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November 5, 2019
A Call of Action to Single Christian Women

I was one of those “undistracted singles” that was totally distracted by marriage. I spent half of my life totally focused on serving the Lord and the other half totally focused on finding my man.  That was Bethany Baird in her late teens and early twenties.  Somewhere in-between wanting to make the most of my single years and desiring to live an “undistracted” life for Christ, I got distracted. Really distracted. I so wanted to serve Christ, but I also really wanted to get married.  It wasn’t until my mid-to-late twenties that I finally understood and began to truly live out God’s call for my life.  Do you knowFull Post

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October 25, 2019
To the Girl Who is Discouraged and Losing Heart

Have you felt like a weight has fallen over you? Are you stuck in a place in life where nothing seems to be changing? Where the same thing happens day in and day out and you’re not getting anywhere? Have you prayed and begged God for something and not seen an answer? Do you feel like you’re being held back, but can’t put a finger on what it is that’s got a hold over you? Maybe you are a young woman with no friends, in a new city and a new job and every night you go home alone. You long for fellowship and a purpose beyond just working yourFull Post

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October 7, 2019
Becoming a Girl of God-Worship Instead of Self-Worship

Jennifer’s tears rolled down her cheeks as she struggled to express her thoughts. “I just don’t feel like God sees me or cares about me. He’s never answered a single one of my prayers and I never see Him working in my life. I don’t have many friends, my parents don’t give me the time of day, and my health is awful. I just can’t see any reason to live for God or praise Him. I honestly think He has forgotten about me.” The tears continued to fall and Jennifer seemed to be growing more depressed and discouraged as she thought about her life. From her perspective, life wasFull Post

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July 31, 2019
Q&A: How to serve God, being an introvert, and modesty hacks

WATCH VIDEO  We are keeping it down-to-earth in today’s vlog. You submitted your questions through Instagram and we picked a handful to answer. We are digging into everything from being an introvert to modesty hacks, to music, to serving God, to creativity! If you have questions that you’d like answered in the next Q&A video, leave your comments below. WATCH VIDEO   

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July 17, 2019
Our Top 6 Favorite Christian Podcasts

WATCH VIDEO We love podcasts. They are an amazing way to access great content from anywhere at any time. If you aren’t an avid podcast listener yet, we hope you will be by the time you finish this video. Here are a few of our current favorite Christian podcasts:  Relatable with Allie Stuckey  Compelled with Paul Hastings  Truth in Love with ACBC Revive Our Hearts with Nancy Demoss Wolgemuth ESV Everyday in the Word The Briefing with Albert Mohler WATCH VIDEO

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July 7, 2019
10 Tips to Keep Your Heart Focused on Jesus

It seems like everything in the world is trying to distract us from truly focusing on Jesus. Social media, movies, music, friends, sports, school, and work etc. While those things aren’t harmful in and of themselves, it seems many of us have found ourselves obsessed with everything but our relationship with God. I’m just as guilty as the next girl. I’ll admit that it’s really hard to keep my heart focused on Jesus. I find myself distracted and not living for what really matters. I don’t want this to be my story though. I’m sure you don’t either. To help us fight the battle and intentionally work on ourFull Post

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June 17, 2019
5 Bible Verses Every Girl Should Know

Different moments, experiences, challenges, and joys in my life have resulted in me latching onto specific verses in Scripture. Verses that I’d studied or memorized. Those verses became my lifeline. When it came to singleness, I always turned to Proverbs 3:5-6. When it came to purity of heart, I always turned to Psalm 51:10. The list goes on. I intentionally memorized and meditated on specific passages that I knew would help me when I needed them most. Let’s just be real for a moment. The Bible is big. It can be hard to know where to turn to when you’re dealing with a specific challenge in your life. AlthoughFull Post

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June 12, 2019
Sexual Past: How to Tell a Godly Guy?

WATCH VIDEO Sex. Purity. Virginity. These are some loaded topics that can bring about a ton of different emotions. The two of us had the privilege of sitting down with popular Christian YouTubers, Paul and Morgan, to hear their thoughts on these important topics. Morgan opened up with us and shared her testimony of struggling in an unhealthy relationship, to eventually meeting and marrying Paul. Her story is filled with redemption and hope. WATCH VIDEO

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June 3, 2019
Sister, Your Worth is Not Found in Your Size

I looked it the mirror as I spun around in a dress I hadn’t worn in a while. Immediately, I began to panic about my reflection. Why doesn’t this dress look the same as it did before? I thought, staring at the mirror. Disgusted, I threw the dress onto my bed as I began to cry. The tears continued to fall down my cheeks as I glanced at my closet. Finally, I put on something else to wear and rushed to class, with worries plaguing my mind as I walked. Though I may be the exception to the rule, I feel like females constantly worry about their size, starting withFull Post

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May 27, 2019
Girl, Are You Willing to Surrender All?

She was tall, blonde, blue-eyed and lived in a tiny town in Austria. My nana was a beauty and a sweetheart. Having lived her entire life in this small European town, she often wondered what the rest of the world was like. Marriage was probably her best hope of leaving her small Austria town, the only problem, there were no eligible men to marry. Little did she know that God would bring someone halfway across the world to sweep her off of her feet and bring her to America! Yep, that’s my grandpa. My grandpa was serving in the US Military and was assigned to her small Austrian town.Full Post

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May 23, 2019
Hannah’s Story: Struggling to Figure out Life

Have you ever asked the question, “What’s life all about?” I know I have.   In fact when I was seventeen, I not only was asking this question, I was really struggling with it.       Up until this point in my life, I had spent my time doing school, working some summer jobs, going to church, spending time with friends and family – you know, the normal teenage life.  But in my free time, I participated in something that was a little unique. You see, when I was 12 years old, I signed up to participate in the National Bible Bee. The National Bible Bee is a program forFull Post

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May 20, 2019
Sex and the Single Christian Girl

Don’t think about it. Don’t talk about it. Don’t do it. That is the thought process that many single Christian women have when it comes to the word “sex.” Instead of viewing sex through a healthy biblical perspective, we often view sex in a scary, confusing, distorted, negative, dirty and/or unhelpful way. My prayer is that we can change that thought process. Instead of waiting until you’re dating or engaged (or even married) to gain a helpful biblical perspective, begin that process now. When single women understand a truly biblical perspective of sex, they realize that sex isn’t the end goal. They realize that a deep, intimate, all-knowing relationshipFull Post

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May 5, 2019
How Writing a Book on Sex Helped Me as a Newlywed

First off, I never ever imagined I’d write a book on sex. Secondly, I never ever imagined that I’d write a book on sex as an unmarried woman. Who does that? I’d never had sex and yet I was writing a book on sex. It’s a little strange sounding. I know. Looking back on the researching, writing, editing, and reviewing of Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart, I am absolutely convinced that God used the writing process of this book to prepare me for marriage. Writing a book on sex was the best preparation for becoming a wife and lover to my husband.   In theFull Post

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May 1, 2019
Sexual Longings and the Source of True Satisfaction (Part Four)

WATCH VIDEO  If a girl is going to be single for her whole life, does that mean she will never have sex at all? This question gets right to the heart of sexual longings and true satisfaction. It’s a question that many of us have probably wondered or asked at some point in our lives. We want to know if the fulfillment of our sexual longings is a “must have” in order to experience true satisfaction. In this video, we answer that question. We dig deep into the fact that we were created by God to find ultimate satisfaction in a deeply personal and vibrant relationship with Him. We also show you threeFull Post

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April 30, 2019
Celebrate! Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart is Here!

We are so excited to announce that Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-DefinedSexuality officially released today!!! Today is a day of celebration. A day to celebrate all that God has done and is going to do. We are in awe of His incredible grace and mercy in our lives and this book is a testimony of His faithfulness. Our prayer is that this book will show you the beauty and freedom of God-defined sexuality. Get to know, Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart! Check out the official video trailer for the book. Download the first chapter for free. Access the FREE 7 Day Sex, Purity,Full Post

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April 29, 2019
Why We Wrote Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl’s Heart

WATCH  VIDEO  Writing a book on God’s design for sexuality wasn’t exactly a lifelong dream of ours . . . but when we saw the hundreds of emails flooding our inbox from the Girl Defined sisterhood asking tough questions about sexuality, a fire was ignited within our hearts. When our publisher asked us to write a third book, we knew exactly what it needed to be about—sex, purity, and the longings of a girl’s heart. Although this book has been the most challenging and laborious by far, it was well worth it. God’s design for sexuality is powerful, beautiful, and incredibly freeing. As we’ve seen God’s truth transform our own brokenness into beauty for HisFull Post

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April 24, 2019
Purity: The Right and Wrong Way to View it (Part 3)

WATCH VIDEO Looking back on our lives, the two of us can clearly see where we adopted some unhelpful and unbiblical perspectives on purity. If you grew up in a Christian home (or religious home), you can probably relate. Instead of viewing purity as a lifelong pursuit motivated by a desire to honor Christ, many of us view purity as a core part of our identity. We unknowingly categorize people as “the pure ones” or “the impure ones.” However, this mindset couldn’t be further from God’s heart and desire for us. WATCH VIDEO

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April 19, 2019
The One Thing Christian Girls Don’t Know About Sexuality

I was shocked when they announced the title of the next book study that we would be doing. I was sitting in a room in my church next to Zack, surrounded by other small group leaders. “This is a conversation that we need to have more often in church.” My pastor said. “The world is talking about sex, but the church is often silent. We need to change that.” He went on to share how struggles with porn addiction, adultery, sexual promiscuity, and uncontrolled lust were shattering church families and individuals within our own body. “That’s why it’s crucial for all of us, as leaders, to equip ourselves withinFull Post

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April 17, 2019
God’s Design for Sexuality (Part Two)

WATCH VIDEO  Sexuality is something that impacts our lives in huge ways. However, it’s often a topic that we, as Christian women, know the least about from a Biblical perspective. We are all created as sexual beings…but do we understand God’s purpose and intention behind our sexual design? Understanding the why behind God’s changes everything! Sexuality was designed to be an earthly metaphor of a much greater spiritual reality.  WATCH VIDEO 

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April 15, 2019
Purity is so Much More than a List of Rules

I was that girl. The girl who grew up in church, saved sex for marriage, wrote letters to her future husband, and tried to do all of the “right” things a good church girl should do. In fact, I even saved my first kiss for marriage. Check. Check. Check. I was marking off the boxes that a pure girl should check off. I was following the rules and being “pure.” Looking back on my 30 years of life, I see a stark contrast in the way that I used to view the concept of purity to the way that I view it right now. As much as I hateFull Post

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April 10, 2019
Sex and the Christian Girl (Part One)

WATCH VIDEO  Being honest and open about our sexual struggles is something many of us don’t want to do. It’s much easier to put on the mask and pretend that everything is fine. However, what we need to remember is that the first conversation surrounding sex and sexuality started a long time ago. It started way back in Genesis 1 and 2. In the very beginning, we see that God intentionally created every aspect of the world. He took great care in creating the trees and the animals. He cared about every detail and made everything perfect. After the animals, trees, and skies are perfectly created, God then focused on His most magnificent creation. The male andFull Post

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April 8, 2019
Lust is a Girl Problem Too

I crawled into my bed and turned on the lamp. It was late. I was tired. But that didn’t keep me from reading my favorite genre of books, Christian Romance Novels. I justified my actions and convinced myself that these were innocent and clean. What harm could they do? One by one I devoured these books. Rereading the extra “spicy” scenes over and over again. I put myself in the characters shoes and imagined the story was my own. As single, high school aged girl, I imagined that I was the one being wooed and pursued and swept off of my feet. When the story finished, I would layFull Post

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March 25, 2019
Finding Whole in a World of Searching

We live in a world of searching. We can trace this reality all the way back to that fracture in the garden. The moment when a man and a woman chose against God’s instruction as they reached out towards a forbidden fruit. What once was whole ruptured into two and thus began the search.   Sometimes I try to imagine what it would feel like to be truly whole. What it would have been like to walk beside God in the cool of the morning in that place of paradise.  I imagine myself bursting at the seam.  This tangible overflow of everything that I was created to be would bleedFull Post

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March 22, 2019
Chasing Truth: Being a Girl Who Fearlessly Pursues God’s Word

WATCH VIDEO  In a world where truth is determined by personal opinion and cultural trends, it’s becoming more and more challenging to discern what’s true and what’s not. If we, as Christian women, don’t anchor our lives in God’s unchanging truth, we’ll get swept away in the tidal wave of confusion. At Girl Defined ’19 you will discover how to become a woman who boldly and fearlessly chases God’s truth in your life. We’ll be unpacking popular questions such as, How do I speak the truth in love to my friends? What if I’m hated for standing up for what’s right? How do I become a woman who fearlesslyFull Post

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March 20, 2019
Christian Girl, Live for Something Greater

WATCH VLOG We live in a generation where we, as women, are increasingly being told to focus on our dreams and our dreams alone. We’re encouraged to push everyone and everything out of the way. Nowhere in Scripture are we told to, “follow our hearts.” “Live for self.” “Shove everyone else aside.” We are told to do the opposite. “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, thereFull Post

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March 15, 2019
Resisting the Seduction of our Sexualized World

I was chatting with a friend recently who shared an eye-opening experience with me. Being a huge music fan herself, she’s always on the lookout for new and inspiring tunes. One of her other friends had sent her a song to check out, which they had been raving about for days. Within seconds of listening to it on Spotify, she was instantly captivated by how incredible the voice of the singer was. She clicked repeat. And then repeated it again. After several days of playing the song over and over, she naturally memorized the lyrics. One morning while getting ready for the day, she was singing the song quietlyFull Post

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March 13, 2019
Promoting Godly Manhood in the Midst of Toxic Masculinity

WATCH VIDEO  Toxic Masculinity is a common phrase we hear today. It’s essentially used to describe a man who is embracing “manhood” in selfish & harmful ways. However, as evil as many men have been toward women, we need to realize that masculinity (in general) isn’t the core problem here — sin is. Sin (rebellion against God’s design) has distorted manhood (and womanhood) in so many ways and what we see isn’t often a biblical picture of God calls us to. Yes, it is right and good to call out the sin of evil men — but let’s not swing so far to one side that we forget thatFull Post

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March 11, 2019
Daughter of the King, You Are Beautiful!

