s a little weird. What thirteen year old girl wants a weight bench for her birthday? I knew that increasing my strength would make me a better basketball player and that’s exactly what I wanted. I wanted to be strong so that I could be successful. As I’ve grown older my desire to be strong has only increased. Don’t worry, I’m not into bodybuilding or anything like that. In fact, my weight benchFull Post

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April 29, 2015
Finding True Worth in an Image Obsessed Culture

After years of failed attempts to become a European supermodel, Alana’s dream job finally became a reality. Out of thousands of girls, she was selected to be a runway supermodel for a famous fashion designer in Milan, Italy. She was exactly what they wanted. After spending a short vacation at home with her family in America, she arrived back in Italy only to find that her position had been replaced. “You’re not what we want anymore,” one of the Italian agency directors told her. “You’re too short and too pale. We found someone better.” Alana’s dreams shattered before her eyes. This was her life. She was good enough oneFull Post

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April 8, 2015
Why I Pulled the Plug on TV

“Oh hey, come on in!” I said to my friend while giving her a big hug. This was her first time over to my new house. “We still have a lot of remodeling to do, but we’re getting there.” I said gesturing to a pile of drop cloths and paint cans. “Are you kidding?” she said enthusiastically. “Your house is seriously adorable already!” We slowly walked through the front entryway and into the family room. We chatted back and forth about house projects and remodeling woes. Then, after carefully examining the entire room, she looked at me with a puzzled expression and asked, “I don’t see a TV anywhere…doFull Post

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April 1, 2015
Why Christian Girls Should Take The Bible Seriously

There’s a message that has been on my heart for awhile. Actually it’s more like a passion. This passion is the very reason Kristen and I launched this blog. It’s the reason we publish three posts a week and update our social media sites daily. This passion is what keeps the fire burning. When I look around and see the direction that most young women (even Christian women) are headed, I see the need. I see the need for a better answer. I see the need for young women to make better choices. I see the need for a better outcome. I’m saddened by the skyrocketing numbers of womenFull Post

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March 30, 2015
The Hardest Thing About Being a Christian Teen Girl

“Oh, have you seen this latest movie?” A teen friend of mine went on to tell me the name of the movie she had watched. I sat there, staring blankly, having no idea what she was talking about. She continued telling me about her favorite movies and bands. I continued to sit there, nodding my head, acting like I knew what she was talking about. On the inside, I was searching my memory for any trace of those names. A few more girls joined and rambled on about different celebrities. Half of the time, I didn’t know who these girls they were talking about, but I so desperately wantedFull Post

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March 18, 2015
I’ll Keep My Clothes On, Thank You

I vividly remember my one and only interview with a local modeling agency. The director pulled out the personal information sheet and slid it across the desk. I scanned through the pages and my hands started to sweat. What was I going to tell this guy? I was supposed to mark down which categories of modeling were most interesting to me. Club wear? Lingerie? Swimwear? None of those options were going to cut it. I was hoping for something with a bit more…coverage. I awkwardly explained to the director my personal convictions for clothing standards. I could see the look of mockery in his eyes. According to him IFull Post

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March 11, 2015
Why Watching People Make Out Should be Awkward

The tension was building. Something big was about to happen. Everyone felt it. The romantic story had been a roller coaster of ups and downs, sorrows and joys. But something was about to change. As the young couple finally realized their passion for one another, it happened. They embraced one another and engaged in a full blown make out session. I sat there watching this climactic scene unfold. And…after about three seconds, I began to feel awkward. I glanced around the room to see if anybody else looked uncomfortable. Nothing. All eyes were locked on the screen. After what felt like an hour, the kissing finally stopped. I’ll beFull Post

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March 6, 2015
Why Pretty Girls Don’t Have What it Takes

How do you know if Hollywood thinks you’re pretty enough? I mean, beauty is in the eye of the beholder right? Well…apparently there’s a certain group of people who are trying to prove that beauty can actually be measured. They call it the “golden ratio.” The golden ratio is a number (1.62 to be exact) which these groups claim can be used to measure beauty. This number is used to measure everything from how far apart your eyes are, to how long your head is, to how much space you have between your chin and lips. If you measure really well (basically perfect according to this group), your numbersFull Post

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March 4, 2015
How to do Prom in a Modest and Pure Way

I scoured the local department stores hoping to find something to wear to prom. I was sixteen years old and was about to experience my first and last prom. Like any normal girl, I wanted to look my absolute best. I wanted feel and look like a princess. After days of endless searching, I decided that the words modesty, tall, and prom did not exist in the same category. I talked with my mom and she kindly took on the task of sewing me a floor length, red silk dress. The day of prom finally arrived. I was so excited. This was something I hoped I would get toFull Post

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March 2, 2015
Living a Life that Younger Girls Should Mimic

The other day I was listening to a conversation between my youngest sister and youngest brother. As I sat there (harmlessly) listening to this conversation I heard my sister mimic something I had said earlier that day. I had no idea that Cali had been in the room when I said it but apparently she was and had just repeated me. Same tone of voice and everything! This got me thinking. It just goes to show how easily young people pick up on positive and negative things that are so small and insignificant to an adult. I began thinking back to what I learned when I was younger fromFull Post

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February 23, 2015
One Girl’s Dreams of Fame and Being in the Spotlight

I wanted fame. Sometimes I still do. My first dream of the spotlight was wanting to be an actress. Oh, how I wanted to star in some heart-rending movie! I lingered on the thought, planning my strategies and begging God to let me act. As I got older, that dream faded, only to be replaced by other quests for fame. I wanted to write a national best seller that would sweep the nation! I would get asked to speak and do interviews! I would be famous! So I sat down to write that earth-shattering manuscript, and guess what? I didn’t make it very far. “God, don’t you want meFull Post

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A Teenage Girl’s Beauty Struggle

Have you ever looked in the mirror, and not liked what you saw? And no matter how hard you tried, your outfit, makeup, hair, etc. just didn’t look ‘good’? That’s me. I’m the girl who everyone thinks is confident, carefree, and knows that God loves me, mainly because I’m the pastor’s daughter. I’m sure that every girl has had this struggle, it’s probably the most popular of all the teenage-girl problems. My hair is plain brown, no volume. My eyes are dull blue-ish grey. I’m short, with absolutely NO curves whatsoever. For the past four years or so, I’ve struggled with the fact that I’m not beautiful. That noFull Post

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February 20, 2015
Becoming a God-Defined Girl in a Culture-Defined World

I once knew a girl who said she loved God. She called herself a Christian and even went to church every Sunday. But the rest of her week was full of activities, school, sports, friends, and just plain busyness. She occasionally read her Bible…but mostly because it was the “right” thing to do. She attended a church youth program once a week, but cared more about hanging out with her friends than growing spiritually. Sadly, this girl began struggling on the inside. She wanted to be a strong Christian, but did very little to help herself get there. I wish this girl was someone else, but she’s not. ThisFull Post

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February 4, 2015
The Starbucks Drive-Thru and a Challenge For You

It was a hot, Texas summer day, and I was headed to Starbucks to get an iced vanilla latte. Right as I pulled up to the speaker to order my drink it happened… The Holy Spirit started convicting my heart. I had a gospel tract in my purse, but I was not in the mood put to pass it out. I started talking to myself. I go to this Starbucks all the time. They are going to think I’m so weird if I give them a tract. My conversation between myself and the Holy Spirit continued on…until I finally gave in and decided I would pass out a tractFull Post

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January 28, 2015
Why I’m Not Jumping Into the Gender Blender

I read a disturbing story recently featured in the New York Times. It was about a little boy named Alex who couldn’t decide whether he wanted to be a boy or girl. He knew he was born a boy, but demanded that his parents let him wear dresses sometimes. He was a boy, but demanded that his parents call him a “girl” when he wanted. He liked the idea of being half-boy-half-girl. The article explained that Alex’s parents were conflicted by his constant desire to wear dresses and play with Barbies. His mom, Susan, was struggling to embrace her son’s feminine desires. She decided to seek help. Susan wasFull Post

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January 9, 2015
Dating and Courtship: Is One Better Than the Other?