The midday sun streamed through the windows of my best friend’s living room. The gentle hum of laughing and talking was interrupted by my friend’s older sister: she was a college sophomore home for Christmas break and was looking at a photo book of her senior pictures. “Girls, I need to say something, so listen up. Teenage girls are way too hard on themselves and the way they look. I used to think I was fat and ugly, and looking back at these pictures now as a 20-year-old, I realize that I was actually gorgeous!! So stop attacking yourselves and know that even when you feel like I did,Full Post

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February 27, 2019
God Made You Beautiful (no matter what other people say)

WATCH VLOG Beauty is one of the biggest issues that younger and older women wrestle with. It can make or break you depending on your perspective. We’ve personally had our own struggles with beauty over the years but found incredible freedom through God’s Word.  3 Truths that have personally transformed our view of beauty and how we view ourselves: God Designed Me, So He Defines My Worth. God Handcrafted Me to Look Just the Way I Do. I was Created for God’s Glory Psalm 139:13-15 “For you [God] formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.Full Post

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February 25, 2019
Single or Married and the Proverbs 31 Lady

Ten years ago I memorized the majority of Proverbs 31. As a twenty-year-old single young woman, I wasn’t exactly sure how to implement what I was reading. I wanted to become like this woman and put her incredible heart and lifestyle into action, but I was single. I wasn’t married. I didn’t have a family. I didn’t have a household to take care of. Instead of dismissing this passage and ignoring its wisdom, I took out my pen and made some notes in my Bible. As a single gal, I noted my six big takeaways and began praying that God would one day make me that kind of woman.Full Post

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February 22, 2019
How I Found a Godly Woman to Mentor Me

I wanted to text her for several weeks but kept putting it off out of fear. What if she says no? What if she’s too busy? What if she just doesn’t want to do it? I knew my hesitations were rooted in the fear of rejection, so — before I could talk myself out of it again, I quickly started typing out a text message. After re-reading my message several times, I clicked send. I knew this was a good decision, and I reminded myself to trust in God for whatever happened. Asking an older, godly woman to mentor me was something I knew I needed to do. IFull Post

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February 11, 2019
Let’s Start a Kindness Revolution

She barely looked up. I pulled my cart into the aisle, unloaded the groceries onto the conveyer belt, and watched as she began scanning them. She still didn’t look up—just kept her gaze down, as if afraid of making eye contact. I stood quietly for a moment as she worked. She looks sad, I thought. No—more than sad. Hurt. Hopeless. “How are you today?” I asked, breaking the silence. She jerked her head up, a startled look on her face. “Good. How are you?” A default reply. “I’m good, thank you.” Back to silence. A familiar nudge pricked my heart. I should say something. But what? My tongue seemedFull Post

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February 4, 2019
Good Hospitality Doesn’t Require a Big Home 

After a breathtaking two weeks in the beautiful Rocky Mountains, my new husband and I were headed home.  Home no longer looked like it had for 30 years of my life. Home was now different. With someone different. Home was now a very small garage studio apartment across town from the rest of my family. I’ll never forget the moment Dav and I pulled into our new driveway. We walked up the stairs and unlocked the doors for the very first time as husband and wife. The place was small, but it was ours.  We were home. Living in a small space has been a fun and unique challengeFull Post

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January 28, 2019
Turning Overwhelmed into Peaceful

I ran into the woods knowing exactly where I was headed. My sisters and I have a huge tree fort with a swing and it made the perfect quiet spot. I had been trying to make things happen in my own power, forgetting to seek God. I needed to think. I needed to pray. The quietness of nature was the perfect place to do it! Are you overwhelmed? Have you ever gotten overwhelmed with life and tried to do things in your own power? Whenever I find myself doing this and I examine myself it always comes down to the same fact. I haven’t been seeking God as IFull Post

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January 7, 2019
4 Strategies for Living at Home as an Adult Daughter

My younger sisters (Ellissa, Rebekah, and Suzanna) and I sat in our kitchen nook late into the night. We chatted about our weeks and then landed on this topic: How to be an adult daughter who chooses to live at home. Rebekah is nineteen, Ellissa is twenty-six, and I am thirty (I lived at home until I got married at 30 years old). All three of us willingly/joyfully chose to live at home (the other girls still live at home). None of us are/were perfect at handling these dynamics. We each had our bad days, selfish moments, and unkind words (given and received). Communication between adult daughters and parentsFull Post

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January 4, 2019
How God Changed My Relationship with Makeup

I abruptly opened my eyes to the blaring sound of my alarm. As the blurriness began to subside, I slowly sat up and peered toward the window directly in front of me. It was a grey and overcast day in Chicago, but it was an exciting day nonetheless. My mom was asked to be a part of a show that highlights the benefits of incorporating raw fruits and vegetable into your diet. She was going as a testament to how raw foods have greatly improved her type 2 diabetes. My two sisters and I were also invited to come to the shoot to get some footage with our mom.Full Post

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January 2, 2019
6 Books to Read in 2019

WATCH VIDEO  Books have played a huge role in each of our lives. The two of us would not be the women we are today without the practical wisdom we received through reading sound Christian books. That is why we are so passionate about reading and challenging others to read as well. Here are 6 books that the two of us are planning to read in 2019 and encourage you to read too. 1. Lies Women Believe  2. In His Image 3. Gay Girl Good God  4. Rethinking Sexuality  5. Visual Theology 6. Scripture Journal  We can’t recommend books without mentioning our two all-time favorites! Girl Defined: God’s RadicalFull Post

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December 31, 2018
Top 5 Most Popular Posts from 2018

This past year has been one of the most exciting years the two of us have ever experienced at Girl Defined. The testimonies that we heard in person, online, and through email were absolutely incredible. Some of you grew in your relationship with Christ. Some of you accepted Christ as your personal Savior for the very first time. Some of you found freedom from habitual sin. Some of you found the courage to pour into other young women. The list could go on. God is working mightily amongst the Girl Defined Sisterhood and we are thrilled to be a part of that work. This past year we launched ourFull Post

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December 28, 2018
2 Free Video Studies from GirlDefined

A new year means a new start! This is a great time to write down goals, create a new reading list, and just get a little more intentional about life. To help you do that, we want to introduce you to our free video studies. These free videos were created to go along with each of our books, Girl Defined and Love Defined, and provide structure and teaching for each book. The Girl Defined book video study is 8 weeks long and helps to break down the book into easy, bite-size reading portions. The Love Defined book study is 6 weeks long and will walk you through the entireFull Post

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December 3, 2018
Stop Worrying About the Future

I am in my junior year of high school, which means college and a bucket load of decisions are on there way. It is too easy to start worrying about where I’m going to attend college, what I’m going to study, who I’m going to marry, and what in the world I’m going to do with my life. And to top it all off, I don’t want to mess it up and go against what the Lord wants for my life. I know there are a ton of other girls out there who feel the same way about this tremendous burden. Maybe you aren’t worried about something I justFull Post

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November 30, 2018
Before You Post that Sexy Workout Selfie

I’m guilty. I have totally done it. After a long hard workout, I remember snapping a “sexy” picture of myself in front of my bedroom mirror. You know. The kind where you angle your body just right to make your fat disappear and your muscles look huge. Yep. That was me. I wanted to see how hot I looked. I wanted to admire my body. Deep down, I was self-obsessed and I didn’t care. I was working out because I wanted to look good. I wanted people to admire my fit body. I wanted other girls to be secretly jealous of me. The trend of the sexy workout selfie. OnceFull Post

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November 28, 2018
How to Do an Advent Study this Christmas

WATCH VIDEO  The two of us grew up in a home that celebrated Advent every single Christmas season. Our parents would put a big wreath on the dinner table. The wreath held four smaller candles on the outer edge and one big candle in the middle. Celebrating Advent was a big deal for us as little girls and continues to be a big deal for us as grown women. What is Advent? The word advent literally means “arrival” or “an appearing or coming into place.” The First Advent (meaning first appearing of Christ) happened at Christmas over 2,000 years ago. The Christmas Advent celebration is both a commemoration of Christ’sFull Post

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November 26, 2018
How to Become a Woman Who Thrives

With my calves on fire and my body soaking wet from the hours of running in the rain, I finally crossed the finish line. The months of training that I’d spent leading up until this point paid off. I had officially run my first (and probably only) marathon. You better believe I put that 26.2 sticker proudly on the back of my car. This was an incredible and unimaginable achievement for me. I had no idea I was capable of running that far. To be honest, I’m still not sure how I did it. During the race pretty much everything that could have gone wrong went wrong. It wasFull Post

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November 12, 2018
5 Ways to Practice Hospitality as a Single Woman

As a newly married woman with my own space now, one of the things I can’t wait to do is show hospitality to others. As I unpack my many boxes, I’m imaging how fun it’s going to be to invite people into my new little apartment and serve them a good meal. I can’t wait to have my family, friends, and neighbors over for some southern sweet tea and good conversations. Here’s the thing though…as excited as I am about pursuing hospitality now, this isn’t a new practice for me. Pursuing hospitality is something I have enjoyed doing for many, many years, long before I ever got married. As aFull Post

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November 5, 2018
Girl, You Can Maintain a Strong Spiritual Life

My dad is a carpet cleaner—and a very fine one, at that. It’s a lovely luxury to enjoy the feeling of fluffy, soft, newly-cleaned fibers under your feet. But, just like everything else in life, carpet requires maintenance. Most people clean their carpets about once every five years. However, if carpet receives a regular maintenance cleaning (like once every five months), it stays fresh and relatively unsoiled. The same is true about spiritual maintenance. There’s nothing like the feeling of a spiritual high. Like sensing a close fellowship with our heavenly Father, the Spirit within delighting in the things of God. However, those mountaintop seasons usually don’t happen veryFull Post

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October 29, 2018
Bethany’s Tips for Planning, Hosting, and Throwing a Fabulous Party

I love hosting parties. Having people in my home is one of my favorite things to do. I love hosting, planning, organizing and watching my friends enjoy a super fun time together. The work that goes into planning and hosting a fabulous dinner, game night, or party, is totally worth it to me. I find so much joy in creating a time and space for people to have community, fellowship, and a good clean time. Sadly, hospitality has become such a lost art in our generation. People just don’t invite people into their homes anymore. Our homes are more like quick rest stops instead of places we welcome peopleFull Post

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October 1, 2018
Are You Seeking God’s Word for Guidance?

Being a military wife has its perks. My husband and I were stationed in Ketchikan, Alaska, on one of our tours a few years back.  Not only is it beautiful, but it’s also known for being the salmon fishing capital of the world, at least that is what the sign says at the town entrance. I believe it too, because you could smell the salmon during their spawning season in all the creeks downtown. Alaska also has wonderful hunting areas. This is my husband’s dream.  He has always wanted to hunt, and this was his chance to do that, at the best place possible. One weekend my husband, Jared,Full Post

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September 29, 2018
Modest Fall Outfit Ideas

WATCH VIDEO Combining fashion and modesty during the fall can be really fun. With the weather cooling down, it’s easier to layer-up and wear styles that offer a little more coverage. After creating our previous video called, Modest Summer Outfit Ideas, many of you asked us to create another video for the fall. So here it is! We decided to partner with Thred Up again, online store, to bring you affordable, modest, and fashionable fall outfit ideas. In today’s video, we’re going to show you some of our favorite finds for our fall wardrobe. WATCH VIDEO  

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September 26, 2018
Using Social Media in a God Honoring Way

WATCH VLOG Most of us have social media out of default because it’s the normal thing to do. FIRST ASK: What is my purpose or goal for having social media? 4 Heart-Check Questions to Ask Before Posting: 1. Will this post be honoring to God? “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all to the glory of God.” 1 Cor. 10:31 2. Will this post Build Up those who see it? “Let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building up the one in need and bringing grace to those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29 Check out theFull Post

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September 21, 2018
God Made You Beautiful, Despite How Ugly You Feel

Her hair was long and beautiful. It was thick and luscious. As she highlighted my hair in the salon, I couldn’t help but compliment her hair. “I just love your hair!” I said enthusiastically. I expected her to accept my compliment with satisfaction, but she didn’t. “Oh…thanks!” she said laughing out loud. “It’s actually not my hair…well, at least not most of it.” I raised my eyebrows in surprise. “Yeah, it’s actually mostly hair extensions. My real hair is short and thin.” She said with a wink. She went on to explain how her salon offered high-quality fusion hair extension service. They would fuse real pieces of hair onto theFull Post

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September 12, 2018
Just Because it’s Popular Doesn’t Make it Right

WATCH VLOG The two of us were recently talking to our younger sister, Rebekah, about being a Christin teen girl. She was telling us how hard it is to stand strong when it feels like everyone is into something that you know isn’t honoring to God or helpful in your Christian walk. As Christian girls, we have to be committed to God’s Truth and embrace His good plan for our lives. No matter how countercultural it is. In today’s vlog we discuss, “4 Popular ideas that Clash with God’s Truth.” Let’s choose to be women who honor God and obey him rather than following what’s popular amongst our peers. WATCHFull Post