“So..hey…can I have your phone number?” He asked me smoothly. I pretended not to notice his chuckling friends in the background. There was no way in the world I was giving this guy my phone number. For one, I just met him. Two, I was only sixteen. Three, he wasn’t the type of guy I wanted to stay in “touch” with anyways. If you catch my drift. So, I did what any good Christian girl would do. I decided to play a little joke on him. “Yeah…I’ll give you my phone number” I replied. “But you’ll have to ask my dad for it.” Okay – the chances of this guyFull Post

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January 5, 2015
Taylor Swift Ditches Purity and Embraces Feminism

A few months ago was the launch of Taylor Swift’s new and “improved” album, 1989. Girls everywhere are raving about the new pop icon’s greatest success and her amazing new style of music. I can’t help but notice that Taylor got her popularity by singing about broken relationships and whimsical love stories. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not hating on Taylor Swift. I used to truly respect and look up to this girl. Taylor was my fashion icon for several years. She wore beautifully vintage feminine dresses and adorable, chic feminine clothes. I used to be able to relate to her on several issues in life and was ecstaticFull Post

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December 26, 2014
Why You Should Still Party the Day After Christmas

I don’t know about you, but today can be a sad day for me sometimes. I’ve been hyped up on Christmas cheer and anticipation for weeks and now everything is over. It’s kind of a small bummer. Did you know there’s actually something called the “The Christmas Blues?” Some people literally feel depressed the day after Christmas because all of the festivities are over. It’s not surprising since all of the Christmas songs tell us “it’s the most wonderful time of the year” for weeks leading up to Christmas day. If Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year…what does that make the day-after Christmas? For most people,Full Post

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December 22, 2014
What an Amish Guy Taught Me About Christmas

I was driving down the road the other day listening to one of our local Christian radio stations. The DJ asked people to call in and share something that helps them keep Christmas in its proper place. As I was listening, this lady called in from Pennsylvania and said she has several Amish friends in the area (she is not Amish). One evening during a Christmas party she was talking to one of the Amish guys and asked him how his family celebrates Christmas. He shared with her many of his favorite family traditions and how special each one was to him. She went on to ask if hisFull Post

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November 12, 2014
10 Books That Will Change Every Girl’s Life

When I turned thirteen years old I had some major life questions. I wanted to understand how to deal with big areas in my life like guys, purity, morals, the future, femininity, and my worth and value as a girl. I had (still have) awesome parents who gave me great advice and provided me with incredible resources to learn from. One of the most challenging and helpful resources I had as a teen were books. The authors of these books were some of my best mentors and counselors. I want to give you the inside scoop on my top ten favorites of all time. These are the ten booksFull Post

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November 10, 2014
Should Christian Girls Wear Purity Rings?

My bags were packed, the car was loaded with snacks, and I was ready to embark on a milestone road trip with my mom. It was a very significant trip in my life because it marked the end of my childhood season and the beginning of womanhood. My family has a really neat tradition where each kid gets to take a special trip with one of my parents (girls go with mom and boys with dad) shortly after we enter our teen years. The purpose of the trip is for my parents to spend quality one-on-one time with us and to officially launch us into becoming men and women. OnceFull Post

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October 31, 2014
From a Guy: Why Being Different is Good

*Disclaimer: To those of you who hate and fear bugs, please brave your fear and continue reading. Lucy the ladybug has a pretty good life. Lots to eat, wings she can use to fly, and a colorful outfit to boot. But one day Lucy sees Doris the doodlebug. Doris’s whole life is a party – lots of friends, great food, surrounded by guy doodlebugs, and wearing the newest style. Doris is living the dream. Lucy envies Doris. Pretty soon she starts using the words Doris uses, crawling like Doris, and eating the same things as Doris. But no matter how hard Lucy tries, she still sticks out like aFull Post