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September 7, 2018
Be a Woman Whose Purpose Fuels Your Passion

She went from a nobody to a world changer within a matter of months. This young woman was nothing more than a peasant girl when her life took a drastic, unexpected turn. Nobody knew her name. But now, everybody in the kingdom knew exactly who she was. They knew…because she was their new queen. She was Esther. The true story of Esther is like the biblical version of a “Cinderella” story. However, Esther’s life was anything but glamorous. Ripped from her home and family, forced to live in the king’s harem, and then ultimately forced to marry a man she didn’t even know…Esther’s life was not perfectly romantic. And toFull Post

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August 27, 2018
10 Misconceptions about Biblical Womanhood

I was twenty-two years old and totally taken off guard by Lacy’s blatant attacks on my beliefs. Apparently, she had heard about my perspectives and beliefs on biblical womanhood and was not impressed. In fact, offended/annoyed would be the right way to describe her feelings towards me at that time. During this back and forth “debate” of sorts, I was extremely uncomfortable. I wasn’t exactly sure how to counter Lacy’s arguments and I was a little insecure about my stance on Scripture and biblical womanhood. I felt like Lacy was completely demeaning and attacking biblical womanhood and I felt at a loss for words to defend what I believed.Full Post

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August 20, 2018
How My Feminist Thinking Almost Destroyed My Marriage

I grew up without my mother. She passed away when I was four years old. I remember women saying (in person or in movies) that they’ve dreamt of marriage all their lives and have planned for their wedding since they were five years old. I’d scrunch my nose and think “Why on earth would you do that?!” and laugh it away. I didn’t plan for my wedding until I was engaged. My husband grew up without his father. Not due to death, but to divorce. We met at a Bible study at seventeen. He was my friend first: someone who inspired me to grow closer to Jesus and deeperFull Post

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August 17, 2018
Same-Sex Attraction and the Christian Girl

She experienced same-sex attraction for the first time when she was five years old. These feelings were a part of her life as long as she could remember. As she grew into a teenager the feelings only intensified. By age seventeen, she pursued her first female relationship and openly embraced her life as a lesbian. Then, at age nineteen something radical happened in her life. She was introduced to a man named Jesus. She had never known a love so powerful before. She had never experienced a love so intimate and satisfying. Over the next few years, Jesus transformed her life from the inside out. This is the trueFull Post

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August 15, 2018
The Power of a Strong Sisterhood

WATCH VIDEO  The power of a strong sisterhood is life changing. It helps you to stand strong through the hard times and helps you to keep going even when you don’t feel like it.   The Bible says, “A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”  Don’t live this life alone. God designed you to live in the context of a strong community. Find a sisterhood and lean on them for strength. WATCH VIDEO 

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August 13, 2018
The Future is so Much More than Female

I’m a woman. I love being a woman. I love everything about it. I’m all for women championing and encouraging other women. I think it’s amazing that so many women can work hard, dream big, and live hugely awesome lives. Ambition is amazing. Hard work is amazing. Dreaming big is amazing. I personally thrive on living life to the fullest. I love pouring my heart out for the jobs and tasks God has called me to. I feel so alive when I work hard and accomplish big things for His glory. Even if they aren’t glamorous jobs, I love working hard and giving my all. God has so uniquelyFull Post

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August 10, 2018
Modesty Hacks and Fashion Tips with Hello Modesty

Big tears streamed down my face. I just knew I was destined to a life of drabby, old-fashioned clothing. I was sixteen, and my parents and I were having another modesty conversation. I wanted to be fashionable, but I felt like my parents were dooming me to a life of turtlenecks and bonnets. They did their best to explain that modesty didn’t have to look old-fashioned. They encouraged me to have fun and explore styles but not to compromise on my modesty standards. After years of trial, error, tears, and lots of creative thinking, I’ve finally come to understand the balance of fashion and modesty my parents were pushingFull Post

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August 8, 2018
Hollywood’s Method for Relationships vs. God’s Method

WATCH VIDEO  Most of us want vibrant marriages that last. We want faithful spouses and committed marriages, but something isn’t working. Relationships aren’t lasting. Many marriages aren’t thriving. When it comes to our love lives, many of us are taking our cues from Hollywood. We are building our relationships upon a foundation that is destined to crumble. If you want something more Christ-centered, check out today’s video. WATCH VIDEO 

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August 6, 2018
Pretty Little Sins

After a long day at school, I was ready to get home, throw on some old sweatpants, and relax. When I opened my bedroom door, however, I was greeted with a nasty surprise: I had left my window open and my room was now infested with insects all trying to escape the Georgia summer heat. Flying roaches, angry wasps, even a big, fuzzy spider—every creepy crawler you can imagine, swarming all over my stuff. Totally grossed out, I was running around the room with a fly swatter and an extra-large can of Raid, trying to exterminate all the bugs, when I spotted one out of the corner of myFull Post

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August 3, 2018
Girl, What Does Your Heart Desire?

Like many of you, I am constantly thinking of my future, constantly thinking how will I know if I’m doing God’s will in my life? How do I know if I have God-honouring desires? That’s when I turn to Psalm 37… verse 4 especially… “Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” Well when I was younger, I always assumed that verse meant, that if I delight and draw near to God, He will give me whatever my heart desires… GREAT I thought! All I have to do is get close to God and bam, He’s going to give me all that my heartFull Post

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July 31, 2018
God and the School Year

WATCH VIDEO  When the busyness of the school year hits, it can be easy to push God to the back burner. The two of us have been there and we totally get how that goes.  Unless we, as modern women, are intentional to get into God’s Word, it won’t happen. The two of us are challenging you to bring God into your school year. Whether it’s middle school, high school, or college, make your relationship with God a top priority. “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delightFull Post

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July 13, 2018
Modest Summer Outfit Ideas

WATCH VIDEO  Combining fashion and modesty during the hot summer months can be really hard to do. It often feels like summer trends are all about the teeny-tiny shorts and itsy-bitsy shirts. So what’s a girl to do? Recently, the two of us have discovered an online store that has completely revolutionized our summer shopping experience. In today’s video, we’re going to show you some of our favorite modest finds for our summer wardrobe. WATCH VIDEO

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July 2, 2018
How to Mentor and Disciple Another Girl

I sat in the conference session with my eyes wide open. It was one of those moments where every word spoken pierced straight into my heart. As the speaker shared about his passion for mentorship and discipleship, I knew my life would never be the same. After that conference, my life took a drastic turn for the better. I went from having head knowledge about the importance of discipleship to having a heart and passion for it. I was turning into a girl who deeply desired to reach out and minister to the young women in my sphere of influence. It was like I was beginning to see withFull Post

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June 20, 2018
Untold Truths about Dressing Modestly

WATCH VIDEO  We live in a culture where modesty isn’t valued at all anymore We’re taught that it’s completely normal to uncover 90% of our skin. We’re told that less is more. That being sexy is the most important thing. The two of us feel this pressure and we’re guessing you do too! It’s so important for us, as women, to pause and think about why we do what we do. Why do we wear clothes? Why do we want to dress with decency? Why do we value modesty? Unless we can answer those questions from a truly biblical perspective, we won’t fully grasp God’s heart for us in thisFull Post

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June 15, 2018
Unfiltered Beauty: Embracing Your Face Without a Filter

I angled the phone. Smiled. Clicked capture. My sister had just purchased a new smartphone, and I wanted to try out the camera. It had more filters and options than my own “next door to a dumb phone” device, which, of course, meant better selfies. I tried out every single filter, loving the results. I clicked an icon in the corner, which brought up three more options. The first was called “slim face.” Curious, I moved the bar all the way to the right and watched in awe as my face narrowed before my eyes. My cheeks hollowed until it looked like I was sucking on lemons. I laughed,Full Post

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April 13, 2018
Seduction: Using Feminine Allure in the Right Way

Standing in front of my bedroom mirror, I checked-out at my new jeans. I thought to myself, you look seriously hot. I had been working out a lot, my skin was tan from being in the sun, and my new jeans were snug around my hips. Looking at myself up and down, I knew the guys would notice me. I wanted them to notice me. As a single girl, I wanted to be wanted. As I headed out the door to meet up with my friends, I suddenly felt very powerful and alluring. Even seductive. Without ever being formally taught, I knew how to use my femininity to get theFull Post

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March 30, 2018
How Can I Know God’s Will For Me?

Which college should I attend? Who should be my best friend? When is it ok to date? If you are like me, you have wrestled with questions like these.  As we navigate through the path of young womanhood, how do we determine God’s will for the various questions that life presents?   God has given us His word so that we can understand His will for our lives.  Using scripture, let’s first debunk some biblical misinterpretations about different methods that are sometimes used by sincere Christians to determine God’s will.  Then we’ll look at scriptural truth that we can know about God’s will. Three Misinterpretations About God’s Will: 1.Full Post

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March 21, 2018
When You Feel Unloved and Forgotten

WATCH VIDEO Life can be really hard at times. Friends reject us. Parents get divorced. A Boyfriend ends the relationship. The list goes on. During these difficult times, it can often feel like we are unloved and totally forgotten. The circumstances around us tempt us to feel like even God has forgotten us. If you are going (or have gone) through a season where you feel unloved and forgotten, this video is for you. We’re sharing three powerful truths that will help you understand God’s never-ending love and faithfulness…no matter the circumstances. WATCH VIDEO

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March 19, 2018
Biblical Submission: What it Is and What it Isn’t (Part 2)

In part 1 of this post, I shared my initial negative reaction to the word submission when I got married. It wasn’t until I understood God’s bigger purpose for marriage and His intent for husbands and wives that things made sense to me. I shared how I didn’t have to change my personality or leave my brain at the door to be a biblical wife. If you missed part 1, take a minute to quickly read it HERE (you’ll want to!), then come back and dive into part 2 with me. Let’s unpack the true meaning of Biblical submission. This is not an exhaustive definition because I can’t coverFull Post

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March 16, 2018
Biblical Submission: What it Is and What it Isn’t (Part 1)

I looked into his handsome brown eyes and repeated two little words that would change my life forever. “I do.” From that moment on, I officially became Mrs. Zachary Clark. Not only did I walk away with a new name that day, but I also walked away with a new title and role. I was now a wife. As someone who grew up in the church, I was familiar with Biblical phrases like “the husband’s role” or “the wife’s role,” so these weren’t new concepts to me. My parents modeled a healthy and beautiful marriage my entire life, so I never had a problem with  these biblical “titles.” However,Full Post

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March 14, 2018
Why Christian Girls Post Seductive Selfies

WATCH VIDEO In a culture that equates beauty with seduction, it can be confusing to understand the difference. Often times we, as modern Christian women, find ourselves buying into cultures version of beauty and mimic what’s upheld to us in the movies and magazines. Instead of copying what we see in Hollywood, we need to rethink why we do what we do. When it comes to the pictures we take and the selfies we post, we need to take a step back and reevaluate our heart’s motives. WATCH VIDEO

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March 4, 2018
Good Christian Girl, Stop Finding Worth in Your Goodness

I’m her. I’m the good girl. The girl who was born into a Christian home. The girl who memorized John 3:16 as soon as she could speak. The girl who never went through a rebellious stage. The girl who never had a boyfriend in high school and never dated around. Yep, that’s me. The good girl. I’m not bashing my good-girl-ness and I’m not boasting in it either. I’m just telling you that that’s my story. I have the “good girl” story. Here’s the other side of the good girl coin. If you’re a good girl, you can probably relate. Somehow along the journey of life, the Enemy creeps inFull Post

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March 2, 2018
Are You a Lady Wisdom or a Madame Folly?

What if you lived your whole life thinking you were a smart and empowered woman only to get to Heaven and discover you were actually quite foolish? Thoughts like these stop me in my tracks all the time. They scare me. The thought of spending my whole life striving after what I believed to be right, only to find out I was wrong, is a sobering and tragic thought. We live in a day and age where examining our motives, character, actions, and thoughts isn’t something we’re encouraged to do. Instead, we’re encouraged to be “empowered” in the things that make us feel good. The things that make usFull Post

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February 21, 2018
The Christian Girl’s Guide to Starting a Ministry

WATCH VIDEO We live in a day and age where we, as Christian women, can reach people across the world. Thanks to modern technology and social media we now have the ability to interact and minister to women everywhere. Many of you have a passion for ministry and you want to use these amazing platforms to reach people…only you don’t know where to start. In today’s vlog, the two of us share 5 steps that we took in starting GirlDefined Ministries.  We know that starting a ministry can be overwhelming and totally confusing. Where do I start? Which platforms do I use?  How do I narrow down my vision? WhatFull Post

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January 31, 2018
Where Do You Find Your Identity as a Woman?

WATCH VIDEO As girls, we often look around and compare ourselves to what other girls look like. We take note of what Hollywood is telling us about true love. We take note of what the popular girls are like. Then, without even realizing it, we create an internal checklist of what we “need” in order to be valuable. In chapter one of our book (Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity) we call this problem the “Big Bad Identity Checklist.” Here’s what we’re talking about: “From the time we were little girls until now, our culture has been feeding us messages of what womanhood is all about.Full Post

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January 22, 2018
Becoming a Godly Woman Takes Focus and Determination

A life-changing decision needed to be made and I was the only person who could make the final call. Deep in my heart, I knew there were only two options: God’s way or my own way. I remember sitting with my Bible, reading the book of Proverbs, and trying to fill my mind with Biblical insight. The more I read, the more confirmed the answer became. There was a problem though. I didn’t like the truth or the answer I knew I needed to make. Choosing to accept the insight and wisdom I was gleaning from the Bible meant I had to make a really hard decision. One IFull Post

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December 20, 2017
Trusting God When Life Doesn’t Make Sense

WATCH VIDEO  The story of Mary (mother of Jesus) is an amazing example of a young woman who chose to trust God despite her crazy-confusing circumstances. When the two of us stop and think about the reality of what Mary went through and experienced, it’s mind-blowing. She was just an average, everyday girl…just like you, just like me. Her life story is an amazing picture of how amazing and awesome God is. In fact, we’ve been personally challenged and encouraged by the story of this courageous young girl. Here are a few things we’ve learned about God from this intriguing and unusual story. WATCH VIDEO 

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December 6, 2017
Living Strong When Christmas is Hard and Discouraging

WATCH VIDEO The Holiday Season can bring a lot of joy for some people and a lot of difficulties for others. If you’re feeling down and discouraged about something going on in your life, know that you’re not alone. The two of us decided to record this video because we know that life can be really hard at times. We know many young women who are dealing with difficult things right now. We know that you might be dealing with something really difficult in your own life right now. Instead of allowing that hard circumstance or discouraging situation to ruin the month of December for you, choose to fight back andFull Post

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November 22, 2017
How Choosing Gratitude will Change Your Life

WATCH VLOG  As Christian girls, we have a million reasons to give thanks…and the biggest is our Salvation through Jesus. We should be the leading example of gratitude and joyfulness. Yet sadly, we’re often not; and it’s largely because we choose to focus on the wrong things. Choosing gratitude is the key to becoming a joy-filled girl, regardless of what happens in life. Here are 20 Amazing Reasons to be Grateful today… WATCH VLOG 

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November 13, 2017
3 Powerful Truths for Embracing True Beauty and Lasting Worth

I looked in the mirror and knew exactly what I was missing. More eyeliner. I’m not talking about a nice top line that frames the eye and accentuates the eyes. No. I’m talking about raccoon style eyeliner. I’m talking about loads and loads around the top and bottom of the eye. I’m talking about so much eyeliner that the onlooker might literally mistake me for a raccoon. Yep. That was my go-to look in high school. I craved the attention of guys and extra eyeliner was my means of trying to catch that attention. Why did I want their attention? I (like many young women) figured that my worthFull Post

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November 10, 2017
Why Modern Girls Should Champion the Role of Motherhood

What if you had to pay your mom $40 every time you spent time with her? That’d be crazy right? Well…not if you live in New York City. Apparently having a mom to talk to is worth a lot more than most of us realize. In fact, a lady named Nina decided to start a business based on that idea. Nina is in her 60’s, lives in NYC, and talks to a lot of young people who claim they don’t have good mother figures. Apparently they want an older, wiser woman to talk to, but don’t know who to turn to. So, Nina decided to become a professional mom.Full Post

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October 30, 2017
Tips for the Clumsy, Awkward, Self-Conscious Christian Girl

It’s happened to the best of us. That moment when something so horribly embarrassing happens and you just want to sink through the floor. I had one of those “sink-through-the-floor-moments” several years back when I was in high school. I was in tenth grade and had just finished competing in a huge basketball tournament. My team had won first place, and we were waiting in line to have our team announced and presented with our big trophy. Honestly, I was feeling pretty good about myself. That was until I experienced one of the most embarrassing moments of my life. Here’s what happened … As we started to make ourFull Post

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October 18, 2017
How to Mentor a Younger Christian Girl

WATCH VIDEO  Too often we think that discipleship and mentorship is only for “older, more mature women.” That idea simply isn’t true. Older women definitely have tons to offer us, but we as younger women have tons to offer as well. Instead of waiting until we think we’ve “arrived,” let’s choose to make an impact for eternity right now, right where God has us. Let’s create a sisterhood of girls mentoring girls, a community of young women willingly and intentionally pouring out into the young women around us with enthusiasm. Imagine the impact that we could have! Imagine if each one of us reached out to one girl andFull Post

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October 16, 2017
Three Ways to Deal with the Sin of Attention-Seeking

Chords strummed the guitar, a sweet melody flowed from her lips. I couldn’t deny the beauty of it, yet envy burned within me. I wanted to be the one singing, being admired and getting praise. Later, I rested my head on the table as a different voice droned on and on, drowning me in a sea of confusion. I was tired of hearing about this elaborate story they were writing. If only I got to tell people about my writing for a change.Laying on the top bunk that night, I half-wished I would fall and break a leg or something. Then they’d pay me some attention. My conscience toldFull Post

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October 6, 2017
How Pretty is Pretty Enough?

How do you know if Hollywood thinks you’re pretty enough? I mean, beauty is in the eye of the beholder right? Well…apparently there’s a certain group of people who are trying to prove that beauty can actually be measured. They call it the “golden ratio.” The golden ratio is a number (1.62 to be exact) which these groups claim can be used to measure beauty. This number is used to measure everything from how far apart your eyes are, to how long your head is, to how much space you have between your chin and lips. If you measure really well (basically perfect according to this group), your numbersFull Post

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September 29, 2017
6 Ways to Make Your Journaling More Meaningful

I love journaling. In fact, I started journaling when I was 12 years old and didn’t miss a single day until I got married. That means I journaled for 12 years straight – every single day. I journaled everything and anything. I wrote about my most intimate thoughts, to what I did that day, to who my latest crush was. Shortly after I married Zack, I thought it would be fun to look back through my journals with him and read all of the entries that he was mentioned in. I traced it back to the year 2006, when I first met him as a teenage girl. Reading thoseFull Post

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September 27, 2017
How to Plan, Host, and Lead an Awesome Bible Study

WATCH VIDEO If you have a desire to lead a Bible study then this post will help you overcome the hurdle of uncertainty and equip you with the knowledge and tools you need! Here is our step-by-step Christian Girl’s Guide to Planning, Hosting, and Leading an Awesome Bible Study! There’s no perfect recipe…and things don’t always go as planned…but this simple guide should be enough to help you get started. WATCH VIDEO

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September 8, 2017
Choosing Feminine Faith in a Feminist World

I was driving down the street the other day listening to one of my favorite Spotify stations (shout out to Vertical Church Band) when my elbow accidentally switched the channel. I didn’t realize it had changed until a random song came on that I had never heard. The woman singing had a beautiful voice. She was extremely talented. But the lyrics were what grabbed my attention. This girl was angry. Hurt. Broken. She had put all of her hopes and dreams in a guy, and he left her for another woman. She was shattered. Her life felt empty. As the catchy beat banged in the background, she was determinedFull Post

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September 6, 2017
6 Misconceptions About Biblical Womanhood

WATCH VIDEO  The words “Biblical Womanhood” can bring up a lot of different thoughts in the mind. In today’s vlog, we are going to debunk six of the most popular misconceptions about biblical womanhood. Our prayer is that these 6 misconceptions about biblical womanhood will open your eyes to the truth and equip you to better share truth with young women and women around you. WATCH VIDEO 

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September 4, 2017
Is Being a Woman about More than Getting Married and Having Babies?

If being a woman is entirely about getting married and having babies, then Kristen and I are failing miserably. I don’t have a husband, which means I don’t have children, and Kristen has a husband but God hasn’t given her children yet. As most of you know I would love to get married and Kristen would love to have children. Despite our deep desires and open hearts toward those roles (being a wife and mother) God has chosen not to fulfill all of those desires in either of our lives. Discovering True Womanhood As a younger girl, I believed that the ultimate fulfillment and climax of my life would comeFull Post

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July 24, 2017
Christian Girls Dealing With Dark Seasons and Difficult Circumstances

When we look around at the circumstances of people in the world today, we discover that there is a vast amount of suffering and pain being endured. Many different people struggle with many different types of suffering. Hospitals are full of horrible diseases and injuries, parents are getting divorces, babies are being aborted, war is raging, people are being sold into slavery, drug abuse and alcoholism is affecting more and more people and the list goes ever on and on. People are hurting. Everyone is affected by suffering or pain at one point in their life. Iit may not be physical but everyone goes through tragedy. And when theyFull Post

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July 21, 2017
Choosing to Pursue Radical Purity in Your Own Life

Talking about God’s radical design for love, sex, and purity with 400 girls and women isn’t a normal occurrence in this day and age. But that’s exactly what happened this past weekend at the Radical Purity Conference in San Antonio, TX. We courageously, unashamedly, and tactfully unpacked God’s good plan for our sexuality as women. We talked openly about some of the not-so-often-talked-about areas, and allowed God’s Word to shed light and truth into these relevant topics. We asked the hard questions, and looked into God’s Word for solid answers. We quickly discovered that God’s design for purity is radical. It’s completely counter-cultural. It’s unlike anything you see inFull Post

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July 12, 2017
Be a Girl Who Lives with Vision, Passion, and Purpose

When Kristen and I launched our very first blog (long before GirlDefined existed) we didn’t have a very clear plan of what we were doing. Due to our serious lack of vision for the blog, it didn’t take long for our interests to diminish. Let’s just say that our original blog didn’t last very long. Through that experience, the two of us realized our serious need for vision, passion, and purpose. Once the two of us established our vision for GirlDefined, that drove our passion, which in turn fueled our purpose on a daily basis. We want to challenge you to be a girl who lives with a visionFull Post

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July 10, 2017
Becoming Women Who Understand The Power of Worship

The past few months of my life feel like they’ve been filled with a certain 7 letter word. This word flies in the face of my natural heart’s desire and is the opposite of everything the culture promotes. This word has challenged me, convicted me, encouraged me and given me incredible hope. When I focus on living this word out, I have such incredible rest, contentment, and joy in my heart. I want to share this word with you in hopes that you can find the same hope, conviction, contentment, and joy that I’ve found by striving to live it out. The word is WORSHIP. The word worship holdsFull Post

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June 21, 2017
Answering Your Questions About Infatuation, Modesty, and the Future

WATCH VLOG Infatuation, Modesty and The Future are popular topics amongst modern women. How do I avoid becoming obsessed with a guy? How to let go of a guy after I’ve already ended the relationship? Does dressing modestly mean I’m ashamed of my body? How can I remain faithful to God when I don’t know what the future holds? I have a passion to invest in younger women, but I’m not sure where to start? Any ideas? Kristen and Bethany tackle these questions and more. WATCH VLOG

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June 19, 2017
When Posting Hot Selfies Gets You More Attention

I was thirteen years old and heading in for my first experience with the well-known photography company Glamour Shots. My mom and I were on a special girls trip to Dallas, Texas to celebrate my birthday. Getting my hair highlighted, nails manicured, and glamorous pictures taken was a must for this girly girl. I loved every minute of the Glamour Shot experience. The makeup. The hair. The clothes. The attention. The compliments. I felt beautiful and accepted. After the photo shoot, I looked through the pictures and picked out a few of my favorites. We ordered a package and then left the store to continue on our trip. WhenFull Post

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June 9, 2017
Modern Female Heroes Needed for Battle

The guard slapped her across the face and yelled, “keep moving!” Her tiny frame and malnourished figure stumbled forward. On the brinks of starvation and freezing to death, she was doing everything possible to simply survive. Ripped away from her family and friends, she had nothing left but her faith. The days and months wore on as Corrie Ten Boom endured the horrendous evil inside a Nazi concentration camp. She was in the midst of a monstrous battle. As the days and weeks wore on, she watched her precious sister die from sickness. Fighting the rage of anger inside her heart, Corrie knew that there was only one weaponFull Post

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May 31, 2017
7 Habits of a Strong and Courageous Girl

WATCH VLOG It’s time we, as Christian girls, got a little fire in our bones for the things that truly matter. The things that matter to God. We serve a mighty King who is passionate about things like truth, life, marriage, purity, holiness, womanhood, manhood, and much more. With attitudes of reverence, respect, dignity, and submission to our God, we should be on the front lines fighting for His agenda. The two of us would LOVE to see thousands of strong and courageous Christian girls rise up from your generation. Our culture is in desperate need of godly girls with passion and fire for God’s truth. WATCH VLOG

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May 17, 2017
How We Got Our Very First Book Published

WATCH VIDEO  Our dream of becoming authors seemed too big to ever become a reality. We were working hard, but we knew it would take a miracle from Heaven to make this dream a reality. Fast forward to today and we are celebrating the one year anniversary of Girl Defined hitting the bookstores. One year ago, for the very first time, Kristen and I held our brand new book in our hands. Shock, awe, amazement, gratitude, unbelief, excitement, joy, and pure delight are just a few of the feelings we felt when we opened that exciting package. Here is our story of how we became published authors. GET THEFull Post

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May 5, 2017
3 Truths for Becoming a Seriously Godly Woman

A few summers ago I hosted a simulcast conference at my church. The simulcast was put on by Leslie Ludy over at Set Apart Girl Ministries. As she was speaking she mentioned this idea of “becoming one of the few.” She said that in every generation there are only a few girls willing to give up their lives for Christ. There are only a few girls who are willing to give up the world’s ideas and follow the Bible’s. There are only a few girls willing to give up their life plans in exchange for Christ’s plan. Leslie then asked us if we wanted to be one of theFull Post

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May 1, 2017
Why Purity Begins In the Heart {FREE GIVEAWAY}

Every­ Christian has something to say about purity, be it right or wrong, loose or conservative, broad or specific. Purity is a vital element of our walk with God—and one, it seems, that many are missing. Christian girls are pros at talking the talk and getting on mission trip and youth conference “highs for Jesus,” but when it comes down to making right choices, standing blameless before God, and keeping pure, humble, and full of the fear of the Lord—there’s a discon­nect. Purity is not a ring, a book, or even a commitment, though all of those can be good things! But without actively maintaining our whole selves accordingFull Post