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October 29, 2014
Halloween: When Nice Girls Turn Naughty

“Awww Man, I hate this holiday.” He said rolling his eyes. “I just don’t get it…” “Oh really?” I asked, “What are you talking about?” This is me several years ago having a conversation with a Christian college guy I knew. “I just don’t get Halloween parties and Christian girls. Why do so many Christian girls use this holiday as an excuse to dress in raunchy costumes?” He asked raising his eyebrows in question. “I don’t know…” I said. “It is kinda weird.” “Like, my Christian college has tons of Halloween parties and I don’t even want to go to any of them.” He continued. “It’s just too awkwardFull Post

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October 24, 2014
When “The Best of Me” Isn’t That Good

Boy meets girl, they “fall in love,” they jump in bed together, and then grow up and move miles apart. Unfortunately, the story doesn’t end there. If having sex before marriage wasn’t bad enough, this pair of high school sweethearts return to their hometown many years later and decide to hook up again. There’s a catch though. She now has a husband. Instead of remaining faithful to her husband and family, she believes “fate” is reuniting her with her former beau. Instead of telling him, “Sorry, I’m married and can’t go out with you anymore,” she jumps at the chance to rekindle an old flame. In dazzling lights andFull Post

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October 15, 2014
Are Pretty Faces Worth More?

I looked at the card and shoved it in my wallet. A recruiter for a local modeling agency was trying to convince me to pursue a career in the industry. I smiled at the woman and said, “I’ll think about it.” then walked away. I was seventeen or eighteen years old at this time. I wasn’t interested in a modeling career at this point because basketball and sports ruled my time. I was an athletic sports girl, not a fashion model. I didn’t put another thought into the modeling scene until I graduated from high school. I started to get curious. With the cautious approval of my parents IFull Post

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September 26, 2014
7 Good Reasons to Hate Cosmo Magazine

If you’re one of those girls who’s never heard of Cosmopolitan Magazine – praise the Lord! For the rest of you who couldn’t avoid seeing the front cover in your grocery store checkout aisle or worse, purchased it, this blog is especially for you. Let me rewind real quick. Earlier this year I noticed a particularly explicit magazine in the checkout aisle at my grocery store. The cover was raunchier and more shocking than the typical magazine I see, and I couldn’t help but do something about. After some encouragement from a friend, I called my grocery store headquarters and navigated my way to the man in charge ofFull Post

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September 19, 2014
Duggar Girls, Guys and People Magazine

I set my groceries on the counter at the checkout line and noticed a Duggar girl on the front of PEOPLE magazine. I was shocked!  In case you aren’t familiar with the Duggars, they are a famous conservative, Christian and homeschooling family. They are well known for their reality television series called 19 Kids and Counting.  Think about that, an ultra conservative homeschooling family with 19 kids being featured on the cover of PEOPLE magazine. That just doesn’t make any sense. PEOPLE magazine is the source for celebrity updates and gossip. Homeschool families and PEOPLE Magazine do not jive. Why would any reader of PEOPLE magazine care about theFull Post

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September 8, 2014
4 Ways our Raunch Culture is Lying to You

It was Christmas morning when 6 year old Kelly was exposed to our raunch culture for the first time. She excitedly opened one of her presents and pulled out a small doll. It wasn’t the type of doll you might imagine a little girl playing with though. No, this was a new kind of doll. This was a doll invented as a result of people in America embracing the most recent feminist ideas. Little Kelly pulled her Bratz doll out of the box with wide eyes. Dressed in a mini skirt, skimpy shirt, fishnet leggings, platform heels and dowsed in heavy makeup, Kelly wasn’t sure what it was. “DoFull Post

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August 27, 2014
Taylor Swift and Her Big VMA Reveal

This past Sunday night the highly anticipated VMAs took place in sunny California. Screaming fans stood on the sidelines of the red carpet hoping to catch a glimpse of their favorite celebrity. For those who couldn’t make it to California they were able to live stream the event from the comfort of their own home. Taylor Swift’s fans were waiting on pins and needles for her arrival to the red carpet. Fans could hardly make it through the night as they waited for her highly anticipated first ever big reveal of her live performance to the pop song Shake it off. Taylor decided to reveal a little more thanFull Post

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August 20, 2014
5 Reasons I’m Ditching the “Me Time” Mentality

I grabbed my computer and headed to my bedroom for some Me Time. I was exhausted from the day’s work and just wanted to “veg” out in front of my computer. Browsing through Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest was exactly what I thought I needed to rest up for the next day. The hours flew by and I lazily closed my eyes and fell asleep. I woke up the next day, went through the usual routine, and came home tired and in need of more, you guessed it, Me Time. Day after day I cherished my Me Time in hopes of feeling energized, rested up and excited about the nextFull Post

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August 18, 2014
Why Committed Girls Win in the End

“Do you have a boyfriend?” One girl asked her friend as they bagged my groceries. “Yeah, I do…but I still keep my eyes open.” She said winking at her friend. My ears perked up when she said that. Since I blog for GirlDefined, I’m always interested in hearing what teenage girls think about life. “My boyfriend is great,” she continued, “but I’m not gonna lie – there are a lot of really cute guys that work here too.” The two girls giggled. “I have a lot of crushes on the side.” I walked away thinking about their conversation and had a feeling it would make it into one ofFull Post

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July 11, 2014
Getting Rid of Barbie’s “Perfect Image” Pressure

It was a regular Wednesday morning at work when the mail arrived. I started scanning through the letters when I noticed a big hot pink magazine. “Barbie” was the only thing written on the front cover. I was annoyed to see this piece of junk mail at the office and started to cut out the address label in order to remove us from the mailing list. Right before I tossed the magazine in the trash, curiosity got the best of me and I took a peek inside. The magazine was filled with dozens of perfect images of plastic dolls dressed in slinky, provocative outfits. The pages were loaded withFull Post

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July 9, 2014
Why Christian Girls Post Seductive Selfies

When I was in high school Bethany and I decided we wanted to do a really cool photo shoot of ourselves. We put on the most modern outfits we could find, layered on the jewelry, doubled the mascara and headed to a prime location – our roof. We recruited (begged) one of our younger sisters to be our photographer. We all climbed onto the roof of our house and she snapped away with the camera. Yes, a roof is a random place to do a photo shoot, but we did it there to get that perfect “modelesque” breeze to blow our hair just right. For each picture, we posedFull Post

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July 2, 2014
Pinterest Girls and the Proverbs 7 Woman

Jennifer grabbed her phone, hopped onto her bed and started browsing the wonderful world of Pinterest. Scrolling through the categories she came to one of her favorites, fashion. As she browsed through the never ending images, she pinned, pinned, pinned away. “Adorable!”, “for my dream closet”, “to die for”, were the comments she left with each pin. Her dream closet was set and it was time to move into her dream future. Celebrity guys was her next search. “He is a dreamboat”, “what a hottie”, “look at those abs”. Jennifer’s dream future was in place. The hottest looking guys on the block were quickly pinned to her board titled,Full Post

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June 9, 2014
Happily Ever After with His Wife’s Last Name

My younger sister, Ellissa, was sitting in Starbucks recently when she overheard a conversation by two of the baristas. It went like this: Guy #1 “When I get married, I’m going to take on my wife’s last name because it’s more socially acceptable.” Guy #2 “Really?” Guy #1 “Yeah! It’s more socially acceptable these days.” Wow! What a conversation. I was aware of modern girls saying “no” to the name change, but I didn’t realize that guys were okay with taking on their wife’s last name. That was news to me. Thankfully one of my favorite authors has already tackled the tough topic of why it’s crucial to sayFull Post

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June 2, 2014
Exposing the Dark Past of Planned Parenthood

I knew what Planned Parenthood was but had never been this close to one of their buildings before. I was standing twenty feet away from their front door and silently watching as several teen girls got out of a car. One of the girls was wearing sweat pants which is a dead giveaway for why she was there that morning. She kept her head down as she and her friends quickly walked inside the building. My heart pounded fast and my hands began to sweat as I realized what was about to happen. The reality of abortion became more alive to me in that moment than ever before. IFull Post

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May 21, 2014
Are You Ready for Bikini Season?