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April 17, 2017
Becoming a Woman Who Genuinely Loves to Pray

I walked out to the front of the church parking lot, found a nice bench to sit on, and opened up my Bible to the book of Psalms. This is going to be a long ten minutes, I thought to myself. I was attending a conference on prayer, and the speaker challenged us to be alone for ten minutes to pray. He challenged us to use a certain passage from the book of Psalms to guide our prayers, encouraging us that praying through Scripture was an incredible way to deepen and enhance our prayer lives. I wasn’t so sure. I was convinced that reading through Scripture for ten straight minutes wouldFull Post

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April 10, 2017
How to Create a Sisterhood of Girls Mentoring Girls

I sat in the conference session with my eyes wide open. It was one of those moments where every word spoken pierced straight into my heart. As the speaker shared about his passion for mentorship and discipleship, I knew my life would never be the same. After that conference, my life took a drastic turn for the better. I went from having head knowledge about the importance of discipleship to having a heart and passion for it. I was turning into a girl who deeply desired to reach out and minister to the young women in my sphere of influence. It was like I was beginning to see withFull Post

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April 5, 2017
Answering Your Questions About Beauty, Romance, and The Christian Life

WATCH VLOG Beauty, Romance, and The Christian Life are popular topics amongst modern women. What if a guy is pressuring me to change myself? How do I know if a guy likes me? What do I do when I feel like God has turned His back on me? What are the dangers in fantasizing? How can I minister as a single girl? How can I be patient in my relationship? Kristen and Bethany tackle these questions and more in today’s vlog. WATCH VLOG

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March 31, 2017
How to Never Feel Like the Ugly Girl Again

I was driving down the road the other day and saw a billboard with an advertisement for a cosmetic surgery office which featured a seductively dressed model and the statement, “Enhance your beauty.” The message was loud and clear: If you want to be beautiful you will need a large chest, plump lips, luscious hair, a skinny waist, and long eyelashes. If you’re a woman alive right now you know exactly what I’m talking about. You’ve seen the commercials, the ads, the music videos, the billboards, and the magazines like I have. You’ve stared into the mirror when nobody else was watching and wished you were a lot prettier.Full Post

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March 19, 2017
Modern Girls Should Still Practice Hospitality

All my life, my family has welcomed people into our home on a regular basis. From Bible studies and dinners to parties and overnight guests, my family has valued hospitality. I’ve watched (and helped) my mother cook giant meals and clean our house in preparation for guests. My sisters and I have set countless tables and sampled many desserts before people have come to our home. All throughout this, I’ve noticed that, in today’s culture, hospitality tends to be shoved under a rug. We like the idea of Pinterest perfect parties and afternoons that come out of the pages of a magazine, but in reality, not everyone wants toFull Post

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February 17, 2017
The Feminist Attack on God’s Design for Womanhood

“Feminism is a movement for all women!” I’ve heard this statement hundreds of times. I’ve received dozens of emails and comments from Christian girls stating similar things. But is it? Is modern feminism truly a movement for all women? Because if it is, I sure don’t feel included. All of those women who were rejected from the “Women’s March” for being pro-life didn’t feel included either. Regardless of how sweetly feminism is defined in the dictionary, the reality of what it is today tells us all that we need to know. Modern feminism is a direct attack on God’s design for womanhood. Disagree? Jump back in time with meFull Post

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February 15, 2017
5 Habits of a Wimpy Girl

WATCH VLOG The truth is, it takes a much stronger woman to stand up against sin than it does to give in to sin. The Bible calls us to have backbones of steel and hearts of fire that fight for His truth and wage war against sin. Our culture needs to see more of that version of a strong girl. Would you consider yourself a strong girl according to the culture or a strong girl according to the Bible? Check out these 5 habits of a weak and wimpy girl and see how you measure up. WATCH VLOG

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February 6, 2017
Let’s Be Women Who Chase Down Truth

The conversation was heated. The room was tense. The looks on my girl friends faces were anything but peaceful. After all of the years of friendship, we had finally hit the landmine. Someone mentioned a specific doctrinal belief and the room exploded. Half the girls believed one opinion and half believed the other. Despite the dramatic pleas from each side to “see the light” we had to call it truce.  No one was budging. When I arrived home that evening, I shared my afternoon’s happenings with my parents. Instead of my parents just saying to me, their young 14-year-old daughter, “this is what you should believe,” they taught meFull Post

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February 1, 2017
Don’t Believe the Lies of Counterfeit Womanhood

WATCH VIDEO We are seeing a lot of different women standing for a lot of different things. As Christian women, we have to decide which camp we choose to be in. Will you be a woman who follows the latest trends defining womanhood? Will you be a woman who picks and chooses from God’s Word? Will you be a woman who allows the Bible to completely inform her worldview on femininity? Without a clear understanding of God-defined femininity, it’s impossible not to be swept up with the popular flow. WATCH VIDEO

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January 25, 2017
Why Christian Girls Should Be Beautiful but Not Seductive VLOG

WATCH VIDEO  Christian girls are never called by God to be seductresses. Never. But they are called to be beautiful women of God. According to God’s Word, beauty and seduction are two totally different things. Our outward beauty as Christian girls should never be used to purposely distract, seduce, entice, lure in, or arouse the people around us. Our beauty should never be used selfishly and without thought to how our actions are affecting others. Our most intimate body parts shouldn’t be thrown around like cheap disposable objects, but rather saved and cherished because we’re pure daughters of a Holy King. Instead of following after our culture’s self-focused definitionFull Post

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January 18, 2017
4 Practical Tips for Overcoming Your Beauty Struggles

WATCH VIDEO If you girls are anything like the two of us, you’ve probably struggled with your outward appearance. It’s hard not to struggle when we live in a world that is OBSESSED with physical perfection. Despite the obsession with perfection, we as women do not have to buy into the lie. We can have freedom in this area. We’ve truly come to embrace the body God has given each of us and we would love for you to have the same! Here are a few practical tips that really helped the two of us break free from our beauty struggles. WATCH VIDEO

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January 4, 2017
6 Must Read Books for 2017

WATCH VIDEO  We want to share with you 6 books that have helped the two of us tremendously in our walk with God. These books have helped the two of us get our eyes off of ourselves and onto Christ instead. In a nutshell, these books have helped to radically change our lives. We can’t recommend them enough. 1. Women of the Word: How to Study the Bible with Both our Hearts and our Minds  We all know it’s important to study God’s Word. But sometimes it’s hard to know where to start. What’s more, a lack of time, emotionally driven approaches, and past frustrations can erode our resolve toFull Post

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January 2, 2017
Top 5 Most Popular and Shared Posts from 2016

Whether you’ve been reading the GirlDefined blog for a while or you’re new to our website, we are SO excited to enter this brand new year with you.  God is so good and He’s done amazing things in your lives (as we’ve learned from the many emails you all have sent us), and we praise Him for that! Some of you have shared how God used the GirlDefined blog posts and vlogs to help you overcome the darkest of sins, relationship struggles, guy complications, unfulfilled longings, growing in your walk with God, and much, much more. For that, we raise a glass of sparkling grape juice and joyously say, “Amen!Full Post

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December 28, 2016
Practical Tips for Having a Thriving Relationship with God

WATCH VIDEO The two of us love God. We’re so grateful for Jesus. We’re thankful for God’s Word. But despite having these desires, meaningful personal devotions have often been a struggle for the two of us. Can you relate? Maybe you (like us) desire to dig into God’s Word, meditate on Scripture, and pray powerful prayers. But (again, like us) you’re just not sure how to make it happen. We’ve learned that with a few simple tools in our belt we can make our personal devotion time one of meaning, connection, and revival. Here are a few of our own practical tips for having a thriving relationship with God.Full Post

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December 21, 2016
Choosing to Reflect Christ in a Self-Absorbed Society

WATCH VIDEO  When the two of us were in high school, we strategized a plan to draw as much attention to ourselves as possible. We strapped on the high heels and strutted through the mall. We soaked up the attention we received from the young guys working the kiosks and enjoyed every glance that turned our way. Attention. That’s what we wanted. We wanted people to look at us. We wanted people to admire us. We wanted to people to stare at us. We wanted all eyes on us. Fast forward ten(ish) years to today and our goal is no longer to bring attention to ourselves but to pointFull Post

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December 2, 2016
The #1 Beauty Hack Every Christian Girl Needs to Know

Beauty hacks. They’re all the rage, right? Just do a quick Google search and you’ll have instant access to beauty hacks that promise a prettier you (in under 5 minutes flat). How about these: “25 Beauty Hacks To Make You Look Like A Million Dollars” or “44 Lazy Girl Beauty Hacks To Try Right Now.” Wait – 44 hacks? For the lazy girl? If I’m lazy, how am I supposed to have time for forty-four  beauty hacks? Sorry, I just thought that one was hilarious. Anyhow. I agree that some of these hacks can be helpful (i.e. I want to hug the person who invented dry shampoo!), but theyFull Post

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October 26, 2016
Halloween: When Good Girls Go Bad for One Day

WATCH VLOG With Halloween only a few days away, we want to encourage all of you Christian girls out there to stay nice this October 31st. Our culture loves to celebrate death, darkness, perversion, and evil…but we should be different. Our language, our dress, and even our celebrations should look different than the lost world. We hope this Vlog encourages you to continue being a light for Jesus, even on Halloween. WATCH VLOG

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October 21, 2016
Should We Bow Down at the Feet of Modern Hollywood Goddesses?

With a shocking 451,237,916 combined followers on Instagram, these five women are considered modern-day goddesses. These women have made their mark in our world and we’ve bowed down at their feet. Beauty, money, fame, and talent have given these women world-renowned fame. Our values and priorities are clearly seen in the way culture truly upholds and praises these women. Giving them names such as “Queen” and “Goddess.” Who are these women that claim the love and admiration of hundreds of millions? They are none other than Selena Gomez, Taylor Swift, Beyonce, Ariana Grande, and Kim Kardashian. Above all other celebrities in the world, these five hold the highest numberFull Post

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October 19, 2016
8 Reasons We Aren’t Feminists

WATCH VLOG If you are familiar with our ministry you know that, we created GirlDefined to help girls “get back to God’s design.” As a whole, we as Christian girls and women are really struggling to understand what God’s design is for our lives and how to practically live it out. Over the past 50 years, the feminist movement has sought redefine womanhood on their own terms. Rather than looking to God’s Word for solutions and answers, we as women, have decided to take matters into our own hands. Yes, feminism has done some good over the years, but by and large it has left women more confused and unfulfilled thanFull Post

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October 11, 2016
The Most Challenging Things About Being a Christian Teen Girl

WATCH VIDEO  In our day and age, it’s so hard to stay focused on honoring God rather than joining the popular crowd. It’s even harder when most girls (even in the church) around you don’t take their spiritual life seriously.  If you’re a teen girl living in any part of the world, you know the struggle I’m talking about. It’s a battle I face and I’m sure you are facing it too. It can be really discouraging. It’s not easy to be a teen girl in today’s culture, but I am slowly learning that the road less traveled is totally worth it. WATCH VIDEO 

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October 5, 2016
5 Tips for Overcoming Crazy Girl Emotions

WATCH VIDEO  We as girls seem to wear our emotions on our sleeves. When we feel good, we are happy. When we feel bad, we are unhappy. It can switch in a matter of a split second and it can happen back-and-forth multiple times in a row. After doing some research and thinking this topic through, we’ve come up with 5 truths to help us as girls combat our “crazy girl” emotions.​ WATCH VIDEO 

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October 4, 2016
The Girl Defined Audio Book is Here!