Bikini season is back! Stores all across America have traded in their furry winter coats for the itsy-bitsy-teeny-weeny-yellow-polka-dot-bikini. Summer is almost here and girls are heading to the malls to pick out their new favorite swimsuit. Bikinis are the standard when it comes to Summer swimwear. Just the other day I walked into a Target store and the first thing to greet me was a mountain of bikinis. If a store is stocking up like that, girls must be buying them. Check out this statistic: American women spend more than 8 billion dollars a year on bikinis alone. Wow! Bikinis must have something going for them or girls wouldn’tFull Post

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May 19, 2014
The Summer My Vanity Ruined My Hair

I clearly remember the day it happened. I was fourteen years old and decided that my hair was too short and too thin. I looked around and saw other girls with beautiful, long, Barbie-like, hair. I wanted that hair. I did the calculations and figured out that I could achieve my dream hair by the time I hit high school graduation if I kept the snipping to a minimum. My hair growing journey began. There was only one problem though. My hair grew as as slow as a turtle running in peanut butter. Several years went by and my was hair was barely a few inches longer. Before IFull Post

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May 16, 2014
3 Lessons I Learned in a Modeling Interview

I walked into the modeling agency and sat down in the owner’s office. One of his recruiting agents had seen me in a clothes store several weeks earlier and had given me a business card. From what I knew about the modeling industry, I was pretty sure that my personal convictions and the modeling scene wouldn’t jive. In the past I had never taken any modeling offers seriously. I’m not sure why I felt different this time, but I did. My curiosity was pricked and I needed to find out for myself what the modeling world was all about. I wanted to know what really went on behind theFull Post

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May 14, 2014
10 Reasons I Don’t Watch Chick Flicks Anymore

She’s rich. He’s poor. True love was never meant to be for the two of them. She rebels against her father’s dreams of marrying the wealthy doctor and instead runs away with the handsome peasant boy. If they can only escape from their family and friends to find freedom they will surely live happily ever after. Drama. Tears. The climax. The movie slowly fades to an end as the sunset glows on the young couple walking hand-in-hand in a breezy, grassy field. True love wins the day again. Sound familiar to any of you? Chick flicks draw in millions of girls and women to the theaters every year. Guys usuallyFull Post

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April 26, 2014
Miley Cyrus: You Really Can’t Have the Best of Both Worlds

Would you believe me if I told you I’ve been to a Miley Cyrus concert? As shocking as this may be… it’s true. This wasn’t a recent venture though. It took place several years ago during the Hannah Montana craze days. I was a nanny to a Christian family and their two little girls were sold out Hannah Montana fans. Their dad surprised them one day with tickets and told me that the girls really wanted me to take them to the concert. Wow. This wasn’t exactly something on my bucket list, but I wasn’t sure how to say “no” at the time. So there I was several daysFull Post

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April 6, 2014
100 Sexiest Stars in Film History

She starred in thirty major films, was awarded the Golden Globe for “Female World Film Favorite,” started her own production company, voted “2nd Greatest Movie Star” of all time by Premiere Magazine, was chosen by Empire Magazine as one of the “100 Sexiest Stars in Film History,” and ranked # 6 on the American Film Institute’s “50 Greatest Screen Legends.” She was beautiful, talented, successful, and seemed to have everything a girl could dream of, except for one thing – happiness. Her life came to a tragic end on August 5, 1962 due to a drug overdose. She was only 36 years old. Her childhood was crazy.  Norma JeaneFull Post

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December 17, 2012
Life With Instagram

The wheels of the plane finally touched the ground in Austria. I had been waiting for this moment my entire life. I grew up listening to my grandmother (Helga Aloisia Grosslercher) tell story after story of her life in the far-away land of Austria. She grew up during the days of Hitler and even watched her father get arrested and taken away as a prisoner of war. When she was in her mid-twenties, she met my grandpa who was serving in the United States Army, and they soon fell in love and moved back to America. My grandmother has been back to her hometown many times, but I hadFull Post

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August 10, 2012
The Test to Stand Alone

Have you ever been in a sticky situation with your friends where they wanted to do something that you knew wasn’t right? If so, you know how hard and sometimes awkward it can be to make the choice to stand alone. Following through on your convictions and listening to the Holy Spirit isn’t always popular. My younger brother, Stephen, had to face this challenge one day in high school when he was with his basketball team on a road trip. They were heading to a tournament out of state. His teammates weren’t Christians, so they weren’t too concerned with things like purity, morality, or fleeing temptation. Therefore, Stephen hadFull Post

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June 25, 2012
Help! I’m a Facebook addict.

With over 500 million users, Facebook is now used by 1 in every 13 people on earth, with over 250 million of them (over 50%) who log in every single day. Over 700 billion minutes are spent on Facebook every month. With statistics like that, you probably have a facebook page of your own. How much time do you spend on Facebook every hour – day – week – month? What exactly are you doing on your Facebook page each time you log in? Have you ever thought about it? Maybe you’re updating your status, posting a comment, uploading pictures from your vacation or chatting with friends. The bottomFull Post

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April 19, 2012
Find out if You’re a Slave to Your Phone

Julie and I hadn’t seen each other in several months. She was back in town and we were headed to dinner. We got our food and sat down at a booth and I asked her what she had been up to the past few months. She was excited to fill me in on all of the latest updates about family, friends, guys, school and church. I listened intently as she told me about her life. She finished all of her updates and asked me to fill her in on my latest. She was looking at her phone while I was talking to her.  I started talking about my friendshipsFull Post

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April 2, 2012
The Latest Movie Fads

The Hunger Games, Twilight, Harry Potter… All of your friends are talking about the latest movies and books. You don’t want to feel left out so you read the books and hit up the theater. You’re not sure if they’re the best things to read and watch… but everyone is doing! It must be okay, right? As young Christian women, how do we evaluate whether certain books and movies are honoring to Christ? What about popular movies like Harry Potter, Twilight and now The Hunger Games? Is there a way to determine if these books and movies are something we should devote our time to? God cares a lotFull Post

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February 3, 2012
Why We Do What We Do

Have you ever stopped and wondered why you live the way you live? Have you asked yourself the questions, why do I do what I do? Why do I read my Bible? Why do I go to church? Why do I try and speak kindly? Why do I try and respect my parents? I have have asked myself these questions many times in the past. I work with a program in my church teaching the Bible to girls from 3rd-6th grade. I taught a lesson last week called “Why We Do the Things We Do.” I’ve watched several of my childhood friends grow up, move out, get married andFull Post

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January 23, 2012
Tattoos and Piercings

No matter how you slice it, we live in a culture that is quick to judge a person by their outward appearance. If you’re like me, you have probably heard some controversial opinions about whether or not Christians should have tattoos and multiple body piercings. Thankfully, the Bible speaks directly and indirectly about all of the issues of life. So where does a few tattoos and a tongue ring come in to all of this? Right in the very middle. The only example to follow.   Picture our savior, Jesus Christ for a minute. What does he look like to you? Imagine him as a man walking on thisFull Post

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January 19, 2012
Does God Care About Media?

When I was about 7 or 8 years old my parents made a huge decision in our house. They disconnected our TV and took away our main source of entertainment! How could they be so cruel to take away the box that we sat in front of for hours and hours and hours and hours… You get the point. 😉 Actually, I am extremely grateful they made the decision to remove TV from our house and I can honestly say I don’t miss it and pray I never will! There are many topics we could discuss about the TV and media, I am going to focus on the timeFull Post

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