We are so excited to announce that the Girl Defined audio book is now available!!! For a limited time the Girl Defined audio book will be available for only $5.00!! Clink on this link and enter the coupon code: AUDIOGIRL5 to receive your $5.00 audiobook! This special offer will end on October 18th. Keep on eye on the GirlDefined Blog (and our social media sites) because we will be doing some major FREE audiobook giveaways over the next two weeks (including signed copies)! You don’t want to miss out on the fun! The first giveaway is happening this Friday on the blog! Get the Audiobook

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September 28, 2016
It Takes a Brave Girl to Live Out Biblical Womanhood

WATCH VIDEO  God is looking for women who will be brave in today’s society. We’re challenging you to be one of those women. To be one of the few who are willing to liberate yourself from the commonality of wimpy womanhood. Our generation is in need of Christian women who are willing to rise up and show the culture the powerful influence a God-defined woman can have.  In today’s vlog, we are going to show you how to be a BRAVE girl and embrace God’s truth in your everyday life . B = Bold A bold girl doesn’t shy away from truth. A bold girl is unafraid of whatFull Post

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September 26, 2016
The Secret to Becoming a Bold, Brave and Beautiful Woman

The stage was filled with the presence of a woman overflowing with confidence, security, authority, beauty, and boldness. Silence filled the auditorium as we all watched this mighty woman of God share counter-cultural truths that would utterly shock the average woman. She wasn’t scared or afraid to say what she was saying. She spoke like a woman who knew that her source of information was as true as true can be. This woman possesses the secret that we, women as a whole, desperately long for. She has found the secret to true womanhood. She knows that her Authority and Guide is tried and true. This woman has the answersFull Post

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September 16, 2016
The Birth Control Pill: Continuing the Conversation

I recently wrote a post called, The Birth Control Pill: What Every Christian Girl Needs to Know. As a Christian woman myself, my heart behind that post was to remind all of us that God’s plan for sex, marriage, and motherhood is much better than what our culture has been feeding us. I’d love to continue our previous conversation about the Pill and share more of my heart behind writing that post. Just consider this post Part 2. For the women who commented previously who take the Pill strictly for health issues, my heart goes out to you. I am genuinely sorry that you have to suffer from thingsFull Post

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September 12, 2016
My Body Isn’t Perfect and I’m Totally Okay With It

My hair was a wreck, my makeup was half-finished, I was running behind and my sweet friend was already at the restaurant waiting for me to arrive for our lunch date. I sprinted out the door and headed towards my location. I reached across the seat to grab my make-up so that I could finish (Yes! Sometimes I do makeup when I’m driving. Confession time.) and nothing was on the seat. I looked in the back row, under my feet, under the passenger’s seat, and nothing was there. Noooo!!! I realized I had left it inside on the kitchen counter. This was just not my day. Running late. MakeupFull Post

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September 9, 2016
The Birth Control Pill: What Every Christian Girl Needs to Know

Whether you’re on the Pill, know someone who is, or think you might be on it in the future, this post is a must read for every Christian girl. And since government data reveals that more than eight in 10 American women, ages 15 to 44, have taken the Pill at some point in their lives, we need to be educated on exactly what the Pill is, where it came from, and how it affects our bodies. The “Birth Control Pill” hit the American scene in 1960 and changed human history forever. For the first time ever, sexual intimacy and procreation were completely separated. The invention of The BirthFull Post

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September 5, 2016
Real Women Know How to Accept an Act of Chivalry

What better place to observe the possibility of chivalry than in a room full of young singles at a Bible study. And that’s exactly where I was. The room was packed to the brim and almost every spare chair had been pulled out and used by the late arrivals. Somehow a young lady had squeezed in unnoticed and ended up without a chair. She quietly made her way to a small ledge and found a way to lean/sit against it. After a few moments, I noticed a kind young man quietly making his way towards her with his chair. He started to pull the chair out and set itFull Post

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September 2, 2016
3 Reasons Beyoncé Isn’t Empowering to Women

Her larger-than-life persona, bold music, and powerful stage presence have crowned this woman as the epitome of modern girl power. She’s praised by millions as one of the most inspirational women of our day. She is Beyoncé. Also referred to as, Queen Bey. This female superstar has not only become an icon, she has been carefully and strategically crafted into a brand. And this brand is considered empowering to women. Millions of females (young and old) view her as their greatest role model in life. “I want to be just like her,” many girls have said. “I would die to talk to her!,” women have stated. But do weFull Post

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August 22, 2016
The Problem With Constantly Comparing Yourself to Other Girls

My friend and I sat on the floor with our legs crisscrossed. My friend was getting married in just a few short months, and I had flown out to visit her before she entered the married season of life. After a few minutes of light hearted chit-chat, our conversation took on a more serious tone. My friend went on to explain to me that she has constantly struggled with comparing herself to the Victoria Secret models. Although she understands that God is the author of beauty, she sighed and said, “It’s just hard not compare myself to them.” Our conversation turned into a great time of refocusing on theFull Post

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July 25, 2016
What Makes A Woman Truly Beautiful?

Did you know that God actually wants women to be out-of-this-world beautiful?  Believe it or not, God compares the stars, the cosmos, and galaxies with idea of true beauty! He connects these two seemly unrelated concepts with a really cool Greek word.  Hang tight with me as I briefly explain God’s poetic analogy in the following verse: 1 Peter 3:3-4 says “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight isFull Post

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July 6, 2016
5 Wardrobe Hacks for Dressing Modestly (VIDEO)

WATCH VIDEO Just because the standards for modesty and decency are extremely low, we as Christian girls, don’t have to give in. We can stand strong in our convictions and continue to embrace purity. Although there aren’t many of us, we aren’t alone. We have each other. Modesty will always be a challenge, but one that we’ve discovered is totally worth fighting for. Without further ado…we give you our 5 FAVORITE wardrobe hacks for dressing modestly during the hot summer months. WATCH VIDEO

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June 24, 2016
Join The 7 Day GirlDefined Prayer Challenge

Over the past few years I’ve seen God at work in my life in incredible ways. I feel like I’ve had a front row seat to witnessing God answer prayers in my life and in the lives of those around me. Looking back I now realize that God has always been at work, I just haven’t been paying close enough attention. When I began seriously praying and taking all of my cares before the Lord, I finally had eyes to see what He was doing. I began to clearly see Him answer my prayers and I knew He was active in my life. Here are just a few examplesFull Post

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May 18, 2016
Courageous Girls Needed To Live Out True Womanhood

The compliments didn’t fix it. The modeling offers didn’t make it go away. The attention from cute guys didn’t make it any better. I liked most everything about my physical appearance…except for this one thing. My nose. I sat in front of the mirror for 30 minutes one time staring at my face, wishing I had a different nose. I would pinch it to make it look more slender, questioning why God didn’t make that one easy adjustment. I was 16 years old and had unknowingly bought into many lies about my physical appearance and beauty. I wasn’t the only one either. Every female friend I had was discontentFull Post

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May 17, 2016
Celebrate! Girl Defined is Here!

We are so excited to announce that Girl Defined: God’s Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity officially launched today!!! Today is a day of celebration. A day to celebrate all that God has done and is going to do. We are in awe of His incredible grace and mercy in our lives and this book is a testimony of His faithfulness. Our prayer is that this book will show you God’s incredible design for the girl and help you see that God defined femininity is an amazing and beautiful thing. We’re inviting you to join us on a liberating journey toward a radically better vision for femininity. OneFull Post

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May 16, 2016
Figuring Out if Biblical Womanhood is for You

WATCH VIDEO HERE Have you ever wondered if Biblical womanhood is relevant for your life? Watch today’s video and hear amazing stories of five different girls who each overcame their personal struggles as a result of embracing God’s design for womanhood. This is the fourth and final video in our 4 part series titled, “4 Secrets to Brave and Bold Womanhood.” PS Today is the LAST day to get the FREE pre-order bonus package for ordering Girl Defined. You don’t want to miss this! More info HERE.   

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May 5, 2016
The Ultimate “Squad Goal” for Christian Girls (Free Giveaway)

I’ll never forget the days of walking across the basketball court gym, with my teammates by my side, thinking I was Miss Amazing. This was my squad of girls and I was positive we were some of the coolest chicks on the planet. I liked my team, I liked my girls, I liked being a part of a  “squad.” I liked representing my team name and I liked having a group of people I could associate with. Fast forward to today and “squads” and “squad goals” are all the rage. I just recently saw a picture on social media of several famous celebrities and the title was captioned “squadFull Post

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May 4, 2016
3 Reasons Every Christian Girl Needs a Sisterhood

“We have a surprise for you!” our parents said with excitement. I, along with my six siblings, slowly filed into the kitchen, rubbing the sleep away from our eyes. I was a teenager at this point and not excited about “early morning” surprises. At this point in time my siblings consisted of 3 boys and 4 girls. “Well…” my mom said with a smile, taking a quick glance at my dad. “We have a little surprise for you!” My early morning brain tried to guess what it was. A vacation? A french toast for breakfast? Nope. Not a clue. “Well…” our mom continued. “In seven months, you’re going toFull Post

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April 29, 2016
Are you Falling Prey to the Big Bad Checklist?

I have a confession…and I’ll just be real here. I used to obsess over the fact that I had cellulite on my rear. Yeah. Even after I learned that 90% of women had cellulite, it didn’t matter. I wanted to have a perfectly flawless backside. No matter how much I worked out, certain areas of my body never seemed to get the memo. I don’t know why I cared so much either. This was pre-marriage, so that area of my body never saw the light of day. As I got older, I realized that my obsession with wanting to have a “perfect” rear was a result of something sneakyFull Post

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April 20, 2016
What Gorgeous Hair, Perfect Legs, and Long Eyelashes Can’t Get You

We’ve all seen those girls. The “perfect” ones. They have it all going for them. Perfect hair, flawless legs, long eyelashes, and a skinny waist. They seem to have it all. Right? Without even realizing it, we compare ourselves to them and instantly feel ugly. We instantly feel dissatisfied and ungrateful for our bodies. I know exactly how this game works because I’ve played it many times myself. You want to know what’s really crazy about this though? As we look at these “perfect girls” and compare ourselves to them, guess what? They’re doing the exact same thing about their bodies too. It’s hard to believe, but it’s true.Full Post

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April 13, 2016
Future Wife and Mom You Only Have 24hrs

Anna is your typical college age, happy-go-lucky, Christian girl. She’s on fire for God and is very outspoken on her college campus. The guys on campus know she isn’t interested in “messing around” and her professors are all aware of her strong faith in God. Anna takes her life as a Christian seriously and truly desires to live out biblical womanhood. She’s read the books, studied the Bible and has attended numerous conferences that champion God’s awesome design for women. She’s gung-ho-on-board with passages like Titus 2, Proverbs 31 and Ephesians 5. She’s even studied the topics of feminism, biblical submission in marriage and God-defined gender roles. This girlFull Post

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April 11, 2016
Why Modern Girls Should Embrace the Lost Art of Homemaking

Every time I walked into this particular house, I instantly felt swallowed alive by the chaos and mess. Dirty dishes all over the kitchen, laundry piled on the furniture, toys all over the floor, and the TV blaring. This home had no semblance of order, cleanliness or peace. It was chaos. Every time I visited my friend’s home, I left feeling more chaotic and unsettled than when I arrived (and btw, to all of my current friends who may read this, this is not your house. This happened many years ago. *wink*). In our upcoming book, I refer to this problem as the drive-thru kitchen and hotel bedroom lifestyle.Full Post

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April 8, 2016
How My Beauty Ruined My Sense of Worth

I woke up, looked in the mirror, and immediately disliked what I was seeing. During the night my face decided to turn into a broken out mess. Ugh! I was not a hampy camper. I washed, scrubbed and did my best to get rid of this ugly mess. Although my skin is far from perfect, I try my best to keep it clean and fresh. I use natural products, drink tons of water and avoid a lot of sugar on a regular basis. Despite my best efforts, it has a mind of its own. I’m sure many of you girls can relate to me on this one. I wishFull Post

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March 28, 2016
How Modesty, Romance, and Femininity Relate to the Gospel

“Instead of wasting time on topics like modesty and romance…why don’t you keep the focus on the gospel? Your Christian blog should be all about loving Jesus.” Several girls have written that type of email to us here at GirlDefined Ministries asking why we waste time writing about “secondary” issues rather than keeping the focus on the gospel. They’ve expressed disappointment that we take time to write about “minor” issues like modesty, romance, and femininity. I think it’s time to answer their questions. Why do we take time to write about topics like modesty, romance and femininity? I mean, as Christian girls, shouldn’t we just focus on loving JesusFull Post

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March 23, 2016
Official Girl Defined Book Trailer is Here!

WATCH VIDEO HERE. Drumroll please!! We have been waiting for this day for months. We have been praying for this day for years. God has done the miraculous and we are so excited to announce and release this video for you today! Since you’re a special part of the GirlDefined team, we wanted you (our awesome subscribers) to see this video first. Then – after you watch it – we want to personally invite you to join us on an amazing journey! If you’ve ever asked yourself any of these questions, this journey is for you: Am I valuable? Am I beautiful? What’s my purpose as a woman? HowFull Post

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March 10, 2016
How to Overcome Feelings and Live by Truth

A few years ago I had a conversation that I will never forget. It’s stuck in my brain and refuses to leave! Somehow, an acquaintance and I got on the topic of God, the Bible, and personal devotions. He explained to me his idea of being obsessed with Jesus. He told me that he likes to stay on spiritual highs in order to keep up his excitement for God and the Bible. He said that he likes to attend as many conferences as possible, listen to upbeat Christian music, and do things that get his emotions charged. Although I believe his intentions were good, I think his plan wasFull Post

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March 9, 2016
4 Reasons You Should Let Him Open Your Door

I married an amazing gentleman who has never failed to be chivalrous in our marriage. Even before Zack and I got married, he always did one little thing that I absolutely adore. He always opened the door. Not just restaurant doors and house doors. He opened (and still does) my car door too. Every time I get in or out of the car, he opens my door for me – regardless of who is driving. Does he need to open my door? No. Am I perfectly capable of opening my own door? Yes. But this little act of chivalry has taught me huge lessons about our God-defined roles asFull Post

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March 1, 2016
6 Girls You Definitely Don’t Want to Be

Alright, girls. It’s your turn. The guys just recently received a “write up” on my blog 6 Guys You Definitely Don’t Want to Marry. It’s only fair to turn the tables and hold ourselves to the same standard. If we as girls want to marry godly guys, or simply hope for guys to live up to a certain standard, we should expect the same character in our own lives. Don’t drift into your future and expect Christ-like character to just flow from your life. Becoming a God-defined woman takes serious focus and intentional effort. If you are not intentional about becoming a woman defined by the Word, you willFull Post

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February 25, 2016
How to Nourish Your Soul on a Daily Basis

Last summer my older sister (and fellow GirlDefined blogger), Kristen, purchased beautiful flowers to hang in baskets in front of her house. The flowers were vibrant colors and really added a beautiful touch. As the weeks went by when I looked at the flowers, I noticed their color was fading. The leaves withered and the petals looked sickly. I pointed the problem out to Kristen and she said, “Uh, I know. I keep forgetting to water them.” A few weeks later the flowers officially died. (R.I.P pretty petals.) It seems the water never quite made it to their baskets. The next time time I saw Kristen, she half-jokingly said,Full Post

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February 21, 2016
5 Ways to Become an Outward Focused Girl

When you hear the words “innie” and “outie,” what comes to mind? I think of belly buttons! I know what you must be thinking: Why in the world is she talking about belly buttons? That’s so awkward! I promise I’m not belly button obsessed, but they make for a perfect illustration. I hope that from this day forward a belly button will never be “just a belly button,” but a reminder of the kind of girl you desire to be. Two Kinds of Belly Buttons and Two Kinds of Girls In this world there are two kinds of belly buttons: innies and outies. One points inward and one pointsFull Post

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February 8, 2016
What a Hat Taught Me About ‘Cute’ (Free Book Giveaway)

I saved up my allowance (yes, I still get one) all summer in anticipation of the end-of-year clearance sale at one of my favorite online retailers. As autumn’s first chill threatened to ditch summer like a Hollywood fling, I filled my cart with all those cute lil’ summery clothes I had been eyeing since spring. Including the hat. Not just any hat, my sisters. This black trucker hat with giant, silver “SURF” lettering was the epitome of cool. The model who had worn it in the spring catalog—with her caramel skin and salt-tousled hair—confirmed it was the cutest hat EVER created. Surely all the girls in sunny Costa RicanFull Post

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January 19, 2016
Are You a Rule Follower or a Christ Follower?

Have you ever seen a mamma duck with her babies following in a neat little line behind her? It’s an adorable sight. As a kid, I loved going to the pond to watch the cute little ducklings waddle behind their mommies. Mommy duck jumps in the water. Baby ducks jump in the water. Mommy duck sits down for a nap. Baby ducks sit down for a nap. Mommy duck stands up and starts walking. Baby ducks start walking. These little ducklings have their eyes on their mommy and they copy her every move. When ducks behave this way, it’s totally adorable. When grown adults act this way, it’s seriouslyFull Post

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January 7, 2016
Hot Christian Girls Desperately Needed

I can almost hear you thinking, “she can’t really mean what the title of this blog says. There’s gotta be something else to this.” You are right. There is something else to this blog. Although this blog is about being a “hot girl” it’s not the kind of hot you typically associate with that word. Let me explain. The other day I was brainstorming in my prime brainstorming spot…the bathtub. For some reason I come up with my best ideas in there. Out of nowhere this verse came to mind and my brain went crazy, “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish youFull Post

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December 29, 2015
Smart Girls Set Goals and Work Hard

Growing up I was obsessed with basketball. I practiced for hours upon end and worked hard to improve my skills. I attended camps, worked on the fundamentals, watched recordings of my games and talked strategy late into the night. The hard work totally paid off because my team was one of the best in the country and I was offered a full ride to college (which I didn’t end of taking). Looking back on my basketball days I’ve discovered an extremely important lesson. Setting goals and working hard really pays off. Carrying That Lesson Into Your Womanhood If I could have one wish for you this year, it wouldFull Post

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December 25, 2015
Merry Christmas: A Personal Letter From GirlDefined

Hey Girls, Wow! I can’t believe this year is coming to an end. So much has happened in the GirlDefined ministry and I’m dying to share it with you. The biggest (and most incredible) surprise of this past year started with a phone call. “Bethany, you aren’t going to believe this. We just got an email from a publishing company and they’re interested in publishing us. This is what we’ve been praying for! You’ve got to come over asap and help me write an email back to them!” When Kristen called and shared the news with me, I was floored. The two of us had been praying about publishingFull Post

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December 15, 2015
The Secret to Achieving Diamond Status

I woke up early with a skip in my step and a smile on my face. I had plans to head to the airport to attend a Biblical Counseling conference with my mom and sisters. I’d been eagerly anticipating it all summer long. We arrived at the airport, breezed through security, and found our seats on the plane with no delays. The next few days flew by in a blur as I listened to speaker after speaker share on topics that I’m passionate about. My hand scrambled back and forth as I tried to take as many notes as possible. The conference was even better than I expected it.Full Post

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November 26, 2015
7 Letters That Will Dramatically Change Your Life

The past few months of my life feel like they’ve been filled with a certain 7 letter word. This word flies in the face of my natural heart’s desire and is the opposite of everything the culture promotes. This word has challenged me, convicted me, encouraged me and given me incredible hope. When I focus on living this word out, I have such incredible rest, contentment and joy in my heart. I want to share this word with you in hopes that you can find the same hope, conviction, contentment and joy that I’ve found by *attempting* to live it out. The word is WORSHIP. The word worship holdsFull Post

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November 22, 2015
Discovering Your God-Given Purpose (Free Giveaway)

“Watch out for that cable.” “Don’t kick the stand.” These are whispered exclamations as we walk onto the dark stage, doing our best not to trip on each other. Finally, we’re in our positions. It’s dead quiet in front of us, and our audience is waiting. We’ve done this before but there is still a hint of anticipatory queasiness before a show. We each take a deep breath, smile… and suddenly lights blare in our face. That’s our cue, and we launch into our first song. Have you ever looked around and thought “how in the world did I get here – this is crazy awesome!”? I have. AndFull Post

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October 30, 2015
5 Books That Will Radically Change Your Life (Free Book Giveaway)

When I was in 6th grade I entered my first, and last, archery competition. I was attending a church camp and each camper was allowed to enter one competition. Basketball. Volleyball. Horseshoes. Archery. BB gun. Why in the world I chose archery, I have no idea. But, I did, and it proved to be a very *very* important lesson that would stick with me for the rest of my life. The day before the competition, I had a friend explain the basics of how to aim and hit the bullseye. Whatever that person taught me must have worked because I ended up securing the first place trophy *let’s hearFull Post

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October 26, 2015
A Message to Tweens on Becoming a Godly Woman

A year and a half ago, I sat down at Starbucks with my 12 year old sister. Her big blue eyes stared back into mine as I shared my heart with her. I said, “Sue, just because you are growing up in a Christian family doesn’t mean you are immune to making sinful choices. Just because your older sisters run a Christian blog for girls doesn’t mean you are guaranteed to become a godly woman yourself. You have to put in the effort to grow in your relationship with Jesus and invest time to grow in your character. If you want to be a godly woman, you have toFull Post

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October 19, 2015
How to Wear Makeup in a Feminine and God Honoring Way

Back in high school, I had the most unexpected run-in with a random dad in regards to the amount of makeup on my face. I was attending a Christian conference and chatting with a few sisters I had met, when their dad suddenly slipped into our conversation. After several minutes of casual chatting, he looked and me and politely stated the following: “You have naturally beautiful features,” he said, ” but the amount of makeup you’re wearing seems to be covering them up. As a dad and a man, I think you would look a lot better than you think with less makeup.” Slightly shocked and stunned at hisFull Post

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September 14, 2015
Is Being a Woman More than Getting Married and Having Babies?

If being a woman is strictly about getting married and having babies, then Kristen and I are failing miserably. I don’t have a husband which means I don’t have children and Kristen has a husband but God hasn’t given her children yet. As most of you know I would love to get married (followed by children) and Kristen would love to have children. Despite our desires and open hearts toward those roles (wife and mother) God has chosen not to fulfill all of those desires in either of our lives. Discovering True Womanhood As a young girl I believed that the ultimate fulfillment and purpose in my life wouldFull Post

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May 25, 2015
It Takes a Strong Girl to Obey God’s Word

I was thirteen going on fourteen and dying for my birthday to arrive. I had asked my parents for my very own weight bench and I couldn’t wait to start lifting those weights. Yes, I know that’s a little weird. What thirteen year old girl wants a weight bench for her birthday? I knew that increasing my strength would make me a better basketball player and that’s exactly what I wanted. I wanted to be strong so that I could be successful. As I’ve grown older my desire to be strong has only increased. Don’t worry, I’m not into bodybuilding or anything like that. In fact, my weight benchFull Post

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May 8, 2015
3 Essential Ways of Life for Every Christian Girl

Several months ago I was walking through a gift shop in Estes Park, Colorado when Bethany handed me the craziest book. “Check this out!” she said in a half-serious/half-sarcastic tone. She handed me a small hardback book. The title read, Everything Men Know About Women. With a title like that, I was immediately interested in finding out what the inside would reveal. I took a deep breath, put my hands on both sides of the book to gear up for what I was about to read. Then I opened the book. To my utter shock the entire book was BLANK. I flipped through the pages from front to backFull Post

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April 29, 2015
Finding True Worth in an Image Obsessed Culture

After years of failed attempts to become a European supermodel, Alana’s dream job finally became a reality. Out of thousands of girls, she was selected to be a runway supermodel for a famous fashion designer in Milan, Italy. She was exactly what they wanted. After spending a short vacation at home with her family in America, she arrived back in Italy only to find that her position had been replaced. “You’re not what we want anymore,” one of the Italian agency directors told her. “You’re too short and too pale. We found someone better.” Alana’s dreams shattered before her eyes. This was her life. She was good enough oneFull Post

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April 14, 2015
The Past 100 Years of Beauty and How it Affects You

My dad and I were catching a quick breakfast before heading into work. We were at the checkout counter in a local bakery waiting to pay our bill. The waitress walked up to the counter and stopped dead in her tracks. She looked me up and down and said, “You are freakishly tall!” I stood there absolutely stunned. I had no idea how to respond to that. I know that at 6’ 1” I’m on the taller side, but I’ve never been called “freakishly tall.” I decided to just smile nicely and say, “Yeah . . . I am really tall . . .ha ha.” Awkward. What Does Perfect LookFull Post

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April 13, 2015
Why Smart Girls Applaud Chivalry (From a Guy)

If you’re like some girls I know, you think chivalry has gone extinct. Or at least is in hibernation. Even as a guy, I look around and see so few men being courteous to women. It’s surprising (not to mention embarrassing). I am constantly asking myself “Is chivalry dead?” Let me be honest: I don’t think it is. I see examples of it in men all around me. It’s just not as common as it used to be. Noah Webster’s 1828 dictionary defines “chivalry” as “the system of knighthood; the privileges, characteristics or manners of knights; the practice of knight errantry [if you’re wondering what “errantry” means, it wasFull Post

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March 18, 2015
I’ll Keep My Clothes On, Thank You

I vividly remember my one and only interview with a local modeling agency. The director pulled out the personal information sheet and slid it across the desk. I scanned through the pages and my hands started to sweat. What was I going to tell this guy? I was supposed to mark down which categories of modeling were most interesting to me. Club wear? Lingerie? Swimwear? None of those options were going to cut it. I was hoping for something with a bit more…coverage. I awkwardly explained to the director my personal convictions for clothing standards. I could see the look of mockery in his eyes. According to him IFull Post

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February 23, 2015
A Teenage Girl’s Beauty Struggle

Have you ever looked in the mirror, and not liked what you saw? And no matter how hard you tried, your outfit, makeup, hair, etc. just didn’t look ‘good’? That’s me. I’m the girl who everyone thinks is confident, carefree, and knows that God loves me, mainly because I’m the pastor’s daughter. I’m sure that every girl has had this struggle, it’s probably the most popular of all the teenage-girl problems. My hair is plain brown, no volume. My eyes are dull blue-ish grey. I’m short, with absolutely NO curves whatsoever. For the past four years or so, I’ve struggled with the fact that I’m not beautiful. That noFull Post

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February 20, 2015
Becoming a God-Defined Girl in a Culture-Defined World

I once knew a girl who said she loved God. She called herself a Christian and even went to church every Sunday. But the rest of her week was full of activities, school, sports, friends, and just plain busyness. She occasionally read her Bible…but mostly because it was the “right” thing to do. She attended a church youth program once a week, but cared more about hanging out with her friends than growing spiritually. Sadly, this girl began struggling on the inside. She wanted to be a strong Christian, but did very little to help herself get there. I wish this girl was someone else, but she’s not. ThisFull Post

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January 21, 2015
Godly Girls Have These 4 Things in Common

The word guy is the most popular word on our blog. Every single time we have posted a blog about guys, it’s been a huge hit. We’ve put two and two together. Girls want to hear about guys. They want to know how guys think. What guys like. What guys don’t like. What guys want in a girl. What guys are looking for in a wife. I can relate. I’m a single girl. I think guys are a pretty fascinating topic. I’m totally tracking with why the word guy is so popular. No surprise. We as girls like the topic of guys. The bad news. This blog post isFull Post

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January 14, 2015
Why We Like Hard Working Women

“How much is your allowance?” My snobby 12 year old neighborhood friend asked me. She was at it again. Always trying to one-up me. She didn’t have any siblings and I had seven. Take a quick guess at whose allowance was bigger. I stood there brainstorming for a good comeback. I was in a perpetual state of competition with this girl. How was I going to tell her that I actually didn’t get any allowance money. “Well..” I slowly said. Then I had it. With my chin raised I delivered my speech. “My parents don’t give me an allowance because they say when I grow up to be anFull Post

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January 7, 2015
When Looking Hot Gets You More Attention

I was thirteen years old and heading in for my first experience with the well known photography company Glamour Shots. My mom and I were on a special girls trip to Dallas, Texas to celebrate my birthday. Obviously getting my hair highlighted, nails manicured and pictures taken was a must for this girly girl. I loved every minute of the Glamour Shot experience. The makeup. The hair. The clothes. The looking at pictures. The compliments. I felt beautiful and accepted. After the shoot I looked through the pictures and picked out my favorites. We ordered a package and then left the store to continue on our trip. When theFull Post

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December 24, 2014
God Used a Teenage Girl to Accomplish the Impossible

She had no guarantees. She had no promises for her future. She wasn’t handed a map telling her how her life would work out or how the details would unfold. She was given a message by a man she’d never seen, was told she would accomplish something that had never been done in the past and would never be done in the future. She was given a message with no further instructions and was left to trust that God would work out the plan. Mary was only a young teenage girl when she was assigned the most important job in the world. God chose Mary, a young unmarried woman,Full Post

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December 12, 2014
Why Christian Girls Should Be Beautiful but Not Seductive

Several months ago I wrote a controversial blog post that went viral and picked up a lot of positive and negative attention. It currently has over 730 comments and has reached over a million people. It’s called “Why Christian Girls Post Seductive Selfies.” If you’re interested, you can read it here. My main point was to bring up the question of why so many Christian girls post provocative, sensual and seductive selfies online. I challenged Christian girls to reevaluate their online images and ask themselves if what they’re posting is honoring to God. After reading through several hundred of the comments I began noticing a theme. People were makingFull Post

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November 21, 2014
Why Your Singleness is a Really Big Deal

Have you ever had one of those AH-HA moments in your life? I had one of those last week as I was talking to a friend at church about her recent broken engagement. She shared with me her heartache, but also the hope of knowing that God is sovereign and He does have a plan for her life. God knew her engagement would be broken and still allowed her to go through it for a very specific reason. Although she may not understand why, she is choosing to trust God and praise Him through this storm. She went on to explain how she is grateful that God is givingFull Post

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November 12, 2014
10 Books That Will Change Every Girl’s Life

When I turned thirteen years old I had some major life questions. I wanted to understand how to deal with big areas in my life like guys, purity, morals, the future, femininity, and my worth and value as a girl. I had (still have) awesome parents who gave me great advice and provided me with incredible resources to learn from. One of the most challenging and helpful resources I had as a teen were books. The authors of these books were some of my best mentors and counselors. I want to give you the inside scoop on my top ten favorites of all time. These are the ten booksFull Post

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November 10, 2014
Should Christian Girls Wear Purity Rings?

My bags were packed, the car was loaded with snacks, and I was ready to embark on a milestone road trip with my mom. It was a very significant trip in my life because it marked the end of my childhood season and the beginning of womanhood. My family has a really neat tradition where each kid gets to take a special trip with one of my parents (girls go with mom and boys with dad) shortly after we enter our teen years. The purpose of the trip is for my parents to spend quality one-on-one time with us and to officially launch us into becoming men and women. OnceFull Post

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October 27, 2014
3 Secrets That Changed Michelle’s Life

If you had the choice which girl would you choose to be? Girl #1 Shannon Shannon grew up in church, was raised by Christian parents, attended youth group on a weekly basis and even went on short-term missions trips. As Shannon grew older she became very self-conscious and desired to be loved and accepted by those around her. Instead of turning to God’s Word to discover her value in God’s eyes, Shannon turned to the culture. She slowly but surely bought into the lie that beauty, a good looking body and attention from guys was the key to happiness. Shannon’s life soon became an out-of-control mess as she strivedFull Post

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October 22, 2014
Fierce Girls Needed For Battle

FIERCE  “I’m hot, I’m sexy and I’m in control.”  A few years back a friend of mine pulled up the computer to show me pictures of a semi-finalist on the popular show America’s Next Top Model. It just so happened that the girl competing for the Top Model title attended my friends university. My friend was so shocked by how “fierce” this girl looked in her photos that she just had to show me. This girl definitely had the “I’m hot, I’m sexy and I’m in control” fierce look going on. She must have been trained well by the shows host, Tyra Banks. This whole idea of being fierce wasFull Post

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October 20, 2014
What Marilyn Monroe Didn’t Have

She starred in thirty major films, was awarded the Golden Globe for “Female World Film Favorite,” started her own production company, voted “2nd Greatest Movie Star” of all time by Premiere Magazine, and was chosen by Empire Magazine as one of the “100 Sexiest Stars in Film History.” She was beautiful, talented, successful, and seemed to have everything a girl could dream of, except for one thing – happiness. Her life came to a tragic end on August 5, 1962 due to a drug overdose. She was only 36 years old. Sadly, this is the story of America’s most iconic woman, Marilyn Monroe. The cultures false version of beauty andFull Post

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October 13, 2014
7 Habits of a Wimpy Girl

Bethany and I came home yesterday from an awesome weekend in Indianapolis attending the True Woman ’14 National Women’s Conference. We met some amazing women of faith and were challenged in our own understanding of biblical womanhood and what it means to have a personal walk with Jesus. On Friday morning we heard an eye opening message by Mary Kassian on how NOT to be a wimpy woman in this world. She highlighted 7 bad habits that most Christian girls and women fall prey to. After her message, I was blown away by how easily I fall prey to our world’s way of thinking and buy into its lies.Full Post

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October 10, 2014
Reporting LIVE From True Woman ’14

Tuesday night Kristen and I packed our bags, preparing to fly out the next morning to attend one of the best womens’ events in history. Which event is that? The True Woman ‘14 Conference hosted by Revive Our Hearts and Nancy Leigh DeMoss. It’s seriously the most counter-cultural, mind-blowing, life-changing event that a young woman could attend. That is why I love it so much and why I wish each and every one of you could be here. Since you weren’t able to make it to the conference, I want to give you a snapshot of the opening ceremonies and share some quotes from these top notch authors and speakers.Full Post

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October 8, 2014
How the True Woman Movement Changed our Lives

Exactly four years ago Bethany and I headed out on a road trip to a conference that we knew very little about. We heard it was going to be amazing but we had never experienced it first hand. Four days later, a notebook full of notes, and our brains exploding with awesomeness, we knew we had discovered a gold mine. I’m talking about the one and only True Woman Conference. And now, exactly four years later, we’re headed back to the True Woman ‘14 Conference in Indianapolis and we are SO excited about it. In fact, we’re probably on the plane right now as you’re reading this! If youFull Post

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September 15, 2014
Your Womanhood is Not About You

After a long and deep sleep Adam finally woke up. There before his eyes was the most beautiful creature he had ever laid eyes on. This newest creation was beyond anything he could have ever imagined. He immediately realized that this beautiful woman was perfectly designed for himself. She had been taken from his very own body and was fashioned to fit him perfectly.  Can you imagine how Adam must have felt that first moment he laid eyes on Eve? Wow! What a way to get a woman. Not only was Adam getting a companion, lover, and friend, he was getting a woman who would compliment him and helpFull Post

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September 10, 2014
Getting Married Is Still a Good Thing

Little girls are no longer growing up and being pushed towards marriage and motherhood. In fact, girls are looked down upon if marriage and motherhood is anywhere in the top 10 on their priority list. How do I know this? Because it’s happened to me and it’s happened to almost every young woman I interact with. It doesn’t matter if you’re a homeschooler, private schooler or public schooler, the pressure is the same. If you tell people that you are pursuing a career, going to school or fighting to get to the top of the corporate ladder, you will find nothing but praise and applause! If you tell peopleFull Post

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August 22, 2014
How to Become a Godly Girl

I was at a wedding recently and noticed how beautiful the bride’s wedding cake was. It not only looked good but it tasted really good too. The cake didn’t start out that way though. The day before the wedding it was nothing more than a pile of flour, sugar, eggs, butter, etc. In order to get the amazing end result that was displayed at the wedding reception someone had to carefully follow the directions on the recipe. If anything was left out, or if too much of one ingredient was added, the cake would have been a flop. Real life works the same way. As a Christian girl, youFull Post

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July 30, 2014
How to Outshine a Supermodel

The months of preparation were finally finished. The big night was here. The runway was ready, the lights were shining, and the cameras were rolling. After ten hours of makeup, hair, spray tans, manicures, and fake eyelashes, the models were ready. They looked flawless. “And now,” the announcer said with his best radio host voice, “the moment we have all been waiting for!” The music started and the models emerged onto the runway. “The most beautiful and perfect females on the planet!” he said enthusiastically. We live in a society where the picture-perfect female is nothing less than a highly  airbrushed supermodel. As girls we’re tempted to feel uglyFull Post

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July 14, 2014
A Popular Way to Lose Your Respect as a Girl

I was at our local grocery store the other day in the checkout aisle when I saw her. I had never seen anything this disturbing in my grocery store before. There she was, right in front of my eyes without a shirt on. I’m not exaggerating here. Thankfully she was wearing jeans…but she was shirtless! I glanced back and forth to see if anybody standing around me was as shocked as I was. Not a blink. Nobody seemed to care a bit. Frustration began to well up inside of me. Why would a family friendly grocery store allow this shirtless woman to parade herself down the checkout aisle?! ThereFull Post

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July 11, 2014
Getting Rid of Barbie’s “Perfect Image” Pressure

It was a regular Wednesday morning at work when the mail arrived. I started scanning through the letters when I noticed a big hot pink magazine. “Barbie” was the only thing written on the front cover. I was annoyed to see this piece of junk mail at the office and started to cut out the address label in order to remove us from the mailing list. Right before I tossed the magazine in the trash, curiosity got the best of me and I took a peek inside. The magazine was filled with dozens of perfect images of plastic dolls dressed in slinky, provocative outfits. The pages were loaded withFull Post

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July 9, 2014
Why Christian Girls Post Seductive Selfies

When I was in high school Bethany and I decided we wanted to do a really cool photo shoot of ourselves. We put on the most modern outfits we could find, layered on the jewelry, doubled the mascara and headed to a prime location – our roof. We recruited (begged) one of our younger sisters to be our photographer. We all climbed onto the roof of our house and she snapped away with the camera. Yes, a roof is a random place to do a photo shoot, but we did it there to get that perfect “modelesque” breeze to blow our hair just right. For each picture, we posedFull Post

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June 4, 2014
5 Reasons Why I Love Being a Girl

Let me clarify from the get go. This is not a post about how great girls are and how rotten guys are. It’s actually quite the opposite. Without guys in the world, none of my five points would matter. I need the male gender to give my five reasons their special touch and uniqueness. Trust me. I don’t typically sit around my house writing down all of the reasons why I love being a girl. In fact, up until recently I had never thought this topic through. So why did I start thinking about this? A few days ago some friends and I were talking when one of themFull Post

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May 16, 2014
3 Lessons I Learned in a Modeling Interview

I walked into the modeling agency and sat down in the owner’s office. One of his recruiting agents had seen me in a clothes store several weeks earlier and had given me a business card. From what I knew about the modeling industry, I was pretty sure that my personal convictions and the modeling scene wouldn’t jive. In the past I had never taken any modeling offers seriously. I’m not sure why I felt different this time, but I did. My curiosity was pricked and I needed to find out for myself what the modeling world was all about. I wanted to know what really went on behind theFull Post

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May 2, 2014
Forced to Enter a Beauty Competition

She didn’t have a choice. She was forced to enter the beauty competition whether she wanted to or not. From this point forward her life would never look the same. If she wins the competition, she will become the new bride of a violent and powerful king. If she loses, she is sent to live in a house filled with all of the other losers, known as concubines. Her life would not be one of flattery, love, and romance. She would live out the rest of her days trapped in a guarded house. Her dreams of having children and a family would be long gone at this point. AndFull Post

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April 12, 2014
What is the Purpose of Being a Girl?

It was a cold and windy day in Texas. Definitely not ideal weather for shooting an outdoor video, but it didn’t matter. We were on a mission. With our small film crew in tow, Bethany and I headed into the heart of our local University campus. We scanned the sea of busy students and decided to place ourselves right in the middle of the action. With our microphone in hand and the cameras rolling, we approached random students to get their thoughts on some controversial topics. “Besides the obvious physical differences, do you think there’s a difference between guys and girls?” This was the first question we asked eachFull Post

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August 21, 2013
She Wants to Be Like You

I pulled into a carwash the other day to use the vacuums and couldn’t help but hear the loud rock/pop music coming from the SUV next to me. I looked over and saw a lady (probably 40 years old) vacuuming out her car, with what appeared to be her 3 year old daughter sitting in a carseat. I smiled at the little girl and waved. She returned my wave and gave me a sweet, innocent smile. It was impossible for me to avoid hearing the lyrics of the loud song as we vacuumed our cars side by side. The song was about partying, being sexy, having sex, drinking andFull Post

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June 11, 2013
Why Hot Weather Doesn’t Justify Immodesty

Summer time is almost here! We’re breaking out the lemonade, grilling in the backyard and playing horseshoes in the evenings (yes, we play horseshoes). I especially love wearing the bright and cheery colors that my summer wardrobe brings. During the summer months it seems like everyone is so happy and upbeat, doesn’t it? I am usually happy and upbeat myself until I remember the one down side of summer – the blistering heat. Down here in south Texas our summer days seem to average a lovely 100 degrees, with a nice humid breeze to keep your hair moist. Doing anything outside during the summer without sweating is pretty muchFull Post

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September 28, 2012
Advice From a New Bride

All eyes were on the back doors of the church. The organ began playing the wedding march, and there she was in a beautiful white wedding dress. She began her walk down the aisle toward her groom, God’s chosen man for her to spend the rest of her life with. All eyes were in tears as we watched the bride and the groom seal their marriage with a kiss. They were finally husband and wife. I was beyond excited as I watched my friend marry the man of her dreams. How could I become like my married friend, Stacy? My good friends, Stacy and Logan, have now been marriedFull Post

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April 13, 2012
The Victoria’s Secret Lie

Victoria has boldly been telling girls all across the world that the secret to true beauty is a sexy body. If you want to be beautiful you must have tanned skin, long legs, lots of cleavage and basically a perfect body. That’s a tall order. If that’s the standard, how will any man ever love me with my lack of beauty? My body is so far from Victoria’s standard of perfection that I may as well become a nun. According to Victoria I will never be perfectly beautiful. What are we supposed to do with the message of Victoria’s Secret? Should we believe them? Is it true that havingFull Post

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